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EPISODE · Sep 9, 2025 · 13 MIN

Are You Nice or Just Codependent? How to Tell the Difference

from Leaving CrazyTown · host Dr. Sarah Michaud and Finn Allen

Are you genuinely nice—or is your “niceness” a codependent disguise? In this kick-off episode, Finn and Dr. Sarah dive into the blurry line between kindness and codependency. With relatable stories, raw honesty, and a healthy dose of humor, they explore how saying “yes” when you want to say “no” might actually be self-betrayal, not generosity. Get ready to smash the illusion of “niceness” and learn what it really means to show up for yourself.Takeaways:Codependency often masquerades as being “a really nice person.”Saying yes when you want to say no leads to resentment and emotional suppression.Pausing before agreeing to something is a powerful recovery tool.Being “nice” to others at your own expense isn’t true kindness.You can be kind and have boundaries—honesty is part of real connection.Key Timestamps: [00:01:00] — Is it kindness… or codependency? [00:03:00] — Why saying “yes” can create resentment [00:04:00] — The power of pausing before responding [00:07:00] — Dr. Sarah’s hilarious (and painful) gift basket story [00:10:00] — Being nice to yourself = telling the truthNotable Resources or Guest Links:Co Crazy by Dr. Sarah MichaudFollow Finn and Sarah on YouTube: @leavingcrazytownSubscribe and share this episode with someone who needs to stop people-pleasing and start truth-telling.Codependency Recovery: Leaving CrazyTown is a raw, real-talk podcast hosted by Finn and Dr. Sarah Michaud, two recovering addicts turned relatable guides on the wild ride of codependency healing. With humor, honesty, and clinical insight, they offer grounded guidance and compassionate camaraderie for anyone ready to reclaim their sanity and self-worth.

Are you genuinely nice—or is your “niceness” a codependent disguise? In this kick-off episode, Finn and Dr. Sarah dive into the blurry line between kindness and codependency. With relatable stories, raw honesty, and a healthy dose of humor, they explore how saying “yes” when you want to say “no” might actually be self-betrayal, not generosity. Get ready to smash the illusion of “niceness” and learn what it really means to show up for yourself.Takeaways:Codependency often masquerades as being “a really nice person.”Saying yes when you want to say no leads to resentment and emotional suppression.Pausing before agreeing to something is a powerful recovery tool.Being “nice” to others at your own expense isn’t true kindness.You can be kind and have boundaries—honesty is part of real connection.Key Timestamps: [00:01:00] — Is it kindness… or codependency? [00:03:00] — Why saying “yes” can create resentment [00:04:00] — The power of pausing before responding [00:07:00] — Dr. Sarah’s hilarious (and painful) gift basket story [00:10:00] — Being nice to yourself = telling the truthNotable Resources or Guest Links:Co Crazy by Dr. Sarah MichaudFollow Finn and Sarah on YouTube: @leavingcrazytownSubscribe and share this episode with someone who needs to stop people-pleasing and start truth-telling.Codependency Recovery: Leaving CrazyTown is a raw, real-talk podcast hosted by Finn and Dr. Sarah Michaud, two recovering addicts turned relatable guides on the wild ride of codependency healing. With humor, honesty, and clinical insight, they offer grounded guidance and compassionate camaraderie for anyone ready to reclaim their sanity and self-worth.

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