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EPISODE · Nov 3, 2025 · 29 MIN

Used & Confused: When Besties Expect Your Talent Instead of Your Time

from Slightly Unsupervised · host Jennifer Hobbs & Jackie Schroeder

Send us Fan MailEpisode Title: Used & Confused: When Besties Expect Your Talent Instead of Your Time Description: You get the invite—but it’s not to relax, it’s to help. In this episode of Slightly Unsupervised, Jennifer and Jackie dive into one of the most relatable friendship gray areas: being valued for your talent instead of your presence. Whether you’re the photographer who gets asked to “just bring your camera,” the baker who’s always volunteered for dessert, or the friend who somehow ends up planning every group trip—this one’s for you. Because there’s a big difference between giving freely and being expected to give. Inspired by a listener whose best friend “invited” her to be the wedding photographer—without pay or a chance to party—Jennifer and Jackie unpack what it feels like to be used, how to set boundaries without guilt, and why saying “no” isn’t selfish, it’s self-respect. In This Episode: 📸 When “Can you bring your camera?” turns into a full-time job [02:00] 🍰 The baker, the planner, the helper — and the burnout [04:00] 💄 Hairdressers, florists, and all the unpaid “friend labor” [07:20] 🙅‍♀️ The power of saying no (without losing the friendship) [08:30] 💔 When you realize your talent is valued more than your presence [13:30] 💡 How to handle it with grace—and protect your peace [18:00] 💖 Why true friends value your company, not your contributions [25:00] 🎙️ Bonus Segment: Rapid-Fire Bestie Questions — “Who’s More Likely to Get Roped Into Working a Party?” 🎶 Closing Song: Definition of a Best Friend by Brooke August & Hannah Rose ▶️ Follow Brooke on YouTube: @brookeaugust 👉 Subscribe to Slightly Unsupervised on Apple Podcasts, leave a 5-star review, and share this with the friend who deserves to just show up and enjoy the party. #SlightlyUnsupervised #Bestiemony #FriendshipPodcast #UsedAndConfused #FriendshipBoundaries #BestiesAndBurnout #FriendshipMatters #WomenSupportingWomen #UnfilteredFriendship #ChooseYourPeople #BestFriendEnergy #HealingThroughHumor #RideOrDie #SupportiveFriendships #RespectYourTime Chickology PodcastsBold podcasts by women, for women. Real talk. Real growth.Bestiemony®Honor your forever friendship with a Bestiemony®.Rhinestone Wedding Chapel Weddings, Elvis, & Bestiemony® ceremonies—only in Nashville at Rhinestone Chapel. Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you.This episode of Slightly Unsupervised was brought to you by the creators of Bestiemony®—the original friendship ceremony that proves soulmates don’t always come with a marriage license. Hosted by Jennifer and Jackie: best friends, business partners, and co-founders of the movement celebrating real, ride-or-die love.💍 Book a Bestiemony: rhinestoneweddingchapel.com/bestiemony 📱 Follow us on Instagram at @Bestiemonies 📩 Got a bestie story to share or a subject request? Email us at [email protected]

Send us Fan Mail Episode Title: Used & Confused: When Besties Expect Your Talent Instead of Your Time Description: You get the invite—but it’s not to relax, it’s to help. In this episode of Slightly Unsupervised, Jennifer and Jackie dive into one of the most relatable friendship gray areas: being valued for your talent instead of your presence. Whether you’re the photographer who gets asked to “just bring your camera,” the baker who’s always volunteered for dessert, or the fr...

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