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Healing Myself
by Scott and Shaté Hayes
We're Scott and Shaté Hayes, and we're on a mission to help our community find freedom from the inside out. So we host conversations about God, therapy, and all the lessons we’ve learned about how to love, trust, forgive, and affirm ourselves first. We used to talk about the hard parts of life. Now, we talk about the healed parts because that’s where true freedom resides. Join us, and you’ll see that when you save yourself first, you transform your life, and you lead the way for those around you to save themselves, too.Get healing tips, tools, and more: https://healingmyself.co/weeklyword Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/healingmyself/support
Episodes
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Ep. 83: How to observe (not absorb) other people's feelings.
In this episode, we dive into the art of observing other people's feelings without taking them on as our own. Join us as we explore practical strategies for maintaining emotional boundaries in close relationships with family, friends, and partners. Discover the role emotional regulation plays in...
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Ep. 82: A practical guide to self-care with Dr. Cicely Brathwaite.
Join us for this insightful conversation with special guest, Dr. Cicely Brathwaite–psychologist, consultant, and author of Self-Care Activities for Women: 101 Practical Ways to Slow Down and Reconnect With Yourself. WHAT TO LISTEN FOR: Focus on Self-Care and Systemic Impacts [4:30] The…
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Ep. 81: Healing and tequila with friends featuring Brandon Scott.
Join this special convo with Brandon Scott, CEO and Co-Founder of Tequila with Friends, a Dallas-based tequila brand. After a surprising Type 1 diabetes diagnosis during his first semester of college, Brandon discovered that tequila was the only type of liquor that his body metabolized well. Now…
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Ep. 80: God and therapy.
Both God and therapy are essential to any healing journey. For this replay of our first live podcast event, we’re joined by Broderick McBride—intercessor, teacher, and mental health advocate who fully believes that mental health and spirituality go hand-in-hand. Take a listen to discover how...
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Ep. 79: Man to Woman—What I want the women in my life to know.
We’re always talking man to man, but today’s episode is for the ladies. Join us for a few thoughts for the Black women in our lives from a Black man’s perspective. WHAT TO LISTEN FOR: Mental health and emotional wellness for Black men [4:11] The importance of creating a safe space for black men…
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Ep. 78: How to hustle and hope with Ashley Sutton.
Join us for a special convo with Ashley Sutton, founder and CEO of Hustle and Hope Cards. From facing rejection to grinding, making room for faith, and much more, we unpack what it means to have both hustle and hope. WHAT TO LISTEN FOR: The story of Hustle and Hope Cards [3:23] Ashley’s...
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Ep. 77: Change your default setting.
We’ve been thinking a lot about chaos vs peace. In today’s episode, we’re unpacking the idea of changing our default setting, specifically when that default is chaos. We invite you to reflect on your default setting and consider the possibility of embracing peace amidst life's chaos. Remember,...
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Ep. 76: Save yourself first.
In a world that often demands our constant attention and care for others, it's easy to overlook the most crucial relationship of all—the one we have with ourselves. We’re back with a new look and new name, but the healing vibes are still the same! Join our first convo as Healing Myself to…
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Ep. 75: Made for more.
We’ve spent the last three years and change having some of the most cathartic, transparent and transformative conversations about stuck places, the hazes, and healing all parts of us. And now it's time for more. We believe what’s next is gonna blow our minds! Join us as we talk through that and…
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Ep. 74: Healing our community with Celeste the Therapist.
Here’s one more episode from one of the podcasts we’ve had the pleasure of joining over the past few months. In this episode, we joined forces with Celeste the Therapist and really dug deep on healing the Black community. Traumas, triggers, and even slavery came up on this one. Hard truths and...
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Ep. 73: Real life, love, and everything in between with Keke Chanel.
And another one! Here’s another one of the dope Black podcasts we’ve had the pleasure of joining over the past few months: Kickin' It With KeKe: Life, Love, & All That Other SHIT In this episode, we kick it with KeKe Chanel as we talk about mindset, healing, boundaries, and everything in between....
