How To Protect Your NOs

My new book Intentional Intoxication: How To Deliberately Distill The Different Life You Desire, is available on Amazon. You can imbibe on the entire book in one, short, intentionally happier hour: Get Your Copy Here   If you’re in the habit of saying YES even when you mean NO or NOT YET, changing this habit requires smalls shifts: identify how YES or NO shows up in your body tell yourself the truth about your YES or NOs practice saying NO to things you aren’t:willing to do capable of doing  anticipate this feeling really uncomfortable if you resist saying NO, get curious about what your brain is telling you might be the worst thing another person may:think feel say about you once you’re in the habit of identifying and communicating your NOs to others, pay attention to how you respond when others don’t respect your NOs. do you give in? do you react? do you clarify your NO“If you’d like me to deliver this for you, please have it on my porch by tomorrow morning by 8. If it’s not there when I leave at 8, I’ll assume you decided to handle the delivery yourself.” If they deliver the item after you’ve already left, remind them of your initial boundary:“If you’ll remember, I mentioned that I was leaving to deliver the items I had by 8. Please grab your item and make other plans as I’ve already gone.” I invite you to consider these questions: What might prevent you from protecting your NO? How willing are you to accept that you are intentionally choosing to feel resentment or bitterness rather than discomfort if you don’t protect your NO?   To grab a copy of my book, click below: Intentional Intoxication Book   I invite you to click on the link below to book a complimentary happy hour call with me.    I’d love to hear about you and offer you the help and support you might want.  Happy Hour Call With Terri   For a quick shot of your life’s current level of intoxication, I invite you to complete the 10 Questions on my Intoxication Inventory: Intoxication Inventory   Here is a link to an on-line resource for counseling: Better Help