102. Caregiving from the male perspective

When Bill Cohen was caring for his mother with Alzheimer’s in the mid-2000s, 1 out of every 5 caregivers were men. Now, it’s closer to 1 in 3, and more and more men are stepping into that role.Bill learned many valuable tips and tricks while caregiving, and today he gives back as a caregiver support leader and owner of Cohen Caregiving Support Consultants. He’s also a speaker and volunteer with the Alzheimer's Association.He joins Senior Living Expert Lori Williams to discuss his story and provide the perspective of a male caregiver. His mother lost her home during Hurricane Katrina, which revealed much of her cognitive state at the time – and shook him out of his denial. While caring for her, he learned the importance of self-care, seeking a supportive ear, and being unafraid to ask for help. These learnings guide his work today, as he encourages men to do the same and be unafraid to show vulnerability.Drawing from his experience, he also discusses common pitfalls he sees, particularly with men, and the importance of a healthy lifestyle. He stresses it's important to be aware of the signs and symptoms of Alzheimer’s, and once it happens, learning how to effectively manage the situation (especially in times of emotional crisis). It’s also important to note that support can take many forms: Asking for a cup of coffee, delegating yard work, or speaking with a professional are just a few.Topics discussed:- Dementia / Alzheimer’s disease- Caregiving and Alzheimer’s- Caregiving support tips- The importance of self-care- Male caregivers- Dementia prevention- Healthy lifestyleTakeaways from this episode:- Signs that something may be amiss with your loved one: mood swings, agitation, confusion, paranoia, not taking care of the house, not taking care of finances, and no longer having competence where they once did (e.g. cooking or taking care of finances).- Symptoms often begin much earlier, making early recognition vital.- Trauma can exacerbate Alzheimer’s. This is what happened with Bill’s mother after Hurricane Katrina.- Male caregivers often fall into the trap of thinking it’s their task, their role - and they tend to not seek help, believing, “I can handle all of this.”- Men may find value in support groups. They’re open to all ages and all genders, and can provide empathy and understanding.- For caregivers over age 70, roughly two-thirds pass away before the person they’re caring for. That’s why it’s critical to make self-care a priority.- Evidence shows your environment, as well as behavioral and lifestyle choices, can increase Alzheimer’s risk. The earlier we practice these or get in a safer, healthier environment, the better.Resources mentioned in this episode:Contact Bill Cohen, CSA, read his blog and resources:https://cohencaregivingsupport.com/For more resources on Alzheimer's Disease and Dementia, please watch:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DL8p4S4vGHU&list=PLVZbhdaCRjAa7sVwLWuZcyP36GxbpDAjHTo suggest a topic, be a guest or to support the podcast, please email [email protected] more senior resources and to sign up to the newsletter, please visit:https://www.facebook.com/LoriWilliamsSeniorServices/https://www.instagram.com/theloriwilliams/https://www.linkedin.com/in/theloriwilliams/https://loriwilliams-seniorservices.com/aging-in-style-podcast/