The Art Of Imperfect Adulting

If you love the show and you'd like to support it directly you can tip the host here https://imperfect-adulting.captivate.fm/supportIn this episode of The Art of Imperfect Adulting, Amy Stone speaks with Carly Alyssa Thorne about navigating life with congenital rubella syndrome. Based in LA, California, Carly Alyssa Thorne shares her journey of balancing medical needs with pursuing a fulfilling career, relationships, and mindset work. This episode uncovers the challenges of living with visible and invisible disabilities, the evolution of self-acceptance, and the power of choosing authenticity and self-advocacy despite societal misunderstanding.About Carly Alyssa Thorne:Carly Alyssa Thorne is a Director, Producer, Actress, Author, and Speaker with over 30 years in the conscious transformation field. Blending Eastern and Western philosophies, she integrates wellness, spirituality, and storytelling to create media and experiences that inspire growth and healing. A former fitness and wellness center owner and certified Life Coach, Reiki Master, NLP and Hypnotherapy Practitioner, and Interfaith Ordained Minister, Carly brings a holistic lens to every production and collaboration. Her work bridges film, business, and consciousness—empowering others to embody their truth, elevate their message, and lead with purpose.Main Topics Covered:Living with congenital rubella syndrome: understanding a rare, lifelong chronic illness and its evolving impact on daily life, health, and relationships.Invisible vs. visible disabilities: how Carly Alyssa Thorne navigates when and how to reveal her challenges, the emotional journey of self-acceptance, and combating stigma.Coping with ongoing medical needs: the reality of 67+ surgeries, ongoing treatments, restricted activities, and prioritizing quality of life.Mindset, mental health, and resilience: the work of managing depression, post-traumatic stress, and the conscious decision to choose life and positivity.Career and education obstacles: why chronic illness disrupted Carly Alyssa Thorne's academic pursuits, and how she pivoted to certifications and entrepreneurship.Self-advocacy and boundaries: learning to say no, educating others, and managing relationships with those who may not understand chronic illness.Blending Eastern and Western healing: embracing both medication and holistic practices to build a sustainable, flexible support system.Supporting others: Carly Alyssa Thorne's work as a coach, using multisensory and individualized approaches to help people through trauma and life transitions.Quote from the Episode:"I finally just stopped caring what other people stared, what their looks were, what comments were, you know, bullying, all that stuff. And I’m just like, I’m just going to be me—if you either like it or you don’t. If you need to ask me a question instead of staring, feel free to ask me a question. I’d be more than happy to answer." — Carly Alyssa Thorne 10:55Timestamps:00:05 Introduction; where Carly Alyssa Thorne calls home and what she loves about LA00:50 Explaining congenital rubella syndrome and its effects01:27 How the syndrome uniquely affects each person; long-term medical complications03:29 Childhood experiences: isolation, allergies, and constant medical care05:21 Lung and respiratory challenges; living with additional illnesses06:07 Family dynamics and coming to terms with medical reality07:25 Impact on school, sports, friendships, and accommodations09:31 Navigating visible and invisible disabilities; decisions about self-presentation12:56 The mindset shift: from hiding to self-acceptance and advocacy18:40 The toll of chronic illness on mental health and resilience23:47 Coping strategies, mindset work, and building positivity26:38 Day-to-day impact: fatigue, self-care, and adapting professional life29:12 Educational and career roadblocks, inability to sustain traditional roles31:05 Losing freedom (driving), further adaptations across life32:58 Boundaries and relationships: support circles and letting go of judgment35:03 Cultural and family context; independent self-advocacy37:18 Carly Alyssa Thorne’s coaching work: blending modalities to support othersABOUT THE SHOW: The Art of Imperfect Adulting elevates the voices of experience by sharing real stories from real people figuring out adult life. Every episode features honest conversations about life's choices, changes, and challenges—interviews with individuals (not celebrities) who share their personal experiences and insights. Through these authentic stories, listeners find validation, motivation, and inspiration for navigating their own path through modern life. Because there's a big difference between expert advice and shared experience, and hearing another person's lived experience helps us feel less alone in our own situations.CONNECT WITH THE GUEST: Www.carlyathorne.comNever Miss a Moment of Imperfect AdultingWe invite you to join our email community and let us bring the podcast directly to you! As a subscriber, you'll receive notifications about new episodes, exclusive offers from our amazing guests, and easier access to any of the important links mentioned on the show—no more scrambling to write down websites or remember special codes.Why subscribe?Stay up-to-date without checking your podcast appGet guest offers delivered straight to your inboxAccess all important links in one convenient placeCatch the highlights even when you don't have time to listenAre you ready? Join us at https://www.imperfectadulting.comIf you have a story to share and you'd like to be a guest on The Art of Imperfect Adulting, here are the steps for how you can make that happen. Pitch yourself at https://www.imperfectadulting.com/be-a-guestHere are a few resources that Amy uses to make all this great content. 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If you love the show and you'd like to support it directly you can tip the host here https://imperfect-adulting.captivate.fm/supportIn this episode of The Art of Imperfect Adulting, Amy Stone speaks with Becky Mollenkamp about navigating life’s most profound upheavals. Becky is based in St. Louis, Missouri. She shares about losing her brother to addiction, walking away from a “picture-perfect” marriage, and pivoting from print journalism to entrepreneurship. Listeners will discover practical wisdom on grief, resilience, and breaking free from “good girl” conditioning to create a life with more authenticity and meaning.Becky Mollenkamp is a feminist business coach for service-based entrepreneurs who want to build human-first businesses that honor collective flourishing over profit-at-all-costs growth.Main Topics Covered:Navigating the triple upheaval of divorce, the loss of a sibling to addiction, and an unexpected career shift.The emotional complexities of ending a relationship—even one that looks “perfect” from the outside.Surviving and healing through grief after losing a loved one to heroin overdose, and the impact of sibling bereavement.The personal and systemic challenges of mental health, addiction, and the stigma surrounding both in America.How running and movement became a pathway for processing grief and reconnecting with self.Transitioning from journalism and marketing to coaching—empowering other women to break out of “good girl” conditioning.The ongoing journey from needing external gold stars and validation to living a values-driven, self-defined life.Insights on embracing imperfect adulting, intersectional feminism, and helping others rewrite their stories.Quote from the Episode: “I may have made the bed, but I can make a new bed. Like, I don't have to lie in this bed just because I made it. ... I get to make my own rules for my life.” — Becky MollenkampTimestamps: [00:00:05] Amy welcomes Becky; St. Louis roots and sharing love for the Cardinals. [00:01:18] Amy reflects on Becky’s concise podcast pitch and their prior connection. [00:02:24] Becky details the July 4th, 2010 turning point—leading up to and after. [00:03:01] Setting the scene: Becky’s life before upheaval—successful freelance writing, wealth, custom home. [00:05:26] Becky’s journalism journey, newspaper work in California, shift to magazine publishing. [00:07:56] Three life changes: Divorce, family death, career—discussion on agency and choice. [00:08:09] Honest reflection on ending her marriage, infidelity, and personal responsibility. [00:12:01] Brother’s death from heroin overdose—grief, family dynamics, and reevaluating life. [00:13:51] The challenge of grieving when “everything looks good on paper”—stigma, guilt, and validation. [00:15:19] Family history of addiction; choosing tough love and wrestling with guilt. [00:18:47] Systemic issues—mental health, addiction, and the gaps in support. [00:21:00] Stigma surrounding death and overdose; Becky’s commitment to speaking openly. [00:23:17] The isolation and judgment parents face when children struggle or die by addiction. [00:24:08] The overlooked grief of adult siblings and “disenfranchised grief.” [00:25:27] How Becky attempted to outrun grief—and how it always catches up. [00:26:05] Somatic healing: Running, movement, and processing emotions. [00:32:03] Career transition—rediscovering purpose, letting go of “good girl” conditioning. [00:41:09] Building a new life—remarriage, parenting, fulfilling work, and redefining happiness. [00:42:28] Becky's lifelong feminism and evolution toward intersectionality. [00:43:31] Becky's podcast “Messy Liberation,” her upcoming book, and how listeners can connect.ABOUT THE SHOW: The Art of Imperfect Adulting elevates the voices of experience by sharing real stories from real people figuring out adult life. Every episode features honest conversations about life's choices, changes, and challenges—interviews with individuals (not celebrities) who share their personal experiences and insights. Through these authentic stories, listeners find validation, motivation, and inspiration for navigating their own path through modern life. Because there's a big difference between expert advice and shared experience, and hearing another person's lived experience helps us feel less alone in our own situations.CONNECT WITH THE GUEST: https://beckymollenkamp.com/Listen to Becky’s Podcast: Messy Liberation https://feeds.transistor.fm/messyliberationIf you have a story to share and you'd like to be a guest on The Art of Imperfect Adulting, here are the steps for how you can make that happen. Pitch yourself at https://www.imperfectadulting.com/be-a-guestNever Miss a Moment of Imperfect AdultingWe invite you to join our email community and let us bring the podcast directly to you! 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If you love the show and you'd like to support it directly you can tip the host here https://imperfect-adulting.captivate.fm/supportIn this episode of The Art of Imperfect Adulting, Amy Stone speaks with Courtney Boyer about deconstructing religious beliefs, unraveling "goodness," and the path from purity culture to embracing polyamory. Courtney lives in Germany. She shares her journey from an Evangelical Christian upbringing in the U.S. through redefining her sense of self, sexuality, and fulfillment in adulthood. This candid conversation explores the intersections of faith, identity, marriage, and the courage to choose honesty.About Courtney Boyer:Courtney Boyer, M.Ed., M.S., is a therapist-turned-relationship coach, writer, and speaker whose work centers on love, desire, and authenticity. She has been featured in The New York Post, Cosmopolitan, The Huffington Post, and BBC Radio Live. Drawing on her background in mental health and sex therapy, she brings a unique blend of professional expertise and lived experience to conversations around relationships and identity. When she isn’t writing or coaching, Courtney can be found chasing joy. This includes traveling, reading, or savoring delicious coffee and deep conversation. She is passionate about helping women break free from shame, reclaim their bodies and voices, and create relationships rooted in honesty and autonomy.Main Topics Covered:Growing up in a high-control Evangelical Christian environment and its impact on beliefs around gender, sex, and "being good."The meaning and process of "deconstructing" faith, especially when beliefs no longer align with lived values.Navigating marriage roles, motherhood, and self-sacrifice—plus the invisible labor women often carry.Overcoming shame, disconnection, and body criticism rooted in purity culture.The shift from therapist and wife “doing everything right” to embracing authentic self-expression and pleasure.Opening the conversation around non-monogamy, polyamory, and sexual fulfillment in adulthood.The complexity of honesty in intimate partnerships—and what it takes to rebuild a relationship on new terms.Parenting with openness about faith, ethics, and personal choice.Quote from the Episode: "I was so resolute in who I was at that point. I was so done with placating to other people." — Courtney BoyerTimestamps: [00:00:05] Introduction – Where Courtney calls home and what she loves about Germany[00:00:43] Exploring "goodness" and doing everything "right" in marriage and faith[00:01:16] Early adulthood: marriage, Evangelical Christian context, and career beginnings[00:03:00] High-control religion explained and how it shaped Courtney’s identity[00:04:07] Becoming a sex educator and therapist as a Christian woman[00:06:00] The "quiet erosion"—starting to question Evangelical beliefs (gay marriage, inclusion)[00:07:26] Deconstruction: pulling apart faith, family, and community[00:12:29] Motherhood, caretaking, and the emotional toll of self-sacrifice[00:16:12] Shame, disconnection, and curiosity about sex as a teen in religious spaces[00:19:49] The internalization of body criticism and purity culture[00:21:00] The pivotal moment: choosing honesty and confronting marriage dissatisfaction[00:22:33] Attempting non-monogamy to save the marriage; coming out as polyamorous[00:31:00] Defining polyamory versus non-monogamy for listeners[00:32:16] Couples therapy, growth, and life after honesty[00:33:03] How Courtney’s life is different today—joy, freedom, and authentic connection[00:35:19] Courtney’s professional work as a relationship and sexuality expert[00:36:07] Books authored by Courtney and resources for listeners[00:37:00] Fun reactions to being a sex and relationship therapist[00:37:35] Book recommendations and where Courtney turns when seeking new information[00:38:29] Closing gratitude and episode wrap-upABOUT THE SHOW: The Art of Imperfect Adulting elevates the voices of experience by sharing real stories from real people figuring out adult life. Every episode features honest conversations about life's choices, changes, and challenges—interviews with individuals (not celebrities) who share their personal experiences and insights. Through these authentic stories, listeners find validation, motivation, and inspiration for navigating their own path through modern life. Because there's a big difference between expert advice and shared experience, and hearing another person's lived experience helps us feel less alone in our own situations.CONNECT WITH THE GUEST: www.courtneyboyercoaching.comIf you have a story to share and you'd like to be a guest on The Art of Imperfect Adulting, here are the steps for how you can make that happen. Pitch yourself at https://www.imperfectadulting.com/be-a-guestNever Miss a Moment of Imperfect AdultingWe invite you to join our email community and let us bring the podcast directly to you! As a subscriber, you'll receive notifications about new episodes, exclusive offers from our amazing guests, and easier access to any of the important links mentioned on the show—no more scrambling to write down websites or remember special codes.Why subscribe?Stay up-to-date without checking your podcast appGet guest offers delivered straight to your inboxAccess all important links in one convenient placeCatch the highlights even when you don't have time to listenAre you ready? Join us at https://www.imperfectadulting.comHere are a few resources that Amy uses to make all this great content. 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If you love the show and you'd like to support it directly you can tip the host here https://imperfect-adulting.captivate.fm/supportIn this episode of The Art of Imperfect Adulting, Amy Stone speaks with Sarah Dawkins about moving from traditional nursing to a career in holistic healing. Dawkins is based in Spain. Sarah shares the powerful story of how questioning established medical norms led her to an identity transformation and inspired her to help others heal naturally. Listeners will learn about the inner conflict of leaving a medical system she once cherished and the personal healing journey that changed her perspective.Sarah Dawkins is a Holistic Health and Healing Coach, International Speaker, the Author of HEAL YOURSELF and the host of the popular health-focused podcast Heal Yourself with Sarah Dawkins. As a former Registered Nurse with over twenty years of medical experience, Sarah brings a unique, integrative perspective to her work. Sarah’s expertise spans from self-healing multiple chronic health issues to supporting clients in uncovering and addressing the root causes of their symptoms, empowering them to achieve vibrant, lasting health and transformative wellness.Main Topics Covered:How questioning professional norms in nursing led to a profound personal and professional transformation.The influence of geographic moves (UK to US to Spain) on worldview and healing philosophy.The emotional toll and identity crisis that arises when your values no longer align with your profession.Differentiating traditional Western medicine from holistic and natural healing approaches.The role of diet, lifestyle, and mindfulness in managing and healing chronic physical and mental health conditions.Strategies for helping others tune into their own "innate wisdom" and address root causes instead of only treating symptoms.Building a business around holistic health—transitioning from nurse, to entrepreneur, to holistic health coach.Combining, complementing, and sometimes rejecting aspects of Western medicine for more integrated self-care.Quote from the Episode: "I just wanted to help people, to have the knowledge to help themselves. …And for me, once I'd learned that, that truly is helping people to help themselves rather than helping them to stay in that medical model, in that western medicine." — Sarah DawkinsTimestamps:[00:00:05] Introduction & welcome—Sarah calls Spain home, discusses loving its tranquility[00:01:20] Why Sarah became a nurse and the UK nursing education process[00:04:02] Early nursing career and the first major challenge to professional beliefs[00:05:22] The pivotal coworker conversation about vaccines that sparked months of research[00:09:22] Expanding research beyond vaccines into pharmaceuticals, nutrition, and natural healing[00:13:44] Applying new knowledge to personal health: overcoming chronic illnesses through lifestyle changes[00:16:32] Living two lives: Integrating holistic habits at home and following protocols at work[00:18:00] Attempt to practice Reiki in nursing, and the professional limitations encountered[00:20:27] Specific patient interactions that deepened the conflict between values and job role[00:24:13] The inner struggle: Reported for holistic advice, facing ridicule, and mounting anxiety[00:27:17] The mental health crisis: Depression, suicidal thoughts, and the necessity of a "timeout"[00:30:49] Leaving nursing: Exploring entrepreneurship and using transferable skills[00:34:55] Earning new professional validation and certifications; becoming a coach, surrendering the nursing license[00:37:30] Reconciling Western and holistic medicine—when each is appropriate[00:40:20] Today’s work: Helping others get to the root cause of their symptoms[00:42:49] Free eBook offer for listeners and podcast details[00:43:38] Fun closer: favorite childhood TV show, book recommendation, and recent online purchaseABOUT THE SHOW: The Art of Imperfect Adulting elevates the voices of experience by sharing real stories from real people figuring out adult life. Every episode features honest conversations about life's choices, changes, and challenges—interviews with individuals (not celebrities) who share their personal experiences and insights. Through these authentic stories, listeners find validation, motivation, and inspiration for navigating their own path through modern life. Because there's a big difference between expert advice and shared experience, and hearing another person's lived experience helps us feel less alone in our own situations.CONNECT WITH THE GUEST: https://www.sarahdawkins.comGET SARAH'S SPECIAL OFFER: Understanding Your Core Beliefs https://mailchi.mp/7a6d66bbb5e1/core-beliefsNever Miss a Moment of Imperfect AdultingWe invite you to join our email community and let us bring the podcast directly to you! 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If you love the show and you'd like to support it directly you can tip the host here https://imperfect-adulting.captivate.fm/supportIn this episode of The Art of Imperfect Adulting, Amy Stone speaks with Christine Davies about the journey from aspiring physician to hospital chaplain, and how living with epilepsy reshaped her personal and professional life. Christine joins the show from Hunterdon County, New Jersey. The audience will enjoy insights on medical advocacy, faith, self-care, and how adversity can guide us to new callings.The Rev. Christine Vaughan Davies is an ordained Presbyterian Minister, ACPE Certified Educator, seminary professor and trained Spiritual Director. She runs the Spiritual Care Department at Robert Wood Johnson University Hospital. She lives with her family on a small farm in New Jersey and spends her time chasing chickens and chauffeuring her school-aged children to all their activities.Main Topics Covered:Facing medical gaslighting and learning self-advocacy through epilepsy diagnosis.Differentiating spirituality and organized religion, and healing after negative religious experiences.The emotional toll of pursuing difficult diagnoses and supporting loved ones through health uncertainty.How changing career paths—EMT, medicine, therapy, social work—clarified Christine’s desire to help others deeply and holistically.Lessons from life transitions, "dark night of the soul," and adapting to new normals after illness or loss.The role and misconceptions of chaplains in hospital settings, plus Christine’s approach to soulful self-care.How witnessing life’s toughest moments inspired her writing, teaching, and advanced care work.The importance of advance directives and having crucial conversations about health care decisions.Practical wisdom for balancing demanding caregiving/healing professions and personal mental health.Quote from the Episode: “One of the things that I would encourage your listeners...and it became true for me from the diagnosis, is learning to trust your own body. And I sometimes tell my patients this. You know your body better than anyone else, so if something feels off for you, you are the expert.” — Christine DaviesTimestamps: [00:00:05] Welcome & intros; Christine’s Jersey roots and hobby farm living[00:01:24] Becoming a hospital chaplain: Early dreams in medicine and EMT experience[00:04:04] The challenge & relief of epilepsy diagnosis; struggles with medical advocacy[00:06:10] Types of seizures and impact on daily life, plus career pivots[00:08:16] Persistence through the medical system; supporting loved ones with diagnoses[00:12:46] What spirituality means beyond religion; deconstructing harmful faith structures[00:16:07] Experiencing the “dark night of the soul” amidst health crisis[00:18:41] Exploring therapy, social work, and ultimately chaplaincy—making tough choices[00:21:29] Navigating career decisions & backup plans; learning through each transition[00:22:05] Misconceptions around hospital chaplains; teaching, internships, and finding her calling[00:25:34] Maintaining emotional balance in high stress roles; soulful self-care and nature on the farm[00:28:09] Lessons from witnessing grief and death, and why sharing stories matters[00:30:05] Advance care planning and having tough conversations with family[00:32:15] Christine’s private practice and working as a spiritual director[00:32:56] Rapid-fire questions: favorite pizza, rainy day relaxation, and parenting hacks[00:35:06] Closing gratitude and where to find Christine’s free spiritual practices offerABOUT THE SHOW: The Art of Imperfect Adulting elevates the voices of experience by sharing real stories from real people figuring out adult life. Every episode features honest conversations about life's choices, changes, and challenges—interviews with individuals (not celebrities) who share their personal experiences and insights. Through these authentic stories, listeners find validation, motivation, and inspiration for navigating their own path through modern life. Because there's a big difference between expert advice and shared experience, and hearing another person's lived experience helps us feel less alone in our own situations.CONNECT WITH THE GUEST: www.christinevdavies.comGET CHRISTINE'S SPECIAL OFFER: 5 simple spiritual practices you can do today - download https://www.christinevdavies.com/giftNote from the show: Guest offers are almost always limited-time and limited quantity. If you have any trouble redeeming the offer please reach out directly to the guest for support.Never Miss a Moment of Imperfect AdultingWe invite you to join our email community and let us bring the podcast directly to you! 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If you love the show and you'd like to support it directly you can tip the host here https://imperfect-adulting.captivate.fm/supportIn this episode of The Art of Imperfect Adulting, Amy Stone speaks with Peggy Sharr about the multi-layered journey of getting a burning mouth syndrome diagnosis, living with chronic pain, and the profound intersection of grief and physical health. Penny joins the podcast from Athens, Georgia. Listeners will gain insights into living with invisible illness, the maze of medical specialists, and the practical strategies Peggy discovered to reclaim agency and hope.Peggy Sharr is a licensed clinical psychotherapist and the author of The Burning Mouth Syndrome Survival Guide and her new memoir soon to come out, Surviving the Family Kingdom, about growing up in a home-grown religious cult, which she escaped from at twenty-one and rebuilt her life from the bottom up. With more than twenty years of trauma-focused experience, Peggy blends clinical insight with the raw honesty of someone who has lived through a painful, poorly understood condition herself. Her work helps people navigate fear, medical dismissal, chronic symptoms, and the emotional toll of invisible illness. Peggy lives in Athens, Georgia, where she continues her private practice, writes, paints, and advocates for those searching for clarity, validation, and hope.Main Topics Covered:The elusive path to diagnosing burning mouth syndrome (BMS) and why so many patients feel misunderstood or dismissed.Navigating overwhelming grief and how emotional trauma can influence physical symptoms.The unique challenges of finding the right medical specialists—such as oral pathologists—and the realities of the “disease of exclusion.”Why being your own detective, advocating for yourself, and tracking symptoms is crucial for rare and invisible illnesses.Practical pain management: low arginine, high lysine diets, medication, and trial-and-error treatments for BMS.The psychological isolation of invisible conditions—and how support groups and education help break the stigma.How Peggy’s clinical experience as a psychotherapist shaped her approach to self-advocacy and later helped her support clients in new, more authentic ways.Transforming adversity into activism: starting a nonprofit, writing a groundbreaking book for BMS sufferers, and the power of sharing your story.Quote from the Episode:"Sitting at a dinner, for example, or going out with friends, I’m sitting there, my mouth is on fire, and everybody’s just talking and enjoying themselves, and I’m just faking it... trying to go along and have a good time and not bring other people down. I’m not going to sit there and go, ‘By the way, everybody, my mouth is on fire.’" — Peggy SharrTimestamps:00:06 Welcome, intros, and where Peggy calls home (Athens, Georgia)00:58 Comparing Iowa and Georgia; reflections on Southern hospitality02:13 Experiencing burning mouth syndrome after loss and grief03:34 Using Dr. Google, self-diagnosis, and examining possible causes04:41 The persistent, life-altering nature of symptoms06:08 How foods and drinks affect BMS; coping and dietary adjustments07:46 Description of burning mouth pain and daily challenges09:49 Ulcers, lesions, and the frustrations of inconclusive medical visits11:58 Peggy’s background as a clinical psychotherapist and self-advocacy13:45 The long road searching for the right diagnosis and effective care17:06 The meaning of "idiopathic" and the range of secondary BMS causes18:10 Specialist referrals: MRI, food allergy testing, and the oral pathologist20:17 Hearing the words “burning mouth syndrome” for the first time22:32 Life impact: working, masking pain, TMJ, and invisible suffering27:46 The psychological isolation of chronic invisible pain34:50 The turning point: the “three years” prognosis and the search for answers36:30 Diving into research, joining support groups, and lessons from others41:00 The role of diet: arginine, lysine, and practical symptom relief49:33 Why Peggy wrote her book and began sharing her research publicly54:00 How experiencing chronic pain and loss changed Peggy as a therapist56:09 Resources for listeners: the BMS survival guide, newsletter, and memoir preview57:00 Fun wrap-up: hobbies, dancing, painting, and favorite music on vinylABOUT THE SHOW: The Art of Imperfect Adulting elevates the voices of experience by sharing real stories from real people figuring out adult life. Every episode features honest conversations about life's choices, changes, and challenges—interviews with individuals (not celebrities) who share their personal experiences and insights. Through these authentic stories, listeners find validation, motivation, and inspiration for navigating their own path through modern life. Because there's a big difference between expert advice and shared experience, and hearing another person's lived experience helps us feel less alone in our own situations.CONNECT WITH THE GUEST: www.peggysharr.comGET PEGGY'S SPECIAL OFFER: If you would like the first three chapters of Peggy’s upcoming memoir Surviving the Family Kingdom for free, you can go to the website www.peggysharr.com/kingdom and sign up on the popup form.Note from the show: Guest offers are almost always limited-time and limited quantity. If you have any trouble redeeming the offer please reach out directly to the guest for support.Never Miss a Moment of Imperfect AdultingWe invite you to join our email community and let us bring the podcast directly to you! As a subscriber, you'll receive notifications about new episodes, exclusive offers from our amazing guests, and easier access to any of the important links mentioned on the show—no more scrambling to write down websites or remember special codes.Why subscribe?Stay up-to-date without checking your podcast appGet guest offers delivered straight to your inboxAccess all important links in one convenient placeCatch the highlights even when you don't have time to listenAre you ready? Join us at https://www.imperfectadulting.comIf you have a story to share and you'd like to be a guest on The Art of Imperfect Adulting, here are the steps for how you can make that happen. Pitch yourself at https://www.imperfectadulting.com/be-a-guestHere are a few resources that Amy uses to make all this great content. These are affiliate links :-)For livestreaming and recording ECamm https://www.ecamm.com/mac/ecammlive/?fp_ref=amy69Podcast hosting and distribution: Captivate FM https://www.captivate.fm/signup?ref=ntczmwi Website hosting with Siteground https://www.siteground.com/?referrer_id=9115590Ai Transcription Tool: Castmagic https://get.castmagic.io/ugrmjjrt8ofjFor Email I recently switched to Beehiiv https://www.beehiiv.com?via=Amy-Stonebefore that I used Kit. Books I like and books written by show guests on Bookshop.org https://bookshop.org/lists/podcast-guest-authors

