I Forgot to Tell You Something

Just when you think you’ve figured out how to manage your ADHD... life throws you a baby, and suddenly none of it works anymore. The routines? Gone. The sleep? Ha. The coping strategies? LOL. In this episode, Ron shares what happened when parenthood bulldozed the systems he and his partner had spent years building—and how they’re starting to put things back together.In this episode, Liz asks what’s changed, what’s fallen apart, and how Ron and his partner Gwen (who also has ADHD) are trying to put things back together. They talk about memory blackouts, motivation crashes, relationship friction, and why every baby task seems to come with its own moral panic and spreadsheet.They also break down what happens when both people in a relationship are running on empty, and how they’re slowly finding their way back with messy routines, flexible expectations, and the return of the "team meeting."For ADHD listeners:What do you do when all your usual supports (like sleep, exercise, structure) disappear overnight?How do you stop arguments that are actually just two people with different values and no bandwidth?Why is motivation so much harder when something feels illogical or pointless—and what can you try instead?What kind of low-effort “reset” routines can help you feel more human again, even in the chaos?Like what you're hearing? Hooray!~ Follow Ron on all the things , @adhd_ron, adhdcoachron ~ ~ Follow Liz on all the things @lizwelshman_adhd, lizwelshman.com ~~ Keep up to date with our podcast @iforgotpod, iforgottotellyou~

We're back after a little hiatus after a not so little event: Ron became a Dad! We're talking today about how Ron's adjusting to his new life, new family, new role, new everything! Those early newborn days are a whirlwind for any new parent. But add ADHD in the mix and the experience can be truly disorienting. Sleepless nights, upside down routines, and a fresh array of intense emotions leave ADHD mums and dads wondering: "Who am I? And tf just happened to me?!"In today's episode, Ron (our new rad dad) and Liz talk:Ron's new role as a father and the impact it has on his ADHD symptomsthe struggle of finding time for self-carecoping with the uncertainty and anxiety that comes with parenting (hint: it doesn't go away!)the overwhelming nature of parenting, the fear of making mistakes, and the pressure to do everything rightthe need to develop new ADHD coping strategies to adapt to a new life as a parent.how to create open communication and support between partners - crucial to navigating the difficulties of parentingCongratulations Ron and Gwen! And to all ADHD parents, new and not so new, we thing you're bloody awesome.Like what you're hearing? Hooray!~ Follow Ron on all the things , @adhd_ron, adhdcoachron ~ ~ Follow Liz on all the things @lizwelshman_adhd, lizwelshman.com ~~ Keep up to date with our podcast @iforgotpod, iforgottotellyou~

Ron’s fired up, people. In this episode of "I Forgot to Tell You Something," we’re hashing out the seemingly innocuous trend of framing ADHD as a "superpower." What are the complexities and potential consequences of this perspective?And why would ADHD -  a lifelong neurodevelopmental disorder - ever be called a superpower in the first place?We cover:How the superpower narrative can affect people with ADHDThe difference between toxic positivity and genuine optimismThe importance of validating real struggles faced by individuals with ADHDThe role of privilege and access resources in the superpower narrativeThe need for nuance and balanced reframing when discussing ADHDWe want to strike a balance between empowering individuals with ADHD and acknowledging the very real challenges they face. How can we sit with uncomfortable emotions and acknowledge the genuine impairments of ADHD, while also creating a spirit of optimism and hope for the amazing life that’s possible when you understand and work with ADHD?Like what you're hearing? Hooray!~ Follow Ron on all the things , @adhd_ron, adhdcoachron ~ ~ Follow Liz on all the things @lizwelshman_adhd, lizwelshman.com ~~ Keep up to date with our podcast @iforgotpod, iforgottotellyou~

