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How To Be Real
by How To Be Real
Join besties, Tasha B and Taylor for the ultimate lifestyle podcast. Every other Friday they host candid chats about life experiences, wellness tips, therapy insights, pop culture, and of course how to be REAL in a world obsessed with the fake. Follow along as Tasha, the actor, model, director, and writer, and Taylor, the social media guru and overall creative, serve up divine realness. And remember: they’re not therapists…they just have them! Get Connected: IG + TikTok - @HowToBReal IG - @TheTashaB IG - @Justsay_TaySend us an email: [email protected] howtobreal.substack.com
Episodes
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Hot Takes
Kicking off a new month sharing a few of our recent small wins, then getting real with some hot takes and unpopular opinions like: the ways the Supreme Court and the Department of Ed keep failing the people they're supposed to protect, and thoughts on Raven-Symoné questioning Raven Baxter's...
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The Limit Does Not Exist
Our limiting beliefs have been coming to the surface, and this week we're straight up addressing them. Plus things that desperately need a comeback and our takes on the House of Dragons finale and Spider-Man: Brand New Day. If you’re more of a visuals girlie, catch up on our YouTube channel…
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Contradictions + check ins
Sometimes we contradict ourselves & don’t even know why…but tbh we’ve made peace with it. This week we got vulnerable & shared some current life updates PLUS three things currently getting on our nerves (for some razzle dazzle). If you’re more of a visuals girlie, catch up on our YouTube channel...
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Where tf are my friends??
Why is making friends as an adult so hard sometimes?! Sheesh. Also this week: advice for our younger selves, plus our reviews of The Odyssey, Love Island, and Million Dollar Nannies. If you’re more of a visuals girlie, catch up on our YouTube channel AAAND… 💌 Send us a letter or question to be...
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The Other Side Of Trusting Yourself
This week we got into self-trust, what it feels like when you finally start building it, and why the leap can feel scary. Plus parts of ourselves we’ve rediscovered this past year, some things that are getting on our nerves, and the story of Nolan Wells. If you’re more of a visuals girlie, catch…
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Re-Claiming Professional Power
Who defines what “professional” is anyway?! How we show up in spaces that weren’t built with us in mind, how we own our authority instead of asking for it, and what it takes to stand our ground when a fellow “professional” needs to be checked. Plus: what we’re loving about our lives right now,...
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Real Intimacy, Fake Closeness, and Why We Don't Like That
Real intimacy has gotten confused with being seen. With shows like Love Island, Love Is Blind & others (that we watch + enjoy 😅) shaping how we think about closeness, real intimacy is getting lost in the plot. This week, we get into intimacy in the age of overexposure, talk about what our...
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Why Do I Hate Transitions
Why does it always feel so hard to be in that transitional period from one life experience to the next?! It could be something as simple as a change in your daily routine, or that time spent waiting for your next big opportunity to come knocking. Either way, it can drive a girl crazy! If you’re...
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Fear Of Being Seen
Guess what: You can want to be great and still be terrified of being seen at the same time! Also on the docket this week: the Roast of Kevin Hart, our thoughts on the Michael Jackson biopic, and why what’s happening to voting rights in the South right now deserves more of our attention. If you’re...
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Control Freak Rehab
In this episode we get into how we balance our need for control with the courage to surrender and of course we share what's been irritating us in our favorite segment" I don't like that" This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus...
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Look at her go!
We took a beat this episode to actually look at ourselves: the women we are now vs. who we used to be, what we had to unlearn about womanhood, and what it’s meant to build a space where we can talk about all of it honestly. Plus, our thoughts on why TV/movies have become so grotesque, churches...
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Fighting the Flow
This week, let’s explore what it really looks, sounds, and feels like when you’re fighting the flow instead of riding it…and when “going with the flow” starts looking a lot like just checking out. PLUS: our fave no-skips albums, bikers who need they ass whooped, the OD protein push, and much…
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Code Switch Debt
There’s a debt that builds quietly every time you let people meet a masked version of you instead of the real one. This episode, we’re discussing what code switching has actually cost us personally and where you even begin when the performance has become automatic. PLUS Oscars reactions, old…
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Low down dirty SHAME
This week, we talked about the shame monster: where it comes from, how it gets its grip on you, and what it’s actually taken to start loosening that grip. We share moments when we felt like failures and the slow, sometimes uncomfortable work of learning that our worth is never tied to what we can...
