The Ideal Identity

What do we do when the load we carry becomes too heavy to make sense of? We all face moments in life characterized by deep suffering that feels impossible to navigate or overcome, and oftentimes it feels like it consumes us entirely and changes us against our own will.In this episode, I share a small fragment of my own journey, and how presence and prayer have transformative and healing properties. Listen to how you can perceive things differently, in order to elevate into the highest version of self.

The removal of Iran’s Supreme Leader Ali Khamenei has the world talking about a new world order, and as a result you can notice a level of certainty and confidence that things will improve internally in the country. The only problem is that change cannot be built on a foundation filled with cracks and fueled by hatred. Today, we see a dangerous pattern repeating itself. There is a celebration of foreign interference on one's own soil, out of a desperate desire for new beginnings. It is the same emotional fire that fueled the 1979 replacement of Mohammad Reza Shah Pahlavi, with Ayatollah Ruhollah Khomeini - a maneuver that proved that any action birthed from hate can only produce a harvest of further suffering. A former monarchy was exchanged with a rule under Islam, by the hands of its own citizens.I argue the importance of choosing logic over the impulse of revenge, for a short lived victory in disguise. I also use Chess as a metaphor, to prove this point. If you lose your logical neutrality to the fire of emotion, you have already checkmated yourself on behalf of your opponent. If you aren't thinking 10-20+ moves ahead, you aren't playing the game - you are being played. The same is true for world politics. Listen to lessons stemming from Henry Kissinger and Diplomacy, The Cuban Missile Crisis and why a truly free Iran requires a paradigm shift - from an emotionally unrestrained stalemate, to a calm and calculated check-mate.

Ever felt like you finally cracked the code to your life, only to find yourself spiraling over a minor setback? In this episode, I’ll explore how anyone can face momentary setbacks and how to overcome it, so the inner critic doesn’t prevail. Learn how you can treat your mistake like a technical error rather than a character flaw. It’s time to stop the punishment, fix the glitch, and get back to the business of building the life you crave!

Most of the world is spending today in a state of waiting—for a text, a gift, or a person to tell them they are enough. As of this moment, you’re officially opting out of that because you are not a fraction; you are already complete. In this special Valentine’s Day edition of The Ideal Identity, we’re skipping the clichés and going straight to the core: The relationship you have with yourself. If you’ve been operating from a place of lack, we’re here to flip that script and upgrade your self-love to a level that radically changes your external experience. You’ll discover how your internal dialogue dictates your reality and what you can do to embody wholeness—becoming a magnet for limitless love.Whether you’re single, taken, or "it’s complicated," this episode is a quick reminder of what matters today—and every other day.

Success isn't something you stumble upon; it's something you become. If you've ever wondered why some crash and burn repeatedly despite having every advantage, the answer lies in an identity that isn't calibrated for the win.This episode dismantles the Lottery Mindset - the internal glitch that causes individuals to squander opportunities as quickly as they occur.I'll explore why the self-concept acts as the ultimate gatekeeper of your reality, and how the subconscious standards you've established dictate your capacity to generate a long-term result.Stop chasing the jackpot. Start fixing the foundation.

Welcome to The Ideal Identity.One year after launching Arshia knows best, or does she?, I’ve officially changed the title to better align with my vision. In this episode, I explain the "why" behind this transition and how I utilized my own choice-making systems to navigate the shift.By breaking down the mechanics of how these systems work, I’ll show you how to better understand and use them for your own strategic pivots. This episode also serves as a roadmap for what to expect from this next chapter of the show as I move into a sharper, more intentional era.The evolution starts here. Press play to step into your Ideal Identity.

I’ve always operated with an over-abundance of care, finding my greatest purpose in making sure others feel seen and supported. But I’ve learned the hard way that a heart with no limits eventually becomes limited.In this episode, I’m reframing what it means to say no. For too long, I viewed setting boundaries as "fixing a flaw," but I’ve come to realize that it’s actually about protecting a gift. I’m always one to show up, but the truth is that I can't be there for anyone else if I’m gasping for air myself. A boundary isn’t a stop sign to keep going—it’s simply a fueling station to do so.Join me as I open up about voicing my own needs, and why choosing myself first is the only way I can keep choosing others.

This episode is as raw as they come. Join me for twelve minutes (one for every month of the year) as I rant, reflect, and relive the chaos of 2025.Since this year is almost over it means it's time to leave the weight behind, but make darn sure to take the wisdom with you! May 2026 serve as the year you step into your "best self" era—a year where you finally stop being afraid to do good by yourself, for yourself.

As we transition toward a new year, it’s natural to reflect on everything that was achieved and everything that wasn't. If you are feeling that familiar pressure or frustration, this episode offers some thoughts.Letting go of control doesn't mean giving up; it means becoming adaptable to life's inevitable challenges. When things don't pan out as visualized, it's not game over - it's simply time to readjust and try again, differently.The key to moving forward and growing as you do so is simple: focus on consistent, small daily steps, while committing to being fully present and understanding that your best efforts will fluctuate from one day to another - as with everything else in life. By absorbing the bumps on the road and not resisting them, good things will happen in their own time, and as a bonus you’ll find yourself on a much smoother journey while being accompanied by inner peace.

