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Addicted To People
by Addicted to People
Is co-dependency making your life unmanageable? Do you find yourself saying yes when you want to say no? We have been there (who hasn’t?) with almost 30 years of co-dependency recovery under my belt I share my experience, strength and hope. Though I am very 12-step oriented I pull in LOTS of other resources because there is no one-size-fits-all when it comes to setting boundaries and taking your life back. Join me and occasional guests! If you get nothing from this, well, heck it was free and you get to keep your misery.
Episodes
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A farewell and a hello
I am currently saying goodbye to this particular podcast because I am beginning to new one so listen in and I’ll give you all the details
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Episode 48 - Depression part deuce
Well another dive into the depression well. I am sharing with you some of the things I’ve done to try to help myself get out of the depression, how well that’s going,what’s worked for me and I want to remind everyone over and over that 1.you should reach out and 2. there is no difference between...
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Episode 47 Depression and addiction an unholy alliance
Well I love you know that I suffer from major depressive disorder and that means I’m cyclical and right now I’m in the cycle of depression. I almost didn’t do the podcast because I am just you know programed to believe I should always put my best foot forward but that’s not what this podcast is...
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Episode 46-Are there ANY good men?
Well this is a deep dive into the patriarchy into women’s role in the patriarchy women’s role in keeping themselves to a different standard than they keep men. I really wanna hear from people after they hear this so I’m gonna put my email here in the hopes that that is an easier way for you to…
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Episode 45 You be YOU
I used to always make the joke that I had to be myself because nobody else wanted to be. And I guess that’s true but it had sort of a negative connotation that being me was not all that great. And that’s how I went through most of my life, thinking that there was always something wrong with me,...
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Episode 44 -Narcissistic Parents
In this rather long episode (I’m sorry about that )I talk about what it’s like to grow up with narcissistic parents. Anybody who has grown up with an alcoholic has grown up with a narcissist and the kind of damage that they can do can be very deep and it can feel like it’s actually part of your...
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Episode 43 - Higher Power? No way! (Way)
Just starting to tackle that tricky little second step where higher power comes into the whole recovery scene. I have no answers. I have musings I have thoughts I have questions. Please let me know your musings, thoughts and questions by going to the Facebook page for addicted to people. Hope you...
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Episode 42- TRAUMA!!!
Please a little bit of a heavy one with the events that happened this week with the storming of the capital I find myself thinking back to the terrorism of my childhood and the childhood a lot of kids grew up in alcoholic homes. And I’m finding a lot of parallels in the lack of understanding I…
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Episode 41 - How did my life turn out this way?
If you’re anything like me you’ve asked yourself from time to time how did I end up like this? Now I’m thrice times divorced I have been through a lot of financial difficulties and I seem to always have somebody addicted in my life. So in this episode we talk about patterns and how examining the...
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Episode 40 - Acceptance is frickin’ HARD
Yes I know we’ve talked about acceptance before but you can never talk about it enough. Acceptance is sort of the basis of all of recovery. I contend it’s the basis of happiness. It’s not all of happiness and we still do need Disneyland but it’s the basis, it’s the ground rock, without it it’s...
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Episode 39 Who is America’s real God?
Hey everyone I go into talking about basically who does America worship. Turns out it’s not who we worship it’s what we worship, which is capitalism and the almighty dollar. Unfortunately this year has taught us that that really doesn’t work. We have thousands of people dying every day and yet…
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Episode 38- STOP denying reality! It’s not the flu
Deep dive into denial both about the denial of Covid did it I was about the vaccine the denial about the presidential election the denial that I can have can’t have more than one cookie at a time without going overboard and the denial that stops us from making positive healthy choices. You cannot...
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Episode 37- you are worth caring about
In this weeks episode I am talking about caring about ourselves loving ourselves enough to leave when we’re being mistreated. I am so please join me and I’m gonna read some wonderful comments I found on a on a Twitter thread him anonymously but just to let you know that it’s these things are very...
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Episode 36 - A major AHA revelation
In this episode I talk about a huge moment of understanding about the dynamics of my family that came it seems like out of nowhere and I just really felt the need to talk about it and see what you think about it and how it might be late to your family. Hope you’re all staying safe hope I get to...
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Episode 35-COVID one day at a time
I share how I got through the last week and how I’m getting through every week of this quarantine. I’ve been in quarantine since February and I live alone and it’s been a challenge. But I will admit I am not sick and that is a gratitude. Please come and talk with me at the addictive people…
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Episode 34- getting through this f&@$king year
I’m not having a great day today and so I decided it was the perfect day to do a podcast about how sucky this year was and how we get through it. Serenity prayer is heavily influential. Join me on Facebook on the addicted to people Facebook page and I hope you are staying safe.
