The Leadership Break

Episode 17 | Becoming the Leader You Trust At some point in leadership, growth isn't about learning more—it's about trusting yourself with what you already know. In this episode of The Leadership Break, Paula explores the difference between confidence and self-trust, and why even experienced leaders hesitate when making important decisions. If you've ever found yourself second-guessing, seeking extra validation, or waiting until you feel "ready," this conversation will challenge that pattern. You'll learn how self-trust is built, why hesitation shows up even at higher levels of leadership, and how to move forward without perfect certainty. Because effective leadership isn't about having all the answers—it's about trusting yourself to handle what comes next. In this episode, we explore: The difference between confidence and self-trust in leadership Why leaders second-guess decisions (even when they know the answer) How to stop seeking unnecessary validation Building trust in yourself through consistent action Decision-making without perfect clarity Reflection question: Where are you still asking for permission you don't actually need? Keywords: leadership development, self-trust, decision-making, leadership confidence, overcoming self-doubt, executive coaching, leadership mindset * If this episode resonated, share it with someone who could use a little more support in their leadership. And remember… Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review wherever you listen to podcasts.  Is there something you'd like Paula to discuss?  Send her an email at [email protected]. #Leadership #Mindset #ResilientLeadership #LeadingWithHeart Music by Chris Collins, https://indiemusicbox.com/

Episode 16 | What It Actually Looks Like to Choose Differently Awareness is powerful—but it's not enough. In this episode, we move from insight to action. What does it actually look like to choose differently in the moment—when you're triggered, challenged, or feeling defensive? Through real examples and practical language, we explore how leaders can stay in the conversation without losing themselves—and why small shifts in response can change everything. In This Episode, We Explore: Why awareness alone doesn't change your leadership The subtle ways leaders shut down conversations without realizing it What choosing differently actually sounds like in real time Simple phrases that help you stay grounded and curious under pressure Question Worth Exploring: Who are you when it's hard to be who you say you are? Listener Reflection Prompts: Where in my leadership am I aware of a pattern—but not changing it? What is one moment this week where I can choose a different response? What would it sound like for me to stay curious instead of defensive? Closing Thought You don't need to become a different leader—but you do need to become more intentional in the moments that matter most. * If this episode resonated, share it with someone who could use a little more support in their leadership. And remember… Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review wherever you listen to podcasts.  Is there something you'd like Paula to discuss?  Send her an email at [email protected]. #Leadership #Mindset #ResilientLeadership #LeadingWithHeart Music by Chris Collins, https://indiemusicbox.com/

Episode 15 | The 5 Seconds That Define Your Leadership There's a moment most leaders overlook—the few seconds right before they react. It's not the big decisions that define your leadership. It's the small, almost invisible moments where emotion rises and you choose what happens next. In this episode, we explore how quickly leaders can lose themselves under pressure—and how to begin noticing the patterns that shape your reactions. Because awareness is the first step toward leading yourself differently. In This Episode, We Explore: Why leadership breakdowns happen in micro-moments—not major failures How emotional triggers show up in real time (and how to recognize them) The difference between reacting and responding A simple practice to help you pause before you speak Question Worth Exploring: Where do you lose yourself most quickly when you're under pressure? Listener Reflection Prompts: When was the last time I reacted instead of responded? What triggered it? What does it feel like in my body when I'm about to react? What would it look like to pause—even for a few seconds—before responding? Closing Thought The way you lead—especially when it's hard—matters more than you realize. * If this episode resonated, share it with someone who could use a little more support in their leadership. And remember… Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review wherever you listen to podcasts.  Is there something you'd like Paula to discuss?  Send her an email at [email protected]. #Leadership #Mindset #ResilientLeadership #LeadingWithHeart Music by Chris Collins, https://indiemusicbox.com/

Episode 14 | Viewing Feedback as a Gift (Without Pretending It's Easy) You've probably heard the phrase "feedback is a gift." But sometimes it feels more like a brick. In this episode of The Leadership Break, Paula explores how leaders can receive feedback with curiosity rather than defensiveness—and why discernment is just as important as openness. Not every piece of feedback is perfect, but thoughtful leaders know how to listen, extract insight, and grow. In this episode: Why not all feedback should be treated the same How curiosity can reduce defensiveness Learning to separate signal from noise The leadership advantage of humility Reflection Questions What kind of feedback tends to trigger defensiveness in you? Who in your life is willing to tell you the truth? What would change if people felt completely safe giving you honest feedback? * If this episode resonated, share it with someone who could use a little more support in their leadership. And remember… Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review wherever you listen to podcasts.  Is there something you'd like Paula to discuss?  Send her an email at [email protected]. #Leadership #Mindset #ResilientLeadership #LeadingWithHeart Music by Chris Collins, https://indiemusicbox.com/

Episode 13 |  Why Feedback Feels Like a Threat (and Why Leaders Get Defensive) Receiving feedback is part of leadership—but that doesn't mean it's easy. In this episode of The Leadership Break, Paula explores why even thoughtful, well-intentioned leaders sometimes feel defensive when feedback is offered. Defensiveness isn't a character flaw—it's often a natural response to feeling that our competence, identity, or belonging is being questioned. In this conversation, Paula discusses how leaders can pause, reflect, and begin to see feedback as valuable information rather than personal criticism. In this episode: Why feedback can feel threatening for leaders The three common defensive reactions leaders experience The difference between intent and impact A powerful question that can change how you receive feedback Reflection Questions When was the last time feedback made you feel defensive? What story did your mind immediately begin telling? What part of your leadership identity may have felt challenged? * If this episode resonated, share it with someone who could use a little more support in their leadership. And remember… Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review wherever you listen to podcasts.  Is there something you'd like Paula to discuss?  Send her an email at [email protected]. #Leadership #Mindset #ResilientLeadership #LeadingWithHeart Music by Chris Collins, https://indiemusicbox.com/  

