Kate Rizzo & using writing to deal with Grief and Loss

Kate Rizzo is a wonderful human being who carries an unusual understanding of how to deal with Grief and Loss. Kate and her soulmate hubby did their best to raise three beautiful sons, and believed she was living the dream. Her beautiful son Nicholas suffered from social anxiety and was even nominated as prom king that year, but didn't want to go, not feeling good enough, that he was chosen for his mum and not for him. He was very good at football but suffered many injuries, which led to a dependence on medication for the pain. Kate noticed 'The Light was Going Out'  in him Kate and her hubby were caught between tough love and enabling; a horrible place for any human being; especially a parent. Nicholas agreed to go to rehab; on one side, for those who cared it appeared as though it was a chance for redemption; but unseen; for Nicholas, it was the end in action. Eventually, their beautiful child gave up and took his own life. If only we could encourage our loved ones how to step out of their feelings and take some form of action. If we can teach our children, our siblings, that it's ok to be weak, that on some days you can have a bad day, we will be doing them a great service. we have to remove the idea than a man cannot show weakness, or that it is okay to ask for help. Kate shares how writing poetry became her healing journey. Everyone was helped by her taking action to heal; her hubby and their two surviving children were helped by her writings. Grief really mirrors pregnancy for Kate. It was growing inside of her; no one was aware of this building in her, but it started coming out in many different moments, sometimes good and sometimes bad, which led to her writing poetry to express how she felt. Kate went from victim to survivor, to victor, to a Helper, and she wanted for others to get through loss in a healthier way, so she used her poetry to help others too. She saw the similarities for her between grief growing inside of her and pregnancy, and this better understand the grieving process for her   In time she knew she had to find someway 'to deliver' the grief from her sense of self, and so she visualized her grief to be the form of a baby gorilla by her side. This visualization helped her to detach from the grief in the times when she needed to focus on her work and family.   Kate learned to say 'Yes to life', no matter how hurt she felt or how down she would feel, just say yes to everything. Kate shares an AA suggestion, that if you are suffering with esteem-able conditions, do esteem-able things. I pray that each of you can be helped by what Kate has shared here today and it is my hope that in the both she and her soulmate will come on as future guests, i believe it will help other parents to hear how dads cope with loss and grief too   https://www.linkedin.com/in/katie-rizzo-098978280/