Ep. 34: Keep that same energy.

What does it mean to keep the same energy? Does doing so take away the grace we’ve been learning to give ourselves and others? How do we find the balance between grace and discipline? WHAT TO LISTEN FOR: To continually give grace or to “keep the same energy” [5:47] Matching someone’s negative energy also impacts the way you show up Dealing with repeated behavior of negativity Reprogramming your automatic thoughts on reciprocity The moment you expect people to give the same energy as you, you set yourself up for disappointment Why it’s okay to sometimes match energy [12:47] Boundary is okay—you owe it to yourself to protect your peace and joy What you want and need is as important as what others want and need To match someone’s energy is not always negative, it could also be in your best interest More than anyone, you need to be graceful with yourself Why we tend to be hard on ourselves [27:13] We still need time to heal The struggle to find the space between grace and discipline The need to pause and find gratitude The haze of both sides [31:19] Our inability to give grace to others but not to ourselves Acting according to what you believe or who you want to be Understanding that the energy you put out has to do with what you feel vs. what others feel Making a choice to show up despite the circumstances Navigating through the haze [33:35] Be patient as you continue to know and heal yourself Don’t be ruled by emotions RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE Listen to Mixed Messages by Big K.R.I.T. TO STAY CONNECTED: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify Playlist⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ - Music for this moment. Follow @iamshate on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow @scotthayes_lcsw on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ If you'd like either of us to join your next panel or event, please email us at ⁠[email protected]⁠.