All Things Marriage with Dr. Chavonne
by Dr. Chavonne Perotte: Transformational coach, author, and speaker.
All Things Marriage Podcast with Dr. Chavonne Perotte is your go-to resource for navigating every stage of marriage. Whether you’re engaged, a newlywed, a seasoned spouse, or questioning your relationship’s future, this podcast offers the tools, insights, and strategies you need to create a fulfilling and connected partnership.With real, honest conversations and expert guidance, we’ll explore what truly matters in marriage—building strong communication, reigniting connection, overcoming challenges, and making the personal shifts that lead to lasting happiness.Tune in for actionable advice, fresh perspectives, and the inspiration to create the relationship you’ve always envisioned. Whether you’re thriving, struggling, or somewhere in between, there’s something here for you.
Episodes
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Episode 349: When You Feel Unhappy, Unseen and Alone
Today, we're talking about three of the most common struggles I hear from women in their marriages, what makes these experiences so painful, and why they can be so difficult to move beyond. Inside this episode, we'll explore: Why conversations with your husband can leave you feeling even more…
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Episode 348: How Being in the Right Room Can Change Your Marriage
What if one of the best things you could do for your marriage has very little to do with your spouse? Sometimes, the support, clarity, and encouragement you need don't come from another conversation with your husband or another attempt to work through what's bothering you. Sometimes, they come…
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Episode 348: How Being in the Right Room Can Change Your Marriage
What if one of the best things you could do for your marriage has very little to do with your spouse? Sometimes, the support, clarity, and encouragement you need don't come from another conversation with your husband or another attempt to work through what's bothering you. Sometimes, they come…
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Episode 348: How Being in the Right Room Can Change Your Marriage
What if one of the best things you could do for your marriage has very little to do with your spouse? Sometimes, the support, clarity, and encouragement you need don't come from another conversation with your husband or another attempt to work through what's bothering you. Sometimes, they come…
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Episode 347: The Power of Connection, Belonging and Being Cared For
When you're the one everyone depends on, who is making sure you're getting what you need? So many women are carrying more than they realize. Between their marriages, children, careers, and responsibilities, they're constantly giving, managing, and showing up for everyone else. And somewhere along...
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Episode 347: The Power of Connection, Belonging and Being Cared For
When you're the one everyone depends on, who is making sure you're getting what you need? So many women are carrying more than they realize. Between their marriages, children, careers, and responsibilities, they're constantly giving, managing, and showing up for everyone else. And somewhere along...
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Episode 346: Compound Effect in Your Marriage: Consistent Actions, Big Changes Over Time
Most meaningful, lasting changes don't happen that way. They're the result of small, intentional actions repeated consistently over time. And whether you realize it or not, the compound effect is already happening in your marriage. The question is whether your daily choices are moving you toward...
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Episode 345: Knowing, Doing, and Mastering: 3 Stages of Lasting Change in Your Marriage
There's a big difference between knowing what to do, actually doing it, and reaching a place where it becomes your natural way of being. In this episode, we're exploring these three stages of personal growth and why understanding something intellectually doesn't always translate into lasting...
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Episode 345: Knowing, Doing, and Mastering The Work
There's a big difference between knowing what to do, actually doing it, and reaching a place where it becomes your natural way of being. In this episode, we're exploring these three stages of personal growth and why understanding something intellectually doesn't always translate into lasting...
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Episode 344: The First Step to Solving Any Marriage Issue
When there's a problem in your marriage, it's natural to want to address the problem. Have the conversation. Tell your spouse how you feel. Ask them to do something differently. Set the boundary. But before you do any of those things, you have to start somewhere else FIRST. With you. In this...
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Episode 343: Why Should I Focus on Myself When My Spouse Is Part of the Problem?
When you're struggling in your marriage, "focus on yourself" can feel like incredibly frustrating advice. Especially when you can clearly see the things your spouse is doing that are contributing to the problem. Why should you be the one doing more work? In this episode, we're talking about why...
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Episode 342: How Inner Security Helps Your Marriage Improve
What happens inside of you when your marriage isn't going the way you want it to? Maybe your relationship doesn't feel as secure as you'd like it to. Maybe your spouse isn't meeting your expectations or showing up in the ways you believe you need. Or maybe you're looking at yourself and feeling...
