Come Ride With Me

We spend so much time chasing outcomes in the horse world. We celebrate ribbons, scores, smooth rides, and milestones. But what if those aren’t the things that truly shape us—or our horses?In this episode of The Thinking Horse & Rider, I explore why the process matters far more than the outcome. Your horse isn’t simply learning from you; they’re revealing who you already are. Every ride exposes your patience, clarity, consistency, emotional regulation, and compassion, giving you an opportunity to grow into the horseman your horse truly needs.We’ll talk about why visualization is only the beginning, how daily execution creates lasting transformation, why some of the best horsemanship happens when you’re nowhere near your horse, and how creating clarity in your practice leads to faster progress for both horse and rider.Because your horse isn’t the project. The relationship is.And relationships are built through process—not outcomes.In this episode:Why goals provide direction but process creates transformationHow horses reveal our habits, emotions, and mindsetBecoming the person your horse needs instead of trying to “fix” your horseWhy daily habits matter more than big breakthroughsHow clarity reduces decision fatigue and accelerates learningThe difference between riding consistently and practicing consistentlyA simple three-question experiment to transform your next three weeksTimestamps00:00 Why our culture celebrates outcomes instead of the process02:15 Your horse reveals who you already are05:15 Becoming the person your horse needs08:20 Visualization is helpful—but execution changes everything12:45 Why some of the best horsemanship happens away from your horse16:15 Clarity creates speed: reducing latency in learning21:30 Decision fatigue and creating a daily training plan26:00 Why great coaching is about clarity, not more exercises28:45 Falling in love with repetition33:00 Every interaction trains two nervous systems35:45 Consistency is practicing principles—not just riding more38:10 Your 10-minute experiment: three questions to change your partnership42:15 Final thoughts: Train yourself, and the horse will followGet the FREE Awareness workshop www.equusenlightened.comFind me on social media as @equusenlightened.  Join the Horse and Rider Lab on Skool. It’s free! https://www.skool.com/equus-enlightened-8966/aboutYou can also view videos of the riding episodes or listen to all of them on YouTube under Come Ride with Me Riding Videos. My channel is https://www.youtube.com/@equusenlightenedRead blogs or find more links @ https://linktr.ee/equusenlightenedFind out more about Reconnect, Rebuild, and Ride with Heart https://equusenlightened.com/reconnect-rebuild-horse-human-partnership Email me at [email protected] Riding!

Is it too hot to ride your horse? The answer isn’t as simple as checking the thermometer.As a former collegiate athletic trainer, I learned that heat safety isn’t about comfort—it’s about physiology. In this episode, I compare modern sports medicine protocols used by the NCAA, NFL, Olympic athletes, and the military with the way we think about heat in the horse world.You’ll learn why temperature alone doesn’t tell the whole story, what Wet Bulb Globe Temperature (WBGT) is, why humidity, sun, wind, footing, and workload all matter, and how to recognize the early signs of heat stress in both horses and humans before they become emergencies.We’ll also discuss:Why horses and humans overheat differentlyHow fitness, breed, age, and equipment affect heat toleranceWhy behavior is often your first warning signThe importance of measuring core body temperatureWhy “cool first, transport second” saves livesHow to make informed decisions instead of relying on arbitrary rulesThe best horsemen aren’t looking for a number—they’re looking for information. By understanding the physiology behind heat stress, you’ll be better equipped to protect both yourself and your horse during hot weather.Get the FREE Awareness workshop www.equusenlightened.comFind me on social media as @equusenlightened.  Join the Horse and Rider Lab on Skool. It’s free! https://www.skool.com/equus-enlightened-8966/aboutYou can also view videos of the riding episodes or listen to all of them on YouTube under Come Ride with Me Riding Videos. My channel is https://www.youtube.com/@equusenlightenedRead blogs or find more links @ https://linktr.ee/equusenlightenedFind out more about Reconnect, Rebuild, and Ride with Heart https://equusenlightened.com/reconnect-rebuild-horse-human-partnership Email me at [email protected] Riding!Keywords: horse heat stress, riding in hot weather, horse safety, equine health, WBGT, wet bulb globe temperature, heat stroke, heat exhaustion, horse training, equestrian, horse welfare, sports medicine, Thinking Horse and Rider.

What does it really mean to be a leader for your horse?For decades, riders have been taught that safety depends on being the “boss”—that horses need a dominant leader who controls every situation. But is that how horses actually live?In this episode of The Thinking Horse and Rider, I sit down with Kim Hallin of Unbridled LLC, author of Horse Wisdom, to explore what horse ethology tells us about leadership, dominance, and the complex social lives of horses. Together, we discuss why wild horse herds don’t operate the way many of us were taught, how fear and control have shaped traditional horsemanship, and what we can learn by observing horses with curiosity instead of judgment.We also explore how our relationships with horses often mirror our relationships with ourselves and others, why autonomy and emotional regulation matter, and how true leadership is built on trust, clarity, and connection—not force.If you’ve ever questioned the advice to “show your horse who’s boss,” this conversation will challenge you to think differently about partnership, leadership, and what horses have been trying to teach us all along.In this episode you’ll learn:• Why dominance theory doesn’t accurately describe horse society• How wild horses share leadership and adapt to changing situations• The difference between leadership and control• How fear influences both riders and training methods• What horses can teach us about relationships, community, and living with greater awarenessChapters and Timestamps00:00 Welcome Kim Hallin of Unbridled01:05 What “Unbridled” Really Means03:10 Horses, Humans, and Domesticated Beliefs05:35 Are Humans Still Learning From Nature?08:20 Where Dominance Theory May Have Started10:15 Why Horse Herds Aren’t Dominance Hierarchies13:35 Resource Guarding vs True Leadership16:20 Why Riders Cling to Control19:10 Fear, Trauma, and “Get Back On” Culture23:40 When Riding Stops Feeling Joyful27:30 How Fear Affects Horse and Rider Safety30:45 Are We Rebranding Control as Leadership?34:10 Boss vs Leader in Horse-Human Relationships37:30 What Wild Horses Teach About Cooperation41:05 Why Force Is Rare in Natural Herds44:15 Stallions, Fighting, and Misunderstood Behavior48:20 What Changes When Horses Aren’t Confined51:10 Scarcity, Hay Piles, and Domestic Herd Stress54:35 Shiloh the Mustang and Herd Education59:45 What Young Stallions Actually Need to Learn1:04:20 The Myth of the Alpha Mare1:07:15 How Herds Help Raise Foals1:11:10 Why Autonomy Matters for Horses1:14:25 Micromanagement and Learned Helplessness1:18:40 Naming Hard Truths Without Shame1:21:15 10-Minute Experiment: Watch Spinal Alignment1:26:30 Kim’s Retreats and Online Community1:30:10 Horse Wisdom, Ownership, and Consent1:34:45 Holding Complexity Without Getting TriggeredTo learn more about Kim Hallin’s work, visit  kimhallin.com⁠, where you’ll find information about her immersive retreats, online courses, membership community, and her book, Horse Wisdom: Life Lessons for Humanity. Kim also shares thoughtful essays exploring horse behavior, relationships, and the wisdom of nature through her Substack, My Unbridled Life. Whether you’re looking to deepen your understanding of horse ethology or explore the parallels between horses and human relationships, her work offers a unique and thought-provoking perspective.  Get the FREE Awareness workshop www.equusenlightened.comFind me on social media as @equusenlightened.  Join the Horse and Rider Lab on Skool. It’s free! https://www.skool.com/equus-enlightened-8966/aboutWatch on YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@equusenlightenedRead blogs or find more links @ https://linktr.ee/equusenlightenedFind out more about Reconnect, Rebuild, and Ride with Heart https://equusenlightened.com/reconnect-rebuild-horse-human-partnership Email me at [email protected] Riding!

