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I think we misunderstand what it means to be present. Most people equate presence with being physically there. You're in the room, you heard the words, you responded. That counts, right? But there's a difference between being there and actually arriving. What I see, over and over, is that people are half a step ahead of the moment they're in. They're listening while preparing their response. They're tracking what's being said while also building their argument, their solution, their defense. And that split shows up in relationships. You can feel when someone is waiting to talk. You can feel when they're trying to fix. You can feel when they've already decided what this moment means. That's not presence. That's participation. Real presence requires something most people skip: the pause. When someone shares something with you, there's a moment right after where nothing is required. No response. No insight. No redirection. Just a pause. That pause is where you actually receive what was said. Most people don't do this. They catch the words and immediately send something back. It turns into a kind of conversational ping-pong—faster, sharper, more reactive as it goes. And then we wonder why small things escalate. The missing piece isn't better communication techniques. It's the ability to hold the moment without reacting to it. To hear something and let it land. To notice what comes up in you without immediately acting on it. To allow the other person's experience to exist without trying to change it. That's harder than it sounds. Because the pause brings up discomfort. You feel the urge to fix, explain, defend, or move things along. But if you can stay there—even for a few seconds—you start to access something different. Clarity. You're no longer reacting from habit. You're choosing your response. And often, what's actually needed is much simpler than what we tend to offer. It's not a new idea or a better perspective. It's being heard. Sometimes the most effective thing you can do is reflect back what you just heard. Not to move the conversation forward, but to show that you were actually with them. That kind of presence changes the tone of a relationship. It slows things down. It lowers defensiveness. It creates space for both people to actually see each other. If you want to shift the dynamic in your relationship, don't start with what you're saying. Start with what you're doing in the moment right after they speak. Pause. That's where the work is.   Connect with me at: https://www.leannepeterson.com/

Most people think a healthy marriage means never considering divorce. I don't think that's true. In this conversation, I walk through why allowing yourself to honestly consider leaving can actually bring clarity to your relationship—and why refusing to think about it often keeps people stuck in patterns that don't change. This isn't about encouraging divorce. It's about removing the pressure to stay at all costs so you can actually decide: Do I want to be here? Am I willing to grow here? Is this relationship working the way it is? Because when staying becomes a choice—not an obligation—everything about how you show up starts to shift. If you're in a place where something feels off, but you haven't been able to name it or talk about it, this will give you a different way to think about it. If you want to go deeper or get support: https://www.leannepeterson.com/  I work with individuals and couples who want practical, direct guidance to improve their relationships—not just talk about them. My approach is focused on clarity, structure, and helping you show up differently where it matters most.

Most families don't have a "people problem."They have a system problem. If one person in your family is constantly overwhelmed, frustrated, or checked out—it's easy to assume they're the issue. But more often, they're the signal that something in the system isn't working. In this episode, I walk through a different way to make decisions as a family—one that moves you out of blame and into alignment. We talk about: Why "win-win" isn't idealistic—it's necessary for a stable family system How to stop building your life around what should work What it actually looks like to consider everyone in the family (without burning yourself out) Why some responsibilities don't need more effort—they need to be reassigned How to make decisions based on real capacity, not philosophy If your family life feels heavier than it should, this will help you see where things are breaking down—and how to start adjusting. Work With Me If you're ready for more structure, clarity, and practical support in your relationships, you can learn more here:👉 https://www.leannepeterson.com/ Leanne Peterson is a therapist and relationship coach with over a decade of experience helping individuals and couples create stronger, more intentional relationships through clear structure, communication, and decision-making. Reflection Question Where in your family system is someone consistently "losing"…and what might that be telling you about how things are currently set up? Subscribe for More If you want more grounded, practical conversations about relationships, family systems, and showing up better in your life—subscribe and follow along.

Most couples assume that time will naturally deepen connection, resolve patterns, or make them wiser partners. But years together do not automatically create maturity. In relationships, maturity is developmental — it happens when partners intentionally grow, practice accountability, and choose connection over defensiveness. Staying together doesn't guarantee growth. In fact, many couples find themselves repeating the same arguments with the same outcomes, year after year, without ever learning to disagree differently. In this episode, I talk about: Why aging in a relationship doesn't equal growing up in it How patterns like react-then-defend keep couples stuck What couples who improve over time do differently Why accountability matters more than longevity How small shifts in how you relate change the trajectory of your marriage   If your relationship feels stuck despite time, the issue isn't time itself — it's how time has been used. There is a way forward that doesn't rely on hoping things will "get better with time." It requires intention, structure, and the willingness to mature together. Learn more or work with me: 👉 https://www.leannepeterson.com/

Most couples believe that if they fix the imbalance at home — the dishes, the laundry, the mental load — their intimacy will naturally improve. But sex in marriage isn't a chore chart. When intimacy becomes something earned, negotiated, or owed, desire quietly disappears. What actually erodes connection isn't who did more — it's unresolved tension, lack of repair, and the slow loss of physical safety after conflict. In this conversation, I explore: Why tying household effort to sex creates resentment instead of desire How unrepaired conflict shuts down physical connection The difference between dating desire and long-term partnership intimacy Why a "no" isn't rejection — and how to stay connected anyway What couples who maintain intimacy over decades do differently This isn't about blame. It's about understanding relationships as systems — and learning how to care for the conditions that allow connection to grow. If your relationship feels distant, even though nothing is "wrong," this will help you understand why. Resources: https://www.omgyes.com https://www.arya.fyi

Why does your partner pull away right when you ask for what you need? Many people assume it means they don't care. In reality, something else is happening beneath the surface. In long-term relationships, conflict often triggers stress responses in both partners. One person moves closer, trying to repair. The other steps back, trying to regulate. What looks like indifference is often overwhelm. What feels like rejection is often self-protection. Understanding this pattern changes how you approach conflict. It helps you ask for connection in ways that can actually be received. It helps you step forward instead of shutting down. And it shifts the focus from blame to responsibility — the foundation of a stable relationship. In this conversation, I talk about: Why clear requests still go unmet What's really happening when a partner withdraws How stepping forward can prevent escalation Why daily connection rituals reduce conflict How to be a supportive partner instead of an opponent   Healthy relationships aren't built by winning arguments. They're built by learning how to stay connected when it matters most.   Connect with me at: https://www.leannepeterson.com/

