Did She Just Say Sex?

In the Season 1 Finale - Lanikai shares her journey of starting a Christian sex podcast, exploring misconceptions about sex in faith, and the importance of stewardship, honesty, and understanding in sexuality.Chapters00:00 Introduction and podcast background01:56 The motivation behind starting the podcast03:59 God's role in the podcast journey05:53 Misconceptions about sex in Christianity07:53 Sexual desire as a fire, not the enemy10:02 Stewardship over sexual desires11:51 The importance of understanding and obedience13:47 God's openness to honesty and messiness16:12 Abstinence as an expression of obedience19:08 Desire and obedience coexistence21:07 Marriage is not a reward for abstinence23:02 Heart posture over transactional obedience24:52 Questions about faith, desire, and purpose28:11 Future plans for the podcast and community32:02 Season two: visual podcast and team building33:55 Closing remarks and upcoming episodesWe are building a team! If you are or know a:Graphic DesignerSocial Media ManagerVideo EditorPlease send an email to [email protected], or send a DM on Instagram @didshejustsaysex or @lanikai.huntersSocials@DidSheJustSaySex on all platformsDeezer: https://www.deezer.com/en/show/1003266681Youtube:https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLAf1fUOYY8uXDaST_uFtHfsZaW6fxoKUv&si=LKEw90SPn0gXJuS3Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/5bHFjn3PIVOAX1fDqbtRqL?si=91ab0c9fd27f43e2Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/did-she-just-say-sex/id1896938087Amazon Music: Did She Just Say Sex? Podcast on Amazon MusicThe link for dilemmas & questions:https://forms.gle/h6FfZ8rUTRkZKqvD9

In this episode, the Lanikai addresses some listener questions about sex, faith, and personal boundaries, emphasizing honesty with God and understanding biblical principles. Topics include regret over past sexual experiences, having a type, managing lust, and the difference between abstinence and celibacy.Chapters00:00 Introduction and episode overview03:22 Addressing regret over past sexual experiences09:05 The war between flesh and spirit in desires12:28 The difference between worldly sorrow and godly sorrow15:27 Is it wrong to have a type?23:18 Managing sexual desire and lust29:56 What counts as sexual immorality?37:14 Masturbation and its biblical considerations40:42 Difference between abstinence and celibacy42:33 Feeling no conviction about sex as a Christian50:27 Final thoughts and encouragementSocials@DidSheJustSaySex on all platformsDeezer: https://www.deezer.com/en/show/1003266681Youtube:https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLAf1fUOYY8uXDaST_uFtHfsZaW6fxoKUv&si=LKEw90SPn0gXJuS3Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/5bHFjn3PIVOAX1fDqbtRqL?si=91ab0c9fd27f43e2Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/did-she-just-say-sex/id1896938087Amazon Music: Did She Just Say Sex? Podcast on Amazon MusicThe link for dilemmas & questions:https://forms.gle/h6FfZ8rUTRkZKqvD9If you know someone, or are someone who would be interested in appearing on the podcast as a guest - send us a dm @DidSheJustSaySex on Instagram!

Lanikai shares insights on navigating sex and relationships within Christian faith, addressing dilemmas from listeners about marriage, sex, and personal growth. This episode emphasizes communication, grace, and self-awareness in the journey of faith and love.Key TopicsSexual compatibility in Christian datingDiscussing hard no's and hard yes's in intimacyHealing and self-care after divorceThe importance of communication in marriageChallenging purity culture mythsChapters00:00 Introduction and episode overview00:30 Listener feedback and episode themes02:23 Dilemmas episode introduction03:22 Discussing sexual compatibility before marriage06:15 Hard no's and hard yes's in intimacy08:14 The learning curve of sex in marriage10:42 Healing and grace after divorce18:52 Addressing sexual dissatisfaction in marriage22:43 Communication and feedback in sex27:33 Conclusion and next stepsSocials@DidSheJustSaySex on all platformsDeezer: https://www.deezer.com/en/show/1003266681Youtube:https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLAf1fUOYY8uXDaST_uFtHfsZaW6fxoKUv&si=LKEw90SPn0gXJuS3Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/5bHFjn3PIVOAX1fDqbtRqL?si=91ab0c9fd27f43e2Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/did-she-just-say-sex/id1896938087Amazon Music: Did She Just Say Sex? Podcast on Amazon MusicThe link for dilemmas & questions:https://forms.gle/h6FfZ8rUTRkZKqvD9If you know someone, or are someone who would be interested in appearing on the podcast - send us a dm @DidSheJustSaySex on Instagram!

