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EPISODE · Jan 10, 2026 · 10 MIN

The Nice Trap Overcoming People Pleasing & The Fawn Response (Nervous System Reset Ep 4)

from Calming Anxiety | Guided Meditation, Sleep Hypnosis & Panic Attack Relief · host Martin Hewlett - Calming Anxiety

Do you apologize when someone else bumps into you? Do you scan the room to ensure everyone else is happy, leaving yourself exhausted and invisible?This isn't just "being nice"—it is a biological survival strategy known as the Fawn Response.In the final episode of our Nervous System Reset mini-series, we tackle the hidden trauma response of People Pleasing. We move beyond the mindset of "just say no" and use Somatic Healing to teach your body that it is safe to take up space.In this guided session, you will learn:The Science of Fawning: Why your nervous system chooses to "merge" with others to avoid conflict.Somatic Grounding: Using the "Dinosaur Tail" and "Golden Thread" techniques to find your physical center.The "Bubble of Authority": A powerful physical exercise to define your personal boundaries and stop energy leaks.Boundary Affirmations: Rewiring the brain to understand that "My 'No' is a complete sentence".Key Affirmation from this episode: "I do not need to earn love by being useful. It is safe for me to disappoint others to protect myself." Complete the Series:Ep 2: Escaping Functional Freeze (The "Shutdown" Response)Ep 3: Calming the Racing Mind (The "Fight or Flight" Response)Share the Healing: If this series helped you understand your own nervous system, please Share this episode with a friend who needs a reset. You can text them the link right now—it might be the permission they need to set a boundary today.👉 Click to subscribe and unlock ad-free episodes now!Support the Show:Ad-Free Listening: Enjoy Calming Anxiety without ads at https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/calming-anxiety--4110266/supportBuy Me a Coffee: Support hosting costs at https://www.buymeacoffee.com/calminganxietyhttps://calminganxietypodcast.substack.com/?r=6zm0sc&utm_campaign=pub-share-checklistRate & Review: Leave a 5-star review on Spotify or Apple Podcasts to help us reach more listeners!Resources & Courses:Book Hypnotherapy: Schedule a one-on-one session with Martin at https://calendar.app.google/rXHMt8sRYft5iWma8 Pain & Anxiety Course:Manage negative thoughts and pain with The Physio Crew’s course at https://offers.thephysiocrew.co.uk/home-painBreathing Challenge: Try our relaxing breathing challenge at https://www.martinhewlett.co.uk/breathing-challenge/Gift a Subscription: Share Calming Anxiety with loved ones at https://www.martinhewlett.co.uk/shop/calming-anxiety-gift-subscription/Get the App:iOS: Download Calming Anxiety at https://apps.apple.com/gb/app/calming-anxiety/id1576159331 Android:Get it on Google Play at https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=digital.waterfront.calming.anxiety&hl=en-GBConnect With Us:Email: Share feedback or requests at [email protected]: Watch all episodes at https://www.youtube.com/c/calminganxiety?sub_confirmation=1 Social Media Support: For younger listeners struggling with social media stress, visit https://www.icanhelp.net/Backing Music: Chris Collins===================Affiliate links to the gear I use the items that give me a more tranquil life.Rode Podmic - https://amzn.to/3LN1JEdZoom Livetrak L8 - https://amzn.to/36UCIbySony ZV 1 - https://amzn.to/3JvDUPTGoPro Hero 8 Black - https://amzn.to/372rzFlDJI Mini 2 - https://amzn.to/3NQfMdY=============================Items I use for a more relaxed way of life :)Organic Pure Hemp CBD Capsules - https://amzn.to/3Ready for More Calm?Thank you for listening to the Calming Anxiety Podcast, featuring guided meditation, mindfulness, and sleep hypnosis sessions with Martin Hewlett. Our mission is to provide you with proven tools for anxiety relief, stress reduction, and a path toward deep relaxation. Use this episode anytime you need to calm your mind and feel more at ease.

Do you apologize when someone else bumps into you? Do you scan the room to ensure everyone else is happy, leaving yourself exhausted and invisible?This isn't just "being nice"—it is a biological survival strategy known as the Fawn Response.In the final episode of our Nervous System Reset mini-series, we tackle the hidden trauma response of People Pleasing. We move beyond the mindset of "just say no" and use Somatic Healing to teach your body that it is safe to take up space.In this guided session, you will learn:The Science of Fawning: Why your nervous system chooses to "merge" with others to avoid conflict.Somatic Grounding: Using the "Dinosaur Tail" and "Golden Thread" techniques to find your physical center.The "Bubble of Authority": A powerful physical exercise to define your personal boundaries and stop energy leaks.Boundary Affirmations: Rewiring the brain to understand that "My 'No' is a complete sentence".Key Affirmation from this episode: "I do not need to earn love by being useful. It is safe for me to disappoint others to protect myself." Complete the Series:Ep 2: Escaping Functional Freeze (The "Shutdown" Response)Ep 3: Calming the Racing Mind (The "Fight or Flight" Response)Share the Healing: If this series helped you understand your own nervous system, please Share this episode with a friend who needs a reset. You can text them the link right now—it might be the permission they need to set a boundary today.👉 Click to subscribe and unlock ad-free episodes now!Support the Show:Ad-Free Listening: Enjoy Calming Anxiety without ads at https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/calming-anxiety--4110266/supportBuy Me a Coffee: Support hosting costs at https://www.buymeacoffee.com/calminganxietyhttps://calminganxietypodcast.substack.com/?r=6zm0sc&utm_campaign=pub-share-checklistRate & Review: Leave a 5-star review on Spotify or Apple Podcasts to help us reach more listeners!Resources & Courses:Book Hypnotherapy: Schedule a one-on-one session with Martin at https://calendar.app.google/rXHMt8sRYft5iWma8 Pain & Anxiety Course:Manage negative thoughts and pain with The Physio Crew’s course at https://offers.thephysiocrew.co.uk/home-painBreathing Challenge: Try our relaxing breathing challenge at https://www.martinhewlett.co.uk/breathing-challenge/Gift a Subscription: Share Calming Anxiety with loved ones at https://www.martinhewlett.co.uk/shop/calming-anxiety-gift-subscription/Get the App:iOS: Download Calming Anxiety at https://apps.apple.com/gb/app/calming-anxiety/id1576159331 Android:Get it on Google Play at https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=digital.waterfront.calming.anxiety&hl=en-GBConnect With Us:Email: Share...

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