Episode 12 | When You're Leading and You're Not the Boss - Part 2 Staying, Speaking, or Leaving With Integrity When leadership above you falls short, leaving can feel like relief. Sometimes it is the right choice. But what happens when leaders leave without ever claiming their voice? In this second episode of the series, Paula explores the deeper discernment leaders face when working under weak leadership—and how to choose a path forward without shrinking, disappearing, or abandoning self-trust. This episode isn't about staying longer than you should. It's about making conscious, courageous choices—whether that means staying, preparing, or leaving. In this episode, we explore: Why leaving can feel easier than risking your voice The difference between relief and resolution Three intentional paths forward: stay and influence, stay and prepare, or leave with integrity How leaders unintentionally feel smaller when choices are driven by avoidance What it means to reclaim agency—no matter what you decide This episode is for leaders ready to choose themselves without burning bridges or losing their sense of worth. * If this episode resonated, share it with someone who could use a little more support in their leadership. And remember… Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review wherever you listen to podcasts.  Is there something you'd like Paula to discuss?  Send her an email at [email protected]. #Leadership #Mindset #ResilientLeadership #LeadingWithHeart Music by Chris Collins, https://indiemusicbox.com/

Episode 11 | When You're Leading and You're Not the Boss - Part 1 Many capable leaders find themselves leading without the title, authority, or support that usually comes with that role and they find themselves doing their boss's job. They're steadying teams, holding standards, and absorbing tension—often quietly. In this episode of The Leadership Break, Paula explores the most common mistake leaders make when they're leading without authority: staying silent in the name of professionalism while frustration leaks out in other ways. This episode is an invitation to examine silence, venting, and overfunctioning—and to reclaim agency without becoming reactive or resentful. In this episode, we explore: Why silence is often mistaken for maturity The hidden cost of venting instead of speaking directly The difference between processing and avoidance What is (and isn't) yours to carry when you're not the boss How to lead with clarity without overstepping or shrinking This conversation is for leaders who want to stay aligned with themselves—even when the system around them isn't working well. * If this episode resonated, share it with someone who could use a little more support in their leadership. And remember… Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review wherever you listen to podcasts.  Is there something you'd like Paula to discuss?  Send her an email at [email protected]. #Leadership #Mindset #ResilientLeadership #LeadingWithHeart Music by Chris Collins, https://indiemusicbox.com/

Episode 10 | The Radical Act of Doing Something That Goes Somewhere—Slowly In this episode of The Leadership Break, Paula reflects on a simple but challenging practice: creating a temperature blanket, one row at a time, over the course of a year. What begins as a hobby becomes a lesson in patience, restraint, and sustained commitment. For leaders in the quiet middle, progress is rarely dramatic—but it is meaningful. This episode explores why slow, steady effort can feel uncomfortable, how leaders "bring the weather" for their teams, and what it looks like to model a humane pace in a culture that rewards urgency. A reflective episode for leaders learning to trust consistency over intensity—and to honor progress that unfolds one row at a time. * If this episode resonated, share it with someone who could use a little more support in their leadership. And remember… Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review wherever you listen to podcasts.  Is there something you'd like Paula to discuss?  Send her an email at [email protected]. #Leadership #Mindset #ResilientLeadership #LeadingWithHeart Music by Chris Collins, https://indiemusicbox.com/

Episode 9 | Mentorship without a Pedestal – Guiding while still Becoming Mentorship is often portrayed as a polished exchange of wisdom — the expert guiding from a place of certainty. But real mentorship rarely looks like that. In this episode of The Leadership Break, Paula explores a more honest, human approach to mentoring: guiding others while you're still growing yourself. This conversation is for seasoned, trusted leaders who've been asked to mentor — and quietly wondered if they're really ready. You'll hear why mentorship isn't about having all the answers, but about walking alongside someone with curiosity, humility, and presence. Through a coaching story, Paula reframes mentorship as witnessing rather than fixing, and explains why being honest about your own learning edges builds trust, not doubt. Paula also shares practical tools you can bring into any mentoring conversation, including: Asking before advising Normalizing the "middle" of leadership Reflecting instead of rescuing Naming your own growth edges Checking your energy and mentoring from integrity This episode is a reminder that leadership isn't about pretending, and mentorship isn't about mastery. It's about connection, conversation, and guiding others while you're still becoming yourself. Tune in for a grounded, encouraging take on mentorship — and permission to step off the pedestal. * If this episode resonated, share it with someone who could use a little more support in their leadership. And remember… Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review wherever you listen to podcasts.  Is there something you'd like Paula to discuss?  Send her an email at [email protected]. #Leadership #Mindset #ResilientLeadership #LeadingWithHeart Music by Chris Collins, https://indiemusicbox.com/

