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In this episode, April and Jared explore the powerful connection between mental and physical health and why wellness is about far more than diet and exercise. We discuss how stress, anxiety, trauma, and burnout show up physically in the body and how healing often involves both the mind and nervous system.You’ll learn:How the brain and body constantly communicateWhy emotions are biological, not just mentalHow chronic stress impacts the bodyWhat fight, flight, and freeze responses look likeWhy symptoms can be signals instead of failuresWe also break down common wellness myths, including:“If I look healthy, I must be healthy”“Stress is just part of life”“Mental and physical health are separate”“Strong people shouldn’t need support”Plus, we share simple practical tools listeners can try immediately:Breathing exercises for nervous system regulationLearning where stress sits in the bodyUsing movement and nature to support emotional healthOne of the biggest reminders from this conversation: The body often speaks when the mind cannot.Your body is not working against you. It may be trying to protect you.Quotes From This Episode“Your body is not just reacting to your life. It is participating in it.”“Wellness is not just what we do with our bodies. It’s how we listen to them.”“Mental health and physical health are two languages describing the same story.”If you are struggling to make peace with your body or you are having unexplainable aches and pains, call us today. 317-790–9396. Or check out our website. 

Church should be a place of safety, connection, and healing. For many, it has also been a place of deep pain.In this episode, April Bordeau and Jean Crane explore the reality of church hurt and the often-overlooked role of spiritual bypassing. We talk about what happens when faith language is used to silence pain instead of support healing, and why experiences in spiritual spaces can feel especially confusing, isolating, and shame-filled.This conversation creates space for honesty. It offers language for what many have felt but struggled to name, and gentle direction for those trying to heal, rebuild trust, and reconnect with their faith in a meaningful way.Whether you’ve personally experienced church hurt or want to better support others, this episode invites a more compassionate and grounded approach to faith and emotional health.In This Episode, We Discuss:What “church hurt” really means and why it can run so deep How spiritual bypassing shows up in everyday faith conversations The difference between encouragement and emotional avoidance Common experiences that leave lasting wounds in spiritual spaces Why acknowledging church hurt can feel confusing or even shameful Practical steps toward healing and emotional clarity How churches and leaders can respond in healthier, more responsible ways What it looks like to rebuild trust in yourself, others, and your faithKey Takeaways:Pain experienced in spiritual settings often impacts both emotional and spiritual identity Spiritual bypassing can sound supportive on the surface while actually dismissing real pain Naming your experience is a powerful first step toward healing Healthy faith makes space for grief, questions, and emotional honesty Rebuilding trust takes time, intention, and safe relationshipsA Gentle Reminder: If you’ve been hurt in a church or spiritual setting, your experience matters. You are allowed to feel what you feel. Healing does not require you to minimize your story.Resources & Support: If this episode resonates with you, consider reaching out to us. Healing often happens in safe, relational spaces where your story can be fully heard.Connect With Us: Care to Change CounselingHelping you care for your mental and emotional health with compassion and clarity 🧡

Betrayal isn’t always obvious. It often shows up through repeated disappointments, broken trust, or subtle patterns that leave you feeling unsettled. In this episode, we explore how to recognize true betrayal, what it does internally, and how to discern whether a relationship can be repaired or needs to end.Join April Bordeau as she talks through the difference between mistakes and patterns, what real trust repair requires, and how to tell if someone is genuinely changing or simply avoiding consequences. We also unpack the important distinction between forgiveness and reconciliation.For those feeling stuck, we offer guidance on how to move from confusion to clarity, including the role of boundaries and how to stop holding onto potential instead of reality. We also name the fears that keep people in unhealthy relationships and how to begin trusting yourself again.Key Takeaways:Betrayal is often about patterns, not just one moment.Trust is rebuilt through consistent action over time.Forgiveness does not always mean staying in a relationship.Clarity comes from accepting reality, not hoping for change.Closing Thought: Clarity can feel painful, but it’s also what makes healing possible.Reach out to Care to Change to discuss more or to have someone walk this difficult decision making process. 

Have you ever walked away from a conversation questioning yourself… wondering if you were the problem, even when something didn’t feel right?In this episode, Larry sits down with therapist Teresa Land to unpack the reality of gaslighting, a subtle but powerful form of emotional harm that can leave you doubting your thoughts, your feelings, and even your sense of reality. They explore how it shows up in everyday relationships, why it’s so hard to recognize, and how it slowly erodes confidence over time.You’ll also hear practical, compassionate steps for finding your footing again, setting boundaries, and getting the support you deserve. Whether you’re navigating this personally or simply want to better understand relationship dynamics, this conversation will help you put words to what you may have been feeling for a long time.Resources: The Gaslight Effect by Dr. Robin Stern Learn more at caretochange.org 

The word narcissist gets used everywhere right now—but what does it actually mean?In this episode, April and Brittany take a grounded, clinical look at narcissism and separate truth from trend. We unpack what narcissism really is, where it comes from, and how it shows up in everyday relationships. You’ll also learn how to distinguish between harmful patterns and normal human behavior, and what to do if you find yourself in a relationship that feels confusing, one-sided, or emotionally draining.Whether you’ve wondered if someone in your life is narcissistic or you’re trying to better understand relationship dynamics, this conversation brings clarity, compassion, and practical guidance.In This Episode, We Cover:Why the term narcissist is often misunderstood and overusedA clear, clinical definition of narcissismThe difference between everyday self-centered behavior and true narcissistic traitsCommon behaviors that get mislabeled as narcissismWhat narcissism can look like in real-life relationshipsHealthy ways to set boundaries when dealing with difficult behaviorWhether meaningful change is possibleWhat most people get wrong about narcissismKey Takeaways:Not all hurtful or self-focused behavior is narcissismNarcissism exists on a spectrum, not as a simple labelUnderstanding the pattern matters more than labeling the personBoundaries are about protecting your wellbeing, not changing someone elseClarity reduces confusion and empowers healthier choicesA Thought to Sit With:Sometimes the most important question isn’t “Are they a narcissist?” but “How is this relationship impacting me and what do I need to be well?”Resources & Support:If this episode resonated with you, working with a therapist can help you process relationship patterns and build clarity and confidence in your boundaries.Connect with Care to Change:🧡 Learn more about our services🧡 Explore resources for healthier relationships🧡 Reach out for support

In this episode Jared Jones and Teresa Haskins talk about practical digital boundaries for families. Together, they explore how parents can thoughtfully guide their children’s use of technology while maintaining connection and preparing them for adulthood.Teresa shares research-informed recommendations for screen use across developmental stages, including limiting screen exposure in early childhood, capping recreational screen time in elementary years, delaying smartphones until high school when possible, and postponing social media until around age sixteen. She emphasizes that these are ideals, not measures of parental success, and encourages families to make thoughtful, intentional decisions based on their unique circumstances.A central theme of the episode is the idea of a family reset. Rather than taking an all-or-nothing approach, Teresa encourages parents to begin by examining their own screen habits, having open conversations about the kind of family culture they want, and gradually introducing healthy limits such as screen-free mealtimes. She highlights the importance of collaboration, preparation, and empathy, especially since children’s developing brains are wired for immediate reward and may struggle with emotional regulation during changes.Parents are reminded that reducing screen time must be paired with increased connection. Boundaries alone are not enough. Families need shared experiences, conversation, and intentional time together to replace what screens once filled.Resources:Becoming a Screen-Savvy Family: How to Navigate a Media-Saturated World--and Why We Should by The Plugged In Staff (link) Plugged In Website (link)The Anxious Generation: How the Great Rewiring of Childhood Is Causing an Epidemic of Mental Illness by Jonathan Haidt (link)Thank you for spending this time with us. We invite you to pause and reflect on one small step you can take toward greater health this week. Growth rarely happens all at once. It unfolds in steady, intentional choices.If you would like support in your own journey, our team at Care to Change is here to walk alongside you. You can learn more about our services, intensives, and resources at caretochange.org.Until next time, take care of your mind, tend to your relationships, and remember that meaningful change is possible. 

In this episode Jared Jones and Jean Crane explore the rapidly expanding world of artificial intelligence through the lens of faith and spiritual formation.As AI becomes more integrated into schools, workplaces, and everyday life, this conversation helps listeners think critically and spiritually about how to engage this technology with wisdom. Rather than reacting with fear or blind acceptance, Jean invites us into thoughtful awareness, asking how AI is shaping our minds, and relationships.This episode is not about rejecting AI. It is about learning how to use it responsibly, intentionally, and in alignment with our values.In This Episode We DiscussWhy AI has become such an urgent topic for familiesThe difference between using AI as a tool versus relying on it as a crutchInformational oversight and recognizing bias in AI-generated contentThe potential cognitive cost of outsourcing our thinkingRelational atrophy and the rise of emotional attachment to chatbotsSpiritual formation and the risk of replacing dependence on the Holy SpiritThe importance of preparing kids for long-term character formation, not short-term convenienceFour Areas of Reflection for AdultsInformational Oversight - Am I critically evaluating the information I receive, or accepting it without discernment?Opportunity Cost for the Brain - Am I outsourcing thinking that strengthens my cognitive and critical reasoning skills?Relational Atrophy - Is AI replacing meaningful connection with embodied human relationships?Spiritual Formation - Am I turning to technology before I turn to the Holy Spirit?Resources:Against the Machine by Paul Kingsnorth (link)Spiritual Formation and AI video (link)The Tech-Wise Family by Andy Crouch (link)Thank you for spending this time with us. We invite you to pause and reflect on one small step you can take toward greater health this week. Growth rarely happens all at once. It unfolds in steady, intentional choices.If you would like support in your own journey, our team at Care to Change is here to walk alongside you. You can learn more about our services, intensives, and resources at caretochange.org.Until next time, take care of your mind, tend to your relationships, and remember that meaningful change is possible. 