Most people think honesty is the foundation of a healthy marriage. But unfiltered honesty—spoken from frustration, exhaustion, or irritation—often creates the opposite of what we want. In this video, I talk about why the way you speak to your partner matters more than how justified you feel in the moment. How small, everyday interactions slowly shape the emotional climate of a relationship. And why restraint, intention, and leadership—not emotional release—are what actually create stability and connection over time. This isn't about suppressing your needs or avoiding hard conversations. It's about learning to communicate in service of what you're trying to build, rather than speaking from impulse and living with the consequences. If you've ever wondered why a relationship can feel "off" even when nothing is technically wrong, this conversation will help you see what's happening beneath the surface. Want to work with me? Find out more here: www.leannepeterson.com

In this conversation, Leanne discusses how to plan a summer that is enjoyable and memorable without leading to burnout. She emphasizes the importance of evolving beyond a fantasy to create intentional experiences that align with personal and family values. The discussion also covers the significance of communication styles in relationships, the need for collaborative problem-solving, and the impact of childhood patterns on adult partnerships. Leanne encourages listeners to appreciate different styles of support and to be clear about their emotional needs to foster healthier relationships. Takeaways: Summer can be both fun and stressful for parents.  Creating a bucket list is a good starting point for summer planning. It's important to align activities with personal intentions. We often live in a fantasy of how things should be. Intentionality is key in parenting and family experiences.  Different communication styles can lead to misunderstandings in relationships. We should appreciate the different ways partners show support. Collaborative problem-solving can enhance relationship dynamics. Addressing emotional needs is crucial for healthy partnerships. Respect and love are interconnected in relationships.   Reach out to me: https://www.leannepeterson.com/

Patterns, Not People: How to Stop Attacking Each Other and Start Solving the Real Problem When relationships become frustrating, it's easy to start labeling the other person. Selfish. Controlling. Lazy. Self-centered. Those labels feel satisfying in the moment, but they usually make the problem worse. Once we turn someone's behavior into a judgment about their character, the relationship quickly shifts into blame and defense. In this episode, we explore a different approach: learning to focus on patterns instead of attacking people. When something repeatedly hurts, frustrates, or triggers us, the real work isn't deciding whether the other person is a good or bad person. The real work is understanding the pattern that's showing up and how it's affecting the relationship. Think of it like medical treatment. The goal isn't to attack the whole body — it's to target the problem precisely. Relationships often need the same kind of care. In This Episode We talk about: Why labeling someone's character almost always escalates conflict The difference between criticizing a person and addressing a pattern How old family patterns quietly shape current relationships Why people sometimes discard relationships that could still be repaired The role of emotional triggers and the idea of the "broken big toe" reaction How to move from emotional reactions to thoughtful conversations Why validation calms conflict faster than defensiveness How assumptions about our partner create unnecessary resentment The danger of staying in performance mode instead of being authentic Why many couples unknowingly compete instead of collaborate How attachment to ideals or expectations creates unnecessary suffering Focus on the Pattern, Not the Person When something repeatedly bothers us, our instinct is often to explain it by attacking someone's character. But statements like: "You're selfish." "You're lazy." "You're controlling." don't actually solve anything. They shut the conversation down before it can begin. A more productive question is: What pattern keeps showing up here? Patterns are things like: people-pleasing dynamics avoidance control struggles miscommunication emotional triggers tied to old experiences Once we identify the pattern, we can decide how to respond to it. Sometimes the pattern can be addressed and the relationship grows stronger. Other times, the pattern reveals deeper incompatibilities. But that clarity only comes when we stop attacking the person and start examining the pattern. Why Emotional Reactions Feel So Intense Certain behaviors can trigger reactions that feel much bigger than the moment itself. In psychology, this is sometimes described as the "broken big toe" effect. If someone steps on your foot and it's healthy, it hurts briefly and passes. But if the toe is already broken, the reaction is intense. Many relationship triggers work the same way. The reaction isn't only about the current situation — it's touching something deeper that already exists. The first step is noticing when that reaction happens. The second step is taking time to process it before returning to the conversation with clarity. Moving from Emotion to Logic When conflict happens, the goal isn't to suppress emotion. Emotion is often the signal that something important is happening. But productive conversations usually require two stages: Feel the emotional reaction and recognize it Return later with enough distance to think clearly Trying to solve problems while emotions are fully activated usually leads to arguments instead of understanding. Sometimes the most helpful response in a heated moment is simply creating space. Why Validation Matters One of the fastest ways to calm conflict is surprisingly simple: letting someone feel heard. Many people avoid validating emotions because they think it means agreeing with the other person. It doesn't. Validation simply acknowledges the experience. Statements like: "I hear that this upset you." "That sounds like it felt really hard." "I can see why that would feel frustrating." often calm the nervous system far more quickly than defending yourself. When people feel heard, they usually become far more open to understanding the situation. Performance vs. Authenticity in Relationships Most relationships begin with a certain amount of performance. We present the best versions of ourselves. We try to be impressive, attentive, and easy to be around. Over time, that performance naturally fades. Real relationships develop when partners begin showing their authentic selves — their limits, flaws, and vulnerabilities. The challenge is allowing that shift without interpreting it as failure. Healthy relationships gradually move from: performance → authenticity And that transition requires patience, honesty, and a willingness to grow together. The Trap of Suffering Another theme in this episode is the subtle way people become attached to suffering. Suffering can create identity, meaning, or even a sense of moral superiority. But in relationships, that attachment can prevent people from looking for solutions. Instead of asking: "Why is this happening to me?" a more useful question might be: "Where am I attached to something that's creating this frustration?" Sometimes the greatest relief in relationships comes from releasing expectations that were never realistic in the first place. A Healthier Approach to Conflict Instead of approaching conflict like a courtroom — where one person prosecutes and the other defends — relationships work better when partners act more like investigators. The question becomes: "What happened here, and what can we learn from it?" That shift in perspective turns conflict into an opportunity for understanding rather than a battle to win. Final Thought Most relationship problems are not caused by one "bad" person. They're caused by patterns that haven't been recognized or addressed. When we slow down enough to identify those patterns, we gain something powerful: clarity about what's really happening — and what we can do about it. Learn more about Leanne Peterson and her work: https://www.leannepeterson.com/

