Flag

Life is like a game of tug of war, in most, if not all our relationships and interactions, we all have our own agenda and hopefully, we all strive to be fair too. Confidence is a learned and developed habit, with this being the case it is super important that we create the right lines in every area of our lives, and then we can just “hold the flag” over everyone we interact with.  But there is a fine line between give and take; one we need to uphold in balance for ourselves if we are striving to be more confident. Overgiving is just as bad for ourselves as undergiving is bad for others, neither way is the right way. If we overgive then it's a sign of weakness to our primeval minds and this will cause us to lack confidence. Our minds from the caveman days have all seen the importance of survival and that we need to protect and take care of ourselves to survive. Don’t get me wrong, giving selflessly is a great thing to do, but if this is something we do all the time at the expense of ourselves, then this will be too much to sustain over long periods. If we go on too long this way, we could run out of energy completely so then we are no help to others or ourselves, which is not a great place to end up.  The people we are helping wouldn't want us to break ourselves in the process of helping them, so it's about finding the balance between give and take.