What If I Had an Affair While I Was Married to My Abusive Husband? [162]

Did you know that abuse has a bestie?Its sneaky little friend is Shame. Shame is a talkative fellow but very dependable. He hangs on your earlobes and yells: “You’re not perfect, so you can’t point out your husband’s faults.”“You yelled back, so you expect him to stop.”“You pull away emotionally, so you can’t get angry when he stonewalls.”“You hit him after he hit you, so you deserved it.”“You found comfort in someone else’s arms, so you’re just as bad as him.”“You have no right to expect better when you’re so screwed up.”Shame keeps us bound and trapped, even long after a divorce. So what should you do with these painful, tormenting thoughts?This episode’s bird’s-eye view:How we’re all toddlers running around with giant knives Why what we make things mean matters more than anything else (if that made no sense, you definitely need to listen)What to do with the torment of wanting people to support youThe solution for the shame of your poor choices (it’s warm, thick, organic, and probably grass-fed, and starts with an “L”)The cool club you can join if you’re a sinner (HINT: It’s called “The Human Race”)Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.comI'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage, which has an assessment to help you figure out if your relationship is abusive or not. All you have to do is hop on my mailing list at https://flyingfreesisterhood.com/free-downloadYou can also find out about our online education and support program for women of faith at https://joinflyingfree.comAnd finally, if you are a divorced Christian woman who wants to take back her life and get healthy, lose weight, have amazing relationships, get things done, build a business or career, and even find a good man (if you want one) - check out Flying Higher at https://joinflyinghigher.com