I Have Sh_t to Say

Quick programming note before we dive in: our producer Brian is clearing his throat a little more than usual this episode — he was just getting over a cold, not staging a coup. Please excuse the frog. This week our usual producer steps out from behind the camera and onto the couch. Brian Prairie (Raven Spring Media) sits down with Megan to tell the story he's only ever alluded to before: the toxic 50/50 business partnership that ended in locked bank accounts, middle-of-the-night accusations, lawyers, and an actual FBI visit. From there, Megan and Brian dig into the murky difference between a trauma bond and a shared value, why "begin with the end in mind" is advice everyone gets and nobody follows, and why money isn't the problem — misaligned values about money are. Guest producer Jake LaMore of the "This One Time in Kankakee" podcast sits in for check-in, and yes, we do eventually explain what "poop on the Prada" means. Key Timestamps[00:00] Intro & Meet Guest Producer Jake LaMore[04:51] Check-In Question: What Would Your Autobiography Be Titled?[10:10] Brian Introduces Himself: Raven Spring Media & Working With Megan[14:47] The Toxic Business Partnership: Fraud, the FBI, and Burnout[21:28] Trauma Bond, Shared Goal, or Shared Value? How to Tell the Difference[32:05] The Business Divorce: Lawyers, Lockouts & Betrayal[39:25] When Money Becomes the Value (And Why That's Not the Problem)[47:32] Why Do We Expect Jobs — and Relationships — to Always Feel Good?[49:16] The "Poop on the Prada" Test: Wash It or Toss It?[55:01] Hernan's Dog Poop Metaphor for Toxic Relationships[56:40] Ship vs. Sh*t: One Letter Makes All the Difference[1:00:27] Final Takeaway: Begin With the End in Mind Standout Quotes"Toxic leaders create an entire culture that supports toxic leadership." — Megan "If there was a mistake to be made, I made it — and then I learned not to do it." — Brian "Is the blowout bad enough that you throw it away, or do you wash it? That's the sh*t metaphor for every relationship in your life." — Megan "A ship can definitely turn into sh*t. The only difference is one letter." — Megan Therapist's Toolkit3 Partnership Questions:1. Do I actually know the difference between a goal I share with this person and a value I share with them?2. Have we talked about "the end" before we began — what happens if this doesn't work out?3. Is this a fixable blowout, or is it time to throw the onesie away? ResourcesThis One Time in Kankakee — https://thisonetimeinkankakee.buzzsprout.com/ — Jake LaMore's storytelling podcast on the WVLI Podcast NetworkThe Art of Gathering by Priya Parker — https://www.priya-parker.com/the-art-of-gathering — source of the "check-in question" format Megan references Crisis Support988 - Suicide & Crisis LifelineText HOME to 741741 - Crisis Text Line Find a Therapist:Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/usRise & Thrive Wellness: https://riseandthrivewellness.net/ Connect With UsEmail: [email protected]: @ihavesh_ttosayTikTok: IHaveSh_tToSay CreditsHost: Megan Campbell, LCPC, ATR-BCGuest: Brian T Prairie, Raven Spring MediaGuest Producer: Jake LaMore, This One Time in KankakeeProducer: Brian T PrairieOperations Manager: MacKenzie Cloy New episodes every two weeks on Tuesdays DisclaimerThis podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health treatment. If you are in crisis, please contact 988 or text HOME to 741741.

