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Ask The Betrayed
by Sharon & Rae
The Ask The Betrayed podcast provides tangible hope to those in crisis and a safe place for Betrayed Partners to find healing and insight into the behaviors of the Unfaithful (who can also to learn how to help their Betrayed partners heal). We hope to fulfill a great need for betrayed partners to hear professionals who have personally experienced the deep traumatic pain of betrayal: Ask the Betrayed not only provides expert insight, it is hosted by two Betrayed Partners in long-term recovery from Betrayal Trauma, Sharon and Rae, who both specialize in helping Betrayed Partners, the Unfaithful and Couples recover from betrayal:- Sharon is a Licensed Therapist and Certified Professional Coach who is certified in betrayal trauma and, along with her husband, James Annear (@AskTheUnfaithful)- Rae is a Master Certified Life, Relationship and Divorce coachAsk the Betrayed airs every other week, alternating with it's companion channel, Ask the Unfaithful (@asktheunfaithful)
Episodes
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The Worst Tragedy of Betrayal For Partners Is Losing Who They Are
What if part of you is afraid to heal after betrayal - even though you desperately want the pain to stop? Healing from infidelity and betrayal trauma is incredibly difficult. You didn't choose what happened to you. You didn't choose the trauma, the uncertainty, or the life you suddenly found...
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5 VULNERABILITIES THAT KEEP BETRAYED PARTNERS CAUGHT IN THE EFFECTS OF GASLIGHTING
Has the gaslighting stopped—but you still find yourself questioning your own thoughts, feelings, and reality? After betrayal, recognizing gaslighting is an important step toward healing. But what happens when you begin recovering from the initial trauma, only to discover that some of the most...
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WHO SHOULD YOU TELL ABOUT THE BETRAYAL AND WHO SHOULD YOU NOT TELL?
Please Comment, Like and Subscribe - we would love to develop our community more and reach more people who need help! Thank you! After betrayal, the instinct to reach out for support can be overwhelming – and is necessary. You may desperately need someone who understands, someone who will listen,...
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BETRAYAL RECOVERY: COMING BACK TOGETHER AFTER THERAPEUTIC SEPARATION? WATCH THIS FIRST
How do you come back together after a therapeutic separation—without slipping right back into the patterns that pulled you apart? A therapeutic separation can create much-needed space for healing, clarity, independence, and personal growth after betrayal. But eventually, couples who hope to...
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THERAPEUTIC SEPARATION: CAN BEING APART BRING YOU BACK TOGETHER AFTER BETRAYAL?
Could a therapeutic separation actually save your relationship after infidelity? Many couples fear that a separation means the marriage is over. But what if a carefully planned, intentional, and therapeutic separation could actually create the space needed for healing, clarity, and lasting...
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When Has The Unfaithful Had Enough Attention?
Are you constantly watching your unfaithful partner, hoping they'll finally make you feel safe again? After betrayal, it's completely understandable to focus on what your partner is doing. They're the source of the trauma. But what if true healing begins when your sense of safety no longer…
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HOW TO TAKE BACK CONTROL OF YOUR HEALING AFTER BETRAYAL
Healing from betrayal trauma doesn't happen by accident. It happens one intentional step at a time. In this episode of Ask the Betrayed, Sharon Rinearson, LCSW, CCPS, and Rae explore practical tools and takeaways that can help betrayed partners become more intentional, thoughtful, and…
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WHAT IF YOUR UNFAITHFUL DOESN'T WANT TO DO THE BETRAYAL RECOVERY WORK?
What if your unfaithful partner doesn't want to do the recovery work? One of the hardest realities after infidelity is realizing that you can't force someone to heal, grow, or fight for the relationship. So what do you do when you're the only one showing up? In this episode of Ask the Betrayed,...
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S3 - A Simple Tool for Measuring Progress
Healing after betrayal doesn't always happen in big, obvious moments. Sometimes recovery looks like one calmer day. One difficult conversation handled differently. One moment where you feel a little more grounded than you did last week. In this Ask The Betrayed Short, Rae shares a simple but...
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IMPACT STATEMENTS: THE HEALING POWER OF SHARING THE IMPACT OF BETRAYAL WITH THE UNFAITHFUL
Have you ever wished your unfaithful partner could truly understand what betrayal has done to you? In this powerful episode of Ask The Betrayed, Sharon and Rae explore one of the most transformative tools in betrayal trauma recovery: the Impact Statement. An Impact Statement gives betrayed…
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ATB Short S2 Momentum
Have you ever felt like the healing work you're doing after betrayal has stalled? In this deeply powerful short episode of Ask The Betrayed, Rae speaks directly to betrayed partners who feel stuck, plateaued, or discouraged in their healing journey after infidelity. Using a simple but…
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Feeling Unseen After Betrayal? This Is Why.
In this episode of Ask The Betrayed, Sharon and Rae take a deeper look at limerence—not just as something that happens in affairs, but as an often misunderstood part of all relationships… and what happens when that illusion breaks. If you've ever felt: • Used, unseen, or misunderstood in your...