Acceptance, Awareness, and Why Real Change Usually Looks Smaller Than We Think There is a lot of pressure in our culture to change. To become better. To optimize yourself. To upgrade your habits, your mindset, your personality. Change is exciting. It sells well. It sounds hopeful. But when you look at real life — at the people you've known for years — something else becomes obvious. Most people don't fundamentally change who they are. They might repaint the walls of their personality. They might adjust a few habits. But the structure of the house tends to stay the same. In this episode, we explore a quieter but far more useful approach to growth: acceptance and awareness. Instead of trying to constantly reinvent ourselves, we can learn to understand ourselves clearly — our limits, patterns, strengths, and rough edges. That awareness changes how we show up in relationships, how we set boundaries, and how we care for ourselves. Real growth often looks less like transformation and more like honesty about who we are and how we operate. And that kind of honesty creates a surprising amount of freedom. In This Episode We talk about: Why the cultural obsession with self-optimization and massive change can create unnecessary pressure The difference between trying to change yourself and learning to understand yourself How awareness of your own patterns reduces conflict in relationships Why accepting your limits actually makes you more responsible, not less The role of self-knowledge in communication and healthy boundaries How small insights about yourself can dramatically improve family dynamics Why "fixing your partner" is rarely the real work The danger of living by rigid principles instead of practical solutions How contempt develops in relationships and what it often reveals about ourselves Why unmet needs and unspoken expectations quietly create resentment Awareness Is Often More Powerful Than Change When we know ourselves well, we can: recognize our limits before we hit them communicate what we need more clearly take responsibility for our patterns instead of projecting them onto others Instead of pretending we are different than we are, we can start working with reality. For example: knowing your social battery has limits noticing when you get overstimulated recognizing when you tend to take control or overstep None of these things require you to completely change your personality. But awareness allows you to navigate those parts of yourself with more intention. You can redirect them. You can communicate about them. You can make decisions that work with your nature rather than constantly fighting it. Why Acceptance Reduces Conflict A lot of relationship conflict comes from the gap between: who someone actually is and who we think they should be When we insist on that fantasy version, resentment grows quickly. But when we accept reality — our partner's limits, our own limits, the real demands of life — we can start solving problems instead of assigning blame. Healthy relationships often move away from questions like: "Why are you doing this to me?" "Why can't you be different?" And toward something simpler: "This isn't working. What would help?" The Role of Boundaries Boundaries are often misunderstood as rigid barriers. But in practice, they function more like a fence around something important. They help other people see what matters to us so they don't accidentally damage it. A clear boundary isn't about controlling someone else. It's about being honest about what we need. And that honesty is only possible when we actually know ourselves well enough to name those needs. When Principles Get in the Way Another idea we explore in this episode is how rigid principles can quietly damage relationships. Principles can sound admirable: "I always keep my word." "People should be able to handle things on their own." "If someone loves you, they should know what you need." But when those ideas become fixed rules, they can prevent us from responding to the reality in front of us. Healthy relationships are rarely built on rigid ideals. They are built on adjustment, honesty, and responsiveness to what actually works. A Better Question to Ask in Relationships Instead of asking: "Who is right?" or "Who should be doing better?" A more useful question is: "What would help us both succeed here?" Relationships function less like competitions and more like shared systems. If one person is struggling while the other is "winning," the system still isn't working. Final Thought Growth doesn't always come from dramatic change. Sometimes it comes from something quieter: seeing yourself clearly accepting what you find and learning how to respond to life from that place of awareness When we stop trying to become someone else, we often become much more capable partners, parents, and people. Learn more about Leanne Peterson and her work: https://www.leannepeterson.com/

Most people think of self-care as something they should be able to handle on their own. Wake up earlier. Be more disciplined. Manage stress better. But real self-care often requires something we resist: support. In this episode, I talk about the idea of pulling in extra support when life demands more than one person can reasonably carry. There are seasons where our responsibilities expand — parenting, work, relationships, health, or simply the cumulative stress of daily life. During those seasons, trying to "handle it all" alone often leads to exhaustion, resentment, and burnout. Self-care isn't always about doing more for yourself. Sometimes it's about building systems of support so you don't have to do everything yourself. In this conversation, we explore how asking for help, restructuring responsibilities, and bringing in outside support can create more stability inside your life and relationships. In this episode we talk about: Why traditional ideas of self-care often fall short The difference between coping alone and creating support Why many people struggle to ask for help How invisible labor and responsibility build up over time The role of support systems in maintaining emotional regulation How couples and families can redistribute responsibilities more intentionally Why pulling in outside help is sometimes the healthiest decision for everyone The importance of recognizing when a season of life requires more support Strong relationships and stable lives rarely happen because one person carries everything. They happen when people build systems that allow everyone to function well. Sometimes self-care is a walk, a break, or a quiet moment. And sometimes self-care is simply acknowledging: I can't do this alone right now — and that's okay. Learn more about working with Leanne Peterson: https://www.leannepeterson.com/ SEO Keywords self care, emotional regulation, relationship support systems, mental health support, burnout prevention, healthy relationships, relationship balance, parenting stress, self care strategies, personal boundaries

Many of us believe we should know what the right decision is. We think clarity should arrive quickly. We assume intuition should speak loudly. But real life doesn't usually work that way. In this episode, I talk about intuition, decision-making, and why learning to tolerate uncertainty is one of the most important relationship and life skills we can develop. A lot of the pressure people feel when making decisions comes from the belief that there is a perfect answer somewhere—and if we just think hard enough, we'll find it. But most meaningful decisions don't work like that. They unfold over time. Our intuition is not a magic voice that instantly tells us the answer. More often, it's a quieter signal that becomes clearer as we gather information, experience consequences, and pay attention to how our nervous system responds. The challenge is that most of us don't like being in that in-between space. We want certainty. We want closure. We want the answer now. But learning to stay steady while the answer develops is often what allows better decisions to emerge. In this episode we talk about: Why intuition is often misunderstood The difference between anxiety and intuitive signals How pressure to decide quickly can lead to poor choices Why many important decisions require living the question for a while The role of curiosity and observation in decision-making Why discomfort with uncertainty can drive reactive choices How learning to tolerate ambiguity strengthens emotional regulation Why clarity often comes after movement, not before Instead of rushing toward answers, this episode explores how to develop the capacity to sit with uncertainty long enough for better thinking—and better decisions—to emerge. Because sometimes the most responsible thing we can do is acknowledge: We don't know yet. And that's not failure. That's part of the process. Learn more about working with Leanne Peterson: https://www.leannepeterson.com/ SEO Keywords intuition, decision making, trusting your intuition, emotional regulation, uncertainty in decision making, personal growth, relationships and decision making, self-awareness, navigating uncertainty, relationship clarity

