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Actually, You Can
by Bryce Peterson
In the spirit of thought leaders like Brooke Castillo, Jody Moore, and Kain Ramsay, Bryce Peterson brings the message of CTFAR (Circumstances Thoughts Feelings Action Results) and Core Identity to Latter-Day Saint dads. With the empowering and liberating knowledge that our thoughts (NOT our circumstances) drive our emotions, we can press forward through life’s challenges and opportunities with a new-found hope and confidence. Can you really make a difference in this world? Actually, you can.
Episodes
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97. Foundations: Ignite Your Transformation
Brace yourself for a practical framework for initiating personal transformation. By understanding the pull of our lower brain, consciously choosing a direction, creating actionable plans, and embracing imperfect action, we can move towards a more engaged, purposeful, and fulfilling life...
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96. Foundations: Primal Tension and the Pull of the Lower Brain
Did you know there's ancient mental programming tugging on us at any given moment? It's true. Our lower brains have a simple agenda: conserve energy, avoid pain, and pursue pleasure. Understanding this reality is such a huge help as we navigate decisions, big or small.
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95. Foundations: Causal Coaching and The CTFAR Model
How would you like to know how to navigate any challenge you could ever be confronted with? In this first installment of my Foundations series, I reveal the indispensable and illuminating tool of the CTFAR model. Circumstances, Thoughts, Feelings, Actions, Results. Being recently certified in the...
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94. Senses Fail
We've learned to rely on our senses. But what happens when they're wrong? Our beliefs about what's real and possible are controlling our entire lives, and creating our experience along the way. Are we ready to open ourselves to more expansive possibilities?
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93. MindOS
Your smartphone just got an update. New bells and whistles. But what about our minds? That's right. Your mind has an operating system. And it's running your entire life.
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92. Doubt and Fear vs. Inspiration and Creation
Bryce Peterson dives deep into the battle between doubt and fear versus inspiration and creation. Sharing personal updates, including a life-changing move to Hawaii and achieving major certifications, Bryce explores how our lower brains drive us to avoid pain, seek pleasure, and conserve energy,...
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91. Welcome to Hawaii!
We made it to Hawaii! It feels almost too big to believe, but it's true. It's been every bit of a mental shift as a physical change, and this new chapter of our lives is just getting started!
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90. How To Say Goodbye
The winds of change are swirling like never before at our house! Our oldest just entered the Provo Missionary Training Center and we are moving next week! These are uncharted waters for us and it's comforting the know that these are choices and changes we decided on with much prayer and…
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89. Know Your Lower Brain!
The most impactful thing I’ve learned in my adult life is the reality and agenda of the lower brain. It’s programmed for three fundamental facets: be efficient, avoid pain, and seek pleasure. The lower brain is critical for our survival, but it’s overused and often unmanaged. Bringing awareness…
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88. Sunrise, Sunset
Every sunrise and sunset is unique and incredible. Just like each person. And the ‘day of this life’ is what lies between. What will we do with the gift of the day of this life? What will we choose to enjoy? What and who will we choose to appreciate?
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87. Rules of Engagement
Many of us follow sports to some degree or another. Sports don't exist in the absence of rules. Have you ever stopped to evaluate what rule book you're living by? The rules of engagement we adhere to are governing our experience of the world and the people we care about. It's time to take a…
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86. Escape Velocity
Just like nothing man-made ever escapes the earth's gravitational pull by accident, progress in our own lives doesn't happen by chance either. It all requires effort, propelled with the right fuel. This is how we achieve Escape Velocity. The force keeping our lives stagnant is Primal Tension. But...
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85. Letters
It seems like a good old fashioned letter is more and more a thing of the past. But I'm here to declare that letters, particularly ones you never send, can be very therapeutic and useful. I recently participated a new podcast with my friends Loran and B. It's called To Whom It May Concern (unsent...
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84. Life Doesn't Happen (You Do)
Do you ever feel powerless, like you're at the mercy of the storm of life as it swirls about you? There will always be circumstances outside our control, but the beauty of life is that we have a say in how we engage with the world! We are happening to the world, just as much as it's happening to...
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83. Unsolicited Advice
We're surrounded by a torrential downpour of information these days, and it's not slowing down anytime soon. But is it really helpful? Let's pull out our metaphorical umbrellas, folks, because chances are, the advice being handed out could be simply slowing us down in our journey. Let's learn to...
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82. The Author and The Finisher
I add my voice among the millions who have come to know that Jesus Christ is the Messiah, the Savior of the world. His generosity knows no bounds.