It's the question that has well-intended ADHD parents shaking in their boots: what's the right way to tell my kid about their ADHD?  When our kids are newly diagnosed with ADHD and we're navigating our own feelings around what it means for them, it's no wonder having these conversations feel scary.In this episode of I Forgot, Ron and Liz dive into the often anxiety-inducing topic and offer some hope for reassurance for parents who are desperately just trying to do the right thing. We're addressing head-on the common (and understandable!) fears we hear from parents:I don't want to burden my kid with an unhelpful label!How can I help them feel empowered and hopeful?I don't want them to feel different or brokenHow much information is too much information?I don't want my kid to use their ADHD as an excuse!  An ADHD diagnosis might feel scary at first, but it doesn't have to be a big, bad monster. In fact, having open, supportive conversations can help your child feel empowered, understood and validated.You don't have to have all the answers right away, and there's a ton of resources and support to help you along the way. Remember, an ADHD diagnosis is just one part of your child's story – and with your love and support, it can be a pretty awesome one.Here are some resources for talking to your kids about ADHD at different stages:Ned Hallowell's "ADHD Brain is a Ferrari" ADDitude article RaceCar Brain YouTubeLove Me Love My ADHD by Chrissie Davies (book aimed for kids 5-12)Explaining Brains conversation templateIf this episode struck a chord with you, why not share the love. It would mean a lot to us.*See more about this episode*Like what you're hearing? Hooray!~ Follow Ron on all the things , @adhd_ron, adhdcoachron ~ ~ Follow Liz on all the things @lizwelshman_adhd, lizwelshman.com ~~ Keep up to date with our podcast @iforgotpod, iforgottotellyou~

Full disclosure: today’s episode is a bit of a bummer. Or you could say that we have emotional range..? This episode was recorded days after a tragic attack on women in Liz’s home town, in a place where women normally feel very safe. And it put Liz right on her arse. We unpack Liz’s big emotional response to the event, and the very human drive to make sense of the senseless. The ADHD brain is wired to create narratives around our big emotional experiences. There’s no pretty way to say this: the Bondi attack put Liz on her arse. You’ll hear in real time the unhelpful judgment she heaped on her already shitty emotional experience. Our hope is that by listening to Liz and Ron process the feeling fallout that you’ll be kinder to yourself when big emotions are at the wheel. Sending lots of love to all of you, wherever you are in the world, as we all try to make sense of a world that can shake our sense of hope and fairness. If this episode struck a chord with you, why not share the love. It would mean a lot to us.*See more about this episode*Like what you're hearing? Hooray!~ Follow Ron on all the things , @adhd_ron, adhdcoachron ~ ~ Follow Liz on all the things @lizwelshman_adhd, lizwelshman.com ~~ Keep up to date with our podcast @iforgotpod, iforgottotellyou~

Big changes can be scary, especially with ADHD. It's easy to put things off and feel overwhelmed. But there are ways to get excited and prepared without all the stress.Ron is getting ready to welcome his new baby - the ultimate deadline. Everyone's got an opinion,  and there's so much stuff to do. Liz and Ron talk about how to:Find the fun in getting readyMake space for rest so you don't burn outLet go of worry and celebrate the winsStay in the moment and soak it inThe big message? Shift your mindset. Get proactive and flexible. Find joy in the journey, even when things feel uncertain. You've got this!If this episode struck a chord with you, why not share the love? It would mean a lot to us if you shared with a friend or left us a review.*See more about this episode*Like what you're hearing? Hooray!~ Follow Ron on all the things , @adhd_ron, adhdcoachron ~ ~ Follow Liz on all the things @lizwelshman_adhd, lizwelshman.com ~~ Keep up to date with our podcast @iforgotpod, iforgottotellyou~

Join us for an engaging conversation as Ron and Liz delve into the unique challenges and rewards of being an entrepreneur with ADHD. This episode offers a raw and honest look at the struggles with time management, organization, and delegation. Having a supportive community is so important! ADHDers have no problem in finding the joys in fun parts of running a business, but desperately need to outsource or get help with the not so fun parts. Imagine having a podcast producer to handle the behind-the-scenes work! *See more about this episode*Like what you're hearing? Hooray!~ Follow Ron on all the things , @adhd_ron, adhdcoachron ~ ~ Follow Liz on all the things @lizwelshman_adhd, lizwelshman.com ~~ Keep up to date with our podcast @iforgotpod, iforgottotellyou~

