Confidence Coaching with Heidi Benjaminsen
by Heidi Benjaminsen
Heidi Benjaminsen helps women transform stress into calm, fear into confidence and anxiety into peace when sending their children to college! Listen to hear tips and tools so you can be someone that your child WANTS to call and connect with. Learn more at www.heidibenjaminsen.com!
Episodes
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Ep. 202 Nervous System 101 for Moms
🎙️ Episode 202: Your Nervous System Is Always Listening — Even When Your College Student Isn't Talking 📱 Ever sent your college student a text, watched it go unanswered, and suddenly found yourself spiraling into worry, frustration, or worst-case scenarios? That's your nervous system at work!…
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Ep. 201 A New Confident Season
🎙️ Episode 201: A New Confident Season ✨ I'm back, friends! And we're stepping into a brand-new season of Confidence Coaching with more wisdom, deeper understanding, and powerful tools to help us become the calm, anchored, and confident mothers we want to be. 💕 In this episode, I'm sharing why…
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Ep. 200 Loneliness
Loneliness isn't a flaw — it's a signal. A message from your nervous system saying: connection matters. When our kids launch and life shifts, our roles, routines, and nervous-system rhythms shift too. You can love this season and still feel the ache. Two things can be true. This episode breaks…
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Ep. 199 Bittersweet
🎧 Episode 199 – Bittersweet Theme: 💫 Learning to honor and allow the emotion of bittersweet — the ache where joy 🌤️ and sadness 🌧️ intertwine. In this first episode of Heidi's Emotions Series, she explores one of life's most tender paradoxes — bittersweet — that space where the heart…
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Ep. 198 How Words Shape Us
🎙️ Episode 198: How Words Shape Us 🌱 The words we speak are not just descriptions—they're blueprints for the lives we're building. In this empowering episode, Heidi explores how the language we use daily plants seeds that shape our identity, relationships, and even what we believe is possible....
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Ep. 197 How To Apologize
🎙️ Ep 197 – How to Apologize 💛 Repairing Relationships with Confidence and Calm Apologizing isn't about shame or groveling — it's about emotional strength, humility, and staying grounded in discomfort. In this episode, Heidi breaks down how to make heartfelt apologies that build trust, not...
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Ep. 196 Creating Connections
🎙️ Episode 196: Creating Connection 💞 In this heart-opening episode, Heidi explores what it really means to connect — not just with words, but with energy, presence, and intention. 💫 You'll learn: ✨ Why connection is an energy loop — and how we either open or close that loop 🐧 How penguins...
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Ep. 195 Reflecting with Self-Compassion
💬 Episode 195: Self-Reflection with Grace What do you do when self-reflection stirs up guilt, shame, or regret? 😣 In this episode, Heidi walks you through how to face your imperfections with compassion, truth, and grace — so your self-awareness actually leads to growth, not shutdown. 🌱 ✨ Learn...
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Ep. 194 Two (Opposite) Things Can Be True
✨ NEW EPISODE! ✨ 🎙️ Ep. 194 - Two (Opposite) Things Can Be True Ever feel proud and heartbroken as your child leaves for college? Relieved and guilty for enjoying the quiet house? Worried and trusting all at once? 💡 You're not broken. You're human. And BOTH can be true. In this episode, I…
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Ep. 193 The Power of Self-Reflection
✨ NEW EPISODE! ✨ 🎙 Ep 193: The Power of Self-Reflection is LIVE! Ever blamed someone else… only to realize later you were the source of the problem? 😅💡 Yep, me too – and this week I'm sharing a funny lightbulb moment (literally 💡🌙) that reminded me just how powerful self-reflection is.…
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Ep, 192 Helping Kids Handle College Rejections
🌟 New Podcast Episode: "Helping Kids Handle College Rejections" 🌟 Parents, are you navigating the emotional rollercoaster of college application season with your kids? This week's episode is for you! 🎧💬 Rejection letters can be tough, but they're also incredible opportunities for growth. In...
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Ep. 191 The Commentators of Life
🎙️ New Podcast Episode! 💡 Ep 191: Quieting the Commentators and Narrators Are you living your truth or letting the "commentators" shape your perspective? In this episode, I share lessons from the BYU-Alamobowl game, personal stories, and practical tools to help you: ✨ Distinguish between…
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Ep. 190 Graciously Giving and Receiving
Key Message: How we give and receive energy are deeply connected - our ability to do one affects our ability to do the other effectively Key Points: • If you have trouble receiving help or gifts, you may unconsciously be: - Limiting abundance in your life - Blocking positive connections with…
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Ep. 189 Quiet Wins
Key Points: Host Heidi Benjaminsen discusses the importance of "quiet wins" - personal victories in emotional life and relationships that often go unnoticed These wins build confidence and strengthen family relationships, even when others don't explicitly acknowledge them Notable Quiet Wins...
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Ep. 188 When Life Feels Uncertain
Uncertainty is the breeding ground for stress and anxiety. But it is always about a future possible event, it isn't about the present. When our body feels uncertain, our nervous system works up into a tizzy to try to protect us from any future possible danger. Listen to episode 188 to hear Heidi...