In this episode Jared Jones and Mac Zambrano continue the conversation about technology and mental health by focusing specifically on parenting. Together, they explore how to raise kids in a digital world without leading with shame, fear, or control.The heart of the episode centers on one key shift: moving from policing behavior to developing character. Instead of raising rule followers, the goal is to raise wise decision makers who can navigate technology well when parents are not present.In This Episode We DiscussTen common tech mishaps families faceWhy secrecy often grows when parenting becomes overly controllingThe balance between structure and connectionCharacter development versus behavior managementWhy connection creates influenceMonitoring technology with relationship instead of fearTalking with curiosity instead of criticismPractical ways to create tech-free connection at homeKey TakeawaysWhen technology issues arise, connection comes before correctionStrict control without relationship can create secrecyToo few boundaries can also lead to shame and hidden behaviorThe goal is not zero access to technology but supported accessSmall, consistent moments of connection matterParents do not have to navigate this aloneThe CARE Framework for ParentsC – Calm yourself first - Regulate before you respond.A – Ask with curiosity - Seek to understand before correcting.R – Reflect values, not just rules - Anchor conversations in what your family stands for.E – Engage in repair - Collaborate on what needs to change moving forward.Resources discussed:The Digital Parenting Guidebook by David Tucker (link)Screens and Teens (Moody Publishers) (link)Competing Spectacles / Digital discipleship themes (from Desiring God) (link and link)Thank you for spending this time with us. We invite you to pause and reflect on one small step you can take toward greater health this week. Growth rarely happens all at once. It unfolds in steady, intentional choices.If you would like support in your own journey, our team at Care to Change is here to walk alongside you. 

In this episode Jared Jones and Mac Zambrano explore how screens and technology are shaping our mental and emotional health. From brain development and emotional regulation to family dynamics and social comparison, they unpack what we are seeing clinically and culturally when it comes to screen use.This conversation is not about blame or fear. It is about awareness. Screens are part of modern life. The goal is not elimination, but intentional engagement.In This Episode We DiscussWhy this series matters and what to expect this monthThe rapid evolution of technology and its impact on familiesHow screens affect the brain, especially attention and novelty-seekingThe role of dopamine and fast reward cyclesEmotional regulation and using screens to cope with boredom or stressThe shift from shared family screens to personalized devicesSocial development in the digital ageSocial media, comparison, and rising anxiety and depression in teensThe unique pressures facing girls and boys onlineThe relational cost of constant device useWhy small, intentional changes matterKey TakeawaysAwareness comes before change.Screens are not inherently evil, but they are powerful.Emotional regulation, sleep, focus, and relationships can all be affected by excessive or unintentional screen useIt is never too late to make small, meaningful shifts.Resources discussed:The Anxious Generation: How the Great Rewiring of Childhood Is Causing an Epidemic of Mental Illness by Jonathan Haidt (link)Gen Z Mental Health and Wellbeing e-book (link)Thank you for spending this time with us. We invite you to pause and reflect on one small step you can take toward greater health this week. Growth rarely happens all at once. It unfolds in steady, intentional choices.If you would like support in your own journey, our team at Care to Change is here to walk alongside you. You can learn more about our services, intensives, and resources at caretochange.org.Until next time, take care of your mind, tend to your relationships, and remember that meaningful change is possible. 

We’re closing out our All About Marriage series with a conversation that many couples avoid but desperately need: sex and intimacy.In this episode, Teresa Haskins joins Larry Vincent to talk candidly about one of the most misunderstood areas of marriage. From common myths about sex drive to the emotional, biological, and relational factors that influence intimacy, this discussion brings clarity, compassion, and practical insight.If intimacy has felt confusing, disappointing, or difficult in your marriage, you are not alone. This episode will help you reframe expectations, understand the deeper layers of connection, and begin healthier conversations with your spouse.In this episode, we discuss:The biggest myths about sex in marriageWhy intimacy struggles are rarely just a “low sex drive” issueThe biological, psychological, and relational factors that impact desireThe difference between using sex to gain connection versus sex flowing from connectionWhat it means to experience body, mind, and spirit alignment in intimacyHow unrealistic expectations sabotage fulfillmentWhy open, vulnerable conversation is the most important first stepEncouragement for couples who feel stuck or discouragedOne powerful takeaway: healthy intimacy is not a performance or a formula. It is an overflow of safety, connection, alignment, and ongoing communication.Resources Mentioned:The 40 Forms of Intimacy by Alex AvilaSacred Marriage by Gary ThomasCome As You Are by Emily NagoskiIf this conversation resonates with you and your spouse, consider taking the next step. The therapists at Care to Change are here to help you move from frustration to connection in a safe and supportive environment.

In this week’s episode of the All About Marriage series, Larry sits down with therapist Teresa Haskins to have an honest and compassionate conversation about life after an affair. This is a tender and potentially challenging topic, and Teresa encourages listeners to care for themselves as they engage with it.They explore the two primary types of affairs, emotional and physical. Emotional affairs often involve secrecy, deep emotional attachment, and misplaced vulnerability, even if there is no physical intimacy. Physical affairs can take many forms, from one-night encounters to workplace dynamics or patterns connected to addiction. In both cases, the betrayal and secrecy are often the most painful parts to heal from.The conversation addresses what can lead to an affair, including unmet emotional needs, a desire for validation or excitement, poor communication, or personal struggles within the betrayer. Teresa emphasizes that infidelity is not always the result of something lacking in the marriage; sometimes it reflects unresolved issues within the individual.Larry and Teresa also discuss how affairs are discovered. Confession offers the best opportunity for rebuilding trust, while being caught can compound the trauma. From there, healing begins with what Teresa calls the “atonement stage”—a season of humility, transparency, accountability, and patience. Rebuilding trust requires consistent openness and often takes one to two years, sometimes longer.They highlight the importance of involving a trained third party early in the process to help both spouses navigate difficult conversations, avoid further harm, and move toward restoration in a healthy way.Recommended resources from this episode include Not Just Friends by Shirley Glass and What Makes Love Last? by John Gottman.If you or your spouse are navigating betrayal, you do not have to do it alone. Care to Change can provide the structure and support needed to begin healing and rebuilding trust.

In the second episode of the All About Marriage series, Larry Vinson and April Bordeau build on the foundation of healthy communication by addressing a topic every couple faces: conflict resolution.April reframes conflict as an unavoidable part of being human and being in relationship. Rather than something to fear or avoid, conflict can either disconnect couples or draw them closer—there is no neutral outcome. This episode focuses on how couples can approach conflict intentionally so it becomes a pathway to connection, growth, and forward movement rather than division. Three Foundational Steps to Conflict ResolutionApril outlines three core steps that set the stage for healthy conflict resolution:Check your intent. Enter the conversation with the shared goal that both partners walk away feeling like they’ve won and grown closer.Have a heart talk. Clarify what the conflict means, how it feels, and what each person is hoping for before trying to solve the problem.Invite God into the conversation. Pray together for unity, wisdom, and direction—not to “win,” but to move forward together with humility and purpose.When couples begin conflict with these three steps, many secondary arguments lose their power and intensity. Encouragement for ListenersConflict resolution is a skill that takes time, practice, and patience—especially when there is a long history attached to the issue. April reassures listeners that they do not need to navigate difficult conversations alone. With guidance and support, couples can move through even deeply tangled issues and come out stronger on the other side.Resources & SupportVisit caretochange.org to explore marriage resources, podcasts, videos, and recommended readings. Couples who feel stuck or overwhelmed are encouraged to schedule counseling or marriage coaching with Care to Change. Even a few sessions can help couples gain clarity, connection, and forward momentum.

In the first episode of the All About Marriage series, Larry Vinson is joined by April Bordeau to explore one of the most essential foundations of a thriving marriage: healthy communication.Before couples can effectively navigate conflict, heal after betrayal, or deepen intimacy, they must first learn how to communicate with emotional awareness, safety, and intention. April draws from both her clinical expertise and nearly three decades of marriage to offer practical, real-life tools couples can begin using immediately.Core Truth About MarriageMarriage is not sustained by intention alone—it requires ongoing effort and grace. April reframes long-term marriage as a continual process of growth and learning. As individuals and seasons of life change, communication must evolve as well. God’s grace, paired with intentional practice, allows couples to remain connected even when they stumble.The 3 Foundational Principles of Healthy CommunicationYou are responsible for your own “yard.” Each spouse is responsible for their own physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual well-being.You are not responsible for your spouse’s “yard.” You cannot control how your spouse shows up—but you can control how you do.Spouses influence one another, but do not determine one another. Healthy communication invites influence without manipulation or control.April emphasizes that oneness is not sameness. Two distinct people sharpen one another rather than merge into a single identity.10 Practical Steps for Healthy CommunicationPause before responding to ensure you are responding intentionally rather than reacting emotionally.Check your intent by asking why you are having the conversation and what you hope to accomplish.Assume positive intent and remember that you and your spouse are on the same team.Speak from your own experience using “I” statements instead of blame.Listen to understand, not to win, recognizing that winning an argument can cost connection.Reflect what you hear to validate your spouse before responding or problem-solving.Name emotions clearly, going beyond basic emotions like mad, sad, or happy.Stay present and on topic, avoiding “kitchen sink” fighting that derails conversations.Repair after rupture by owning mistakes, apologizing, and returning to connection.End with connection and next steps rather than walking away without closure.These steps are not about perfection, but about increasing the likelihood of emotional safety, connection, and intimacy.Encouragement for ListenersA single podcast episode cannot undo years of communication patterns, but change is possible. With intentionality, support, and the right tools, marriages that once felt tense or disconnected can experience renewed closeness and hope.“It’s not too late. Start today. Start small. Try one thing.”Resources & SupportVisit caretochange.org and explore the Resources tab, including the Marriage section, for podcasts, books, and tools to support your relationship. Couples who need deeper support are encouraged to schedule counseling or marriage coaching with Care to Change.

In this episode, April Bordeau is joined by Brittany Gipson, Director of Clinical Services at Care to Change, to close out our parenting series with a tender and necessary conversation about grief and loss.Loss comes in many forms - death, divorce, estrangement, health challenges, or the loss of a dream - and grief does not follow a predictable timeline. Together, April and Brittany explore how parents can support their children through grief while navigating their own healing journey.This episode offers compassionate guidance for families walking through life after loss, emphasizing that grief is not something to “get over,” but something to integrate with care, honesty, and hope.In this episode, we discuss:Why grief is not linear and why there is no “right” way to grieveCommon misconceptions about grief (including the pressure to move on)How children experience grief differently than adultsSigns that a child may need additional supportWhat rebuilding a “new normal” can look like after lossThe importance of presence - not fixing - for those supporting someone in griefApril also shares personal reflections from her own journey through loss, underscoring the sacredness of grief and the power of walking alongside one another rather than rushing healing.Resources mentioned:Previous Care to Change podcast episodes on grief and lossGrief-focused resources and book recommendations available on the Care to Change websiteGriefShare groups and community-based grief supportIf this conversation brings up questions or emotions for you or your family, we invite you to reach out. You don’t have to navigate grief alone. Care to Change is here to offer support, counseling, and practical tools for healing.