Episode 8 | The Power of Staying: Leading When the Work Feels Ordinary In a culture that constantly celebrates what's new, bold, and next, choosing to stay can feel uncomfortable — even irresponsible. Especially for leaders. We're often told that growth means movement, reinvention, or a big leap forward. But what if that's not always true? In this episode of The Leadership Break, Paula explores the quiet, often overlooked strength of staying. The seasons of leadership where the work feels ordinary, steady, or less visible — yet deeply meaningful. These are the moments when trust compounds, relationships deepen, and culture is truly shaped. You'll hear why boredom and restlessness aren't always signs it's time to leave, how to distinguish staying from settling, and why depth, consistency, and commitment are forms of courageous leadership. Paula also offers gentle reflection questions and practices to help you reconnect with purpose when the work no longer feels shiny — but still matters. This conversation is for leaders who are tempted to chase the next thing, but sense there may be wisdom in tending what's already been built. It's a reminder that not all growth looks like motion. Sometimes it looks like roots. Tune in for a thoughtful pause — and permission to honor the power of staying.   * If this episode resonated, share it with someone who could use a little more support in their leadership. And remember… Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review wherever you listen to podcasts.  Is there something you'd like Paula to discuss?  Send her an email at [email protected]. #Leadership #Mindset #ResilientLeadership #LeadingWithHeart Music by Chris Collins, https://indiemusicbox.com/

The Leadership Break Season 2, Episode 7 - The Moment You Outgrow a Role Episode Summary: How do you know when it's time to grow, shift, or step into a new chapter of leadership? In this episode, Paula explores the subtle signals that show up long before we consciously realize we've outgrown a role — the restlessness, the quiet fatigue, the sense that our work no longer stretches us in the ways it once did. You'll hear how to distinguish exhaustion from evolution, why "outgrowing" isn't failure but feedback, and what healthy discernment looks like when you're standing in a threshold season. Paula offers a simple reflection framework to help you understand what still gives you energy, what's depleting you, and what's quietly calling you forward. This conversation is an invitation to listen inward with honesty and compassion — and to trust the parts of you that are ready for more. * If this episode resonated, share it with someone who could use a little more support in their leadership. And remember… Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review wherever you listen to podcasts.  Is there something you'd like Paula to discuss?  Send her an email at [email protected]. #Leadership #Mindset #ResilientLeadership #LeadingWithHeart Music by Chris Collins, https://indiemusicbox.com/

The Leadership Break Season 2, Episode 6 - Tiny Shifts, Big Difference: Staying Steady in Leadership Episode Summary: In the messy, everyday middle of leadership, the most powerful shifts are often the smallest ones. In this episode, Paula shares simple, real-life micro-practices and tiny resets that help you stay grounded, present, and focused while leading others. From a single deep breath to a doorway pause, these practices aren't performance tricks—they are a life line. They help you stay steady and present before the next meeting, the next decision, or the next hard conversation. Because leadership doesn't always need a sabbatical or a strategy overhaul. Sometimes, it just needs a pause. * If this episode resonated, share it with someone who could use a little more support in their leadership. And remember… Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review wherever you listen to podcasts.  Is there something you'd like Paula to discuss?  Send her an email at [email protected]. #Leadership #Mindset #ResilientLeadership #LeadingWithHeart Music by Chris Collins, https://indiemusicbox.com/

The Leadership Break Season 2, Episode 5 — When the Inner Critic Evolves Episode Summary: In this episode, Paula explores how self-talk changes as we grow in leadership. Rather than disappearing, the inner critic becomes quieter, more sophisticated, and often more believable. Paula shares why this matters, how to work with your inner voice, and a simple 4-step framework to shift self-talk from self-doubt to wisdom. Key themes The inner critic evolves with experience Self-talk often signals transition—not inadequacy Meaning + alignment become central questions A 4-step practice to notice, get curious, find protection, and invite a wiser voice Try this At day's end, ask: What did my inner voice say? What was it trying to protect? What truth can I offer instead?   If this episode resonated, share it with someone who could use a little more support in their leadership. And remember… Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review wherever you listen to podcasts.  Is there something you'd like Paula to discuss?  Send her an email at [email protected]. #Leadership #Mindset #ResilientLeadership #LeadingWithHeart Music by Chris Collins, https://indiemusicbox.com/

The Leadership Break Season 2, Episode 4 – The Hidden Joys of Leadership Episode Summary: We've talked about the stretch and the invisible labor of leadership—but today, we're pausing to notice something else: the quiet joys that come with leading. In this episode, Paula highlights the overlooked moments that remind leaders why the work matters. From the small breakthroughs to the gratitude that lingers years later, we'll explore the fuel that sustains leaders through the middle years of their journey. You'll hear about: Why the most meaningful joys in leadership rarely make the headlines Stories of overlooked moments that leaders often miss How joy becomes part of your leadership legacy A few simple reflection prompts to help you notice the good that's already happening Leadership is heavy, yes—but it's also deeply rewarding when you pause to see it. * If this episode resonated, share it with someone who could use a little more support in their leadership. And remember… Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review wherever you listen to podcasts.  Is there something you'd like Paula to discuss?  Send her an email at [email protected]. #Leadership #Mindset #ResilientLeadership #LeadingWithHeart Music by Chris Collins, https://indiemusicbox.com/

The Leadership Break Season 2, Episode 3 – The Cost of Carrying It All: Finding Energy in the Middle Episode Summary: In this episode of The Leadership Break, Paula Chapulis explores the unseen toll of leadership when you're no longer new, not yet done, and carrying more than anyone notices. We talk about the hidden cost of "carrying it all," and practical ways to sustain energy in the middle stretch of leadership. You'll hear: How leadership weight shows up in your body, emotions, and relationships Why pausing is the paradoxical solution leaders often resist Four practices to refill energy and lead with presence If you've been running on empty, this episode is your reminder that you don't have to lead from exhaustion — you can lead from a place of renewal. * If this episode resonated, share it with someone who could use a little more support in their leadership. And remember… Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review wherever you listen to podcasts.  Is there something you'd like Paula to discuss?  Send her an email at [email protected]. #Leadership #Mindset #ResilientLeadership #LeadingWithHeart Music by Chris Collins, https://indiemusicbox.com/