If you love the show and you'd like to support it directly you can tip the host here https://imperfect-adulting.captivate.fm/supportIn this episode of The Art of Imperfect Adulting, Amy Stone speaks with Jane Pilger about the reality behind polished public perceptions, the experience of living with binge eating, and the path to recovery and self-compassion. Jane calls Albuquerque, New Mexico home.Jane Pilger knows what it’s like to look successful on the outside while struggling in silence on the inside. After years of battling binge eating while working in corporate accounting and commercial real estate, she made the leap to help others find the freedom she once thought was impossible. Today, she teaches people how to understand their behavior, trust themselves with food, and cultivate safety in their own bodies. Her work blends neuroscience, compassion, and lived experience—and her life outside coaching is filled with family, friends, and triathlon adventures.Main Topics Covered:Understanding binge eating: what it is, how it feels, and why shame keeps it hidden.The difference between occasional overeating and binge eating—particularly the heavy burden of shame.How “having it all together” on the outside can mask private struggles—and why perfectionism fuels secrecy.Ways that secrecy, emotional labor, and self-judgement perpetuate unhealthy patterns.The critical role of sharing your story and breaking the cycle of isolation.How changing careers and discovering nervous system regulation contributed to recovery.Practical steps to seek support, from therapy to coaching, and why “permission to be human” is vital.Resources, offers, and tools Jane uses to help others change their relationship with food.Quote from the Episode: “Shame thrives in the darkness...it wants to hide. And especially around food, any time any of us show up with a behavior that we wouldn't want other people to know, that's where the shame comes in.”—Jane PilgerTimestamps: [00:00:06] Welcome & intros; Jane’s home in Albuquerque, NM; media impressions vs. local perspective[00:00:53] Jane shares her love of the Sandia Mountains and the meaning behind their name[00:02:22] Introduction of today’s topics: public perception, keeping secrets, and binge eating patterns[00:03:00] Defining binge eating—beyond the clinical DSM criteria[00:04:01] The role of shame and the feeling of being broken[00:05:25] Brene Brown’s lessons on shame; shame as an isolating force[00:06:36] Why food is a uniquely complex coping tool[00:07:18] The challenge and benefits of self-diagnosis, social media influences, and finding community[00:07:52] Jane discusses her own podcast and the power of hearing others’ stories[00:09:16] Exploring behaviors as “lights on the dashboard”—the value of understanding root causes[00:11:12] How people’s motivations and destructive habits often have hidden, rational reasons[00:12:15] The reality of maintaining a successful image vs. inner struggle; perfection, vulnerability, and “permission to be human”[00:15:04] Using food to soothe—is it always bad? Reflecting with compassion[00:16:49] The pendulum swings: all-or-nothing thinking and cycles of binge eating[00:17:07] Jane’s history—25 years of binge eating, how secrecy started, and telling her husband[00:19:41] Isolation, secrecy, and the emotional labor of hiding disordered eating[00:21:51] Did anyone know? Jane’s reflections on secrecy versus reality[00:23:16] Tactics for concealment—replacing food and hiding evidence[00:25:08] The gradual journey from secrecy to seeking help; finding support, therapy, and its impact[00:26:29] Hunger cues, the complexity of physical vs. emotional hunger[00:28:16] Career change: leaving accounting and real estate for coaching and helping others[00:32:04] The nervous system’s role in relapse and recovery; making sense of protective patterns[00:34:11] Examples of protective behaviors and what drives “revenge bedtime procrastination”[00:35:23] How Jane helps others—podcast, YouTube, group and individual coaching[00:41:08] Jane’s Binge Breakthrough Miniseries: resource for complicated relationships with food[00:43:04] Podcast recommendations, kitchen gadgets, and closing remarksABOUT THE SHOW: The Art of Imperfect Adulting elevates the voices of experience by sharing real stories from real people figuring out adult life. Every episode features honest conversations about life's choices, changes, and challenges—interviews with individuals (not celebrities) who share their personal experiences and insights. Through these authentic stories, listeners find validation, motivation, and inspiration for navigating their own path through modern life. Because there's a big difference between expert advice and shared experience, and hearing another person's lived experience helps us feel less alone in our own situations.CONNECT WITH THE GUEST: https://www.janepilger.comGET JANE'S SPECIAL OFFER: The Binge Breakthrough Mini Series — a free 7-part video series that helps you understand why you binge or feel out of control around food. You’ll learn what’s really happening in your brain and body and how to find lasting peace with food—without diets, rules, or willpower.Link: https://www.janepilger.com/stop-binge-eating-mini-series?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=audio&utm_campaign=imperfect-adultingNote from the show: Guest offers are almost always limited-time and limited quantity. If you have any trouble redeeming the offer please reach out directly to the guest for support.Never Miss a Moment of Imperfect AdultingWe invite you to join our email community and let us bring the podcast directly to you! As a subscriber, you'll receive notifications about new episodes, exclusive offers from our amazing guests, and easier access to any of the important links mentioned on the show—no more scrambling to write down websites or remember special codes.Why subscribe?Stay up-to-date without checking your podcast appGet guest offers delivered straight to your inboxAccess all important links in one convenient placeCatch the highlights even when you don't have time to listenAre you ready? Join us at https://www.imperfectadulting.comIf you have a story to share and you'd like to be a guest on The Art of Imperfect Adulting, here are the steps for how you can make that happen. Pitch yourself at https://www.imperfectadulting.com/be-a-guestHere are a few resources that Amy uses to make all this great content. These are affiliate links :-)For livestreaming and recording ECamm https://www.ecamm.com/mac/ecammlive/?fp_ref=amy69Podcast hosting and distribution: Captivate FM https://www.captivate.fm/signup?ref=ntczmwi Website hosting with Siteground https://www.siteground.com/?referrer_id=9115590Ai Transcription Tool: Castmagic https://get.castmagic.io/ugrmjjrt8ofjFor Email I recently switched to Beehiiv https://www.beehiiv.com?via=Amy-Stonebefore that I used Kit. Books I like and books written by show guests on Bookshop.org https://bookshop.org/lists/podcast-guest-authors

If you love the show and you'd like to support it directly you can tip the host here https://imperfect-adulting.captivate.fm/supportIn this episode of The Art of Imperfect Adulting, Amy Stone speaks with Jessica Rector about the transformative power of saying yes, burnout prevention, and reconnecting to personal joy as an adult. Jessica is based in Texas. Listeners will learn how small, intentional acts of saying yes to novelty can shift mental health, improve family connections, and expand what’s possible in everyday life.Jessica Rector is a personal development strategist, keynote speaker, and founder of the Say Yes Experience, a movement helping people step out of their comfort zones and into possibility.After experiencing burnout firsthand, Jessica rebuilt her life and work around a simple but powerful idea—start saying yes--to what lights you up, scares you or things you've always wanted to do. That mindset now fuels her work with individuals and organizations, focusing on growth, mental wellness, resilience, and burnout prevention through curiosity, courage, and connection.Main Topics Covered:Burnout, mental health, and the myth that entrepreneurship solves all overwhelm.The importance of novelty and small “say yes” moments to rekindle joy and presence.How kids—and those close to us—can be honest mirrors helping us see when we’re not fully present.The role of intentional fun and how scheduling joy impacts anticipation, well-being, and fulfillment.Practical examples: ice cream outings, scavenger walks, and the real challenges of trying new things (like renting bikes or scooters with your child).The expansion from saying yes to others, to saying yes for yourself—and the gradual process of reconnecting with your own wishes and desires.Building your “courage muscle” through 100 Days of Say Yes, tackling discomfort, and reframing fear.How cultivating curiosity, courage, and connection strengthens both relationships and self-discovery.Quote from the Episode:“Our brain is so hardwired to say no, and we don't even know why we say no most of the time. So I just encourage those listening that those moments don't wait. There's opportunities every single day to say yes. Just start saying yes and see what happens. Just try it.” — Jessica RectorTimestamps:00:06 Welcome to The Art of Imperfect Adulting; Jessica calls Texas home01:17 The origin of the “Say Yes” journey—sparked by her 9-year-old son03:40 Burnout as an entrepreneur; loving the work but losing balance05:42 Why working for yourself doesn’t guarantee ease or “boundaries”; myth-busting burnout07:05 Honest parenting reflections; son as a mirror and catalyst13:12 First “say yes” moments: ice cream, laughter, novelty, and brain science16:13 Trying new things—bike rentals, European travels, and learning to pause21:34 The gift of imperfect, messy experiences; why novelty (even when hard) creates memories26:13 What changed over time—adventures, travel, and small moments at home29:59 Saying yes to yourself (not only others); reconnecting with your wishes32:49 Jessica’s process re-learning what she loves, bucket lists, and solo self-care36:10 Evolution to keynote speaking, programs, and “100 Days of Say Yes” for courage41:23 How to connect with Jessica; bucket list download and resource for listeners43:05 Final playful questions—bowling, karaoke, and joyful purchasesABOUT THE SHOW: The Art of Imperfect Adulting elevates the voices of experience by sharing real stories from real people figuring out adult life. Every episode features honest conversations about life's choices, changes, and challenges—interviews with individuals (not celebrities) who share their personal experiences and insights. Through these authentic stories, listeners find validation, motivation, and inspiration for navigating their own path through modern life. Because there's a big difference between expert advice and shared experience, and hearing another person's lived experience helps us feel less alone in our own situations.CONNECT WITH THE GUEST: https://SayYesExperience.comGET JESSICA'S SPECIAL OFFER: FREE Bucket List Template to live out your bucket year now! https://go.sayyesexperience.com/listNote from the show: Guest offers are almost always limited-time and limited quantity. If you have any trouble redeeming the offer please reach out directly to the guest for support.Never Miss a Moment of Imperfect AdultingWe invite you to join our email community and let us bring the podcast directly to you! As a subscriber, you'll receive notifications about new episodes, exclusive offers from our amazing guests, and easier access to any of the important links mentioned on the show—no more scrambling to write down websites or remember special codes.Why subscribe?Stay up-to-date without checking your podcast appGet guest offers delivered straight to your inboxAccess all important links in one convenient placeCatch the highlights even when you don't have time to listenAre you ready? Join us at https://www.imperfectadulting.comIf you have a story to share and you'd like to be a guest on The Art of Imperfect Adulting, here are the steps for how you can make that happen. Pitch yourself at https://www.imperfectadulting.com/be-a-guestHere are a few resources that Amy uses to make all this great content. These are affiliate links :-)For livestreaming and recording ECamm https://www.ecamm.com/mac/ecammlive/?fp_ref=amy69Podcast hosting and distribution: Captivate FM https://www.captivate.fm/signup?ref=ntczmwi Website hosting with Siteground https://www.siteground.com/?referrer_id=9115590Ai Transcription Tool: Castmagic https://get.castmagic.io/ugrmjjrt8ofjFor Email I recently switched to Beehiiv https://www.beehiiv.com?via=Amy-Stonebefore that I used Kit. Books I like and books written by show guests on Bookshop.org https://bookshop.org/lists/podcast-guest-authors

If you love the show and you'd like to support it directly you can tip the host here https://imperfect-adulting.captivate.fm/supportIn this episode of The Art of Imperfect Adulting, Amy Stone speaks with Lisa Manzo about unraveling childhood trauma, the path to sobriety, and the courage it takes to claim one's voice in adulthood. Lisa calls Las Vegas home. This episode delivers actionable insights for anyone navigating recovery, boundary-setting, and the journey of self-love after years of people-pleasing and perfectionism.Lisa Manzo is an emotional trauma coach who helps others process and heal from deeply embedded childhood wounds. Drawing on her own story of recovery and resilience, Lisa guides clients toward peace and joy through mindset shifts, self-reflection, and energetic healing modalities. She is host of The Phoenix Mind podcast and offers programs for those looking to step into their own transformative journey.Main Topics Covered:The connection between sobriety and healing childhood trauma.Growing up emotionally parentified and feeling unseen by parents.How early experiences with perfectionism, people-pleasing, and compliance shape adult relationships and behavior.The impact of family dynamics, divorce, and generational messaging (“be seen and not heard”) on self-worth.Using personal development, NLP, and energetic healing as tools for recovery and rewiring.The emotional residue of childhood stories—why memories like picture day or first communion can shape lifelong beliefs.Navigating support through therapy, 12-step programs, and finding community after isolation.Lisa’s journey from deep depression to peace, offering hope that joy is possible after transformation.Quote from the Episode: "My voice didn't matter. What I had to say doesn't mean anything. And it still shows up in the fact that I have to really assert myself and people still aren't listening. Then I'll walk away and something bad will happen because they didn't listen to me." — Lisa ManzoTimestamps: [00:00:06] Welcome & intros; Lisa shares her NYC roots and new home in Las Vegas[00:01:33] The choice to get sober—and why ending drinking wasn’t enough[00:02:28] The 12-step process: resentment, personal responsibility, and origins of trauma[00:03:02] White-knuckling sobriety alone vs. seeking help and surrendering[00:04:47] Family structure growing up: extended family, alcoholism, divorce, and its impact[00:06:46] The “Pink Dress” story: picture day, parental control, lost joy, and lifelong emotional residue[00:09:07] Reflecting as an adult on parentification, people-pleasing, and worth tied to compliance[00:12:22] First communion and the struggle to belong; family choices eclipsing childhood desires[00:17:56] Impact: Lisa’s voice and feelings not mattering—effects lasting into adulthood[00:19:12] Early substance use, from childhood wine in soda to buzz-seeking at clubs[00:20:57] When drinking becomes problematic: post-divorce stress management and unhealthy cycles[00:22:19] The lack of coping tools, isolation, and why therapy and help are vital[00:24:28] Beginning origin work: personal development, NLP, energetic healing, and the doors transformation opens[00:27:31] What might have happened without sobriety—Lisa’s honest fear she wouldn’t be alive[00:28:02] Finding peace and joy after years of unhappiness; helping others through emotional trauma[00:28:51] Lisa’s podcast, The Phoenix Mind, and free program resources[00:29:47] How Lisa uses free time: journaling, self-reflection, and making peace with triggers[00:30:52] Dream vacation: summer city-hopping in Europe[00:31:25] Junk drawers: Lisa’s philosophy on keeping organized “just in case” items[00:32:28] Episode wrap-up; gratitude and closing exchangeABOUT THE SHOW: The Art of Imperfect Adulting elevates the voices of experience by sharing real stories from real people figuring out adult life. Every episode features honest conversations about life's choices, changes, and challenges—interviews with individuals (not celebrities) who share their personal experiences and insights. Through these authentic stories, listeners find validation, motivation, and inspiration for navigating their own path through modern life. Because there's a big difference between expert advice and shared experience, and hearing another person's lived experience helps us feel less alone in our own situations.CONNECT WITH THE GUEST: www.ThePhoenixMind.comLISA’S PODCAST: The Phoenix Mind Podcast https://open.spotify.com/show/1ATZIU7C73tO84LbELsvpu?si=aa79e9584b5f4734GET LISA'S SPECIAL OFFER: https://thephoenixmind.com/free-certificationNote from the show: Guest offers are almost always limited-time and limited quantity. If you have any trouble redeeming the offer please reach out directly to the guest for support.Never Miss a Moment of Imperfect AdultingWe invite you to join our email community and let us bring the podcast directly to you! As a subscriber, you'll receive notifications about new episodes, exclusive offers from our amazing guests, and easier access to any of the important links mentioned on the show—no more scrambling to write down websites or remember special codes.Why subscribe?Stay up-to-date without checking your podcast appGet guest offers delivered straight to your inboxAccess all important links in one convenient placeCatch the highlights even when you don't have time to listenAre you ready? Join us at https://www.imperfectadulting.comIf you have a story to share and you'd like to be a guest on The Art of Imperfect Adulting, here are the steps for how you can make that happen. Pitch yourself at https://www.imperfectadulting.com/be-a-guestHere are a few resources that Amy uses to make all this great content. These are affiliate links :-)For livestreaming and recording ECamm https://www.ecamm.com/mac/ecammlive/?fp_ref=amy69Podcast hosting and distribution: Captivate FM https://www.captivate.fm/signup?ref=ntczmwi Website hosting with Siteground https://www.siteground.com/?referrer_id=9115590Ai Transcription Tool: Castmagic https://get.castmagic.io/ugrmjjrt8ofjFor Email I recently switched to Beehiiv https://www.beehiiv.com?via=Amy-Stonebefore that I used Kit. Books I like and books written by show guests on Bookshop.org https://bookshop.org/lists/podcast-guest-authors

If you love the show and you'd like to support it directly you can tip the host here https://imperfect-adulting.captivate.fm/supportIn this episode of The Art of Imperfect Adulting, Amy Stone speaks with Andrea Daley about the profound journey from the depths of victimhood to empowered ownership in the wake of divorce and major life transitions. Andrea Daley is based in Greenville, South Carolina. This conversation is a compassionate guide for anyone navigating big changes, delivering practical insights on identity, healing, and reclaiming purpose beyond life’s upheavals.Andrea Daley is a Certified Coach, Life Transformation Specialist, Speaker, and Author with a Master’s in Psychology. With over 30 years of experience as a homeschooling mom of nine, she brings both professional expertise and lived wisdom to her work helping women navigate life’s biggest transitions; divorce, empty nesting, relocation, or reinvention.After her own world was turned upside down, Andrea discovered the power of coaching and used it to rebuild her life with clarity, confidence, and courage. That transformation inspired her to create The Empowered YOU Method; a framework built on Rediscovery, Realignment, and Renewal, designed to help women move from uncertainty to empowerment.Featured at national conferences, women’s events, and retreats, Andrea is known for her warmth, humor, and depth. Through her relatable storytelling and proven tools, she inspires audiences to embrace change, rediscover their strength, and confidently create lives they love.Main Topics Covered:Realizing no one is coming to save you: Breaking free from the victimhood identity after divorce.Navigating major life transitions—separation, lost identity, and becoming an “empty nester.”The limits of therapy alone and Andrea’s pivot to long-term self-help and coaching certification.Practical tools for “washing yourself” in personal growth and why slow, intentional change works.The role of self-awareness in interrupting destructive thought patterns and reframing the narrative.How to distinguish your “normal” from unhealthy patterns and redefine your sense of worthiness.Using adversity as fuel: How Andrea turned her healing process into a mission to serve others.Insights for women struggling to process overwhelming changes and permission to ask for support.Quote from the Episode:“You just do what you do when you think it’s your normal. That’s why women who are physically abused will end up back in that same relationship—because they know how to navigate that. They don’t know how to navigate being loved. The abuse is their normal.”— Andrea DaleyABOUT THE SHOW: The Art of Imperfect Adulting elevates the voices of experience by sharing real stories from real people figuring out adult life. Every episode features honest conversations about life's choices, changes, and challenges—interviews with individuals (not celebrities) who share their personal experiences and insights. Through these authentic stories, listeners find validation, motivation, and inspiration for navigating their own path through modern life. Because there's a big difference between expert advice and shared experience, and hearing another person's lived experience helps us feel less alone in our own situations.CONNECT WITH THE GUEST: https://andreadaley.comGET ANDREA'S SPECIAL OFFER: Your Free Guide to Navigating Major Life TransitionsThis gentle, practical guide will help you find steadiness in the “in-between” of any major life change; divorce, empty nest, relocation, career shifts, or those quiet now what? moments.https://andreadaley.com/wp-content/uploads/Starting-Over-After-Divorce-or-Empty-Nest.pdf Note from the show: Guest offers are almost always limited-time and limited quantity. If you have any trouble redeeming the offer please reach out directly to the guest for support.Never Miss a Moment of Imperfect AdultingWe invite you to join our email community and let us bring the podcast directly to you! As a subscriber, you'll receive notifications about new episodes, exclusive offers from our amazing guests, and easier access to any of the important links mentioned on the show—no more scrambling to write down websites or remember special codes.Why subscribe?Stay up-to-date without checking your podcast appGet guest offers delivered straight to your inboxAccess all important links in one convenient placeCatch the highlights even when you don't have time to listenAre you ready? Join us at https://www.imperfectadulting.comIf you have a story to share and you'd like to be a guest on The Art of Imperfect Adulting, here are the steps for how you can make that happen. Pitch yourself at https://www.imperfectadulting.com/be-a-guestHere are a few resources that Amy uses to make all this great content. These are affiliate links :-)For livestreaming and recording ECamm https://www.ecamm.com/mac/ecammlive/?fp_ref=amy69Podcast hosting and distribution: Captivate FM https://www.captivate.fm/signup?ref=ntczmwi Website hosting with Siteground https://www.siteground.com/?referrer_id=9115590Ai Transcription Tool: Castmagic https://get.castmagic.io/ugrmjjrt8ofjFor Email I recently switched to Beehiiv https://www.beehiiv.com?via=Amy-Stonebefore that I used Kit. Books I like and books written by show guests on Bookshop.org https://bookshop.org/lists/podcast-guest-authors

If you love the show and you'd like to support it directly you can tip the host here https://imperfect-adulting.captivate.fm/supportIn this episode of The Art of Imperfect Adulting, Amy Stone speaks with Lucy Bedewi about transforming rejection into an engine for personal and professional growth. Lucy is based in Austin, Texas. Listeners and viewers will learn how Lucy reframed setbacks, used resilience and self-reflection to launch her “unicorn” business approach, and why embracing imperfection can lead to powerful transformations.Lucy Bedewi is the brand messaging strategist and copywriter behind My Write Hand Woman. She’s known for her ability to connect the dots quickly and craft unique messaging angles that’ll turn normal businesses into unicorn brands. She has scaled her business to multi-6-figures by the age of 22, working with top coaches, irreverent brands, highly-differentiated businesses, and personality-packed e-commerce companies. Her story and work has been featured in Nasdaq, Thrive Global, and Create and Cultivate. An electric speaker and the host of the podcast Unicorn Messaging, Lucy inspires women to get clear on the articulation behind their business, move into their bigness, and create messaging that’s easy to buy from.Main Topics Covered:Using rejection as a catalyst for change and self-discovery in your careerNavigating job loss and leveraging a supportive safety net to take risksThe emotional reality of being fired—why it’s more common (and survivable) than people thinkBuilding a business from scratch: how spite and determination fueled Lucy’s rapid entrepreneurial successRecognizing when it’s time to walk away from unfair partnerships and startup “equity” situationsRebranding after failure: returning to authenticity, infusing personality, and launching the “unicorn” brand strategyThe role of support systems, including executive coaching, in processing setbacksShifting from internalizing rejection to viewing it as useful information—and letting go of outside validationQuote from the Episode: “You can be like the juiciest peach, but if someone only eats apples, they're never gonna see that you’re a delicious peach... It's never about you. It's also never about them.” — Lucy BedewiTimestamps: [00:00:05] Warm welcome and where Lucy calls home (Austin, Texas) [00:00:44] What Lucy loves about Austin’s climate, food, and lifestyle [00:01:11] Introducing the theme: seeing rejection as the start of great things [00:01:43] Fired from a remote job after 90 days—emotional impact and realities [00:02:36] Graduating during the pandemic and landing her first “adult” job [00:03:32] Early career expectations, red flags, and entrepreneurial leanings [00:06:13] Taking risks because of a safety net and “Jerry Maguire” moments [00:07:12] Launching a business out of spite and necessity; setting ambitious goals [00:09:32] Why Lucy pushed for three months to hit $5k/month—and how she did it [00:12:20] The second rejection: being cut from a startup and confronting undervaluation [00:15:07] The aftermath—scaling back, self-reflection, and emotional impact [00:16:14] Rebranding gone wrong, returning to personality and authenticity [00:17:55] Launching Unicorn Messaging: helping others become the “unicorn” in their industry [00:18:30] The process of self-discovery and breaking free from the need for approval [00:20:01] The mix of personality, coaching, and support required to bounce back [00:22:54] How to NOT internalize rejection—and practical reframes for moving forward [00:25:01] Comparing “bounce-back” stories; the deeper lessons of later rejection [00:26:18] Embracing letting go, trusting what’s meant for you, and future possibilities [00:27:26] About Lucy’s current business, special quiz offer, and where to follow her [00:28:46] Fun quickfire questions (birthdays, grocery shopping hacks, favorite books) [00:31:05] Closing gratitude and final thoughtsABOUT THE SHOW: The Art of Imperfect Adulting elevates the voices of experience by sharing real stories from real people figuring out adult life. Every episode features honest conversations about life's choices, changes, and challenges—interviews with individuals (not celebrities) who share their personal experiences and insights. Through these authentic stories, listeners find validation, motivation, and inspiration for navigating their own path through modern life. Because there's a big difference between expert advice and shared experience, and hearing another person's lived experience helps us feel less alone in our own situations.CONNECT WITH THE GUEST: https://www.mywritehandwoman.com and Lucy has a podcast Unicorn Messaging: https://open.spotify.com/show/22xqeOiQGWzrTNaD2NmI03GET LUCY'S SPECIAL OFFER:FREE quiz: What's Your Brand Messaging Superpower?https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/67979624c16f720015e296ad?method=iframeNote from the show: Guest offers are almost always limited-time and limited quantity. If you have any trouble redeeming the offer please reach out directly to the guest for support.Never Miss a Moment of Imperfect AdultingWe invite you to join our email community and let us bring the podcast directly to you! As a subscriber, you'll receive notifications about new episodes, exclusive offers from our amazing guests, and easier access to any of the important links mentioned on the show—no more scrambling to write down websites or remember special codes.Why subscribe?Stay up-to-date without checking your podcast appGet guest offers delivered straight to your inboxAccess all important links in one convenient placeCatch the highlights even when you don't have time to listenAre you ready? Join us at https://www.imperfectadulting.comIf you have a story to share and you'd like to be a guest on The Art of Imperfect Adulting, here are the steps for how you can make that happen. Pitch yourself at https://www.imperfectadulting.com/be-a-guestHere are a few resources that Amy uses to make all this great content. These are affiliate links :-)For livestreaming and recording ECamm https://www.ecamm.com/mac/ecammlive/?fp_ref=amy69Podcast hosting and distribution: Captivate FM https://www.captivate.fm/signup?ref=ntczmwi Website hosting with Siteground https://www.siteground.com/?referrer_id=9115590Ai Transcription Tool: Castmagic https://get.castmagic.io/ugrmjjrt8ofjFor Email I recently switched to Beehiiv https://www.beehiiv.com?via=Amy-Stonebefore that I used Kit. Books I like and books written by show guests on Bookshop.org https://bookshop.org/lists/podcast-guest-authors

If you love the show and you'd like to support it directly you can tip the host here https://imperfect-adulting.captivate.fm/supportIn this episode of The Art of Imperfect Adulting, Amy Stone speaks with Jacob Engelsman about redefining family, identity, and lactation support for queer and trans parents. Listeners will gain insights into Jacob’s transformative career change, the importance of specialized resources for marginalized families, and the power of creating community in unconventional spaces. Jacob is Based in Atlanta, GA.Jacob Engelsman is an International Board Certified Lactation Consultant, infant care specialist, speaker, and writer. He is the author of Lactation for the Rest of Us: A Guide for Queer and Trans Parents and Helpers, as well as several articles and presentations on lactation support and supporting gender and sexual diversity in healthcare.Main Topics Covered:Making bold career transitions: Jacob’s move from food service to the world of birth work, doula training, and lactation consulting.What it means to be a postpartum doula versus a lactation consultant, and how real-world experience reshapes career paths.The lack of resources for queer, trans, and non-traditional families in lactation, and how Jacob is filling that gap with his book “Lactation for the Rest of Us.”Inducing lactation for non-gestational parents: myths, biology, and practical advice for queer and adoptive families.Navigating gender, belonging, and being “the only guy in the room” in feminine-dominated birth spaces.The importance of representation and referral in inclusive healthcare—ensuring all parents find the right support.Why giving space and resources for marginalized stories matters, and how listeners can be better allies by simply “being nice” and connecting people to what they need.The rise and role of telehealth in postpartum care, especially for underrepresented families.Quote from the Episode:“I think one of the things that's important to stress in conversations like these is that I'm not telling anybody to change their language about anything or to change the way they do anything. I'm asking people to be nice. If you don't feel comfortable working with trans communities, that's fine. Just know somebody that you can refer them to. That's literally the bare minimum.” — Jacob EngelsmanABOUT THE SHOW: The Art of Imperfect Adulting elevates the voices of experience by sharing real stories from real people figuring out adult life. Every episode features honest conversations about life's choices, changes, and challenges—interviews with individuals (not celebrities) who share their personal experiences and insights. Through these authentic stories, listeners find validation, motivation, and inspiration for navigating their own path through modern life. Because there's a big difference between expert advice and shared experience, and hearing another person's lived experience helps us feel less alone in our own situations.CONNECT WITH THE GUEST: https://jacobengelsmanibclc.com/GET JACOB'S BOOK: Lactation for the Rest of Us https://bookshop.org/a/87491/9781805011910Note from the show: Guest offers are almost always limited-time and limited quantity. If you have any trouble redeeming the offer please reach out directly to the guest for support.Never Miss a Moment of Imperfect AdultingWe invite you to join our email community and let us bring the podcast directly to you! As a subscriber, you'll receive notifications about new episodes, exclusive offers from our amazing guests, and easier access to any of the important links mentioned on the show—no more scrambling to write down websites or remember special codes.Why subscribe?Stay up-to-date without checking your podcast appGet guest offers delivered straight to your inboxAccess all important links in one convenient placeCatch the highlights even when you don't have time to listenAre you ready? Join us at https://www.imperfectadulting.comIf you have a story to share and you'd like to be a guest on The Art of Imperfect Adulting, here are the steps for how you can make that happen. Pitch yourself at https://www.imperfectadulting.com/be-a-guestHere are a few resources that Amy uses to make all this great content. These are affiliate links :-)For livestreaming and recording ECamm https://www.ecamm.com/mac/ecammlive/?fp_ref=amy69Podcast hosting and distribution: Captivate FM https://www.captivate.fm/signup?ref=ntczmwi Website hosting with Siteground https://www.siteground.com/?referrer_id=9115590Ai Transcription Tool: Castmagic https://get.castmagic.io/ugrmjjrt8ofjFor Email I recently switched to Beehiiv https://www.beehiiv.com?via=Amy-Stonebefore that I used Kit. Books I like and books written by show guests on Bookshop.org https://bookshop.org/lists/podcast-guest-authors