Most relationship advice focuses on communication skills or conflict resolution. But underneath both of those is something even more fundamental: attunement. In this episode, I talk about why attunement — the ability to notice and respond to what the people around us actually need — is the real foundation of healthy relationships. Whether it's with a partner, a child, or a friend, our nervous systems are constantly responding to each other. When we ignore that reality, we end up trying to correct behavior instead of understanding what's actually happening underneath it. And often, what's happening is simple: someone is dysregulated. In this conversation, I share a few moments from parenting recently that completely shifted how I approach difficult situations with my kids. Instead of focusing on correcting behavior, I started asking a different question: What does this nervous system need right now? That shift has changed the way I show up as a parent — and the way I think about relationships in general. Because when we focus on attunement instead of control, we stop trying to force people into who we think they should be and start responding to who they actually are. In this episode we talk about: Why attunement is the real marker of a healthy relationship How nervous systems influence behavior in families and partnerships The difference between correcting behavior and responding to dysregulation Why trying to change people often backfires in relationships How accepting someone as they are can actually create more peace The role of co-regulation between partners and within families Why many people — especially women — burn out trying to regulate everyone else Simple rituals of regulation couples can use to stay connected The importance of weekly relationship check-ins to stay attuned Healthy relationships aren't built in moments of crisis. They're built through small systems that keep people connected, regulated, and aware of each other's needs. When those systems exist, relationships become a place that restores us instead of draining us. Learn more about working with Leanne Peterson: https://www.leannepeterson.com/ SEO Keywords relationships, attunement in relationships, nervous system regulation, co-regulation in relationships, parenting and nervous systems, emotional regulation in families, marriage communication, healthy relationships, relationship connection, parenting advice, relationship coaching

*]:pointer-events-auto scroll-mt-[calc(var(--header-height)+min(200px,max(70px,20svh)))]" dir="auto" tabindex="-1" data-turn-id= "request-698c8c5d-7cdc-8326-9858-c0d6d70db7f5-1" data-testid= "conversation-turn-102" data-scroll-anchor="true" data-turn= "assistant"> Many relationships quietly fall into a pattern that looks generous on the surface but slowly creates resentment underneath. One partner overextends. The other partner assumes things are fine. No one talks about it until the frustration is already built up. In this episode, I talk about scorekeeping in relationships, codependency, and the hidden resentment that develops when we silently sacrifice for others without agreement. I share a personal moment that made something click for me — what I call a "Kerplunk moment." It's the kind of realization that happens after years of small insights finally add up. The insight was simple: Much of the "giving" we do in relationships isn't actually an agreement. It's a private contract we made in our own heads. And when the other person doesn't honor it, we feel hurt, unseen, or taken advantage of. But they never agreed to the terms. In this conversation we talk about: Why silent sacrifice often leads to resentment The hidden problem with keeping a secret emotional ledger How codependent patterns show up in everyday family life Why "don't keep score" can actually create imbalance How to talk about needs before resentment builds The importance of clear agreements in marriage and partnerships Why healthy relationships require transparency about effort and energy How couples can divide responsibilities in a way that feels fair I also share a practical exercise couples can use to look at the real division of labor in a household—because many conflicts aren't emotional problems at all. They're simply unexamined systems. Relationships work better when both people can see the system clearly and participate in shaping it. Learn more about working with Leanne Peterson: https://www.leannepeterson.com/   Episode Keywords (SEO) marriage advice, relationship communication, emotional regulation in relationships, healthy marriage habits, intentional communication, relationship responsibility, relationship systems, long-term relationships, couples communication skills, relationship coaching, partnership dynamics, relationship leadership        

Leanne walks us through the steps of an honest self-inquiry to assess what things are going well, what things you're struggling with and what areas you want to focus on now. We've got to set aside time to contemplate how we're feeling regularly. Be kind to yourself and know that much of our development and growth will happen underground at first.   Thanks for joining us today!   We'll be back next week with another dose of soulful guidance! Check out Leanne at: www.leannepeterson.com   Leanne is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Houston and she works with clients all over the country. She is committed to helping you find peace in the midst of difficult life situations and transitions. Using powerful insights into health and energy alignment, Leanne helps you create the beautiful life you want!   To keep an eye on Leanne's handy gear and must-have, beautiful things follow her on Instagram. She's In-the-Know Mama. https://instagram.com/intheknowmama?igshid=fef4rhsi0o0e

Last year Leanne got a tiny bit caught off guard by the end of the year so this year she's developed a complete End-of-Year Wrap-up series to help us get things settled and to help us bridge over to the new year smoothly! Today's end-of-year topic is relationships. How are you feeling in your friendships, work and personal relationships? Do you feel supported? Are you spending time on the relationships that matter to you? Thanks for joining us today! We'll be back next week with another dose of soulful guidance! Check out Leanne at: www.leannepeterson.com Leanne is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Houston and she works with clients all over the country. She is committed to helping you find peace in the midst of difficult life situations and transitions. Using powerful insights into health and energy alignment, Leanne helps you create the beautiful life you want! To keep an eye on Leanne's handy gear and must-have, beautiful things follow her on Instagram. She's In-the-Know Mama. https://bit.ly/2KEMi3A

Last year Leanne got a tiny bit caught off guard by the end of the year so this year she's developed a complete End-of-Year Wrap-up series to help us get things settled and to help us bridge over to the new year smoothly! Today's end-of-year topic is space. How do you feel in your home or in your office? Is it how you want to feel? Leanne has 3 tips for making sure you space is aligned with the way you want to feel. We're talking about lighting, wall colors, de-cluttering and much more.  To see photos of Leanne's cute home and office check her out on Instagram she's In-the-Know Mama so you can follow her there to keep an eye on all of the best must-haves. https://instagram.com/intheknowmama?igshid=fef4rhsi0o0e   Thanks for joining us today! We'll be back next week with another dose of soulful guidance! Check out Leanne at: www.leannepeterson.com Leanne is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Houston and she works with clients all over the country. She is committed to helping you find peace in the midst of difficult life situations and transitions. Using powerful insights into health and energy alignment, Leanne helps you create the beautiful life you want!