In this episode, Lanikai explores the complex relationship between beauty, modesty, and spirituality within Christian culture. She emphasizes that enjoying beauty and taking pride in appearance are not incompatible with holiness, and discusses how societal and religious expectations often distort this balance.Key TopicsThe relationship between beauty and holiness in Christian cultureMisconceptions about modesty and vanityBiblical examples of beautiful women and their characterThe importance of heart posture in modestyThe role of self-care and self-expression in faithGender differences in perceptions of modestyThe danger of using appearance as a measure of spiritual worthStewardship of beauty and self-imageChapters00:00 Introduction and episode overview00:31 The controversy around Christian women and beauty01:28 Self-care versus vanity in faith02:24 Beauty as a biblical attribute and its misinterpretation03:53 Christian women enjoying beauty without guilt04:52 The false dichotomy of modesty and beauty06:46 Biblical descriptions of beautiful women08:14 Beauty as a character, not just appearance09:13 Acknowledging beauty without worshipping it10:12 Confidence and self-love in faith11:11 Effortless beauty and self-care practices13:37 Modesty as a heart posture, not just clothing14:35 The problem with demonizing the body17:25 Men and modesty: addressing the double standard20:21 The biblical view of modesty for men and women22:15 The cultural gendering of modesty23:14 Personal convictions versus universal standards30:59 Dressing intentionally and heart posture34:20 The deeper meaning of modesty beyond clothing36:20 Validation, social media, and self-worth38:46 Stewardship of beauty and self-image41:14 The danger of appearance as a measure of holiness43:24 Encouragement for authentic self-expression45:17 Closing remarks and upcoming episodesTiktok Video:https://vm.tiktok.com/ZNRoWreVb/Socials@DidSheJustSaySex on all platformsDeezer: https://www.deezer.com/en/show/1003266681Youtube:https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLAf1fUOYY8uXDaST_uFtHfsZaW6fxoKUv&si=LKEw90SPn0gXJuS3Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/5bHFjn3PIVOAX1fDqbtRqL?si=91ab0c9fd27f43e2Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/did-she-just-say-sex/id1896938087Amazon Music: Did She Just Say Sex? Podcast on Amazon MusicThe link for dilemmas & questions:https://forms.gle/h6FfZ8rUTRkZKqvD9If you know someone, or are someone who would be interested in appearing on the podcast - send us a dm @DidSheJustSaySex on Instagram!

Lanikai shares her personal journey with dating, including her struggles, standards, and faith-based perspectives on finding a Christian partner. This episode offers honest insights into navigating love and faith in today's world.Key TopicsPersonal journey with dating and breakupsThe importance of non-negotiables and desirables in a partnerChallenges of dating as a Christian in today's worldThe significance of abstinence and faith in relationshipsThe impact of past relationships on current dating mindsetChapters00:00 Introduction and podcast background02:22 The fear of starting the podcast and audience appreciation04:16 Personal struggles with dating and past relationship07:03 Leaving a long-term relationship and identity crisis09:55 Conscious decision to stop dating for years12:17 Realization of being avoidant and desire for love15:38 Deciding to open up to dating again in 202617:34 The rarity of her type and high standards20:29 Attraction and physical preferences in Christian dating23:23 Non-negotiables and desirables in a partner26:19 The challenge of meeting abstinent Christian men29:40 The difficulty of dating in the church context34:57 Encouragement to approach and pursue in faith41:15 Hope, trust in God's timing, and future plansSocials@DidSheJustSaySex on all platformsDeezer: https://www.deezer.com/en/show/1003266681Youtube:https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLAf1fUOYY8uXDaST_uFtHfsZaW6fxoKUv&si=LKEw90SPn0gXJuS3Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/5bHFjn3PIVOAX1fDqbtRqL?si=91ab0c9fd27f43e2Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/did-she-just-say-sex/id1896938087Amazon Music: Did She Just Say Sex? Podcast on Amazon MusicThe link for dilemmas & questions:https://forms.gle/h6FfZ8rUTRkZKqvD9If you know someone, or are someone who would be interested in appearing on the podcast - send us a dm @DidSheJustSaySex on Instagram!