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Ep. 187 A Few Oppositional Kid Tips
Have you ever felt like you're butting heads with your strong-willed kid? Well, you're not alone! Episode 187 shares some fantastic tips for dealing with those headstrong, independent-minded teens we all know and love. First off, let's celebrate these traits! Heidi reminds us that having a strong...
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Ep. 186 Understanding Your Nervous System
Hey there, moms! If you're getting ready to send your kid off to college, this episode of Confidence Coaching with Heidi Benjaminsen is definitely for you. Heidi dives into understanding our nervous system and how it affects our emotions and reactions, especially during big life changes like your...
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Ep. 185 How To Live Drama Free
Episode 185 of Confidence Coaching focuses on achieving freedom from drama in life. The host, Heidi Benjaminsen, starts by defining drama as exaggerated behavior or reactions, often performed for others. She then outlines six key strategies to reduce drama in our lives. The first strategy is to...
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Ep. 184 Feeling Sad
A friend told me she was sad and asked if she could call me. Episode 184 is step by step how I validated, witnessed and helped her process her sadness. We will all feel sad, it is a normal human emotion. The skill of zooming in and seeing the sad is what helps all of us get to the other side of…
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Ep. 183 Three Layers of an Experience
Our life made up for billions of moments/experiences and each experience has three layers: The actual experience. Our awareness of the experience. The story or meaning we create about the experience. Listen to episode 183 as Heidi Benjaminsen shares and breaks down several experiences of her life...
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Ep. 182 (Best of) Wanting Others To Be Happy
It sounds like a kind desire to have towards others - wanting them to be happy and feel good. This desire works... until it doesn't and this thought becomes toxic and creates stress (in us and them). And disconnects us from the people we love most who experience human and negative experiences.…
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Ep. 181 (Best Of) Our Vibe Attracts Our Tribe
Humans are like magnets. Something in our make-up attracts or repels certain people. I believe OUR VIBE or our energy attracts certain people, certain successes, and certain failures in our life. And our VIBE repels others. Our vibe includes our nervous system - how we hold our body, the words we...
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Ep 180 (Best of) How To Feel More Joy
Because our brains are "wired" on default to look for the negative, feeling more joy in life isn't an automatic process. It requires focus and intention and practice. First, we have to recognize what is STEALING our joy. And neutralize these "joy thieves". Listen to a replay of episode 11 to hear...
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Ep. 179 (Best of) Being a Good Mom
All moms worry if they are "good enough"; we are biologically wired to care about this. This "worry" becomes a problem when we look to our children or external factors to determine if we are good enough. It's an even bigger problem if we think we need to be "perfect". Listen to episode 179 to…
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Ep. 178 (Best Of) Wishing People Were Different
Summary In this episode, I discuss the tendency common to everying - wishing others were different from who they are. It's something I've noticed in the people I coach, and it's a struggle I've faced in my own relationships with family and friends. Throughout the episode, I explore how these…
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Ep. 177 (Best of) When Someone Doesn't Like Me
We all want to be liked. It's a human survival desire. It feels good when people like us. BUT we all encounter people who don't like us. Our brain thinks this is a problem. This isn't a problem! If someone likes us, this represents their brain and their lane - not us! Listen to this "best of"...
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Ep. 176 (Best Of) How To Say No
Learning how to say no when someone requests something of us is a critical skill. This skill anchors and steadies us as we stay in our lane and take more control of our life. Listen to episode 176 (a replay of episode 9) to learn: Importance of setting boundaries and prioritizing time Reasons why...
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Ep. 175 (Best of) Grace-Filled Relationships
The episode delves into the idea of grace, drawing inspiration from a talk by Brad Wilcox titled "His Grace is Sufficient." Grace, as Heidi explains, is a gift given out of love, not fear or judgment, and it assumes worthiness without the need for earning it. She explores how grace applies to…
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Ep. 174 Building Core Confidence
Heidi Benjaminsen hosts "Confidence Coaching," a podcast aimed at supporting mothers in maintaining calmness and stability regardless of their surroundings. In Episode 174, titled "Building Core Confidence," Heidi shares a personal experience from a skiing trip in Austria to illustrate the...
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Ep. 173 Slowing down
The fastest way to changing our life is SLOWING DOWN and examining situations we want to change. When we pause and reflect on what we are thinking, we're able to change emotional patterns. Our frustration, stress, and insecurity suddenly isn't needed because we see the situation from a different...
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Ep. 172 Changing Your Mind
When we gain life experience, learn new information and see the perspective of how other people experience life, our opinions, our beliefs, our biases change. Confident people WANT to change their minds over their lifetime. To do so requires a lot of self-acceptance, integrity, discomfort…
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Ep. 171 My Favorite Thoughts - 2023
As I end each year, I share with you important "thoughts" and beliefs that carried me through the year. This year has been incredibly busy, and yet I've moved through the year without swirling chaos. I've stayed anchored to what is most important and I've chosen how I want to feel and experience...