Parenting young adults is one of the most tender and complex seasons of family life. In this episode, April Bordeau is joined by returning guest Jean Crane to explore how parents can navigate the tension between letting go and staying connected as children move into adulthood.Jean brings both professional insight and lived experience, parenting children who are actively launching into college, marriage, and independent life. Together, April and Jean discuss the emotional push-pull parents often feel—grief and pride, closeness and distance—and how to stay relationally connected without overstepping into control.This conversation offers practical guidance, reassurance, and hope for parents who want to maintain influence through relationship rather than authority.In this episode, you’ll learn:Why parenting young adults is fundamentally different from parenting teens or childrenThe shift from positional influence to relational influenceHow brain development impacts decision-making well into the mid-20sWhat helps young adults want to stay connected with their parentsHow curiosity and listening build trust and opennessHealthy ways to set boundaries with adult childrenHow to respond when you’re deeply concerned about your child’s choicesWhen to speak up, when to step back, and when to pray and waitA simple practice parents can use this week to strengthen connectionKey takeaway: The goal isn’t control—it’s connection. When communication stays open, curiosity replaces judgment, and encouragement is spoken consistently, young adults are far more likely to invite their parents into their lives.Resources mentioned: Parenting Through the Stages (Orange Series) The Power of a Praying Parent The Power of a Praying Parent for Adult Children The Anxious Generation Stolen FocusApril also references a previous Care to Change podcast episode on parenting adult children, which will be linked in the show notes.If you’re navigating this season and feeling overwhelmed, uncertain, or disconnected, Care to Change offers experienced therapists who can walk alongside you through counseling, marriage intensives, or leadership coaching.Learn more or reach out at caretochange.org.

Guests: Teresa Haskins, LMHC & Billy Haskins, Associate Pastor of Plainfield Christian Church Parenting teens today looks and feels very different than it did even a decade ago. In this episode, April sits down with therapist Teresa Haskins and her husband, Pastor Billy Haskins, for an honest conversation about the real challenges facing teens and the parents who love them. Together, they explore how identity is formed during adolescence, why teens reach for autonomy, and how parents can support that process without losing the connection that matters most.Listeners will hear about the pressures today’s teens face academically, socially, and digitally, including the role of comparison, perfectionism, and fear of failure. Teresa and Billy discuss how social media shapes teens’ sense of belonging, how parents can navigate digital boundaries without shaming, and why phones aren’t the root cause—or the solution—to every struggle.The conversation also highlights the importance of self-awareness in parenting. Teresa explains why managing our own emotions is essential, especially when our teens’ choices activate our fears. Billy offers encouragement around letting go of perfect parenting and focusing instead on intentional presence. The episode includes practical steps parents can take this week to lower tension, strengthen connection, and create more meaningful conversations with their teens.Resources mentioned include: The Anxious Generation, Parenting From the Inside Out, Boundaries with Teens, Jim Burns’ Understanding Your Teen, and podcasts from Homeward, All Pro Dad, and iMom.Whether you’re navigating academic pressure, digital boundaries, mood swings, or the tension between freedom and accountability, this episode offers wisdom, compassion, and realistic tools for the journey. If you’re feeling discouraged or unsure of your next step, Care to Change is here to help. Discover more resources and support at caretochange.org.Quote 1: “What really matters is not perfect parenting, but it's just authentic presence in your kids lives." Billy HaskinsQuote 2: “Your teen doesn’t need you to be a dictator or a helicopter—they need you to listen, stay curious, and trust that they’re becoming who they were created to be.” Teresa Haskins

Host: April Bordeau Guest: Mac Zambrano  Parenting young children can feel overwhelming, especially when big emotions, power struggles, and exhaustion collide. In this episode, we explore what it truly means to parent littles with both love and limits, without relying on shame, fear, or survival-based parenting approaches.Rather than focusing on “fixing behavior,” this conversation reframes early childhood challenges through a developmental and relational lens. You’ll learn why boundaries are not the opposite of love, but one of the clearest ways children experience safety, connection, and trust.We talk about:Why limits are essential for emotional and nervous system developmentHow to respond to big behaviors without escalating power strugglesThe difference between discipline and punishmentWhy parents don’t need to do this alone—and were never meant toHow early support can change the trajectory for both children and parentsIf you’re parenting a little one and find yourself questioning, second-guessing, or feeling worn down, this episode is an invitation to pause, breathe, and reach for support.🧡 You don’t have to figure this out on your own. Care to Change offers counseling, parent support, and trusted resources specifically designed for families raising young children. If you’re looking for guidance, reassurance, or professional support, we encourage you to call Care to Change and explore the parenting resources available to you.Parenting with love and limits is not about perfection. It’s about connection, support, and having the right tools along the way.

Techniques for Coping with Anxiety and Reducing Stress LevelsWelcome to "Finding Peace: Faith Based Approaches to Anxiety and Stress," where we explore practical ways to integrate faith with mental health. Today, we dive into a crucial topic: anxiety and stress management. In this episode April Bordeau and Jean Crane discuss effective techniques rooted in faith principles that can help you find peace amidst life's challenges.Key Discussion Points:Understanding Anxiety and Stress:Define anxiety and stress and their impact on mental health.Recognize the prevalence of anxiety in today's society and its effects on individuals.Biblical Perspective on Anxiety:Explore relevant scriptures that address anxiety.Discuss how faith can provide comfort and strength during anxious moments.Techniques for Coping with Anxiety:Prayer and Meditation:The power of prayer as a tool for surrender and seeking peace.Guided Christian meditation techniques to calm the mind and spirit.Breathing Exercises and Relaxation Techniques:Deep breathing exercises to reduce physiological symptoms of anxiety.Progressive muscle relaxation methods to release tension.Journaling and Scripture Reflection:Keeping a gratitude journal to focus on blessings rather than worries.Reflecting on scripture passages that emphasize trust and God's provision.Healthy Lifestyle Choices:Importance of regular exercise in reducing stress and improving mood.Balanced diet and adequate sleep as foundations for emotional well-being.Connection and communityAuthentic relationships with people who support and encourage youForgiveness as a regular part of communitySeeking Professional Help:Encouragement to seek support from counselors or therapists.Remember that managing anxiety is a journey, and you are not alone. By integrating these techniques with your faith, you can experience a deeper sense of peace that surpasses understanding. Thank you for listening. If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe and share with others who may benefit. Remember, in Christ, there is hope and healing for every anxious heart. Until next time, may God's peace be with you always.Follow Care to Change on Facebook  https://www.facebook.com/CaretoChange.org/Follow Care to Change on Instagram @care_to_changeSee our YouTube page hereIf you would like someone to come speak to your group about anxiety, depression or mental health, contact usfor more details.If you are struggling and ready to take a step toward freedom, schedule an appt today.

In this heartfelt favorite episode of yours, we explore the vital role friendship plays in marriage and practical steps couples can take to cultivate friendships. Join our director, April Bordeau, as she leads a discussion with Joey Coffman and Robyn Coffman, from the nationally known 10|10 Ministries.  Join us as we discuss how cultivating a deep friendship with your spouse can strengthen your relationship, enhance communication, and enjoyment in life. They share valuable insights on building and maintaining friendship within marriage and offer practical strategies for couples to implement in their daily lives.Key Topics CoveredThe Biblical Foundation of Friendship: Exploring scripture that highlights the significance of companionship in marriage.Friendship vs. Romance: Understanding the difference and how both elements are essential in a thriving marriage.Communication as a Cornerstone: How friendship fosters open and honest dialogue between spouses.Shared Interests and Activities: Practical ways to cultivate friendship through shared hobbies and experiences.Spiritual Connection: The importance of praying together and growing spiritually as friends and partners.Scripture ReferencesEcclesiastes 4:9-12: "Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their labor."Proverbs 27:17: "Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another."1 Thessalonians 5:11: "Therefore encourage one another and build one another up."More about Robyn CoffmanMore about Joey CoffmanOnline resources published by the Coffman CompanyContact Care to Change if your marriage is lacking luster and you're just not friends anymore. 

In this episode, we tackle the challenging topic of toxic friendships and their impact on our mental health. Join us as we discuss how to recognize unhealthy relationships and practical steps to cultivate healthier connections.Key Discussion Points:Defining Toxic Friendships:Characteristics of toxic friendships and how they differ from healthy ones.Identifying Red Flags:Common behaviors that signal a toxic friendship (e.g., manipulation, constant negativity).Determining if you are the toxic friendNavigating Toxicity:Steps to address and confront toxic friendships.When to consider ending a friendship and how to do it gracefully.Building Healthy Connections:Tips for fostering supportive and uplifting relationships.Featured Scriptures:Proverbs 27:17: "As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another."2 Corinthians 6:14: "Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers..."Guest Expert:This episode features Brittany Gipson a Christian therapist specializing in relationship dynamics, who shares her insights on maintaining healthy friendships and navigating toxic ones.Resources Mentioned:Books:"Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No" by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend"Necessary Endings" by Dr. Henry Cloud"Find Your People" by Jennie Allen"Uninvited" by Lysa TerkurstClosing ThoughtsNavigating friendships—both healthy and unhealthy—is an essential part of our emotional and spiritual well-being. Our hope is that today’s conversation encourages you to pay attention to the relationships shaping your life and to pursue connections that reflect God’s design for encouragement, growth, and mutual respect. Whether you’re setting boundaries, healing from hurt, or learning to be a healthier friend yourself, remember you are not alone on the journey.Thank you for joining us for this important discussion. If this episode encouraged you or gave you clarity, share it with someone who might need it. And as always, we invite you to subscribe, leave a review, or reach out with topics you’d like us to explore in the future.Until next time, may your relationships draw you closer to Christ and to the person He is shaping you to become.

In this episode of the Care to Change Podcast, April Bordeau sits down with therapist Jean Crane to close out the Gratitude Series. Together, they unpack the life-giving practice of mindfulness and stillness in a culture that glorifies busyness.Jean shares her personal journey of learning to slow down and be fully present, even in the middle of a full and demanding life. She explains how mindfulness connects with gratitude, how it helps regulate emotions, and why checking in with ourselves—even for just a minute—can have a lasting impact on our mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual health.From morning routines to simple grounding techniques, Jean offers practical ways anyone can build stillness into their daily rhythms. You’ll come away with encouragement that stillness is not only possible, it’s essential—and you are worth the check-in.What You’ll Learn in This Episode:Why our culture’s pace makes stillness a “lost art”How mindfulness and gratitude work together to change perspectiveThe science behind negative bias—and how gratitude rewires our brainsPractical tools for busy people: body scans, grounding exercises, and daily gratitude check-insHow to start and end your day with mindfulness for better rest and focusWhy even small moments of stillness can deposit into your overall well-beingResources & Mentions:Spiritual Practices for the Brain by Anne Kertz KernionEmbracing Rhythms of Work and Rest by Ruth Haley BartonThe Ruthless Elimination of Hurry and Practicing the Way by John Mark ComerThe How We Feel App for daily emotional check-insClosing Note: As we close this series on gratitude, reflection, and self-awareness, remember: you don’t need hours or a retreat to practice stillness. You can begin with small steps today. And if you find yourself struggling, Care to Change is here to walk alongside you with practical solutions for positive change.