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81. Room Service (Emotional Adulthood vs. Emotional Childhood)
Why is room service so amazing? Breakfast in bed. Lunch in bed. Dinner in bed. I'm all for it. Well, my lower brain is, anyway. The thing about room service is it checks all the boxes of our lower brains directives: 1. Expend the least amount of personal energy possible. 2. Avoid pain. 3. Seek...
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80. Cloudy, With a Chance of Feelings
Have you ever noticed that different people react differently to the same weather? Some people love cloudy days, while others are disappointed by them. We might even appreciate rain one day, and despise it another. Like anything else in life, weather is a circumstance. I've been presented with a...
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79. Write Your Script: It's Not Over at 40
Ever feel like you're stuck in the same old story? Stagnant career, ticking biological clock, and a future that feels more like a countdown than an exciting adventure? This episode smashes that script! We'll explore the power of reframing your forties as a wide-open chapter, packed with potential...
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78. Our Emotional Playlists
At the end of last year, the major music platforms sent out a summary of our yearly listening metrics. I wasn't surprised to see that I listened to my favorite band, Clutch, for hundreds of hours. However, I was taken back by the song I listened to more than any other: In the Meantime, by…
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77. Mirror, Mirror on the Wall: The Power of Questions
With the seemingly sudden rise of AI into the limelight, it almost feels as though we have a magic mirror that we can speak to and it will show us anything we want to see. Wait - that’s essentially what it is. Did you know your brain can do this too? It’s been there our entire life doing this…
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76. When You’re 16 (Happy Birthday-Day, Talmage!)
This is a tribute to Talmage, our now 16 year old! What a dynamic 16 years it’s been. Looking forward to all the rest!
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75. Hybrid Theory
If you’re like me, you’ve burned more than a few brain cells while trying to unravel the mysteries of the universe. One of the most interesting and ongoing debates in human rhetoric is between the Naturalists and Creationists. It seems we’re left with choosing one or the other. But what if…
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74. What Do You Mean?
Have you ever been captivated by a poem written by AI? Felt empathy for a character crafted by algorithms? Chances are, your brain's meaning-making engine is purring. In this podcast, we dive into the fascinating world of how we, as humans, find meaning in everything, even the artificial. We'll...
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73. Primal Tension
I coach Latter-day Saint fathers on identifying, navigating, and overcoming Primal Tension - namely the earthly force of nature that's always stood between us and our honorable aspirations. Is an even more amazing marriage possible? Who doesn't want that?! What about confidently advancing our...
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72. Interested Over Interesting
Do you ever worry that you’re not interesting enough to other people? Well, here’s the thing. It’s far more valuable to be interested in others than it is to strive to be interesting. Here are a few reasons why: **1. Connection and rapport:** By focusing on others and their interests, you create…
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71. The Stature of Our Systems
One of the most fundamental truths we can ever learn in this world is this: "We do not rise to the level of our goals; we sink to the stature of our systems." - James Clear (author of Atomic Habits) It is through our repeated actions (driven by our thoughts and accompanying emotions) that we can...
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70. Behold, the Drama Triangle
Do you ever feel like the outside world is reigning blows down upon you - that you're a powerless victim in need of rescuing? Psychiatrist Dr. Stephen Karpman articulated a paradigm called the Drama Triangle, in which he describes this very scenario. He seemed to notice this drama playing out, in...
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69. Play Some More
What can Chinese Checkers teach us about life? Turns out, quite a bit! In this episode I reflect on some insights I gained from playing one of my favorite childhood games.
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68. Christmas When?
Remember that song from The Forgotten Carols "I Cry the Day I Take the Tree Down"? We sometimes feel a little gloomy when Christmas is over, but why is that? It's as if it's something that floats into our lives like a flock of birds, and then leaves. As I've come to learn from a friend of mine,...
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67. Mortals
Mary and Joseph are beloved the world over for the indispensable role they played in raising the Lord Jesus Christ. But they were mortals. In this way, the were like the rest of us. They were no strangers to feeling vulnerable and inadequate. In fact, they would have known it more intimately than...
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66. (It Really Is) A Wonderful Life!
I truly believe my Dad was right when he said It's A Wonderful Life is the greatest movie of all time, and this episode explains why.
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65. Circles
Have you ever noticed that circle drawn around you? It's there, whether or not you can see it. These metaphorical circles represent the limitations we place on ourselves by our beliefs. We unwittingly draw these same circles around other people and it dictates how we interact with them. But what…
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64. Line Upon Line
Do you ever feel like you want to fast forward past a challenge, or hurry up and get to that exciting vacation you've been planning? Thing is, we can move through life one moment at a time. Nothing more. Nothing less. What if we savored the moment we were in right now? Could that benefit us?