Content note: religious trauma and coercive control, with a brief, non-graphic mention of a real criminal case involving child sexual abuse material.Jay from the Pinkpill Rx podcast joins Megan solo to finally tell the full story: walking into a "church" at 18 and not walking out for almost a decade. They break down how it happened — isolation from family and friends, a schedule built to consume every free hour, tithing and labor that drained him dry, and a leader who literally ordained himself an elder in his own bathtub. Plus: what actually separates religion from a cult, what happened when the group collapsed, Adlerian psychology, who really holds power, Megan's own deconstruction story, and why rage letters and screaming into a lake are underrated coping tools.KEY TIMESTAMPS0:00 Welcome Back, Jay2:25 The Unread Email Game9:07 The Doom Basket Hack10:53 Age 18: Walking Into a High-Control Church14:59 Chasing Something That Felt Real17:09 First Red Flags: Dress Codes and Targeted Sermons19:29 Cut Off From Family and Friends21:14 A Schedule Built to Own You22:31 Tithing, Labor, and Financial Abuse23:21 Where Religion Ends and a Cult Begins33:12 What His Parents Got Wrong37:33 How the Group Fell Apart40:10 The Arrest44:41 Self-Ordained in His Bathtub48:44 Purpose, Power, and Adlerian Psychology1:03:20 Who Actually Has the Power1:11:03 Rage Letters and Screaming It Out1:19:38 The Big Takeaway: Someone to Leave ToSTANDOUT QUOTES"The only difference between organized religion and a cult is the ability to ask questions.""He was never ordained an elder anywhere — he ordained himself in his bathtub at home.""Love someone so fiercely when they're leaning into toxic stuff that they always have someone to leave to."THERAPIST'S TOOLKIT1. When I ask hard questions in my relationships, groups, or workplace, am I met with real answers — or with guilt, silence, or punishment?2. Do the people closest to me have their own longstanding relationships outside of me, or have those slowly disappeared?3. If someone I love needs to leave a person, group, or situation, have I stayed close enough that they have somewhere to go?RESOURCESInternational Cultic Studies Association: internationalculticstudies.orgSpiritual Abuse Resources: spiritualabuseresources.comPinkpill Rx with Katie & Jay Fillmore: open.spotify.com/show/17IElgp7KjoyjS1mXvUq9wCRISIS SUPPORT988 – Suicide & Crisis Lifeline (call, text, or chat)Text HOME to 741741 – Crisis Text LineFind a Therapist: Psychology Today – psychologytoday.com/usCONNECT WITH USEmail: [email protected]: @ihavesh_ttosayTikTok: IHaveSh_tToSayCREDITSHost: Megan Campbell, LCPC, ATR-BCGuest: Jay Fillmore (Pinkpill Rx)Producer: Brian T PrairieOperations Manager: MacKenzie CloyDISCLAIMERThis podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health treatment. If you are in crisis, call or text 988, or text HOME to 741741.New episodes every two weeks on Tuesdays.

What happens when the therapist becomes the client? Megan sits down with Katie and Jay Fillmore — married almost eight years and co-hosts of the podcast Pinkpill Rx — for a couple's-eye view of what it's actually like to sit on the other side of the couch. They get into somatic therapy and Internal Family Systems, how Jay went from "what is this witchcraft" to a full IFS convert, how chronic pain sometimes lives in the body and not just the diagnosis, and how patriarchy screws over men's emotional lives too. Plus: AOL Instant Messenger usernames, teased episodes on cults and divorce, and why "fine" might be the most disconnected word in the English language.Key Timestamps[00:00] Cold Open[00:45] Meet Katie & Jay Fillmore (Pinkpill Rx)[04:14] Fun Question: Your First IM Username[08:10] Setting the Stage: Life on the Other Side of the Couch[09:02] Katie's Origin Story: Divorce, Deconstruction & Finding Therapy[11:21] The Confrontation That Changed Everything[12:49] Discovering Somatic Therapy & IFS[13:54] Getting Diagnosed: ADHD and Autism[15:02] How Do You Know When Therapy Is "Enough"?[19:15] Jay's Conversion: "What Is This Witchcraft?"