Last year Leanne got a tiny bit caught off guard by the end of the year so this year she's developed a complete End-of-Year Wrap-up series to help us get things settled and to help us bridge over to the new year smoothly! Today's end-of-year topic is money. What were your financial goals for the year? Did you meet them? Next, briefly analyze your spending to see if your purchases are in alignment with your values. Do it now; don't wait until tax season of next year.  Thanks for joining us today! We'll be back next week with another dose of soulful guidance! Check out Leanne at: www.leannepeterson.com Leanne is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Houston and she works with clients all over the country. She is committed to helping you find peace in the midst of difficult life situations and transitions. Using powerful insights into health and energy alignment, Leanne helps you create the beautiful life you want!

I'm not a mind reader. You are similarly not a mind reader. So, why are we so certain others will be able to step in and help us well and we'll be able to help others well? Leanne recently was the recipient of so much loving help since she's had her baby and she's realized some super interesting things about service that she wants to share today. Our episode is all about learning how to ask for what you need so that others are better able to serve you in a way that is comfortable for them. And remember, it's always good to be a gracious recipient of service, too, so you can build strong ties! Thanks for tuning in! We'll be back next week with another dose of soulful guidance! Check out Leanne at: www.leannepeterson.com Leanne is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Houston and she works with clients all over the country. She is committed to helping you find peace in the midst of difficult life situations and transitions. Using powerful insights into health and energy alignment, Leanne helps you create the beautiful life you want!

Do you ever think that things are not quite as fun as you thought they would be? Today Natalie tells a couple stories from her recent summer vacations and Leanne offers some really solid therapy tools to help with getting clear on what fun looks like. She teaches us how to "play the tape forward" so we can see how things will likely go. She wants us to give ourselves PERMISSION to set up the kind of environment or setting that will be fun for us in our unique way. Thanks for tuning in!

Welcome to Take the Upgrade Podcast Episode 72! Your host is Leanne Peterson and today she's back with her co-host Natalie to catch us up on her big life transitions and her return from maternity leave. Usually we can manage our own exposure to others pretty well, but during a major life event, we are likely to have a little bit of an audience. We just have more friends and family around, which is great, but it does mean we're being watched real-time as we learn new things. This is forced vulnerability and Leanne has a few tips to help ease the discomfort! Thanks for tuning in! We'll be back next week with another dose of soulful guidance! https://www.leannepeterson.com/ Leanne is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Houston and she works with clients all over the country. She is committed to helping you find peace in the midst of difficult life situations and transitions. Using powerful insights into health and energy alignment, Leanne helps you create the beautiful life you want!

Today in Episode 71 Leanne tells why unmatched expectations can be a very scary thing and how to communicate in a way that promotes understanding on both parties. We'll be back next week with another dose of soulful guidance! Leanne is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Houston and she works with clients all over the country. She is committed to helping you find peace in the midst of difficult life situations and transitions. Using powerful insights into health and energy alignment, Leanne helps you create the beautiful life you want!

Episode 70 is all about designing a routine that works for you! Thanks for tuning in to Take the Upgrade. Your host is Leanne Peterson and she's here today to teach us the newest tips and tricks to make the most out of your day. We'll be back next week with another dose of soulful guidance! Leanne is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Houston and she works with clients all over the country. She is committed to helping you find peace in the midst of difficult life situations and transitions. Using powerful insights into health and energy alignment, Leanne helps you create the beautiful life you want!

Thanks for tuning in to Take the Upgrade! Today in Episode 69 Leanne is giving you the tools to distinguish between Intuition and Emotion. And, since they both feel about the same but mean two very different things, this is a good thing to practice!   We'll be back next week with another dose of soulful guidance!   Leanne is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Houston and she works with clients all over the country. She is committed to helping you find peace in the midst of difficult life situations and transitions. Using powerful insights into health and energy alignment, Leanne helps you create the beautiful life you want!

Welcome to Take the Upgrade! In Episode 68 Leanne and Natalie are talking about the aspect of intuition that we most often try to ignore: fear. We have the gift of sensing when something isn't right, similarly we all too often quiet that fear. We even try to talk ourselves out of it! Leanne wants us to pause and honor our intuition. Check on your surroundings and be ready to activate if you need to. Whether you're in a life-threatening situation or not, this means standing up for yourself and heeding the red flag. Be sure to listen to Oprah's Super Soul Conversation on Lifesaving Lessons linked below. Thanks for tuning in! We'll be back next week with another dose of soulful guidance! Leanne is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Houston and she works with clients all over the country. She is committed to helping you find peace in the midst of difficult life situations and transitions. Using powerful insights into health and energy alignment, Leanne helps you create the beautiful life you want!

Welcome to Take the Upgrade! In Episode 67 Leanne and Natalie discuss what's happening when you get too invested in other people. This is a pretty common pattern that can begin from a place of wanting to help others, to love and be loved. Remember to keep a dividing line between your job and the other person's job. Learning how to share kindness, empower others and listen is key. That's how to counteract the tendency to get too invested in helping others. Thanks for tuning in! We'll be back next week with another dose of soulful guidance! Leanne is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Houston and she works with clients all over the country. She is committed to helping you find peace in the midst of difficult life situations and transitions. Using powerful insights into health and energy alignment, Leanne helps you create the beautiful life you want!

Welcome to Take the Upgrade! In Episode 66 Leanne and Natalie talk about your relationship with your future self. It's so fascinating to think about who you'll be in the future. Leanne wants us to consider whether we are doing things for our future self or whether we're expecting our future self to do things for us. The truth is that you are the one who'll make your future self a reality. You have to do the things now that you would like to be doing in the future. Thanks for tuning in! We'll be back next week with another dose of soulful guidance! Leanne is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Houston and she works with clients all over the country. She is committed to helping you find peace in the midst of difficult life situations and transitions. Using powerful insights into health and energy alignment, Leanne helps you create the beautiful life you want!

Welcome to Take the Upgrade! In Episode 65 Leanne and Natalie talk about comparison and the illusion of what everyone around us is doing.  Obviously many social scientist of our day are concerned with the effects that social media is having on issues like depression, inter-connection and debt. Leanne really wants to offer you a clear vision to cut through the illusion of other peoples' lives. Thanks for tuning in! We'll be back next week with another dose of soulful guidance! Leanne is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Houston and she works with clients all over the country. She is committed to helping you find peace in the midst of difficult life situations and transitions. Using powerful insights into health and energy alignment, Leanne helps you create the beautiful life you want!        