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Episode 341: Ask This, Not That: Marriage Questions that Move You Forward
The questions you ask about your marriage matter. Because some questions can keep you focused on your spouse, searching for explanations, and feeling increasingly frustrated by things you can't control. Other questions can lead you toward greater understanding, clarity, and a much more empowered...
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Episode 340: Conditions for Resentment in Marriage
Resentment can feel incredibly justified. You know what happened. You know what they did—or didn't do. And you know how much it hurt. But what if there's more underneath your resentment than the offense you're holding onto? In this episode, we're taking a closer look at the conditions that create...
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Episode 339: An Honest Conversation about Acceptance in Marriage
Acceptance can be one of the hardest things we're asked to practice in marriage. Especially when what we're being asked to accept is something we wish would change. So what does it actually mean to accept your spouse in those moments? It doesn't mean agreeing. It doesn't mean approving. And it...
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Episode 338: How the Anxious Partner Starts a Negative Cycle
If you've ever felt lonely, unsupported, or like you're working so much harder than your spouse to create connection, I want you to know this first: Your hurt makes sense. Your desire for closeness is valid. And your anger is often pointing to something much deeper—a longing to feel seen,...
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Episode 337: How the Avoidant Partner Starts a Negative Cycle
In the next two episodes, we're taking a deeper look at the most common relationship dynamic I work with inside my private coaching program, The Connected Marriage—the anxious-avoidant dynamic. While the anxious partner's disappointment, frustration, and sadness are often the most visible parts…
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Episode 336: 3 Perspectives that Will Save You or Your Marriage
When you're struggling in your marriage, it's easy to believe your happiness depends on what your partner does next. That they'll finally change. That you'll eventually know what to do. That somehow you'll stop feeling so stuck. But what if the perspectives keeping you trapped are the very things...
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Episode 335: 3 Perspective Shifts that Will Heal You and Your Marriage
Sometimes the biggest breakthroughs in your marriage don't come from changing what you do. They come from changing how you see it. The perspective you choose can either keep you stuck in hurt, resentment, and disconnection—or open the door to healing, understanding, and deeper connection. Today...
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Episode 334: 3 Perspective Shifts that Will Grow Your Marriage
So many couples settle into "We're okay " and "We're fine." They do this without ever stopping to ask whether "fine" is really the marriage they want to build. In this episode, we're exploring three simple perspective shifts that can change the way you approach your marriage—and open the door to...
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Episode 333: Core Area of Focus: Start Here to Grow Your Marriage
In this episode, I'm introducing one of the most important coaching concepts I use with my clients: your Core Area of Focus. Rather than trying to fix everything at once, we'll explore how identifying the one area that will create the biggest ripple effect can help you make faster, more…
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Episode 332: Relationally Ambitious Couples: The Mindset and Habits for an Extraordinary Marriage
In this episode, I introduce a kind of couple I don't think we talk about nearly enough: The Relationally Ambitious Couple. These couples aren't driven by problems. They're driven by possibility. They believe there's always another level of connection, partnership, friendship, and joy waiting to…
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Episode 331: 6 Kinds of Couples (and the Mindset Shaping Their Marriage)
Most couples don't intentionally take action in their marriage until something feels wrong. A major argument. Growing distance. A breaking point they can no longer ignore. But what if waiting until your marriage is struggling is one of the biggest mistakes couples make? In this episode, I share…
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Episode 330: How to Feel Close to Your Spouse (Part 2)
In last week's episode, we explored why feeling close to your spouse is one of the greatest gifts a marriage can offer. But knowing why connection matters isn't enough. In Part 2 of this series, we're talking about the intentional shifts that move couples from feeling distant and disconnected… to...
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Episode 329: How to Feel Close to Your Spouse (Part 1)
Most people know they want to feel closer to their spouse. But have you ever stopped to consider what you're actually longing for? Because the pain of disconnection isn't just about arguing less or communicating better. It's about missing out on some of the most meaningful benefits a connected...