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You Wanna Be on Top…Or You Wanna Be Well
You wanna be on top? Cool. But at what cost? We’re revisiting America’s Next Top Model, reality TV culture, and the blueprint we were handed about success (then redefining it on our own terms). Plus, a nod to the Black pioneers we celebrate all year long. If you’re more of a visuals girlie, catch...
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A regulated nervous system in 2026...lol
We love when our nervous systems feel regulated, but let’s be real… moments like that can be few and far between. But what does it feel like to be regulated vs disregulated? How do we get to those points? Let’s dig deep and find out! If you’re more of a visuals girlie, catch up on episodes on our...
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Anger isn't the villain
Anger has been labeled the villain for way too long. We’re told to calm down, be softer, be more evolved, when really, righteous anger is often the first thing telling us the truth. This episode explores how we can heal our relationship with anger and use it as a source of clarity and…
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Maybe It's Time to Pivot
We’re diving into the mindset behind pivoting, what alignment actually feels like, and how to change course without shame. Plus, our favorite segment, ‘I don’t like that,’ returns as we vent about the things we are simply not into right now. If you’re more of a visuals girlie, catch up on…
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The Art of Letting Sh*t Go
It’s time to pack light, as Ms. Badu said. Like most things, it’s easier said than done, but we can’t go into 2026 still holding onto things that are weighing us down. If you’re more of a visual girlie, catch up on episodes via our YouTube channel! AAAND… 💌 Send us a letter or question to be...
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I'm a hater...but I'm onto something
Some of these takes might sound wild at first. Give it a second. If you can step out of your own head, they start lining up real quick. From calling out therapist cosplay to side-eyeing streamers. In this episode, we discuss a few hills we’re absolutely standing on…and we said what we said. If...
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Body Rules We Never Agreed To
Body shame shows up early and sticks around longer than any of us asked for. We’re letting go of the shame we didn’t choose and getting honest about the messages we internalized without even noticing. A listener letter takes us deeper, and a quick detour through Player’s Club/BET Uncut chaos…
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Breaking Generational Curses
We all have some type of generational trauma — the behaviors, beliefs, and emotional patterns passed down through families that shape us more than we realize. This episode, we dig into how these patterns showed up for us and what it’s taking to break or transform them. We also introduced a new...
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I'm A Girl's Girl
This week, we’re breaking down performative support v. real sisterhood, how social media reshaped feminism, and what community looks like when women hold space for each other. If you’re more of a visuals girlie, catch up on episodes on our YouTube channel AAAND… 💌 Send us a letter or question to...
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Living in Agreement + Why Alignment Changes Everything
We talked about what it really means to live in agreement—with who you are, what you want, and how you move through the world. We also unpacked how this shows up in the culture: D’Angelo’s refusal to be boxed in by labels, Ayesha Curry’s honesty, good news out of California, and the ceasefire in...
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Forgive and Forget? Not Always.
Forgiveness. The kind that’s awkward. Quiet. Not always cute. And doesn’t always come with a happy ending. This episode, we get into: • What forgiveness actually looks like when you’re in it • The difference between letting go and holding a grudge • How to know when you’ve actually moved on (vs...
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Owning Your Sh*t Isn’t Cute
We’ve said it before and we’ll say it again: accountability isn’t aesthetic. It’s uncomfortable, it’s vulnerable, and it doesn’t always come with applause. This week, we’re talking about: What it really means to own your sh*t, our own recent bouts with accountability, and more. AAAND… Don’t…
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Bangers + Bad Documentaries
This week’s episode is part playlist swap, part storytime, part bffr on cultural commentary. We also spent a little extra time on our favorite segment, I Don’t Like That, featuring thoughts on messy documentaries, the media’s obsession with certain narratives, and a few moments we just couldn’t…
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My Ego Made Me Do It
We’re getting real about ego: the messy, funny, sometimes protective voice inside us that can either keep us safe or hold us back. Ego isn’t the enemy, but it definitely needs to be checked sometimes. Tap in and let’s figure out together. And don’t forget to read this month’s newsletter. We made…
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From Overbooked to Over It
This one’s for the people who are always doing the most…and finally asking, why? In this episode, we talk about what we’re working on and working toward. We also share some of the funniest news stories of the week (because balance) and our personal red flags that let us know a tv show or movie is...