If you love the show and you'd like to support it directly you can tip the host here https://imperfect-adulting.captivate.fm/supportIn this episode of The Art of Imperfect Adulting, Amy Stone speaks with Alisha Kapani about the reality of living with and healing from depression. Alisha is based in Calgary, Alberta in Canada. Alisha shares her deeply personal journey through severe depression, suicidal ideation, and her eventual discovery of unconditional joy after years of searching and trying both conventional and unconventional healing modalities. Listeners will hear about the importance of seeking the root cause of mental illness, the power of vulnerability, and how a shift in consciousness led Alisha to her own radically transformed life and a new career.Alisha Kapani is a former Chemical Engineer turned Mindbody Mentor after struggling with severe depression for 5 years. She assists clients all over the world to tap into their body’s wisdom to resolve illness and access their highest possibilities for vitality and abundance.Main Topics Covered:Recognizing the signs and symptoms of depression beyond ordinary sadness.Navigating medical and therapeutic treatment options, including antidepressants and cognitive behavioral therapy.The limitations and challenges of traditional approaches to mental health.Exploring alternative healing modalities: Reiki, hypnosis, acupuncture, and more.Why addressing the emotional root cause is crucial for genuine healing—and how distraction and suppression can impede progress.Transformative impact of finding a mentor and embracing mind-body connection and quantum physics to facilitate rapid recovery.The stigma, vulnerability, and misunderstandings around mental illness—with advice for managing shame, family expectations, and relationships.Alisha’s current work as a mind body mentor, including approaches to raising your vibration and healing at the root.Quote from the Episode: “I think because so many people are managing their illness, whether it's a mental or physical illness, because they think that that is all that's available...I guess I just want people to know that once you get to the root cause, you can heal very quickly. I did heal pretty much right away once I figured out what the root cause was. On the other side of it is more joy than you've ever experienced in your life before.”— Alisha KapaniTimestamps: [00:00:06] Welcome and Alisha’s home base in Calgary, Alberta[00:00:41] Reflecting on learnings from the past year—epiphany around relationships and depression[00:01:49] Trigger warning: depression, self-harm, suicidal ideation[00:02:27] Timeline of Alisha’s depression and age at onset[00:03:49] Working with medical professionals: diagnosis and medication journey[00:06:31] Describing symptoms of depression—fatigue, lack of motivation, impact on relationships[00:08:51] Recognizing depression: misattributing root causes, effect of life transitions[00:10:14] Impact on work performance and relationships; perfectionism and stigma[00:12:55] Relationship dynamics: depression and anxiety in partnerships[00:15:33] Why share your story? Breaking stigma, possibilities for healing, hope for others[00:19:28] Was there hope? The possibility of healing and experiencing greater joy[00:21:05] Sources of support—role of family, friends, and especially stepmom[00:23:44] Treatments tried: medical, therapeutic, and unconventional modalities[00:26:06] Distraction as a coping strategy—work and busy schedules[00:28:26] Surrender and openness: discovering a mentor and holistic healing[00:30:59] How Alisha discovered her mentor and the science behind self-healing[00:33:50] The challenge of understanding others’ experiences with mental health[00:35:16] From engineer to intuitive—embracing spiritual healing[00:36:24] Realizing transformation: unconditional peace and joy[00:39:58] Alisha’s work as a mind body mentor; special offer for listeners[00:41:44] Book recommendation—Love and Respect[00:42:34] Favorite movie snack[00:42:58] Episode wrap-up and gratitudeABOUT THE SHOW: The Art of Imperfect Adulting elevates the voices of experience by sharing real stories from real people figuring out adult life. Every episode features honest conversations about life's choices, changes, and challenges—interviews with individuals (not celebrities) who share their personal experiences and insights. Through these authentic stories, listeners find validation, motivation, and inspiration for navigating their own path through modern life. Because there's a big difference between expert advice and shared experience, and hearing another person's lived experience helps us feel less alone in our own situations.CONNECT WITH THE GUEST: https://www.alishakapani.com/GET ALISHA'S SPECIAL OFFER: 3 Ways to Raise Your Vibration Fast with Alisha’s Raise Your Vibration Bundle. Value: $100 Redeem at this link: https://alisha-kapani.mykajabi.com/3-ways-to-raise-your-vibration-fastNote from the show: Guest offers are almost always limited-time and limited quantity. If you have any trouble redeeming the offer please reach out directly to the guest for support.Never Miss a Moment of Imperfect AdultingWe invite you to join our email community and let us bring the podcast directly to you! As a subscriber, you'll receive notifications about new episodes, exclusive offers from our amazing guests, and easier access to any of the important links mentioned on the show—no more scrambling to write down websites or remember special codes.Why subscribe?Stay up-to-date without checking your podcast appGet guest offers delivered straight to your inboxAccess all important links in one convenient placeCatch the highlights even when you don't have time to listenAre you ready? Join us at https://www.imperfectadulting.comIf you have a story to share and you'd like to be a guest on The Art of Imperfect Adulting, here are the steps for how you can make that happen. Pitch yourself at https://www.imperfectadulting.com/be-a-guestHere are a few resources that Amy uses to make all this great content. These are affiliate links :-)For livestreaming and recording ECamm https://www.ecamm.com/mac/ecammlive/?fp_ref=amy69Podcast hosting and distribution: Captivate FM https://www.captivate.fm/signup?ref=ntczmwi Website hosting with Siteground https://www.siteground.com/?referrer_id=9115590Ai Transcription Tool: Castmagic https://get.castmagic.io/ugrmjjrt8ofjFor Email I recently switched to Beehiiv https://www.beehiiv.com?via=Amy-Stonebefore that I used Kit. Books I like and books written by show guests on Bookshop.org https://bookshop.org/lists/podcast-guest-authors

If you love the show and you'd like to support it directly you can tip the host here https://imperfect-adulting.captivate.fm/supportIn this episode of The Art of Imperfect Adulting, Amy Stone speaks with Blythe Alpern about choosing self-fulfillment over the pressures of dating and conventional adulthood. Blythe calls Atlanta, Georgia home and listeners will enjoy candid reflections on how Blythe’s decision to stop “finding her person” led to personal growth, renewed focus on her passions, and a powerful reframing of self-worth.Blythe Alpern is a copywriter and podcaster. As the founder of Wordwoman Creative, she helps beauty and lifestyle brands create website, email, and blog post content that makes their audience stop, stay, engage, and buy. As the host of The GenX Experience, which was recently recognized by AARP, she gives latch key kids a place to reminisce and share the joys of navigating midlife as an 80s kid. When she's not podcasting or copywriting, she's taking her dog, Buster, for long walks and working on maintaining her status as the coolest aunt to her nieces and nephew.Main Topics Covered:The emotional toll and fatigue of dating apps: Blythe’s firsthand experiences with ghosting, bad dates, and lackluster connections.The impact of grief and family loss on personal priorities and capacity for relationships.Societal pressure to couple up and the myth of completion through partnership—especially as a Gen X woman.Navigating acceptance: Making peace with not having children and embracing the “cool aunt” role.Strategies for thriving solo—how Blythe channels energy into creative work, friendships, and solo adventures.Anxiety, introversion, and the challenge of doing things alone, from solo travel to coffee shop visits.The value of supportive friendships and reframing singlehood as a choice, not a deficit.Blythe’s work as a copywriter and her podcast “Gen X Experience” as creative outlets and platforms for fellow Gen Xers.Quote from the Episode: "I just got tired. I'm like, why am I putting effort when I'm not getting the effort back? And I deserve better. Every woman deserves better than a man with a picture of a fish." — Blythe AlpernTimestamps: [00:00:05] Amy Stone welcomes Blythe for a role-reversal interview; Blythe calls Atlanta, Georgia home. [00:00:45] Blythe’s creative life, copywriting, and beauty industry work. [00:01:11] Introduction to the pivotal “relationship choice” of 2023. [00:01:46] Blythe recounts dating during perimenopause and the realization triggered by love bombing. [00:02:28] Key turning points—being unsupported during family loss and making a conscious shift away from dating apps. [00:04:11] Memories of app fatigue and “terrible, lazy, lackluster men”; Atlanta’s unique dating frustrations. [00:05:11] Ghosting, rudeness, and security concerns on dating apps. [00:06:29] Expanding beyond the apps—fatigue from singles events and choosing personal growth over dating urgency. [00:08:02] Processing the decision with friends, and recognizing shared pain points among single women. [00:09:28] Feedback and camaraderie from Blythe’s support network. [00:11:13] The freedom and fulfillment of focusing on solo living and creative projects. [00:12:27] Blythe’s personal acceptance around motherhood, reframing her nurturing instincts in new roles. [00:15:23] Generational scripts around adulthood, and how acceptance and visibility among peers eased Blythe’s journey. [00:18:36] Overcoming anxiety and introversion for solo outings and travel; advice for others working through similar hurdles. [00:19:52] Blythe’s copywriting business “Word Woman Creative” and her podcast “Gen X Experience.” [00:21:56] Gen X nostalgia, community, and Blythe’s favorite comedy influencers on social media. [00:26:13] Rapid-fire questions on favorite color, clothing stores, and book recommendations—featuring “The Correspondent.” [00:27:59] Reflection on the lost art of letter writing and maintaining connections as an adult. [00:28:15] Closing gratitude and farewells from Amy Stone and Blythe Alpern.ABOUT THE SHOW: The Art of Imperfect Adulting elevates the voices of experience by sharing real stories from real people figuring out adult life. Every episode features honest conversations about life's choices, changes, and challenges—interviews with individuals (not celebrities) who share their personal experiences and insights. Through these authentic stories, listeners find validation, motivation, and inspiration for navigating their own path through modern life. Because there's a big difference between expert advice and shared experience, and hearing another person's lived experience helps us feel less alone in our own situations.CONNECT WITH THE GUEST: The GenX Experience Podcast: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-gen-x-experience/id1734296691Wordwoman Creative: https://www.wordwomancreative.com/GET BLYTHE'S SPECIAL OFFER: Book a done-for-you website content creation service, and receive a free strategy session to help you determine the best way to roll out your website launch(Valued at $450.). Use code: ADULTINGNote from the show: Guest offers are almost always limited-time and limited quantity. If you have any trouble redeeming the offer please reach out directly to the guest for support.If you have a story to share and you'd like to be a guest on The Art of Imperfect Adulting, here are the steps for how you can make that happen. Pitch yourself at https://www.imperfectadulting.com/be-a-guestNever Miss a Moment of Imperfect AdultingWe invite you to join our email community and let us bring the podcast directly to you! As a subscriber, you'll receive notifications about new episodes, exclusive offers from our amazing guests, and easier access to any of the important links mentioned on the show—no more scrambling to write down websites or remember special codes.Why subscribe?Stay up-to-date without checking your podcast appGet guest offers delivered straight to your inboxAccess all important links in one convenient placeCatch the highlights even when you don't have time to listenAre you ready? Join us at https://www.imperfectadulting.comHere are a few resources that Amy uses to make all this great content. These are affiliate links :-)For livestreaming and recording ECamm https://www.ecamm.com/mac/ecammlive/?fp_ref=amy69Podcast hosting and distribution: Captivate FM https://www.captivate.fm/signup?ref=ntczmwi Website hosting with Siteground https://www.siteground.com/?referrer_id=9115590Ai Transcription Tool: Castmagic https://get.castmagic.io/ugrmjjrt8ofjFor Email I recently switched to Beehiiv https://www.beehiiv.com?via=Amy-Stonebefore that I used Kit. Books I like and books written by show guests on Bookshop.org https://bookshop.org/lists/podcast-guest-authors

If you love the show and you'd like to support it directly you can tip the host here https://imperfect-adulting.captivate.fm/supportIn this episode of The Art of Imperfect Adulting, Amy Stone speaks with Amy Benjamin about the overlooked realities and challenges of perimenopause and menopause. Amy Benjamin is based in a suburb of Des Moines, Iowa. The audience will learn about common symptoms that are frequently misunderstood, the lack of societal conversation, how Amy turned her struggles into advocacy, and how a renewed focus on humor and science is empowering women to advocate for better care.Amy Benjamin Moore, M.Ed., turned 31 years in education into a menopause revolution. As a GGS-Certified Menopause Coaching Specialist, she built the Menopause Mastery Toolkit app and the Menopause Symptom Tracker app so women could stop suffering in silence and start advocating powerfully for themselves. In her debut book, Hot Flashes & Cold Truths (2026) she tackles menopause with education, humor, and strategies because menopause shouldn’t be whispered about; it should be owned.Main Topics Covered:Recognizing and navigating the symptoms of perimenopause and menopause hidden among everyday stressors and aging.The struggle for medical validation—why so many doctors miss menopause and rely on minimal training.The impact of menopause on work, relationships, and mental health, including overlooked symptoms like brain fog, irritability, and suicidal ideation.Intergenerational silence: why women rarely hear about menopause from their families or communities.The transformation from unaddressed discomfort to becoming an informed and empowered advocate for other women.Social media’s role in connecting women for information and support, plus caution on product-driven “menopause influencers.”Essential tips for self-advocacy in medical settings—how to prepare for doctor visits and what questions to ask.Resources and support: Amy’s survival guide, coaching, and upcoming humorous book on menopause.Timestamps: [00:00:05] Welcome & intro; Amy Benjamin’s Midwest home and outlook on daily joy[00:00:39] Sources of beauty and daily nature rituals—adapting to Iowa winters[00:02:07] Introduction to topic: Amy's “basket of physical and emotional symptoms” and medical journey[00:03:39] Realization of menopause symptoms: joint pain, brain fog, memory issues, and stress in early 40s[00:08:09] Lack of family/societal discussion about menopause—generational silence and missed opportunities[00:13:30] The medical runaround: symptoms dismissed as aging, lack of hormone and menopause conversation[00:14:03] Discovery of frozen shoulder—an overlooked menopause symptom and physician disconnect[00:17:13] Doctors saying “You’re fine”—Amy’s frustration and the systemic lack of menopause education[00:19:17] Minimal training for doctors on menopause; expert commentary[00:22:23] Unexpected weight gain, irritability, impact on relationships and divorce[00:24:28] Suicidal ideation flashes—mental health symptoms leading to help[00:26:01] Extreme bleeding, ablation, still no mention of menopause by doctors[00:28:41] Working in a female-majority environment—absence of conversation and recent shifts[00:30:43] Amy’s motivation to support other women, break the silence, and advocate for her daughters[00:33:01] Certification as a menopause coach—training and UK influence[00:35:03] “Rooms talking about it”—social media, influencers, and connecting online[00:36:18] Caution on menopause influencer marketing vs. genuine medical info[00:38:01] Navigating the challenge of finding supportive medical practitioners—telehealth as a new option[00:40:12] Self-advocacy in medical care; specific strategies, persistence, and moving on when not heard[00:42:12] Resources for listeners: survival guide, symptom tracker, doctor visit checklist[00:44:01] Amy’s upcoming book, use of humor in menopause advocacyABOUT THE SHOW: The Art of Imperfect Adulting elevates the voices of experience by sharing real stories from real people figuring out adult life. Every episode features honest conversations about life's choices, changes, and challenges—interviews with individuals (not celebrities) who share their personal experiences and insights. Through these authentic stories, listeners find validation, motivation, and inspiration for navigating their own path through modern life. Because there's a big difference between expert advice and shared experience, and hearing another person's lived experience helps us feel less alone in our own situations.CONNECT WITH THE GUEST: https://amybenjaminmoore.com/GET AMY BENJAMIN'S SPECIAL OFFER: Menopause Survival Guide Free on the website.Note from the show: Guest offers are almost always limited-time and limited quantity. If you have any trouble redeeming the offer please reach out directly to the guest for support.If you have a story to share and you'd like to be a guest on The Art of Imperfect Adulting, here are the steps for how you can make that happen. Pitch yourself at https://www.imperfectadulting.com/be-a-guestNever Miss a Moment of Imperfect AdultingWe invite you to join our email community and let us bring the podcast directly to you! As a subscriber, you'll receive notifications about new episodes, exclusive offers from our amazing guests, and easier access to any of the important links mentioned on the show—no more scrambling to write down websites or remember special codes.Why subscribe?Stay up-to-date without checking your podcast appGet guest offers delivered straight to your inboxAccess all important links in one convenient placeCatch the highlights even when you don't have time to listenAre you ready? Join us at https://www.imperfectadulting.comHere are a few resources that Amy uses to make all this great content. These are affiliate links :-)For livestreaming and recording ECamm https://www.ecamm.com/mac/ecammlive/?fp_ref=amy69Podcast hosting and distribution: Captivate FM https://www.captivate.fm/signup?ref=ntczmwi Website hosting with Siteground https://www.siteground.com/?referrer_id=9115590Ai Transcription Tool: Castmagic https://get.castmagic.io/ugrmjjrt8ofjFor Email I recently switched to Beehiiv https://www.beehiiv.com?via=Amy-Stonebefore that I used Kit. Books I like and books written by show guests on Bookshop.org https://bookshop.org/lists/podcast-guest-authors

In this episode of The Art of Imperfect Adulting, Amy Stone speaks with Lori Balue about the journey of sustainable weight loss after 50, holistic functional health, and how embracing adventure can transform life in midlife and beyond. Lori calls Los Angeles home. The audience will learn about the impact of food sensitivities, inflammation, and the difference between dieting and truly changing your life.Lori Balue is a Functional Diagnostic Nutrition Practitioner and former obesity survivor who lost 100 pounds naturally in her 50s and has kept it off through low-carb nutrition, metabolic repair, and a movement-forward lifestyle. Now in her 60s, she hikes rim-to-rim across the Grand Canyon, runs half-marathons, and teaches women over 50 how to reverse metabolic dysfunction and reclaim their energy without medications or extreme dieting.Main Topics Covered:Why midlife and post-50 weight loss often requires a fundamentally different approach, especially for womenThe lifelong “diet merry-go-round”: Lori’s story of cravings, diet culture, and not just losing, but keeping off significant weightHow food sensitivities, inflammation, and functional health labs became breakthrough tools in Lori’s transformationReversing asthma, depression, and metabolic blocks by personalizing food choices—not just following trendsMoving beyond “willpower” and working with biology: protein, gut health, and understanding how diet drugs compare to real foodFinding real joy and motivation by embracing movement—hiking, half marathons, and making nature a regular part of lifeThe difference between short-term dieting and creating an adventurous, joyful lifestyle that sustains lifelong healthLori’s work as a Functional Diagnostic Nutrition Practitioner and how she supports women in breaking through metabolic blocksQuote from the Episode:"I look in my mirror, see, you know, I've still got, like, a flabby abdomen, and I'm 63, and I was 225 pounds, but I look and I feel slender. I feel slender and confident in my body, and I think that's great... I just started planning another half marathon and I'm going back to the Grand Canyon next September because this is what I love. And it keeps me activated and excited and joyful and happy. And I look forward to it." — Lori Balue 32:43Timestamps:00:08 Amy welcomes Lori and introduces the conversation about adulting, art, and daily beauty00:39 Lori shares her home in the Los Angeles high desert and love of her victory garden03:02 Shifting to the main topic: weight loss after age 5004:24 Lori’s backstory—struggles with childhood/adolescent weight, first diet at age 11–1206:07 A lifetime of diet programs, food cravings, and learning what did (and didn’t) work10:18 The turning point: functional nutrition, discovering keto, and what changed for brain health and joy15:51 Functional lab testing for food sensitivities—and finally reversing long-term asthma and inflammation20:19 Personalized transformation: experimenting, testing, and finally cracking the code22:40 Why profound, lasting change only happened when joy and health—not thinness—became the goals27:05 Commentary on weight loss meds, protein, and food “noise” today29:04 Discovering her adventurous self through movement, hiking, and the Grand Canyon37:45 Lori’s practice: Functional Diagnostic Nutrition, breaking blocks, and helping women reclaim health43:13 Fun closing: flowers, decorating, and the health tech/gadgets Lori now loves48:29 Gratitude and farewellABOUT THE SHOW: The Art of Imperfect Adulting elevates the voices of experience by sharing real stories from real people figuring out adult life. Every episode features honest conversations about life's choices, changes, and challenges—interviews with individuals (not celebrities) who share their personal experiences and insights. Through these authentic stories, listeners find validation, motivation, and inspiration for navigating their own path through modern life. Because there's a big difference between expert advice and shared experience, and hearing another person's lived experience helps us feel less alone in our own situations.CONNECT WITH THE GUEST:https://loribalue.com/GET LORI'S SPECIAL OFFER: A downloadable recipe guide. Normally $27. Download here: https://contact.loribalue.com/recipebookNote from the show: Guest offers are almost always limited-time and limited quantity. If you have any trouble redeeming the offer please reach out directly to the guest for support. If you love the show and you'd like to support it directly you can tip the host here https://imperfect-adulting.captivate.fm/supportNever Miss a Moment of Imperfect AdultingWe invite you to join our email community and let us bring the podcast directly to you! As a subscriber, you'll receive notifications about new episodes, exclusive offers from our amazing guests, and easier access to any of the important links mentioned on the show—no more scrambling to write down websites or remember special codes.Why subscribe?Stay up-to-date without checking your podcast appGet guest offers delivered straight to your inboxAccess all important links in one convenient placeCatch the highlights even when you don't have time to listenAre you ready? Join us at https://www.imperfectadulting.comIf you have a story to share and you'd like to be a guest on The Art of Imperfect Adulting, here are the steps for how you can make that happen. Pitch yourself at https://www.imperfectadulting.com/be-a-guestHere are a few resources that Amy uses to make all this great content. These are affiliate links :-)For livestreaming and recording ECamm https://www.ecamm.com/mac/ecammlive/?fp_ref=amy69Podcast hosting and distribution: Captivate FM https://www.captivate.fm/signup?ref=ntczmwi Website hosting with Siteground https://www.siteground.com/?referrer_id=9115590Ai Transcription Tool: Castmagic https://get.castmagic.io/ugrmjjrt8ofjFor Email I recently switched to Beehiiv https://www.beehiiv.com?via=Amy-Stonebefore that I used Kit. Books I like and books written by show guests on Bookshop.org https://bookshop.org/lists/podcast-guest-authors

In this episode of The Art of Imperfect Adulting, Amy Stone speaks with Darlene Lekowski about the lifelong impact of sibling sexual trauma and the journey of letting go of secrets that shaped her adult life. Darlene lives in the Charlotte, NC suburbs with her husband, Tom, their dog Pepper, and is the proud mother of three adult children. Listeners will learn how the process of opening up allowed Darlene to move from perfectionism and hypervigilance to forgiveness, healing, and connection.About Darlene Lekowski:Darlene Lekowski is a speaker, author, and advocate who writes and speaks about what happens when high-functioning adults realize that control and perfection aren’t peace—they’re survival strategies. After decades of striving to “hold it all together,” Darlene was forced to confront the emotional cost of living this way and learn, imperfectly, how to let go.Her debut memoir, Shattering Silence: A Story of Survival, Justice & the Power of Telling the Truth (April 2026), chronicles her journey of reclaiming her voice, redefining success, and choosing freedom over fear.Main Topics Covered:The effects of sibling sexual abuse and trauma on childhood and adult relationshipsUnderstanding and coping with PTSD masked by perfectionism, control, and successThe power dynamics and family pressure that keep childhood trauma secret for decadesHow releasing control and secrets changed Darlene’s relationships with her children and spouseNavigating hypervigilance, competitiveness, and the illusion of “good adulting” as survival strategiesThe role of therapy, supportive friendships, and alternative healing methods like EFT tapping in trauma recoveryThe courage to confront abusers, share your story publicly, and reclaim agency—even through the stress and grief of litigationDarlene’s mission to help others break the silence around sibling sexual abuse and start honest conversations with their own childrenQuote from the Episode:"The problem, when you've got a giant secret, the box leaks... I had PTSD all my life, but I actually wasn't diagnosed with it until I was 58 years old. I thought my behaviors were normal." — Darlene LekowskiTimestamps:00:05 Opening & intros; Darlene’s Charlotte, NC home and warmup questions00:34 Proximity to mountains and ocean; Charlotte lifestyle and history fleeing snowy states01:24 Amy’s perspective from the tropics; setting the scene for a conversation on control and secrets02:10 Darlene’s midlife confrontation with trauma; timeline and context of her secret02:47 How her mother’s death and family dynamics led to her secret surfacing03:35 Civil trial details; trauma in court, family structure, and relationships04:08 Childhood abuse between siblings, control issues, and survival mechanisms07:11 Perfectionism, hypervigilance, and adult life before telling the secret09:02 Sports, popularity, and strategies to avoid being alone at home10:19 Parenting as an overprotective mom; shifting relationships after the truth was revealed12:10 Direct fears, coping, and the psychological weight of secrets14:34 How shame and trauma “leak” into all relationships—friends, colleagues, and self-image17:23 Examples of outsize reactions; healing journey and day-to-day changes after releasing the secret19:13 Close friendships, difficulty forming intimacy, and pivotal moments in recovery20:19 Confrontation, PTSD episode with her daughter, and major turning point22:03 Suppressing vs. confronting trauma after her mother’s death; blowup with sibling and lawsuit24:33 Long-term therapy, diagnosis of PTSD, and alternative healing (EFT tapping)27:59 Losing relationships with abusive siblings, family impact, and trial testimony30:29 Thoughts on secrets and privacy; why families keep trauma hidden33:39 The importance of open conversations with children and the prevalence of sibling sexual trauma35:11 Making the trauma public; support from children and transforming fear into connection36:40 Emotional healing after the trial; shedding anger and shame38:29 The ongoing journey of healing and finding purpose in helping others40:41 Publishing her book, Shattering: A Story of Survival, Justice and the Power of Telling the Truth41:24 Darlene’s hope for the book and her outreach mission42:23 Rapid-fire closing questions: morning routine, favorite book (The Women), travel habits44:22 Episode wrap-up and thanksABOUT THE SHOW: The Art of Imperfect Adulting elevates the voices of experience by sharing real stories from real people figuring out adult life. Every episode features honest conversations about life's choices, changes, and challenges—interviews with individuals (not celebrities) who share their personal experiences and insights. Through these authentic stories, listeners find validation, motivation, and inspiration for navigating their own path through modern life. Because there's a big difference between expert advice and shared experience, and hearing another person's lived experience helps us feel less alone in our own situations.CONNECT WITH THE GUEST: darlene-lekowski.com Instagram: @darlenelekowskiGET DARLENE'S SPECIAL OFFER: Darlene’s first book will be available in April 2026.Note from the show: Guest offers are almost always limited-time and limited quantity. If you have any trouble redeeming the offer please reach out directly to the guest for support.Join the conversation on social. Find the Art of Imperfect Adulting on Instagram @theartof_imperfect_adulting YouTube @imperfectadulting and TikTok @imperfectadultingIf you have a story to share and you'd like to be a guest on The Art of Imperfect Adulting, here are the steps for how you can make that happen. Pitch yourself at https://www.imperfectadulting.com/be-a-guestIf you love the show and you'd like to support it directly you can tip the host here https://imperfect-adulting.captivate.fm/supportNever Miss a Moment of Imperfect AdultingWe invite you to join our email community and let us bring the podcast directly to you! As a subscriber, you'll receive notifications about new episodes, exclusive offers from our amazing guests, and easier access to any of the important links mentioned on the show—no more scrambling to write down websites or remember special codes.Why subscribe?Stay up-to-date without checking your podcast appGet guest offers delivered straight to your inboxAccess all important links in one convenient placeCatch the highlights even when you don't have time to listenAre you ready? Join us at https://www.imperfectadulting.comHere are a few resources that Amy uses to make all this great content. These are affiliate links :-)For livestreaming and recording ECamm https://www.ecamm.com/mac/ecammlive/?fp_ref=amy69Podcast hosting and distribution: Captivate FM https://www.captivate.fm/signup?ref=ntczmwi Website hosting with Siteground https://www.siteground.com/?referrer_id=9115590Ai Transcription Tool: Castmagic https://get.castmagic.io/ugrmjjrt8ofjFor Email I recently switched to Beehiiv https://www.beehiiv.com?via=Amy-Stonebefore that I used Kit. Books I like and books written by show guests on Bookshop.org https://bookshop.org/lists/podcast-guest-authors

In this episode of The Art of Imperfect Adulting, Amy Stone speaks with Toni Will, a lifelong resident of Kalamazoo, Michigan about breaking free from alcohol as a coping tool and redefining what sober success looks like.About Toni Will:Toni Will is a leadership coach, speaker, and the General Manager of the Kalamazoo Wings, making her one of the few women leading in men’s professional hockey. She is the host of the Women In… podcast, a TEDx speaker, and the creator of the empowHER conference, dedicated to uplifting women and redefining success in male-dominated spaces. Toni is known for her unapologetic authenticity and her advocacy for alcohol-free living, blending high-performance leadership with personal clarity and conscious living. Her first book will be published in August 2026, further amplifying her mission to help others own their story, challenge the norm, and lead with intention.Main Topics Covered:Choosing sobriety during high-stress times: How COVID-19 lockdowns became an unexpected opportunity for self-work and lasting change.Professional sports & alcohol: Navigating stereotypes, “belly up with the boys” culture, and breaking barriers as the first female GM for the Kalamazoo Wings.The shortcomings of traditional recovery models: Why AA didn’t fit, and how modern, female-inclusive approaches (like This Naked Mind and Sober Sis) empowered Toni’s success.Sober curiosity versus “rock bottom”: Challenging black-and-white thinking and embracing a more inclusive, less stigmatizing language around substance use.Reclaiming time and energy: The practical and emotional benefits of giving up alcohol, from launching new businesses to deeper self-awareness and integrity.Community, belonging, and coping: Rethinking social drinking, friendship, and the unique challenges of rebuilding connections in recovery, as a female leader.Using transformation to help others: How Toni’s coaching, podcast, and upcoming book extend her story to support those reevaluating their relationship with substance.Representation matters: The power of seeing women openly lead in both sports and sobriety spaces.Quote from the Episode: “Whoever said that you had to drink to be a great leader? ...It’s just all these beliefs that are programmed into us and not in a culty way, but just culturally.” — Toni WillTimestamps:00:01 Introduction to Toni Will and the topic of choosing new coping skills02:07 Toni shares where she calls home and her approach to incorporating beauty into daily life04:02 The timeline of Toni’s sobriety journey and previous attempts to quit drinking05:51 Life before sobriety: career stress, family dynamics, and making the decision during COVID lockdowns08:56 Alcohol as a coping tool, early experiences with drinking, and societal influences12:53 Going public with her decision to quit drinking and gaining support from her husband and community13:38 The realities of leading a men’s professional hockey team as a woman, and the cultural context of sports and drinking15:38 Physical and emotional consequences of drinking, and challenging the concept of “rock bottom”18:23 Support systems, stigma, and balancing leadership with living alcohol-free20:33 The process of finding alternative recovery resources like "This Naked Mind" and Sober Sis24:00 Representation, leadership models, and the value of learning from empowering women28:21 The role of core values in lasting change and the influence on personal and professional life31:10 Coping skills, processing grief, and the complexity of friendship and belonging after transformation33:13 Toni’s entrepreneurial journey: launching a coaching business, podcast, conference, and writing a book35:21 Fun wrap-up: sober drink choices, mentors, and in-flight entertainment preferences38:45 Final thoughts, ways to connect, and community resources for listenersABOUT THE SHOW: The Art of Imperfect Adulting elevates the voices of experience by sharing real stories from real people figuring out adult life. Every episode features honest conversations about life's choices, changes, and challenges—interviews with individuals (not celebrities) who share their personal experiences and insights. Through these authentic stories, listeners find validation, motivation, and inspiration for navigating their own path through modern life. Because there's a big difference between expert advice and shared experience, and hearing another person's lived experience helps us feel less alone in our own situations.CONNECT WITH THE GUEST: https://www.toniwill.com/ You can find her podcast Women In … https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/women-in/id1745524618Note from the show: Guest offers are almost always limited-time and limited quantity. If you have any trouble redeeming the offer please reach out directly to the guest for support.If you love the show and you'd like to support it directly you can tip the host here https://imperfect-adulting.captivate.fm/supportNever Miss a Moment of Imperfect AdultingWe invite you to join our email community and let us bring the podcast directly to you! As a subscriber, you'll receive notifications about new episodes, exclusive offers from our amazing guests, and easier access to any of the important links mentioned on the show—no more scrambling to write down websites or remember special codes.Why subscribe?Stay up-to-date without checking your podcast appGet guest offers delivered straight to your inboxAccess all important links in one convenient placeCatch the highlights even when you don't have time to listenAre you ready? Join us at https://www.imperfectadulting.comIf you have a story to share and you'd like to be a guest on The Art of Imperfect Adulting, here are the steps for how you can make that happen. Pitch yourself at https://www.imperfectadulting.com/be-a-guestHere are a few resources that Amy uses to make all this great content. These are affiliate links :-)For livestreaming and recording ECamm https://www.ecamm.com/mac/ecammlive/?fp_ref=amy69Podcast hosting and distribution: Captivate FM https://www.captivate.fm/signup?ref=ntczmwi Website hosting with Siteground https://www.siteground.com/?referrer_id=9115590Ai Transcription Tool: Castmagic https://get.castmagic.io/ugrmjjrt8ofjFor Email I recently switched to Beehiiv https://www.beehiiv.com?via=Amy-Stonebefore that I used Kit. Books I like and books written by show guests on Bookshop.org https://bookshop.org/lists/podcast-guest-authors

