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EPISODE · Nov 15, 2025 · 23 MIN

You Are Your Only Competition: Building a Self-Rooted Confidence

from Sincerely, Self · host Lexi Benitez

In this week’s episode of Sincerely Self, Lexi dives deep into a topic she has never dedicated a full episode to… but has been talking about for years: confidence—the real kind, not the ego-built kind.   Fresh off a trip to Mexico (and an unexpectedly inspiring mindset conference), Lexi opens up about creative ruts, rebuilding self-trust, and why so many of us mistake confidence for arrogance. She breaks down the difference between ego-based confidence—the kind built on likes, filters, and external validation—and self-rooted confidence, which is grounded in self-awareness, accountability, and inner safety.   You’ll learn:   Why confidence is more than liking your looks—it’s about trusting yourself How ego-based confidence forms in the social media era How comparison, scarcity mindset, and self-criticism erode self-worth Why your only true competition is your past self How to set short, medium, and long-term goals that actually stick Journaling prompts to help you uncover the REAL you How to begin showing up today as the version of you you’re becoming     Lexi also shares her personal systems—visual monthly boards, planners, and growth trackers—that helped her stop breaking promises to herself and finally hit her podcast monetization goal.   If you’ve been in a rut, stuck in comparison mode, or struggling to build confidence that lasts, this episode will feel like a deep breath and a reset. Learn more about me <3SINCERELY, SELF WEBSITE: sincerelyselfpodcast.comINSTA: https://tr.ee/_hDgsXsjmETIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@sincerelyselfpodcast?_t=zt-8zjvsa3xu4d&_r=1NETWORK: https://theradcastnetwork.comGet some EvryJewels with a discount:https://evryjewels.com/?ref=alexisbenitezvtnUse code:ALEXIS889 for $$$ off🤍Check out my Hollister Favs:https://community.hollisterco.com/s/sincerelyselfIf this episode encouraged you, please:Subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you listen.Leave a ★★★★★ I Love you!   PS: Don’t forget to follow Lexi on Instagram and TikTok for weekly guest previews, clips, and behind-the-scenes updates. Leave a ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ review to help the show grow!   Episodes Mentioned: • Dr. Hector – Founder of The Butterfly Clinic • John Kippen – Magician & author (with a free book download!)   Listener Challenge: Comment a 🦋 if you made it to the end.

In this week’s episode of Sincerely Self, Lexi dives deep into a topic she has never dedicated a full episode to… but has been talking about for years: confidence—the real kind, not the ego-built kind.   Fresh off a trip to Mexico (and an unexpectedly inspiring mindset conference), Lexi opens up about creative ruts, rebuilding self-trust, and why so many of us mistake confidence for arrogance. She breaks down the difference between ego-based confidence—the kind built on likes, filters, and external validation—and self-rooted confidence, which is grounded in self-awareness, accountability, and inner safety.   You’ll learn:   Why confidence is more than liking your looks—it’s about trusting yourself How ego-based confidence forms in the social media era How comparison, scarcity mindset, and self-criticism erode self-worth Why your only true competition is your past self How to set short, medium, and long-term goals that actually stick Journaling prompts to help you uncover the REAL you How to begin showing up today as the version of you you’re becoming     Lexi also shares her personal systems—visual monthly boards, planners, and growth trackers—that helped her stop breaking promises to herself and finally hit her podcast monetization goal.   If you’ve been in a rut, stuck in comparison mode, or struggling to build confidence that lasts, this episode will feel like a deep breath and a reset. Learn more about me <3SINCERELY, SELF WEBSITE: sincerelyselfpodcast.comINSTA: https://tr.ee/_hDgsXsjmETIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@sincerelyselfpodcast?_t=zt-8zjvsa3xu4d&_r=1NETWORK: https://theradcastnetwork.comGet some EvryJewels with a discount:https://evryjewels.com/?ref=alexisbenitezvtnUse code:ALEXIS889 for $$$ off🤍Check out my Hollister Favs:https://community.hollisterco.com/s/sincerelyselfIf this episode encouraged you, please:Subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you listen.Leave a ★★★★★ I Love you!   PS: Don’t forget to follow Lexi on Instagram and TikTok for weekly guest previews, clips, and behind-the-scenes updates. Leave a ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ review to help the show grow!   Episodes Mentioned: • Dr. Hector – Founder of The Butterfly Clinic • John Kippen – Magician & author (with a free book download!)   Listener Challenge: Comment a 🦋 if you made it to the end.

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