We’re all traumatized. Now what?After a question at Happy Horse Camp about what “trauma lens” I work from, I found myself reflecting on my childhood, my years as a 911 dispatcher, and the many theories I’ve studied—from learning theory and neuroscience to polyvagal theory and psychology. What I’ve learned is that no single framework explains every horse or every human.In this episode, we explore why life leaves marks on all of us, why trauma doesn’t mean broken, and why I believe awareness—not labels, dominance, or even trauma itself—is the foundation of growth.We’ll talk about post-traumatic growth, the danger of labeling horses and humans, the two extremes horse people often fall into, and why I teach awareness before technique. You’ll also walk away with a few simple practices to help you observe with more curiosity and less judgment.Because behavior is information, not identity.And maybe the question isn’t “What happened to us?” but “What is possible next?”✨ Want to dive deeper? Awareness is the first Seed in Reconnect, Rebuild, and Ride with Heart. You can also access my free Awareness workshop on my website or inside the Happy Horse and Rider Lab community on Skool.Get the FREE Awareness workshop www.equusenlightened.comFind me on social media as @equusenlightened.  Join the Horse and Rider Lab on Skool. It’s free! https://www.skool.com/equus-enlightened-8966/aboutYou can also view videos of the riding episodes or listen to all of them on YouTube under Come Ride with Me Riding Videos. My channel is https://www.youtube.com/@equusenlightenedRead blogs or find more links @ https://linktr.ee/equusenlightenedFind out more about Reconnect, Rebuild, and Ride with Heart https://equusenlightened.com/reconnect-rebuild-horse-human-partnership Email me at [email protected] Riding!

One of the most common pieces of horse training advice is, "Don't let the horse win."But what if that mindset is creating more fear, more tension, and more problems than it solves?In this episode, Anna explores what really happens when riders get off after something goes wrong, why punishing a horse for being afraid often backfires, and how nervous system regulation impacts learning for both horses and humans. You'll learn why exhaustion is not the same as relaxation, why horses don't learn well in survival mode, and how ending a session with a positive emotional experience can improve trust, confidence, and rideability over time.Whether you've ever fallen off, felt nervous getting on, or wondered if you're "rewarding bad behavior" by listening to your horse, this conversation offers a different perspective on safety, leadership, and partnership.Topics include:• The myth of "letting the horse win"• Why punishment often fails to create lasting change• Fear, overwhelm, and nervous system dysregulation• The difference between compliance and relaxation• How horses remember emotional experiences• Practical ways to help your horse return to a regulated stateBecause a horse in survival mode cannot learn—and sometimes the bravest thing a rider can do is stop trying to win the moment.Get the FREE Awareness workshop www.equusenlightened.comFind me on social media as @equusenlightened.  Join the Horse and Rider Lab on Skool. It’s free! https://www.skool.com/equus-enlightened-8966/aboutYou can also view videos of the riding episodes or listen to all of them on YouTube under Come Ride with Me Riding Videos. My channel is https://www.youtube.com/@equusenlightenedRead blogs or find more links @ https://linktr.ee/equusenlightenedFind out more about Reconnect, Rebuild, and Ride with Heart https://equusenlightened.com/reconnect-rebuild-horse-human-partnership Email me at [email protected] Riding!

Do you think your horse needs to be tired to be good?A lot of riders have been taught that a tired horse is a relaxed horse. So we lunge them first, ride them down, or keep them moving until they “settle.” But exhaustion is not relaxation — and in the long run, it often creates fitter, more frustrated horses instead of calmer ones.In this episode, Anna dives into the concepts of Reflex to Relax and Rhythmic Relaxation, exploring how rhythm, nervous system regulation, and emotional safety affect your horse’s ability to learn, trust, and stay mentally present.You’ll learn:• Why tiredness decreases learning and mental clarity• The difference between coping and true relaxation• How horses read rhythm and energy• Why rhythm signals safety to mammals• How nervous systems synchronize with each other• Why relaxation and rhythm are the true foundation of training• How riders accidentally create tension by over-asking• A simple exercise to begin teaching your horse a Reflex to RelaxThis episode also explores how many “lazy,” anxious, or resistant horses may actually be struggling with nervous system dysregulation rather than disobedience — and how teaching relaxation can change your entire relationship with your horse.Whether you ride dressage, trail ride, compete, or simply want a deeper connection with your horse, this conversation will help you rethink relaxation, training, and what horses truly need from us.Get the FREE Awareness workshop www.equusenlightened.comFind me on social media as @equusenlightened.  Join the Horse and Rider Lab on Skool. It’s free! https://www.skool.com/equus-enlightened-8966/aboutYou can also view videos of the riding episodes or listen to all of them on YouTube under Come Ride with Me Riding Videos. My channel is https://www.youtube.com/@equusenlightenedRead blogs or find more links @ https://linktr.ee/equusenlightenedFind out more about Reconnect, Rebuild, and Ride with Heart https://equusenlightened.com/reconnect-rebuild-horse-human-partnershipEmail me at [email protected] Riding!

What if the missing piece in horse training isn’t more pressure, more control, or better technique… but relaxation?In this episode of The Thinking Horse and Rider Podcast, I’m sharing why I created the Happy Horse (and Human) Experience at Shining River Ranch and the deeper philosophy behind it.Most riders learn mechanics, positions, corrections, and patterns in riding lessons. But very few of us are taught:- how horses actually learn- how nervous systems affect training- how humans unintentionally create tension- how to regulate energy instead of suppressing behavior- how to create connection instead of complianceWe’ll talk about:- why so many equestrians feel tense, disconnected, and over-responsible- how that pressure transfers to horses- the importance of awareness, emotional clarity, and timing- why relaxation is essential for BOTH horse and rider- the groundwork and riding exercises we’ll explore at campIncluding:- passive leading- touch-it- moving massage- energy ladder exercises- passive riding- breathing for transitions- hindquarter yield variationsThis episode is rooted in the principles of Reconnect, Rebuild, and Ride with Heart and the “7 things we don’t learn in riding lessons.”If you’ve been craving a softer, more connected way of learning with your horse, this conversation is for you.If you want to join us in-person: https://equusenlightened.com/happy-horse-camp-north-carolinaIf Louisburg, NC is not convenient to you, reach out to me about booking an experience near you. Get the FREE Awareness workshop www.equusenlightened.comFind me on social media as @equusenlightened.  Join the Horse and Rider Lab on Skool. It’s free! https://www.skool.com/equus-enlightened-8966/aboutYou can also view videos of the riding episodes or listen to all of them on YouTube under Come Ride with Me Riding Videos. My channel is https://www.youtube.com/@equusenlightenedRead blogs or find more links @ https://linktr.ee/equusenlightenedFind out more about Reconnect, Rebuild, and Ride with Heart https://equusenlightened.com/reconnect-rebuild-horse-human-partnership Email me at [email protected] Riding!

How many times have you heard the phrase “inside leg to outside rein”… but still secretly had no idea what it was supposed to FEEL like?In this episode of The Thinking Horse and Rider, I’m breaking down 3 simple exercises that help riders finally understand the connection between the inside hind leg, outside shoulder, and outside aids — not just intellectually, but physically.Using everything from hindquarter yields to figure 8 patterns (plus a surprising Gravitron carnival ride analogy 🤣), we explore how to create true connection, balance, bend, better half halts, and smoother turns without micromanaging your horse with the reins.If you’ve ever struggled with:• horses falling in or out through the shoulder • weak turns or wobbly circles • overusing the outside rein • understanding “inside leg to outside rein” • creating real self-carriage and connection …this episode is for you.Plus, I’ll walk you through:🐴 The hindquarter yield that builds nearly everything 🐴 How to ride from your inside aids 🐴 Why transitions improve feel 🐴 A simple setup for teaching half halts 🐴 How to stop “holding” your horse together Because once you FEEL it… everything changes.Watch the video examples on YouTube for the full visual breakdown and try this week’s 10 Minute Experiment with your horse.Get the FREE Awareness workshop www.equusenlightened.comFind me on social media as @equusenlightened.  Join the Horse and Rider Lab on Skool. It’s free! https://www.skool.com/equus-enlightened-8966/aboutYou can also view videos of the riding episodes or listen to all of them on YouTube under Come Ride with Me Riding Videos. My channel is https://www.youtube.com/@equusenlightenedRead blogs or find more links @ https://linktr.ee/equusenlightenedFind out more about Reconnect, Rebuild, and Ride with Heart https://equusenlightened.com/reconnect-rebuild-horse-human-partnership Email me at [email protected] Riding!