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Ep. 72: The origins of our stuck places with Dom L'Amour.
Here’s another one of the dope Black podcasts we’ve had the pleasure of joining over the past few months. In this episode, we’re sharing our conversation with Dom L’Amour on The Black Man Talking Emotions Podcast, where we talked about how the messages we received as kids that may have kept us...
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Ep. 71: Money talk with Natasha and Damian Carrillo.
If you caught episode 70, then you know we weren’t sure if we’d be able to make the last five episodes of the year happen because we’ve been through a lot lately, and we wanted a break. Well, we decided to find a way to work smarter instead of giving up. We’ve been blessed to be guests on a…
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Ep. 70: When you feel like giving up...
Listen y'all, we have wanted to quit podcasting so many times. As recently as this weekend, we seriously entertained letting it go because life has been out here life-ing. But thankfully, we’ve gotten a reframing that’s helped us, and we hope it’ll help y’all too. WHAT TO LISTEN FOR: There will…
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Ep. 69: You can set boundaries at work, too.
We talk a lot about communication and boundaries for our personal lives, and a lot of those same principles can be applied to our professional relationships, too. Self-advocacy is universal, but it's also so personal, y'all. Join us as we unpack that. WHAT TO LISTEN FOR: Self-advocacy and setting...
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Ep. 68: Nothing is linear because life isn't.
Life is always out here doing what it wants to do, and there’s nothing we can really do about it. So what could it look like to accept that, to learn how to go with the flow, and grow through it, too? Join us as we process through it. WHAT TO LISTEN FOR: Life teaches us that it is NOT linear…
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Ep. 67: Check yourself before you wreck yourself.
Life has been life-ing, y’all. And when we’re in seasons like this, it’s easier for our emotions to get the best of us. So in this episode, we’re talking through the value of holding onto your emotions even when everything else feels like it’s falling through the cracks. WHAT TO LISTEN FOR…
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Ep. 66: OPP...Other People's Problems
Today, we’re coming for all the inherent problem solvers out there. When your loved ones share their problems with you, it’s almost second nature for some of us to jump right into solution-ing. But what does it look like to just listen, to just be a safe space for your loved one to work through...
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Ep. 65: Seeing Black love matters.
Listen, if we hear ONE more person come for #BlackLoveDoc, it’s gon’ be a problem. With the recent news of Ms. Tina Knowles-Lawson’s divorce, commenters have been pretty hard on the show, calling it cursed because five of the couples featured have gone their separate ways. Well, we have plenty to...
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Ep. 64: Who gets the benefit of your self-doubt?
We’ve all been taught that it’s a good thing to give someone the benefit of the doubt? It essentially means to assume good intent, right? But when it comes to self-doubt, that changes the game. Let’s unpack who benefits when we dim our light and play small. WHAT TO LISTEN FOR: We tend to assume...
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Ep. 63: Healing from the inside out with Oriola Esuleke.
In today's episode, we're tapping into our local community as we had the pleasure to connect with Oriola Esuleke. She’s the owner of The Kindred Healing Center, AHHA Consulting LLC (Aggregated Holistic Healing Alliance), and Principal owner of the first black-owned and operated social media...
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Ep. 62: Sometimes, parents just don't understand.
In this episode, we’re unpacking a topic that was submitted by one of our listeners. We’ve mentioned folks who’ve cut ties with family members because of unhealthy relationships, but we haven’t talked about maintaining a relationship with a parent when y’all just don’t get along. Well, until…
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Ep. 61: When self-care just isn't enough.
Listen, I don’t know about y’all, but for us, life has been life-ing lately. And it seems like at every turn, we’re pulled in different directions, faced with disappointment, and juggling really full plates. So join us as we process how to move forward when self-care just isn't enough. Navigating...
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Ep. 60: What is family, blood or bond?
We know how complicated relationships can be. On top of the interpersonal connection, we're also contending with triggers, boundaries, expectation setting for how you need to be loved. And how does that all play out with family? ESPECIALLY when it's the family you're trying to build? WHAT TO…
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Ep. 59: Whew chile, workplace trauma.