The Leadership Break Season 2, Episode 2 – What It's Like to Lead from the Middle Episode Summary: In this episode, Paula explores the often-unseen stretch of leadership known as "the middle"—where you're not new, not done, and carrying more than most realize. Through anonymous stories from education leaders, managers, and nonprofit founders, she shines a light on the invisible labor leaders take on every day: emotional buffering, culture holding, and the weight of responsibility without recognition. If you've ever felt tired in a way that rest doesn't fix, this episode offers validation, language, and practical ways to keep going. Highlights: The emotional and invisible labor of middle leadership Real stories of leaders navigating pressure from all sides Simple practices to name, normalize, and release what you're carrying A reminder: You are not alone, and your work matters Reflection prompt: What invisible labor have you carried this week—and who sees it?  AND - what invisible labor do you see others carrying?  Take a moment to thank them too.   If this episode resonated, share it with someone who could use a little more support in their leadership. And remember… Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review wherever you listen to podcasts.  Is there something you'd like Paula to discuss?  Send her an email at [email protected]. #Leadership #Mindset #ResilientLeadership #LeadingWithHeart Music by Chris Collins, https://indiemusicbox.com/

Season 2, Episode 1 – The Myth of Balance Welcome back to The Leadership Break! Season 2 opens with a new theme: Quiet Leading Through the Middle.  It's the stretch of leadership no one prepares you for, when you're not brand new, not done, and carrying more than most people see. In this episode, Paula unpacks one of the most common leadership struggles: balance. What if balance isn't the goal at all, but a myth that leaves us chasing the impossible? Instead, Paula offers a more grounded approach - clarity and choice - so you can honor your capacity and focus on what truly matters this season. Take a breath. You don't have to do it all. You just have to carry what matters most now. New episodes drop twice a month through May.   If this episode resonated, share it with someone who could use a little more clarity and choice in their leadership. And remember… Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review wherever you listen to podcasts.  Is there something you'd like Paula to discuss?  Send her an email at [email protected]. #Leadership #Mindset #ResilientLeadership #LeadingWithHeart Music by Chris Collins, https://indiemusicbox.com/

Welcome to the Season 1 wrap-up of The Leadership Break. I'm Paula Chapulis, leadership and mental health coach, and in this episode, I'm reflecting on what this season has meant for me, and maybe for you too. We've explored: How to redefine success on your own terms What to do when imposter syndrome creeps in How to lead through burnout, grief, and doubt Why vulnerability isn't weakness, it's wisdom And how presence and compassion are leadership superpowers Key Takeaways: ✔ Rest is not weakness—it's leadership fuel ✔ You don't have to do it all to be doing it well ✔ Vulnerability isn't weakness. It's wisdom. And as we close this chapter, I'll share a glimpse of what's ahead in Season 2—more courage, more honesty, and more voices joining the conversation. Take a breath, press play, and thank you for walking this season with me. Season 2 is coming fall of 2025.

Episode 13: Behind the Break: Something to Leave Behind Summary: In this deeply personal Behind the Break episode, Paula reflects on the real reason behind The Leadership Break podcast—not just to share leadership insights, but to leave something meaningful behind. Something her daughters can return to. Something that captures the essence of what she believes about courage, leadership, and being a good human in a complicated world. She shares a recent moment with one of her daughters and how it reminded her that this work, this voice, this presence—it matters. Not just for today, but for the future. This episode is an invitation to reflect on your own quiet legacy and what you're leaving behind through your presence, your stories, and your heart. Quote to Carry: A good life is not measured by what we build for ourselves, but what we build into others. — David Brooks, The Second Mountain   If this episode resonated, share it with someone who could use a little more courage and clarity in their leadership. And remember… Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review wherever you listen to podcasts.  Is there something you'd like Paula to discuss?  Send her an email at [email protected]. #Leadership #Mindset #ResilientLeadership #LeadingWithHeart Music by Chris Collins, https://indiemusicbox.com/

Episode 12 - Hard Conversations & Money Wounds: What I'm Learning Lately Summary: In this episode of The Leadership Break, Paula shares what she's been reflecting on while reading The Next Conversation by Jefferson Fisher and Make Money Easy by Lewis Howes. From navigating tough conversations to healing money wounds, she offers personal stories and coaching insights that connect the dots between communication, self-worth, and leadership. What You'll Hear About: Why creating space for the next conversation matters more than winning the current one A personal story about revisiting a hard conversation that built trust How money wounds can shape our relationship with worth and pricing What it looks like to rewrite stories around money, value, and leadership One powerful question to ask yourself before any tough conversation Take This With You: Leading well means connecting deeply — with others and with yourself. Whether you're navigating a difficult dialogue or rethinking your money mindset, courage and curiosity can change the outcome. Links & Resources: The Next Conversation – Jefferson Fisher Make Money Easy – Lewis Howes Listen to more episodes at Aiyana Coaching Stay Connected: Loved this episode? Share it with a friend, and let Paula know what it sparked for you. You can message her on Instagram or LinkedIn @aiyanacoaching. Music by Chris Collins, https://indiemusicbox.com/