In this bonus Ten Minute Tuesday episode of The Thinking Horse and Rider, Anna shares two simple horse training experiments designed to improve self-carriage, confidence, autonomy, and connection between horse and rider.After forgetting to include the weekly experiment in the previous episode on autonomy with Elizabeth Reicks, Anna returns with two practical exercises you can try with your horse this week:• The “Echo My Energy” exercise for building self-carriage without constant leg pressure or micromanagement• The “Lead From Behind” exercise to encourage curiosity, confidence, and healthier leadership dynamicsThis episode explores horse behavior, rider awareness, nervous system regulation, and how giving horses more responsibility can create calmer, more connected partnerships.If you’ve ever felt like you’re constantly managing your horse every second of the ride, this episode will challenge you to notice more, control less, and start building true communication and flow with your horse.Get the FREE Awareness workshop www.equusenlightened.comFind me on social media as @equusenlightened.  Join the Horse and Rider Lab on Skool. It’s free! https://www.skool.com/equus-enlightened-8966/aboutYou can also view videos of the riding episodes or listen to all of them on YouTube under Come Ride with Me Riding Videos. My channel is https://www.youtube.com/@equusenlightenedRead blogs or find more links @ https://linktr.ee/equusenlightenedFind out more about Reconnect, Rebuild, and Ride with Heart https://equusenlightened.com/reconnect-rebuild-horse-human-partnershipEmail me at [email protected] Riding!

What if your horse isn’t inconsistent…but just hasn’t been allowed to think for themselves?In this episode of The Thinking Horse and Rider, we dive into horse autonomy—what it really means, why it matters, and how it can completely change your riding experience.I’m joined by Elizabeth Reicks, founder of Hatha Equus, to explore how giving horses more choice, responsibility, and freedom within boundaries leads to safer, more confident, and more responsive partners.Whether you ride dressage, trail ride, or are just getting started with horses, this conversation will help you rethink traditional training and start building a more connected partnership.🧠 In this episode, we cover:What autonomy in horse training actually meansWhy control doesn’t create safety (and what does)The difference between obedience and true partnershipHow autonomy improves balance, self-carriage, and behaviorWhy you don’t need to ride bridleless to startSimple exercises to build autonomy in your horse🐎 Featured Concepts:Horse training • Horse behavior • Dressage training • Natural horsemanship • Horse psychology • Rider balance • Self-carriage • Pressure and release • Building trust with your horse • Liberty and bridleless riding🎧 Listen / Follow:Subscribe for weekly episodes on horse training, rider mindset, and building a better partnership with your horse.🌿 Work With Me:Explore courses, clinics, and resources:👉 https://www.equusenlightened.comGet the FREE Awareness workshop www.equusenlightened.comFind me on social media as @equusenlightened.  Join the Horse and Rider Lab on Skool. It’s free! https://www.skool.com/equus-enlightened-8966/aboutYou can also view videos of the riding episodes or listen to all of them on YouTube under Come Ride with Me Riding Videos. My channel is https://www.youtube.com/@equusenlightenedRead blogs or find more links @ https://linktr.ee/equusenlightenedFind out more about Reconnect, Rebuild, and Ride with Heart https://equusenlightened.com/reconnect-rebuild-horse-human-partnership Email me at [email protected] Riding!🔑 Keywords:horse autonomy, horse training, horse behavior, dressage training, natural horsemanship, horse riding tips, rider confidence, horse psychology, how to train a horse, horse partnership, self carriage horse, bridleless riding, liberty training horses

Is your horse lazy—or just confused? In this episode, we explore how to motivate your horse using the Energy Ladder, helping you create clearer communication, better forward energy, and true self-carriage. Learn why more pressure isn’t the answer, how inconsistent energy creates dull or reactive horses, and how to develop a responsive, willing partner through timing, feel, and release.Want help applying this with your own horse? Join us inside The Happy Horse & Rider Lab on Skool for deeper guidance, training support, and a like-minded community. It’s free! https://www.skool.com/equus-enlightened-8966/aboutGet the FREE Awareness workshop www.equusenlightened.comFind me on social media as @equusenlightened.  You can also view videos of the riding episodes or listen to all of them on YouTube. My channel is https://www.youtube.com/@equusenlightenedRead blogs or find more links @ https://linktr.ee/equusenlightenedFind out more about Reconnect, Rebuild, and Ride with Heart https://equusenlightened.com/reconnect-rebuild-horse-human-partnership Email me at [email protected] Riding!

When most riders hear “playfulness” in horse training, they picture liberty work, toys, or something that feels… optional.But what if play isn’t extra at all?What if it’s actually one of the most effective ways to prepare your horse’s body, mind, and nervous system for riding?In this episode, I sit down with Giorgia Ghizzoni, co-founder of Hatha Equus, to explore what playfulness really means—and why it has such a powerful impact on learning, performance, and connection.We talk about:The difference between playfulness and chaosIntrinsic motivation vs. compliance (and why it matters)How play improves coordination, confidence, and self-carriageWhy some horses resist—and what they might actually be telling youHow to start shifting from control to curiosity in your everyday workThis conversation goes far beyond toys and tricks. It’s about helping your horse want to participate, not just tolerate what you’re asking.If you’ve ever felt like something is missing in your training—or like there has to be a better way than pushing through—this episode will give you a new lens to look through.🎧 Stay until the end for this week’s Ten Minute Tuesday experiment to start applying this immediately.Find Giorgia at https://hathaequusinternational.comor on social media as Giorgia Ghizzoni and Hatha EquusGet the FREE Awareness workshop www.equusenlightened.comFind me on social media as @equusenlightened.  Join the Horse and Rider Lab on Skool. It’s free! https://www.skool.com/equus-enlightened-8966/aboutYou can also view videos of the riding episodes or listen to all of them on YouTube under Come Ride with Me Riding Videos. My channel is https://www.youtube.com/@equusenlightenedRead blogs or find more links @ https://linktr.ee/equusenlightenedFind out more about Reconnect, Rebuild, and Ride with Heart https://equusenlightened.com/reconnect-rebuild-horse-human-partnership Email me at [email protected] Riding!

Ever feel like everything just falls apart when you ride?One moment you feel capable…and the next you’re thinking,“I have no idea what I’m doing right now.”You didn’t forget how to ride.Your brain just got overwhelmed.In this episode of The Thinking Horse and Rider, we break down what’s really happening when your brain “goes offline” in the saddle—and how to find your way back.You’ll learn:Why stress and physical effort shut down your ability to think clearlyWhy doing more actually makes things worseHow to pause, reset, and re-engage your thinking brainHow to break exercises into simple pieces your horse can understandWhy clarity—not pressure—is the key to better communication and trainingIf you’ve ever felt stuck, frustrated, or like you’re not “good enough” in the moment… this episode will help you understand why—and what to do instead.Get the FREE Awareness workshop www.equusenlightened.comFind me on social media as @equusenlightened.  Join the Horse and Rider Lab on Skool. It’s free! https://www.skool.com/equus-enlightened-8966/aboutYou can also view videos of the riding episodes or listen to all of them on YouTube under Come Ride with Me Riding Videos. My channel is https://www.youtube.com/@equusenlightenedRead blogs or find more links @ https://linktr.ee/equusenlightenedFind out more about Reconnect, Rebuild, and Ride with Heart https://equusenlightened.com/reconnect-rebuild-horse-human-partnership Email me at [email protected] Riding!