In this episode of the Care to Change Podcast, April Bordeau welcomes back Teresa Land, therapist and clinical supervisor at Care to Change, for an inspiring conversation on the practice of gratitude journaling.Teresa shares how she first leaned into journaling during the difficult days of COVID, discovering it as a God-led practice that shifted her focus from anxiety to hope. She explains how journaling is more than making a list—it’s about slowing down, engaging both sides of the brain, and allowing gratitude to shape our perspective.Together, April and Teresa explore practical ways to begin, prompts that make reflection meaningful, and how gratitude journaling can transform not only how we see ourselves but also how we connect with God and others. This practice, though simple, has the power to bring calm, deepen faith, and build resilience.What You’ll Learn in This Episode:Why gratitude journaling is more than “making a list”How writing can help slow racing thoughts and steady your heartPractical prompts to guide reflection (using all five senses, people, places, and ordinary gifts)How gratitude shifts our perspective from scarcity to sufficiencyThe overlap of Scripture, science, and gratitude in shaping peace of mindWhy journaling is personal—your practice can be as unique as you areSimple tips to make gratitude a daily rhythm in your lifeResources & Mentions:In All Things Give Thanks by Charles Stanley (gratitude journal)Spiritual Practices for the Brain by Anne Kertz KernionOne Thousand Gifts by Ann VoskampThe YouVersion Bible App (gratitude devotionals and reading plans)Contact us online here. 

In this episode of the Care to Change Podcast, April Bordeau sits down with returning guest Kristi Easley, Director of Operations and therapist at Care to Change. Kristi shares her powerful journey of growth through the practice of self-awareness and reflection. Together, April and Kristi explore how looking back at our stories with honesty and curiosity—not judgment—can unlock healing, growth, and better decision-making.They discuss the role of truth-speakers and community in shaping change, the courage it takes to pause in a busy culture, and the importance of aligning our choices with our values. Kristi also shares practical reflection practices, the influence of faith and therapy, and the wisdom she’s gained from thought leaders like Brené Brown.This heartfelt conversation reminds us that caring for our future selves means courageously owning our past—both the triumphs and the pain—so we can step into freedom and live in alignment with who we are meant to be.What You’ll Learn in This Episode:Why self-awareness is essential for personal and professional growthHow defining moments can shape change in our livesThe importance of community and having trusted truth-speakersHow to practice self-reflection without falling into harsh self-criticismQuestions you can use daily to reflect with curiosity and kindnessHow faith, therapy, and vulnerability foster lasting growthPractical first steps if you want to begin your own journey of self-awarenessResources & Mentions:Kristi’s powerful redemption story (linked in previous episodes)Brené Brown’s work on vulnerability and authenticityContact Kristi at [email protected] or through our Care to Change websiteNext Episode: Join us next week as April talks with Teresa Land about the practice of gratitude journaling—how writing can deepen reflection and help you discover new insights about yourself.

In this deeply personal and compassionate episode, April and Larry begin a new series exploring The Power of Gratitude. As the season of Thanksgiving approaches, they talk candidly about what it means to practice gratitude—especially when life doesn’t go as planned.April shares vulnerably about walking through loss and grief, inviting listeners into an honest conversation about how gratitude isn’t about pretending everything is okay. Instead, it’s about choosing to notice what’s still good, even in the midst of pain. Together, they discuss how gratitude can transform perspective, renew hope, and bring a small measure of peace, one intentional moment at a time.💬 Key Topics DiscussedWhy gratitude matters most in hard seasonsThe difference between toxic positivity and genuine gratitudeWhat it means to hold space for grief and gratitude at the same timeHow our brains are wired to notice problems—and how gratitude helps reframe them7 practical ways to cultivate gratitude:Start a simple gratitude journalExpress one thank-you a dayReframe challenges with a grateful perspectivePractice mindfulness in everyday routinesCreate gratitude rituals with family, friends, or coworkersUse gratitude as a reflective tool at the end of the day or weekBalance being real with being positive🕊️ Memorable Quotes“Gratitude doesn’t mean ignoring the hard things—it’s choosing to notice what’s still good.” — April Bordeau“Sometimes gratitude is just a whisper, a tiny awareness that reminds us we’re still held.” — April Bordeau“Gratitude is one tool that helps make tomorrow happen.” — April Bordeau“Even noticing the darkness means your eyes are still open. That awareness itself is a form of light.” — Larry Vinson💡 TakeawayIf life feels heavy right now, this conversation is an invitation to pause. Breathe. Let gratitude look like giving yourself permission to rest. Healing begins not by ignoring the darkness but by noticing even the smallest glimmers of light.🔗 Resources MentionedCare to Change CounselingFollow Care to Change on Facebook and YouTube for more conversations on mental health and personal growth.

How do we take life’s hardest moments and turn them into something that brings growth, purpose, and even impact for others? In this episode, April is joined by returning guest Katie Goar, CEO, leader, mom of many (including two with special needs), and most recently a TEDx speaker.Katie shares her powerful personal story of experiencing homelessness as a child, and how what could have been a life sentence instead became a defining moment that fueled her lifelong passion for affordable housing. She opens up about breaking the silence on her past, the lessons she carried forward, and how she now uses her story to advocate for families across the country.Together, April and Katie discuss:Why hardships don’t have to define you—they can refine youThe three stages of growth: preparation, delivery, and impactHow to view difficult seasons as chapters rather than your whole storyPractical steps to cross the “bridge” from hardship to healingWhy accessing support systems and making intentional decisions is key to lasting changeHow to turn pain into purpose so others can benefit from your journeyCall to ActionNo matter what challenge you’re facing—grief, broken relationships, financial struggles, or past trauma—your story doesn’t have to end there. Begin with the decision that something must change, take one step toward support, and trust that your pain can be transformed into a powerful legacy.Resources & Next StepsWatch Katie’s TEDx talk Connect with Katie on LinkedIn: Katie GoarLearn more about support available at caretochange.org

In this heartfelt and practical conversation, Larry and April continue Care to Change’s “Bouncing Back” series by exploring what it means to build resilience in marriage. Whether you’re in a difficult season, recovering from one, or simply wanting to strengthen your relationship, this episode offers ten powerful, grace-filled practices to help couples reconnect and thrive.April draws from 30 years of experience working with families, biblical principles, and real-life stories from her own marriage to share tangible ways to move from frustration to unity. With honesty and warmth, she reminds listeners that resilience starts not with fixing our partners—but by tending to our own hearts, habits, and spiritual health.Key Takeaways: 10 Practices for a Resilient MarriageStart with Yourself – Care for your body, mind, and spirit. You can’t pour from an empty cup.Stay in Your Yard – Be a spouse, not a parent, savior, or accountability partner.Choose Win–Win Strategies – It’s not about 50/50. Bring your best 100% and seek what works for both.Honor with Words and Actions – Speak respectfully about and to your spouse, even when it’s hard.Pray for Your Spouse – Pray for their growth—and for the wisdom to avoid being a stumbling block.Make Marriage a Priority – In a world full of distractions, protect your relationship time.Be Their Biggest Cheerleader – Encourage, appreciate, and express gratitude often.Call Out God’s Best in Them – Acknowledge where you see them growing and becoming who God made them to be.Use Your Strengths for Good, Not as Weapons – Appreciate differences instead of resenting them.Respect Yourself and Maintain Boundaries – Healthy boundaries build trust and clarity.Bonus Tip #11: Remember Your Legacy – The choices you make in your marriage shape the legacy your children and others will see.Favorite Quotes“You’ve got to bring your best in order to have the best chance at resilience.” – April Bordeau “If I win and my spouse loses, we lose.” – April Bordeau “Respect isn’t optional if you want a resilient marriage.” – April Bordeau “Transformation can occur at any phase—but don’t wait until it’s too late to ask for help.” – April BordeauIf your marriage feels stuck or strained, remember—it’s never too late for transformation. Seeking help isn’t failure; it’s wisdom. Don’t wait until your relationship is “wrapped in cloth and in a cave.” Reach out now.Connect with Care to ChangeWebsite: caretochange.org Facebook: facebook.com/caretochange YouTube: Care to Change CounselingNeed counseling or marriage support? Call Care to Change today 317-790-9396 to schedule an appointment and begin building resilience in your relationship.

Life comes with seasons—times of joy, growth, loss, and transition. In this episode, April is joined by therapist and Community Care Lead Jean Crane to explore the metaphor of life’s seasons and how each one offers unique challenges and opportunities for growth.Drawing from personal stories, biblical wisdom, and years of counseling experience, Jean shares how to recognize the season you’re in, honor it fully, and stay anchored in God’s faithfulness no matter what.What You’ll Learn in This EpisodeHow the four seasons—fall, winter, spring, and summer—mirror the rhythms of our livesWhy fall invites reflection, evaluation, and letting goHow to walk faithfully through winter, a season of grief, loss, or waitingThe fresh hope and courage that spring brings with new beginningsHow to flourish in summer while balancing busyness with gratitude and presencePractical ways to honor your season without comparing it to othersSpiritual and personal practices that ground you in every stage of lifeResources MentionedEmotionally Healthy Spirituality by Pete ScazzeroWorks by Ruth Haley Barton on seasons, Sabbath, and spiritual rhythmsReflective practices such as journaling, seasonal letters to yourself, and community supportCall to ActionAsk yourself: What season am I in right now? Name it, reflect on it, and seek God’s presence in the middle of it. Remember, every season has purpose, and none of them last forever.If you’re in a hard season and struggling to find your footing, Care to Change is here to walk alongside you. Visit caretochange.org to learn more.