Diane McLean is a bonafide legend of the ADHD coaching world. She's a pioneer of kid coaching and a champion of focusing on strengths rather than deficits. Now she's got that ADHD itch for the next challenge: to help coaches, leaders and parents understand why a neurodiversity lens matters. Diane breaks down the fears parents face when raising ADHD kids and why believing them and meeting kids where they're at is so powerful. No two brains are alike, and we all benefit from understanding our unique brain wiring. Diane's on a mission to spread the word about strengths-based approaches, and how we can empowering ourselves to own and navigate our challenges. She believes all coaches have something to learn from the ADHD coaching world and the fine art of meeting individuals where they are. Diane shares tips on how to truly listen and wraps up with a discussion on being 'twice exceptional'. *See more about this episode*Like what you're hearing? Hooray!~ Follow Ron on all the things , @adhd_ron, adhdcoachron ~ ~ Follow Liz on all the things @lizwelshman_adhd, lizwelshman.com ~~ Keep up to date with our podcast @iforgotpod, iforgottotellyou~

Happy Valentine’s Day, lovers! As a special treat, women’s intimacy expert Rena Martine joins us to unpack how ADHD impacts our relationships and our ability to foster intimacy. Rena Martine shares her journey from being a sex crimes deputy district attorney to becoming a certified coach and speaker.The conversation covers the impact of rejection on initiating sex, the importance of handling rejection appropriately, understanding responsive desire, dealing with low sex drive or libido, addressing the impact of trauma on sex, the need for external validation and self-validation, and connecting self-image with feeling sexy.*See more about this episode*Like what you're hearing? Hooray!~ Follow Ron on all the things , @adhd_ron, adhdcoachron ~ ~ Follow Liz on all the things @lizwelshman_adhd, lizwelshman.com ~~ Keep up to date with our podcast @iforgotpod, iforgottotellyou~

Ever wonder why you'll do anything for anyone else, but sticking to those goals that only matter to you is so bloody hard? In this episode of I Forgot To Tell You Something, Ron and Liz unpack the ADHD tendency to be externally focused and prioritise the demands of the outside world over what we really, really want. Ron and Liz cover:Why people with ADHD often find themselves swept up in the praise and validation from others, neglecting goals that truly matter.How to cultivate loops of self-approval and stamps of validation for personal progressHow to loosen your grasp on outcomes and unlock your feel-good chemistry by discovering novel means to savor the journey, not just the destinationHow to slice ambitions into crystal clear, uncomplicated chunks that you directly assign yourself, much like others portion directives for our platesWhy leaning on being a bit weird when modeling motivational self-talk and strategies can lighten the sting of everyday strugglesHow to focus presence and prevent setbacks from dampening your spirit for too longWhy culpability isn't a sustainable motivator long-term. Identify healthier incentives to replace guilt's ineffective grip.*See more about this episode*Like what you're hearing? Hooray!~ Follow Ron on all the things , @adhd_ron, adhdcoachron ~ ~ Follow Liz on all the things @lizwelshman_adhd, lizwelshman.com ~~ Keep up to date with our podcast @iforgotpod, iforgottotellyou~

And what is going on with ADHD meds shortages? It's holidays, and Ron and Liz are cranky. Prepare to arm yourself for unsolicited advice from friends and family, and those off hand comments that can really sting: "everyone is a bit ADHD these days" "why don't you get a planner" "have you tried setting reminders?" "adhd stimulants are just legalised m*th!"*See more about this episode*Like what you're hearing? Hooray!~ Follow Ron on all the things , @adhd_ron, adhdcoachron ~ ~ Follow Liz on all the things @lizwelshman_adhd, lizwelshman.com ~~ Keep up to date with our podcast @iforgotpod, iforgottotellyou~