Do you ever feel like your horse just isn’t listening… no matter how clearly you ask?Most riders assume they have a training problem.But more often than not, it’s actually a communication problem.In this episode of The Thinking Horse and Rider, we dive into what’s really going on when your horse feels resistant, tense, or “uncooperative”—and why taking it personally might be the very thing shutting down your connection.You’ll learn:Why your horse isn’t ignoring you (and what they’re actually responding to)How the habit of taking things personally affects your trainingThe hidden sense of entitlement and how it shows up in everyday ridingWhy horses learn more like toddlers than machinesHow simplifying your asks can completely change your resultsA simple 10-minute experiment to start improving communication right awayIf you’re ready to stop “fixing” your horse and start having a real conversation… this episode will change the way you see everything.Watch my fly mask experiment here:https://youtube.com/shorts/yVeiMf4CD8U?feature=shareGet the FREE Awareness workshop www.equusenlightened.comFind me on social media as @equusenlightened.  Join the Horse and Rider Lab on Skool. It’s free! https://www.skool.com/equus-enlightened-8966/aboutYou can also view videos of the riding episodes or listen to all of them on YouTube under Come Ride with Me Riding Videos. My channel is https://www.youtube.com/@equusenlightenedRead blogs or find more links @ https://linktr.ee/equusenlightenedFind out more about Reconnect, Rebuild, and Ride with Heart https://equusenlightened.com/reconnect-rebuild-horse-human-partnership Email me at [email protected] Riding!

What kind of relationship would you want to be in if you were never allowed to say no?It’s a question that stops a lot of horse people in their tracks — and it’s exactly where this conversation begins.In this episode of The Thinking Horse and Rider Podcast, Anna Fox continues exploring the foundations behind Reconnect, Rebuild, and Ride with Heart with Seed 3: Relational Consistency.Most riders think about their relationship with their horse only in terms of training or riding. But horses didn’t evolve in training programs — they evolved in herds, where safety, learning, and emotional regulation are shaped by relationships.What happens when we overlook that?Anna is joined by Kim Hallin, founder of Unbridled LLC, a writer and horsewoman who advocates for a more thoughtful and compassionate approach to horses that recognizes them as intelligent, social beings. Together they explore:• What consistency in relationships means to a horse• Whether horses can form meaningful bonds with humans• Why social stability affects trust, behavior, and cooperation• The role of freedom, choice, and autonomy in healthy partnerships• How relational environments may influence many problems we see under saddleThis conversation challenges some deeply ingrained ideas about control, leadership, and training — and invites us to consider a different possibility:That the quality of our horses’ relationships may matter just as much as the quality of our techniques.Get the FREE Awareness workshop www.equusenlightened.comFind me on social media as @equusenlightened.  Join the Horse and Rider Lab on Skool. It’s free! https://www.skool.com/equus-enlightened-8966/aboutYou can also view videos of the riding episodes or listen to all of them on YouTube under Come Ride with Me Riding Videos. My channel is https://www.youtube.com/@equusenlightenedRead blogs or find more links @ https://linktr.ee/equusenlightenedFind out more about Reconnect, Rebuild, and Ride with Heart https://equusenlightened.com/reconnect-rebuild-horse-human-partnershipFind Kim Hallin at: https://www.kimhallin.com or on YouTube @ https://www.youtube.com/@KimHallinEmail me at [email protected] Riding!

Many riders spend years trying to perfect their aids — better hands, better leg, better timing.But there’s one piece of the conversation with your horse that often gets missed.Awareness.Before your horse ever feels pressure or responds to a cue, they experience you — your posture, your breath, your emotional tone, and the energy you bring into the interaction.In this episode, I’m sharing a clip from my Awareness Workshop where we explore three subtle but powerful parts of horse-human communication:• The energy you bring when you ask a question• The timing of your release• Why showing joy at the reward helps horses understand they got it rightThrough a simple example — putting a fly mask on a horse — we look at how small shifts in awareness can completely change the conversation and create curiosity instead of resistance.If this resonates with you, the full workshop (including the Q&A and additional “aha” moments) is available inside my community The Happy Horse & Rider Lab.Because sometimes the biggest breakthroughs with horses come from the smallest changes in how we show up.Get the FREE Awareness workshop www.equusenlightened.comFind me on social media as @equusenlightened.  Join the Horse and Rider Lab on Skool. It’s free! https://www.skool.com/equus-enlightened-8966/aboutYou can also view videos of the riding episodes or listen to all of them on YouTube under Come Ride with Me Riding Videos. My channel is https://www.youtube.com/@equusenlightenedRead blogs or find more links @ https://linktr.ee/equusenlightenedFind out more about Reconnect, Rebuild, and Ride with Heart https://equusenlightened.com/reconnect-rebuild-horse-human-partnership Email me at [email protected] Riding!

What if your horse isn’t being difficult…What if you’re just seeing the situation from the wrong point of view?In this episode, I sit down with former competitive dressage rider turned animal communicator Angie Morin to talk about what it really means to see the world through your horse’s eyes.We explore:• Why horses start with whispers — not “bad behavior”• The difference between correcting and communicating• How tension, spooking, and resistance may be missed signals• Why animals communicate with love — even when setting boundaries• And why “softer and slower” might be the message your horse has been trying to send all alongIf you’ve ever felt stuck in cycles of correction, frustration, or confusion with your horse… this conversation might shift how you approach everything from daily chores to riding under saddle.Because communication isn’t mystical.It’s presence.It’s perspective.And it starts by asking one simple question:What does this look like from my horse’s point of view?Get the FREE Awareness workshop www.equusenlightened.comFind me on social media as @equusenlightened.  Join the Horse and Rider Lab on Skool. It’s free! https://www.skool.com/equus-enlightened-8966/aboutYou can also view videos of the riding episodes or listen to all of them on YouTube under Come Ride with Me Riding Videos. My channel is https://www.youtube.com/@equusenlightenedRead blogs or find more links @ https://linktr.ee/equusenlightenedFind out more about Reconnect, Rebuild, and Ride with Heart https://equusenlightened.com/reconnect-rebuild-horse-human-partnershipLearn more about Angie at www.angiemorin.comEmail Angie at [email protected] her out on Facebook @ Angie Morin, Animal Communicator Email me at [email protected] Riding!

If your horse isn’t progressing, it might not be a training problem.In this episode, I’m joined by dressage trainer Elaine Hayes of Partnership Dressage to explore why true Awareness is the foundation of sustainable performance. We talk about what we’re actually taught in the horse world — and what we’re not — including how behavior can be a clue, how pain and discomfort are often misinterpreted, and how domestic horse-keeping impacts training outcomes.This conversation kicks off Seed 1: Awareness from Reconnect, Rebuild, and Ride with Heart — because before you fix anything, you have to see clearly.If you’ve ever felt like something wasn’t adding up in your riding, this episode is for you.Find Elaine here: https://partnershipdressage.comFind the ECVM support group here:https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1aUFBfdUpK/Get the FREE Awareness workshop www.equusenlightened.comFind me on social media as @equusenlightened.  Join the Horse and Rider Lab on Skool. It’s free! https://www.skool.com/equus-enlightened-8966/aboutYou can also view videos of the riding episodes or listen to all of them on YouTube under Come Ride with Me Riding Videos. My channel is https://www.youtube.com/@equusenlightenedRead blogs or find more links @ https://linktr.ee/equusenlightenedFind out more about Reconnect, Rebuild, and Ride with Heart https://equusenlightened.com/reconnect-rebuild-horse-human-partnership Email me at [email protected] Riding!

