49: Forgiveness and Living with Intention

Is it easier for you to forgive yourself or forgive others? What makes that so? How can you live life intentionally so you don't waste a second?

Lauren and I dive into forgiveness and dating in this episode, which are very interconnected actually.  After Lauren comes back from the retreat she shared about in Episode 48, we dissect what forgiveness looks like, if it's easier to date when you're in your 20s or when you're older, and so much more.

Here's what Lauren learned at the Matthew Hussey Retreat and there are some gems in here friends!

The Two Types of Forgiveness

1. The forgiveness of others
2. The forgiveness of self

Lauren shares an example that Matthew Hussey used at the retreat that really helped her understand how to forgive yourself: Imagine a relay race. Now imagine that the first runner trips. The fourth runner in that race isn't wasting any time getting mad at the first runner because she is simply running as fast as she can to make up the time.

Matthew said that your life is a relay race and that every day you're a new runner. There is no point in berating yourself when you've got a race to run.

Dating + Living with Intention

Lauren shares that she will date again because she's not who she once was. She loved this insight from Matthew:

Living with intention may not spark much change in your routines or life. Instead, living with intention may simply look like being aware of what your heart is saying.

Dating When You're Younger (20s) vs. Dating When You're Older (30s, 40s)

Dating is different as you age. Your standards change. The pool from which you can date has changed. You have different life experiences. Remember that you have choices in who you date and whether you date, but even those choices can be overwhelming.

As you age, you realize that you've made mistakes and that you can be harder on yourself than on others.

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Key Quotes from the Episode:

"We worry about the future. We berate ourselves for the past. But again, it brings it back to: We only have today." - Jen Rozenbaum

"Live life bigger. Join groups. Take chances. Have courage." - Lauren Trantham

"I don't want to waste a second." - Lauren Trantham

"Part of forgiveness is a willingness to go out in the world and be wrong." - Jen Rozenbaum

"Forgive yourself, and with forgiving others: just let it go." - Lauren Trantham

This episode was originally published on shamelesslyfeminine.com/episode49.