Permission to lower the bar

Give yourself permission to drop your standards.You want to make the holidays magical: sunny picnics, wholesome crafts, happy children. It’s natural to want that.And there’s another part of you that wants to get through your to-do list because, let’s be honest - you’re not on holiday.So here’s something that might bring a bit of relief: we’re allowed to let go a little.Maybe these holidays aren’t what you pictured. Maybe it’s toast for tea and everyone in pyjamas by five. Children don’t need constant activities. They need presence. Warmth. A sense that it’s safe to stop and rest. Sometimes what they need most is a parent who shows them how to slow down… and be.So if today’s plan goes out the window, let it. If all you manage is just being nearby, that’s enough.Lowering the bar doesn’t mean you’re less of a parent. It might actually mean you’re giving more - more of what truly matters.You’re tuning out the noise and tuning in to what’s manageable, with love. And that is always, always, enough.Thanks for pausing with me. Take care till next time. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kimmccabe.substack.com/subscribe