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FROM FANTASY LOVE TO REAL HEALING AFTER BETRAYAL
What if the pain you feel after betrayal isn't just about the affair—but about realizing you were never fully seen? In this powerful episode of Ask The Betrayed, Sharon and Rae explore a rarely discussed layer of limerence in relationships—when the betrayed partner realizes they were not truly...
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SURVIVING LIMERENCE
When the unfaithful partner is in limerence, it can feel like emotional chaos - confusing, and deeply painful - for the betrayed partner. In this episode of Ask The Betrayed, Sharon and Rae break down what limerence really is, why it feels so powerful, and most importantly—how you can survive it...
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EMPATHY IN ACTION - WHEN THE UNFAITHFUL IS TRYING, BUT THERE'S SOMETHING MISSING
What do you do when your partner is trying after infidelity… but they haven't yet moved from their head to their heart? In this episode of Ask The Betrayed, Sharon and Rae respond to a powerful listener question about a common but confusing stage of recovery: when the unfaithful partner says the...
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BETRAYED PARTNERS: HOW TO BE "ALL IN" WITHOUT LOSING YOURSELF
In this episode of Ask The Betrayed, Sharon and Rae explore one of the most misunderstood parts of infidelity recovery for the betrayed. After betrayal, everything changes. The relationship you believed in is gone, and you're left navigating uncertainty, ambivalence, and emotional disorientation....
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IS IT REASONABLE TO EXPECT EMOTIONAL AVAILABILITY FROM THE UNFAITHFUL DURING BETRAYAL RECOVERY?
Is it reasonable to expect the unfaithful to show up for your emotions after betrayal? In this episode of Ask The Betrayed, Sharon and Rae tackle one of the most common and painful questions betrayed partners ask: • "Is it fair to expect emotional availability?" • "Can I ask for empathy?" • "Am I...
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Emotional Exhaustion During Recovery from Betrayal Trauma - A Powerful Solution
In this episode of Ask The Betrayed, Sharon and Rae explore one of the most misunderstood aspects of betrayal trauma recovery: Emotional exhaustion after infidelity and during betrayal recovery; what the betrayed can do about it and how the unfaithful can support them. After D-Day, many betrayed...
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Take Your Power Back After Infidelity: A Proven Betrayal Recovery Tool
In this episode of Ask The Betrayed, Sharon and Rae explore why betrayed partners so often internalize blame after infidelity — quietly keeping you stuck in pain, powerlessness, and re-traumatization. This conversation is about restoring choice, agency, and dignity in the middle of relational...
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Deconstructing Gaslighting: What Is It, Really?
Gaslighting after betrayal can make you question your memory, your emotions, and your reality — and that confusion is not weakness. It's a trauma response. In this episode of Ask The Betrayed, Rae sits down with gaslighting specialist and CORE Relationship Recovery team member Sarah Morales...
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STOP BLOCKING YOUR OWN BETRAYAL RECOVERY PROCESS
In this episode, Sharon and Rae unpack a surprisingly common barrier to healing after betrayal trauma — "Cat Poster Thinking" the mindset of believing "I already know how this works" or relying on clichés, platitudes, and intellectual over-control to cope. And while it may feel protective, it can...
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SHORTS S1 - HOPE: CHOOSING TO BELIEVE THAT HEALING IS POSSIBLE
In this episode of Ask The Betrayed - Shorts, Sharon speaks directly to anyone feeling shattered, lost, or hopeless after infidelity. She explains why betrayed partners often cling to the hope that the old relationship can be restored—and why real hope comes from something deeper: rebuilding your...
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CAN GRATITUDE AND THE PAIN OF BETRAYAL COEXIST?
In this episode of Ask The Betrayed, Sharon and Rae explore what gratitude really looks like in the wake of infidelity — without toxic positivity, forced silver linings, or emotional self-betrayal: • Not having to pretend you're okay • Not minimizing the trauma Learn why gratitude gets…
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SECRET WEAPONS AGAINST BEING MISUNDERSTOOD
In this vulnerable and transformative episode of Ask The Betrayed, Sharon and Rae dive into one of the most universal pain points for betrayed partners: being misunderstood. Whether it's feeling dismissed, judged, minimized, or simply unseen, betrayal trauma magnifies how deeply we need to be...
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MYTH BUSTERS - Exposing Blocks to Betrayal Recovery
In this practical episode of Ask The Betrayed, Sharon and Rae tackle some of the most common and destructive myths that keep betrayed partners trapped in confusion, guilt, and fear after infidelity. From "This pain will last forever" to "If I can keep them from acting out, I'll be safe" they...
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Big Fat Lies We Tell Ourselves in Betrayal Recovery
In this powerful episode of Ask the Betrayed, Sharon and Rae expose the Big Fat Lies that keep betrayed partners trapped in pain and confusion after infidelity. From the cultural myths of "Good things happen to good people" to the heartbreaking belief that "Once a cheater, always a cheater," this...