Amy Stone, host of The Art of Imperfect Adulting, marks a huge milestone—200 episodes—by reflecting on the choices, pivots, and lessons learned behind the scenes of the show. In this episode, Amy gets real about navigating life transitions, staying true to her values, and building a more inclusive space for women and creators.About Amy Stone: Amy Stone is a media entrepreneur, storyteller, and founder of The Art of Imperfect Adulting - a growing media platform featuring long-form interviews that explore the messy, non-linear reality of building a life.Topics covered:• Celebrating 200 episodes and Amy’s personal growth journey as a creator• Transparency around what works—and what doesn’t• Behind the scenes: experimenting with tech upgrades, building a creative team, and her ongoing search for a creator-first community• Special shout-out to listeners who’ve been part of the journey since the startABOUT THE SHOW: The Art of Imperfect Adulting elevates the voices of experience by sharing real stories from real people figuring out adult life. Every episode features honest conversations about life's choices, changes, and challenges—interviews with individuals (not celebrities) who share their personal experiences and insights. Through these authentic stories, listeners find validation, motivation, and inspiration for navigating their own path through modern life. Because there's a big difference between expert advice and shared experience, and hearing another person's lived experience helps us feel less alone in our own situations.If you love the show and you'd like to support it directly you can tip the host here https://imperfect-adulting.captivate.fm/supportIf you have a story to share and you'd like to be a guest on The Art of Imperfect Adulting, here are the steps for how you can make that happen. Pitch yourself at https://www.imperfectadulting.com/be-a-guestNever Miss a Moment of Imperfect AdultingWe invite you to join our email community and let us bring the podcast directly to you! As a subscriber, you'll receive notifications about new episodes, exclusive offers from our amazing guests, and easier access to any of the important links mentioned on the show—no more scrambling to write down websites or remember special codes.Why subscribe?Stay up-to-date without checking your podcast appGet guest offers delivered straight to your inboxAccess all important links in one convenient placeCatch the highlights even when you don't have time to listenAre you ready? Join us at https://www.imperfectadulting.comHere are a few resources that Amy uses to make all this great content. These are affiliate links :-)For livestreaming and recording ECamm https://www.ecamm.com/mac/ecammlive/?fp_ref=amy69Podcast hosting and distribution: Captivate FM https://www.captivate.fm/signup?ref=ntczmwi Website hosting with Siteground https://www.siteground.com/?referrer_id=9115590Ai Transcription Tool: Castmagic https://get.castmagic.io/ugrmjjrt8ofjFor Email I recently switched to Beehiiv https://www.beehiiv.com?via=Amy-Stonebefore that I used Kit. Books I like and books written by show guests on Bookshop.org https://bookshop.org/lists/podcast-guest-authors

In this episode of The Art of Imperfect Adulting, Amy Stone speaks with Belinda Coker about reinventing life through adventure and self-discovery, focusing on solo multi-day hiking as a transformative tool. Belinda splits her time between Australia, New Zealand, and Scotland. In this conversation she shares a change she made starting in her mid-50s that resulted in challenges, unexpected joys, and a profound sense of self-worth. About Belinda Coker:Belinda Coker is an Australian hiker and educator who shows women how practical adventure can restore confidence and clarity in midlife. After years of building businesses and raising three children on her own, she began hiking to find space and perspective, a journey that took her from the deserts of Australia to a solo crossing of Greenland inside the Arctic Circle. Belinda is also the founder of Soul Treader and The House Sitting Collective, where she teaches a structured, professional approach to trusted, responsible travel.Main Topics Covered:How to return to adventurous pursuits during midlife, even after decades away from the trail.Practical steps for women to build confidence, safety, and skills for solo travel and multi-day hiking.The emotional and physical transformation that comes from embracing new challenges after 50.Why Belinda swapped business travel for wilderness hikes—and how she found healing in nature.Navigating setbacks, unpredictable weather, and safety emergencies on remote trails.The role of community and how to surround yourself with the right support when starting something new.Early retirement and minimalist travel: making adventure possible on a budget through house sitting and frugal living.The mindset shift from “just a housewife” to self-affirmed adventurer and educator.Quote from the Episode:“I just felt that I really was someone to myself...I just really felt like I’d done something for myself, and that really was just so, so important. I can’t stress how good that made me feel.”—Belinda CokerTimestamps: [00:00:06] Amy welcomes Belinda and discusses where she calls home and her ties to New Zealand, Australia, and Scotland[00:01:42] Initial impressions of Scotland and the allure of wilderness versus developed environments[00:03:05] Belinda’s three stages of solo travel: from youthful adventures to international business trips and a post-pandemic return to hiking[00:06:05] The moment of self-realization at 55 and how the pandemic fueled her return to the outdoors[00:09:05] Starting over with day hikes, joining a local meetup group, and rediscovering health and confidence[00:12:27] First foray into overnight hiking, overcoming obstacles, and the liberating experience of her seven-day solo hike[00:17:00] How friends and family reacted to her decision and the importance of choosing supportive confidants[00:20:03] Lessons learned on the first multi-day hike: food, safety, preparation, and the realities of trail life[00:28:25] Pursuing skills to level up: Wilderness first aid, writing educational resources, and the dangers of unprepared hiking[00:29:43] Most recent hiking setback in the Canary Islands: managing gear failure, dangerous weather, and emergency decision-making[00:39:20] Upcoming hiking projects, the practicality of early retirement, and the value of simple/frugal living[00:42:49] Life as a full-time traveler, house sitter, and educator—plus a special offer for the podcast audience[00:45:29] Belinda’s quick takes on weather, travel routines, and what animals she really fears in Australia[00:48:09] Final thanks and closing remarks from AmyABOUT THE SHOW: The Art of Imperfect Adulting elevates the voices of experience by sharing real stories from real people figuring out adult life. Every episode features honest conversations about life's choices, changes, and challenges—interviews with individuals (not celebrities) who share their personal experiences and insights. Through these authentic stories, listeners find validation, motivation, and inspiration for navigating their own path through modern life. Because there's a big difference between expert advice and shared experience, and hearing another person's lived experience helps us feel less alone in our own situations.CONNECT WITH THE GUEST: https://soultreader.com/GET BELINDA’'S SPECIAL OFFER:The House Sitting Collective, - House Sitting Courses20% off all courses (Retail Value $79 & $197)https://housesittingcollective.com/ CODE: ADULTINGNote from the show: Guest offers are almost always limited-time and limited quantity. If you have any trouble redeeming the offer please reach out directly to the guest for support.If you love the show and you'd like to support it directly you can tip the host here https://imperfect-adulting.captivate.fm/supportIf you have a story to share and you'd like to be a guest on The Art of Imperfect Adulting, here are the steps for how you can make that happen. Pitch yourself at https://www.imperfectadulting.com/be-a-guestNever Miss a Moment of Imperfect AdultingWe invite you to join our email community and let us bring the podcast directly to you! As a subscriber, you'll receive notifications about new episodes, exclusive offers from our amazing guests, and easier access to any of the important links mentioned on the show—no more scrambling to write down websites or remember special codes.Why subscribe?Stay up-to-date without checking your podcast appGet guest offers delivered straight to your inboxAccess all important links in one convenient placeCatch the highlights even when you don't have time to listenAre you ready? Join us at https://www.imperfectadulting.comHere are a few resources that Amy uses to make all this great content. These are affiliate links :-)For livestreaming and recording ECamm https://www.ecamm.com/mac/ecammlive/?fp_ref=amy69Podcast hosting and distribution: Captivate FM https://www.captivate.fm/signup?ref=ntczmwi Website hosting with Siteground https://www.siteground.com/?referrer_id=9115590Ai Transcription Tool: Castmagic https://get.castmagic.io/ugrmjjrt8ofjFor Email I recently switched to Beehiiv https://www.beehiiv.com?via=Amy-Stonebefore that I used Kit. Books I like and books written by show guests on Bookshop.org https://bookshop.org/lists/podcast-guest-authors

In this episode of The Art of Imperfect Adulting, Amy Stone speaks with Terri Pease about the emotional realities, challenges, and unexpected joys of loving someone with Parkinson’s disease. Joining the conversation from Yarmouth, Maine, Terri opens up about her late-in-life marriage, building a life with her husband while navigating the relentless progression of Parkinson’s, and how caregiving transformed her understanding of love, loss, and support. Listeners will hear how Terri found unexpected strength, candid reflections on relationships changed by illness, and practical wisdom on sustaining dignity.Terri Pease PhD worked in academics, social services and health care all her professional life. When Terri married her husband who had Parkinson's Disease, she brought her wealth of knowledge and experience to bear on caring for him. That professional experience has informed her approach to caregiving, and to encouraging Parkinson's caregivers to make the idea of self-care real, practical and possible. As the author of Love, Dignity, and Parkinson’s: from Care Partner to Caregiver she has become the online voice for the more than 60,000 new Parkinson’s spousal caregivers who each year start on this long and challenging path.Main Topics Covered:Understanding the unpredictable journey of Parkinson’s disease and its impact on both the diagnosed and loved ones.Navigating the isolation and emotional overwhelm often experienced by Parkinson’s caregivers, especially partners and spouses.The importance of community, connection, and finding “enough similarity” in shared experiences, even amidst unique circumstances.Maintaining dignity for both the person with Parkinson’s and the caregiver—and why this is central to long-term caregiving relationships.The complex emotions of loss, frustration, and grief as a partner’s capabilities and personality change over time.Coping with changes in intimacy, partnership, and reciprocal support within a marriage affected by neurodegenerative illness.Why communities and support systems often fall short—and creative ways caregivers can find connection and help.Lessons learned on acceptance, letting go, and being present through the end of life.Quote from the Episode: “When I was able to say to myself, he has nothing for you, that meant I could stop looking for him to be the husband that I had married…and when that happened, I was able to think differently about what is happening here. What are we here?” — Terri PeaseTimestamps: [00:00:07] Welcome & intros; Terri’s home in Yarmouth, Maine; opera as shared art and connection[00:01:27] Introducing the day’s topic: Loving someone with Parkinson’s disease[00:02:48] Terri shares how she met her husband and the early awareness of his Parkinson’s diagnosis[00:03:24] What Terri knew (and didn’t know) about Parkinson’s at the start[00:04:11] Explaining Parkinson’s disease for those unfamiliar—its unpredictable, individualized course[00:05:20] How Parkinson’s impacts emotions, personality, and behavior, not just mobility[00:06:18] The gap between common perceptions and caregivers’ lived experiences[00:08:02] The role of loneliness and why peer caregiver support is so powerful[00:10:29] Comparing caregiving to early parenthood—the similarities and crucial differences[00:11:53] Examining societal expectations, visibility, and (lack of) communal support for adult caregiving[00:13:24] Cultural contrasts: communal care in other countries vs. isolation in US aging[00:15:11] Dreams of retirement, sailing, and how Parkinson’s stole shared plans[00:18:08] Scaffolding, adapting activities, and supporting dignity as abilities decline[00:19:54] The subtle onset of symptoms and the slow, unpredictable losses[00:22:00] What surprised Terri most—changes in judgment, writing, and emotional availability[00:24:00] Navigating deeply personal topics (e.g., incontinence, loss of privacy) and sustaining dignity[00:26:12] The emotional toll—grappling with loneliness, resentment, and the transformation of partnership[00:30:16] Lack of support from community, religious groups, and adjusting expectations for help[00:35:20] Nine years together: the timeline of joy and progressive challenges[00:36:15] Finding slivers of joy, humor, and connection, even late in illness[00:38:30] Advice for others: preparing for death, honest conversations, and staying present[00:40:27] A powerful moment of acceptance and comfort at the end of life[00:41:48] Terri’s work today: writing, her book (“Love, Dignity, and Parkinson’s”), and helping other caregivers[00:43:53] Where to find Terri, offer for listeners, and final lighthearted questions about life and joyABOUT THE SHOW: The Art of Imperfect Adulting elevates the voices of experience by sharing real stories from real people figuring out adult life. Every episode features honest conversations about life's choices, changes, and challenges—interviews with individuals (not celebrities) who share their personal experiences and insights. Through these authentic stories, listeners find validation, motivation, and inspiration for navigating their own path through modern life. Because there's a big difference between expert advice and shared experience, and hearing another person's lived experience helps us feel less alone in our own situations.CONNECT WITH THE GUEST: https://terripease.comGET TERRI PEASE'S SPECIAL OFFER: Love, Dignity and Parkinson's: from Care Partner to Caregiver available here: https://bookshop.org/a/87491/9798986700106If you love the show and you'd like to support it directly you can tip the host here https://imperfect-adulting.captivate.fm/supportIf you have a story to share and you'd like to be a guest on The Art of Imperfect Adulting, here are the steps for how you can make that happen. Pitch yourself at https://www.imperfectadulting.com/be-a-guestNever Miss a Moment of Imperfect AdultingWe invite you to join our email community and let us bring the podcast directly to you! As a subscriber, you'll receive notifications about new episodes, exclusive offers from our amazing guests, and easier access to any of the important links mentioned on the show—no more scrambling to write down websites or remember special codes.Why subscribe?Stay up-to-date without checking your podcast appGet guest offers delivered straight to your inboxAccess all important links in one convenient placeCatch the highlights even when you don't have time to listenAre you ready? Join us at https://www.imperfectadulting.comHere are a few resources that Amy uses to make all this great content. These are affiliate links :-)For livestreaming and recording ECamm https://www.ecamm.com/mac/ecammlive/?fp_ref=amy69Podcast hosting and distribution: Captivate FM https://www.captivate.fm/signup?ref=ntczmwi Website hosting with Siteground https://www.siteground.com/?referrer_id=9115590Ai Transcription Tool: Castmagic https://get.castmagic.io/ugrmjjrt8ofjFor Email I recently switched to Beehiiv https://www.beehiiv.com?via=Amy-Stonebefore that I used Kit. Books I like and books written by show guests on Bookshop.org https://bookshop.org/lists/podcast-guest-authors

In this episode of The Art of Imperfect Adulting, Amy Stone speaks with Pallavi Pande about building a supportive community as a South Asian immigrant mom and entrepreneur in Portland, Oregon. The discussion shines a light on the realities of starting over in a new place, the importance of vulnerability, and how taking the first small step toward connection can lead to lasting impact.Pallavi Pande is a BIPOC mompreneur and the founder of DTOCS, a brand offering classy, compostable single-use tableware for events. Through her firm, DTOCS Consulting, she helps other brands grow on Amazon. She also leads a 2,000+ member South Asian moms group in Oregon. A Tory Burch Foundation Fellow and an honoree on Inc.’s list of fastest-growing companies, Pallavi serves on the board of Naturally Seattle. When she’s not building businesses or mentoring founders, you’ll likely find her dancing Zumba or sipping wine—always championing People, Planet, and Parties.Main Topics Covered:Overcoming the isolation of relocating and reinventing yourself in a new city as an immigrant.Postpartum depression and the power of vulnerability in reaching out for help.Building community for South Asian women through "Portland Brown Mommies" to address culture-specific needs.The evolution of an online community into deep, multigenerational in-person friendships and support.Using feedback and responsiveness to keep community events relevant, safe, and engaging.Transitioning from social connection to business mentorship: supporting South Asian women entrepreneurs.Mindset, habit change, and resilience in overcoming rejection—personally and professionally.How community supported Pallavi’s entrepreneurial journey with DTOCS compostable tableware.Quote from the Episode:"So I went with the vision I had, which was, there's nobody for me. How can I change that narrative? How can I be there for somebody else who's like me, who's trying to move, who has million of questions..." — Pallavi PandeTimestamps: [00:00:06] Welcome & quick intros; Pallavi shares her Portland home [00:00:38] Navigating life in rainy Portland and fitting in daily movement [00:01:18] Pallavi’s three focuses: moving, overcoming rejection, building community [00:01:43] Pallavi’s migration: marrying young, moving from India to Ohio, then Oregon [00:04:12] Facing postpartum depression, loneliness, and the search for cultural connection [00:05:08] The spark of finding community online and creating “Portland Brown Mommies” [00:07:27] Diversity and inclusivity experiences in Oregon [00:08:05] Loneliness, pandemic impact, and the choice to take action [00:10:02] Mechanics of building an online-to-offline local mom community [00:12:13] Event planning by consensus and member feedback [00:13:43] Advice for those feeling lonely: why Pallavi didn’t just “join a club” [00:16:10] Taking the first baby step: how the group started with a single Facebook post [00:18:48] Tying community-building to entrepreneurship and DTOCS [00:21:03] From social group to business mentor network for South Asian women [00:24:34] Rejection, resilience, and pivoting toward progress [00:28:36] Pallavi’s passion for LinkedIn and how to connect with her/DTOCS [00:30:50] Rapid fire: morning routines, family priorities, and world travel tips [00:36:45] Closing and gratitude for Pallavi’s insightsABOUT THE SHOW: The Art of Imperfect Adulting elevates the voices of experience by sharing real stories from real people figuring out adult life. Every episode features honest conversations about life's choices, changes, and challenges—interviews with individuals (not celebrities) who share their personal experiences and insights. Through these authentic stories, listeners find validation, motivation, and inspiration for navigating their own path through modern life. Because there's a big difference between expert advice and shared experience, and hearing another person's lived experience helps us feel less alone in our own situations.CONNECT WITH THE GUEST: www.dtocs.comGET PALLAVI PANDE’S SPECIAL OFFER: Use coupon code DTOCS10 at checkout on our website - https://www.dtocs.com, for 10% off and free shippingNote from the show: Guest offers are almost always limited-time and limited quantity. If you have any trouble redeeming the offer please reach out directly to the guest for support.Join the conversation on social. Find the Art of Imperfect Adulting on Instagram @theartof_imperfect_adulting YouTube @imperfectadulting and TikTok @imperfectadultingIf you love the show and you'd like to support it directly you can tip the host here https://imperfect-adulting.captivate.fm/supportIf you have a story to share and you'd like to be a guest on The Art of Imperfect Adulting, here are the steps for how you can make that happen. Pitch yourself at https://www.imperfectadulting.com/be-a-guestNever Miss a Moment of Imperfect AdultingWe invite you to join our email community and let us bring the podcast directly to you! As a subscriber, you'll receive notifications about new episodes, exclusive offers from our amazing guests, and easier access to any of the important links mentioned on the show—no more scrambling to write down websites or remember special codes.Why subscribe?Stay up-to-date without checking your podcast appGet guest offers delivered straight to your inboxAccess all important links in one convenient placeCatch the highlights even when you don't have time to listenAre you ready? Join us at https://www.imperfectadulting.comHere are a few resources that Amy uses to make all this great content. These are affiliate links :-)For livestreaming and recording ECamm https://www.ecamm.com/mac/ecammlive/?fp_ref=amy69Podcast hosting and distribution: Captivate FM https://www.captivate.fm/signup?ref=ntczmwi Website hosting with Siteground https://www.siteground.com/?referrer_id=9115590Ai Transcription Tool: Castmagic https://get.castmagic.io/ugrmjjrt8ofjFor Email I recently switched to Beehiiv https://www.beehiiv.com?via=Amy-Stonebefore that I used Kit. Books I like and books written by show guests on Bookshop.org https://bookshop.org/lists/podcast-guest-authors

In this episode of The Art of Imperfect Adulting, Amy Stone speaks with Kim Nicol about the power and impact of asking for what you want. Specifically Kim share the story of how at age 24 she requested a 10-week unpaid sabbatical from her first salaried job. Kim is based in San Francisco. Listeners will gain insights into career pivots, self-advocacy at work, and the transformational value of travel and saying “yes” to yourself.Kim Nicol is an Executive Mindfulness Coach for leaders in diverse industries. She talks about the human side of leadership on The New Manager Podcast, and teaches Communication Strategies on Maven.Main Topics Covered:Self-advocacy in early career: Why and how Kim asked for an extended unpaid sabbatical in her early 20s.Overcoming fear in the workplace: Navigating the nerves and uncertainty that come with requesting big things from your employer.The role of supportive work cultures—Kim’s experience in a small, tight-knit company with no formal HR.Transformative power of travel: How living and learning in France expanded Kim’s worldview and triggered new personal growth.The difference between sabbaticals, leaves of absence, and corporate culture in the U.S.Lessons for managers: How leaders can approach unusual employee requests and foster growth.Applying boldness forward: How early self-advocacy continues to impact Kim’s professional and coaching life, and how she encourages others to ask for what they need.French culture, lifelong learning, and the “through line” of storytelling in Kim’s career.Quote from the Episode: “You can ask for things, it’s okay. They might even say yes. Be willing to be Pleasantly surprised at what someone might say yes to.” — Kim NicolTimestamps: [00:00:05] Intro & where Kim calls home—San Francisco and Santa Cruz roots[00:01:15] Childhood activities: tennis, college rowing, and the introversion of team sports[00:02:08] Kim’s first post-college job and studying marketing[00:03:12] Why marketing: the allure of storytelling and business[00:06:13] The big ask: requesting a 10-week sabbatical as a 24-year-old[00:07:16] Response & process: boss’s reaction, team structure, and no HR involvement[00:10:13] What inspired the idea of a sabbatical, French art, travel dreaming[00:11:14] No precedents: Kim's research, self-direction, and planning the trip[00:12:49] The ask unfolds: process details and how Kim presented solutions[00:15:28] Coworkers’ reactions: surprise, envy, and supporting young ambition[00:16:28] Returning to work: changed perspective and inevitable next steps[00:18:05] Manager’s perspective: Kim reflects on handling requests as a leader[00:19:59] Corporate vs. personal sabbaticals; evolving U.S. work culture[00:21:10] Long-term takeaways: power in asking and why it matters in professional development[00:23:44] The impact of cultural immersion and expanded worldview[00:25:40] Previous travel experiences and what inspired Kim’s French adventure[00:27:44] Closing, Kim’s current podcast, self-advocacy worksheet, and rapid-fire fun questions (“no eggplant!”)ABOUT THE SHOW: The Art of Imperfect Adulting elevates the voices of experience by sharing real stories from real people figuring out adult life. Every episode features honest conversations about life's choices, changes, and challenges—interviews with individuals (not celebrities) who share their personal experiences and insights. Through these authentic stories, listeners find validation, motivation, and inspiration for navigating their own path through modern life. Because there's a big difference between expert advice and shared experience, and hearing another person's lived experience helps us feel less alone in our own situations.CONNECT WITH THE GUEST: https://kimnicol.com/ or listen to her podcast, New Manager Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-new-manager-podcast/id1482942451If you love the show and you'd like to support it directly you can tip the host here https://imperfect-adulting.captivate.fm/supportIf you have a story to share and you'd like to be a guest on The Art of Imperfect Adulting, here are the steps for how you can make that happen. Pitch yourself at https://www.imperfectadulting.com/be-a-guestNever Miss a Moment of Imperfect AdultingWe invite you to join our email community and let us bring the podcast directly to you! As a subscriber, you'll receive notifications about new episodes, exclusive offers from our amazing guests, and easier access to any of the important links mentioned on the show—no more scrambling to write down websites or remember special codes.Why subscribe?Stay up-to-date without checking your podcast appGet guest offers delivered straight to your inboxAccess all important links in one convenient placeCatch the highlights even when you don't have time to listenAre you ready? Join us at https://www.imperfectadulting.comHere are a few resources that Amy uses to make all this great content. 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In this episode of The Art of Imperfect Adulting, Amy Stone speaks with Lisi Lopez about taking the leap from a decade-long career in industrial engineering to embracing her true passion for writing. In this episode both the host and guest are in Miami but we still recorded it remotely. Listeners will be inspired by Lisi’s candid reflections on practical career choices, honoring family support, and nurturing passions alongside parenthood.Lisi Lopez is an engineer-turned-writer and a second-generation immigrant, born to a Cuban mother and a Puerto Rican father. In 2017, Lisi and her husband welcomed their middle son, who has Down Syndrome. Channeling her passion for writing, she began publishing advocacy articles to help create a world where her son's extra chromosome is celebrated rather than seen as a disability. Through that journey, she rediscovered her love for storytelling and hasn't looked back since.Main Topics Covered:Making a major career shift from engineering to creative writing, and what prompted Lisi to make that leap.How family support, practical decision-making, and cultural expectations influenced her educational and professional choices.The impact of parenting, particularly raising a child with Down syndrome, on Lisi’s priorities, creativity, and eventual career transformation.A behind-the-scenes look at balancing a demanding household, marriage to a physician, and personal ambition.The challenges and realities of leaving a stable, technical career for an uncertain but fulfilling creative pursuit.How Lisi blends advocacy for special needs and her Cuban heritage into her writing projects.The importance of rediscovering and honoring creative passions at any stage in adulthood.The power of community, flexibility, and resilience—especially for women navigating work, family, and self-discovery.Quote from the Episode: "But that doesn’t mean you have to put your passions on a shelf. Right. It’s not a give or take. It’s not a black or white thing here." — Lisi LopezTimestamps: [00:00:05] Amy welcomes Lisi and kicks off with childhood storytelling favorites[00:00:51] [Lisi Lopez] shares Harry Potter as the book that sparked her imagination[00:01:44] Discussing the cultural phenomenon of Harry Potter for both kids and adults[00:04:04] How long Lisi worked as an industrial engineer and what the role entailed[00:05:58] Lisi on the creativity and challenges of being an engineer—especially as a parent[00:07:18] The “practical” choice to pursue engineering and balancing family expectations[00:08:09] Rediscovering writing through electives and family advocacy after her son’s birth[00:13:31] How parenting (and her husband’s medical career) influenced her shift away from engineering[00:16:13] Lisi’s "aha moment" after back surgery—publishing the manuscripts she’d hidden away[00:17:59] Navigating marriage, medical school, and raising three children with family support[00:25:10] Lisi outlines her published and upcoming historical fiction novels, including stories tied to her Cuban American heritage[00:28:32] Delving into Cuban immigration waves and their impact on storytelling[00:31:08] Where listeners can find Lisi online, and how she connects with readers[00:32:10] Fun closing questions—adult responsibilities, movies, gifting, and moreABOUT THE SHOW: The Art of Imperfect Adulting elevates the voices of experience by sharing real stories from real people figuring out adult life. Every episode features honest conversations about life's choices, changes, and challenges. You can expect interviews with individuals (not celebrities) who share their personal experiences and insights. Through these authentic stories, listeners find validation, motivation, and inspiration for navigating their own path through modern life. Because there's a big difference between expert advice and shared experience, and hearing another person's lived experience helps us feel less alone in our own situations.CONNECT WITH THE GUEST: https://www.lisilopezauthor.comFind Lisi’s most recent book on Bookshop.org https://bookshop.org/a/87491/9798992480009If you have a story to share and you'd like to be a guest on The Art of Imperfect Adulting, here are the steps for how you can make that happen. Pitch yourself at https://www.imperfectadulting.com/be-a-guestIf you love the show and you'd like to support it directly you can tip the host here https://imperfect-adulting.captivate.fm/supportNever Miss a Moment of Imperfect AdultingWe invite you to join our email community and let us bring the podcast directly to you! As a subscriber, you'll receive notifications about new episodes, exclusive offers from our amazing guests, and easier access to any of the important links mentioned on the show—no more scrambling to write down websites or remember special codes.Why subscribe?Stay up-to-date without checking your podcast appGet guest offers delivered straight to your inboxAccess all important links in one convenient placeCatch the highlights even when you don't have time to listenAre you ready? Join us at https://www.imperfectadulting.comHere are a few resources that Amy uses to make all this great content. 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In this episode of The Art of Imperfect Adulting, Amy Stone speaks with Cristina Ramirez about personal and professional pivots, the power of discomfort, and redefining resilience in the face of grief and change. Cristina, currently living in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania (by way of Miami and New Mexico), shares how her life experiences—including global moves, founding a kids’ run club, and facing profound loss—have shaped her philosophy on growth, mindset, and helping children (and adults) build grit. Listeners will hear firsthand how Cristina transformed adversity into action, scaled her business, and found meaning and connection through both her personal journey and her work with DashStrom.About Cristina M. Ramirez:Cristina M. Ramirez is Co Founder of DashStrom, a youth empowerment start-up based in Pittsburgh, PA. Her programs have impacted over 12,000 children across 41 states. A veteran of Wall Street and Silicon Valley, Cristina is an award winning coach, best selling author, Ironman triathlete and a USASA Snowboard National Silver Medalist.Main Topics Covered:Reinventing yourself: How Cristina pivoted from educator and triathlete to entrepreneur, author, and grief survivorStarting and scaling DashStrom: Building a children's run club into an impactful, scalable program focused on empowering kids across the U.S.Navigating grief and life transitions: The reality of losing parents and a spouse while parenting and running a businessThe role of discomfort in personal growth: Applying the “20% power principle” and why leaning into uncomfortable situations is key for resilienceAuthenticity over appearance: Facing the fear of “course correcting” in life or business and letting go of external expectationsUsing social media for support: The surprising comfort Cristina found in sharing her grief journey onlineEmbracing uncertainty: Why it’s okay to change directions, make mistakes, and follow new opportunities at any stage of adultingHelping kids thrive in the digital age: DashStrom’s mission to combat screen time and mental health challenges in youthQuote from the Episode:“There is such so much pain that it cannot be more amplified... Having that shared grief with my community and with people, you know, that knew me and people that didn’t know me, yeah, it felt good. It felt like that wall, like there were other people there with me.” — Cristina RamirezTimestamps:00:06 – Welcome, Cristina’s global sense of “home”, and landing in Pittsburgh00:53 – Why Pittsburgh is an underrated city with culture, art, and sports02:42 – The birth of the kids’ run club: lessons from Ironman and changing mindsets04:41 – From “I’m Possible Run Club” to DashStrom: The story behind the name and brand06:46 – Moving from Miami to New Mexico: On shaking up family life and the role of grief09:30 – The shock and aftermath of losing her husband, and communicating grief publicly13:44 – Social media as a support system during tragedy15:03 – Writing “Empowered by Discomfort”: Why and how the book came to be17:17 – The “reverse Uno” move: Going back to DashStrom full-time after adult coaching20:41 – Mindset shifts, facing doubts, letting go, and reinventing yourself25:00 – Unexpected paths: Following “breadcrumbs” and reaching thousands of kids nationwide27:41 – Where to find Cristina’s book and how to get involved with DashStrom29:14 – Cristina’s triathlon update, creating tranquility through shamanic drumming, and applying life lessons from growing up internationally33:05 – Closing reflections and gratitudeYou can find Cristina’s Book, Empowered by Discomfort here https://bookshop.org/a/87491/9798987856000ABOUT THE SHOW: The Art of Imperfect Adulting elevates the voices of experience by sharing real stories from real people figuring out adult life. Every episode features honest conversations about life's choices, changes, and challenges—interviews with individuals (not celebrities) who share their personal experiences and insights. Through these authentic stories, listeners find validation, motivation, and inspiration for navigating their own path through modern life. Because there's a big difference between expert advice and shared experience, and hearing another person's lived experience helps us feel less alone in our own situations.If you love the show and you'd like to support it directly you can tip the host here https://imperfect-adulting.captivate.fm/supportIf you have a story to share and you'd like to be a guest on The Art of Imperfect Adulting, here are the steps for how you can make that happen. Pitch yourself at https://www.imperfectadulting.com/be-a-guestNever Miss a Moment of Imperfect AdultingWe invite you to join our email community and let us bring the podcast directly to you! As a subscriber, you'll receive notifications about new episodes, exclusive offers from our amazing guests, and easier access to any of the important links mentioned on the show—no more scrambling to write down websites or remember special codes.Why subscribe?Stay up-to-date without checking your podcast appGet guest offers delivered straight to your inboxAccess all important links in one convenient placeCatch the highlights even when you don't have time to listenAre you ready? Join us at https://www.imperfectadulting.comHere are a few resources that Amy uses to make all this great content. These are affiliate links :-)For livestreaming and recording ECamm https://www.ecamm.com/mac/ecammlive/?fp_ref=amy69Podcast hosting and distribution: Captivate FM https://www.captivate.fm/signup?ref=ntczmwi Website hosting with Siteground https://www.siteground.com/?referrer_id=9115590Ai Transcription Tool: Castmagic https://get.castmagic.io/ugrmjjrt8ofjFor Email I recently switched to Beehiiv https://www.beehiiv.com?via=Amy-Stonebefore that I used Kit. Books I like and books written by show guests on Bookshop.org https://bookshop.org/lists/podcast-guest-authors