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Episode 328: Fact vs. Story: What You're Getting Wrong About Your Marriage
One of the biggest mistakes couples make is confusing facts with stories. Over time, it's easy to start treating assumptions, interpretations, and conclusions as if they're objective truth. And once that happens, resentment, conflict, and disconnection begin to grow. In this episode, we're…
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Episode 327: Trust Issues in Marriage (That Have Nothing to Do With Infidelity)
When you hear the phrase "trust issues," you probably think about infidelity. But some of the most damaging trust issues in a marriage have nothing to do with cheating. In today's episode I share with you the specific ways I've seen trust issues create disconnection in marriage. Inside this...
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Episode 326: Thought Errors: 5 Ways the Stories You Tell Yourself About Your Marriage are Keeping You Stuck
What if some of the resentment, conflict, and disconnection in your marriage… is being fueled by the stories you’re telling yourself about your partner? In this episode, we’re looking at the thought patterns and misperceptions that quietly shape the way you experience your relationship—and how...
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Episode 325: What Actually Changes a Marriage
Why do so many couples keep having the same arguments, the same disconnection, and the same frustrations… even when they genuinely want things to get better? In this episode, we answer that question by looking deeply at what actually changes a marriage—and why so many couples stay stuck even…
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Episode 324: What to Do When You're Not Being Heard
Few things feel more painful in a marriage than trying to express yourself… and walking away feeling unheard. In this episode, we’re looking at why you may not be feeling heard in your relationship—and the deeper dynamics that often get in the way of true understanding and emotional…
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Episode 323: Why Do I Feel So Alone in My Marriage?
One of the most challenging experiences is to feel alone inside a marriage. It causes you to question the entire point of being together. In this episode, we're having that conversation head on. We will also look at the deeper dynamic beneath loneliness in marriage—and why so many couples end up...
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Episode 322: What Is It Like to Be Married To You? (A Question That Can Change Your Marriage)
What is it actually like to be married to you? Not what you intend. Not how you see yourself. But how you’re experienced—day to day, in the moments that matter. It’s a simple question…but it has the power to change everything. Inside this episode, we: Explore how your patterns shape your…
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Episode 321: Why Marriage Requires You to Grow (And What Happens If You Don’t)
You can want a better marriage. And still be staying the same. Avoiding the discomfort. Repeating the same patterns. Reacting in the same ways—again and again. And wondering why nothing really changes. In this episode, we’re looking at the truth most people don’t want to face: Marriage requires…
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Episode 320: What Actually Creates Connection in Marriage
What actually creates connection in a relationship? It’s not just about what you’re doing. In this episode, we’re looking at what connection really is—and the conditions that need to be present for it to exist between you. Inside this episode, we: Break down why spending time together doesn’t...
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Episode 319: Conditions that Create Emotional Safety in Marriage
Emotional safety gets talked about a lot in relationships. But if you’re honest, there are moments where something shifts, and you don’t feel safe anymore. Maybe your partner said something a certain way. Or didn’t respond how you needed them to. And suddenly, you feel guarded… distant… or unsure...
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Episode 318: Why Small Comments Turn into Big Arguments
Today we’re looking at those moments where everything feels fine… until it suddenly isn’t. The conversation shifts. Your feelings get hurt. And before you know it, you’re in an argument that didn’t even need to happen. If that feels familiar, there’s a deeper reason why. And when you understand…
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Episode 317: Why You Feel Misunderstood (Even When You Explain Yourself Clearly)
Today we are looking at why you feel misunderstood in your marriage—and what’s actually happening underneath those moments where you’re trying to connect, but it’s not landing. Inside this episode, we: Explore why you and your partner are often having two completely different experiences in the...
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Episode 316: Why Communication Breaks Down in Marriage (And What's Really Happening)
Conversations don’t break down because you don’t know what to say. They break down because of what’s happening inside the conversation. In this episode, we’re looking at the real reasons communication goes wrong in marriage—and why it keeps happening even when you’re trying your best to talk…
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Episode 315: Why You Keep Having the Same Argument in Your Marriage: Fixing Things vs. Transforming Them
Today we are diving in to the difference between fixing your problems and transforming your marriage. Most couples believe the problem they’re facing… is the problem. The argument. The disagreement. The thing that keeps coming up again and again. But what if that’s not actually what’s keeping you...