What are the most important horsemanship skills that riding lessons never teach you?In this powerful conversation, Anna Fox of Equus Enlightened is joined by lifelong friend and former professional groom Ellen Peebles to explore the seven missing pieces in traditional riding instruction. From awareness and energy to relational consistency, autonomy, and leadership in flow, they unpack what truly shapes horse behavior and partnership—beyond technique, ribbons, and perfect distances.Ellen shares her experience working in high-level competition barns, internationally as an exercise rider, and behind the scenes as a groom—where she witnessed firsthand how pressure, ego, and performance culture impact horses’ nervous systems. Together, they discuss horse communication, emotional regulation, energy awareness, and why slowing down can actually accelerate learning.If you’ve ever felt like something was missing in your riding lessons, or you want to build a deeper, more ethical partnership with your horse, this episode will open your eyes.Plus: a simple experiment you can try this week to develop awareness and autonomy with your horse.Perfect for riders interested in:• Horse behavior and nervous system regulation• Ethical horse training and horsemanship• Improving riding through feel and energy awareness• Developing true horse–human partnershipFind me on social media as @equusenlightened.  Join our Facebook group titled Horse-First Dressage: Compassionate Training and Connection or join the community and the Dressage Naturally Video Classroom at www.patreon.com/equusenlightened.You can also view videos of the riding episodes or listen to all of them on YouTube. My channel is https://www.youtube.com/@equusenlightenedRead blogs or find more links @ https://linktr.ee/equusenlightenedFind out more about Reconnect, Rebuild, and Ride with Heart https://equusenlightened.com/reconnect-rebuildFind more about Tad Coffin's work at https://www.tadcoffinsaddles.comEmail me at [email protected] Riding!

Do horses understand competition—or is “don’t let them win” a human projection? In this episode of The Thinking Horse and Rider, Anna explores Leadership in Flow and why dominance-based ideas about leadership don’t align with how horses actually think and learn.Drawing from equine behavior science and real-world riding examples, this conversation challenges the myth that horses are trying to win or take control. Instead, horses respond to safety, comfort, clarity, and emotional steadiness—not power struggles.Inspired by Seed 7 of Reconnect, Rebuild, and Ride with Heart, this episode invites riders to rethink leadership as shared direction rather than control, and to explore what becomes possible when leadership feels like.Take the Are You a Perfectionist Quiz? at www.equusenlightened.comFind me on social media as @equusenlightened.  Join our Facebook group titled Horse-First Dressage: Compassionate Training and Connection or join the community and the Dressage Naturally Video Classroom at www.patreon.com/equusenlightened.You can also view videos of the riding episodes or listen to all of them on YouTube. My channel is https://www.youtube.com/@equusenlightenedRead blogs or find more links @ https://linktr.ee/equusenlightenedFind out more about Reconnect, Rebuild, and Ride with Heart https://equusenlightened.com/reconnect-rebuildEmail me at [email protected] Riding! 

What if autonomy is the very thing that makes horses safer, more confident, and more capable of true self-carriage?In this episode, we dive into the concept of autonomy through both lived experience and research—specifically a study exploring the relationship between horse welfare, rider safety, and rider satisfaction. What surprised me most was discovering that what researchers often call “control” actually aligns closely with what I teach as supported autonomy: clarity, predictability, choice, and mutual influence.We’ll unpack:What autonomy really means for horses (and riders)Why mammals thrive when they feel they have influence over their environmentHow clear communication increases safety without dominationHow to build autonomy step-by-step from the ground into the saddleWhy “advanced” movements are simply the basics, taught in thoughtful pieces and then brought together like a puzzleIf you’ve ever felt stuck, over-controlling, or confused about how to progress without shutting your horse down, this episode offers a different lens—one rooted in understanding, empathy, and leadership as a flow state.Take the Are You a Perfectionist Quiz? at www.equusenlightened.comFind me on social media as @equusenlightened.  Join our Facebook group titled Horse-First Dressage: Compassionate Training and Connection or join the community and the Dressage Naturally Video Classroom at www.patreon.com/equusenlightened.You can also view videos of the riding episodes or listen to all of them on YouTube. My channel is https://www.youtube.com/@equusenlightenedRead blogs or find more links @ https://linktr.ee/equusenlightenedFind out more about Reconnect, Rebuild, and Ride with Heart https://equusenlightened.com/reconnect-rebuildEmail me at [email protected] Riding!

In this episode, Anna sits down with biomechanics and adaptive riding instructor Teresa Pilegaard to explore how riders can move beyond the old obedience-based training model and build true partnership with their horses. Teresa shares insights on rider biomechanics, nervous system regulation, groundwork, and why so many riders get pushed past their experience level.Together, they break down how to create safer, more confident, and more connected rides by focusing on awareness, observation, and communication — not force. If you’ve ever struggled with fear, tension, or feeling “stuck” in your riding, this conversation will help you rethink your approach and reconnect with your horse on a deeper level.Take the Are You a Perfectionist Quiz? at www.equusenlightened.comFind me on social media as @equusenlightened.  Join our Facebook group titled Horse-First Dressage: Compassionate Training and Connection or join the community and the Dressage Naturally Video Classroom at www.patreon.com/equusenlightened.You can also view videos of the riding episodes or listen to all of them on YouTube. My channel is https://www.youtube.com/@equusenlightenedRead blogs or find more links @ https://linktr.ee/equusenlightenedFind out more about Reconnect, Rebuild, and Ride with Heart https://equusenlightened.com/reconnect-rebuildFind Teresa Pilegaard, Dorato Performance Horse, and North Star Stables NOVAhttps://doratoperformancehorses.com/Join the Everyday Equestrian https://doratoperformancehorses.com/everyday-equestrianEmail me at [email protected] Riding!

What if the simplest thing your horse can do—stand still—was actually the foundation of everything you’ll ever teach them?In this episode, Anna dives into how true self-carriage begins with the simplest asks and why the classical masters (and the best modern trainers) all agree: advanced work is just the basics, done better. You’ll learn why returning to fundamentals isn’t regression, it’s refinement—and how every new level of dressage is just a deeper version of the same conversation.Anna also introduces the next Seed of Partnership: Relational Consistency—and how it bridges the gap between your horse’s physical balance and emotional trust.Stay tuned to the end for this week’s Ten Minute Tuesday experiment—your invitation to rediscover precision, presence, and partnership in the simplest moments.Take the Are You a Perfectionist Quiz? at www.equusenlightened.comFind me on social media as @equusenlightened.  Join our Facebook group titled Horse-First Dressage: Compassionate Training and Connection or join the community and the Dressage Naturally Video Classroom at www.patreon.com/equusenlightened.You can also view videos of the riding episodes or listen to all of them on YouTube. My channel is https://www.youtube.com/@equusenlightenedRead blogs or find more links @ https://linktr.ee/equusenlightenedFind out more about Reconnect, Rebuild, and Ride with Heart https://equusenlightened.com/reconnect-rebuild Email me at [email protected] Riding

What if your horse doesn’t need a boss — but a calm, clear partner?In this episode, Anna explores Seed Two: Empathic Discipline and why real leadership isn’t about control. Drawing from her time as a 911 dispatcher and lessons inside her RRR cohort, she shares how to stay present with your horse without losing yourself in guilt, fear, or perfectionism.For riders ready to lead with clarity instead of pressure — this one’s for you.Take the Are You a Perfectionist Quiz? at www.equusenlightened.comFind me on social media as @equusenlightened.  Join our Facebook group titled Horse-First Dressage: Compassionate Training and Connection or join the community and the Dressage Naturally Video Classroom at www.patreon.com/equusenlightened.You can also view videos of the riding episodes or listen to all of them on YouTube. My channel is https://www.youtube.com/@equusenlightenedRead blogs or find more links @ https://linktr.ee/equusenlightenedFind out more about Reconnect, Rebuild, and Ride with Heart https://equusenlightened.com/reconnect-rebuildWeekly challenge video: https://youtube.com/shorts/XcHtSc6VSig Email me at [email protected] Riding!

