Divorcing an Addict Isn't Like Any Other Divorce with Meredith Beardmore

Some divorces end with two people who simply grew apart. And then there are divorces that come wrapped in chaos, denial, danger, and a particular kind of loneliness that is almost impossible to explain to anyone who hasn't lived it — the loneliness of loving someone whose addiction has made them a stranger. In this raw and deeply important episode of Divorce Happens, host Olivia Howell sits down with Meredith Beardmore, a licensed therapist, author, and creator of the YouTube channel Men with Mare, to explore one of the least-talked-about intersections in the divorce space: what it actually means to divorce an addict. With both clinical expertise and hard-won personal experience, Meredith brings an honesty to this conversation that is rare, grounding, and long overdue.Meredith doesn't sugarcoat what divorcing someone with an alcohol or drug addiction — or a porn or gambling addiction — actually looks like. She explains that when addiction is present, you are not simply ending a marriage. You are competing with a disease. You are negotiating with someone who is not operating from the same reality, someone whose addiction shapes what they see, what they admit to, and what they're willing to confront. She draws a striking parallel between addiction patterns and narcissistic abuse, noting that the tactics — shifting stories, rewriting history, blaming the sober spouse — can look nearly identical, even when a formal diagnosis doesn't exist. Her own story is woven throughout: the moment she had to call the police to protect her son from an intoxicated ex who showed up uninvited; the agonizing legal battles to have addiction taken seriously as a safety concern; the request for a year of documented sobriety before unsupervised visitation — and the reaction that told her everything. "If someone's serious about recovery," she says quietly, "they will say yes to whatever you need."What listeners will leave with is not just a clearer picture of how dangerous and disorienting this kind of divorce can be — it's also a map toward survival. Meredith's core message is one of freedom: you do not have to walk on eggshells for the rest of your life. You do not have to center your entire existence around someone else's addiction. Life after divorcing an addict can be genuinely, measurably better — for you, and for your children. Her practical guidance is concrete: find a therapist first, then a trusted friend, and start breaking the isolation the addiction counted on to keep you trapped. For anyone in the thick of it right now, this episode is a lifeline. And for anyone on the other side trying to make sense of what they survived, it is a powerful reminder that they were never alone — and that what they did took extraordinary courage.🔗 Check out Fresh Starts Registry:The first & only divorce registry + support platform ➡ https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/freshstartsregistry/📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/FreshStartsRegistry🎙 Podcast IG: https://www.instagram.com/divorcehappenspod/📬 Magazine: https://divorceguidemagazine.com/