In an age where self-interest and ego is in focus, the dismantlement of our most basic needs is accelerating. Society is tightening its firm grip on citizens, broadcasting false ideas and damaging narratives, threatening whatever is left of the collective good. Consequently, we must learn to notice and neutralize the three Ds, that ultimately paves the way for the fourth D: Distraction, Distortion, Division - and Destruction.In this episode, I talk about why we need a higher purpose than just ourselves. I discuss the reasons of why we need a belief system—not just to survive, but more importantly, in order to thrive—and how teachings from the Bible or the ancient Persian religion Zoroastrianism, can help to fuel the cause for a greater good.By the end of the episode, I hope you will be more inclined to identify your Guiding Light and Shepherd. Discover how acts of good is the true gateway to endless abundance, and how it unlocks the door to a life of creation and confidence amidst the chaos, thus reclaiming your fortitude while generating lasting meaning.

What do you do when a life you admired inspires you to change your own? This episode is a personal tribute to Charlie Kirk. His character, way of being and reasoning profoundly affected me and set me on a new path. Join me as l explore some topics that will create room for personal growth.Ultimately, this is my story about cultivating positive ideas and taking actions towards a better self - inspired by a powerful legacy.

Ever feel like you're chasing things that aren't quite right for you? In this full moon special, I’ll share what it means to tap into your intuition. You’ll learn more about the difference between what you want and what you truly need, and how that simple distinction can change everything on your path. When you lean into this process, you'll discover that the two can become synchronized in ways you never expected.This episode is all about learning to love yourself and be patient with yourself as you navigate through life’s hardships; transforming pain into power. It's a powerful practice that helps you stop forcing outcomes, and start seeing clearly how your life aligns perfectly, all on its own, when you get out of the way. Trust the journey and the right things will find you!

What if the key to navigating your darkest moments isn't about finding a new path, but about discovering an indestructible purpose within you?In this episode I explore the timeless wisdom of Viktor E. Frankl in his book Man's Search for Meaning. I corroborate the belief that the world is how we perceive it, based on who we are - not as it is.This is a guide to reigniting your sense of purpose and finding meaning through suffering, offering a roadmap to not just survive, but to truly become a leveled-up version of yourself.

Get ready to pump up your life! In this episode, we're cracking open The Arnold Blueprint - a wild, unbelievable journey from a small village in Austria, to Hollywood fame and the governor's office. This isn't just the success story of Arnold Schwarzenegger; it's your permission slip to dream bigger, flex your ambition, and build a life that looks exactly how you want it.Forget any unwritten societal rules and make your own instead. It's time to actualize your true potential and create your own destiny - starting today!

Do you ever find yourself entertaining worst case scenarios in your head, where thoughts about insignificant things are blown way out of proportion? You're not alone! In this episode, we dive into the concept of Catastrophic thinking - a sneaky, cognitive habit of exaggerating potential negative outcomes, far beyond what's realistic. Discover why our brains engage in this thought pattern and, more importantly, learn how to master it so it can’t control your reality. Tune in for some insights and practical exercises that will help you quiet the "what-ifs" and claim a clearer, calmer mindset. It's time to make your thoughts work for you - not against you!

This episode isn't about pursuing fleeting introductions; it's about redefining what true networking is. Learn how to build meaningful, win-win relationships that fuel mutual career and personal growth. Undergo a paradigm shift, from endlessly seeking contacts to becoming a powerful magnet in your field, where authentic opportunities and connections naturally gravitate towards you.Dive into this personalized playbook for purposeful engagement. It will equip you with the essential mindset and preparations you'll need before any interaction, whether in person or online. You'll gain new perspectives to understand the true dynamics of forging lasting bonds and why previous efforts might have felt unproductive - fundamentally shifting your approach by prioritizing the creation and exchange of real value.Lastly, you'll learn how to nurture these new foundations so they transform into thriving collaborations that support everyone's ambitions - all on your terms.

Ready to shift your reality and attract true abundance? This episode is where your journey truly begins.We're diving into the hidden rules of wealth, revealing how to maximize your active income, build powerful passive streams, and leverage your unique skills to create financial freedom.Discover how to dismantle limiting beliefs, amplify your worth, and strategically surround yourself with success. Drawing from titans of finance and personal development, this is a powerful, no-nonsense guide to creating the plentiful life you deserve. Tune in, get inspired, and start building your legacy.

This episode is your radiant invitation to step into your most authentic era yet! Get ready to say a confident "no" to the good, so you can shout a resounding "YES!" to the great.Inspired by a birthday on the horizon and Mallorca's peaceful rhythm, I'll share how the beauty of slow living intertwines with the impact of an empowered presence.You'll learn that reclaiming your time and embracing intentional living isn't about rigid scheduling or becoming a productivity robot. It's about igniting your deepest desires and dancing to your own unique beat for gentle progress.Prepare to feel inspired, fulfilled, and absolutely ready to shine!