Welcome to Take the Upgrade Podcast Episode 64! Today Leanne and Natalie dig deep into analyzing what feelings of jealousy can teach us.  Leanne doesn't subscribe to the old narrative of jealousy being "bad" and immediately shutting it down. Pondering your feelings of jealousy will actually give you insight into what you value in life and what you fear. Let yourself feel the negative emotion and then trace it back to learn what is important to you. We'll be back next week with another dose of soulful guidance! Leanne is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Houston and she works with clients all over the country. She is committed to helping you find peace in the midst of difficult life situations and transitions. Using powerful insights into health and energy alignment, Leanne helps you create the beautiful life you want!

Welcome to Take the Upgrade Podcast Episode 63! Your host is Leanne Peterson and today she's back with Natalie to talk about the best way to prepare for a big life change.  There are things that you can plan out ahead of time that will really help you be supported during a time of transition. Leanne calls this "padding." Listen in to learn more. Whether you initially see the change as good or bad choosing instead to see it as neutral will suspend you from the drama and give you perspective and a healthy attitude. We'll be back next week with another dose of soulful guidance! Leanne is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Houston and she works with clients all over the country. She is committed to helping you find peace in the midst of difficult life situations and transitions. Using powerful insights into health and energy alignment, Leanne helps you create the beautiful life you want!

Welcome to Take the Upgrade Podcast Episode 62! Your host is Leanne Peterson and today she's joined by Erin Thole to present another amazing aspect of the Align Program which is aligning your physical and emotional health! Erin Thole is a Certified Natural Healthcare Professional. Align is designed to help you get all areas of your life working in harmony together. We'll feature a Marie Kondo consult, Enneagram expert, Nutritionist, lots of yoga goodness and of course, much more! Align begins September 3rd. We can't wait to see you then. No matter where you live we have resources to help you and if you're in Houston you can join us in person. Have a question for Leanne? Email her at [email protected] Want to keep tabs on what Leanne is reading? Join in with us! https://bit.ly/2MQjx3T We'll be back next week with another dose of soulful guidance! Leanne is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Houston and she works with clients all over the country. She is committed to helping you find peace in the midst of difficult life situations and transitions. Using powerful insights into health and energy alignment, Leanne helps you create the beautiful life you want! If you are interested in Aligning your life and working with Leanne and Carolina one-on-one here is a program you will love: https://www.leannepeterson.com/course   Thanks for tuning in!

Welcome to Take the Upgrade Podcast Episode 61! Your host is Leanne Peterson and today she's joined by Carolina and Brooke to discuss how to use the Enneagram to discover your strengths and the strengths of those around you.   Align is designed to help you get all areas of your life working in harmony together. We'll feature a Marie Kondo consult, Enneagram expert, of course lots of yoga goodness and much more! Align begins September 3rd. Can't wait to see you then. No matter where you live we have resources to help you and if you're in Houston join us in person.     Have a question for Leanne? Email her at [email protected]   Want to keep tabs on what Leanne is reading? Join in with us! https://bit.ly/2MQjx3T   We'll be back next week with another dose of soulful guidance!   Leanne is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Houston and she works with clients all over the country. She is committed to helping you find peace in the midst of difficult life situations and transitions. Using powerful insights into health and energy alignment, Leanne helps you create the beautiful life you want!   If you are interested in Aligning your life and working with Leanne and Carolina one-on-one here is a program you will love: https://www.leannepeterson.com/course   Thanks for tuning in!

Welcome to Take the Upgrade Podcast Episode 60! Your host is Leanne Peterson and today she's joined by Carolina Vennie and Ashley Barber to discuss how to decluttering the right way!   Align is designed to help you get all areas of your life working in harmony together. We'll feature a Marie Kondo consult, Enneagram expert, of course lots of yoga goodness and much more! Align begins September 3rd. Can't wait to see you then. No matter where you live we have resources to help you and if you're in Houston join us in person.   Have a question for Leanne? Email her at [email protected]   We'll be back next week with another dose of soulful guidance! Leanne is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Houston and she works with clients all over the country. She is committed to helping you find peace in the midst of difficult life situations and transitions. Using powerful insights into health and energy alignment, Leanne helps you create the beautiful life you want! If you are interested in Aligning your life and working with Leanne and Carolina one-on-one here is a program you will love: https://www.leannepeterson.com/course Thanks for tuning in!

Welcome to Take the Upgrade Podcast Episode 59! Your host is Leanne Peterson and today she's joined by Carolina Vennie to introduce their new program called Align!   Align is designed to help you get all areas of your life working in harmony together. We'll feature a Marie Kondo consult, Enneagram expert, of course lots of yoga goodness and much more! Align begins September 3rd. Can't wait to see you then. No matter where you live we have resources to help you and if you're in Houston join us in person.     Have a question for Leanne? Email her at [email protected]   Want to keep tabs on what Leanne is reading? Join in with us! https://bit.ly/2MQjx3T   We'll be back next week with another dose of soulful guidance! Leanne is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Houston and she works with clients all over the country. She is committed to helping you find peace in the midst of difficult life situations and transitions. Using powerful insights into health and energy alignment, Leanne helps you create the beautiful life you want!   If you are interested in Aligning your life and working with Leanne and Carolina one-on-one here is a program you will love: https://www.leannepeterson.com/course   Thanks for tuning in!   Leanne is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Houston and she works with clients all over the country. She is committed to helping you find peace in the midst of difficult life situations and transitions. Using powerful insights into health and energy alignment, Leanne helps you create the beautiful life you want!