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Spot the 7 Traps That Stop Infidelity Recovery In Its Tracks
When infidelity shatters a relationship, recovery doesn't fail because of one event—it stops because of the traps that keep couples' relational recovery stuck. In this powerful episode of Ask The Betrayed, Sharon and Rae expose the seven relational pitfalls that derail healing after betrayal.…
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FROM SILENCE TO STRENGTH: FINDING YOUR VOICE AFTER INFIDELITY
Have you ever felt like no matter how loudly you speak, your unfaithful partner still doesn't hear you? In this episode of Ask the Betrayed, Sharon and Rae explore what it means for betrayed partners to find their voice after infidelity. 👉 Betrayal trauma often silences partners. Years of being...
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Is The Unfaithful Really Sorry of Just Sorry They Got Caught
Are they truly sorry—or just sorry they got caught? In this powerful episode of Ask the Betrayed, Sharon and Rae unpack one of the most pressing questions betrayed partners ask after infidelity. Together, they explore how to recognize genuine remorse versus surface-level regret and why that...
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Feeling Stuck After Betrayal? Here's What to Do.
Feeling stuck after betrayal? You're not alone. In this episode of Ask the Betrayed, we unpack what it really means to feel "stuck" in your healing journey—why it happens, what it looks like, and most importantly, how to move forward. We explore: ✅ The signs of being stuck (numbness, looping...
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The Superpower of Compartmentalization in Betrayal Recovery
In this episode of Ask The Betrayed, Sharon and Rae explore a new skill in betrayal recovery — compartmentalization. While extremely harmful to the Betrayed when used by the Unfaithful, compartmentalization can also become a powerful ally in healing when a Betrayed Partner uses it in an…
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The Boundary Strategy EVERY Betrayed Partner NEEDS
In this episode of Ask The Betrayed, Sharon and Rae share a powerful new approach to boundaries—one that moves beyond rules and lines in the sand. Instead of focusing on "do this, don't do that," this episode helps betrayed partners: ✅ Reclaim their power and choice after betrayal ✅ Create...
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Hidden Betrayal Trauma Triggers: How to Handle Being Blindsided
In this episode of Ask The Betrayed, Sharon and Rae explore the hidden triggers that blindside betrayed partners during recovery. From weddings and social gatherings to seemingly small moments like TV shows, public spaces, and holidays—unexpected triggers can shake your sense of stability. They...
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Betrayal Trauma: Healing the Disconnection with Yourself
In this episode of Ask The Betrayed, Sharon and Rae dive into the third stage of betrayal trauma recovery: Post-Traumatic Growth - also known as the Reconnection Phase. This is the season when survivors begin shifting from survival to strength. Sharon and Rae unpack what it means to reconnect not...
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Betrayal Trauma: Navigating Grief After Infidelity
Grief after infidelity isn't just about the loss of trust—it's about mourning the relationship you thought you had. In this powerful episode, we explore the hidden terrain of betrayal trauma grief and mourning that betrayed partners navigate as they continue their journey toward healing and...
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Betrayal Trauma Recovery: Why Safety Must Come First
If you've been shattered by betrayal, you may be asking: Where do I even begin? This episode takes you to the very first step in betrayal trauma recovery—the phase of safety and stabilization. Before you can move toward forgiveness, reconciliation, or even understanding, you need something much...
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Life After Betrayal: Honest Talk with Two Experts
Welcome to the very first episode of Ask The Betrayed, where Sharon and Rae create a safe, honest, and deeply compassionate space for those navigating betrayal trauma. In this episode, you'll meet your hosts—Sharon, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and APSATS-certified trauma specialist, and…
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ABOUT THIS SHOW
The Ask The Betrayed podcast provides tangible hope to those in crisis and a safe place for Betrayed Partners to find healing and insight into the behaviors of the Unfaithful (who can also to learn how to help their Betrayed partners heal). We hope to fulfill a great need for betrayed partners to hear professionals who have personally experienced the deep traumatic pain of betrayal: Ask the Betrayed not only provides expert insight, it is hosted by two Betrayed Partners in long-term recovery from Betrayal Trauma, Sharon and Rae, who both specialize in helping Betrayed Partners, the Unfaithful and Couples recover from betrayal:- Sharon is a Licensed Therapist and Certified Professional Coach who is certified in betrayal trauma and, along with her husband, James Annear (@AskTheUnfaithful)- Rae is a Master Certified Life, Relationship and Divorce coachAsk the Betrayed airs every other week, alternating with it's companion channel, Ask the Unfaithful (@asktheunfaithful)
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The Ask The Betrayed podcast provides tangible hope to those in crisis and a safe place for Betrayed Partners to find healing and insight into the behaviors of the Unfaithful (who can also to learn how to help their Betrayed partners heal). We hope to fulfill a great need for betrayed partners to...
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Ask The Betrayed is created and hosted by Sharon & Rae.
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