[21:15] Why Men Get Disconnected From Their Bodies[24:58] Patriarchy Hurts Men Too[28:39] Making Room for Men on the Couch[32:11] Richard Schwartz, IFS & the Local Connection[34:14] Jay's Story: Chronic Pain and the Body Keeping Score[36:23] Pain vs. Suffering: The Story We Tell[44:17] Therapy Is Art, Not Just Science[45:09] Psychiatrist vs. Psychologist vs. Counselor, Explained[52:25] What to Look for in a TherapistStandout Quotes"Fine is the quickest way to disconnect your head from your body.""Suffering is the story. Pain is the physical sensation.""Patriarchy isn't a gender. It's harmful to both men and women, and we both perpetuate it and don't even realize it.""Any therapist that doesn't think they're changed by their clients is delusional."Therapist's Toolkit3 Questions for Where You're At in Therapy:Have I hit a wall with my therapist — and is that my wall or theirs?When something hurts, am I responding to the physical sensation, or to the story I've attached to it?Have I actually told my therapist what I need (silence, being called out, someone who gets how my brain works) instead of hoping they'll guess?ResourcesPinkpill Rx on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/lk/podcast/pinkpill-rx/id1777720717 | @pinkpill_podcast (Instagram): https://www.instagram.com/pinkpill_podcast/IFS Institute: https://ifs-institute.com/ — Richard Schwartz & Internal Family SystemsFull Catastrophe Living by Jon Kabat-Zinn: https://jonkabat-zinn.com/book/full-catastrophe-livingusing-the-wisdom-of-your-body-and-mind-to-face-stress-pain-and-illness-second-edition-revised-and-updated/Brené Brown: https://brenebrown.com/ — on shame and vulnerabilityCrisis Support988 - Suicide & Crisis LifelineText HOME to 741741 - Crisis Text LineFind a Therapist:Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us | Rise & Thrive Wellness: https://riseandthrivewellness.net/Connect📧 [email protected]📱 @ihavesh_ttosay (Instagram) | IHaveSh_tToSay (TikTok)Host: Megan Campbell, LCPC, ATR-BCGuests: Katie & Jay Fillmore (Pinkpill Rx)Producer: Brian T PrairieOperations Manager: MacKenzie Cloy  New episodes every two weeks on Tuesdays

Megan and producer Brian ditch the guest couch and get back to the OG duo for a no-holds-barred conversation about rage. Not irritation, not mild annoyance—rage, the top-of-the-line, burns-hot end of the anger spectrum. Why are we so afraid of it? And who gets permission to be angry, versus who gets called "bossy," "intimidating," or worse for the exact same energy?Megan pushes back on the therapy gospel that anger always "covers" something deeper, makes the case that anger can sit right alongside hurt and sadness as its own valid feeling, and breaks down the idea that a feeling without a story attached only lasts about 90 seconds. Plus: gray rocking, rage rooms, rage walks, and why everyone needs a hype playlist.Key Timestamps[00:00] Back to the OG Duo: Today's Topic Is Rage [01:11] Check-In: What's Your Rage (or Hype) Song? [07:53] Rage vs. Anger—It's a Spectrum [10:46] The Myth That Anger Always Covers Something [12:32] "Bossy," "Intimidating" & the Gendered Weight of Anger [15:31] Underneath vs. Alongside: What If Anger Is the Root? [18:35] Rage as Trapped Energy & Primal Release [21:30] Anger Management & "Whose Problem Is My Anger?" [23:33] The How We Feel App & Naming Emotions [25:05] Weaponizing Feelings & Power Structures [28:11] The 90-Second Rule & Gray Rocking [33:35] Tools: Journaling, Rage Walks & Releasing Safely Standout Quotes"A feeling without a story lasts 90 seconds.""What if anger is the root? What if, next to anger, I'm also sad and hurt at the same time—and they're equal, and there's not one underneath?""Do they have issues with anger, or is them being angry causing you issues?"Therapist's Toolkit3 Reflection Questions:1. When I feel anger or rage, what story am I attaching to it—and what changes if I let the feeling move through in 90 seconds instead of feeding the narrative?2. Do I treat my anger as a mask for something "deeper," or can I let it stand alongside hurt, sadness, or frustration as valid on its own?3. Where can I release this energy safely and non-traumatically—a rage walk, a playlist, journaling, a scream—instead of turning it inward or onto someone else?Resources- [How We Feel App](https://howwefeel.org/) — free emotion-tracking and regulation tool (iOS & Android) from Marc Brackett and the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence- Permission to Feel by Marc Brackett — the book behind the emotional-intelligence work referenced in this episode- Rage & Hype Playlist picks: Rage Against the Machine, "Bulls on Parade" · Gloria Gaynor, "I Will Survive" · Paramore, "Misery Business" · Big SeanCrisis Support988 - Suicide & Crisis Lifeline (call or text) Text HOME to 741741 - Crisis Text Line Find a Therapist:**[Psychology Today](https://www.psychologytoday.com/us) | [Rise & Thrive Wellness](https://riseandthrivewellness.net/)Connect With Us📧 [email protected] 📱 @ihavesh_ttosay (Instagram) | IHaveSh_tToSay (TikTok)CreditsHost: Megan Campbell, LCPC, ATR-BC Executive Producer:** Brian T Prairie Operations Manager: MacKenzie Cloy DisclaimerThis podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health treatment, diagnosis, or advice. If this episode brought up something you'd like to explore more deeply on a one-on-one basis, or you're experiencing a mental health crisis, please see the resources above.New episodes every two weeks on Tuesdays at 6am