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Ep. 170 Declining Invitations
Tis the season to be invited to a lot of events, parties, gatherings, recitals, and more. It feels great when we have the time and energy to say YES to as many things as we want. There will come a time, though, when the best way to take care of our life, our lane, is to decline an invitation.…
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Ep. 169 Zooming In and Out
Overwhelm, stress, anxiety and worry are created when we're looking at a situation or person with the wrong perspective. We may be too "zoomed out" and not seeing how to get anchored and calm, or we may be too "zoomed in" and not seeing the bigger picture with peace. Listen to episode 169 to hear...
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Ep. 168 How Gratitude Heals
Gratitude does more than increase our dopamine and increase our mood, being grateful and expressing appreciation can heal our body and nervous system. Gratitude is a super emotion that connects us to people, regulates our body and attracts more goodness into our life. Yet... expressing gratitude…
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Ep. 167 Confident Body Language
We've all heard that the way we hold out body sends messages to other people about our confidence or insecurities, if we are open to conversation or want to be left alone. Did you know our nervous system ALSO knows how WE are holding our body and ALSO sends signals of confidence or insecurity, of...
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Ep. 166 Staying Off The Emotional Rollercoaster
A teenager's body has wildly fluctuating hormones and moods that seem to hit the highs and lows like the world's best rollercoasters. They can be angry, excited, anxious, nervous and happy all in a few minutes. Just because THEY are on this ride does not mean WE need to be on the ride with them.…
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Ep. 165 Grieving Teens
Life incudes loss and our teens need us to show them how to feel, process and manage deep sorry and grief. Helping them learn to process this human emotion (and not avoid it), sets them up in life to know how to process, feel and handle the inevitable grief that that will encounter. Listen as…
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Ep. 164 Chapters of our Lives
Recently I attended a funeral where I learned about early "chapters" in the life of a dear family member, whom I've only know in the last chapters of their life. These remarks profoundly moved me and I wished I had known this person as a mother of teenagers, like I am now. I wish I had seen us as...
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Ep. 163 How Teens "Map" Our Minds with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife
For good and bad, our teens know what we are thinking, what makes us happy and sad, what stresses and overwhelmed us, our beliefs and values and much more. They "track" our body language, facial expressions, all of our non-verbal communication and they create mental "maps" that predict how we…
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Ep. 162 17 Ways Coaching Has Changed Me
In a casual conversation recently, a friend and I were discussing how principles of thought work, emotional regulation and all things coaching have changed us. My list continued to grow and I realized the changes are quite profound and touch every area of my life. I'm sharing with you in this...
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Ep. 161 What Is Your Intention?
Confident people set their internal GPS and know what they "intend" to do in small and large daily tasks. Confident people bring to their consciousness the purpose and desired result of time with their children, at work, relaxing, conversations. Intensions can be to connect, to relax, anything....
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Ep. 160 Enjoying The Present
Our minds can easily spend time in the past and the future, two places where we have NO control. By contrast, the present moment happening right NOW, is the only moment we can control and really experience life. Listen as Heidi explains how she was present in her body and mind for a...
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Ep. 159 Taking Things Personally
We take things personally (or are easily offended) when our brain thinks we are constantly being attacked. We think there is danger in the words, actions and inactions of everyone around us. Regardless of why we may take things too personally, it IS possible to become more confident, stronger...
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Ep. 158 Getting What We Want
We are responsible to express and take care of our own needs and wants - this is one of the core responsibilities we have in OUR lane. Our confidence and personal power grows when we stop, ask ourselves what we need, are able to identify this need and then can fill the need - even if it requires...
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Ep. 157 Relationships
Our relationships with other people are actually much simpler to define than we are led to believe. Because we cannot control the thoughts and feelings of another person, our relationship with them is based on these three aspects: What we think about the other person The stories we tell and…
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Ep. 156 Attracting and Repelling Emotions
The energy and emotions we carry with us are either repelling or attracting people. Positive emotions like love, kindness, acceptance, peace, curiosity all send energy to the people we interact with that we value and like them. Positive emotions send energy that the other person is doing okay....
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Ep. 155 How We See The World (SIL Series)
We all see the world through different and unique "lenses" formed by our life experiences, biases, strengths, weaknesses, race, and much more. We see the world through our literal eyes and with our brain. This lens is formed by basic beliefs we have about the world - such as that the world is…
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Ep. 154 Confidence, Self-Worth and Influencing Our Teens with Corinne Crabtree
Corinne Crabtree is a phenomenal example of changing her confidence, her identity and pursuing her dreams. She lost over 100 pounds and has kept it off for 15+ years and has built an 8-figure business helping other women break generational curses of health and wealth. Listen as Corinne shares…
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Ep. 153 Our Channel of Influence (Stay In Your Lane Series)
In the third episode in this special Stay In Our Lane series, listen as Heidi explains what happens between our lanes, between people as we communicate, behave and show up in the world. There is more than just one person being totally responsible for their emotions and not taking accountability…
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Heidi Benjaminsen helps women transform stress into calm, fear into confidence and anxiety into peace when sending their children to college! Listen to hear tips and tools so you can be someone that your child WANTS to call and connect with. Learn more at www.heidibenjaminsen.com!
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