42: Finding Your Confidence and Your Style with Devoreaux Walton

What does confidence have to do with reaching your potential? What's one secret you need to know to live more confidently today? And how does your wardrobe impact how others respond to you? Devoreaux Walton, an author and confidence coach, joins me as we talk about confidence, self-talk, and your wardrobe.  While we don't see eye-to-eye on everything we talk, we still collaborate and connect, and respect the heck out of each other! If your confidence needs a boost and you don't know where to start, listen to Devoreaux's wisdom.   Devoreaux's Journey from Feeling Stuck to Living with Confidence In 2014, Devoreaux was frustrated. She felt stuck working at a job she didn't enjoy. She wanted to be confident and charismatic, but she wasn't. Then she discovered counseling and therapy then she hired a life coach and audited her closet. Through her experience, she discovered "insider secrets" to become confident in who you are.  One insider secret is to be aware of your mindset and to understand the power of self-talk.  We all have lots of thoughts throughout the day with the majority being negative. Being self-aware of the thoughts you're thinking can shift the focus of the negative and toward the positive. But how do you stop the negative self-talk? Focus on gratitude. Ask yourself, "What's the best-case scenario?" Focus on the good that can happen.  What happens when the best-case scenario doesn't happen? Remember to control what you can control, which is what you do, say, and think. When the outcome doesn't go your way, think through what went well and what could be improved for next time. Honor yourself for what you did well and then evaluate what could go better the next time. How does your wardrobe impact your confidence? There's a massive impact between clothing and confidence. How you dress impacts how others view you and how you view yourself. The response you get from people when you wear yoga pants will be a different response than when you wear a suit. After a difficult emotional time, dressing in a way that makes you feel confident and taking good care of yourself will help you feel more empowered.   Spending time the night before can make a world of difference in having a successful tomorrow. What if you're multi-faceted and you're unsure what image you want to show the world? There are times and places for everything. In general, it's possible to have a consistent theme with your colors, fabrics and textures no matter what roles you play.   So what is Devoreaux's Style? Her style has evolved because style is all about continuous improvement. We're all changing and growing. It's about a journey and enjoying the present moment.   Three to four years ago, Devoreaux's style was more Americana, e.g. J. Crew and Ralph Lauren. Now, she prefers timeless elegance like Talbots, St. John, and Chanel. Her wardrobe has really shrunk. She encourages us to get rid of things that don't fit, that we haven't worn in a while, and aren't respectful to our bodies. Audit your closet and maximize the essentials in your wardrobe. Devoreaux believes that women should always cover their derrieres, bosoms, and mid-sections. I don't agree with this. But that's okay! Connect with Devoreaux Walton:  Website YouTube Facebook     Devoreaux Walton is an author and confidence coach who serves as the CEO and Founder at The Modern Lady, a lifestyle company that educates and empowers women to live their best lives. Walton and her team teach women worldwide how to elevate their lives with elegance – helping them to unlock and unleash their feminine power through coaching, courses, and community. Walton knows the power of mindset, wardrobe, and charisma, and teaches timeless life principles for women to upgrade the essence of their chic selves to truly thrive. A Spelman College graduate with a Bachelor's degree in Psychology and a Washington University in St. Louis graduate with a Master's degree in Business Administration, Walton is candid about sharing lessons learned from her corporate career at Google and IBM to inform and inspire her clients. A Southern belle from Atlanta, Georgia, Walton currently resides in Dallas, Texas, with her Maltipoo daughter, Nyla.   Listen + Subscribe on Apple Podcasts or STITCHER We'd greatly appreciate a podcast rating and review so that we can reach more women! Search for the podcast in your podcast app (Shamelessly Feminine) Scroll down and click 5 stars Tap "Write a Review" & enter a brief review Press send   Key Quotes from the Episode: "The real problem lies in the fact that most women are constantly focusing on only the areas of improvement and not the areas of excellence." - Devoreaux Walton "It's about you being able to like what you see in the mirror."  - Devoreaux Walton You'll have much more joy and confidence when you're authentic." - Devoreaux Walton "Who we are today is a reflection of who we want to be today." - Devoreaux Walton "We can all live differently and still be powerful and amazing and a collective." - Jen Rozenbaum   Connect with Jen and Shamelessly Feminine:   Join our Shamelessly Feminine Facebook Group Follow Shamelessly Feminine on Facebook Follow Shamelessly Feminine on Instagram   This episode was originally published on shamelesslyfeminine.com/episode42.