CONTENT WARNING: This episode covers pregnancy loss, infant loss, stillbirth, and postpartum mental health, including intrusive thoughts and suicidal ideation. Please listen in a safe space and skip ahead if you need to. This is the first of a short series on these topics. "They tell you to have a baby and then go home like everything is normal after 24 hours." This week Megan sits down with Lindsay, a therapist with nearly two decades of experience who is certified in perinatal and postpartum mental health, for an honest, unfiltered conversation about what women's mental health really looks like around pregnancy, birth, and loss. Lindsay shares her own experience of a stillbirth at 41 weeks, and together they take apart the "you'll be fine in six weeks" myth, the postpartum conditions no one names out loud, the cruelty of well-meaning comments, and what it actually takes to support someone through it. Heavy, real, and occasionally very funny anyway. KEY TIMESTAMPS[00:23] Meet Lindsay + the trigger warning[00:53] Off-the-wall check-in: the Real Housewives detour[10:10] Why October matters, and Lindsay's stillbirth at 41 weeks[10:57] "Women's health is fucked": the 24-hour, six-week myth[16:35] "Baby blues," the DSM gap, and the postpartum spectrum[17:56] Postpartum anxiety, depression, OCD, and psychosis[21:08] The questions people think they're allowed to ask women[23:24] Disenfranchised grief and the everyday triggers[26:45] The "hierarchy" of loss, and why it isn't one[30:00] Choosing a provider: medication, PMDD, specialized care[33:33] Pregnancy: don't stop therapy; build your village[36:23] Learning to notice a thought as just a thought[37:50] "Getting your pink back": what's beyond normal[40:11] Dads and partners: their lives change too[45:23] Rainbow babies, phantom limbs, and the things people say[48:09] The grandmother in the store, and the power of an apology[1:00:27] Key takeaways: how to actually show up for someone STANDOUT QUOTES"My body is no longer my body. It has done this thing." "Six weeks is a long time to not sleep, to feel concerned about your baby dying." "I'm still a human being. I can be happy for you and be sad for me." "It's a loss. It doesn't have to be one person sadder than the other." THERAPIST'S TOOLKITThree things to sit with this week:1. After a hard experience around birth or loss, am I letting myself feel both grief and joy, or forcing an "either/or"?2. Do I have a safe person who asks "how are you?" and actually waits for the honest answer?3. When a distressing thought shows up, can I notice it as a thought rather than a fact about who I am? RESOURCES- Postpartum Support International (PSI) HelpLine: call or text 1-800-944-4773. Support and referrals in English and Spanish. This is a warmline, not a crisis line; messages are returned daily. postpartum.net- National Maternal Mental Health Hotline: call or text 1-833-852-6262 (1-833-TLC-MAMA). Free, confidential, 24/7 for pregnant and new parents.- Find a perinatal mental health specialist: PSI provider directory at postpartum.net- Rise & Thrive Wellness: riseandthrivewellness.net CRISIS SUPPORT- 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: call or text 988- Crisis Text Line: text HOME to 741741- If you or someone else is in immediate danger, call 911 CONNECT WITH USEmail: [email protected]: @ihavesh_ttosayTikTok: IHaveSh_tToSay CREDITSHost: Megan Campbell, LCPC, ATR-BCExecutive Producer: Brian T PrairieOperations Manager: MacKenzie CloyGuest: Lindsay Mathews, Rise & Thrive Wellness, certified in perinatal & postpartum mental health New episodes every two weeks on Tuesdays at 5am. DISCLAIMERThis podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for therapy or professional mental health care. Listening does not create a therapeutic relationship. If you are struggling, please reach out to a licensed provider or one of the resources above.

