Healing the Wounds Beneath Addiction: Paul Gilmartin on Recovery & Responsibility

In this powerful, unfiltered conversation, Dr. Sarah sits down with The Mental Illness Happy Hour host Paul Gilmartin for an honest look at trauma, recovery, intimacy, and the long-term impact of childhood wounds. Paul shares how early emotional experiences shaped his patterns in adulthood—and how compassion, boundaries, and accountability became the tools that changed everything. Together, Paul and Sarah explore the messy, courageous work of healing from codependency, breaking survival-mode behaviors, and learning to build relationships rooted in honesty, repair, and self-respect.TakeawaysChildhood emotional wounds often shape adult patterns more deeply than we realize.Healing requires honesty, humility, and a willingness to take responsibility for our part.Boundaries are essential—not just with others but with ourselves.Intimacy becomes possible when shame decreases and self-awareness increases.Repairing ruptures in relationships builds trust and strengthens connection.Key Timestamps[00:01:00] Listening to hundreds of stories: how Paul protects his emotional battery[00:05:00] Early recovery and uncovering deeper issues beneath addiction[00:09:00] Learning boundaries, accountability, and the meaning of true intimacy[00:14:00] Communication without blame: why timing and tone matter[00:18:00] Childhood wounds, emotional responsibility & recognizing patterns[00:36:00] Why Paul still loves doing the work—and the stories that keep him going[00:42:00] Universal tools: finding language for your needs and setting respectful boundariesNotable Resources or Guest LinksPaul Gilmartin – The Mental Illness Happy HourDr. Sarah Michaud – Author of Co CrazyWebsite: https://drsarahmichaud.com/Follow @leavingcrazytown on YouTube=Dr. Sarah Michaud, Author of Co Crazy Follow @leavingcrazytown on YouTube Website: https://drsarahmichaud.com/If you loved this conversation, subscribe, rate, and review Leaving CrazyTown—and share it with a friend ready to reclaim their voice and leave confusion behind.Leaving CrazyTown is a raw, real-talk podcast hosted by Finn and Dr. Sarah Michaud, two recovering addicts turned relatable guides on the wild ride of codependency healing. Each episode dives deep into the chaos of dysfunctional relationships, identity loss, and emotional recovery—with humor, honesty, and hope. Subscribe and buckle up—we’re leaving CrazyTown.