Episode 16: Ways I Used to Abandon Myself in Relationships

There was a version of me that thought I was doing everything right in relationships.I was patient.I was understanding.I avoided conflict.I tried to see the good in people.And for a long time… I thought that meant I was loving correctly.But when I look back now, I can see how often I was choosing them over me.I ignored red flags and convinced myself I was overthinking.I over-explained my feelings just to be understood.I stayed quiet to keep the peace.I ignored what my body was trying to tell me… even when it was screaming at me that something wasn’t right.And the hardest part?It wasn’t just them.I had to come to terms with the fact that there was a part of me that kept staying, kept explaining, kept hoping that if I just loved better… it would finally feel different.In this episode, I’m walking through the ways I used to abandon myself in relationships, what started to shift for me, and what I had to learn about choosing myself... even when it felt uncomfortable.This isn’t about blaming yourself.It’s about becoming aware of patterns you were never taught to question.Because once you see it, you can start to change it.🧠 In this episode, I talk about:•What self-abandonment looked for me•Ignoring red flags•Over-explaining and the need to be understood•People-pleasing, silence, and avoiding conflict•Listening to my body and recognizing misalignment•The shift from self-abandonment to self-awareness•What it really meant to start choosing myself⸻🌺 Stay Connected:Instagram: @SoulfulWahine