Today you can join our book club discussion of City of Girls and all things Elizabeth Gilbert! We're taking a look at her books, career and life over the years. We're covering themes of feminism, shame, creativity and the magic of diversity.   Have a question for Leanne? Email her at [email protected]   Want to keep tabs on what Leanne is reading? Join in with us! https://bit.ly/2MQjx3T   We'll be back next week with another dose of soulful guidance! Leanne is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Houston and she works with clients all over the country. She is committed to helping you find peace in the midst of difficult life situations and transitions. Using powerful insights into health and energy alignment, Leanne helps you create the beautiful life you want!   If you are interested in Aligning your life and working with Leanne and Carolina one on one here is a program you will love: https://www.leannepeterson.com/course

Welcome to Take the Upgrade Podcast Episode 57! Your host is Leanne Peterson and today she's teaching us how to not take things too personally. Join us!   The Third Space is a visualization tool to protect you and slow down situations where impulse reactions don't serve you. It's a buffer between you and other people and things. When a comment or action is offered to you, check it out in the third space before you decide to accept it. Then you can respond from a place of calmness and security. Listen in to learn how to try it out.   Have a question for Leanne? Email her at [email protected]   Want to keep tabs on what Leanne is reading? Join in with us! https://bit.ly/2MQjx3T   We'll be back next week with another dose of soulful guidance! Leanne is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Houston and she works with clients all over the country. She is committed to helping you find peace in the midst of difficult life situations and transitions. Using powerful insights into health and energy alignment, Leanne helps you create the beautiful life you want!   If you are interested in Aligning your life and working with Leanne and Carolina one on one here is a program you will love: https://www.leannepeterson.com/course

If you are interested in Aligning your life and working with Leanne and Carolina one on one here is a program you will love: https://www.leannepeterson.com/course   Welcome to the Take the Upgrade podcast with your host Leanne Peterson. Today we're talking about the constant pressure to be good enough and realizing a few inside secrets about how value and worth really work in this life of chaos.   Have a question for Leanne? Email her at [email protected]   Want to keep tabs on what Leanne is reading? Join in with us! https://bit.ly/2MQjx3T   We'll be back next week with another dose of soulful guidance! Leanne is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Houston and she works with clients all over the country. She is committed to helping you find peace in the midst of difficult life situations and transitions. Using powerful insights into health and energy alignment, Leanne helps you create the beautiful life you want!  

Our culture is basically obsessed with confidence. We talk about it like it's the first step to making our capabilities grow. Leanne wants to clear up this confusion for all of us. Confidence actually comes after our capabilities grow. After you've achieved the new skill or level, that's when you gain confidence! Welcome to Take the Upgrade Podcast! Join us for our conversation today about where and when our feelings - ranging all the way from inadequacy to confidence - should fit in. Have a question for Leanne? Email her at [email protected] Want to keep tabs on what Leanne is reading? Join in with us! https://bit.ly/2MQjx3T   We'll be back next week with another dose of soulful guidance! Leanne is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Houston and she works with clients all over the country. She is committed to helping you find peace in the midst of difficult life situations and transitions. Using powerful insights into health and energy alignment, Leanne helps you create the beautiful life you want!   If you are interested in Aligning your life and working with Leanne and Carolina one on one here is a program you will love: https://www.leannepeterson.com/course

Today on Take the Upgrade Leanne is talking about how our perception of something gets in the way of our actual experience. This is what is happening when you take something personally or get stuck in your own story. She calls it distorted thinking patterns, and there is a way to overcome. Let Leanne teach you about the emotional intelligence it takes to recognize your role, be resilient and find neutrality so that you can cultivate a champion mentality. Have a question for Leanne? Email her at [email protected] Want to keep tabs on what Leanne is reading? Join in with us in Leanne's book club with Leanne, Carolina, Natalie and Rachelle! https://bit.ly/2MQjx3T   We'll be back next week with another dose of soulful guidance! Leanne is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Houston and she works with clients all over the country. She is committed to helping you find peace in the midst of difficult life situations and transitions. Using powerful insights into health and energy alignment, Leanne helps you create the beautiful life you want!

Welcome to our special book club episode of Take the Upgrade! Join Leanne, Carolina, Rachelle and Natalie as they dissect Mel Robbin's awesome new audiobook Take Control of Your Life! This book is a collection of 6 life coaching sessions that tackle topics related to overcoming fear in its many forms (e.g., following your passions, perfectionism, decluttering, and emotional abuse). Thanks for tuning in! Have a question for Leanne? Email her at [email protected] Want to keep tabs on what Leanne is reading? Join in with us! https://bit.ly/2MQjx3T We'll be back next week with another dose of soulful guidance! Leanne is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Houston and she works with clients all over the country. She is committed to helping you find peace in the midst of difficult life situations and transitions. Using powerful insights into health and energy alignment, Leanne helps you create the beautiful life you want! If you are interested in Aligning your life and working with Leanne and Carolina one on one here is a program you will love: https://www.leannepeterson.com/course

Welcome to Take the Upgrade. In today's episode Leanne is going to help you finally figure out want you REALLY want. There's an exploratory process you can go through that will actually help you identify your core desires. For example, what were your childhood passions? These can often remind you of your strengths and once you know your strengths life gets a lot more fun! You're going to love the show today. Thanks for tuning in! Leanne is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Houston and she works with clients all over the country. She is committed to helping you find peace in the midst of difficult life situations and transitions. Using powerful insights into health and energy alignment, Leanne helps you create the beautiful life you want! Have a question for Leanne? Email her at [email protected] Want to keep tabs on what Leanne is reading? Join in with us! https://bit.ly/2MQjx3T We'll be back next week with another dose of soulful guidance! If you are interested in Aligning your life and working with Leanne and Carolina one on one here is a program you will love: https://www.leannepeterson.com/course

Welcome to Take the Upgrade Podcast with your host Leanne Peterson. Timing is delicate. Sometimes there are short windows in our life. Think about cooking popcorn in the microwave. There is a window of time for optimal cooking. When we have life events with similarly delicate timing, we have to trust the plan. Yes, be proactive. But also realize that much of life comes down to luck, so don't be too hard on yourself. We've got some great examples in the podcast today of this very thing!   Thanks for tuning in!   Leanne is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Houston and she works with clients all over the country. She is committed to helping you find peace in the midst of difficult life situations and transitions. Using powerful insights into health and energy alignment, Leanne helps you create the beautiful life you want!   Have a question for Leanne? Email her at [email protected]   Want to keep tabs on what Leanne is reading? Join in with us! https://bit.ly/2MQjx3T   We'll be back next week with another dose of soulful guidance!   If you are interested in Aligning your life and working with Leanne and Carolina one on one here is a program you will love: https://www.leannepeterson.com/course