In this episode of The Art of Imperfect Adulting, Amy Stone speaks with Kristina Heaugh-Avritt about the complexities of school choice, navigating "cracks in the system" of public education, and redefining joyful, values-based learning at home. Kristina, based in Southern Oregon, brings nearly three decades of classroom experience and her perspective as a special needs parent to the conversation. Together, they dive deep into teacher burnout, the shifting landscape of education, and the empowering journey of supporting alternative learning paths for families.Kristina Heagh-Avritt is the founder of Vibrant Family Education and the co-host of the Bringing Education Home podcast. After over 30 years in education, she now guides parents to create joyful, connected, values-based learning at home. She is dedicated to helping families raise happy, healthy, and successful children who love to learn and feel deeply supported.Main Topics Covered:The evolving realities and challenges within public school systems, including “teaching to the test” and loss of teacher autonomyHow administrative shifts and tech demands have impacted both teachers and families, especially after the pandemicThe crucial role of parent involvement and how modern schools have unintentionally created barriers to collaborationNavigating burnout as an educator: emotional shifts, leaving legacy workplaces, and the hard decision to step awayThe difference between replicating traditional schooling at home versus designing custom home education experiencesDemystifying alternative education: homeschooling, unschooling, road schooling, and world schooling—and how to choose the right fitAddressing family values, holistic learning, and handling fears about “missing something” in home-based educationHow Kristina supports parents through 1:1 coaching, building accountability, routines, and personally tailored plansQuote from the Episode: “I think a lot of it had to do with helping other people, you know, and just knowing that the children I could impact and help grow and change and be confident and stuff. When I started school, I wasn't very confident, and I grew into my confidence and my capabilities with great teachers. … When you're watching, watching a little kid and they finally get something, their eyes pop open, and you can almost literally see that little cartoon bubble, light bulb above their head going, I got it right.” — Kristina Heaugh-AvrittTimestamps: [00:00:06] Welcome & intros; Kristina shares her Oregon roots [00:01:20] Snow days: Why Kristina prefers evening walks over outdoor sports [00:02:04] Kristina’s dual perspective—teacher and special needs parent [00:03:06] Why second and third grades are a “sweet spot” for growth [00:04:06] Teaching all subjects except PE, music, and library [00:04:27] Big district restructuring: Shifts, chaos, and adapting [00:05:16] Being an academic “bookworm” and loving school childhood [00:06:01] Mrs. Reynolds: The teacher who inspired Kristina’s journey [00:06:58] Motivation for teaching: Helping kids gain confidence [00:08:13] Hitting limits—“loving kids through the cracks in the system” [00:09:00] From connection to burnout: Policy, tests, and admin changes [00:11:07] Curriculum before “teaching to the test”—what flexibility looked like [00:12:39] What changed for teachers who fell behind rigid test schedules [00:15:40] Slow decline, parent disconnect, and impact of frequent admin turnover [00:17:57] The increasing barriers for parent involvement at school [00:21:58] Principal changes and the loss of school “family” [00:23:14] Making the difficult decision to leave classroom teaching [00:24:20] Transition into Vibrant Family Education—helping parents directly [00:27:32] What does Kristina’s coaching offer? Foundations for alternative and home learning [00:29:51] What “values-based” really means: Tailoring to each family’s traditions [00:32:29] The mistake of trying to “bring school home” vs. building custom routines [00:34:19] Kristina’s ebook offer: Education at home in 10 simple stepsABOUT THE SHOW: The Art of Imperfect Adulting elevates the voices of experience by sharing real stories from real people figuring out adult life. Every episode features honest conversations about life's choices, changes, and challenges—interviews with individuals (not celebrities) who share their personal experiences and insights. Through these authentic stories, listeners find validation, motivation, and inspiration for navigating their own path through modern life. Because there's a big difference between expert advice and shared experience, and hearing another person's lived experience helps us feel less alone in our own situations.CONNECT WITH THE GUEST: Kristina has a podcast: Bringing Education Home - https://feeds.captivate.fm/bringing-education-home/GET KRISTINA’S SPECIAL OFFER: Education at Home in 10 Simple StepsEducation at Home in 10 Simple Steps eBook is the guide for those who are ready to get started on their homeschool journey. Our #1 goal for this book is to help you feel comfortable taking the first, best step in your child’s education change.Value - Freehttps://link.vibrantfamilyeducation.com/widget/form/RZnPGWRIufhO8paew0I4Note from the show: Guest offers are almost always limited-time and limited quantity. If you have any trouble redeeming the offer please reach out directly to the guest for support.If you love the show and you'd like to support it directly you can tip the host here https://imperfect-adulting.captivate.fm/supportIf you have a story to share and you'd like to be a guest on The Art of Imperfect Adulting, here are the steps for how you can make that happen. Pitch yourself at https://www.imperfectadulting.com/be-a-guestNever Miss a Moment of Imperfect AdultingWe invite you to join our email community and let us bring the podcast directly to you! As a subscriber, you'll receive notifications about new episodes, exclusive offers from our amazing guests, and easier access to any of the important links mentioned on the show—no more scrambling to write down websites or remember special codes.Why subscribe?Stay up-to-date without checking your podcast appGet guest offers delivered straight to your inboxAccess all important links in one convenient placeCatch the highlights even when you don't have time to listenAre you ready? Join us at https://www.imperfectadulting.comHere are a few resources that Amy uses to make all this great content. These are affiliate links :-)For livestreaming and recording ECamm https://www.ecamm.com/mac/ecammlive/?fp_ref=amy69Podcast hosting and distribution: Captivate FM https://www.captivate.fm/signup?ref=ntczmwi Website hosting with Siteground https://www.siteground.com/?referrer_id=9115590Ai Transcription Tool: Castmagic https://get.castmagic.io/ugrmjjrt8ofjFor Email I recently switched to Beehiiv https://www.beehiiv.com?via=Amy-Stonebefore that I used Kit. Books I like and books written by show guests on Bookshop.org https://bookshop.org/lists/podcast-guest-authors

In this episode of The Art of Imperfect Adulting, Amy Stone speaks with Emily Paulsen about the realities of being child free by choice. Emily joins from Chicago, Illinois.The audience will gain clarity on how to talk about family planning (or the lack thereof) with sensitivity, learn about the shifting landscape for Gen Z and Millennials, and explore the sometimes unseen ripple effects of opting out of parenthood.About Emily Paulsen: Emily Paulsen is an award-winning entrepreneur and happily childfree woman shining a light on the often overshadowed childfree-by-choice perspective. Whether interviewing innovative experts or positioning leaders to scale through her Brand Studio, Electric Collab, Emily’s power lies in allowing people to feel seen and celebrated for who they are . She’s spent years honing the ability to deeply understand and amplify others in an honest, high-impact way.Main Topics Covered:The evolving cultural conversation and data on living child free, including global trends and generational differences.Why representation matters—how seeing alternative life paths enables true personal choice, and the impact of visibility in media, workplaces, and families.Navigating family and friend reactions when "coming out" as child free, and why supportive communities make a difference.Workplace bias, caregiving double standards, and the ripple effects of assumptions about who will (or won’t) have children.The pressure, pain points, and social judgments embedded in conversations around parenthood—and what to say (or not say) to someone who is child free.How internal clarity and confidence develop over time, and the importance of talking about personal decisions openly but respectfully.The nuanced differences between being child free by choice and by circumstance, with discussion about language, labels, and surveys.The value of parallel life paths and rejecting the idea that one way of "adulting" is better than another.Quote from the Episode: "My goal is for women, for all people really, to understand themselves well enough to make a choice that's right for them. And I think that choice becomes a lot more fair when you see both sides of that decision." — Emily PaulsenTimestamps: [00:00:05] Amy welcomes Emily; Chicago’s winter wonderland; favorite winter activities[00:01:57] Child free by choice: Amy introduces the topic; Emily shares her passion for representation[00:02:30] Data and trends: declining birth rates, international comparisons, and generational shifts[00:04:23] Survey limitations: why it’s hard to research people’s choices and the categories of child free, childless, and more[00:08:57] Emily’s personal story: When she realized motherhood wasn’t for her, and how family scripts shape our view of adulthood[00:14:12] Barbie, representation, and the power of seeing alternatives in childhood play[00:15:04] Why it’s not about convincing others to be child free, but about informed, personal decision[00:17:58] The workplace: maternity leave, double standards, and caring for aging parents[00:20:05] The internal journey: relief, “awakening,” and the complexities of telling others about being child free[00:24:24] Sensitivity and conversations: Recognizing that choices about family are deeply personal and varied[00:26:27] Societal assumptions, parental expectations, and the generational “timeline”[00:34:07] The ripple effect: how choices echo through families and communities[00:37:40] Public conversations: intrusive questions, Uber driver moments, and survey double standards[00:41:37] On judgment, selfishness, and why choice—not sides—matters most[00:43:49] How workplace and community structures spark comparison among women (and why the problem isn’t kids vs. no kids)[00:51:31] Emily’s best advice for talking to child free adults: Don’t ask why, and be normal![00:52:18] About Emily’s podcast: “Curious Life of a Child Free Woman” and how to connectABOUT THE SHOW: The Art of Imperfect Adulting elevates the voices of experience by sharing real stories from real people figuring out adult life. Every episode features honest conversations about life's choices, changes, and challenges—interviews with individuals (not celebrities) who share their personal experiences and insights. Through these authentic stories, listeners find validation, motivation, and inspiration for navigating their own path through modern life. Because there's a big difference between expert advice and shared experience, and hearing another person's lived experience helps us feel less alone in our own situations.CONNECT WITH THE GUEST: https://www.curiouslifeofachildfreewoman.com/Listen to Emily Paulsen’s Show: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/curious-life-of-a-childfree-woman/id1777850561https://open.spotify.com/show/6sT7kPp4dOthbvXAFZPOBNIf you have a story to share and you'd like to be a guest on The Art of Imperfect Adulting, here are the steps for how you can make that happen. Pitch yourself at https://www.imperfectadulting.com/be-a-guestIf you love the show and you'd like to support it directly you can tip the host here https://imperfect-adulting.captivate.fm/supportNever Miss a Moment of Imperfect AdultingWe invite you to join our email community and let us bring the podcast directly to you! As a subscriber, you'll receive notifications about new episodes, exclusive offers from our amazing guests, and easier access to any of the important links mentioned on the show—no more scrambling to write down websites or remember special codes.Why subscribe?Stay up-to-date without checking your podcast appGet guest offers delivered straight to your inboxAccess all important links in one convenient placeCatch the highlights even when you don't have time to listenAre you ready? Join us at https://www.imperfectadulting.comHere are a few resources that Amy uses to make all this great content. These are affiliate links :-)For livestreaming and recording ECamm https://www.ecamm.com/mac/ecammlive/?fp_ref=amy69Podcast hosting and distribution: Captivate FM https://www.captivate.fm/signup?ref=ntczmwi Website hosting with Siteground https://www.siteground.com/?referrer_id=9115590Ai Transcription Tool: Castmagic https://get.castmagic.io/ugrmjjrt8ofjFor Email I recently switched to Beehiiv https://www.beehiiv.com?via=Amy-Stonebefore that I used Kit. Books I like and books written by show guests on Bookshop.org https://bookshop.org/lists/podcast-guest-authors

In this episode of The Art of Imperfect Adulting, Amy Stone speaks with Joanne Gates about navigating motherhood, career ambition, and the realities of working in the male-dominated tech industry. Joanne, joining from Scottsdale, Arizona, recounts her move from Boston to Seattle, her nearly 30-year career at Microsoft, and the pivotal choices she made as both a mom and a leader. Listeners will discover how Joanne carved out success in corporate America, confronted workplace bias, and now channels her expertise into coaching women to thrive at work and at home.About Joanne Gates:Joanne Gates is a certified executive life coach who helps professional women in tech and male-dominated industries unlock their career potential with clarity, confidence, and purpose. After a 30-year career at Microsoft—rising from entry-level to executive—Joanne now empowers women to overcome imposter syndrome, people-pleasing, and perfectionism while building authentic leadership presence. She’s especially known for helping women get promoted into senior leadership roles and then kick ass once they’re there—navigating high-stakes environments with emotional intelligence, strategic influence, and unapologetic power. Joanne blends deep empathy with sharp business acumen to help her clients lead boldly, drive impact, and rewrite the rules of leadership.Main Topics Covered:The life-altering impact of motherhood on career paths, especially for women in tech and male-dominated corporate environments.Facing and overcoming gender bias and assumptions about working mothers in the workplace.The challenges and family dynamics of being the primary breadwinner and having a stay-at-home dad partner in the late '90s and early 2000s.Navigating pivotal career decisions, missed opportunities, and the trade-offs of prioritizing family vs. pursuing senior leadership.Advocating for oneself in corporate hierarchies, especially when faced with unfair evaluations or lack of managerial support.The evolution (and limitations) of maternity leave policies and the importance of workplace systems that genuinely support parents.Joanne’s transition from a senior leader at Microsoft to executive and life coaching for women, with a focus on helping others define and achieve their own success.Practical tips for protecting your career trajectory, handling performance reviews, and knowing when (and how) to escalate workplace concerns.Quote from the Episode:"I felt like I had to, like, shake him by the shoulders… How many guys have to have this conversation? That just pisses me off. We have to because, obviously, it’s pretty apparent that we’re having a child." — Joanne GatesTimestamps: [00:00:04] Welcome, Joanne’s location, and adjusting to life in the desert [00:00:46] Childhood winter activities and chasing the sun [00:01:37] Introducing today’s topic: balancing motherhood and career [00:02:29] On generational change—and how much (or little) has shifted for working women [00:03:19] The Covid reset and women leaving corporate roles; Joanne’s new passion for helping women succeed [00:04:24] Joanne’s career start, move to Microsoft in the dot-com era [00:07:21] Early influences, engineering in college, and professional aspirations in a male-driven world [00:11:19] On early career choices, family expectations, and the pressure to decide your future “from a very young age” [00:13:14] Strategic family planning vs. reacting to life—how Joanne and her husband made tough choices [00:17:55] Deciding which parent would stay home, and the financial/logistical realities in a pre-remote work world [00:19:25] The loneliness and community gap for stay-at-home dads [00:22:18] Microsoft’s corporate culture around mothers in the ’90s/early 2000s—assumptions, bias, and policy limitations [00:25:27] The invisible penalty of motherhood: performance reviews, pay, and navigating “fairness” [00:31:10] Maternity leave policies then and now—fears around job security and returning to work [00:36:32] Systemic challenges: why do big companies struggle to change on women and family policy? [00:38:25] Lack of diversity, groupthink, and the value of disruptors in changing corporate culture [00:41:46] How Joanne stayed and thrived at Microsoft, even as most opted out [00:42:03] Major trade-offs: missing opportunities for the sake of family [00:47:06] Facing career setbacks, fighting for promotion, and deciding not to “rage quit” [00:53:12] Tactical advice: documenting your worth, knowing when—and how—to advocate for yourself [00:55:01] Joanne’s mission now: mentoring and coaching women in corporate life [00:56:08] What’s different for working women today, and a special offer for listeners [00:57:27] Lightning round: morning routines, relaxation, and spending on selfABOUT THE SHOW: The Art of Imperfect Adulting elevates the voices of experience by sharing real stories from real people figuring out adult life. Every episode features honest conversations about life's choices, changes, and challenges—interviews with individuals (not celebrities) who share their personal experiences and insights. Through these authentic stories, listeners find validation, motivation, and inspiration for navigating their own path through modern life. Because there's a big difference between expert advice and shared experience, and hearing another person's lived experience helps us feel less alone in our own situations.GET JOANNE GATES’ SPECIAL OFFER: 4 Steps to Navigate Your Career Journey workbookA Free PDF that provides actionable steps to demystify the steps to landing your next job, or that job several years in the future.Link to download the pdf: https://www.execcoachjoanne.com/4stepsworkbookIf you have a story to share and you'd like to be a guest on The Art of Imperfect Adulting, here are the steps for how you can make that happen. Pitch yourself at https://www.imperfectadulting.com/be-a-guestIf you love the show and you'd like to support it directly you can tip the host here https://imperfect-adulting.captivate.fm/supportNever Miss a Moment of Imperfect AdultingWe invite you to join our email community and let us bring the podcast directly to you! As a subscriber, you'll receive notifications about new episodes, exclusive offers from our amazing guests, and easier access to any of the important links mentioned on the show—no more scrambling to write down websites or remember special codes.Why subscribe?Stay up-to-date without checking your podcast appGet guest offers delivered straight to your inboxAccess all important links in one convenient placeCatch the highlights even when you don't have time to listenAre you ready? Join us at https://www.imperfectadulting.comHere are a few resources that Amy uses to make all this great content. 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In this episode of The Art of Imperfect Adulting, Amy Stone speaks with Lilli Bewley about breaking relationship patterns, healing childhood wounds, and rediscovering identity through the lens of love and dating. Calling in from sunny Phoenix, Arizona, Lilli shares her transformative journey as a self-described “cycle breaker,” moving from performing life to authentic alignment and connection. Listeners will gain insight into how childhood experiences shape adult relationships, the power of inner work, and how clarity on needs and self-worth can radically transform one’s dating experience and overall well-being.About Lilli Bewley: Lilli Bewley is a Dating Coach for Finding Love with over 10 years of experience in personal development. She, herself, went from just surviving in life to thriving in love & purpose. Currently, she is helping single & successful women love dating & find true love.Main Topics Covered:The role of childhood patterns and family models in shaping adult relationships and self-worth.Recognizing and breaking unhealthy cycles as a conscious, courageous act—and what it means to be a “cycle breaker.”Moving from high achievement and people-pleasing to inner alignment and authentic identity.The importance and challenges of communicating needs rather than just emotions, especially for women who have experienced trauma or dysfunction.How “performing life” and transactional self-worth show up in dating, career, and family—and the work required to shift toward true fulfillment.Faith, spirituality, and overcoming religious trauma as sources of guidance and healing, regardless of doctrine.Why inner transformation is the foundation for success in dating—and how dating apps can be used as a practice ground for self-awareness and boundary-setting.Lilli’s framework for feminine dating archetypes and the “magnetic woman,” and how understanding these archetypes accelerates healing and connection.Quote from the Episode: “There are parts of us that believe that we have to be bright and shiny, we have to be a certain way, we have to be a certain weight, we have to have a certain number in our bank account. Most women are in this transactional relationship with self, with love, and with performing—meaning, ‘If I’m sexy, then I’ll get love.’”—Lilli BewleyTimestamps: [00:00:04] Amy welcomes Lilli Bewley and asks about her location in Phoenix, AZ[00:01:10] Lilli shares her love for Phoenix’s winter weather and outdoor activities[00:02:10] Pivot to love, relationships, and the theme of alignment and identity[00:03:26] Lilli describes the impact of childhood patterns, early trauma, and the start of her inner healing journey over a decade ago[00:06:25] Moving through high achievement, validation-seeking, and emptiness to see root causes of self-worth issues[00:08:58] Amy and Lilli discuss awareness of recurring patterns and what it means to break cycles, especially as the oldest sibling[00:10:23] Lilli explains her life situation at the turning point—working in corporate America and in an unfulfilling relationship[00:12:10] The nuanced challenge of communication: expressing needs and understanding core wounds[00:14:07] Amy relates mediation and conflict patterns to relationship dynamics[00:16:19] Lilli reflects on her past—chameleon tendencies, people pleasing, feeling unsafe to be herself, and lack of purpose[00:19:45] Lilli describes reaching a glass ceiling and catalyzing transformation with support from books, therapy, and her niece/nephew[00:23:23] Lilli shares her experience of deep crisis and hearing “God’s voice” as a turning point in her healing journey[00:25:58] Spirituality and faith—Lilli’s journey from religious trauma to finding purpose and identity[00:29:52] The concept of performing life versus living in alignment; unpacking transactional worth[00:33:35] Societal pressures and social media—why these cycles persist for younger generations[00:34:41] Transitioning from a corporate job to becoming a dating coach focused on inner transformation[00:35:55] Lilli’s feminine dating archetypes and the “magnetic woman”—attracting healthy love from a place of alignment[00:39:00] Coaching focus and inclusivity—working primarily with women, but on identity and self-first foundations[00:40:21] The role of dating apps, changing patterns, and using apps for practice and self-growth[00:44:45] Lilli’s shoutout to her podcast and quiz; final rapid fire questions on sunrises, Amazon blue blockers, tipping, and gratitudeABOUT THE SHOW: The Art of Imperfect Adulting elevates the voices of experience by sharing real stories from real people figuring out adult life. Every episode features honest conversations about life's choices, changes, and challenges—interviews with individuals (not celebrities) who share their personal experiences and insights. Through these authentic stories, listeners find validation, motivation, and inspiration for navigating their own path through modern life. Because there's a big difference between expert advice and shared experience, and hearing another person's lived experience helps us feel less alone in our own situations.CONNECT WITH THE GUEST: Feminine Dating Archetype Quiz: DatingArchetype.comIf you have a story to share and you'd like to be a guest on The Art of Imperfect Adulting, here are the steps for how you can make that happen. Pitch yourself at https://www.imperfectadulting.com/be-a-guestIf you love the show and you'd like to support it directly you can tip the host here https://imperfect-adulting.captivate.fm/supportNever Miss a Moment of Imperfect AdultingWe invite you to join our email community and let us bring the podcast directly to you! As a subscriber, you'll receive notifications about new episodes, exclusive offers from our amazing guests, and easier access to any of the important links mentioned on the show—no more scrambling to write down websites or remember special codes.Why subscribe?Stay up-to-date without checking your podcast appGet guest offers delivered straight to your inboxAccess all important links in one convenient placeCatch the highlights even when you don't have time to listenAre you ready? Join us at https://www.imperfectadulting.comHere are a few resources that Amy uses to make all this great content. 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In this episode of The Art of Imperfect Adulting, Amy Stone speaks with Susan Hyatt about the realities and myths of diet culture, beauty standards, and the rise of "menopause culture." Broadcasting from Indiana in the Midwest, Susan shares her journey as a life coach and author, unveiling the motivations behind her anti-diet philosophy and the process of publishing her book, "Bear." Together, Amy and Susan candidly explore the evolving influence of social media, the challenge of visibility for women, and how aging and menopause are newly commodified—and what it means to choose self-support instead of self-policing.About Susan Hyatt: Susan Hyatt is a Master Certified Life Coach, Bestselling Author, and TEDx Speaker. She’s on a mission to ignite 'Big Yes Energy' in women everywhere. From boosting your bank account to supercharging your self-confidence, from elevating your energy levels to amplifying your joy, Susan is the go-to expert for women who want more.With 18 years of coaching experience under her belt, Susan has guided thousands of women through their personal revolutions. She's a crusader against diet culture and a vocal advocate for closing gaps – in wages, confidence, and yes, even orgasms.She is also the creator of BARE - a groundbreaking process that’s inspired women all over the world to stop shrinking their bodies and start expanding their lives.Susan's impactful work has graced national TV, leading podcasts, and top magazines including O: The Oprah Magazine, Cosmopolitan, Seventeen, Woman’s World, and Call Her Daddy. Her dedication to women's empowerment and entrepreneurship also earned her a spot as a finalist for the prestigious Athena Award.When she's not hyping up her clients, leading epic retreats, or making a scene, Susan can be found weightlifting, marathon training, globetrotting, or cozying up in her hygge corner. She’s also not shy about advocating for equality at home, regularly reminding her husband about the importance of sharing the "invisible workload," so she can continue to earn big and play big.Main Topics Covered:How Susan’s anti-diet philosophy was born from personal experience and coaching hundreds of women.Navigating the publishing industry: the challenges, rejections, and creative solutions Susan found on her way to releasing "Bear."Unpacking "diet culture," "beauty culture," and "menopause culture"—what these terms mean and how they impact women.The emotional risk and motivation behind becoming a visible voice for body freedom and wellness.The backlash and online criticism women face when sharing their stories—and how to use privilege for advocacy.Aging, menopause, and influencer advice: noticing the parallels between traditional diet culture and new "menopause fixes."The importance of quality information, body intuition, and skepticism amid wellness fads and changing research.Creating sustainable health and strength in midlife, beyond competitive extremes and compliance for its own sake.Building offline and online communities for support and connection in the age of instant digital feedback.Quote from the Episode: "I'm not gonna shut up because I have big boobs and blonde hair and blue eyes. Like, that's ridiculous. And also, like, oh, so the only people who get to speak out about this are the most oppressed, or is this the oppression Olympics? ...I still have experienced these things over here. And there are a lot of women who benefit from me speaking up and telling my story." — Susan HyattTimestamps: [00:00:04] Welcome to Susan Hyatt; Midwest roots and prepping for a winter release [00:01:05] Discussing comfort with cold and extreme weather [00:01:17] The decision to write a book about diet and beauty culture [00:02:06] How coaching women sparked the Bear philosophy [00:03:29] Susan’s publishing journey: self-publishing vs. traditional, agent search, and rejections [00:08:11] The motivation behind pushing through barriers—helping women be free of diet culture rules [00:10:53] Definitions of diet culture, beauty culture, menno culture [00:12:18] The courage to be publicly visible and tell your story [00:13:54] Navigating online backlash—privilege, representation, and “oppression Olympics” [00:19:09] Aging and new forms of diet culture targeting menopause and longevity [00:21:33] Why influencer solutions often mirror old food rules, and the importance of discernment [00:25:51] Responsibility in sharing wellness information and empowering body intuition [00:27:50] Functional strength, quality of life, and rethinking longevity goals [00:32:10] Personal experiences with perimenopause and advocating for health support [00:34:07] Growing up with Southern “nice girl” messaging and the evolution of openness [00:36:55] How to filter wellness information and cope with changing recommendations [00:39:07] Trying different approaches and honoring individual guidance [00:40:59] Consistency over competition in health and fitness routines [00:41:58] Instant feedback culture online and its impact on sharing stories [00:43:04] Finding community online and offline; building supportive spaces [00:47:09] Susan’s current programs, retreats, and resources for women [00:48:41] Rapid-fire favorites—book recommendations and travel dreams [00:51:19] Closing gratitude and anticipation for the episode airingABOUT THE SHOW: The Art of Imperfect Adulting elevates the voices of experience by sharing real stories from real people figuring out adult life. Every episode features honest conversations about life's choices, changes, and challenges—interviews with individuals (not celebrities) who share their personal experiences and insights. Through these authentic stories, listeners find validation, motivation, and inspiration for navigating their own path through modern life. Because there's a big difference between expert advice and shared experience, and hearing another person's lived experience helps us feel less alone in our own situations.CONNECT WITH THE GUEST: https://www.susanhyatt.coIf you love the show and you'd like to support it directly you can tip the host here https://imperfect-adulting.captivate.fm/supportIf you have a story to share and you'd like to be a guest on The Art of Imperfect Adulting, here are the steps for how you can make that happen. 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In this episode of The Art of Imperfect Adulting, Amy Stone speaks with Kimberly Brown about navigating major career transitions, the search for authentic self-fulfillment, and the power of mindfulness and meditation in overcoming anxiety. Joining Amy from New York City, Kimberly opens up about leaving behind years of psychoanalytic training in favor of a path rooted in Buddhist-inspired meditation. Listeners will learn how Kimberly’s journey through personal anxiety and professional “wrong turns” led her to a sense of belonging, self-compassion, and a thriving vocation as a meditation teacher.Kimberly Brown is a meditation teacher and author. She leads classes and retreats that emphasize the power of compassion and kindness meditation to reconnect us to ourselves and others. She studies in both the Tibetan and Insight schools of Buddhism and is a certified mindfulness instructor. Her latest book, Happy Relationships: 25 Buddhist Practices to Transform Your Connection with Your Partner, Family, and Friends, was recently released by Rowman &amp; Littlefield. You can learn more about Kimberly at www.meditationwithheart.comMain Topics Covered:Coping with the pressure and expectations to “get it right” in career and education choices.The impact of post-9/11 life changes and the urgent drive for deeper meaning.Why traditional psychoanalysis and diagnostic labels didn’t resonate—and how compassion shifted her approach.Transforming painful anxiety and panic attacks into motivation for personal growth.The science and practice of mindfulness and meditation, including Buddhist perspectives.How belonging and acceptance—both internally and within a community—can heal and empower.Overcoming the belief that something is “wrong” with you and embracing inherent goodness.Building a business and life around self-compassion, meditation, and helping others connect authentically.Quote from the Episode: "I began to feel that there was nothing wrong with anybody. And I don't... that doesn't mean we all have troubles. I just never felt like, well, anybody's really broken, right? We just have our stuff and we have to, you know, take care of it and understand it." — Kimberly BrownTimestamps: [00:00:04] Introduction &amp; warm-up: New York roots, upstate escapes, and favorite flowers[00:02:34] Career change: From HR and psychoanalytic training to questioning the diagnostic process[00:09:02] 9/11 as a catalyst for dramatic life transitions[00:12:07] The essential role of a healing therapist and the inspiration to help others[00:13:31] The drive to return to school, lifelong learning, and giving oneself grace in change[00:17:27] Discomfort with diagnosing mental health, and the story of an authentic therapeutic relationship[00:21:19] Discussion of Freud, medical coding, and the industrial complex of American healthcare[00:26:56] Struggles with professional modality and the need for real human connection[00:30:49] Personal challenges: panic attacks, anxiety, and unexpected traumas[00:34:01] Discovering meditation and mindfulness through yoga and Buddhist centers[00:37:27] Building a new path—belonging, retreats, teaching, and gratitude for healing[00:41:12] The power of acceptance, belonging, and Buddhist teachings in everyday life[00:45:41] Science catches up: neuroscience validates the benefits of meditation and compassion[00:46:39] Inherent capacity for compassion and re-framing cultural narratives around brokennessABOUT THE SHOW: The Art of Imperfect Adulting elevates the voices of experience by sharing real stories from real people figuring out adult life. Every episode features honest conversations about life's choices, changes, and challenges—interviews with individuals (not celebrities) who share their personal experiences and insights. Through these authentic stories, listeners find validation, motivation, and inspiration for navigating their own path through modern life. Because there's a big difference between expert advice and shared experience, and hearing another person's lived experience helps us feel less alone in our own situations.GET KIMBERLY BROWN'S SPECIAL OFFER: Free One Month Subscription to my weekly Substack newsletter, Meditation with Heart email [email protected] to redeem this offer.If you love the show and you'd like to support it directly you can tip the host here https://imperfect-adulting.captivate.fm/supportIf you have a story to share and you'd like to be a guest on The Art of Imperfect Adulting, here are the steps for how you can make that happen. Pitch yourself at https://www.imperfectadulting.com/be-a-guestNever Miss a Moment of Imperfect AdultingWe invite you to join our email community and let us bring the podcast directly to you! As a subscriber, you'll receive notifications about new episodes, exclusive offers from our amazing guests, and easier access to any of the important links mentioned on the show—no more scrambling to write down websites or remember special codes.Why subscribe?Stay up-to-date without checking your podcast appGet guest offers delivered straight to your inboxAccess all important links in one convenient placeCatch the highlights even when you don't have time to listenAre you ready? Join us at https://www.imperfectadulting.comHere are a few resources that Amy uses to make all this great content. 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In this episode of The Art of Imperfect Adulting, Amy Stone speaks with Sabrina Harrison about body image, self-acceptance, and the transformative power of boudoir photography—both behind and in front of the lens. Joining from Westminster, Colorado, Sabrina shares her personal experience of gifting boudoir photos to her husband, which unexpectedly became a journey of reclaiming her own confidence and reshaping her photography business. The conversation explores how images impact self-concept, the realities of postpartum body changes, and actionable strategies to build self-love.About Sabrina Harrison: Sabrina has a degree in photography from the University of Virginia. She moved to Colorado in 2016 with her husband and 2 dogs. She is currently working as a boudoir, retreat, and branding photographer in Westminster, Colorado. Sabrina is a huge reader and personal development junkie. She loves skiing, hiking, tea, tacos, and eclairs. Sabrina is the proud mother of 3 children, 2 bio and 1 bonus. Sabrina is a seasoned expert in confidence coaching and brand strategy, dedicated to empowering individuals to embrace themselves and unlock their potential through art and capturing their true essence behind her lens.Main Topics Covered:How boudoir photography can become an act of self-love and empowerment.The emotional journey of stepping in front of the camera as a photographer, including vulnerability, trust, and letting go of control.The impact of postpartum body changes on confidence and identity, and how photography can help reframe these experiences.Specific techniques for cultivating self-acceptance, including affirmation strategies and mirror work.Challenging social beauty standards and learning to see yourself with compassion.How Sabrina’s personal photo session led her to niche her business and help other women transform their own self-image.The philosophy behind presenting images as a “kinder lens” compared to self-critique.Practical tips for anyone feeling critical or uncomfortable in front of a camera, starting with small steps and mindset shifts.Quote from the Episode: "This is literally looking at myself through a kinder lens than I do maybe in the mirror. And I really wanted to try to create that for other people." — Sabrina HarrisonTimestamps: [00:00:05] — Welcome &amp; introductions; Sabrina shares where she calls home [00:00:30] — Warm-up questions on Valentine’s Day gifts and personal preferences [00:02:18] — Episode focus: the meaning behind boudoir photography and Sabrina’s story [00:02:49] — Sabrina’s roots in photography: family legacy and first camera memories [00:06:10] — The origin story: deciding to gift boudoir photos to her husband after childbirth [00:07:47] — Insights from Rumi: action creates clarity [00:11:00] — What is boudoir photography? Sabrina explains the spectrum of style and comfort [00:12:00] — Facing nerves and the reality of body image post-baby; not being documented in family photos [00:13:13] — Surrendering creative control; empathy for clients’ experience [00:16:06] — How the experience unexpectedly transformed Sabrina’s business [00:17:16] — Shedding mental baggage and embracing new self-love postpartum [00:19:15] — Common body image fears, dysmorphia, and how photography can heal [00:21:25] — Confronting “imperfections” vs. seeing yourself as you are through photos [00:24:37] — Uncovering childhood limiting beliefs and the emotional impact of being photographed [00:28:03] — The ongoing process of building confidence and putting yourself out there [00:29:49] — First impressions of seeing photos: relief, pride, and letting go of old stories [00:31:16] — From personal transformation to business niche: helping others love themselves [00:34:07] — Sabrina’s approach to client self-confidence: mirror work, neutral affirmations, and ask-formations [00:36:10] — Where to find Sabrina Harrison Photography online and details of her free confidence workshop for listeners [00:37:36] — Fun closing questions: travel tips, online shopping, and favorite low-stakes holiday moviesABOUT THE SHOW: The Art of Imperfect Adulting elevates the voices of experience by sharing real stories from real people figuring out adult life. Every episode features honest conversations about life's choices, changes, and challenges—interviews with individuals (not celebrities) who share their personal experiences and insights. Through these authentic stories, listeners find validation, motivation, and inspiration for navigating their own path through modern life. Because there's a big difference between expert advice and shared experience, and hearing another person's lived experience helps us feel less alone in our own situations.CONNECT WITH THE GUEST: @sabrinaharrisonphotography on InstagramIf you love the show and you'd like to support it directly you can tip the host here https://imperfect-adulting.captivate.fm/supportIf you have a story to share and you'd like to be a guest on The Art of Imperfect Adulting, here are the steps for how you can make that happen. Pitch yourself at https://www.imperfectadulting.com/be-a-guestNever Miss a Moment of Imperfect AdultingWe invite you to join our email community and let us bring the podcast directly to you! As a subscriber, you'll receive notifications about new episodes, exclusive offers from our amazing guests, and easier access to any of the important links mentioned on the show—no more scrambling to write down websites or remember special codes.Why subscribe?Stay up-to-date without checking your podcast appGet guest offers delivered straight to your inboxAccess all important links in one convenient placeCatch the highlights even when you don't have time to listenAre you ready? Join us at https://www.imperfectadulting.comHere are a few resources that Amy uses to make all this great content. These are affiliate links :-)For livestreaming and recording ECamm https://www.ecamm.com/mac/ecammlive/?fp_ref=amy69Podcast hosting and distribution: Captivate FM https://www.captivate.fm/signup?ref=ntczmwi Website hosting with Siteground https://www.siteground.com/?referrer_id=9115590Ai Transcription Tool: Castmagic https://get.castmagic.io/ugrmjjrt8ofjFor Email I recently switched to Beehiiv https://www.beehiiv.com?via=Amy-Stonebefore that I used Kit. Books I like and books written by show guests on Bookshop.org https://bookshop.org/lists/podcast-guest-authors