The Leadership Break – Episode 11: Delivering Difficult Feedback with Compassion Host: Paula, Leadership and Mental Health Coach Episode Summary: Welcome back to The Leadership Break! In today's episode, we're diving into a challenge every leader faces but few feel equipped to handle: delivering difficult feedback. Paula shares real coaching insights and introduces a practical, human-centered approach to handling tough conversations with clarity, empathy, and courage. You'll walk away with a powerful model to guide your next feedback conversation—and maybe even shift how you think about feedback altogether. 💡 In This Episode, You'll Learn: Why avoiding difficult feedback weakens your team—not protects it. The cost of sidestepping hard conversations. How to approach feedback with clarity and compassion. A simple, powerful tool: the ONIS Model (Observation, Notice, Impact, Solution). What not to do: like the feedback sandwich or emotionally loaded language. The mindset shift from performance management to human-centered leadership. 🧠 Key Takeaways: "Direct is kind." —Brené Brown (and Paula agrees!) Difficult feedback done well strengthens trust, rather than breaks it. Leading with empathy starts before the conversation begins. Listening deeply and reflecting back builds psychological safety. Feedback is a bridge, not a breakdown. 🛠️ The ONIS Model: O – Observation: Start with what you've seen or heard, without judgment. N – Notice: Name the behavior neutrally (not assumptions). I – Impact: Share the effect it's having on the team or outcomes. S – Solution: Invite a collaborative way forward. ✨ Leadership Challenge: Think of one conversation you've been avoiding. Ask yourself: "What would it look like to approach it with empathy and the ONIS model?" 📝 Journaling Prompt: What gets in the way of delivering feedback for me? What becomes possible if I lead with compassion instead of fear? 📩 Connect with Paula: Tried the ONIS model or had a breakthrough? Paula would love to hear from you! Send her an email at [email protected] and share how it went. If this episode resonated, share it with someone who could use a little more courage and clarity in their leadership. And remember… Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review wherever you listen to podcasts. Until next time: Keep leading with heart—and don't forget to take your break. 💛   #Leadership #Mindset #ResilientLeadership #LeadingWithHeart Music by Chris Collins, https://indiemusicbox.com/

Episode Summary: Welcome back to The Leadership Break – the podcast for people who serve, support, and lead others… and sometimes just need a moment to breathe. In this special Behind the Break episode, Paula steps out from behind the mic to share a raw and honest moment from her own leadership journey. Ever found yourself whispering, "I can't do this anymore"? This episode is for you. Paula opens up about a recent season of emotional fatigue—not quite burnout, but something heavy—and the quiet yet powerful decisions she made to return to herself. She talks about how to listen to what exhaustion is really saying, and why taking a break doesn't mean giving up. From reworking her schedule to asking a hard question—what part of me wants to quit?—this episode is an invitation to reflect, recalibrate, and reclaim your energy. In This Episode: The real story behind "Behind the Break" What it means to want to quit—not the work, but the way we're doing it Signs you might be leading from exhaustion, not energy Small shifts that made a big difference (like blocking off mornings, walking pad wins, and lunch breaks!) A gentle reminder: you can rest without quitting Reflection Question and Guide: Is it the work itself… or the way you've been carrying the work?  For a free reflection guide: https://aiyanacoaching.com/free-workbook-for-podcast-listeners/ Paula's Invitation: Take a break before your body or spirit forces you to. Even a 10-minute pause with honesty can change how you show up. Connect with Paula: If this episode spoke to you, send a message and share what kind of leadership break you need right now. Let's keep the conversation going. Stay in touch: Share your thoughts or questions with Paula by emailing her at [email protected]. Stay tuned for more insights on leadership and communication in upcoming episodes of The Leadership Break. Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review wherever you listen to podcasts. Until next time: Keep leading with heart—and don't forget to take your break. 💛 #Leadership #Mindset #ResilientLeadership #LeadingWithHeart Music by Chris Collins, https://indiemusicbox.com/  

Podcast Show Notes: Grief and Growth: A Leader's Journey (Part 2) Episode Summary: Welcome back to The Leadership Break! In this episode, we continue exploring leadership through grief, focusing on how to support a team member navigating their own grief journey. We'll discuss how to foster both personal growth and team well-being, offering flexibility, connecting with resources, and maintaining the delicate balance between empathy and professionalism. Leaders who create a safe space and provide genuine support can transform challenges into opportunities for collective growth. Key Takeaways: We explore five essential areas for leaders to support grieving team members: Create a Safe Space for Expression Encourage open dialogue in a judgment-free environment. Build trust by sharing relatable (but not assumptive) experiences. Balance empathy with professionalism by respecting boundaries and individual needs. Offer Flexibility and Adjust Workloads Adapt schedules and allow remote work where possible. Delegate and redistribute tasks to avoid overwhelming any single team member. Show the team that their well-being is a priority. Connect Team Members with Professional Resources Share information about Employee Assistance Programs (EAPs) and counseling services. Normalize seeking professional support and offer encouragement. Let team members know they have options without pressuring them. Regular Check-ins with Empathy Conduct informal, scheduled one-on-ones to provide a safe space for discussion. Balance work discussions with emotional support. Respect personal boundaries while remaining accessible. Respect Their Process and Privacy Allow individuals to grieve at their own pace without imposing expectations. Maintain confidentiality and avoid discussing personal grief in group settings. Recognize that grief manifests differently for each person, requiring a tailored approach. Final Thoughts: Supporting a grieving team member is an honor and an opportunity to strengthen workplace relationships. As leaders, our ability to navigate these moments with compassion and understanding can foster a resilient, supportive culture. Call to Action: Thank you for listening to The Leadership Break! If today's episode resonated with you, consider sharing it with someone who might find it valuable. Don't forget to subscribe for more conversations on leadership, growth, and resilience. Keep leading with empathy, and we'll see you next time! Subscribe & Follow: Apple Podcasts | Spotify  Connect with us on at https://aiyanacoaching.com/ #Leadership #GriefSupport #EmpathyInLeadership #GrowthThroughGrief