Change is inevitable—but how we respond makes all the difference. In this episode, April is joined by returning guest Kristi Easley, therapist and Director of Operations at Care to Change, to kick off our new October series: Embracing Change. Together, they unpack what it means to navigate life transitions with resilience, whether those changes are chosen or unexpected.From graduations and new beginnings to losses and unplanned detours, Kristi shares wisdom and practical strategies for meeting change with courage, flexibility, and hope.What You’ll Learn in This EpisodeThe two main types of life transitions: voluntary and involuntaryCommon emotions we face in times of change (and why they’re all normal)Misconceptions about resilience and what it really meansSeven practical tools for building resilience, including:Acknowledge the changeProcess your emotionsPractice mindfulness and stay presentSet small goalsMaintain healthy routinesSeek support and perspective from othersShow yourself compassionCall to ActionTake a moment today to reflect on the transitions happening in your own life. Name them, feel them, and choose one small step of self-care as you navigate the season you’re in.If you’re walking through a change that feels heavy or unwanted, know that you are not alone. Care to Change is here to walk alongside you with practical solutions for positive change.Connect with us at caretochange.org

In the closing episode of our Suicide Prevention Awareness Month series, April welcomes therapist Jared Jones back to the podcast for a compassionate and practical conversation about what to do when suicidal thoughts arise — either in your life or someone else’s.Jared offers evidence-based tools, calming strategies, and long-term practices to reduce risk and foster resilience. He explains what emotional crisis looks like from a neurological perspective, how to recognize when someone is in danger, and how to respond with presence, compassion, and confidence.Whether you’re personally struggling or supporting a loved one, this episode equips you with grounding techniques, mindset anchors, and safety planning strategies — and encourages you to take one small step toward connection and healing.💡 What You’ll Learn:What an emotional or mental crisis looks and feels likeWhy suicidal thoughts are a perceived solution — not a desire to dieCommon myths about suicide (and the truth that saves lives)Grounding and sensory techniques to manage intense emotionHow to create a safety plan and why it mattersLong-term strategies for self-care, resilience, and recoveryHow to help a loved one without taking on the burden aloneApps, tools, and resources to keep close — just in case🧠 Notable Tools Mentioned:5-4-3-2-1 Grounding TechniqueColumbia Protocol App (suicide risk assessment + resource links)Journaling, movement, creative expression, prayer, and mindfulnessCreating “anchor statements” like “This feeling will pass.”Safety planning with the help of a therapist or template📌 Key Resources:988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline (Call or text, 24/7)Text Line: Text HELLO to 741741Columbia Suicide Severity Rating Scale (C-SSRS) AppSupport groups, peer networks, and teletherapy optionsJared’s recommendation: practice self-compassion daily and build your tribe before you need them.If you’re in pain, please know: You are not alone. You are not a burden. There is hope — and you matter. Start where you are. Take the next right step. We’ll walk with you.

In this deeply personal and powerful episode, April Bordeau sits down with Alice Jordan, statewide coordinator for suicide prevention efforts at Purdue Fort Wayne and longtime mental health advocate. With transparency, vulnerability, and an unwavering commitment to hope, Alice shares her personal mental health journey — including surviving a suicide attempt and the realities of intergenerational pain and cultural silence — and how those experiences now fuel her advocacy across Indiana and beyond.Alice and April explore the difference between talking about change and taking action — especially in churches, schools, and workplaces, where cultural shifts and safe spaces can be truly life-saving. Alice reminds us that hope is not just a feeling — it's a daily choice and an act of resistance.🌿 Key Topics Covered:Alice’s personal story: surviving, healing, and leading from lived experienceCultural and faith-based stigmas around mental healthThe power of storytelling to reduce shame and invite others into healingWhat churches, schools, and businesses can do to make a real differenceWhy “staying in your lane” matters when offering mental health supportThe importance of grace, self-compassion, and communityConcrete ways to advocate for mental health without a clinical backgroundHow Alice uses newsletters, bulletin inserts, and local networks to shift culture💬 Quotes to Remember:"Hope isn’t just a word. It’s a lifestyle — sometimes, it’s the only thing keeping someone alive." "You don’t have to be a therapist to be a safe person. You just have to be willing to see pain, and stay." "Churches, schools, and workplaces can change the world if we let them talk about mental health."📌 Resources & Contact:Connect with Alice: 📧 [email protected] ☎️ 260-481-4184 Ask to be added to her statewide mental health and suicide prevention newsletter for tools, trainings, and updates.Organizations mentioned:Mental Health America of IndianaNAMI IndianaDepression and Bipolar Support AllianceTrainings referenced:QPR (Question, Persuade, Refer)Mental Health First AidASIST & CALM trainings

In this moving and eye-opening episode, April Bordeau welcomes Jason Craig, Director of the Indiana Suicide Prevention Network, to talk about the stigma surrounding suicide and mental health — and what we can do to break the silence.Jason shares candidly from his personal journey with suicidal thoughts and a past attempt, offering insight into how shame, silence, and judgment prevent people from reaching out for help. He and April explore the cultural and emotional barriers that keep mental health struggles in the shadows — and what we can all do to change that.Together, they unpack the truth that suicide is often preventable, and that authentic presence, simple questions, and resourceful support can literally save lives.🧠 Topics Covered:Why stigma still exists — even post-pandemicThe power of safe, judgment-free conversationsHow shame and silence can be barriers to healingWhy asking “Are you really okay?” can make all the differenceJason’s personal story of survival and purposePeer support through the Alternatives to Suicide programHow to respond when someone you love expresses suicidal thoughtsResources you can offer (and how to be one yourself)How to get trained through QPR, ASSIST, and other programs💬 Notable Quotes:“Suicide is one of the most preventable kinds of death — and it starts with conversation.” “Shame grows in silence. But it dissolves in safe spaces.” “You don’t have to have all the answers. Just be present and care enough to stay.”📌 Resources Mentioned:988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline (24/7 confidential support)Text Line: Text HELLO to 741741QPR Training: Learn more or request training through local organizationsJason’s Network: indianasuicidepreventionnetwork.orgContact Jason Craig: [email protected] to Change QPR Trainings: caretochange.org

September is Suicide Prevention Month, and in this episode of the Care to Change Podcast, host Larry Vinson and director April Bordeau begin a crucial new series on the power of connection in preventing suicide.Together, they unpack:Why hopelessness, feeling like a burden, and feeling alone are the three factors that often lead to suicidal thoughts.How connection serves as a safety net—reminding people they are seen, valued, and not alone.Practical steps anyone can take to prevent suicide, even if you’re not a therapist.How to build a personal support system that includes family, friends, faith community, workplace, and professional resources.The importance of asking direct questions, listening without fixing, and normalizing conversations about mental health.You’ll also hear personal insights from Larry about his own mental health journey, the importance of vulnerability, and how simple actions like checking in can make a life-saving difference.Key Takeaway:Suicide prevention is not just for professionals—it’s for all of us. You don’t need all the answers; you just need to show up. One caring person can change the trajectory of someone’s life.Resources Mentioned:Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: Dial 988 (U.S.)Crisis Text Line: Text 741741Learn more about QPR (Question, Persuade, Refer) trainingConnect with us at Care to ChangeNext Episode Preview:Join us next week as we continue this series with a guest from a local suicide prevention task force to explore the power of community in saving lives.

In this powerful and compassionate episode, therapist Kyle Hopkins returns to the Care to Change podcast to open the conversation around suicide prevention, resilience, and healing. With September being National Suicide Prevention Month, this timely discussion sheds light on the experiences of individuals facing suicidal thoughts and how hope and connection can be powerful forces for change.April and Kyle explore the two common pathways that can lead someone to suicidal ideation — sudden, life-altering events and the slow erosion of mental well-being over time. Kyle offers insight from his work with men, couples, and those struggling with addiction, emphasizing the importance of recognizing early warning signs, initiating courageous conversations, and creating a plan for healing.They discuss:Common circumstances that lead to suicidal crisesThe role of connection in combating feelings of isolation and hopelessnessFaith, relationships, and marital connection as protective factorsWhat healing looks like for someone who has survived a dark seasonHow to support a loved one, including teenagers, through suicidal ideationThe critical importance of treatment for depression and staying engaged in therapyWhy replacing toxic people, places, and habits is essential in recoveryListeners will be reminded that suicidal thoughts are a signal, not a conclusion — and that with the right support, healing is possible.📌 Takeaways & ToolsAsk the question — You won’t “plant” the idea of suicide by checking in. You might just save a life.Connection is key — To God, to loved ones, to a therapist.Create a plan — Knowing what to do when dark thoughts arise is essential.Replace what you remove — Recovery means filling the "holes" left behind with life-giving relationships and routines.Pay attention to teens — Take every statement seriously, even repeated ones.🚨 If You're StrugglingYou’re not alone. Reach out to someone you trust — or call 988, the 24-hour Suicide & Crisis Lifeline. Your life matters. Stay.Contact us if when you're ready to take a step toward healing. 

🎧 Episode Summary:The back-to-school season brings a wave of new responsibilities, expectations, and emotional demands—often leaving parents and caregivers feeling overwhelmed and pulled in 10 directions at once.In this episode, therapist Teresa Haskins joins host Jared Jones to unpack the real-life challenges of juggling family, work, and the back-to-school transition. From letting go of perfectionism to creating rhythms of rest and connection, Teresa shares grace-filled, practical wisdom for surviving (and thriving in) this season.👥 Featured Guest:Teresa Haskins, LMFT – Marriage & Family Therapist at Care to Change Hosted by: Jared Jones, Therapist & Podcast Host at Care to Change📅 Series Context:Part 4 of our August Back-to-School Series, following:Tips for school transition (with Kate Tucker)Supporting mental health (with Jean Crane)Creating lasting routines (with Mac Zambrano)🗣️ Topics Covered:Why this season feels so overwhelming (especially for parents)Letting go of perfectionism and the “ideal” school yearManaging expectations and finding your family’s rhythmCreating practical, sustainable systems for organizing lifeBuilding in connection through small daily ritualsWatching for signs of burnout and emotional overloadHow your inner world impacts your outer chaosDelegating tasks and inviting help without guiltUsing creativity and flexibility to simplify busy days✅ Practical Takeaways:Plan & Prioritize: Use visual tools, calendars, or weekly family check-ins to structure your time.Build Micro-Connections: Look for small, intentional ways to connect—car chats, hellos/goodbyes, bedtime rituals.Practice Self-Awareness: Notice where perfectionism or people-pleasing might be driving your stress.Ask for Help: Don’t carry the load alone—invite your partner, kids, or others to share responsibilities.Simplify What You Can: Look for smarter ways to do daily tasks or bundle them together creatively.📚 Resources Mentioned:Emotionally Healthy Spirituality by Peter ScazzeroThe Intentional Family by William DohertyAtomic Habits by James ClearEmotionally Healthy Leader by Peter ScazzeroGottman Card Decks (for family or couple connection questions)💬 Favorite Quote:“Perfectionism won’t create the perfect year. But intentional connection will create a stronger family.”❤️ Encouragement:If you're overwhelmed, you're not alone—and you're probably doing better than you think. You don’t need more time, just better tools. Start with one small change this week, and give yourself grace for the rest.🎙️ Need support? Reach out to Care to Change to connect with a counselor or life coach who can help you find your rhythm in this season.