In this episode of The Thinking Horse & Rider Podcast, Anna Fox of Equus Enlightened explores the deeper layers of rider awareness — beyond reading your horse’s body language and into recognizing how our own fears, habits, and control patterns shape every ride.We talk about the quiet “sins” of good riders: the ways we unintentionally limit our horses’ freedom, the contradiction between our love of liberty and our need for control, and how to release judgment so true connection can grow.You’ll learn why awareness without judgment is the missing ingredient in modern horsemanship, how fear disguises itself as discipline, and why forgiveness — both for ourselves and our horses — is the foundation of trust.If you’ve ever felt like the joy that drew you to horses has been replaced by pressure or perfectionism, this conversation will remind you what’s been missing — and how to find it again.✨ Mentioned in this episode:The psychology of control vs. freedom in ridingHow fear quietly shapes horse-human relationshipsAwareness as an act of love, not guiltWhy judgment blocks learning and limits connectionThe Reconnect, Rebuild & Ride with Heart program — for riders ready to rediscover peace, presence, and partnership💫 Ready to rebuild your connection?Join the next Reconnect, Rebuild & Ride with Heart cohort: https://equusenlightened.com/reconnect-rebuild-rideTake the Are You a Perfectionist Quiz? at www.equusenlightened.comFind me on social media as @equusenlightened.  Join our Facebook group titled Horse-First Dressage: Compassionate Training and Connection or join the community and the Dressage Naturally Video Classroom at www.patreon.com/equusenlightened.You can also view videos of the riding episodes or listen to all of them on YouTube. My channel is https://www.youtube.com/@equusenlightenedRead blogs or find more links @ https://linktr.ee/equusenlightenedFind out more about Reconnect, Rebuild, and Ride with Heart https://equusenlightened.com/reconnect-rebuild Email me at [email protected] Riding!

Most horse-and-rider problems don’t begin in the arena — they begin the moment we overlook the subtle ways our horses are already communicating with us. In this episode, Anna Fox of Equus Enlightened introduces The Thinking Horse & Rider Podcast and explores how small shifts in awareness can transform your partnership.We’ll also talk about why boundaries matter, how to avoid both extremes (too soft vs. too rigid), and why true partnership lives in the middle space of communication and clarity.You’ll leave this episode with a simple awareness exercise you can try today — and an invitation to go deeper in the Reconnect, Rebuild, and Ride with Heart cohort, where we’ll explore the 7 Seeds of Partnership together.Because being a thinking rider isn’t about over-analyzing — it’s about noticing what’s real in the moment, and meeting your horse there.Take the Are You a Perfectionist Quiz? at www.equusenlightened.comFind me on social media as @equusenlightened.  Join our Facebook group titled Horse-First Dressage: Compassionate Training and Connection or join the community and the Dressage Naturally Video Classroom at www.patreon.com/equusenlightened.You can also view videos of the riding episodes or listen to all of them on YouTube. My channel is https://www.youtube.com/@equusenlightenedRead blogs or find more links @ https://linktr.ee/equusenlightenedFind out more about Reconnect, Rebuild, and Ride with Heart https://equusenlightened.com/reconnect-rebuildEmail me at [email protected] Riding!

In this season finale of Come Ride With Me, host Anna Fox of Equus Enlightened answers a powerful listener question: “Did my horse actually do evil on purpose?”This episode is a must-listen for perfectionist riders who feel stuck, frustrated, or disconnected from their horse. Anna breaks down the truth behind so-called “bad” horse behavior using insights from equine neuroscience, nervous system responses, and the horse’s perspective—offering an empowering shift from blame to understanding.She also reflects on key takeaways from the Letting Go of Perfectionism season, and shares how perfectionism blocks the connection we truly crave with our horses.💡 Then, big news: Come Ride With Me is transforming into🎙️ The Thinking Horse and Rider—a new season and new name focused on strengthening the horse-human partnership through empathy, science, and lived experience.Finally, Anna introduces her new course,Reconnect, Rebuild, and Ride with Heart,a practical, heart-led guide for riders who want more connection, softness, and clarity with the horse they already have.Whether you’ve ever questioned your horse’s behavior, your own reactions, or how to rebuild trust after disconnection—this episode is your bridge to a more compassionate, thinking approach to horsemanship.Take the Are You a Perfectionist Quiz? at www.equusenlightened.comFind me on social media as @equusenlightened.  Join our Facebook group titled Horse-First Dressage: Compassionate Training and Connection or join the community and the Dressage Naturally Video Classroom at www.patreon.com/equusenlightened.You can also view videos of the riding episodes or listen to all of them on YouTube. My channel is https://www.youtube.com/@equusenlightenedRead blogs or find more links @ https://linktr.ee/equusenlightenedEmail me at [email protected] Riding!

Have you ever caught yourself grabbing the reins when you feel off balance?Maybe it’s not even conscious—you just realize later that your horse’s mouth became your safety net.Here’s the truth: if you’re balancing on your reins, you’re not riding with your seat. Ditch the reins for 5 minutes a day and improve your riding!Take the Are You a Perfectionist Quiz? at www.equusenlightened.comFind me on social media as @equusenlightened.  Join our Facebook group titled Horse-First Dressage: Compassionate Training and Connection or join the community and the Dressage Naturally Video Classroom at www.patreon.com/equusenlightened.You can also view videos of the riding episodes or listen to all of them on YouTube. My channel is https://www.youtube.com/@equusenlightenedRead blogs or find more links @ https://linktr.ee/equusenlightenedEmail me at [email protected] Riding!

Feeling unbalanced in the saddle? You might be relying on your hands instead of your seat—and your horse can feel it. In this episode of Come Ride With Me, host Anna Fox of Equus Enlightened busts common riding position myths like “heels down” and “shoulders back,” explains why gripping the reins destroys feel, and shares simple, proven exercises to improve your balance, coordination, and rhythm. Learn how to ride with a softer seat, even contact, and true harmony with your horse. Perfect for dressage riders, novice equestrians, and anyone ready to replace tension with feel.Take the Are You a Perfectionist Quiz? at www.equusenlightened.comFind me on social media as @equusenlightened.  Join our Facebook group titled Horse-First Dressage: Compassionate Training and Connection or join the community and the Dressage Naturally Video Classroom at www.patreon.com/equusenlightened.You can also view videos of the riding episodes or listen to all of them on YouTube. My channel is https://www.youtube.com/@equusenlightenedRead blogs or find more links @ https://linktr.ee/equusenlightenedEmail me at [email protected] Riding!

Why Your Horse Won’t Try AnymoreIn this episode of Come Ride With Me, we’re flipping the script on rider perfectionism and taking a hard look at how our need to control every moment — in and out of the saddle — can shut down our horse’s ability to think, learn, and self-regulate.From micromanagement to mistake-shaming, we explore why so many domestic horses struggle with emotional resilience and how riders may unknowingly create defensive, shutdown, or “difficult” behaviors through pressure and overcorrection.You’ll learn:Why obedience isn’t the same as confidenceHow frustration and fear of punishment affect your horse’s brainWhat behavior science and equine neuroscience (including Dr. Steve Peters’ work) reveal about learning under pressureSimple ways to rebuild trust and offer your horse the space to think againIf you’ve ever wondered why your horse seems hesitant, anxious, or like they’ve stopped trying altogether — this episode is for you.✨ Let go of perfection. Reclaim your partnership. And make room for a curious, thinking horse again.🎧 Listen now.Take the Are You a Perfectionist Quiz? at www.equusenlightened.comFind me on social media as @equusenlightened.  Join our Facebook group titled Horse-First Dressage: Compassionate Training and Connection or join the community and the Dressage Naturally Video Classroom at www.patreon.com/equusenlightened.You can also view videos of the riding episodes or listen to all of them on YouTube. My channel is https://www.youtube.com/@equusenlightenedRead blogs or find more links @ https://linktr.ee/equusenlightenedEmail me at [email protected] me at a live clinic in VA September 28, 2025 https://clinics.equusenlightened.net/s/clinic-participant-flow-lgopHappy Riding!