The Leadership Break Episode: Leading Through Grief – A Leader's Journey (Part 1) Host: Paula Chapulis, PCC - ICF Certified Leadership and Mental Health Coach Episode Overview: Navigating leadership while experiencing personal loss is one of the toughest challenges a leader can face. In today's episode of The Leadership Break, I share my personal experience of leading while grieving, as well as practical strategies to support yourself as a leader during times of loss. This is Part 1 of a two-part series. In this episode, we focus on how you can manage your own grief while continuing to lead effectively. In Part 2, we'll explore ways to support team members who are grieving. Key Takeaways: Acknowledge and Validate Your Emotions Grief is a natural part of the human experience, not a sign of weakness. The RAIN Principle (Recognize, Allow, Investigate, Nurture) can help process emotions. Being open about emotions can foster trust within your team. Prioritize Self-Care and Seek Support Self-care isn't just about external comforts; it's about inner kindness and self-compassion. Therapy or counseling can provide valuable support, especially for complicated grief. Peer support groups and mentorship can be powerful resources for healing. Practice Open and Transparent Communication Honest dialogue helps create a culture of trust and resilience. Setting and communicating boundaries is crucial to prevent burnout. Temporary shifts in productivity are normal—be upfront about your needs. Set Realistic Goals and Adjust Expectations Reassessing priorities can help you focus on what truly matters. Delegating tasks can create opportunities for team growth and development. Adapting your leadership style to your emotional capacity can build resilience. Tune in to Part 2 for more insights on how to support grieving team members while maintaining a strong and compassionate leadership presence. Resources & Links: Connect with me: https://aiyanacoaching.com/ Instagram: aiyanacoaching LinkedIn: aiyanacoaching More on the RAIN Principle by Tara Brach: https://www.tarabrach.com/rain/ Recommended Reading on Grief & Leadership: https://grief.com/ 💡 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with others who may find it helpful. Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review!

The Leadership Break: The Truth About Self-Care for Leaders Episode Summary: Welcome back to The Leadership Break, the space where leaders come to unwind, refuel, and reinforce self-belief. In this episode, we're rethinking self-care—not as external luxuries like vacations or spa days, but as an inside job. Leaders, you carry the emotional weight of your teams, organizations, and missions, and true self-care starts with how you treat yourself internally. We'll explore: ✅ How your inner dialogue impacts your leadership. ✅ The role of self-compassion in building resilience. ✅ Practical strategies to manage self-criticism and reframe negative thoughts. ✅ The power of emotional awareness and how to process challenging feedback. You set the tone for your team—so what kind of weather do you bring? Let's dive in and discover how internal self-care sustains strong and effective leadership. Key Takeaways: 🔹 Self-Care Begins Internally – External self-care is great, but it doesn't address the root of burnout, stress, or self-doubt. Your internal dialogue plays a crucial role in how you show up as a leader. 🔹 Challenge Negative Self-Talk – Notice when you say things like, "I should have done better." Reframe it with self-compassion: "I did the best I could with what I knew at the time." 🔹 Pause and Check-In with Yourself – When receiving feedback, resist the urge to be defensive. Ask, What's really going on inside me? Acknowledge your emotions instead of dismissing them. 🔹 Use the R.A.I.N. Method (by Tara Brach) to process emotions: Recognize the feeling. Allow it space. Investigate what's behind it. Nurture yourself with kindness. 🔹 Practical Tip: Keep a journal of your self-talk. Identify negative patterns and rewrite them in a way that empowers you. Your Challenge for This Week: Pay attention to your self-talk, your thought patterns, and how you treat yourself emotionally. What's one small shift you can make to practice self-care from the inside out? If this episode resonated with you, share it with another leader who needs to hear it. 🎧 Thank you for tuning in to The Leadership Break! Until next time—take a deep breath, give yourself some grace, and keep leading with heart. Stay in touch: Share your thoughts or questions with Paula by emailing her at [email protected]. Stay tuned for more insights on leadership and communication in upcoming episodes of The Leadership Break. Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review wherever you listen to podcasts. #Leadership #SelfCare #Mindset #ResilientLeadership #LeadingWithHeart Music by Chris Collins, https://indiemusicbox.com/

In this episode of The Leadership Break, Paula Chapulis dives into the art of active listening—a foundational yet often overlooked leadership skill. Discover how mastering active listening can transform your team's communication, foster trust, and boost performance. Paula shares personal insights, practical tips, and actionable strategies to help you enhance this critical skill in your leadership journey. Key Topics Covered: What is Active Listening? Active listening involves being fully present, engaged, and empathetic while tuning into both verbal and nonverbal communication. It's about listening to understand, not just to respond. Why Active Listening Matters in Leadership Builds trust and psychological safety. Strengthens team relationships and collaboration. Facilitates better decision-making by truly understanding others' perspectives. Core Elements of Active Listening Presence and Attention: Eliminate distractions and focus on the speaker. Empathy and Understanding: Validate feelings and understand intentions beyond words. Clarification and Curiosity: Ask thoughtful questions to ensure clarity and foster deeper conversations. Nonverbal Communication: Use body language to demonstrate attentiveness and interpret unspoken cues. Reflection and Paraphrasing: Summarize and reflect on key points to confirm understanding. Nonjudgmental Space: Create an environment that encourages openness and honesty. Actionable Feedback: Offer thoughtful responses that align with the speaker's needs. Avoid Interruptions: Allow others to fully express their thoughts before responding. Overcome Common Barriers: Address distractions, biases, and emotional reactions. Practical Strategies for Leaders Incorporate active listening into team interactions to foster better communication. Use tools like noticing, observing, sharing impacts, and collaborating on solutions for feedback. Key Takeaways: Active listening is a skill that requires intention, effort, and practice. It's not just about hearing words but truly understanding and connecting with the speaker. As a leader, practicing active listening sets the tone for your team, enhances psychological safety, and strengthens relationships. Quote of the Episode: "Active listening is a powerful tool in your leadership toolkit. By truly hearing your team, you can build stronger relationships and drive better outcomes." Call to Action: Share your thoughts or questions with Paula by emailing her at [email protected]. Stay tuned for more insights on leadership and communication in upcoming episodes of The Leadership Break. Let us know how active listening has impacted your leadership journey! Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review wherever you listen to podcasts. Music by Chris Collins, https://indiemusicbox.com/