Welcome to Take the Upgrade Episode 50! Today Leanne and Natalie talk about how to make the most of your summer. Life has many seasons. When "summer" comes around, whether literally or figuratively, you should enjoy it! Life is short so treat yourself every once in a while. Leanne encourages us to create space for something new to emerge in this season rest and play. She teaches us about time management so we can carve out some time for a little magic. What can you take advantage of this season? Thanks for tuning in! Leanne is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Houston and she works with clients all over the country. She is committed to helping you find peace in the midst of difficult life situations and transitions. Using powerful insights into health and energy alignment, Leanne helps you create the beautiful life you want! Have a question for Leanne? Email her at [email protected] Want to keep tabs on what Leanne is reading? Join in with us! https://bit.ly/2MQjx3T We'll be back next week with another dose of soulful guidance! If you are interested in Aligning your life and working with Leanne and Carolina one on one here is a program you will love: https://www.leannepeterson.com/course

Welcome to our May book club episode of Take the Upgrade! Today Leanne is joined by Rachelle and Natalie to discuss Loving What Is by Byron Katie. Byron Katie teaches that we can, not only accept, but embrace our lives by performing an inquiry work on our thoughts. Listen in to learn how it works and the benefits we've seen from putting the inquiry into action! The four questions are: Is it true? Can you absolutely know that it's true? How do you react, what happens, when you believe that thought? Who would you be without the thought? Leanne is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Houston and she works with clients all over the country. She is committed to helping you find peace in the midst of difficult life situations and transitions. Using powerful insights into health and energy alignment, Leanne helps you create the beautiful life you want! Have a question for Leanne? Email her at [email protected] Want to keep tabs on what Leanne is reading? Join in with us! https://bit.ly/2MQjx3T We'll be back next week with another dose of soulful guidance! If you are interested in Aligning your life and working with Leanne and Carolina one on one here is a program you will love: https://www.leannepeterson.com/course

Welcome to Take the Upgrade Podcast with Leanne Peterson! Being in the hustle is great. Life will have seasons of striving where we are working really hard to achieve a goal. Just know that striving is a stressed state. Your body, and especially your mind, are under a lot of stress when you are pushing yourself. Be sure you know how to switch gears when the work is done. Learn how to coast. Leanne teaches us about the impact of stress and some techniques help us enjoy a season of rest. Leanne is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Houston and she works with clients all over the country. She is committed to helping you find peace in the midst of difficult life situations and transitions. Using powerful insights into health and energy alignment, Leanne helps you create the beautiful life you want! Have a question for Leanne? Email her at [email protected] Want to keep tabs on what Leanne is reading? Join in with us! https://bit.ly/2MQjx3T We'll be back next week with another dose of soulful guidance! If you are interested in Aligning your life and working with Leanne and Carolina one on one here is a program you will love: https://www.leannepeterson.com/course

Welcome to Take the Upgrade Podcast. Today Leanne is talking to us about her recent spring cleaning adventures! There are some tricks you need to know about de-cluttering so that you can make quick and easy decisions. Curate your belongings based on who you really are and not who you wish you were. It's going to feel really good!Thanks for tuning in today. Leanne is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Houston and she works with clients all over the country. She is committed to helping you find peace in the midst of difficult life situations and transitions. Using powerful insights into health and energy alignment, Leanne helps you create the beautiful life you want! Have a question for Leanne? Email her at [email protected] Want to keep tabs on what Leanne is reading? Join in with us! https://bit.ly/2MQjx3T We'll be back next week with another dose of soulful guidance! If you are interested in Aligning your life and working with Leanne and Carolina one on one here is a program you will love: https://www.leannepeterson.com/course

Thanks for tuning in today to Take the Upgrade Podcast Episode 46! We're joined by a few members of Leanne's book club to discuss The Not So Big Life by Sarah Susanka. The book draws comparisons between making your home work for you and building a life that works for you. Bigger isn't always better. How can you have relationships, a career and a life that feels just right? Listen in to learn more! If you are interested in Aligning your life and working with Leanne and Carolina one on one here is a program you will love: https://www.leannepeterson.com/course

Welcome to Take the Upgrade Episode 45 where Leanne Peterson teaches us how to set ourselves up for success. What environment helps you thrive? Do you take the time to surround yourself with those conditions? Because when you aren't able to be your best self, it's probably just because you're stressed. True: Children misbehave when they are tired. Also True: Adults misbehave when they are tired. Let's figure out how to not be tired and stressed so that you can really shine! Have a question for Leanne? Email her at [email protected] Want to keep tabs on what Leanne is reading? Join in with us! https://bit.ly/2MQjx3T We'll be back next week with another dose of soulful guidance! Leanne is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Houston and she works with clients all over the country. She is committed to helping you find peace in the midst of difficult life situations and transitions. Using powerful insights into health and energy alignment, Leanne helps you create the beautiful life you want! If you are interested in Aligning your life and working with Leanne and Carolina one on one here is a program you will love: https://www.leannepeterson.com/course

Do you have the guts to make make a change in your life when the time is right? When it's time to leave or when it's time to speak up - do you do it? Or do you stay put and stay quiet? This episode today is such an inspiration for those of us who are ready for a course correction. Thanks for tuning in! Have a question for Leanne? Email her at [email protected] Want to keep tabs on what Leanne is reading? Join in with us! https://bit.ly/2MQjx3T We'll be back next week with another dose of soulful guidance! Leanne is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Houston and she works with clients all over the country. She is committed to helping you find peace in the midst of difficult life situations and transitions. Using powerful insights into health and energy alignment, Leanne helps you create the beautiful life you want! If you are interested in Aligning your life and working with Leanne and Carolina one on one here is a program you will love: https://www.leannepeterson.com/course

Maybe you thought you were serving someone, expecting nothing in return. No strings attached. But what happens when the recipient of your goodness doesn't treat you the way you thought they would? Do you feel like because you had been serving them and treating them a certain way - they should act a certain way in return? This is called "giving to get" or "score keeping." These hidden expectations may not even register on our awareness, but they will flare up eventually. Hidden expectations are common, but they really aren't fair. It's not fair to you and it's not fair to the person you've been serving. Today, listen in to Leanne and learn how to discover and communicate your expectations to your friends and family. And better yet, learn how to meet your own needs and drop some of the expectations you have for the people in your life. Have a question for Leanne? Email her at [email protected] Want to keep tabs on what Leanne is reading? Join in with us! https://bit.ly/2MQjx3T   We'll be back next week with another dose of soulful guidance! Leanne is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Houston and she works with clients all over the country. She is committed to helping you find peace in the midst of difficult life situations and transitions. Using powerful insights into health and energy alignment, Leanne helps you create the beautiful life you want! If you are interested in Aligning your life and working with Leanne and Carolina one on one here is a program you will love: https://www.leannepeterson.com/course