EPISODE · Jan 7, 2026 · 18 MIN
The Sex I Didn't Have (and what to do about it)
from Unprocessed · host Lia Avellino
When we have to skip certain developmental experiences as children, we may try to have that experience in adulthood. I share about the fun I didn't have and how that shows up in my present life. In this episode I explore, both the necessity of and potential parameters needed in order to get to fuck up, without fucking up our lives. I get into how questioning your life choices may be evidence, not that the choice is wrong, but that it cannot make up for what you didn't experience. This is for you if you have regret, you regress to childlike thinking "I am done", "I don't want to express my needs", "they should know", "my life was tough so now I get to be the tough one", or you fantasize about the lives you didn't choose to live.
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When we have to skip certain developmental experiences as children, we may try to have that experience in adulthood. I share about the fun I didn't have and how that shows up in my present life. In this episode I explore, both the necessity of and potential parameters needed in order to get to fuck up, without fucking up our lives. I get into how questioning your life choices may be evidence, not that the choice is wrong, but that it cannot make up for what you didn't experience. This is for you if you have regret, you regress to childlike thinking "I am done", "I don't want to express my needs", "they should know", "my life was tough so now I get to be the tough one", or you fantasize about the lives you didn't choose to live.
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The Sex I Didn't Have (and what to do about it)
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