Ever been stumped by big goals? What if the universe's most surprising lessons about crushing success came from... a frog? Seriously!This isn't your average self-help fluff. We're diving into Jeff Olson's book "The slight edge” which is a philosophy about the compound effect, where tiny, consistent daily actions secretly transform into mind-blowing results for your money, your health, and your happiness. Get ready for an amusing, slightly unusual, yet shockingly profound story about two frogs caught in a truly sticky situation. It's the ultimate secret weapon you didn't know you needed, taught by the most unlikely guru. Hit play, and get ready to see how small steps will lead to massive leaps - forward or backward, depending on how you position yourself!

In this special episode, recorded directly from the tranquil Swedish countryside, I explore the vital building blocks of self-care and self-compassion.Discover actionable steps to strengthen your mind, energize your body, and cultivate inner fortitude. Learn how prioritizing yourself can lead to a more balanced and fulfilling life. Tune in for some essential insights, if you are ready to embrace lasting well-being!

Ever feel like you are not where you want to be, yet?This episode reveals how the simple act of doing a thing often enough transforms you. Learn how to leverage your thoughts into consistent action, thereby installing habits that will turn your aspirations into an undeniable reality. Embrace the discomfort in order to become the new, updated version of you!

Are you tired of nanoships and superficial interactions? Do you want to become better at recognizing its signs early on, to avoid it entirely? This episode is for you!We’ll explore some of the key barriers hindering authentic connection in the realm of modern dating today.Discover some of the recurring trends and gain valuable perspectives to cultivate more fulfilling relationships. Learn more about how things like fear of compromising independence and a lack of self-confidence, can and will derail you on your dating journey.

In a world brimming with diverse viewpoints, active listening transcends mere communication - it's a direct route to personal growth. By truly hearing and understanding others, even those with opposing ideas, you unlock valuable new perspectives that broaden your thinking and enhance your ability to navigate our complex world with greater wisdom and empathy. Break down bias, bridge divides, and expand your horizons, by shifting from monologue to meaningful dialogue - today!

Navigating the currents of life! This episode dives into the powerful relationship between progress and flux. Discover how constant change isn't an obstacle, but an inherent part of growth. Learn to embrace uncertainty, build resilience, and understand why this dynamic duo is key to designing the life you truly crave. Tune in to gain inspiring insights and a fresh perspective on your journey.

Inspired by a film that sparked deep reflection on love and the preciousness of life, this 30-minute special is about living life to the fullest. Witnessing a near-tragedy on screen ignited a powerful reminder: to express love, to embrace the present, and to release any fears that may hold you back. We also explore when it’s ok to let something go, to make room for something else, as time is life - and life can never be retrieved again.

Vulnerable minds, weaponized information, and a battle for control. How do you defend against digital manipulation and maintain sanity amidst the chaos? Doomscrolling and information overload are among the most insidious threats of our time, but resistance is possible. This episode provides you with a crucial toolkit, empowering you to question everything, filter the noise, and reclaim your mental headspace.

Can your desired reality exist before it manifests? This episode explores the cosmic dance of divine timing, quantum physics, and the law of attraction - revealing how they intertwine.Discover why perseverance through hardship is not a roadblock, but a catalyst. Surrendering control and trusting the unseen process will lead to breakthroughs when you expect it the least.Is your moment of 'Aligned Ascension' closer than you think?

Exhausted from the emotional rollercoaster? Tired of wondering if it's just a one-off thing or a never-ending saga? This episode is for you. We're not talking about navigating the occasional ups and downs. We're talking about recognizing emotional volatility for what it is: a toxic pattern that drains your energy, steals your joy and numbs you to the reality and severity of your situation.Whether it's with a partner, family member or someone else close to you, discover the telltale signs of this destructive cycle. When is enough enough? If you’re so accustomed to the chaos that you've stopped flinching, this is your wake-up call.

This special episode uncovers the profound power of self-love, revealing its transformative potential. Weaving together the wisdom of Brené Brown, Marisa Peer, Jay Shetty, and Esther Perel, we explore how vulnerability, mindset, inner peace, and individuality intertwine to create deep self-compassion. Discover practical tools for embracing your imperfections and building an unshakeable foundation of self-worth. Leave this episode with a renewed sense of self and the inspiration to cultivate a truly loving relationship with the most important person in your life: you.

Want to bend reality? This episode dives into Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), a mind-blowing field that explores the link between your thoughts, words, and actions. It's a sneak peek into how you can influence your own mind and unlock your hidden potential. Prepare to have your perspective shifted - you need to hear this!

In this episode I’ll talk about how you can elevate yourself by breaking free from the perceived chains of restraint, that hold you back from living your best life.

In this episode you’ll get an insight to some of the most useful financial advice available. I’ll dive into the teachings of George S. Clason from his book “The richest man in Babylon” in order for you to embark on a journey of mastering your finances.

How fear of failure or imperfection can hold you back in life, and how you can overcome it for day(s) on end. Note: This episode includes a blooper or two.**

Turns out today is THE day, where I’m deciding to do everything I want to do - one step at a time. Launching my podcast and publishing my first episode in one go - without edits! You’re in for a real treat, and even though I’m a little nervous I’m doing this raw and right away!