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The Clichés That Were True All Along
This is a love letter to the phrases that felt dramatic… until they didn’t. 💌 Send us a letter or question to be featured on the show, [email protected] 😉 Subscribe for more conversations that go beneath the surface 🎧 Find us on Apple + Spotify 📩 Join our Substack: How To Be Real This…
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The Empathy Deficit in 2025
We live in a country where violence goes viral, grief becomes content, and policies are passed without care for the people most affected. Empathy these days feels like it’s on life support. In this episode, we talk about the empathy crisis in America, how we got here, and why choosing to care is...
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Attachment Styles & the Art of Being Unbothered (Kinda)
We’re sharing our top 3 biggest turn-offs and a few things that pissed us off this week—yes, we’re naming names (and behaviors). Then we got into the meat of the episode: attachment styles. We discussed how they manifest in our relationships, how they influence the way we connect (or disconnect),...
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Who Gets to Be the Hero?
This week we’re revisiting some of the most loved characters in TV and film who were actually the villains (don’t fight us, we have the receipts). Then we turn to the current events of today that have us feeling like we’re in the Twilight Zone:• The Job Corps shutdown and what’s next• The Gaza...
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Black Fatigue: WTF
We’re tired, but we’re not turning on our people.In this episode, we unpack the term Black fatigue and our thoughts on this article that says the answer is walking away from “embarrassing” parts of our community. Fatigue is real—but so is care, complexity, and choosing each other even when we’re...
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We Weren’t Okay. Here’s What We Did About It.
This episode is all about the moment we realized: no one was coming to save us, and it was up to us to do the saving. From anxiety spirals to relationship red flags, we talk about the exact moments we knew we had to choose ourselves, and what it looked like to actually do that. The work wasn’t...
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Aging vs. Maturing: Yes, there's a difference
Aging is inevitable. Growth is intentional. Let’s talk about what happens when people get older, but not better. **SINNERS SPOILERS @ 6:57-25:25 . . . . A GIFT FOR OUR LISTENERS! Walking Meditation Storytime Journal Prompt Sheet RATE, REVIEW + FOLLOW US: IG @howtobreal TikTok @howtobreal YouTube...
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What a Time To Be Alive
From the most random questions to the realest on-screen moments, we’re unpacking what’s been on our minds, on our screens, and in the headlines this month. . . . . WE HAVE A GIFT FOR OUR LISTENERS! Walking Meditation Storytime Journal Prompt Sheet RATE, REVIEW + FOLLOW US: IG @howtobreal TikTok...
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True life: I’m addicted to struggle
Divorcing the struggle mindset + the fear of ease . . . . WE HAVE A GIFT FOR OUR LISTENERS! Walking Meditation Storytime Journal Prompt Sheet RATE, REVIEW + FOLLOW US: IG @howtobreal TikTok @howtobreal YouTube @HowToBReal PERSONALS: Tasha's IG @thetashab Tay's IG @justsay_tay SEND US A LISTENER...
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Let's Debate: Circumcision Ft. Dominique Staten
Longtime homegirl and friend of the show, Dominique Staten, joins us in the studio for a juicy debate: should you circumcise your baby or nah? Along with being a wife and mom of 3, Domi is the founder and instructor of Creative Explorers Art Enrichment program for babies and toddlers, a future...
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The Current State of Social Media...It's a Little Weird
Social media's renaissance, how influencer status is changing, and the curious case of family influencers...let's get REAL! . . . . WE HAVE A GIFT FOR OUR LISTENERS! Walking Meditation Storytime Journal Prompt Sheet RATE, REVIEW + FOLLOW US: IG @howtobreal TikTok @howtobreal YouTube @HowToBReal...