Routines bring structure, reduce stress, and increase connection—but how do we actually build routines that last, especially in the chaos of back-to-school season?In this episode, therapist and first-time guest Mac Zambrano joins host Jared Jones to discuss how to create predictable, flexible, and peace-bringing routines for your family. With years of experience working with kids through ministry and now as a counselor, Mac offers heartfelt, realistic, and grace-filled strategies to help parents reclaim rhythm in their homes—morning, noon, and night.This is part 3 in our August Back-to-School Series, following previous episodes on:Transitioning back to school (with Kate Tucker)Supporting mental health during school change (with Jean Crane)🗣️ Topics Covered:Why routines matter (for both kids and adults)Emotional safety and stability through structureCreating meaningful morning, after-school, and evening routinesHow routines reduce stress and improve emotional availabilityHow to support kids' regulation through predictabilityBalancing flexibility and consistency in your homeUsing Sunday night as a rhythm-reset and planning timeModeling habits and emotional presence as a parentWhat to do when routines fail—and how to restart them💡 Key Takeaways:✅ Morning: Build calm with checklists, consistent wake-ups, and goodbye rituals✅ After School: Snack, connect, decompress—then homework✅ Evening: Prepare for tomorrow, connect emotionally, cut off screens early✅ Whole Family: Use Sunday prep nights & flexibility with structure✅ Grace > Perfection: Start small, make one change, and celebrate progress📚 Resources Mentioned:Book: Habits of the Household by Justin Whitmel EarleyCare to Change Resource Library: caretochange.org/resources💬 Favorite Quote:“Routines don’t make life perfect, but they do make room for peace.”✅ Action Step:Pick one small routine change to implement this week. Whether it’s a morning checklist or a calm evening connection point, that one step can create a ripple effect in your family’s peace and connection.🎙️ Need support creating structure that works for your family? Reach out to Care to Change to connect with one of our counselors—Mac is now accepting new families!

The back-to-school season can trigger anxiety, frustration, and emotional dysregulation in kids—especially those already facing mental health challenges like anxiety, depression, ADHD, or trauma. In this episode, therapist and mom of four Jean Crane joins host Jared Jones to unpack what’s really going on beneath the surface for our kids and what parents can do to support them.From understanding common struggles to offering calming strategies and connection tools, this episode is packed with empathy and actionable insights for families navigating this big seasonal shift.👥 Featured Guest:Jean Crane, MA, LMHC – Therapist at Care to Change Hosted by: Jared Jones, Therapist & Podcast Host at Care to Change🗓️ Series Context:This is part 2 of our August Back-to-School Series, focused on supporting emotional and practical transitions for families.🗣️ Topics Covered:Why the back-to-school season is hard on both kids and caregiversHow to manage caregiver anxiety during this transitionCommon emotional struggles: separation anxiety, performance anxiety, and social anxietyHow technology has shaped social development in kidsReading the nonverbal signs when kids won’t talkCo-regulation and how calm parents help calm kidsStrategies for emotional regulation and brain-based calming toolsHow to create opportunities for connection (even with teens!)Why movement and body awareness matter more than ever✅ Practical Tools & Takeaways:Normalize the Transition: Expect emotional bumps and build grace into your routines.Pay Attention to Changes: Watch for shifts in mood, behavior, or energy as signals for deeper emotions.Active Listening > Fixing: Validate what your kids feel before trying to solve problems.Teach Regulation Skills: Breathing techniques, body awareness, and calming tools go a long way.Get Moving: Physical activity improves focus, reduces anxiety, and resets emotional regulation.Partner with Schools: Use school resources to support your child’s needs (IEPs, quiet spaces, counselors).📚 Resources Mentioned:The Anxious Generation by Jonathan HaidtThe Connected Child by Karyn PurvisGottman Card Decks (for conversation starters and emotional literacy)💬 Quote of the Episode:“You don’t have to be perfect—you just have to be present. And every small moment of connection matters.”🎧 Listen If:Your child is struggling to adjust to school routinesYou're seeing signs of anxiety or emotional overwhelmYou're a caregiver who feels stretched too thin this seasonYou want tools to stay calm and build resilience as a family🎙️ Need support? Our counselors at Care to Change are here to walk alongside you. Schedule a session or check out our resource library at caretochange.org

In this episode, Jared Jones hosts therapist Kate Tucker to share insights and actionable strategies for helping kids and families navigate the back-to-school transition. Whether you're a parent of a kindergartener or a college student, this episode is packed with real-life examples, therapeutic advice, and practical tools for fostering emotional readiness and creating supportive routines.👥 Featured Guest:Kate Tucker, LMHC – Therapist at Care to Change Hosted by: Jared Jones, Podcast Host and Team Member at Care to Change🗣️ Topics Covered:Emotional challenges kids face returning to schoolWhy change is hard and how routine helpsAge-specific tips from early childhood to collegeImportance of “high structure, high intimacy”How parents can prepare kids emotionally and practicallyNormalizing emotions and building emotional vocabularyTools for emotional check-ins (e.g., emojis, high/low cards, rose-bud-thorn)Cultivating a growth mindset vs. perfectionismConnection-building rituals and daily one-on-one timeHow parent energy affects children through co-regulationStrategies for creating structure without overwhelm🛠️ Practical Takeaways:Begin routines early – Re-establish sleep and morning habits before school starts.Prepare emotionally – Visit schools, talk through the first day, and name feelings.Check in daily – Use dinner or bedtime to ask open-ended emotional questions.Celebrate small wins – Acknowledge positive behaviors and progress, not just outcomes.Model healthy emotion processing – Kids imitate emotional responses from parents.Manage your own energy – Calm and intentional parents help create calm children.📚 Resources Mentioned:Parenting from the Inside Out by Dr. Daniel J. Siegel and Mary HartzellI Know What to Do When I'm Feeling... (Flip Book for emotional literacy in young kids)💡 Quote of the Episode:“Transitions are tough. But so are you. You’ve got this—and so does your child.” – Jared Jones✅ Call to Action:Share this episode with a parent or caregiver navigating the back-to-school season. And schedule with Care to Change, if you'd like guidance on navigating back to school with your kids. 

In this powerful conclusion to the Freedom Series, Larry and April dive deep into what it means to live free from the burdens of performance, perfectionism, and people-pleasing. This episode invites listeners to examine the internal and cultural narratives that drive us to overwork, overachieve, and overextend — and gently challenges us to let go.April shares insights about the exhaustion caused by striving for value and belonging through doing rather than being. From cultural norms to spiritual misunderstandings, the conversation covers how fear often masks itself as responsibility, productivity, or politeness — and how true freedom begins with challenging those false scripts.💡 Key TakeawaysStriving vs. Freedom: Learn the difference between performing for worth and living from your inherent value.Cultural Pressure: Western culture often equates productivity with success, ignoring the importance of rest and character.Fear as a Barrier: Fear of failure, rejection, and disappointing others keeps us from living authentically.Performance-Based Value: The lie that "you are only as good as what you do" traps us in cycles of burnout.Healing Pathway:Identify the patterns you're stuck in (striving, people-pleasing, etc.)Trace the root of those beliefsReplace internal scripts with truthSet boundariesSurround yourself with affirming community✨ Memorable Quotes“Do out of the abundance of your known value, not in pursuit of trying to earn it.” – April Bordeau“The truth may be disappointing, but that doesn’t make you a disappointment.” – April Bordeau“We’re not human doings; we’re human beings.” 💬 Resources & Connect🔗 Care to Change Website📱 Follow us on social media for more insights & podcast updates🎧 Explore past podcast episodes on topics like boundaries, burnout, and authenticity🗓️ Schedule a session with one of our caring therapists: Make an Appointment🧡 Final ThoughtIf you’re tired of measuring your worth by your performance, this episode is your invitation to rest, reconnect with your true self, and begin the journey toward authentic living. Healing happens here — at Care to Change.

Care to Change continues its conversation on freedom by exploring one of the most empowering forms of liberation: using your voice. In this episode, April welcomes back therapist and clinical director Brittany Gipson to unpack the courage, clarity, and healing that come from speaking your truth.They dive into what it means to “find your voice,” why we lose it, and how reclaiming it is central to living an authentic, purpose-filled life. Whether you're just beginning a journey of self-discovery or working through the fear of being truly seen, this episode offers gentle wisdom and practical steps for stepping into emotional and spiritual freedom.💬 Topics CoveredWhat it truly means to “find your voice”Why so many of us silence ourselves—and how that begins in childhoodThe link between trauma, culture, and losing your voiceHow gender, faith, and societal roles shape expressionHow to rediscover your truth if you’ve lost sight of itThe role of safe relationships in practicing vulnerabilityWhen using your voice leads to difficult conversations—or necessary endingsHow faith empowers us to speak up with both compassion and confidence🛠️ Practical TakeawaysBegin with awareness: Pay attention to where, when, and with whom you stay silent or express yourself.Explore the root causes: Ask, “Why am I not using my voice here?” Childhood messages and past trauma often shape current silence.Challenge false beliefs: Replace old narratives ("My voice doesn't matter") with truth rooted in your value and identity.Start with safe people: Practice sharing your thoughts with people who are emotionally safe and receptive.Stand firm in your worth: Disagreement doesn’t invalidate your experience—truth brings freedom, even when it’s not received well.📖 Faith ConnectionBrittany reminds us that God created us with purpose and uniqueness—our voices are part of that divine design. Referencing passages like Psalm 139 and 2 Timothy 1:7, she emphasizes that speaking truth in love aligns with our identity in Christ, not against it. Using your voice isn’t rebellion—it’s obedience to the One who made you.📚 Recommended ResourcesTry Softer by Aundi Kolber – for gentle emotional self-discoveryAnchored by Cindy Lee – for grounding identity in secure attachmentFree to Be Me by Stasi Eldredge – for women pursuing authenticity through faith💡 Reflective QuestionsWhere in your life are you staying silent—and why?Who taught you it was safer to hide?What’s one safe space where you could begin practicing truth-telling?Are you willing to release relationships that can't hold space for the real you?📞 Ready to Take the Next Step?If this conversation stirred something in you and you're longing to rediscover your voice and reclaim your worth, we’re here for you. At Care to Change, our therapists are trained to walk with you through the process of healing, self-discovery, and empowerment.📲 Visit caretochange.org to connect with someone who can help.—