Ever wondered "Who am I to......" start a business? Write that book? Apply for a big promotion? Imposter syndrome is something everyone experiences every now and then, but particularly plagues ADHDers. Liz and Ron share their experiences with imposter syndrome, fear of failure and what they notice in their amazing ADHD coaching clients. Discover how for some, especially those with ADHD, feelings of self-doubt and inadequacy may serve as a maladaptive coping strategy, activating hyperfocus to avoid failure. But hear how over time, this strategy can lose effectiveness and hold you back from new opportunities. Learn tangible tips used by the hosts to overcome imposter voices - reframing mistakes as lessons learned, separating unhelpful thoughts from feelings, and calming jittery nerves. Walk away feeling seen and with strategies to trust in your abilities and push past fears. Hear examples of how even minor successes build confidence over months and years. Gain inspiration from Ron's ongoing quest to take risks outside his comfort zone. Proof that with the right mindset, you can grow to accept discomfort as part of the process.*See more about this episode*Like what you're hearing? Hooray!~ Follow Ron on all the things , @adhd_ron, adhdcoachron ~ ~ Follow Liz on all the things @lizwelshman_adhd, lizwelshman.com ~~ Keep up to date with our podcast @iforgotpod, iforgottotellyou~

A diagnosis of ADHD in adulthood brings an avalanche of different emotions – grief of lost opportunities, relief to have found answers, and flat out anger. In this conversation, Ron and Liz explore the emotional ups and downs of a late ADHD diagnosis. Getting an ADHD diagnosis as an adult can be a validating experience and the start of a journey of self-discovery and growth. It’s important to practice self-compassion and challenge negative self-talk, recognizing that ADHD is not a personal failing but a neurological difference. Leveraging strengths and focusing on what you are good at can help you navigate challenges and achieve success. Letting go of the need for perfection and reframing the narrative around ADHD can lead to greater self-acceptance and a more positive outlook on life.If this episode struck a chord with you, why not share the love? It would mean a lot to us if you shared with a friend or left us a review.*See more about this episode*Like what you're hearing? Hooray!~ Follow Ron on all the things , @adhd_ron, adhdcoachron ~ ~ Follow Liz on all the things @lizwelshman_adhd, lizwelshman.com ~~ Keep up to date with our podcast @iforgotpod, iforgottotellyou~

Self-care when you have ADHD can feel like another job on a long list of "shoulds". In this episode of "I Forgot to Tell You Something," Ron and Liz explore some of the challenges with getting supportive self care practices off the ground when ADHD overwhelm is running the show. Dive into the nuanced aspects of self-care beyond the surface:understanding what you need and what works for youfostering self-compassionestablishing boundariesgetting ok with disappointing people - yikes!knowing when you're at breaking point and interveningseeking out those moments of relaxation, and tolerating the guilt monsterIf you struggle with straddling that tricky balance between consistency and persistence in ADHD self-care practices, this episode is for you.*See more about this episode*Like what you're hearing? Hooray!~ Follow Ron on all the things , @adhd_ron, adhdcoachron ~ ~ Follow Liz on all the things @lizwelshman_adhd, lizwelshman.com ~~ Keep up to date with our podcast @iforgotpod, iforgottotellyou~

Welcome to “I forgot to tell you something”, the podcast here to give you hugs and sometimes help when life and ADHD collide. Join ADHD coaches Ron Capalbo and Liz Welshman as they unpack the real life challenges of ADHD. Ron and Liz are both ADHDers buzzing real time through their own ups, downs and half finished ideas. So when it comes to life with ADHD, they’ve almost seen, heard or overreacted to it all. They're unshockable, mostly unstoppable and they want you to know that - whatever ADHD is throwing at you right now - you’re not alone.*See more about this episode* Like what you're hearing? Hooray!~ Follow Ron on all the things , @adhd_ron, adhdcoachron ~ ~ Follow Liz on all the things @lizwelshman_adhd, lizwelshman.com ~~ Keep up to date with our podcast @iforgotpod, iforgottotellyou~