Why Being Rejected by Your Church and Family Hurts So Bad [186]

“I don’t think I’ll ever heal from this,” she said. “You expect harm from people who only harm you. From him. Not the ones who know you, who grew up with you, who you went to church with.” Do you know the pain of rejection by your family, friends, and church? I do. I’ve lost entire nights of sleep swimming in that pain. It’s mind-numbing. Excruciating. A listener told me that after being rejected by her church and family, she felt like she was standing on an alien ship watching her home planet being blown up. Then she asked the questions you might be wondering too:How do we survive such great loss? Is there any healing for grief that goes deeper than your bones? Hurts that nearly fracture your body?Yes, dear one. But the truth is that as painful as the facts are, your hurt is increased 100 fold by the story you’re telling yourself about it. And the meaning you’re giving that story.From one heart-weary woman to another, here’s the scoop on the most important story of your life..and the secret to changing it. Because rejection hasn’t ended the good of your story. Not by a long shot.In this episode:A prickly cactus, Jesus getting slapped, lots of Pirate’s Booty, and 8 billion people. If that’s not enough to tickle your fancy…How what happened (the facts) and what we make it mean ( the story) creates our emotions (pain)Why beliefs create the result (often extra pain)The way to discover what you believe (the whole story)2 things that have helped me after losing most of my relationships (based on things I CAN’T lose)How Jesus’ pain and his responses are great examples for us to followThe one relationship you have from which all other relationships flow (SURPRISE: It’s not with God)Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.comI'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage, which has an assessment to help you figure out if your relationship is abusive or not. All you have to do is hop on my mailing list at https://flyingfreesisterhood.com/free-downloadYou can also find out about our online education and support program for women of faith at https://joinflyingfree.comAnd finally, if you are a divorced Christian woman who wants to take back her life and get healthy, lose weight, have amazing relationships, get things done, build a business or career, and even find a good man (if you want one) - check out Flying Higher at https://joinflyinghigher.com