We talk a lot about family dynamics, overcoming interpersonal offenses, and moving past stuck places in general. But what about trauma from work? That’s not something we hear a lot of people talk about, so it’s time to lay it all out on the table. Whew chile...prepare to be triggered. WHAT TO...
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Ep. 58: Lopsided relationships collapse.
We believe that every relationship is a journey, and we are here striving to help you navigate through it. In our previous episodes, we've discussed topics such as matching energy, communication styles, and conflict resolution, all aimed at helping you build stronger and healthier relationships....
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Ep. 57: Dating Diaries: Choosing and getting "chose."
Today, we're taking a deep dive into today's dating culture, or maybe it's going to be a shallow dive. Who knows? But one thing we do know is that we've watched a lot of black love shows, and we're ready to talk about it. But it's not just about the shows, it's about what we can learn from them.…
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Ep. 56: Redefining Manhood: Getting support is the real flex.
We’re challenging societal norms of manhood. Data shows that many men know that talking openly is an effective way of dealing with their problems, but they keep quiet so they don’t appear weak or unmanly. Well, we’re affirming that getting the support you need is the real flex. Men fears to…
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Ep. 55: SOS...Saving OurSelves
Firefighters go through a certain training where they have to talk a person into coming out of a burning building, no matter how scary it could be. It’s because coming in to save that person would endanger them. We find this idea interesting because of its uncanny similarity with the path towards...
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Ep. 54: The privilege to judge.
“You're only a good person, because your life has let you live that way.” This statement speaks volumes about privilege, a topic that we’ll zero in on today's conversation. In this episode, we’re talking about the choices we make based on the hand that life has dealt us. For those of us who’ve…
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Ep. 53: Bigger than my bottom.
“If you want to have a conversation with me about who I am, don't just talk to me about my failures. Don't just talk to me about my bottom moments. My story is in my “keep going.” In the times where I was not doing the greatest, but I kept going.” - Karega Bailey What an empowering statement! We...
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Ep. 52: About facing fear.
We always hear the words “Face your fear” or “Just do it.” However, like most things, confronting our fear is easier said than done. But here’s the good news: we can indeed learn to face our fears. In today’s episode, we talk about the origin of our fears, how fear manifests in who we are, and…
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Ep. 51: The lesson in the leap.
Lesson #14: “Sometimes a leap of faith doesn't bring immediate results.” We find this lesson from Eric Roberson’s book “LESSONS, 100 Thoughts on Life & Love” truly fascinating so we’re delighted to explore it in today’s episode. What really happens when you take a leap of faith? It could be fall,...
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Ep. 50: Just keep going.
Welcome to the first episode of the year! It’s a new year, typically a good time for a ‘new you’ or perhaps for ‘reinventing yourself.’ But hey, a new year doesn’t necessarily need a new you. In fact, it’s the best time to celebrate the progress you’ve already made. Alex Elle, a best-selling...
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Ep. 49: A few of our favorite things.
2022 is coming to an end, and there’s a lot of things to be grateful for. In a year, we’ve spent a lot of time having wonderful conversations about the things that matter. About things that help us keep going. In today’s episode, our hearts are filled with gratitude and joy as we look back on the...
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Ep. 48: Mental health matters with Stephanie Westbrook.
This episode will serve as a reminder that your mental health is just as important as your physical health! Mental health is one of the biggest and long-standing issues that challenges our community. So today, we’re happy to highlight Stephanie Westbrook, a licensed psychotherapist, Certified...
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Ep. 47: It's giving...thanks.
December is almost here. The year 2022 is finally coming to an end. The Thanksgiving season is just the perfect time to take a step back and ask yourself, “What are the things that I am grateful for?” In this episode, we honor the progress that we’ve made this year by taking a look back at where…
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Ep. 46: Forgive yourself. Period.
As humans, it is in our nature to punish ourselves when we do something wrong. But does punishing yourself ever really account for something good? In this episode, we talk about forgiveness. And it’s not about forgiving a friend, a family member, or a loved one. It’s forgiving the most important...
