I Want My Partner to Parent Me and I Know He Can't

When my husband said he "just wants me to be happy," I wanted to pin the responsibility on him, but I knew I couldn't, it wasn't his work, it was my work to create space for more joy. This episode is about the complex work of figuring out what needs must be met by the relationship, and which ones to be met outside of it. It's also a story of connection hunger and anger about that lack of connection--for those of us that didn't have major connection needs met, we can put that voracity onto our partners. How do we normalize women flipping out about all we've carried emotionally, have our men witness it, but not do all the work of healing it?