In this powerful episode, April Bordeau continues the July series on "Freedom" by exploring how setting boundaries can bring true emotional and spiritual liberation. Guest therapist Jean Crane unpacks the roots of codependency, the signals that healthy boundaries are missing, and how embracing your God-given identity is foundational to reclaiming your voice.Together, they discuss:The emotional toll of people-pleasing and over-functioningHow childhood experiences can shape codependent patternsFaith’s role in supporting healthy relationshipsWhy setting boundaries is an act of love—not selfishnessPractical steps to speak up, say no, and walk in God’s design for freedom🧠 Key TakeawaysCodependency defined: Putting others’ needs above your own to feel secure or avoid conflictWarning signs: Chronic exhaustion, resentment, conflict avoidance, or emotional caretakingHealing begins with identity in Christ: Knowing you're fully loved and designed with purposeUse your voice: Say what you feel and need with assertiveness and compassionJesus modeled boundaries: He honored His humanity, said no, and prioritized God’s will over people’s demandsBoundaries ≠ rejection: They protect what matters and create room for healthier, more loving connections📚 Resources MentionedBoundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud & Dr. John TownsendGood Boundaries and Goodbyes by Lysa TerKeurstEmotionally Healthy Spirituality by Peter ScazzeroThe Ruthless Elimination of Hurry by John Mark Comer🛠️ Practical ToolsThe Four Gauges Exercise: Assess your emotional, spiritual, social, and physical health by drawing gauges (0–100%). Jean explains how this visual tool can highlight imbalance and guide self-care.Journal prompts:Where am I drained in my relationships?Where am I energized?Am I saying yes where I really want to say no?📩 Connect With UsNeed support in setting boundaries or navigating codependency? Email us at [email protected] to request the Gauge Visual Tool or schedule a time to meet with one of our therapists.

In this soul-stirring and heart-centered episode, April Bordeau sits down with therapist and clinical supervisor Teresa Land to explore the deep connection between vulnerability, authenticity, and emotional freedom. Together, they unpack what it truly means to be known, loved, and emotionally present in relationships—and how embracing vulnerability can lead us to the kind of freedom we were created for.💬 Key Topics CoveredThe difference between authenticity and vulnerabilityHow hiding parts of ourselves prevents deep connectionThe lie of performance and the fear of rejectionWhy vulnerability is not weakness—but rather a courageous act of connectionHow shame, trauma, and scarcity mindset keep us isolatedPractical steps to build emotional awareness and practice vulnerabilityUsing Brene Brown’s “marble jar” analogy to measure emotional safetyThe healing power of authentic relationships—and the importance of seasonal boundaries🛠️ Practical TakeawaysCheck in with yourself regularly: Use tools like the How We Feel app or journaling to identify and name emotions.Practice self-acceptance: Vulnerability starts with being honest with yourself.Choose safe people wisely: Use the “marble jar” metaphor to gauge who is emotionally safe to trust.Don’t confuse vulnerability with oversharing: Emotional honesty is powerful when rooted in discernment and self-worth.Surround yourself with people who welcome the real you: Safe people challenge and support you—not just agree with you.🧠 Resources MentionedDaring Greatly by Brené BrownTry Softer by Aundi KolberBoundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud (mentioned in context of trust and safe relationships)Psalm 139 and John 10:10 as spiritual foundations for authenticity💡 Reflective QuestionsWhere in your life are you performing instead of accepting yourself?What emotions have you been avoiding or suppressing?Who are your “marble jar” people—those safe enough to hold your heart?Are you protecting yourself from rejection at the cost of meaningful connection?📞 Need Help Taking the First Step?If you find yourself feeling disconnected, longing for meaningful relationships, or unsure how to begin your healing journey, the team at Care to Change is here for you. You don’t have to walk this journey alone.📲 Visit caretochange.org or call us to connect with one of our trusted therapists.

In this powerful kickoff to the July “Freedom” series, April Bordeau welcomes back therapist Jared Jones to discuss a foundational question: Are we truly free—or just managing our behavior?They dive deep into the contrast between behavior modification and authentic freedom, exploring why simply managing outward actions often fails to produce lasting change. Instead, they advocate for a process that heals the root causes behind behaviors.Whether you're wrestling with unhealthy patterns, helping someone walk through recovery, or striving to live more fully, this conversation offers both hope and practical steps toward sustainable transformation.🧠 What You'll Learn in This EpisodeThe difference between behavior modification and true internal freedomWhy “clip charts” and reward systems only go so farHow early wounds, trauma, and unmet needs influence adult behaviorWhy behavior change often fails without healing the deeper beliefs underneathThe five practical steps toward living in freedom (not just managing symptoms)Why inviting God into the healing process is essential to transformationCommon signs you’re living in true freedom—and when you’re notTools for helping others in recovery without overstepping boundaries🛠️ Practical Takeaways: 5 Steps to Walking in True FreedomIdentify what’s driving the behavior – go deeper than the surface.Name the false belief behind the struggle – uncover the lies we’ve adopted.Invite God into the healing process – don’t do the journey alone.Practice habits aligned with healing – start living as a whole person.Build a strong support system – include truth-tellers who walk with you in grace.📚 Resources MentionedThe Anatomy of the Soul by Dr. Curt ThompsonAltogether You by Jenna Riemersma (IFS-informed, faith-based resource)Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy model — Intro to IFS (add link in actual show notes)💬 Memorable Quote“Are you modifying your behavior to look free—or are you actually healing and living free?”💡 Need Help?Care to Change is here when you’re ready. We offer practical solutions for positive change—because freedom is possible, and you don’t have to walk alone.Visit Care to Change

In the final episode of our June series on Men’s Mental Health, April Bordeau welcomes back a familiar voice: Larry Vinson—pastor, veteran, father of six, and podcast contributor. This deeply personal conversation explores the intersection of fatherhood and mental health, shedding light on the rarely spoken struggles dads face behind closed doors.Larry opens up about his journey through PTSD, burnout, and the intense process of healing that included a seven-week mental health residency. From the pressures of being a pastor and veteran to the redemption found in reconnection and vulnerability, this is a story of courage, transformation, and grace.💬 Key TakeawaysBreaking the stigma: Men are often discouraged from seeking help—but healing begins with acknowledging the need.The turning point: Larry’s journey began when a friend lovingly intervened and urged him to seek treatment.The impact of untreated trauma: Larry shares candidly how PTSD and unaddressed pain affected his parenting and relationships.Rebuilding trust: Through therapy, community support, and radical honesty, Larry describes the hard but redemptive road to rebuilding bonds with his children and wife.Fatherhood redefined: Being a great dad isn’t about perfection—it’s about presence, humility, and being willing to grow.👨‍👧‍👦 A Message for Dads (and Those Who Love Them)Whether you’re a father struggling in silence, a veteran navigating trauma, or a wife hoping your husband finds help—this episode offers real hope. Larry reminds us:"It takes more courage to say 'I need help' than it does to stay in the struggle."📚 Resources & SupportInterested in connecting with Larry? 📧 Email: [email protected] 🔗 Social: @pastorl5 on social mediaLearn more about PTSD treatment programs through the VAExplore Christian-based men’s support groups in your local church or communityListen to past episodes in this June series:Breaking the Silence on Men’s Mental Health (with Kyle Hopkins)Dads and Connection (with John Crane)When Your Man is Struggling (with Heather Vinson)🙏 Final EncouragementIt’s never too late to experience transformation. There is hope, healing, and support available—and you are not alone.🧠 Need help now? Reach out to Care to Change for practical solutions for positive change.

In this moving and deeply personal episode, April Bordeau speaks with Heather Vinson, wife of frequent podcast guest, pastor and community leader, Larry Vinson, about the complexities of supporting a husband struggling with mental health issues, including PTSD. Heather shares candidly about their journey through breakdowns, healing, and the power of boundaries, community, and faith. Her vulnerability sheds light on the often-hidden struggles of ministry families, and provides real, actionable insights for wives, mothers, and anyone walking beside a loved one in crisis.Key Topics Discussed·       The silent struggles of men in ministry with mental health challenges·       The emotional weight of being a supportive spouse·       Minimization, overcompensation, and the cost of emotional labor·       Identifying PTSD and the importance of early intervention·       The value of a safety plan and trusted support network·       Setting boundaries and choosing safety for the whole family·       The emotional aftermath and rebuilding trust after crisis·       Why community support and therapy are vital—for both partners·       Encouragement for wives and families: you are not alone·       Resources and spiritual anchors that helped Heather copeMemorable Quote"He had to hit rock bottom before real change could happen. That boundary, while really hard, was crucial." — Heather VinsonResources Mentioned·       Book: *It's Not Supposed to Be This Way* by Lysa TerKeurst·       Scripture: Book of Job·       Support groups for spouses of veterans·       Therapy and trauma-informed support (e.g., VA services, Care to Change)Call to ActionIf you or someone you love is struggling with mental health, know that help is available. Reach out to your community, your church, or a professional counselor at Care to Change. If you don’t know where to begin, contact Care to Change—we are here to walk this journey with you and offer practical solutions for the change you want.