In this episode of The Art of Imperfect Adulting, Amy Stone speaks with Brittany Cano about navigating burnout, trauma, and transformation as an ICU nurse during the COVID pandemic. Based in Florida, Brittany shares her shift from hospital nursing to holistic wellness coaching. Listeners will discover insights about nervous system regulation, overcoming grief, and redefining adult identity after major life transitions.About Brittany Cano:Brittany Cano is a Holistic Nurse Coach and wellness expert with over 20 years of nursing experience and a decade of running her own holistic wellness practice. Her work was born from her personal healing journey, transforming shame, perfectionism, and self-criticism into self-compassion, embodiment, and wholeness. Drawing from her background in nursing, somatic healing, and holistic coaching, Brittany helps others reconnect with their bodies, regulate their nervous systems, and reclaim their energy and worth. She is passionate about guiding others to move beyond burnout and live in alignment with their most authentic selves.Main Topics Covered:Facing trauma and burnout as an ICU nurse in New York and Baltimore during the first wave of the COVID pandemic.Navigating cultural contrasts in pandemic response between Northeast cities and Florida.The psychological impact of working in intensive care and why teamwork and humor were survival tools.The move from traditional nursing to holistic wellness coaching—motivated by a desire to focus on prevention, longevity, and emotional well-being.Recognizing burnout through physical symptoms and exploring the deep connection between mind, body, and trauma.Using self-reflection, nervous system regulation, and somatic practices to heal and support others.Overcoming guilt and identity challenges when leaving behind a respected profession for more authentic life and work.Brittany’s approach to holistic healing: biopsychosocial-spiritual, including retreats, coaching, and innovative tools like peptide protocols.Timestamps:[00:00:07] Amy welcomes Brittany &amp; introduces Thanksgiving leftovers conversation[00:01:46] Shifting from holiday talk to Brittany’s pandemic experience as an ICU nurse[00:02:45] Standing out moments from early COVID, patient stories, teamwork, emotional toll[00:05:03] Navigating uncertainty, hazmat suits, and contrasting pandemic cultures in Florida vs. Northeast[00:08:07] Brittany’s holistic wellness side hustle and the motivation to leave bedside nursing[00:09:43] The importance of preventative health and avoiding hospitalization[00:13:02] Early career decisions: psychology dreams, practical nursing choices, and college costs[00:15:01] Grief, personal trauma, and the healing power of holistic coaching[00:18:58] Defining “holistic”—mind, body, social, and spiritual interconnectedness in wellness[00:21:16] Brittany discovers the root of her burnout and GI symptoms, and the need for deeper healing[00:26:27] The challenge of self-awareness during burnout; learning from “rushing woman syndrome”[00:29:59] Ayahuasca experience, trauma healing, and how divine timing guided Brittany’s journey[00:33:33] How pandemic trauma reverberates for healthcare workers and all adults[00:34:28] Key choices: Slowing down, quitting alcohol, retreat to India, and leaving hospital work[00:38:22] Letting go of job identity and security blanket challenges during adult reinvention[00:44:28] Reflections on childhood grief, therapy, and what adults can do for grieving kids[00:48:28] Brittany outlines her holistic coaching offers, retreats, and peptide protocols for healing[00:51:51] Final questions: Morning routines, reading habits, and travel preferencesABOUT THE SHOW: The Art of Imperfect Adulting elevates the voices of experience by sharing real stories from real people figuring out adult life. Every episode features honest conversations about life's choices, changes, and challenges—interviews with individuals (not celebrities) who share their personal experiences and insights. Through these authentic stories, listeners find validation, motivation, and inspiration for navigating their own path through modern life. Because there's a big difference between expert advice and shared experience, and hearing another person's lived experience helps us feel less alone in our own situations.GET BRITTANY CANO'S SPECIAL OFFER: Discover Elevated WellBeing Consult:a 45-minute holistic wellness consultation designed to help you gain clarity on what’s draining your energy and what your body truly needs to heal. You’ll receive a guided assessment and compassionate support to uncover the root causes of stress, fatigue, or imbalance. Walk away with personalized insight, practical next steps, and a clear path to elevate your wellBeing. Visit www.HolisticNurseCoaches.com to schedule.If you love the show and you'd like to support it directly you can tip the host here https://imperfect-adulting.captivate.fm/supportNever Miss a Moment of Imperfect AdultingWe invite you to join our email community and let us bring the podcast directly to you! As a subscriber, you'll receive notifications about new episodes, exclusive offers from our amazing guests, and easier access to any of the important links mentioned on the show—no more scrambling to write down websites or remember special codes.Why subscribe?Stay up-to-date without checking your podcast appGet guest offers delivered straight to your inboxAccess all important links in one convenient placeCatch the highlights even when you don't have time to listenAre you ready? Join us at https://www.imperfectadulting.comIf you have a story to share and you'd like to be a guest on The Art of Imperfect Adulting, here are the steps for how you can make that happen. Pitch yourself at https://www.imperfectadulting.com/be-a-guestHere are a few resources that Amy uses to make all this great content. These are affiliate links :-)For livestreaming and recording ECamm https://www.ecamm.com/mac/ecammlive/?fp_ref=amy69Podcast hosting and distribution: Captivate FM https://www.captivate.fm/signup?ref=ntczmwi Website hosting with Siteground https://www.siteground.com/?referrer_id=9115590Ai Transcription Tool: Castmagic https://get.castmagic.io/ugrmjjrt8ofjFor Email I recently switched to Beehiiv https://www.beehiiv.com?via=Amy-Stonebefore that I used Kit. Books I like and books written by show guests on Bookshop.org https://bookshop.org/lists/podcast-guest-authors

In this episode of The Art of Imperfect Adulting, Amy Stone speaks with Colette Fehr about marriage, divorce, and the impact of family dynamics on adult relationships. Based in Orlando, Florida, Colette candidly shares her journey from growing up in a traditional, conflict-filled New York household to navigating her own early marriage, divorce, and eventual career as a couples therapist. Listeners will gain insights into how childhood experiences unconsciously shape relationship choices, why emotional disconnection—not conflict—is a leading destroyer of marriages, and how to have the difficult conversations that lead to lasting love.About Colette Fehr:Colette Jane Fehr is a licensed psychotherapist and nationally recognized relationship expert. She’s the author of The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations That Create Secure, Lasting Love, coming out February 2026 from Putnam and Penguin Random House. Colette co-hosts the hit podcast Insights from the Couch: Real Talk for Women at Midlife and Love Thy Neighbor: The Relationship Show, and her TEDx talk Secrets of a Couples Therapist was selected as a TED Editors’ Pick.Main Topics Covered:How childhood family dynamics, including loud conflict and divorce, shape unconscious patterns in adult relationships and marriageThe myth that successful relationships are free of conflict, and why learning to handle conflict constructively is essentialColette’s experience of getting married young, going through divorce, and raising children—often counter to her peer group’s expectationsThe societal and generational stigmas around divorce, especially for women, and why leaving can be the healthiest choiceThe journey from “good girl” people-pleasing and self-abandonment to finding one’s voice and boundaries in relationshipsRecognizing fawning and people-pleasing as trauma responses—and the path to unlearning them for healthier loveThe importance of seeking skilled, specialized couples therapy (including discernment counseling) and not all therapists are equally equippedColette’s book "The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations That Create Secure, Lasting Love," with practical tools for women to confidently express their needsQuote from the Episode: "The number one factor that destroys relationships is emotional disconnection. Not arguing, not having differences, not even infidelity. It’s disconnection." — Colette FehrTimestamps: [00:00:06] Introduction and guest welcome; Colette shares her New Yorker roots and years in Orlando, Florida[00:00:43] What Colette loves about Orlando: eternal sunshine and multiculturalism[00:01:02] Introducing today’s topic: marriage and divorce[00:01:21] Colette’s personal history: two marriages, one divorce[00:01:45] Early marriage story—married at 24, divorced at 31, balancing motherhood and changing social circles[00:04:13] How parents’ marriage and conflict modeled relationship dynamics for Colette[00:06:51] The myth of “no conflict” in healthy relationships and the real importance of constructive communication[00:08:37] How Colette’s childhood influenced her career choice as a therapist[00:10:55] The cultural stigma of divorce in Irish Catholic New York during the 1980s[00:13:01] Research on divorce: why co-parenting quality, not marital status, predicts child well-being[00:15:07] Divorce as a part of social change: women initiating divorce and the evolving expectations of marriage[00:16:55] How early family wounds and societal narratives unconsciously shaped Colette’s partner choice[00:18:32] Unpacking the unconscious versus lessons learned only through experience[00:21:01] The “representative” self in courtship versus the reality of living together[00:22:14] Colette’s road to becoming a couples therapist after a bad counseling experience[00:27:43] The pitfalls of seeking therapy only at the “brink of divorce” and losing one’s voice in marriage[00:28:44] People-pleasing, trauma, fawning, and self-abandonment explained[00:31:51] Strategies to shift from survival (fawning) to authentic communication[00:32:15] Who Colette told first about her decision to divorce, and the resulting social fallout[00:34:31] Colette’s professional platforms: her podcasts, radio presence, TEDx talk, and new bookColette’s TedX Talk can be found here:https://youtu.be/8tSUOB2yEd0?si=XdHPdEwuSJeyzkRvWebsite: https://www.insightsfromthecouch.org/Book: The Cost of Quiet https://bookshop.org/a/87491/9780593852743ABOUT THE SHOW: The Art of Imperfect Adulting elevates the voices of experience by sharing real stories from real people figuring out adult life. Every episode features honest conversations about life's choices, changes, and challenges—interviews with individuals (not celebrities) who share their personal experiences and insights. Through these authentic stories, listeners find validation, motivation, and inspiration for navigating their own path through modern life. Because there's a big difference between expert advice and shared experience, and hearing another person's lived experience helps us feel less alone in our own situations.Note from the show: Guest offers are almost always limited-time and limited quantity. If you have any trouble redeeming the offer please reach out directly to the guest for support.If you have a story to share and you'd like to be a guest on The Art of Imperfect Adulting, here are the steps for how you can make that happen. Pitch yourself at https://www.imperfectadulting.com/be-a-guestNever Miss a Moment of Imperfect AdultingWe invite you to join our email community and let us bring the podcast directly to you! As a subscriber, you'll receive notifications about new episodes, exclusive offers from our amazing guests, and easier access to any of the important links mentioned on the show—no more scrambling to write down websites or remember special codes.Why subscribe?Stay up-to-date without checking your podcast appGet guest offers delivered straight to your inboxAccess all important links in one convenient placeCatch the highlights even when you don't have time to listenAre you ready? Join us at https://www.imperfectadulting.comIf you love the show and you'd like to support it directly you can tip the host here https://imperfect-adulting.captivate.fm/supportHere are a few resources that Amy uses to make all this great content. These are affiliate links :-)For livestreaming and recording ECamm https://www.ecamm.com/mac/ecammlive/?fp_ref=amy69Podcast hosting and distribution: Captivate FM https://www.captivate.fm/signup?ref=ntczmwi Website hosting with Siteground https://www.siteground.com/?referrer_id=9115590Ai Transcription Tool: Castmagic https://get.castmagic.io/ugrmjjrt8ofjFor Email I recently switched to Beehiiv https://www.beehiiv.com?via=Amy-Stonebefore that I used Kit. Books I like and books written by show guests on Bookshop.org https://bookshop.org/lists/podcast-guest-authors

In this episode of The Art of Imperfect Adulting, Amy Stone speaks with Holly Bot about the dramatic realities of incarceration, stigma, and transformation following a prison sentence. Based in Minneapolis, Minnesota, Holly shares her deeply personal story of serving eight years in prison, the personal and social challenges she faced, and the path toward self-forgiveness and growth. The conversation explores how shame, desperation, and loneliness can lead to life-altering decisions—and how humility, faith, and compassion became central to Holly’s journey beyond incarceration.Holly Bot is a speaker, author and IT professional living in Minneapolis, Minnesota. Above all she treasures her roles as wife and mother. She is the author of From Surviving to Living, a memoir of her prison experiences.Main Topics Covered:The hidden realities and emotional shock of the criminal justice process, from arrest to sentencing to prison life.Generational and cultural stigma around women, motherhood, and criminal behavior—and its ripple effects on family and identity.Mental health, burnout, and the consequences of isolation, particularly for mothers and caregivers in crisis.How shame, secrecy, and lack of support can escalate risky decisions—and what ignoring “red flags” can look like in real life.The complex, lasting stigma of being labeled a felon or sex offender, including public perception and daily-life limitations post-release.Holly’s revelations in self-identity, humility, and personal growth through faith while incarcerated.The role of compassion—for oneself and others—when reckoning with past mistakes and striving to help others avoid similar pain.Candid discussion of re-entry into society, employment challenges, and creating hope for those affected by incarceration.Quote from the Episode:“I created my most worst nightmare and then was forced to live it out. The stigma is real. I think that any prison sentence is a life sentence, even if you only served a year on the facility, because you are a felon forever.” — Holly BotTimestamps: [00:00:05] Warm-up questions and introduction; Holly’s home in Minneapolis[00:01:14] Setup of today’s dramatic conversation about incarceration[00:02:07] Holly explains the lead-up and facts about her crime and sentencing[00:06:39] Life before prison: family background, isolation, and mounting emotional stress[00:12:53] Examining the motivations, confusion, and factors leading to life-altering choices[00:18:43] The power of loneliness and unmet validation; lack of support network[00:23:42] How desire to be seen and desperate problem-solving played into criminal behavior[00:27:02] What prison was really like for women in Minnesota[00:30:41] Finding humility, faith, and inner change during incarceration[00:37:01] Stigma, public shame, and how Holly’s crimes affected her children and family[00:43:07] Lasting consequences of a felony conviction and life post-release[00:46:13] Employment, transparency, and reintegration into the community[00:48:27] Why Holly wrote her book—to give others hope earlier in the healing process[00:51:13] Compassion, self-forgiveness, and understanding others’ pain[00:52:19] Book information and a special offer for listeners[00:53:06] The final three rapid-fire questions—morning routines, online shopping, and lottery dreamsABOUT THE SHOW: The Art of Imperfect Adulting elevates the voices of experience by sharing real stories from real people figuring out adult life. Every episode features honest conversations about life's choices, changes, and challenges—interviews with individuals (not celebrities) who share their personal experiences and insights. Through these authentic stories, listeners find validation, motivation, and inspiration for navigating their own path through modern life. Because there's a big difference between expert advice and shared experience, and hearing another person's lived experience helps us feel less alone in our own situations.GET Holly’s Book: From Surviving to Living https://bookshop.org/a/87491/9781257952328If you have a story to share and you'd like to be a guest on The Art of Imperfect Adulting, here are the steps for how you can make that happen. Pitch yourself at https://www.imperfectadulting.com/be-a-guestNever Miss a Moment of Imperfect AdultingWe invite you to join our email community and let us bring the podcast directly to you! As a subscriber, you'll receive notifications about new episodes, exclusive offers from our amazing guests, and easier access to any of the important links mentioned on the show—no more scrambling to write down websites or remember special codes.Why subscribe?Stay up-to-date without checking your podcast appGet guest offers delivered straight to your inboxAccess all important links in one convenient placeCatch the highlights even when you don't have time to listenAre you ready? Join us at https://www.imperfectadulting.comIf you love the show and you'd like to support it directly you can tip the host here https://imperfect-adulting.captivate.fm/supportHere are a few resources that Amy uses to make all this great content. These are affiliate links :-)For livestreaming and recording ECamm https://www.ecamm.com/mac/ecammlive/?fp_ref=amy69Podcast hosting and distribution: Captivate FM https://www.captivate.fm/signup?ref=ntczmwi Website hosting with Siteground https://www.siteground.com/?referrer_id=9115590Ai Transcription Tool: Castmagic https://get.castmagic.io/ugrmjjrt8ofjFor Email I recently switched to Beehiiv https://www.beehiiv.com?via=Amy-Stonebefore that I used Kit. Books I like and books written by show guests on Bookshop.org https://bookshop.org/lists/podcast-guest-authors