Ten episodes in, and we're celebrating with one of Megan's oldest friends — her former intern turned 17-year ride-or-die. Today's conversation is deeply personal and wildly relatable: female friendships. Why are they so hard? Why do they fall apart? And what does it actually take to make one last?Megan and guest Carissa dig into the power dynamics that shape how women are taught to "be nice" instead of honest, why unspoken expectations quietly destroy friendships, and what it really means to show up — not just for the parties, but for all the messy, hard, non-Instagrammable stuff. Plus: Enneagram 2s and 8s in the wild, reciprocity as a litmus test, transactional vs. relational, and why trying to be everyone's friend might be the thing keeping you from your actual people.Whether you've lost a friendship you didn't see coming, stayed too long in one that wasn't working, or have a person who has seen every version of you — this one is for you.Key Timestamps[00:00] Intro: 10 Episodes In — New Logo, New Mugs, Same Chaos[14:19] Welcome & Apologies to Barbie (and Bonnie)[32:46] Meet Carissa: 17 Years, One File Cabinet Incident[39:35] Why Female Friendships Are Hard[41:34] Enneagram 2s & 8s: When Opposites Actually Work[43:02] Power Dynamics: From Intern to BFF[46:43] Access & Effort — Why Friendships Fade[47:52] Expectations: The Hidden Friendship Killer[54:00] Transactional vs. Relational Friendships[58:30] Multiple Versions of Yourself, Same Core Person[01:01:43] "I Got It Wrong" & Masking in Friendships[01:10:50] Red Flags in Hindsight[01:17:44] Reciprocity Test: Are They Asking About You?[01:24:32] Takeaways: Show Up, Be Yourself, Accept the ShiftStandout Quotes"If I'm actively trying to be this way or mask and do X, Y, Z — it's never going to work. It's going to be the worst.""If you only want to show up to somebody's parties, you're not friends. You also have to wallow with them.""You get what you put in. You have to actively choose to be a part of what you want to be a part of."Therapist's Toolkit3 Friendship Checkup Questions:1. Are my expectations spoken out loud, or am I waiting for the other person to just know?2. Is this friendship relational — or has it become transactional without me noticing?3. Am I showing up as myself, or am I masking to keep this person comfortable?ResourcesEnneagram InstitutePsychology Today — Adult Friendships ResearchLevel Up LeadersCrisis Support988 - Suicide Prevention LifelineText HOME to 741741 - Crisis Text LineFind a Therapist: Psychology Today | SAMHSA Treatment LocatorVerify Credentials: Check your state's professional licensing board websiteConnect With UsHave a topic you want us to cover? Questions about friendships or other mental health topics? We'd love to hear from you!* Submit topic ideas: [email protected]* Follow us: * Instagram: @ihavesh_ttosay * TikTok: IHaveSh_tToSay * YouTube: www.youtube.com/@ihavesh_ttosay* Rate & Review: Help others find the podcast by leaving a reviewCreditsPodcast Host: Megan Campbell, LCPC, ATR-BCPodcast Guest: Carissa Tonner Podcast Executive Producer: Brian T PrairiePodcast Operations Manager: MacKenzie CloyNew episodes drop every two weeks on Tuesday mornings at 5 am. Subscribe so you never miss an episode!Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health treatment. If you're in crisis or need personalized support, please contact a licensed mental health professional.

