Time

Changes take time and it's important to acknowledge this.  I have thousands of sessions every year with people and one fact that can come out when people have been trying to get better, is the fear of failure. If we try to push ourselves too hard to change or expect too much of ourselves then we will be adding to the issues, not helping them.  What we need to do is find ways that we challenge ourselves but not strain ourselves over the process of changing. If we see this changing process as three stepladders; the first one is full of lots of rungs very close together and this is when we are not pushing ourselves enough to change. If we have become afraid of driving on the motorway and we are struggling to gain our confidence again, if we are also not going on dual carriageways much or even driving much, then we won't be challenging ourselves much to change and find, like the ladder, we are just stepping on the spot and not moving forward with change.