In this episode of The Art of Imperfect Adulting, Amy Stone speaks with Lindsey Tague about the realities and transformations of embracing a full-time nomadic lifestyle. Based out of New York but self-described as a true global citizen, Lindsey shares her journey from corporate burnout to launching a freelance business and ultimately untethering herself from a traditional home. Listeners will gain honest insights into the logistics, myths, emotional shifts, and practicalities of going nomadic, including how Lindsey balanced work, travel, safety concerns, and building a remote community.About Lindsey Tague :Lindsey Tague is a freelance content marketing consultant, brand storyteller, Substack creator of "A Life By Design", and a full-time digital nomad currently based in Mexico City. My passion besides latin dancing is to inspire others to break free from the matrix to discover what their life by design looks like.Main Topics Covered:Breaking free from corporate burnout and launching a location-independent freelance business.Overcoming fears, family risk narratives, and the myths around solo travel for women.The critical importance of connecting to one’s “why” when setting (and sustaining) ambitious life goals.Step-by-step logistics of transitioning from a stable home base to global nomadism: moving out, purging belongings, managing storage, and letting go of a car.Navigating finances, location choices, and the realities of working while traveling abroad—especially the time zone challenge between US and Europe.Methods for building connection and finding community on the road—Facebook expat groups, WhatsApp chats, and hostel culture.Evolving travel rhythms: shifting from rapid destination hopping to longer stays and considering where to potentially “set down roots.”The creation and philosophy behind Lindsey’s “Life by Design” substack, and her new offer to help other women build their own sustainable nomadic lifestyles.Quote from the Episode: "You cannot plan this lifestyle. Even just the transition, the leap... you can say, I’ll pick where I want to go and for how long, but the logistics and figuring things out, you don’t know what it’s going to be like until you’re there." — Lindsey TagueTimestamps: [00:00:06] Introduction &amp; Lindsey’s nomadic definition of “home” [00:01:03] Lindsey’s strategy for sticking with big goals—connecting to “why” [00:02:14] Origin of the travel dream and decision-making process [00:05:41] Leaving corporate, working at a startup, and burnout triggers [00:08:32] Laid off, starting a freelance business, and monetizing skills [00:12:24] Pandemic timeline, moving out, and managing belongings [00:14:45] Logistics: purging, storage unit, selling furniture, and handling a car [00:19:06] Anticipated myths and fears, especially about safety and money [00:21:19] First step: solo travel to Tulum, Mexico, and lessons learned [00:23:44] Work-life balance and time zone tips for digital nomads [00:29:13] Building community while traveling—Facebook groups, WhatsApp, and hostels [00:32:22] Shifting travel rhythms and the search for belonging [00:34:25] Lindsey’s evolution: freelance business, substack, and new coaching offer [00:37:40] Rapid fire: making new places feel homey, travel hacks, and favorite books [00:41:31] Closing thoughts and where to find Lindsey’s resources and special offerFind Lindsey Tague on Substack: https://lindseytague.substack.com/p/a-life-by-design-and-what-five-yearsABOUT THE SHOW: The Art of Imperfect Adulting elevates the voices of experience by sharing real stories from real people figuring out adult life. Every episode features honest conversations about life's choices, changes, and challenges—interviews with individuals (not celebrities) who share their personal experiences and insights. Through these authentic stories, listeners find validation, motivation, and inspiration for navigating their own path through modern life. Because there's a big difference between expert advice and shared experience, and hearing another person's lived experience helps us feel less alone in our own situations.CONNECT WITH THE GUEST: Find Lindsey Tague on Substack: https://lindseytague.substack.com/p/a-life-by-design-and-what-five-yearsIf you love the show and you'd like to support it directly you can tip the host here https://imperfect-adulting.captivate.fm/supportIf you have a story to share and you'd like to be a guest on The Art of Imperfect Adulting, here are the steps for how you can make that happen. Pitch yourself at https://www.imperfectadulting.com/be-a-guestNever Miss a Moment of Imperfect AdultingWe invite you to join our email community and let us bring the podcast directly to you! As a subscriber, you'll receive notifications about new episodes, exclusive offers from our amazing guests, and easier access to any of the important links mentioned on the show—no more scrambling to write down websites or remember special codes.Why subscribe?Stay up-to-date without checking your podcast appGet guest offers delivered straight to your inboxAccess all important links in one convenient placeCatch the highlights even when you don't have time to listenAre you ready? Join us at https://www.imperfectadulting.comHere are a few resources that Amy uses to make all this great content. These are affiliate links :-)For livestreaming and recording ECamm https://www.ecamm.com/mac/ecammlive/?fp_ref=amy69Podcast hosting and distribution: Captivate FM https://www.captivate.fm/signup?ref=ntczmwi Website hosting with Siteground https://www.siteground.com/?referrer_id=9115590Ai Transcription Tool: Castmagic https://get.castmagic.io/ugrmjjrt8ofjFor Email I recently switched to Beehiiv https://www.beehiiv.com?via=Amy-Stonebefore that I used Kit. Books I like and books written by show guests on Bookshop.org https://bookshop.org/lists/podcast-guest-authors

In this episode of The Art of Imperfect Adulting, Amy Stone speaks with Mary Alice Stephens about her journey from high-functioning alcoholic housewife to sobriety and self-acceptance. Based in Marin County, California, Mary Alice Stephens shares candid reflections on growing up in a family with a deep culture of drinking, how alcohol shaped her adult social and professional life, and the pivotal moment that led to quitting for good. This conversation is packed with insights for anyone sober-curious, struggling with social anxiety, or navigating recovery—highlighting the emotional transformation and lasting inner peace Mary Alice discovered on the other side of addiction.Mary Alice Stephens is a creative nonfiction storyteller. A former television writer-producer for HGTV, Food Network, and other media outlets, Mary shares her powerful story of alcoholism, recovery, and starting life anew at 45 in her debut book, Uncorked: A Memoir of Letting Go and Starting Over, which was an Amazon #1 new release in both alcoholism recovery and midlife self-help. She earned her Master of Fine Arts in creative writing from Dominican University of California and lives in Northern California.Main Topics Covered:Family dynamics and the impact of generational drinking culture on identity.The connection between alcohol use and social anxiety, especially in adolescent and young adult years.Why high-functioning alcoholism often goes unseen and unaddressed.The emotional patterns underlying compulsive drinking and attempts to “fit in.”How motherhood, social circles, “wine o’clock” culture, and marketing influence women’s relationship with alcohol.The myth of needing alcohol for fun, relaxation, and connection.Breaking through denial: recognizing the “noise” and compulsion around drinking.Mary Alice’s turning point—her emotional “bottom” moment—and the first steps she took towards sobriety.The role of AA, supportive friendships, and the shift to genuine self-acceptance.What life after drinking really looks like: socializing, cravings, and building authentic peace.Quote from the Episode: "It was the first time that I thought quitting would bring relief." — Mary Alice StephensTimestamps: [00:00:05] Welcome and intro; Mary Alice’s Marin County roots[00:00:55] Mary Alice’s approach to planning and organization; past career as a producer[00:01:29] The fabric of family drinking—Irish Catholic traditions and first encounters with alcohol[00:03:54] Family sobriety “lore,” exposure to addiction, and role models[00:05:06] Alcohol as a social coping strategy—high school, college, TV &amp; advertising industry culture[00:07:21] Early awareness of problem drinking; risky behavior and denial[00:08:26] Serious consequences: breaking her back while drinking abroad, denial, and hiding issues[00:09:35] The “happy drunk” vs. other archetypes, and why her habits flew under the radar[00:11:28] Drinking as self-medication—connection, anxiety reduction, grief, loneliness[00:13:24] Childhood social anxiety, disconnection, and perceptions of ease in others[00:16:37] Facing what quitting means—social isolation, mom groups, and the grip of habit[00:21:18] Emotional bottom: blackout in front of kids and the decision to quit[00:23:53] Turning to AA and finding help through community[00:25:00] Understanding alcoholism as compulsion and internal noise[00:27:16] Double standards and gender roles—women, moms, and the marketing of alcohol[00:30:19] The real first step towards sober living[00:32:23] Relief and internal transformation—moving away from shame, anxiety, and mom judgment[00:33:31] Life after alcohol—socializing, cravings, what changes[00:34:46] Favorite sober beverages and handling social situations[00:36:46] Comparing 2010 drinking days to life now—contentment and inner peace[00:38:25] Mary Alice’s book, memoir details, and listener special offer[00:39:25] Fun lightning round—potluck dish, favorite books, self-care splurges, and final goodbyesFree copy of the book to the first person who messages Mary at her instagram account. @maryalicestephenswritesABOUT THE SHOW: The Art of Imperfect Adulting elevates the voices of experience by sharing real stories from real people figuring out adult life. Every episode features honest conversations about life's choices, changes, and challenges—interviews with individuals (not celebrities) who share their personal experiences and insights. Through these authentic stories, listeners find validation, motivation, and inspiration for navigating their own path through modern life. Because there's a big difference between expert advice and shared experience, and hearing another person's lived experience helps us feel less alone in our own situations.If you have a story to share and you'd like to be a guest on The Art of Imperfect Adulting, here are the steps for how you can make that happen. Pitch yourself at https://www.imperfectadulting.com/be-a-guestNever Miss a Moment of Imperfect AdultingWe invite you to join our email community and let us bring the podcast directly to you! As a subscriber, you'll receive notifications about new episodes, exclusive offers from our amazing guests, and easier access to any of the important links mentioned on the show—no more scrambling to write down websites or remember special codes.Why subscribe?Stay up-to-date without checking your podcast appGet guest offers delivered straight to your inboxAccess all important links in one convenient placeCatch the highlights even when you don't have time to listenAre you ready? Join us at https://www.imperfectadulting.comIf you love the show and you'd like to support it directly you can tip the host here https://imperfect-adulting.captivate.fm/supportHere are a few resources that Amy uses to make all this great content. These are affiliate links :-)For livestreaming and recording ECamm https://www.ecamm.com/mac/ecammlive/?fp_ref=amy69Podcast hosting and distribution: Captivate FM https://www.captivate.fm/signup?ref=ntczmwi Website hosting with Siteground https://www.siteground.com/?referrer_id=9115590Ai Transcription Tool: Castmagic https://get.castmagic.io/ugrmjjrt8ofjFor Email I recently switched to Beehiiv https://www.beehiiv.com?via=Amy-Stonebefore that I used Kit. Books I like and books written by show guests on Bookshop.org https://bookshop.org/lists/podcast-guest-authors

In this episode of The Art of Imperfect Adulting, Amy Stone speaks with D'Layne Benson about navigating burnout, self-abandonment, and the transformative power of breathwork for overwhelmed women. D'Layne shares her journey from the ski resort town of Haley, Idaho, highlighting the impact of over-functioning as a nurse, the emotional toll of family demands, and the personal reckoning brought on by the COVID-19 pandemic. This conversation is packed with actionable insight on nervous system regulation, finding joy, and creating boundaries—key lessons for anyone feeling stretched too thin.D'Layne Benson is a former nurse turned nurse coach and breathwork facilitator, devoted to helping perfectionist, people-pleasing, and overachieving women move from overwhelm to balance, joy, and self-acceptance. Based in Idaho, she draws on her own experience of burnout, family caregiving, and personal growth to support women in uncovering their patterns and building tailored strategies for healing. D'Layne offers both group breathwork classes and one-to-one coaching, specializing in trauma-informed, transformative methods for nervous system regulation.Main Topics Covered:Caring for others vs. caring for yourself: How self-abandonment develops and shows up in high-achieving womenThe realities of burnout as a nurse in rural and pandemic-era IdahoUnderstanding the freeze response and nervous system dysregulation beyond “fight or flight”Breaking patterns of people-pleasing and perfectionism, especially at midlifeThe intersection of personal upheaval (career, health, family illness) and hormonal changes (perimenopause)How breathwork can foster insight, healing, and tangible emotional releaseSteps for moving from overwhelm to joy: list-making, boundaries, and intentional transitionsThe value of finding fun, building presence, and redefining achievement beyond productivityQuote from the Episode: "I was trying to control my husband, I was trying to control my stepson, I was helicopter momming him, I was trying to control my in-laws, I was trying to control my parents. I was trying to control every aspect of life. ... While I felt the control was giving me safety, it was actually the thing that was keeping me from living a beautiful life and thriving." — D'Layne BensonTimestamps: [00:00:06] Welcome to The Art of Imperfect Adulting; D'Layne’s Idaho mountain home[00:01:21] Motivation and how to find the fun in tough projects[00:02:55] List-making, overwhelm, and the power of single-task focus[00:05:33] Life before the pandemic: nursing, family setup, and being “the rock”[00:09:44] Family relationships: husband’s brain injuries, stepson, and self-development[00:14:13] Everything collapsing: pandemic stress, family illness, perimenopause[00:19:34] Why nursing and “helping” became an identity; childhood patterns of achievement and abandonment[00:26:50] Freeze response explained: hidden anxiety in high-performing women[00:32:11] Journey to breathwork: when self-help shifted from helping others to herself[00:39:29] Breakthrough in breathwork: realizing control and safety patterns[00:43:11] Explaining transformative breathwork vs. “just taking a deep breath”[00:47:34] What life looks like now: presence, intention, and happiness after transformation[00:51:27] D'Layne’s current work, virtual breathwork classes, and where to find her[00:54:24] Special listener offer: free live breathwork class (code: imperfectadulting)[00:54:10] Final lightning round: streaming apps, grocery cravings, best social media buy[00:56:06] Closing thank you and reflection on the episodeABOUT THE SHOW: The Art of Imperfect Adulting elevates the voices of experience by sharing real stories from real people figuring out adult life. Every episode features honest conversations about life's choices, changes, and challenges—interviews with individuals (not celebrities) who share their personal experiences and insights. Through these authentic stories, listeners find validation, motivation, and inspiration for navigating their own path through modern life. Because there's a big difference between expert advice and shared experience, and hearing another person's lived experience helps us feel less alone in our own situations.CONNECT WITH THE GUEST: [Guest Name]'s website and social media linksGET D’Layne Benson’s SPECIAL OFFER: Free Virtual Transformative Breathwork Class Use code IMPERFECTADULTING at checkout to join one live breathwork class of your choice — completely free. https://linktr.ee/dlaynebensonwellness?utm_source=linktree_profile_share&amp;ltsid=16708a11-6fed-4dc3-a19c-a46b7ad33c66Join the conversation on social. Find the Art of Imperfect Adulting on Instagram @theartof_imperfect_adulting YouTube @imperfectadulting and TikTok @imperfectadultingIf you have a story to share and you'd like to be a guest on The Art of Imperfect Adulting, here are the steps for how you can make that happen. Pitch yourself at https://www.imperfectadulting.com/be-a-guestNever Miss a Moment of Imperfect AdultingWe invite you to join our email community and let us bring the podcast directly to you! As a subscriber, you'll receive notifications about new episodes, exclusive offers from our amazing guests, and easier access to any of the important links mentioned on the show—no more scrambling to write down websites or remember special codes.Why subscribe?Stay up-to-date without checking your podcast appGet guest offers delivered straight to your inboxAccess all important links in one convenient placeCatch the highlights even when you don't have time to listenAre you ready? Join us at https://www.imperfectadulting.comIf you love the show and you'd like to support it directly you can tip the host here https://imperfect-adulting.captivate.fm/supportHere are a few resources that Amy uses to make all this great content. These are affiliate links :-)For livestreaming and recording ECamm https://www.ecamm.com/mac/ecammlive/?fp_ref=amy69Podcast hosting and distribution: Captivate FM https://www.captivate.fm/signup?ref=ntczmwi Website hosting with Siteground https://www.siteground.com/?referrer_id=9115590Ai Transcription Tool: Castmagic https://get.castmagic.io/ugrmjjrt8ofjFor Email I recently switched to Beehiiv https://www.beehiiv.com?via=Amy-Stonebefore that I used Kit. Books I like and books written by show guests on Bookshop.org https://bookshop.org/lists/podcast-guest-authors

In this episode of The Art of Imperfect Adulting, Amy Stone speaks with Joanna Lilley about supporting young adults who are struggling in college and navigating transitional moments in early adulthood. Joanna, based in Traverse City, Michigan, shares her experience as a therapeutic consultant working with students who step away from college, as well as the challenges faced by their parents. Joanna offers actionable insights for parents navigating this stage, highlights the developmental shifts in emerging adulthood, and discusses her journey from higher education to entrepreneurship.About Joanna Lilley: Since 2016, Lilley Consulting has been helping young adults (18+) find mental health, substance use, and wellness resources.&nbsp; Joanna dedicates herself to working solely with emerging adults who unravel in college or aren’t thriving in adulthood. She also hosts the “Success is Subjective” podcast, which can be found on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and iHeartRadio.Main Topics Covered:The realities and pressures facing college students—including mental health, substance use, and identity formation.Why stepping away from college isn't a failure, and how families can reframe this experience for growth.The impact of technology and social media on young adult connection, comparison, and wellbeing.How parents can support their young adults with boundaries, communication, and community—especially when navigating house rules and independence.Joanna’s story: The pivotal moment when a student asked for direct help and how it led her to launch her consulting practice.Why stigma, secrecy, and “highlight reel” culture make it difficult for families to seek support when young adults struggle.The business side of helping families: Joanna’s role as a therapeutic consultant, speaking to both parents and young adults as distinct clients.The importance of community for parents of young adults—resources, vulnerability, and how to find safe spaces.Quote from the Episode: “It really begins with a reflection. Last year, how did things go? What are the areas that I want to work on? ... It starts with the reflection first and foremost to get that baseline and then identify kind of the visioning for change for the future.”— Joanna LilleyTimestamps: [00:00:06] Amy greets Joanna Lilley, who calls Traverse City, Michigan home. [00:01:19] Joanna discusses her approach to fresh starts rooted in self-reflection. [00:02:39] Joanna explains her former role as a college success coach and involvement in a suspension deferral program for students with substance issues. [00:04:37] Joanna describes her non-linear path into higher ed and passion for supporting young adults. [00:09:58] Joanna defines her current practice: helping “stepping away” college students—and why college isn’t for everyone. [00:12:21] The perfect storm facing today’s young adults: autonomy, connection, and the impact of tech and social media. [00:19:35] Tips for parents: shifting to a “parenting young adults” mindset, setting collaborative house rules. [00:23:50] The vulnerability and isolation of parents whose children struggle; finding supportive communities. [00:25:29] Joanna’s “lightning bolt” moment—helping a student who had been suspended and how institutional limitations inspired her business model. [00:31:01] Joanna navigates the intersection of service and entrepreneurship, helping parents and young adults. [00:39:20] Joanna’s official business description, what therapeutic consulting looks like, and how to get in touch. [00:41:26] Fun Questions: Joanna shares her passion for metalsmithing and a joyful home improvement. [00:44:29] Closing thanks and episode wrap-up.Connect with the guest: https://lilleyconsulting.com/&nbsp;ABOUT THE SHOW: The Art of Imperfect Adulting elevates the voices of experience by sharing real stories from real people figuring out adult life. Every episode features honest conversations about life's choices, changes, and challenges—interviews with individuals (not celebrities) who share their personal experiences and insights. Through these authentic stories, listeners find validation, motivation, and inspiration for navigating their own path through modern life. Because there's a big difference between expert advice and shared experience, and hearing another person's lived experience helps us feel less alone in our own situations.Join the conversation on social. Find the Art of Imperfect Adulting on Instagram @theartof_imperfect_adulting YouTube @imperfectadulting and TikTok @imperfectadulting If you have a story to share and you'd like to be a guest on The Art of Imperfect Adulting, here are the steps for how you can make that happen. Pitch yourself at https://www.imperfectadulting.com/be-a-guestNever Miss a Moment of Imperfect AdultingWe invite you to join our email community and let us bring the podcast directly to you! As a subscriber, you'll receive notifications about new episodes, exclusive offers from our amazing guests, and easier access to any of the important links mentioned on the show—no more scrambling to write down websites or remember special codes.Why subscribe?Stay up-to-date without checking your podcast appGet guest offers delivered straight to your inboxAccess all important links in one convenient placeCatch the highlights even when you don't have time to listenAre you ready? Join us at https://www.imperfectadulting.com If you love the show and you'd like to support it directly you can tip the host here https://imperfect-adulting.captivate.fm/supportHere are a few resources that Amy uses to make all this great content. These are affiliate links :-)For livestreaming and recording ECamm https://www.ecamm.com/mac/ecammlive/?fp_ref=amy69Podcast hosting and distribution: Captivate FM https://www.captivate.fm/signup?ref=ntczmwi Website hosting with Siteground https://www.siteground.com/?referrer_id=9115590Ai Transcription Tool: Castmagic https://get.castmagic.io/ugrmjjrt8ofjFor Email I recently switched to Beehiiv https://www.beehiiv.com?via=Amy-Stonebefore that I used Kit. Books I like and books written by show guests on Bookshop.org https://bookshop.org/lists/podcast-guest-authors

In this episode of The Art of Imperfect Adulting, Amy Stone speaks with Penny Rose about the wild adventure of downsizing, embracing nomadic living, and designing a work-life balance fueled by intention and financial freedom. Penny shares her journey from a packed 1,640 square foot “sticks-and-bricks” house to 250 square feet on wheels, revealing the joys, logistical hurdles, and inner mindset shifts that paved the way for her and her husband’s life on the road.About the Guest:Penny is a CPA who helps multi-six-figure creative business owners gain financial confidence, make fearless decisions, and unlock the freedom they crave. Her journey began not in a business school, but in a high-stakes, freedom-limiting career as a forensic accountant at the FBI. While chained to a traditional office, she knew that to achieve true location and time freedom, she had to build a bulletproof financial system for her own remote business. She successfully created that system, and it became her escape plan.Main Topics Covered:Why Penny and her husband downsized and chose the RV lifestyle—including insurance headaches and financial motivations.The planning, mindset, and logistical challenges of letting go of stuff, brick-and-mortar commitments, and local ties.Emotional resilience in the face of change and feedback from friends/community.The nuts and bolts of RV living: creating new traditions, maintaining community remotely, and the realities of “traveling too fast.”Domiciling in Florida and the tax/legal intricacies for nomads and creators.How Penny’s business “Penny in Your Pocket” supports influencers and travel creators with sound financial strategy—and her new micro podcast and online course for beginners.Quote from the Episode:“We obviously weren't using our space for very much besides storing stuff, stuff that we couldn't even get to... Once I met someone, I'm not only maintaining contact, I'm growing the community as I meet more people.” — Penny RoseTimestamps: [00:00:05] Welcome &amp; where Penny calls home (Orlando, FL—and half the year on the road)[00:01:11] New Year’s traditions and Jeep culture[00:02:43] First RV night: breaking free at the end of 2019[00:03:26] Dreaming, planning, and facing “sticks and bricks” hassles[00:07:52] Financial and emotional motivation for hitting the road[00:09:00] How much stuff? Merging homes and the problem of “too much”[00:10:59] Cutting other ties—work, clubs, church, and setting a departure deadline[00:13:23] Early retirement timing and the role of benefits[00:17:12] Downsizing method and COVID-era logistics; avoiding the storage unit trap[00:20:13] Emotional vs. logistical challenge of letting go[00:22:59] Community response: safety concerns, admiration, and surprise[00:26:41] RV travel rhythm: “living” vs. “touristing,” building connection across states[00:31:13] Domiciling 101: Florida, Texas, South Dakota, and tax homes[00:34:43] Maintaining community online and in-person as a nomad[00:37:56] Boundaries while working and traveling; not “traveling too fast”[00:41:01] RV park favorites and growing new traditions[00:43:58] How Penny’s work supports creators staying on the road[00:46:53] Penny’s new micro podcast and online course for influencer finances[00:51:31] Favorite RV kitchen gadget—a countertop dishwasher![00:53:27] Podcast recommendation: Ramit Sethi’s Money for Couples[00:54:14] What makes RV life “homey”: a cherished quilt from Penny’s grandmotherConnect with the Guest:Website: https://pennyinyourpocketcpa.com/Note from the show: Guest offers are often limited-time and limited quantity. If you have an issue redeeming the guest offer please reach out to the guest or vendor directly.

In this episode of The Art of Imperfect Adulting, Amy Stone speaks with Laura Ericson about the bold journey of leaving a secure career to build an adventurous life and business around world travel. From her base in Eau Claire, Wisconsin (when she's actually home!), Laura details her transformation from director at a technical college to the founder of a thriving group travel company, designing immersive cultural experiences for curious adults. Listeners will walk away inspired by Laura’s candid perspective on divorce, navigating uncertainty, and the practicalities (and emotion) of starting over to pursue a more aligned and exciting life.About Laura Ericson:Laura Ericson is the founder of Laura Ericson Group Trips, a boutique travel company specializing in transformational experiences to off-the-beaten-path destinations like Morocco, India, Kenya, and Cuba. After spending 14 years in higher education leadership, she made the leap to entrepreneurship at 34, turning her post-divorce wanderlust into a business that has taken over 230 travelers to 9 countries. Laura believes in "Type 2 Fun"—those experiences that might suck in the moment but become your best stories later—and is passionate about responsible travel that gives back to local communities. She lives in Wisconsin (yes, really) and has a concerning habit of getting travel tattoos in foreign countries despite swearing she won't after each one.Main Topics Covered:Rethinking New Year’s resolutions: why personal growth isn’t tied to the calendar.The realities and misconceptions of technical colleges vs. four-year universities—and the impact on careers and debt.How divorce, solo travel, and the pandemic sparked Laura’s business transformation.Recognizing when you’re “playing it safe” in life—and how to awaken your adventurous spirit.The emotional process of leaving a secure job for entrepreneurial uncertainty.Overcoming fear: taking real steps (not just dreaming) toward career change.Building community and belonging for solo travelers craving authentic, meaningful adventure.Tangible travel hacks for life on the road—from luggage scales to navigating lost bags.Quote from the Episode: “A lot of people who get divorced, like, see it as the end of their life. I see it as the end of your life as you know it and the opportunity to start over.” — Laura EricsonTimestamps: [00:00:06] Welcome &amp; Laura’s rare appearance at home in Eau Claire, WI[00:00:35] New Year’s resolutions and perpetual goal-setting[00:02:29] Laura’s 14-year career in higher education and the decision to leave[00:03:42] The gap between studying and career path; value of technical college[00:13:21] Major life change: divorce, personal transition, and the pandemic’s impact[00:18:38] Rediscovering adventure through solo travel—and launching a group travel business[00:33:08] The logistics and fear of quitting a stable job[00:35:03] The power of the “decision moment” in career change[00:41:20] Starting a business with nothing but a passion for travel[00:46:36] What Laura Ericson Group Trips is—and who it serves[00:49:29] Favorite travel hacks, books, podcasts, and travel mishapsJoin the conversation on social. Find the Art of Imperfect Adulting on Instagram @theartof_imperfect_adulting YouTube @imperfectadulting and TikTok @imperfectadulting If you have a story to share and you'd like to be a guest on The Art of Imperfect Adulting, here are the steps for how you can make that happen. Pitch yourself at https://www.imperfectadulting.com/be-a-guestNever Miss a Moment of Imperfect AdultingWe invite you to join our email community and let us bring the podcast directly to you! As a subscriber, you'll receive notifications about new episodes, exclusive offers from our amazing guests, and easier access to any of the important links mentioned on the show—no more scrambling to write down websites or remember special codes.Why subscribe?Stay up-to-date without checking your podcast appGet guest offers delivered straight to your inboxAccess all important links in one convenient placeCatch the highlights even when you don't have time to listenAre you ready? Join us at https://www.imperfectadulting.com If you love the show and you'd like to support it directly you can tip the host here https://imperfect-adulting.captivate.fm/supportHere are a few resources that Amy uses to make all this great content. These are affiliate links :-)For livestreaming and recording ECamm https://www.ecamm.com/mac/ecammlive/?fp_ref=amy69Podcast hosting and distribution: Captivate FM https://www.captivate.fm/signup?ref=ntczmwi Website hosting with Siteground https://www.siteground.com/?referrer_id=9115590Ai Transcription Tool: Castmagic https://get.castmagic.io/ugrmjjrt8ofjFor Email I recently switched to Beehiiv https://www.beehiiv.com?via=Amy-Stonebefore that I used Kit. Books I like and books written by show guests on Bookshop.org https://bookshop.org/lists/podcast-guest-authors

In this episode of The Art of Imperfect Adulting, Amy Stone speaks with Lesley Jones about the journey of ditching alcohol and embracing sobriety without waiting for a traditional "rock bottom." Lesley offers candid insights on redefining what it means to have a problem with drinking, the invisible emotional battles behind high-functioning adulthood, and how choosing sobriety has transformed her sense of peace and purpose. The episode provides real strategies for navigating social situations as a non-drinker and explores the power of community support, including Lesley's own work building connections through storytelling.About Lesley Jones: Lesley Jones lives in Dayton, Ohio where she is a wife, mother or 3, writer and entrepreneur. She filled up with cocktails for a very long time, and now she fills up with connection. Lesley is the founder of Traveling Pendants, a jewelry-plus-tech company built on the belief that no one should feel alone in their journey. What began as a simple pendant passed among family members during times of illness has grown into a patent-pending digital storytelling platform where every pendant holds real stories of strength, resilience, and connection. Each time a pendant is worn and shared, its story log grows—creating a living chain of human connection.Main Topics Covered:Redefining "rock bottom" and why waiting for loss is a misconception in recovery.The role of New Year's resolutions and personal motivation in lasting change.Recognizing the emotional and mental weight of addiction—even in high-functioning lives.Sober curiosity, societal judgments, and shifting cultural norms around drinking.Strategies for handling anxiety and stress without substances.Navigating social situations and relationships while staying alcohol-free.The importance of support communities, connection, and sharing your story.Lesley’s entrepreneurial journey: creating Traveling Pendants to foster strength and connection.Quote from the Episode: "I always say quit before you lose because I hate losing. So I did the quitting before I did the losing." — Lesley JonesTimestamps: [00:00:04] Welcome &amp; Lesley’s Ohio roots [00:00:38] New Year's resolutions and how they sparked Lesley's sobriety journey [00:01:53] Discussing the January cultural “reset” and indulgence cycles [00:03:09] Early relationship with alcohol, experimenting with sobriety, and family context [00:05:19] Breaking down the “rock bottom” myth and personal definitions of loss [00:07:05] Misconceptions that keep people stuck and the invisible cost of shame [00:08:38] Making the choice before crisis—internal motivation versus societal expectation [00:10:27] The danger of comparing drinking habits, self-negotiation, and feeling out of control [00:13:01] The mental energy devoted to planning and thinking about drinking [00:14:01] Parallels between food noise, invisible struggles, and substance habits [00:16:07] Why early change leads to easier recovery (“stage zero” analogy) [00:17:46] Why some people with extensive losses may still struggle to quit [00:19:51] Lesley’s turning point: community support and the “not yet” lesson [00:22:45] Reframing sobriety support as a positive group experience [00:25:11] Practical strategies for sober socializing and beverage choices [00:27:43] How sobriety transformed Lesley’s inner life, anxiety, and relationships [00:31:10] Connection between quitting drinking and reduced anxiety [00:33:27] Compassion, motivation, and the underlying drivers of addiction [00:34:45] Shame, invisible struggles, and the cost of high-functioning addiction [00:36:17] Lesley’s vulnerable story of using alcohol to cope with anxiety as a teen athlete [00:40:22] About Traveling Pendants: fostering connection and story-sharing for strength [00:42:03] Special offer for listeners: Traveling Pendants discount [00:43:33] Rapid fire fun questions: morning routines, favorite podcasts/books, and teen bedroom postersSpecial offer for podcast listeners 20% off entire purchase at www.travelingpendants.com Use the code Imperfect to get that deal.If you love the show and you'd like to support it directly you can tip the host here https://imperfect-adulting.captivate.fm/supportIf you have a story to share and you'd like to be a guest on The Art of Imperfect Adulting, here are the steps for how you can make that happen. Pitch yourself at https://www.imperfectadulting.com/be-a-guestNever Miss a Moment of Imperfect AdultingWe invite you to join our email community and let us bring the podcast directly to you! As a subscriber, you'll receive notifications about new episodes, exclusive offers from our amazing guests, and easier access to any of the important links mentioned on the show—no more scrambling to write down websites or remember special codes.Why subscribe?Stay up-to-date without checking your podcast appGet guest offers delivered straight to your inboxAccess all important links in one convenient placeCatch the highlights even when you don't have time to listenAre you ready? Join us at https://www.imperfectadulting.com Here are a few resources that Amy uses to make all this great content. These are affiliate links :-)For livestreaming and recording ECamm https://www.ecamm.com/mac/ecammlive/?fp_ref=amy69Podcast hosting and distribution: Captivate FM https://www.captivate.fm/signup?ref=ntczmwi Website hosting with Siteground https://www.siteground.com/?referrer_id=9115590Ai Transcription Tool: Castmagic https://get.castmagic.io/ugrmjjrt8ofjFor Email I recently switched to Beehiiv https://www.beehiiv.com?via=Amy-Stonebefore that I used Kit. Books I like and books written by show guests on Bookshop.org https://bookshop.org/lists/podcast-guest-authors

Happy New Year from your host, Amy Stone. This is a short introduction to season 2 of The Art of Imperfect Adulting. The purpose of this new short audio trailer is to wake up your podcast feed and let the robots know that new episodes are coming soon. Yay for technology!&nbsp;The mission of the show as we begin 2026 is to amplify voices of individual experience.&nbsp;Fresh and fun interviews coming up next.