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Episode 33- martyrdom is not all that fun
Today I look at one of the four M’s, martyrdom and the making of myself as a martyr and how I’ve clung to that self-image and why. I hope you can relate to some of it. I think that martyrdom is one of the most insidious and difficult of the coping mechanisms to eradicate. I think that we are a…
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Episode 32- Pissed Off!!!
Hey everyone I am one pissed off woman. I didn’t know what I was going to do a podcast about because I was so angry so I decided to do a podcast about being angry. If you have ever felt like you are second-class citizen simply because you are a woman this is the episode for you. Please leave your...
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Episode 31 - social media makes me sadder
In this I give you a little bit of homework and that homework is to watch the documentary the social dilemma on Netflix. It really speak to those of us that look for validation and self-esteem on the outside of ourselves and exacerbates an already difficult problem. I do mention that I am going…
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Episode 30- I need ATTENTION
I talk about the basis of probably my life which is low self-esteem in the first of little probably be two or three episodes. Please take a listen and please leave a comment on the Facebook page for addicted to people and I love to hear from you.
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Episode 29- What happens when we’re all crazy at once
There’s a saying in Al-Anon that it works because we’re not all crazy at the same time. But unfortunately here in America most of us are going a bit crazy if not totally crazy. So what do you do when you’re dealing with not just alcoholics and addicts but all the unrecovered codependents? If…
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Episode 28- Getting Free
This episode deals with the idea of Maslow‘s hierarchy and how institutions people and philosophies can actually stop us from being our best selves, from being happy joyous and free as promised in the big book. I hope that even if you’ve heard this information before it helps in some small way to...
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Episode 27 Happiness and Depression and COVID
So this is a discussion about the pursuit of happiness and the pursuit of not being depressed in the age of a pandemic. I talk about a wonderful documentary that posits the three main elements of creating happiness in your life and a wonderful book by Johann Hari about how to break through...
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Episode 26 - Surrender
This episode is all about how much we have to surrender the things that we can’t control. That the suffering that will cause ourselves by not surrendering to think you can’t control is what makes our life fairly miserable. So I talk about you know what it’s like to surrender to the point what…
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Episode 25- the original wound
This is a bit of a heavy topic when I called the original world is when a baby when a child is not loved by a parent and doesn’t get the kind of sense of self-worth that children need between zero and two years old and I am interested in hearing what anyone has to say about it and if they...
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Episode 24 - how’s that working for you?
In this episode we delve again into the idea of acceptance of reality as it is in the present. Also talk about how important it is to make informed decisions about what we’re going to do and that part of the information we need is about addiction and the specific addiction that are left one is...
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Episode 23- it’s ALL about fear
In this episode we talk about how hard it is for people to accept bad circumstances. That one of the reasons that we don’t want to accept things is that means we have to do something and we don’t want to do that because we’re afraid. So before a person can really really accept that what is is…
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Episode 22 - who are we alone?
In this episode I do a little swerve mostly away from recovery but talking a lot about who we are as addicted people when we’re not with the people we’re addicted to. That being addicted to anything, a person or a substance usually means that we’re not maturing as a human being. It means that the...
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Episode 21 - You DO know what you know
In this episode we talk a little bit about gaslighting and what it’s like to grow up not believing that what you saw what you heard or what you felt was real. How we come to doubt ourselves to the point where we believe what people say over what we see. And this is a real problem when you’re...
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Episode 20 You Feel what you think
Do you have critical thinking skills? When you look at a piece of media do you know what went into making it the way it was? A lot of how we feel about ourselves and a lot about how we feel about other people has been manipulated and if we haven’t been taught how to think about things critically…
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Episode 19- no more toxic relationships
In this episode we explore another one of the emotional regulation skills or ideas from dialectical behavior therapy and that is removing toxic relationships from your life. This is a lifelong skill and challenge but a lot of people in recovery have a lot of other people that should be in…
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Episode 18- Depression, what is it good for?
Absolutely nothing. If you’re in the 60s 70s generation as I am you’ll see this is a play on the song “War! what is it good for absolutely nothing “ but this is about depression, my own personal war. I know is a lot of peoples personal war so we’re going to talk about not what you’re depressed...
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Episode 17 - stop killing your loved one!
Today we tackle enabler‘s and enabling which most addictive people are certainly in that category. Also I discuss what it’s like to be enabled and how I had to break away from being enabled by my parents to actually grow up and become a human being. So jump on in remember to go to my Twitter feed...