In this episode, Lanikai explores practical ways to steward your sexuality and maintain abstinence, emphasizing the importance of boundaries, heart posture, and seeking God's guidance. She shares personal insights, biblical principles, and actionable tips for living a Christ-centered life of purity.Key TopicsThe biblical definition of abstinence versus celibacyPractical boundaries to maintain abstinenceThe importance of heart posture and motivationSeeking God's guidance for personal boundariesThe role of wisdom versus permission in self-controlThe significance of being equally yoked in relationshipsAvoiding the trap of building boundaries around current seasonsThe importance of Christlikeness over abstinence as a goalChapters00:00 Introduction and episode overview01:32 God's view of abstinence as stewardship03:02 Difference between abstinence and celibacy04:42 Practical steps to steward sexuality06:46 Biblical basis for boundaries in sex09:48 Personal boundaries and self-control11:25 Avoiding the line: asking God for boundaries13:32 Wisdom vs permission analogy15:52 Dating someone not abstinent: what to consider18:50 Being equally yoked in pursuit of abstinence21:42 Goals: Christlikeness over abstinence22:42 Summary of practical steps for abstinence25:03 Final encouragement and seeking GodSocials@DidSheJustSaySex on all platformsDeezer: https://www.deezer.com/en/show/1003266681Youtube:https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLAf1fUOYY8uXDaST_uFtHfsZaW6fxoKUv&si=LKEw90SPn0gXJuS3Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/5bHFjn3PIVOAX1fDqbtRqL?si=91ab0c9fd27f43e2Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/did-she-just-say-sex/id1896938087Amazon Music: Did She Just Say Sex? Podcast on Amazon MusicThe link for dilemmas & questions:https://forms.gle/h6FfZ8rUTRkZKqvD9If you know someone, or are someone who would be interested in appearing on the podcast - send us a dm @DidSheJustSaySex on Instagram!

In this episode, Lanikai explores the complex relationship between faith, shame, and sexuality. She shares her personal journey with abstinence, the difference between conviction and shame, and how understanding God's purpose for desire can transform our approach to sexuality.Key TopicsThe difference between conviction and shameThe role of desire in God's planPersonal journey with abstinence and shameThe importance of understanding God's purpose for desireHow to steward abstinence in a biblical wayChapters00:00 Introduction and episode overview00:53 Exploring shame and its impact on faith01:28 Personal journey with sexuality and shame02:11 The significance of abstinence in faith03:25 Falling into sin and feelings of shame04:44 Displaced identity and pride in abstinence05:47 The difference between conviction and shame09:56 God's grace and the role of conviction11:30 Renewing the mind and worldly standards12:18 Desire is not the enemy13:41 God's purpose for desire and stewardship16:00 The importance of understanding the 'why'17:20 Building infrastructure for future faith18:53 The enemy's manipulation of conviction19:22 Renewing the mind to resist the enemy21:31 The battle between spirit and flesh22:23 Approaching abstinence with God's understanding23:48 Next steps in pursuing abstinence24:45 Closing remarks and encouragementSocials@DidSheJustSaySex on all platformsDeezer: https://www.deezer.com/en/show/1003266681Youtube:https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLAf1fUOYY8uXDaST_uFtHfsZaW6fxoKUv&si=LKEw90SPn0gXJuS3Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/5bHFjn3PIVOAX1fDqbtRqL?si=91ab0c9fd27f43e2Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/did-she-just-say-sex/id1896938087Amazon Music: Did She Just Say Sex? Podcast on Amazon MusicThe link for dilemmas & questions:https://forms.gle/h6FfZ8rUTRkZKqvD9If you know someone, or are someone who would be interested in appearing on the podcast - send us a dm @DidSheJustSaySex on Instagram!

Lanikai shares her personal journey from curiosity about sex to understanding God's design, emphasizing the importance of understanding the 'why' behind biblical teachings on sex. This episode explores her experiences, questions, and the need for open conversations about sex within the Christian community.Socials@DidSheJustSaySex on all platformsDeezer: https://www.deezer.com/en/show/1003266681Youtube:https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLAf1fUOYY8uXDaST_uFtHfsZaW6fxoKUv&si=LKEw90SPn0gXJuS3Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/5bHFjn3PIVOAX1fDqbtRqL?si=91ab0c9fd27f43e2Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/did-she-just-say-sex/id1896938087Amazon Music: Did She Just Say Sex? Podcast on Amazon MusicChapters00:00 Introduction to the Podcast01:21 Curiosity About Sex04:35 The Need for Understanding08:12 Theoretical Knowledge vs. Personal Experience12:25 Abstinence and Intimacy16:37 Transforming Understanding of Sex20:24 The Importance of Conversations24:25 The Shift in Perspective27:07 Creating a Safe Space for QuestionsThe link for dilemmas & questions:https://forms.gle/h6FfZ8rUTRkZKqvD9If you know someone, or are someone who would be interested in appearing on the podcast - send us a dm @DidSheJustSaySex on Instagram!

A lot of us were told not to talk about sex… before we were ever taught what it actually is.So we asked questions and got shut down.Or worse, we stopped asking altogether.But the curiosity didn’t go away.This podcast is a space to have the conversations we were never allowed to have growing up — about sex, faith, and everything in between.Honestly.Faithfully.Without shame.Episode one is coming soon.🎙️ Follow the podcast on Instagram: @didshejustsaysex📺 Watch and subscribe on YouTube & Spotify: @DidSheJustSaySexWe will be available on other podcast platforms soon!✨ & Follow me, the host: @lanikai.hunters on all social platforms