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Episode 314: How to Improve Your Marriage: 6 Simple Upgrades That Make a Big Difference
If you want to improve your marriage, the answer isn’t usually one big change. It’s a series of small shifts in how you think, communicate, and show up for each other. In this episode, I’m sharing six simple upgrades that can make a meaningful difference in your marriage — whether things feel…
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Episode 313: Becoming Best Friends Again: Restoring Friendship in Marriage
Friendship is the quiet foundation of everything that makes marriage feel alive. It’s what makes desire sustainable. It’s what softens conflict. It’s what creates emotional safety. It’s what makes being married actually enjoyable. In this episode, we explore why friendship fades in the first…
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Episode 312: 5 Types of Disconnection in Marriage
You don’t have to be fighting to be drifting. In this episode, we’re unpacking the subtle types of disconnection that quietly creep into good marriages — long before resentment or crisis ever appear. If your relationship feels stable but flatter than it once did… if you love each other but feel...
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Episode 311: Designing a Marriage You're Excited About
In this episode, we’re talking about the quiet stage many couples find themselves in — not fighting, not falling apart… just operating on autopilot. Logistics over romance. Responsibilities over connection. “We’re fine” instead of “We’re thriving.” If you want to: Bring back the spark in your...
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Episode 310: Relational Trauma in Marriage: When the Relationship No Longer Feels Safe
In this episode, we explore a deeper layer of pain that can exist in marriage—one that doesn’t always come from big betrayals or constant fighting, but from what happens slowly, quietly, and repeatedly over time. You’ll walk away with a clearer understanding of: why certain interactions still…
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Episode 309: How to Reduce Conflict and Create Emotional Safety in Your Marriage
Conflict in marriage isn’t usually about the surface issue—it’s about what gets activated underneath. In this episode, I’m breaking down what’s really driving the arguments, shutdowns, and emotional distance so many couples find themselves stuck in. We’re talking about the emotions that are…
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Episode 308: Stuck Conversations in Marriage: Why You Keep Talking and Nothing Is Changing
Have you ever walked away from a conversation with your partner thinking, “We’ve talked about this so many times… why does nothing ever change?” In this episode, we’re talking about stuck conversations—the ones that keep looping around emotional needs, help and support, or personal growth……
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Episode 307: How to Move Forward When Your Marriage Feels Stuck
In this episode, we zoom out and look at the stuck stage of marriage—what it really is, why so many couples end up here, and the different ways partners try to cope when forward movement feels impossible. You’ll hear why “sweeping things under the rug,” trying harder in the same ways, or...
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Episode 306: How to Love Each Other Well In Marriage: Emotional Skills Every Couple Needs
If your marriage feels tense, distant, or emotionally exhausting right now, you’re not broken — you’re under-skilled. Most couples who are struggling aren’t lacking love. They’re lacking the emotional tools to handle disappointment, resentment, stress, and unmet needs without turning against each...
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Episode 305: How to Build Inner Strength and Keep Going When Life Gets Hard
There’s a kind of inner strength that determines far more about your life than motivation, confidence, or willpower. In this episode, we explore what it actually takes to build that kind of inner fortitude—and why it matters so deeply for the life and relationships you want to create. After...
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Episode 304: Before You Set Goals, Choose One of these 5 Energies
Before you set another goal, write another list, or map out another plan—pause and listen to this episode. How you enter the year will matter far more than what you put on paper. In this episode, I invite you to consider a different starting point for growth—one that most people skip entirely. We...
About this show
All Things Marriage Podcast with Dr. Chavonne Perotte is your go-to resource for navigating every stage of marriage. Whether you’re engaged, a newlywed, a seasoned spouse, or questioning your relationship’s future, this podcast offers the tools, insights, and strategies you need to create a fulfilling and connected partnership.With real, honest conversations and expert guidance, we’ll explore what truly matters in marriage—building strong communication, reigniting connection, overcoming challenges, and making the personal shifts that lead to lasting happiness.Tune in for actionable advice, fresh perspectives, and the inspiration to create the relationship you’ve always envisioned. Whether you’re thriving, struggling, or somewhere in between, there’s something here for you.
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Dr. Chavonne Perotte: Transformational coach, author, and speaker.