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63. Gratitude
Life is swishing past us at an increasing pace! If we don’t take the time to be grateful for the madness of it all, we just might miss it.
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62. Like a Child
The most transcendent invitation the Savior has extended to us is to become as little children. "For of such is the kingdom of heaven." And further: "For such have I laid down my life and taken it up again." What kinds of attitudes and behaviors would we need to prune in order to give heed to…
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61. The Currency of Progress
Our lower brains would love nothing more than for us to never feel discomfort. But in order to grow, progress, and achieve, we need to embrace the reality of being uncomfortable. The sooner and more effective we are at navigating discomfort, the better we'll be able to attain our highest goals....
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60. What is Truth?
The Spirit of God speaks things as they really are, and as they really will be. How in alignment are our minds or perceptions with reality? Circumstances are in the truth category. Our thoughts, however, while true for us, do not represent the greater reality. Because of this, our version of...
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59. The Magic of Being
My wellness pointed out something rather interesting this week. There are three words most of us tend to have mixed up: Do Have Be We're under the impression that if we "do" something, then we can "have" a certain result, and therefore "be" the person we want to be. It's as if we'll give…
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58. Forty Over Forty
Are you over forty and interested in losing forty pounds? I’ve successfully achieved this and will be explaining precisely what I did, how long it took, and things to keep in mind as you approach it. I never thought I’d be in better shape at age 42 than I was in high school, and yet, here I am.…
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57. Candles
One year ago I made perhaps one of the most impactful birthday wishes of my entire life. And with careful consideration, reflection, and faith, I was able to make that wish come true. This life is a grand experiment, in a way, where get to discover what we can accomplish with God's help - as well...
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56. We Can't Do It Alone
Have you ever wondered why God didn't place us all on our own planets, by ourselves, alone? Some things are only known to Him, but it's clearly not supposed to be that way. I reflected recently on how all the temple blessings I enjoy are made possible by all of you. Yes, you. Anyone who's ever…
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55. Incredible Outcomes
We recently enjoyed the grandeur of Arches National Park. Such amazing geographical structures can be experienced there! The timescale required to produce these phenomena is so large, it's beyond the ability of our brains to truly comprehend. But that doesn't mean we shouldn't take time to honor...
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54. P.R.A.Y.E.R.
I was recently in a meeting with senior local Church leadership and we were told something that gave me pause. The Stake President declared, "Brethren, you need to learn how to pray." Part of me almost wondered, "Did I hear that right? Was it just implied I don't know how to do something I've…
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53. Sufficient Is The Day
Sometimes whatever is going on today - feels - like it's more than we could possible handle or navigate. We've all been there. Perhaps more time than we care to count. But what if today contained all the resources we could possibly need to press through it? What if that were true? I promise that…
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52. Awareness Eclipse
We in Utah had the opportunity to witness a solar eclipse today! Some people traveled hundreds of miles to position themselves optimally so they could experience 'totality'. The sun shining on earth could be compared with shining awareness onto our thoughts. Because our thoughts control our…
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51. In The Mirror
I had a profound dream when I was fourteen years old. It really got me thinking about the hereafter, and how our choices in the world impact our future condition. All heavenly opportunities have been extended to every one of us. It's up to us to cultivate attitudes and behaviors that will promote...
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50. The Mixing Board
Have you ever seen one of those fancy sound mixing boards? I've been tinkering with a rudimentary one recently and it really gets me thinking about our brains. We get to mix and synthesize all the external stimuli coming our way and it becomes our experience of the world. Take the time to reflect...
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49. The Anatomy of Fear
Does it ever frustrate you that after all this time, after all you’ve been through and accomplished in your life, you’re still afraid of the dark? Let’s face it. We’re all afraid of something. Likely more than one thing. But it’s probably not useful, by and large. That is, allowing all our fears…
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48. Let’s Think Celestial
Thinking of our lives in terms of having Celestial bookends can give perspective and anchoring reassurance to our mortal experience. Knowing that we have the Heavenly Endorsement to be in this world makes all the difference during times of challenge and uncertainty. More: It's our divine...
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In the spirit of thought leaders like Brooke Castillo, Jody Moore, and Kain Ramsay, Bryce Peterson brings the message of CTFAR (Circumstances Thoughts Feelings Action Results) and Core Identity to Latter-Day Saint dads. With the empowering and liberating knowledge that our thoughts (NOT our circumstances) drive our emotions, we can press forward through life’s challenges and opportunities with a new-found hope and confidence. Can you really make a difference in this world? Actually, you can.
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