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Ep. 45: Healing our relationship with money w/Ranauldo & Liz Wright.
We’re so happy that our long overdue collaboration with our friends Ranauldo and Liz finally happened. Ranauldo and Liz Wright are financial brokers with nearly 20 years of experience in financial services. In today’s episode, they share some thought-provoking ideas around our relationship with...
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Ep. 44: Bringing our inner shadow to the light.
It’s almost an instinct to hide what we perceive as ugly. But do you know that there is power in completely embracing who you really are? In today's episode we unpack how to deal with our “inner shadow” and overpower it with light. Because we can’t live in hiding forever, and perfection is a…
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Ep. 43: It's not you, it's me.
Change can bring about friction in relationships, but it's important to remember that this friction is often a result of our own growth and evolution. Today, we dig deep into a topic that many of us can relate to - navigating through change and its impact on our relationships. It can be…
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Ep. 42: About shared realities: Do you even know me?
In this episode, we dive into the concept of "Shared Reality" and its role in social connections, particularly in group trips and family gatherings. We shed light on the distinction between shared reality and shared values and how understanding and respecting each other's perspectives can help...
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Ep. 41: Re-parenting your inner child.
All of us were once children. And from time to time, the children that we were can show up - they can show up in our relationships and our everyday lives. In this episode, we dive into the concept of Inner Child work and what it means to love the child within us. By making an effort to listen to,...
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Ep. 40: That healing just hit different.
The last couple of episodes, we've talked about being in relationship with other folks. This episode, we want to talk about being in relationship with ourselves, and how healing truly changes the way that we show up for ourselves and for others. Pastor Jerry Flowers said: "healed people see...
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Ep. 39: Can We Talk Pt. 2: Lost in translation.
I bet we all want to learn and grow in our communication skills, especially in our relationships. In this second part of our conversation, we delve deeper into the topic of communication and its role in maintaining relationships. Let’s look into the importance of self-awareness, understanding...
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Ep. 38: Can We Talk Pt. 1: Does avoidance keep the peace?
We think it's time for grown people to use their words. Some may think they’re choosing peace when really they’re choosing avoidance, which can lead to resentment. The key is to deliver what you need to say without causing the other person to become defensive. Oftentimes, ending with questions...
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Ep. 37: Finding the right relationship to hope.
One way or another, we must have been in a situation that triggered us to ask ourselves, “Why does it happen so easily for others and not for me? WHY CAN’T IT BE ME?” But you see, if we live having that mindset, we will never find peace. Our lives will be a series of meaningless transactions…
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Ep. 36: Get free or die trying.
It's Juneteenth, and there couldn’t have been a more perfect time to talk about something our community holds onto quite dearly—FREEDOM. Nina Simone said: "I'll tell you what freedom is to me: no fear." It’s a powerful statement that we came to unpack today, among other things: What does it look...
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Ep. 35: The stories we tell ourselves.
One of The Four Agreements is this: Don’t take anything personally – nothing others do is because of you. How many relationships have we sabotaged because of the story we tell ourselves, and not because of what really happened? In today’s episode, we take a step back and talk about how these...
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Ep. 34: Keep that same energy.
What does it mean to keep the same energy? Does doing so take away the grace we’ve been learning to give ourselves and others? How do we find the balance between grace and discipline? WHAT TO LISTEN FOR: To continually give grace or to “keep the same energy” [5:47] Matching someone’s negative...
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We're Scott and Shaté Hayes, and we're on a mission to help our community find freedom from the inside out. So we host conversations about God, therapy, and all the lessons we’ve learned about how to love, trust, forgive, and affirm ourselves first. We used to talk about the hard parts of life. Now, we talk about the healed parts because that’s where true freedom resides. Join us, and you’ll see that when you save yourself first, you transform your life, and you lead the way for those around you to save themselves, too.Get healing tips, tools, and more: https://healingmyself.co/weeklyword Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/healingmyself/support
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