How We Sabotage Ourselves With Control

We all have different “parts” in our psyches, minds, and souls. Think of each part as a singer on American Idol, competing for the “spotlight” in our lives. Our goal is to: identify accept learn from work with our parts.  In her brilliant book Rezoom: The Powerful Reframe to End the Crash-And-Burn Cycle of Food Addiction, author Susan Pierce Thompson outlines 6 Parts than can sabotage our highest self: Indulgers Controllers Caretakers Rebels Inner Critics Isolators The Controller Part wants to micromanage our lives and circumstances in order to feel safe.  Here are the Controller archetypes or “flavors”: Permissive Parent: “If you just finish your veggies, you can have extra dessert.” Perfectionist: “If you don’t do this perfectly, you will be punished.” Know-It-All: “You should always do this, and you shouldn’t ever do that.” Purger: “You screwed up again - better get rid of the evidence!” Punisher: “You should be ashamed of yourself and you’ll pay!” Robot: “I won’t have any part of this. I’ll just go through the motions and check out.” I invite you to consider these questions: When do you notice a Controller Part trying to micromanage your actions or behaviors? What type of Controller resonates most with you? When do you notice your Controller negotiating with you? What is your Controller trying to protect you from experiencing? I invite you to click on the link below to book your complimentary happy hour call: Chat with Terri...    SUBSCRIBE to my weekly Wednesday newsletter… it’s more of a mini-course intended to intoxicate your self-awareness, satisfaction, and success.  www.terribradway.com/newsletter   When it comes to podcasting, the best way to “tip the bartender” is by heading over to Apple Podcasts and leaving a 5-star review. This helps me imbibe other listeners with the secret sauce of emotional intelligence. And, make sure to “order another round”  by hitting SUBSCRIBE.    If you’re thirsty for more than this daily shot and ready to intoxicate the hell out of your personal and professional life, I’d love to invite you to coach one-on-one with me.