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Episode 16 - enmeshment ain’t pretty
Do you feel the same feelings as a loved one to the point where you don’t really know where your feelings start and their feelings end? If so you might be addicted to people. Enmeshment is the very definition of being addicted to a person so we’re gonna talk about what does it mean how can you…
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Episode 15 - is America an alcoholic?
I am a little ragged this week due to all the stuff that’s going on in America at the moment. the title asks Is America an alcoholic because I realize that the feelings that I have about what’s going on are very a kin to the feelings that I had when I was living with active alcoholism so much…
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Episode 14 -Special Guest and boundaries
My guest Karen speaks from the heart about her very difficult childhood and how it's affected her life. Lots of experience, strength and hope! Go to the Facebook page "addicted to People" to comment or ask questions AND subscribe!
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Episode 13 -Acceptance of where we are
A further exploration into the idea of the three A’s awareness, acceptance, and action. In this episode I talk about the reality that we choose to see and how it affects how we view life from that point on out of which lens do we see things. Are we optimist or pessimist or realists?
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Episode 12. Becoming Aware
There are three A’s in recovery; the first one is awareness, the second one is acceptance and the third one is action. The awareness is a part that comes actually before you even start step one which is all about acceptance and so in this episode I talk a little bit about becoming aware of a...
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Episode 11: Where’s the happiness Disney promised me?
In this episode I tackled the deep and complex topic of true love happiness and contentment and self-worth. I know that seems a lot for only 30 minutes but I’m a wizard at this kind of thing. No that’s not true it’s just scratching the surface of course will be talking about this more and more…
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Episode 10 why don’t we leave? Another Reason!
In this episode I talk about basic idea which is that a lot of us end up going to the hardware stores looking for bread. And when they don’t have bread some of us hang around just waiting until they might have bread someday or one time we saw they had bread so we stick around. it’s a little…
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Ep 9 : A special Guest shares her experience, strength and hope
You won't have to listen to me -well, not JUST to me. My dear friend in recovery, Christi, shared her journey and insights for you all. Please let me know how you like it on FB page Addicted to People
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Episode 8 - it ain’t all black or white
In this episode we do discuss the idea that a lot of addictive people suffer from black-and-white thinking and also from judging themselves against other people and pretty much coming up short most of the time. and in this time of sort of forced introspection where we’re probably more of us are…
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Episode 7 Why we don’t leave
Sticking with the idea of things in our lives that caused our life to be unmanageable, I talk about the phenomenon of intermittent reinforcement which you’ll hear is something that I think all people involved with Addicts experience ,waiting for the other shoe to drop, hoping against hope that…
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Episode 6 - Controlling other people
We’re going to take our first foray into step one and talk about how trying to control other people has made our lives miserable. I also talk about why the 12 steps is not a cult tell Violeta to listen to that. Thanks everyone and please go to my Facebook page addicted to people and leave me a...
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Episode 5- Serenity Now!
What does the first step and the serenity prayer have to teach us in this time of such chaos? well it turns out a lot and this is a perfect opportunity to talk about the things that we can control and the things that we can’t. Join me in this overview of the first step it’s certainly not in depth...
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Episode 4 Expectations!
I look into the idea that expectations are premeditated resentments. I tell a little bit of my personal struggles with not having expectations and relate it a bit to what’s going on in the world today. Please email me with any of your comments or questions at [email protected]. And please...
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Ep 3: when people show you who they are....
In the third episode we talk about a couple more coping mechanisms of personality traits that seem to appear in a lot of codependent people. number one;the ignoring of what we call red flags ,really big things that should have been a big warning ( danger Will Robinson ). the second one is on the...
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Ep 2 what the heck is codependency?
When we talk about recovery from people it’s not so easy to pin down what that exactly means. It isn’t like quitting just alcohol or your drugs of choice or any specific substance or behavior. And that’s what makes it so tricky so let’s try to figure out what is it that we actually can see that...
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welcome back!
Addicted to people it’s a weekly podcast dedicated to talking about codependency and recovery from that extremely chaotic and life-threatening condition. I share my personal journey over the last 29 years as well as take questions from the audience. You can find me at speaker but also please send...
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Ep 23 Addicted To People -The Snow Edition
Heat my harrowing and instructional snow story and how it relates to my character defects. A funny take unless you're me
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Is co-dependency making your life unmanageable? Do you find yourself saying yes when you want to say no? We have been there (who hasn’t?) with almost 30 years of co-dependency recovery under my belt I share my experience, strength and hope. Though I am very 12-step oriented I pull in LOTS of other resources because there is no one-size-fits-all when it comes to setting boundaries and taking your life back. Join me and occasional guests! If you get nothing from this, well, heck it was free and you get to keep your misery.
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