Obedience might get a response—but real partnership comes from dialogue.In this episode, we explore what it truly means to have a conversation with your horse. Anna shares the origin story of her “3 Questions That Build Partnership”—softness, responsiveness, and alignment—and how they can transform the way you ride, train, and connect.You’ll hear a personal story about Gus, the amazing horse who taught Anna that doing everything “right” isn’t always enough. She also draws on her experience as a 911 dispatcher to explain why asking questions—not barking commands—is the key to getting the clearest, safest, most effective response from your horse.🎧 Plus, you’ll get this week’s experiment: a guided reflection to help you explore one of the 3 Partnership Questions in your next ride.📝 Download the free Conversation Starter Experiment journal page.🎯 Take the Perfectionist Rider Quiz and get a bonus mini-series of calming, connection-based exercises.Take the Are You a Perfectionist Quiz? at www.equusenlightened.com Find me on social media as @equusenlightened.  Join our Facebook group titled Horse-First Dressage:Compassionate Training and Connection or join the community and the DressageNaturally Video Classroom at www.patreon.com/equusenlightened.You can also view videos of the riding episodes or listen toall of them on YouTube. My channel is https://www.youtube.com/@equusenlightenedRead blogs or find more links @ https://linktr.ee/equusenlightenedEmail me at [email protected] Riding!

In this episode of Come Ride With Me, I combine two powerful experiments—“Find the Rhythm” and “Make It Messy”—to show how letting go of control actually creates more clarity in the saddle. You’ll ride along with me and Namastee as we explore how to feel what’s happening, respond without overcorrecting, and use messy moments to build better communication.If you’ve ever felt stuck between wanting a perfect ride and not wanting to micromanage your horse, this one’s for you.✨ Let it be messy. Let it be real. Let it be progress.Take the Are You a Perfectionist Quiz? at www.equusenlightened.comFind me on social media as @equusenlightened.  Join our Facebook group titled Horse-First Dressage: Compassionate Training and Connection or join the community and the Dressage Naturally Video Classroom at www.patreon.com/equusenlightened.You can also view videos of the riding episodes or listen to all of them on YouTube. My channel is Equus Enlightened.https://linktr.ee/equusenlightenedEmail me at [email protected] Riding!

 Why Force Fails and Feel WinsControl might feel like safety, but in the saddle, it’s often one of the little things holding you—and your horse—back. In this episode of Come Ride With Me, Anna Fox of Equus Enlightened unpacks the sneaky ways force shows up in riding (hint: it’s not just harsh bits or whips). We’ll explore how perfectionism drives us to override instead of ride with, and why force—even when it’s subtle—creates resistance and anxiety.Plus, you’ll get a feel-based riding experiment you can try today to shift from bracing into flow. Learn how to sync with your horse’s rhythm and soften the silent tension that’s blocking connection.Because when you trade control for curiosity, you unlock a whole new kind of ride.🎧 Ready to let go and ride with feel? Hit play.🔗 Take the “Perfectionist Rider” quiz at: https://link.equusenlightened.com/widget/quiz/gSHHFApTgfne26EonbkFFind me on social media as @equusenlightened.  Join our Facebook group titled Horse-First Dressage: Compassionate Training and Connection or join the community and the Dressage Naturally Video Classroom at www.patreon.com/equusenlightened.You can also view videos of the riding episodes or listen to all of them on YouTube. My channel is Equus Enlightened.https://linktr.ee/equusenlightenedEmail me at [email protected] Riding!

In this episode of Come Ride With Me, we’re throwing perfectionism out of the saddle and riding straight into the messy, beautiful truth: your horse doesn’t want you to be perfect—they want you to be present.Host Anna Fox explores how horses, in their natural state, model emotional regulation, alignment, and presence without judgment or pressure. We dive into why so much of the traditional horse world runs on outdated, fear-based systems—and how embracing imperfection can free both you and your horse.You’ll also get this week’s experiment: Make It Messy—a bold exercise in letting go of compensation patterns and learning to feel crookedness before you fix it.Whether you’re stuck in “shoulds,” burnt out from over-trying, or just ready to feel more you in the saddle, this episode invites you to drop the pressure and reconnect with what riding was always meant to be: a relationship.🧠 Listen in and let the mess be the message.🐴 Then head back to Season 1 for deeper insights into leading, following, and building the freely forward horse.Take the Are You a Perfectionist Quiz? at www.equusenlightened.comFind me on social media as @equusenlightened.  Join our Facebook group titled Horse-First Dressage: Compassionate Training and Connection or join the community and the Dressage Naturally Video Classroom at www.patreon.com/equusenlightened.You can also view videos of the riding episodes or listen to all of them on YouTube. My channel is Equus Enlightened.https://linktr.ee/equusenlightenedEmail me at [email protected] Riding!

Why forcing the perfect response from your horse might be the very thing holding you both back.Ever feel like the harder you try to ride correctly, the more your horse resists—or delays their response altogether?In this episode of Come Ride With Me, we’re digging into the learning science behind latency—that hidden gap between cue and response—and how perfectionism in the saddle can actually slow your horse’s learning (and yours too).I’ll walk you through a simple experiment you can try today with your horse to test how your energy and intention affect timing, clarity, and flow.Spoiler alert: it’s not about riding less.It’s about trying less hard.🎧 Ready to turn tension into timing magic?Let’s ride.Take the Are You a Perfectionist Quiz? at www.equusenlightened.comFind me on social media as @equusenlightened.  Join our Facebook group titled Horse-First Dressage: Compassionate Training and Connection or join the community and the Dressage Naturally Video Classroom at www.patreon.com/equusenlightened.You can also view videos of the riding episodes or listen to all of them on YouTube. My channel is Equus Enlightened.https://linktr.ee/equusenlightenedEmail me at [email protected] Riding!

What do McDonald's and Smartphones have in common? Speed! Why does that matter? Speed is important in the learning process and as a perfectionist, your speed might be hurting you and your horse's learning curve. Take the Are You a Perfectionist Quiz? at www.equusenlightened.comFind me on social media as @equusenlightened.  Join our Facebook group titled Horse-First Dressage: Compassionate Training and Connection or join the community and the Dressage Naturally Video Classroom at www.patreon.com/equusenlightened.You can also view videos of the riding episodes or listen to all of them on YouTube. My channel is Equus Enlightened.https://linktr.ee/equusenlightenedEmail me at [email protected] Riding!

This is a follow-up to the weekly experiment in episode one. You can also watch the video on YouTube. Take the Are You a Perfectionist Quiz? at www.equusenlightened.comFind me on social media as @equusenlightened.  Join our Facebook group titled Horse-First Dressage: Compassionate Training and Connection or join the community and the Dressage Naturally Video Classroom at www.patreon.com/equusenlightened.You can also view videos of the riding episodes or listen to all of them on YouTube. My channel is Equus Enlightened.https://linktr.ee/equusenlightenedEmail me at [email protected] Riding!

Take the Are You a Perfectionist Quiz? at www.equusenlightened.comFind me on social media as @equusenlightened.  Join our Facebook group titled Horse-First Dressage: Compassionate Training and Connection or join the community and the Dressage Naturally Video Classroom at www.patreon.com/equusenlightened.You can also view videos of the riding episodes or listen to all of them on YouTube. My channel is Equus Enlightened.https://linktr.ee/equusenlightenedEmail me at [email protected] Riding!

For those of you interested in videos of the podcast, there are some up on YouTube. My channel is Equus Enlightened.Find out more about Equus Enlightened at www.equusenlightened.com or on social media as @equusenlightened.  Join our Facebook group titled Horse-First Dressage: Compassionate Training and Connection or join the community and the Dressage Naturally Video Classroom at www.patreon.com/equusenlightened.Email me at [email protected] Riding!

Join Anna Fox as she navigates the complex world of horse training, focusing on building harmonious equine partnerships through curiosity and awareness. This episode pivots from a planned topic to address a recent scandal involving Olympic equestrian Charlotte Dujardin. Anna emphasizes the value of understanding horse psychology and human emotional responses, advocating for a more thoughtful, less reactive approach to training. Tune in for insights on creating an enriching environment for both horses and riders, and stay updated on her plans for the podcast's upcoming second season.