Amy Stone, host of The Art of Imperfect Adulting, wraps up her milestone year with episode #178, reflecting on launching the show in January 2025sharing honest lessons learned as a creator in the world of imperfect adulting and personal growth.Topics Amy babbles about in this episode include:• Amy’s heartfelt gratitude for listeners, supporters, and guests—plus a special shoutout to her running buddy Pepe• Behind-the-scenes recap: Amy shares top episodes (Devon Adrian, Jane Epstein), unexpected growth, and podcast milestones• Real talk: Honest reflections on guest feedback, bloopers (like the infamous misspelled name and broken Apple Podcasts link), and what it’s really like running every part of the show herself • Behind-the-scenes insights on finding community, guest surveys, and what’s next as she builds her production team.📧 Join Amy's email list for the real inside scoop: This is where Amy shares what she's working on, where she'll be, and how to work with her www.imperfectadulting.com🎧 If you're looking for the audio podcast you can find links here https://imperfect-adulting.captivate.fm/listen💭 What’s the biggest imperfect lesson you learned this year? Drop your thoughts below!#ImperfectAdulting #PodcastBehindTheScenes #RealStories #PersonalGrowth #LifeTransitions #WomenCreators

In this episode of The Art of Imperfect Adulting, Amy Stone speaks with Austin, Texas-based Megan Okonsky about the realities of letting go of “dream plans,” adulting without a roadmap, and how turning disappointment into adventure can lead to unexpected personal and professional rewards. Megan shares her journey from college graduation and Peace Corps rejection to two years of solo international travel, eventually making a home and career.About the Guest:Megan Okonsky is a professional ghostwriter specializing in memoirs and business books. After pivoting from a degree in public relations and missing out on her Peace Corps dream, Megan spent her early 20s traveling solo through Europe, Southeast Asia, Australia, and South America, all while building her writing career. Her work now helps entrepreneurs and everyday heroes share their stories with the world.Main Topics Covered:Facing rejection and disappointment after college graduationApplying to the Peace Corps and adapting when plans don’t work outSolo travel: Couchsurfing, working abroad, and building resourcefulnessProfound shifts that come with life on the road—and choosing to come homeStarting a freelance writing career on Upwork, turning travel experiences into professional growthThe realities and safety considerations of solo travel, especially for womenHow Megan became a ghostwriter, what ghostwriting involves, and why sharing stories mattersThe importance of community, support systems, and self-discovery in early adulthoodQuote from the Episode:“I decided after two years that I didn’t want to do all of this alone anymore. … I wanted a community. I wanted people to share the memories with.” — Megan OkonskyTimestamps: [00:00:06] Welcome &amp; intros; Megan’s home base and holiday travel talk[00:03:33] Megan’s Peace Corps dream—where it came from[00:06:53] Navigating college and career indecision[00:12:29] Peace Corps rejection and grappling with an uncertain future[00:18:34] How travel became the new plan—finances, flights, and backpacking[00:24:44] Summer trip turns into two years abroad: couchsurfing, hostels, and working[00:34:58] Moving home, searching for community, and planning for the future[00:36:37] Solo travel safety, challenges, and lessons learned[00:45:32] Megan’s ghostwriting career—what she does and who she helps[00:49:56] Lightning round: favorite meal, book recommendation, and running shoesSpecial Offer from the Guest:Megan is offering a complimentary 30-minute discovery call to podcast listeners interested in memoir or business ghostwriting. Mention TAOIA when you book via her website at https://www.meganokonsky.com&nbsp; for priority scheduling.Note from the show: Guest offers are often limited-time and limited quantity. If you have an issue redeeming the guest offer please reach out to the guest or vendor directly.If you love the show and you'd like to support it directly you can tip the host here https://imperfect-adulting.captivate.fm/supportIf you have a story to share and you'd like to be a guest on The Art of Imperfect Adulting, here are the steps for how you can make that happen. Pitch yourself at https://www.imperfectadulting.com/be-a-guestNever Miss a Moment of Imperfect AdultingWe invite you to join our email community and let us bring the podcast directly to you! As a subscriber, you'll receive notifications about new episodes, exclusive offers from our amazing guests, and easier access to any of the important links mentioned on the show—no more scrambling to write down websites or remember special codes.Why subscribe?Stay up-to-date without checking your podcast appGet guest offers delivered straight to your inboxAccess all important links in one convenient placeCatch the highlights even when you don't have time to listenAre you ready? Join us at https://www.imperfectadulting.com Here are a few resources that Amy uses to make all this great content. These are affiliate links :-)For livestreaming and recording ECamm https://www.ecamm.com/mac/ecammlive/?fp_ref=amy69Podcast hosting and distribution: Captivate FM https://www.captivate.fm/signup?ref=ntczmwi Website hosting with Siteground https://www.siteground.com/?referrer_id=9115590Ai Transcription Tool: Castmagic https://get.castmagic.io/ugrmjjrt8ofjFor Email I recently switched to Beehiiv https://www.beehiiv.com?via=Amy-Stonebefore that I used Kit. Books I like and books written by show guests on Bookshop.org https://bookshop.org/lists/podcast-guest-authors

In this episode of The Art of Imperfect Adulting, Amy Stone speaks with Los Angeles- based Missy Toy Ozeas about the transformative journey from people-pleasing and hiding one’s true self to embracing intuition and stepping fully into a new life purpose. Missy shares her story of leaving a decades-long television career after a powerful intuitive message, the challenges of honoring inner guidance after a lifetime of masking, and how synchronistic events shaped her new path as a healer helping others break through limiting beliefs.About the Guest:Missy Toy Ozeas is a highly skilled energy healer and intuitive channel dedicated to helping visionary leaders and change-makers step into their full power by releasing limiting beliefs, trapped emotions, and generational patterns.As an intuitive guide with certifications in the Emotion Code, Body Code, Belief Code, spiritual life coaching and more, Missy has led thousands of sessions helping people live the lives they’ve always dreamed of. Her clients include wellness coaches, entrepreneurs, artists, Hollywood creatives and more.Main Topics Covered:Navigating midlife transitions—career burnout, empty nesting, and “the shoulds” of adulthoodHearing an intuitive message and unraveling lifelong patterns of people-pleasing and maskingThe role of meditation and self-inquiry in discovering one’s true pathOvercoming the fear of judgment from family and communityWhat energy healing really means—from a practical and scientific perspectiveUnderstanding synchronicity and following signs toward purposeful changeWorking with beliefs, intuition, and inherited energy to achieve breakthroughsThe challenges and gifts of coming out as an intuitive and healer after a conventional upbringingQuote from the Episode: "I think that we often ignore it’s like the little itch, that little thing. Because...the universe is always wanting us to expand and to grow. I mean, life is about growing and expanding. And if we’re not doing that, it will start small, like, hey, Missy, you know, check something else out...But if I’m not listening, if I’m not taking action, it’s going to get louder and it’s going to get louder." — Missy Toy OzeasTimestamps: [00:00:04] Welcoming Missy Toy Ozeas &amp; where she calls home[00:00:46] The “shoulds” and the pressures of the holiday season[00:01:47] Hearing the voice: “You are a healer”[00:04:49] How intuition showed up—clairvoyance, not clairaudience[00:05:27] What life looked like before the shift—career in TV, motherhood[00:07:54] Childhood dreams &amp; hiding parts of her identity[00:12:23] Growing up Chinese American in a white neighborhood; learning to mask[00:18:50] The impact of hearing the voice and what changed next[00:21:25] Synchronicities &amp; finding her first energy healing teacher[00:22:50] What is an energy healer? Explaining energy fields, beliefs, and her work[00:27:19] Client stories about inherited beliefs and breakthroughs[00:28:01] The reaction from family, friends, and community[00:29:58] What Missy does today &amp; ways to connect[00:31:55] Rapid fire: favorite food, moon colonies, and driving[00:33:59] ClosingSpecial Offer from the Guest:Unlocking Abundance - $190.&nbsp; Unlocking Abundance is a self-paced program that helps you release hidden energetic blocks and rewire limiting beliefs so you can confidently attract more wealth, freedom, and joy into your life.&nbsp; For your listeners I'm offering 50% off the price of the program.&nbsp; (It will be $95 with the discount.) Use the code IMPERFECT at checkout.&nbsp; Here is the direct link to the Unlocking Abundance sales page:&nbsp; https://www.missyenergyhealing.com/UnlockingAbundanceNote from the show: Guest offers are often limited-time and limited quantity. If you have an issue redeeming the guest offer, please reach out to the guest or vendor directly.If you love the show and you'd like to support it directly you can tip the host here https://imperfect-adulting.captivate.fm/supportIf you have a story to share and you'd like to be a guest on The Art of Imperfect Adulting, here are the steps for how you can make that happen. Pitch yourself at https://www.imperfectadulting.com/be-a-guestNever Miss a Moment of Imperfect AdultingWe invite you to join our email community and let us bring the podcast directly to you! As a subscriber, you'll receive notifications about new episodes, exclusive offers from our amazing guests, and easier access to any of the important links mentioned on the show—no more scrambling to write down websites or remember special codes.Why subscribe?Stay up-to-date without checking your podcast appGet guest offers delivered straight to your inboxAccess all important links in one convenient placeCatch the highlights even when you don't have time to listenAre you ready? Join us at https://www.imperfectadulting.com Here are a few resources that Amy uses to make all this great content. These are affiliate links :-)For livestreaming and recording ECamm https://www.ecamm.com/mac/ecammlive/?fp_ref=amy69Podcast hosting and distribution: Captivate FM https://www.captivate.fm/signup?ref=ntczmwi Website hosting with Siteground https://www.siteground.com/?referrer_id=9115590Ai Transcription Tool: Castmagic https://get.castmagic.io/ugrmjjrt8ofjFor Email I recently switched to Beehiiv https://www.beehiiv.com?via=Amy-Stonebefore that I used Kit. Books I like and books written by show guests on Bookshop.org https://bookshop.org/lists/podcast-guest-authors

In this episode of The Art of Imperfect Adulting, Amy Stone speaks with Texas-based Claudette Fette about raising her son Aaron through schizoaffective disorder, the complexities of finding proper support, and the painful realities of imperfect systems and desperate decisions. This frank, compassionate conversation explores multi-generational trauma, the struggle for diagnosis, and the human side of surviving—and learning from—the unexpected path of parenting a child with serious mental illness.About the Guest:Claudette Fette is an occupational therapist, university lecturer, and lived-experience mental health advocate based in North Texas. After decades spent navigating systems for her son Aaron, Claudette became committed to sharing their story and promoting evidence-based approaches in both family and school settings. She is co-author of "No Saints Here: A Cautionary Tale of Mental Health, Illness and the Cost of Ignorance in the Lone Star State," a memoir written with Aaron chronicling their struggles, lessons, and hope.Quote from the Episode:"Guilt is not as useful. So if it does something, if it helps motivate me to get Aaron's story out there and talk about things in public that I wouldn't otherwise want to have talked about, then it is useful. If it doesn't motivate something that helps, can you really afford it?" — Claudette FetteMain Topics Covered:Raising a child with schizoaffective disorder and multi-layered traumaHow lack of resources and inadequate systems lead families to extreme decisionsThe impact of early childhood adversity, school struggles, and misdiagnosisWhy behavioral approaches can be harmful when mistaken for mental illnessThe realities of abusive residential treatment programs and lost trustThe power of wraparound services, restorative justice, and strength-based modelsNavigating judgment, isolation, and the need for supportive family networksLessons for advocacy, compassion, and building mental health literacyTimestamps:[00:00:07] Welcome and Claudette’s home in North Texas[00:01:10] Holiday challenges for big families[00:02:07] Aaron’s story: early adversity, childhood hallucinations, and lack of parental readiness[00:06:01] Schizoaffective disorder diagnosis and unique challenges in school[00:16:31] Resource scarcity and "moving for specialized care"[00:17:20] Early behavioral challenges vs. underlying mental illness[00:25:04] Misdiagnosis and medical pathways: ADHD to acute residential care[00:31:51] Straight—abusive institutional “treatment” and the aftermath[00:35:16] Aaron living on the streets and “hopping trains”[00:41:23] Magical thinking: what would have helped[00:47:15] Isolation, judgment, and coping as a parent[00:50:49] Sharing Aaron and Claudette’s story through their book[00:58:35] Claudette’s personal life, entertainment, and ideal vacationSpecial Offer from the Guest:Claudette invites listeners to explore her and Aaron’s book, "No Saints Here," offering authentic, practical insight into family mental health. For podcast listeners, she extends an offer to connect and share resources, stories, and support. Order on Bookshop.org https://bookshop.org/a/87491/9781965766064Note from the show: Guest offers are often limited-time and limited quantity. If you have an issue redeeming the guest offer please reach out to the guest or vendor directly.ABOUT THE SHOW: The Art of Imperfect Adulting elevates the voices of experience by sharing real stories from real people figuring out adult life. Every episode features honest conversations about life's choices, changes, and challenges—interviews with individuals (not celebrities) who share their personal experiences and insights. Through these authentic stories, listeners find validation, motivation, and inspiration for navigating their own path through modern life. Because there's a big difference between expert advice and shared experience, and hearing another person's lived experience helps us feel less alone in our own situations.Join the conversation on social. Find the Art of Imperfect Adulting on Instagram @theartof_imperfect_adulting YouTube @imperfectadulting and TikTok @imperfectadulting If you love the show and you'd like to support it directly you can tip the host here https://imperfect-adulting.captivate.fm/supportIf you have a story to share and you'd like to be a guest on The Art of Imperfect Adulting, here are the steps for how you can make that happen. Pitch yourself at https://www.imperfectadulting.com/be-a-guestNever Miss a Moment of Imperfect AdultingWe invite you to join our email community and let us bring the podcast directly to you! As a subscriber, you'll receive notifications about new episodes, exclusive offers from our amazing guests, and easier access to any of the important links mentioned on the show—no more scrambling to write down websites or remember special codes.Why subscribe?Stay up-to-date without checking your podcast appGet guest offers delivered straight to your inboxAccess all important links in one convenient placeCatch the highlights even when you don't have time to listenAre you ready? Join us at https://www.imperfectadulting.com Here are a few resources that Amy uses to make all this great content. These are affiliate links :-)For livestreaming and recording ECamm https://www.ecamm.com/mac/ecammlive/?fp_ref=amy69Podcast hosting and distribution: Captivate FM https://www.captivate.fm/signup?ref=ntczmwi Website hosting with Siteground https://www.siteground.com/?referrer_id=9115590Ai Transcription Tool: Castmagic https://get.castmagic.io/ugrmjjrt8ofjFor Email I recently switched to Beehiiv https://www.beehiiv.com?via=Amy-Stonebefore that I used Kit. Books I like and books written by show guests on Bookshop.org https://bookshop.org/lists/podcast-guest-authors

In this episode of The Art of Imperfect Adulting, Amy Stone speaks with Chicago-based Valerie Friedlander about how intentional choices, including something as small as changing the music you listen to, can lead to major life shifts. Valerie opens up about her journey from family dynamics shaped by addiction, to her self-awareness breakthroughs in college, and her long-standing love affair with music as a tool for emotional processing and personal growth.About the Guest:Valerie Friedlander is a certified life coach, podcast host of Mindset Unlimited, and lifelong Chicagoan with deep roots in music, creativity, and self-development. Valerie is passionate about supporting women through life and career transitions, helping them unpack old patterns and create empowered, intentional lives. She offers coaching, workshops, and a powerful Energy Leadership Index assessment.Main Topics Covered:Valerie’s roots in Chicago and her family’s musical legacy.The ripple effect of growing up in a family impacted by addiction and recovery.Why music is both an emotional touchstone and a tool for moving through difficult feelings.Valerie’s “epiphany moment” realizing she could make different choices about the soundtrack of her life—and what that symbolized for bigger life changes.The importance of intentionality, pausing before responding, and recognizing where we do (and don’t) have agency.Navigating relationships, boundaries, and self-awareness from college through adulthood.Playlists, parenting, technology, and evolving ways to connect with others.The distinction between self-reflection for growth and unhelpful self-judgment about past choices.How Valerie brings these insights to her coaching practice.Quote from the Episode:“I can choose what I resonate with and what serves me... I can choose not to stay there. I can choose to do things that allow me more room in my experience.” — Valerie FriedlanderTimestamps: [00:00:06] Introductions, Chicago roots, and indigenous land acknowledgments[00:02:17] Valerie's love of celebrating with food and cake-making adventures[00:04:03] How music—and Amy Mann’s “Magnolia” soundtrack—became the soundtrack to a pivotal life shift[00:13:48] College, codependency, family recovery, and the toolbox of self-help[00:20:50] The power of self-awareness and talking it out loud[00:32:38] Navigating relationships with pause, consent, and intention[00:40:27] Curating music, playlists, and the power of intentional emotional shifts[00:44:27] Self-reflection, choices, and patterns across adulting[00:55:24] Valerie’s coaching philosophy and how to connect[00:57:38] Final fun questions: movement, research, and connection stylesSpecial Offer from the Guest:The Energy Leadership™ Index (ELI) Assessment. Normally $375. Use the code IMPERFECT for 60% off. https://valeriefriedlander.com/AdultingELINote from the show: Guest offers are almost always limited-time and limited quantity. If you have any trouble redeeming the offer please reach out directly to the guest for support. ABOUT THE SHOW: The Art of Imperfect Adulting elevates the voices of experience by sharing real stories from real people figuring out adult life. Every episode features honest conversations about life's choices, changes, and challenges—interviews with individuals (not celebrities) who share their personal experiences and insights. Through these authentic stories, listeners find validation, motivation, and inspiration for navigating their own path through modern life. Because there's a big difference between expert advice and shared experience, and hearing another person's lived experience helps us feel less alone in our own situations.If you have a story to share and you'd like to be a guest on The Art of Imperfect Adulting, here are the steps for how you can make that happen. Pitch yourself at https://www.imperfectadulting.com/be-a-guestIf you love the show and you'd like to support it directly you can tip the host here https://imperfect-adulting.captivate.fm/supportNever Miss a Moment of Imperfect AdultingWe invite you to join our email community and let us bring the podcast directly to you! As a subscriber, you'll receive notifications about new episodes, exclusive offers from our amazing guests, and easier access to any of the important links mentioned on the show—no more scrambling to write down websites or remember special codes.Why subscribe?Stay up-to-date without checking your podcast appGet guest offers delivered straight to your inboxAccess all important links in one convenient placeCatch the highlights even when you don't have time to listenAre you ready? Join us at https://www.imperfectadulting.com Here are a few resources that Amy uses to make all this great content. These are affiliate links :-)For livestreaming and recording ECamm https://www.ecamm.com/mac/ecammlive/?fp_ref=amy69Podcast hosting and distribution: Captivate FM https://www.captivate.fm/signup?ref=ntczmwi Website hosting with Siteground https://www.siteground.com/?referrer_id=9115590Ai Transcription Tool: Castmagic https://get.castmagic.io/ugrmjjrt8ofjFor Email I recently switched to Beehiiv https://www.beehiiv.com?via=Amy-Stonebefore that I used Kit. Books I like and books written by show guests on Bookshop.org https://bookshop.org/lists/podcast-guest-authors

In this episode of The Art of Imperfect Adulting, Amy Stone speaks with Connecticut based Karen C.L. Anderson about her decision to go “no contact” with a parent, the impact of childhood trauma and shame, and the path to healing and self-acceptance. Karen shares her own story of estrangement from her mother, breaking generational cycles, and creating a life rooted in intentional identity and boundaries.About the Guest:Karen C.L. Anderson is an author, coach, and sought-after voice in the field of mother-daughter relationships. Her latest book, You Are Not Your Mother, and her coaching practice help adult daughters and mothers understand and shift family patterns, recover from shame, and create healthier boundaries. Karen brings a blend of lived experience, deep empathy, and practical wisdom to the conversation.Main Topics Covered:The slow, complicated process of deciding to go no contact with a parentChildhood trauma, neglect, and learning about shameEstrangement, cultural expectations, and family “rules”The emotional aftermath and healing that unfolds after setting boundariesUnderstanding nervous system responses, enmeshment, and generational cyclesHow new frameworks—including coaching and intentional identity—can change your relationship with shameThe difference between reconciliation, boundaries, and acceptanceQuote from the Episode:“I was trying and trying and trying and also thinking, well, there must be something wrong with me that I can't seem to get along with my mom... And then, I remember getting an email from her that said that she was disappointed in the person that I'd become. And it was like a knife in the heart.” — Karen C.L. AndersonTimestamps:[00:00:10] Welcome, where Karen calls home, and unconventional ways of celebrating[00:01:27] Decision to cut off contact with her mom—process, context, and terminology[00:04:47] Family structure, siblings, and growing up in blended families[00:05:41] Parental loss and the compounding grief of estrangement[00:07:28] Painful turning point: “I never felt safe with my mom”[00:16:07] Substance abuse, neglect, and lack of support in childhood[00:19:32] Adult friendship/enmeshment, codependency, and nervous system responses[00:22:10] Recognizing shame—Brené Brown and the awakening to inner narratives[00:24:33] Modalities and self-development: what helped (and what didn’t)[00:29:50] Setting a boundary: the practicalities and emotional fallout of no contact[00:36:02] Long-term impact, breaking generational cycles, and finding contentment[00:38:18] Karen’s work helping adult daughters and/or mothers heal and set boundaries[00:41:09] Fun quick questions—morning routines, favorite books, and Italian iceKaren’s Book is on Amazon and Bookshop.orghttps://bookshop.org/a/87491/9781684812660https://www.amazon.com/You-Are-Not-Your-Mother/dp/1684812666Note from the show: Guest offers are often limited-time and limited quantity. If you have an issue redeeming the guest offer please reach out to the guest or vendor directly.Join the conversation on social. Find the Art of Imperfect Adulting on Instagram @theartof_imperfect_adulting YouTube @imperfectadulting and TikTok @imperfectadulting If you have a story to share and you'd like to be a guest on The Art of Imperfect Adulting, here are the steps for how you can make that happen. Pitch yourself at https://www.imperfectadulting.com/be-a-guestNever Miss a Moment of Imperfect AdultingWe invite you to join our email community and let us bring the podcast directly to you! As a subscriber, you'll receive notifications about new episodes, exclusive offers from our amazing guests, and easier access to any of the important links mentioned on the show—no more scrambling to write down websites or remember special codes.Why subscribe?Stay up-to-date without checking your podcast appGet guest offers delivered straight to your inboxAccess all important links in one convenient placeCatch the highlights even when you don't have time to listenAre you ready? Join us at https://www.imperfectadulting.com If you love the show and you'd like to support it directly you can tip the host here https://imperfect-adulting.captivate.fm/supportHere are a few resources that Amy uses to make all this great content. These are affiliate links :-)For livestreaming and recording ECamm https://www.ecamm.com/mac/ecammlive/?fp_ref=amy69Podcast hosting and distribution: Captivate FM https://www.captivate.fm/signup?ref=ntczmwi Website hosting with Siteground https://www.siteground.com/?referrer_id=9115590Ai Transcription Tool: Castmagic https://get.castmagic.io/ugrmjjrt8ofjFor Email I recently switched to Beehiiv https://www.beehiiv.com?via=Amy-Stonebefore that I used Kit. Books I like and books written by show guests on Bookshop.org https://bookshop.org/lists/podcast-guest-authors

In this episode of The Art of Imperfect Adulting, Amy Stone speaks with Emily Guerra. Emily is a Los Angeles native, productivity coach, and founder of The Productivity Flow. The conversation is about navigating unexpected career upheaval, redefining family support systems, and finding mindful balance amid major life transitions. Emily shares her journey from collegiate event planner with a clear path, to a pandemic-induced detour that led her to entrepreneurship and personal growth. Through candid stories about living with ADHD, family dynamics, and pivoting careers, Emily offers hope, perspective, and practical advice for anyone facing life’s curveballs.About the Guest:Emily Guerra is a lifelong Angeleno and founder of The Productivity Flow. With a background in event planning, a passion for systems and mindfulness, and lived experience managing ADHD, Emily now helps individuals and entrepreneurs design balanced, sustainable, and productive lives—especially in the new era of hybrid and work-from-home routines.Main Topics Covered:Navigating the sudden loss of a planned career due to the pandemicRe-examining family support systems and expectations as a young adultTransitioning from event planning to launching a freelance business during lockdownThe interplay between ADHD, systems creation, and productivityBuilding resilience, gratitude, and self-advocacy through therapy and coachingHow the new work-from-home paradigm demands rethinking productivity and boundariesImportance of strong peer, family, and community support networks in young adulthoodQuote from the Episode:"I need to take back control of my life. Like, this is ridiculous. I've really given all of my power away. I am placing blame on everyone but myself. And I need to take some accountability and, like, actually get my act together and see what I am able to do." — Emily GuerraTimestamps:[00:00:04] Emily’s LA roots, pandemic career plans, and rituals for transitioning from work to downtime[00:04:41] Event planning background, childhood influences, and love for systems[00:10:54] How COVID changed her graduation, forced moves, and revealed family realities[00:16:19] Emotional impact of losing parental safety nets and therapy breakthroughs[00:23:08] Reclaiming agency: from stuck to entrepreneurial action[00:26:10] Navigating support, FOMO, and digital community during lockdown[00:29:20] Launching a social media freelance business—and shifting to productivity coaching[00:34:23] The through-line of systems and work-life balance[00:38:05] Revisiting event planning and choosing self-employment[00:40:11] Why old productivity advice doesn’t work in the work-from-home era[00:42:12] Emily’s current offerings, community, and special session for listeners[00:43:41] Final fun questions: LA weather, Justin Bieber, and event planner etiquetteABOUT THE SHOW: The Art of Imperfect Adulting elevates the voices of experience by sharing real stories from real people figuring out adult life. Every episode features honest conversations about life's choices, changes, and challenges—interviews with individuals (not celebrities) who share their personal experiences and insights. Through these authentic stories, listeners find validation, motivation, and inspiration for navigating their own path through modern life. Because there's a big difference between expert advice and shared experience, and hearing another person's lived experience helps us feel less alone in our own situations.Special Offer from the Guest:A Product: Productivity Alignment Session. We'll uncover what's keeping you stuck and reveal the next best step to take towards your most balanced and productive self.Value: $150 Audience Special offer: FREEFill out this survey and book your call: https://download.theproductivityflow.com/free-productivity-alignment-session-surveyNote from the show: Guest offers are often limited-time and limited quantity. If you have an issue redeeming the guest offer please reach out to the guest or vendor directly.Join the conversation on social. Find the Art of Imperfect Adulting on Instagram @theartof_imperfect_adulting YouTube @imperfectadulting and TikTok @imperfectadulting If you have a story to share and you'd like to be a guest on The Art of Imperfect Adulting, here are the steps for how you can make that happen. Pitch yourself at https://www.imperfectadulting.com/be-a-guestIf you love the show and you'd like to support it directly you can tip the host here https://imperfect-adulting.captivate.fm/supportNever Miss a Moment of Imperfect AdultingWe invite you to join our email community and let us bring the podcast directly to you! As a subscriber, you'll receive notifications about new episodes, exclusive offers from our amazing guests, and easier access to any of the important links mentioned on the show—no more scrambling to write down websites or remember special codes.Why subscribe?Stay up-to-date without checking your podcast appGet guest offers delivered straight to your inboxAccess all important links in one convenient placeCatch the highlights even when you don't have time to listenAre you ready? Join us at https://www.imperfectadulting.com Here are a few resources that Amy uses to make all this great content. These are affiliate links :-)For livestreaming and recording ECamm https://www.ecamm.com/mac/ecammlive/?fp_ref=amy69Podcast hosting and distribution: Captivate FM https://www.captivate.fm/signup?ref=ntczmwi Website hosting with Siteground https://www.siteground.com/?referrer_id=9115590Ai Transcription Tool: Castmagic https://get.castmagic.io/ugrmjjrt8ofjFor Email I recently switched to Beehiiv https://www.beehiiv.com?via=Amy-Stonebefore that I used Kit. Books I like and books written by show guests on Bookshop.org https://bookshop.org/lists/podcast-guest-authors