In honor of Men's Mental Health Month, April welcomes John Crane to the podcast for an inspiring and deeply personal conversation on the powerful role of fathers. A husband, father of four, and seasoned leader in both public service and faith-based communities, John opens up about the intentional ways he and his wife Jean (a Care to Change therapist) have raised their children with leadership, character, and spiritual formation in mind.From hiking the Appalachian Trail with his sons to sitting between feuding siblings until peace is restored, John shares practical and heartfelt stories that reflect his commitment to being a present and purpose-driven father. This episode is a powerful reminder that effective parenting begins with presence, clarity of purpose, and a willingness to stay in the hard conversations.Key Topics Covered:Why intentional presence matters more than proximity in fatherhoodThe critical role of men in shaping mental and relational healthBalancing leadership at home and in public lifeTeaching kids to “do hard things” with compassion and convictionNavigating parenting in blended family dynamicsHow fathers can care for themselves in order to show up for their familiesRepairing relationships through humility and modeling graceNotable Quotes:“Leadership starts in the home because leadership is about intentional influence.” — John Crane“Your effectiveness as a parent is directly proportional to your presence.” — John Crane“If I’ve learned how to multitask at work, I can learn to multitask at home—intentionally.” — John CraneResources Mentioned:Focus on the Family – Resources on fatherhood and parentingAll for One / 4M – Experiential leadership and father-child challenge eventsCrane Leadership – Leadership coaching, training, and consulting📩 Connect with John: Email: [email protected] Website: craneleadership.org💡 Need Help?Care to Change is here when you’re ready. We offer practical solutions for positive change—because freedom is possible, and you don’t have to walk alone.Visit Care to Change

In this powerful kickoff to Care to Change’s June series on Men’s Mental Health, April Bordeau sits down with clinician Kyle Hopkins to open an honest and deeply insightful conversation about the struggles many men face—but rarely talk about.Together, they explore:Why men often suffer in silenceThe emotional cost of unaddressed stressHow emotional suppression leads to isolation, outbursts, and relational breakdownsHow cultural stigmas around masculinity can hinder emotional wellnessWays women can compassionately support the men in their livesPractical steps men can take to begin their healing journeyThis episode is a compassionate, faith-informed dialogue aimed at breaking stereotypes and equipping both men and women with tools for understanding, supporting, and healing. It’s a message of hope, courage, and change.💬 Key TakeawaysMen and emotion: Many men grow up believing they must avoid vulnerability and “push through” discomfort, resulting in narrowed emotional expression—often limited to anger and happiness.The myth of toughness: Emotional repression doesn’t protect families; it erodes emotional safety at home.Courage to change: The first step for many men is simply naming what they’re feeling—and acknowledging that something needs to change.Modeling matters: When men model emotional honesty, especially to other men and their children, they create safe space for healing and growth.For women: Avoid “why” questions; instead ask “what” and “how” questions to create open, judgment-free conversations.📚 Resources MentionedBook: Depression, Anxiety, and Other Things We Don’t Talk About by Ryan Casey WallerSupport Networks: Local church groups, men’s mentoring groups, and Care to Change counseling servicesMore from Care to Change: Past episodes on men’s mental health and leadership are available in our podcast archive📞 Need Support?You’re not alone. Whether you’re a man ready to take a step toward change, or someone who loves one—reach out. Visit caretochange.org or call us to be connected with the right resources.“You are worth it. Your relationships are worth it. Help is available.” — April Bordeau

In this empowering close to Care to Change’s Mental Health Awareness Month series, host Larry Vinson and therapist April Bordeau tackle an often-overlooked topic in mental health: hormones. With insight, humor, and practical wisdom, they explore how internal chemistry impacts emotional wellbeing—and what you can do about it.Whether you’re feeling chronically exhausted, emotionally stuck, or overwhelmed by life’s demands, this episode unpacks the hidden biological forces at play—and offers everyday strategies to start restoring balance.Key Takeaways10 surprising reasons you may be exhausted—that go beyond just needing more sleepThe connection between external stressors and internal hormone imbalancesWhy both men and women need to pay attention to hormones like cortisol, serotonin, dopamine, and oxytocinCommon signs of hormonal imbalance (hint: it’s not always physical)How to naturally “hack” your hormones through simple, science-backed daily practicesHormones That Impact Mental HealthEstrogen: Mood regulation & emotional stabilityProgesterone/Testosterone: Sleep, calmness, energyCortisol: Stress response—too much leads to burnoutSerotonin: Mood, sleep, digestionDopamine: Motivation, pleasure, attentionOxytocin: Trust, bonding, emotional safetyEndorphins: Natural pain relief & mood boostersHormone “Hacks” You Can Start Today🎧 Listen to uplifting music🌳 Walk in nature🧘 Practice mindfulness or prayer💬 Share a compliment or hug someone you love✅ Complete a small task🍫 (Yes, even a bit of dark chocolate helps!)“You can’t change the direction of the wind, but you can adjust your sails.” — April BordeauWho Should Listen?Anyone feeling exhausted despite restThose looking for natural support alongside therapy or medicationWomen navigating perimenopause or hormonal transitionsMen interested in better understanding their emotional shiftsPeople who want practical, whole-person strategies for mental wellness🆘 Need Support?Visit caretochange.org to connect with one of our therapists or access resources to help you take your next step toward healing and hope.

In this insightful episode, we dive into common myths about depression and how they can impact our understanding and approach to mental health. Jared Jones, a returning expert, provides valuable guidance on navigating depression and offers practical steps for those struggling with it.Common Myths About Depression:Depression is "just" depressionReality: Depression is often intertwined with underlying issues like anxiety or trauma. It’s rarely a simple, isolated condition.Depression is simply a chemical imbalance in the brainReality: While chemicals play a role, the brain’s complexity means that treatment must also address brain circuitry, not just chemical levels.Medication is the only or permanent solutionReality: Medication is a tool, like a cast for a broken bone, designed to support healing. The goal is to eventually reduce or stop medication with proper treatment and care.You must "fix yourself" before seeking supportReality: Healing is a shared process. Support from friends, family, or professionals is essential. You don’t need to face depression alone.You should be able to quickly overcome depressionReality: Healing takes time. Small, consistent steps are far more effective than expecting instant results or a quick fix.Key Steps to Take When Experiencing Depression:Reach Out for SupportDon’t try to handle depression alone. Build a support system with friends, family, or a trusted community. Seek help from a therapist or counselor.Practice Self-CompassionBe gentle with yourself. Avoid self-criticism and “should” statements. Treat yourself with the same kindness you would a close friend.Take Small, Manageable Action StepsFocus on progress, not perfection. Take things one small step at a time. Simple actions like calling a friend, going for a short walk, or completing a small task can be transformative.Key Principles to Keep in Mind:Progress is better than perfectionForward is forward, no matter the paceIt’s okay to slow down, but don’t stop completelyHealing isn’t linear – embrace the journeyAdditional Advice:Medication is a temporary support for the healing process, not a permanent solution.Incorporate a multi-faceted approach: therapy, self-care, and medication (if appropriate).Be patient with yourself – healing takes time, and it’s okay to move at your own pace.The Most Important Message: You are not alone. Small steps lead to significant progress. Don't give up – take action, seek support, and embrace the healing process.If you or someone you know is struggling with depression, this episode offers a compassionate, realistic roadmap to recovery. Tune in and take your first steps toward healing today. 🌱Follow Care to Change on Facebook  https://www.facebook.com/CaretoChange.org/Follow Care to Change on Instagram @care_to_changeSee our YouTube page hereIf you would like someone to come speak to your group about anxiety, depression or mental health, contact us for more details.If you are struggling and ready to take a step toward freedom, schedule an appt today.

In this insightful episode, April Bordeau continues the conversation around Mental Health Awareness Month with a powerful focus on self-care. Joined by the amazing Jean Crane, they dive into how busy women, in particular, can prioritize themselves and nurture their well-being, even amidst a hectic life.Key Topics:The Challenge of Self-Care: How can we make time for ourselves when life feels non-stop?The Power of Presence: Jean shares her experience with Shana Nyquist's book Present Over Perfect and how it speaks to slowing down to truly experience life.Rest vs. Hustling: Discussing the importance of true rest and avoiding the trap of "fake resting," where we pretend to take breaks while actually running on empty.Takeaways:You Are Worth It: A gentle reminder that rest and self-care are not selfish; they are essential for maintaining long-term health and well-being.Reach Out for Support: If you’re feeling overwhelmed, don’t hesitate to lean on your support systems, whether it's family, friends, or professionals.Permission to Pause: Giving yourself permission to stop and care for yourself is vital for your longevity and relationships.Resources Mentioned:Present Over Perfect by Shana NyquistThe Ruthless Elimination of Hurry by John Mark ComerEmbracing Rhythms of Work and Rest by Ruth Haley BartonRemember, self-care is a priority, not a luxury.Follow Care to Change on Facebook  https://www.facebook.com/CaretoChange.org/Follow Care to Change on Instagram @care_to_changeSee our YouTube page hereIf you would like someone to come speak to your group about anxiety, depression or mental health, contact us for more details.If you are struggling and ready to take a step toward freedom, schedule an appt today.

In this episode, we’re kicking off Mental Health Awareness Month by diving into a topic that affects so many—anxiety and stress. Kate Tucker, one of the therapists at Care to Change, shares valuable insights on understanding anxiety, recognizing the difference between stress and clinical anxiety, and offering 10 practical tips for managing these challenges. Whether you're struggling with anxiety yourself or supporting someone who is, this episode provides actionable strategies to help you regain control and find peace.10 Tips for Managing Anxiety & StressGetting outside and grounding yourself in natureMeeting your physical needs (food, hydration, medication)Asking for help and not going it aloneUsing your five senses to stay grounded in the present momentInterrupting anxious thought patterns through activities like reading, journaling, and physical movementUsing progressive muscle relaxation to calm the bodySetting boundaries and learning to say noGetting enough sleep to support mental well-beingThe Power of Deep BreathingFeatured Resources:Book Recommendation: Spiritual Practices for the Brain – This book explores how various practices, including many discussed in this episode, align with biological research and Scripture.Care to Change: If you or someone you know is struggling with anxiety or stress, don’t hesitate to reach out to Care to Change for professional help. We’re here to support you in finding peace and balance.Here are five different breathing techniques you can try:Diaphragmatic Breathing (Abdominal Breathing):Breathe deeply through your nose, allowing your diaphragm to expand and fill your abdomen with air. Exhale slowly through your mouth. This technique helps to reduce stress and promote relaxation.Box Breathing (Square Breathing):Inhale for a count of 4, hold your breath for a count of 4, exhale for a count of 4, and hold again for a count of 4. This technique is great for calming the nervous system and improving focus.4-7-8 Breathing:Inhale quietly through your nose for 4 seconds, hold your breath for 7 seconds, and exhale slowly through your mouth for 8 seconds. This technique can help reduce anxiety and promote better sleep.Alternate Nostril Breathing (Nadi Shodhana):Close one nostril with your thumb, inhale deeply through the other nostril, then close that nostril and exhale through the other side. This is believed to help balance the body’s energy and calm the mind.Pursed Lip Breathing:Inhale deeply through your nose, then purse your lips as if you’re about to whistle, and exhale slowly through your pursed lips. This helps to slow down your breathing and improve lung function, often used for respiratory conditions.Each of these techniques can be helpful for reducing stress, increasing mindfulness, and improving overall well-being!Follow Care to Change on Facebook  https://www.facebook.com/CaretoChange.org/Follow Care to Change on Instagram @care_to_changeSee our YouTube page hereIf you would like someone to come speak to your group about anxiety, depression or mental health, contact us for more details.If you are struggling and ready to take a step toward freedom, schedule an appt today.