In this episode I play with a young horse working to build confidence around trailer loading. We often hear the phrase "it isn't about the trailer". While this is very true, trailer loading is often a tangible goal that fits the human mindset. I use highlight techniques that build confidence and trust, but the most important lesson is to remain perceptive and mindful. I talk about some of the things I noticed in previous sessions with this horse that might make his desire to load questionable. I ask Remi a few different questions so I can gauge his responses before we even go near the trailer. Then, I focus on his mind being engaged and curious with the trailer. Which allows him to have the courage to step inside. Listen to this episode and get some practical guidance on nurturing your equine partner's bravery and curiosity. Discover strategies for teaching your horse to explore independently and handle challenging situations with ease. Dive into an insightful journey of fostering emotionally stable equine companions and becoming a perceptive rider. For more resources, visit Equus Enlightened online. For those of you interested in videos of the podcast, there are some up on youtube. My channel is Equus Enlightened and it’s linked in the linktree below.      Find out more about Equus Enlightened at www.equusenlightened.net or on social media as @equusenlightened.  Join our Facebook group titled Powerful Equestrian Partnerships or join the community and the Dressage Naturally Video Classroom at www.patreon.com/equusenlightened.   https://linktr.ee/equusenlightened   Email me at [email protected]   Happy Riding!

Anna guides listeners through harmonizing with their equine partners by being present and understanding their needs. This episode delves into Anna’s interactive approach, focusing on gathering non-judgmental information and adjusting training based on the horse's responses. Through real-time examples, Anna emphasizes relaxation, straightness, and adapting to the horse's mindset. Perfect for equestrians looking to simplify their riding sessions and build a more intuitive relationship with their horses. For those of you interested in videos of the podcast, there are some up on youtube. My channel is Equus Enlightened and it’s linked in the linktree below.      Find out more about Equus Enlightened at www.equusenlightened.net or on social media as @equusenlightened.  Join our Facebook group titled Powerful Equestrian Partnerships or join the community and the Dressage Naturally Video Classroom at www.patreon.com/equusenlightened.   https://linktr.ee/equusenlightened   Email me at [email protected]   Happy Riding!

This week, I team up with Ibo to explore the critical relationship of balance, relaxation, and energy for both horse and rider. I'll jump into how to improve the qualities of relaxation energy, and balance separately; before you start to combine them. Helping you and your horse have a better understanding of what is expected. In these episodes, I delve into techniques for maintaining physical and mental well-being, ensuring proper self-carriage, and addressing common riding challenges. Perfect for equestrians aiming to deepen their understanding of their horses' needs and enhance their riding experience. Don’t miss this comprehensive guide to achieving harmony with your horse. For those of you interested in videos of the podcast, there are some up on youtube. My channel is Equus Enlightened and it’s linked in the linktree below.      Find out more about Equus Enlightened at www.equusenlightened.net or on social media as @equusenlightened.  Join our Facebook group titled Powerful Equestrian Partnerships or join the community and the Dressage Naturally Video Classroom at www.patreon.com/equusenlightened.   https://linktr.ee/equusenlightened   Email me at [email protected]   Happy Riding!

In this episode, I explore the concept of engagement in horsemanship. I discusses how engagement goes beyond simply increasing energy and impulsion, and instead focuses on creating involvement, participation, and a conversational attitude between horse and rider. I share tips for creating engagement, including working on relaxation, energy, and balance, and emphasize the importance of being present and aware as a rider. Tune in to learn how to cultivate a playful and engaged partnership with your horse. If you are interested in videos of the podcast, check out my YouTube channel, Equus Enlightened. It's linked in the linktree below. If you'd like to see ALL the videos head on over to Patreon.com/equusenlightened.    Find out more about Equus Enlightened at www.equusenlightened.net or on social media as @equusenlightened.  Join our Facebook group titled Powerful Equestrian Partnerships or join the community and the Dressage Naturally Video Classroom at www.patreon.com/equusenlightened.   https://linktr.ee/equusenlightened   Email me at [email protected]   Happy Riding!

In this episode of "Come Ride with Me," host Anna Fox celebrates Mother's Day by honoring all the moms out there, including horse moms. She gives a shoutout to her own supportive mom and acknowledges the challenges of being a mom while also pursuing a passion for horses. Anna emphasizes the importance of maintaining a playful mindset and encourages listeners to approach their interactions with horses and children in a playful and lighthearted way. By doing so, she believes we can create a healthier and more joyful environment for everyone involved. Stay playful and happy riding! Find out more about Equus Enlightened at www.equusenlightened.net or on social media as @equusenlightened.  Join our Facebook group titled Powerful Equestrian Partnerships or join the community and the Dressage Naturally Video Classroom at www.patreon.com/equusenlightened.   https://linktr.ee/equusenlightened   Email me at [email protected]    

Join host Anna Fox on the "Come Ride with Me" podcast as she explores movements from third-level dressage. Through playful experimentation, Anna gauges Namastee's progress and identifies areas for improvement in their training. From stretching and collection exercises to shoulder mobility and half-passes, Anna focuses on building strength and harmony with her horse. Tune in to discover how Anna uses intention and a meditative approach to enhance her partnership with Namastee. For those of you interested in videos of the podcast, there are some up on youtube. My channel is Equus Enlightened and it’s linked in the linktree below.  Find out more about Equus Enlightened at www.equusenlightened.net or on social media as @equusenlightened.  Join our Facebook group titled Powerful Equestrian Partnerships or join the community and the Dressage Naturally Video Classroom at www.patreon.com/equusenlightened.   https://linktr.ee/equusenlightened   Email me at [email protected]   Happy Riding!  

In this episode of "Come Ride with Me," host Anna Fox discusses the importance of incorporating play into horse training. She explains that horses and humans learn best in a state of play, and that playfulness is one of the top drives for horses. Anna emphasizes the need to reward effort and to stop and reward both the horse and the rider even for a really good try. She also encourages riders to vary their workouts and avoid boredom in order to keep horses engaged and motivated. Tune in to learn more about the play principle in horse training.

This week, I record a lesson that I gave one of my students. You'll notice that there isn't a lot of talk about specific aids or movements. I try to guide my student through what she wants to FEEL. I want students to be able to trust their feel and empower them to teach their horses how to carry them in the best way possible. Thanks to Meredith for helping me out with this one! For those of you interested in videos of the podcast, there are some up on youtube. My channel is Equus Enlightened and it’s linked in the linktree below.      Find out more about Equus Enlightened at www.equusenlightened.net or on social media as @equusenlightened.  Join our Facebook group titled Powerful Equestrian Partnerships or join the community and the Dressage Naturally Video Classroom at www.patreon.com/equusenlightened.   https://linktr.ee/equusenlightened   Email me at [email protected]   Happy Riding!

This episode is all about my story, my horsemanship journey, what got me to where I am today. Why I wanted to start a podcast, and how I love helping horses and people. Sometimes I feel like the experiences I've had don't always go together well, but as it turns out all of my life experience is meshing into a fantastic journey of learning and helping. Do you think about how your outside experiences affect your horsemanship and then turn around and affect your life too? Find out more about Equus Enlightened at www.equusenlightened.net or on social media as @equusenlightened.  Join our Facebook group titled Powerful Equestrian Partnerships or join the community and the Dressage Naturally Video Classroom at www.patreon.com/equusenlightened.   https://linktr.ee/equusenlightened   Email me at [email protected]   Happy Riding!

Do you ever feel the need to longe your horse before a ride? I've got a few quick checks that I like to make with my horses on the ground before I ride. This can take the place of a longe session meant to expend some of your horse's energy. Sometimes we just need to get in tune with what our horse's are thinking and give them a chance to get in tune with us. For those of you interested in videos of the podcast, there are some up on youtube. My channel is Equus Enlightened and it’s linked in the linktree below.      Find out more about Equus Enlightened at www.equusenlightened.net or on social media as @equusenlightened.  Join our Facebook group titled Powerful Equestrian Partnerships or join the community and the Dressage Naturally Video Classroom at www.patreon.com/equusenlightened.   https://linktr.ee/equusenlightened   Email me at [email protected]   Happy Riding!