Common Sense Isn't So Common: through the Enneagram instinct lens

Why is it that one person packs all the snacks, sunscreen, electrolyte packets, backup outfits, and a roadside emergency kit for a 14-minute drive… while another person forgets- rather doesn't consider bringing- the diaper bag entirely and says, “It’ll probably be fine”?And why do both people genuinely believe they are the reasonable one?In this episode, we’re talking about why common sense isn’t actually common — through the lens of the Enneagram instincts.Because most conflict is not logic versus logic.It’s instinct versus instinct.One person’s internal system is asking:“Am I safe?”Another is asking:“Do I belong?”And another is asking:“What/where is the meaning of all this?”Welcome to the intriguing and deeply revealing world of the self-preservation, social, and sexual (one-to-one) instincts — the unconscious operating systems quietly- and not so quietly- shaping your marriage, parenting, friendships, finances, vacations, career choices, and FB comments.This episode is part neuroscience, part relationship therapy, part spiritual formation, and part:“oh no… this explains every argument my spouse and I have ever had on a road trip.”We cover:Why some people prepare for every possible disasterWhy some people need meaning and intensity like oxygenWhy others instinctively track group dynamics everywhere they goWhy emotionally healthy conflict requires understanding different instinctive realitiesAnd why your neglected instinct or your 'blindspot' is probably where you experience the most dysregulationAlso discussed:feral motherhood lunches,naked diaper babies,vacation planning warfare,the psychology of “good vibes,”and why stability may currently be filing a restraining order against your personality.Painfully accurate. Slightly exposing. Deeply practical.Because once you realize people are not seeing the same reality you are…you stop asking:“How could they possibly think that?”And you start asking:“What instinct are they protecting?”Trust me, this will absolutely change your relationships. Send this to the one who doesn't share your sense of common sense;)