Ep #130 - How To Be An Asset In Your Friendships - Not A Liability

In our friendships and friend groups, we either show up as a liability or an asset. “People don’t like you because they immediately sense that you’re a survival liability.”   Donald Miller   When you are coming across as a survival liability when you are engaging in one of these 4 “N’s”:   You have a pattern of being:   Negative: draining or depleting.  Needy: you require a lot of attention and take up way more “air time” than others. You may be clingy or pushy.  Not safe: others don’t trust you. You might exhibit “black or white” thinking or are repeatedly righteous and judgmental.  Not accountable: you are in the habit of “playing the Victim” and blaming others for your emotions.    In order to be an asset in your friendships, focus on:   Developing the gifts and strengths you can offer to others Be genuinely interested IN others, rather than trying too hard to appear “interesting” TO others Be mindful of granting others equal air time If you’re the midlife mom of adult children who can use support as you develop friendship strategies and strenghts, I can help.  I invite you to schedule a complimentary coaching call with me. Here’s the link: Coaching Call with Terri Thank you for investing your valuable time and energy into listening to the podcast. I’m so very grateful for you.  If you enjoyed this episode, you can “tip the bartender” by rating and reviewing the podcast. Your review makes it easier for others to find the podcast.  Don’t forget to hit the SUBSCRIBE button to be notified any time I pour out a new episode.  My book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour: Intentional Intoxication Book If you’re interested to know about how I can support you in overcoming the habit of escaping or chasing, I invite you to reach out to me by using the email below and we find a time to chat: [email protected] For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory: Intoxication Inventory