We're allowed to have needs too

Somewhere along the way, many of us believe that being a good parent means putting ourselves last. And without even realising, we’re giving up the last bite, shelving our plans, holding on far too long before we let ourselves rest.And of course, when there’s a real emergency, we show up fully. But when every day starts to feel like an emergency, there’s no room left for us.Here’s the gentle truth: we have needs too. And meeting those needs isn’t selfish, it’s wise. It’s kind. It’s what shows our children what being a whole, healthy adult really looks like.Because they’re watching. Our daughters are wondering if they’ll have to disappear into care-taking to be good enough. Our sons are learning what adulthood is from the way we treat ourselves.So when we eat something nourishing, when we rest, when we laugh, when we take even five minutes to breathe or have a quiet cup of tea, we’re not just doing it for ourselves. We’re showing them how to live well. How to take up space in your own life.You don’t have to prove your love by running on empty.You’re already enough. And you belong in the circle of care too.So start small. A glass of water. A breath. A moment to ask yourself, what do I need right now?You matter too.(summary of Kim’s Parent Pause audio) This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit kimmccabe.substack.com/subscribe