In this episode of The Leadership Break, Paula Chapulis, an ICF-certified leadership and mental health coach, dives into the critical topic of identity in leadership. Your identity as a leader influences your values, priorities, behaviors, and ultimately, the culture and impact you create. Paula explores five key areas where identity plays a pivotal role in leadership: authenticity, self-awareness, resilience, vision and influence, and inclusivity. Whether you hold a formal leadership title or not, adopting a leadership mindset can transform how you approach challenges, inspire others, and make decisions. Tune in to discover how understanding and embracing your identity can elevate your leadership journey. What You'll Learn in This Episode: Why Identity Matters: The influence of self-perception on leadership values, decisions, and behaviors. The power of viewing leadership as a mindset rather than a title. Five Key Areas of Leadership Identity: Authenticity: Building trust through alignment of actions and values. Self-Awareness: Understanding strengths, weaknesses, and biases for personal and professional growth. Resilience: Staying centered and focused during adversity. Vision & Influence: Articulating a clear purpose to inspire confidence and align teams. Inclusivity: Recognizing diverse identities and fostering belonging. How Identity Enhances Leadership Skills: Decision-making grounded in core values. Adapting communication styles to connect with diverse audiences. Role modeling values and behaviors for teams. Balancing adaptability with consistency during times of change. Empowering others by embracing and modeling authentic leadership. Reflection Questions for Leaders: Who am I as a leader? What values and beliefs define my leadership? How does my identity influence my interactions? How can I use my identity to build trust and inspire growth in my team? Key Takeaway: By embracing your identity, you align personal growth with professional impact, creating a leadership style that is both authentic and fulfilling. Resources and Connection: Connect with Paula Chapulis and explore her coaching services: Website: https://aiyanacoaching.com/ Instagram: aiyanacoaching LinkedIn: aiyanacoaching Call to Action: Reflect on today's episode and ask yourself: What small step can I take today to align my leadership identity with my actions? Enjoyed this episode? Don't forget to leave a review, share it with fellow leaders, and join us next time on The Leadership Break! Music by Chris Collins, https://indiemusicbox.com/    

Welcome to The Leadership Break, the podcast where leaders can unwind, recharge, and reconnect with their purpose. I'm your host, Paula Chapulis, an ICF-certified leadership and mental health coach. In this episode, we explore the powerful practice of connecting with your future self—a concept that bridges the gap between your present actions and long-term aspirations. Whether you're starting a new year, entering a new season of life, or grappling with a tough decision, this episode invites you to envision your future self and consider what they might need or want you to know today. Through insights and a guided exercise, you'll discover how this practice can help you gain clarity, reduce stress, and align with your long-term goals. Key Takeaways: The Power of Future Self-Connection: How visualizing your future self promotes purpose, resilience, and identity growth. 7 Reasons Why It Matters: From enhancing self-compassion to improving decision-making and emotional regulation. A Guided Contemplation Exercise: Journey to meet your wiser elder self and access their insights to inform your current challenges. Recommended Reading: Learn more about intentional transformation through Be Your Future Self by Dr. Benjamin Hardy, and explore his earlier works co-authored with Dan Sullivan, such as The Gap and the Gain. Resources Mentioned: Be Your Future Self: The Science of Intentional Transformation by Dr. Benjamin Hardy The Gap and the Gain by Dr. Benjamin Hardy & Dan Sullivan Positive Intelligence practices by Shirzad Chamine Reflection Questions: What did you learn from connecting with your wiser elder self? How can these insights guide your decisions and actions today? Connect with Paula: Website: https://aiyanacoaching.com/ Instagram: aiyanacoaching LinkedIn: aiyanacoaching Thanks for taking a break with me today! Take a moment for yourself—listen, reflect, and step closer to becoming the best leader you can be.  If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe, share it with other leaders, and leave a review. Let's keep the conversation going on LinkedIn or Instagram—find me at @aiyanacoaching. Until next time, take care and keep believing in yourself. Music by Chris Collins, https://indiemusicbox.com/