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High Thoughts 💨
*takes hit* We're exploring our trippiest stoner thoughts. Get your gummies ready for a mind-melting existential ride! WE HAVE A GIFT FOR OUR LISTENERS! Walking Meditation Storytime Journal Prompt Sheet RATE, REVIEW + FOLLOW US: IG @howtobreal TikTok @howtobreal YouTube @HowToBReal PERSONALS:...
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Which You Is The REAL You?
Figuring out what the group chat in our heads is actually trying to tell us... WE HAVE A GIFT FOR OUR LISTENERS! Walking Meditation Storytime Journal Prompt Sheet RATE, REVIEW + FOLLOW US: IG @howtobreal TikTok @howtobreal YouTube @HowToBReal PERSONALS: Tasha's IG @thetashab Tay's IG @justsay_tay...
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Letters to Our Daughters
Our future baby girls will be prepared AF for this hellscape of a world...fingers crossed! lol WE HAVE A GIFT FOR OUR LISTENERS! Walking Meditation Storytime Journal Prompt Sheet RATE, REVIEW + FOLLOW US: IG @howtobreal TikTok @howtobreal YouTube @HowToBReal PERSONALS: Tasha's IG @thetashab Tay's...
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I Don't Like That...
Habits we're breaking in 2025, what gets on our nerves, and bringing more balance into our discipline practice WE HAVE A GIFT FOR OUR LISTENERS! Walking Meditation Storytime Journal Prompt Sheet RATE, REVIEW + FOLLOW US: IG @howtobreal TikTok @howtobreal YouTube @HowToBReal PERSONALS: Tasha's IG...
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Our 2024 Recap
This year gave us new perspectives and a few WTF moments—let’s get into it! RATE, REVIEW + FOLLOW US: IG @howtobreal TikTok @howtobreal YouTube @HowToBReal PERSONALS: Tasha's IG @thetashab Tay's IG @justsay_tay SEND US A LISTENER LETTER: [email protected] This is a public episode. If you...
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Promises, Pressure, and Pop Culture
We’re getting real about what commitment means in our lives, relationships, and work—plus a little yap sesh about Jay-Z’s drama, the UnitedHealthcare CEO, and the iconic Nikki Giovanni. RATE, REVIEW + FOLLOW US: IG @howtobreal TikTok @howtobreal YouTube @HowToBReal PERSONALS: Tasha's IG…
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Cuffing Szn + Seasonal Depression
Does cuffing season cause S.A.D. or maybe it's the other way around? Let's get into it! ALSO we hope to see you at our Trivia Night to celebrate 1 year of the HTBR podcast! You can get tickets + details HERE RATE, REVIEW + FOLLOW US: IG https://www.instagram.com/howtobreal/ TikTok...
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Imposter Syndrome
No, you're not an imposter. But yes, you might feel like it lol FOLLOW US: HTBR IG https://www.instagram.com/howtobreal/ HTBR TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@howtobreal PERSONALS: Tasha's IG https://www.instagram.com/thetashab/ Tay's IG https://www.instagram.com/justsay_tay/ SEND US A LISTENER...
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Convo with a Therapist Ft. LaVontae Hill
From the loneliness epidemic in the U.S. to guilty pleasures, motivational speaker, social worker, and therapist LaVontae Hill joins the show! FOLLOW US: HTBR IG https://www.instagram.com/howtobreal/ HTBR TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@howtobreal PERSONALS: Tasha's IG...
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Limiting Beliefs
Diving deep into the thoughts that hold us back + what we do to shake it off This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit howtobreal.substack.com
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ABOUT THIS SHOW
Join besties, Tasha B and Taylor for the ultimate lifestyle podcast. Every other Friday they host candid chats about life experiences, wellness tips, therapy insights, pop culture, and of course how to be REAL in a world obsessed with the fake. Follow along as Tasha, the actor, model, director, and writer, and Taylor, the social media guru and overall creative, serve up divine realness. And remember: they’re not therapists…they just have them! Get Connected: IG + TikTok - @HowToBReal IG - @TheTashaB IG - @Justsay_TaySend us an email: [email protected]
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