Episode Summary: In this episode of The Leadership Break, host Paula Chapulis, an ICF-certified leadership and mental health coach, dives into the concept of the pause and why it's a game-changer for leaders and coaches alike. Paula shares insights from her journey toward becoming a Master Certified Coach (MCC) and reflects on the importance of slowing down to foster deeper connections, encourage team growth, and enhance problem-solving. What You'll Learn in This Episode: How pausing enhances presence, listening, and intuition as a coach. The parallels between coaching and leadership when it comes to pausing before responding or acting. Why asking questions and encouraging others to find their own solutions leads to better results in leadership. Lessons from Paula's journey toward MCC certification, including unlearning old habits and embracing mastery. The concept of "one problem, two solutions" as a leadership tool. Key Takeaways: The Power of a Pause in Coaching: A pause allows you to be fully present and invested in the moment. It helps coaches catch subtle cues, fostering deeper exploration and client transformation. Pausing in Leadership: Pausing before speaking or acting can lead to more thoughtful decisions and stronger team dynamics. Encouraging team members to think critically and propose solutions builds their confidence and skills. The Journey to Mastery: Paula's pursuit of MCC certification is teaching her to slow down, trust her intuition, and deepen her practice. Mastery requires unlearning old habits, embracing new perspectives, and leaning into curiosity. Practical Leadership Strategies: Use the "one problem, two solutions" approach to empower your team to think critically. Build pauses into conversations to encourage deeper dialogue and innovative solutions. Mentioned in the Episode: Coach Training World: A transformative coach education program led by Ferocia Knight. https://coachtrainingworld.com/ International Coach Federation (ICF): Learn more about coaching certifications at coachingfederation.org. Eric Therwanger of ThinkGreat: Dynamic speaker and advocate for leaders. https://www.thinkgreat90.com/ Reflection Questions for Listeners: Where can you incorporate more pauses in your leadership or coaching practice? How can pausing help you build stronger relationships with your team or clients? What would happen if you focused more on inquiry and less on immediate problem-solving? Connect with Paula: Website: https://aiyanacoaching.com/ Instagram: aiyanacoaching LinkedIn: aiyanacoaching Thank you for taking a pause with us today on The Leadership Break! If you found this episode helpful, please rate, review, and share it with your network. Stay tuned for more insights to help you unwind, refuel, and reinforce your self-belief as a leader.

Welcome back to The Leadership Break, the podcast where you can unwind, recharge, and believe in yourself again. I'm your host, Paula Chapulis, and in this episode, we're tackling a topic that resonates with so many leaders: Imposter Syndrome. Whether it's a subtle background noise in your mind or a full-blown self-doubt spiral, imposter syndrome can affect how you lead and live. Episode Highlights: What is Imposter Syndrome? Originally coined as the "Imposter Phenomenon" by Pauline Clance and Suzanne Imes in 1978, this term describes persistent self-doubt despite external success. Learn how it has evolved to include all genders, professions, and cultural contexts. How It Shows Up in Leadership Common patterns include: Perfectionism and Overwork: The relentless need to prove yourself often leads to burnout. Fear of Delegation: A reluctance to share tasks can create mistrust in your team. Hesitant Decision-Making: Second-guessing decisions can frustrate those around you. Isolation: Leaders may fear vulnerability, further deepening their self-doubt. The Competence Model We explore the four stages of competence—unconscious incompetence, conscious incompetence, conscious competence, and unconscious competence—and how understanding them can help normalize the learning process as a leader. Practical Coaching Approaches Paula shares four strategies to address imposter syndrome: Reframe Success: Shift your mindset to see failures as growth opportunities and embrace your achievements. Practice Self-Compassion: Use vulnerability as a strength and extend kindness to yourself, just as you would to a friend. Set Reflective Goals: Focus on growth over perfection and pause to appreciate how far you've come. Build a Support System: Seek mentorship and feedback to strengthen your self-belief and normalize doubt. Resources Mentioned: Books: Dare to Lead by Brené Brown – Learn to use vulnerability as a strength. The Gap and the Gain by Dan Sullivan and Dr. Benjamin Hardy – Shift your focus from what you haven't achieved to how far you've come. Key Takeaways: Imposter syndrome doesn't mean you're failing; it means you're growing. Trust the process and acknowledge your achievements. You're not alone—most leaders feel this way at some point, and it's a sign you're pushing your limits. Call to Action: Feeling like an imposter? Take a moment to reflect on your accomplishments, reframe your inner dialogue, and connect with your support system. Remember, someone believed in you—so should you. Thanks for taking a break with me today! If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe, share it with other leaders, and leave a review. Let's keep the conversation going on LinkedIn or Instagram—find me at @aiyanacoaching. Until next time, take care and keep believing in yourself. Music by Chris Collins, https://indiemusicbox.com/

In this inaugural episode of The Leadership Break, host Paula Chapulis, an ICF-certified coach, explores the importance of redefining success and taking intentional breaks. This podcast is a space for leaders who dedicate themselves to others but sometimes struggle with self-doubt, burnout, or the weight of responsibility. Paula shares her personal journey of healing from burnout and provides practical steps to help leaders reconnect with their purpose, set boundaries, and create their own definition of success. Takeaways: Success is not a static concept; it changes with time and priorities. Taking breaks and allowing space for reflection is essential for sustainable leadership. Emotions like grief and burnout are part of the human experience and can be processed in ways that promote growth and resilience. Action Step: Spend time writing your own "I know I'm successful when…" list. Let it be a guiding framework for your leadership and personal growth. About the Host: Paula Chapulis is an ICF-Professional Certified Coach specializing in leadership and mental health. Through her podcast, coaching practice, and consulting work, Paula empowers leaders to support themselves as they support others. The Leadership Break is a space to unwind, refuel, and strengthen the belief in yourself. Connect with Paula: Website: https://aiyanacoaching.com/ Instagram: aiyanacoaching LinkedIn: aiyanacoaching Subscribe to The Leadership Break on your favorite podcast platform! Thank you for taking a break with us today. Remember, redefining success and taking intentional breaks is a step forward, not backward. Join us next time for more insights and inspiration on your leadership journey.