We throw the word "community" around a lot. But do we actually know how to build it — or what's getting in our way? In this first-ever two-guest episode, Megan sits down with two powerhouse community builders, Barbi Watson and Becca Parks, for a real conversation about what community means, why so many of us are quietly lonely, and what it actually takes to find your people.They dig into the difference between showing up online versus showing up in real life, why introverts and extroverts need community differently (but equally), how emotional intelligence is the backbone of any real connection, and when community turns toxic. Plus: a frank conversation about conflict, accountability, and why being "nice" might be the thing destroying your community from the inside out.Less civility, more vulnerability — this episode is for you.Key Timestamps[00:00] Welcome & Introducing the Two Bees — Barbi Watson and Becca Parks[02:19] Check-In Question: Wild Notes on Our Phones[09:20] What Community Actually Means to Each of Them[13:50] Barbi Watson on Connection, Resources & Building Your Self-Care Team[15:24] Becca on Showing Up, Social Justice Book Club & Kankakee[17:49] Do We Actually Need Community? (The Introvert/Extrovert Debate)[23:55] Energy Givers, Energy Vampires & the Neutrals[26:09] Community-Building Tips for Introverts[29:44] Emotional Intelligence as the Foundation of Real Connection[33:37] When Community Becomes Toxic — Conflict, Power & Accountability[43:14] Nice vs. Kind, Running Out of F*cks & Older Women Who Know[51:30] Personal Responsibility, Shame & Naming What You Feel[58:30] Self-Compassion, Boundaries & Owning Your Shit[01:03:34] Takeaways: Know Your Strengths, Ask for Help & Start with the Emotion WheelStandout Quotes"Less civility, more vulnerability. Let's stop being civil and stop being nice. Let's start being real with each other.""You are one person away from something amazing. That's how I feel about it.""Your gifts are not everybody else's gifts. Know your strengths, know your weaknesses, and find people whose strengths fill in where yours don't."Therapist's Toolkit3 Community Questions:1. Am I isolating because I need rest — or because I'm afraid to be seen?2. Who in my life gives me energy, and who drains it? Am I being intentional about both?3. When I show up in conflict, is my goal to be understood — or to change someone else's behavior?ResourcesHow We Feel App (free emotional check-in tool — all 52 emotions, shareable with your community)Emotion WheelRise & Thrive Wellness Events — riseandthrivewellness.netCrisis Support988 - Suicide Prevention LifelineText HOME to 741741 - Crisis Text LineFind a Therapist: Psychology Today | SAMHSA Treatment LocatorRise & Thrive Wellness: riseandthrivewellness.netConnect With UsHave a topic you want us to cover? Questions about community or other mental health topics? We'd love to hear from you!* Submit topic ideas: [email protected]* Follow us: * Instagram: @ihavesh_ttosay * TikTok: IHaveSh_tToSay * YouTube: www.youtube.com/@ihavesh_ttosay* Rate & Review: Help others find the podcast by leaving a reviewCreditsPodcast Host: Megan Campbell, LCPC, ATR-BCPodcast Executive Producer: Brian T PrairiePodcast Operations Manager: MacKenzie CloyNew episodes drop every two weeks on Tuesday mornings at 5 am. Subscribe so you never miss an episode!Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health treatment. If you're in crisis or need personalized support, please contact a licensed mental health professional.

Everyone talks about drama like it's something that just happens to them. But what if you're in it — and you don't even know it? In this solo episode, Megan breaks down the Karpman Drama Triangle (also called the Victim Triangle), the psychological model that explains how we all get pulled into cycles of conflict, codependency, and dysfunction — at work, at home, and everywhere in between. Megan unpacks the three roles of the triangle — Victim, Hero (Rescuer), and Persecutor — and why no one stays stuck in just one. She connects it all to codependency, extrinsic vs. intrinsic motivation, people pleasing, passive aggression, and the surprising link to how you order your eggs. Plus: what the Four Agreements have to do with getting out of the triangle for good. If you've ever wondered how you keep ending up in toxic jobs, exhausting relationships, or drama you swore you wouldn't create — this episode is your map out. Key Timestamps* [00:22] Welcome Back & Betrayal List Check-In Question* [09:38] Today's Topic: Drama and Codependency* [10:00] What Is the Karpman Drama Triangle?* [11:30] The Three Roles: Victim, Hero, and Persecutor* [13:22] How the Roles Shift — and Why No One Stays Put* [15:15] When the Hero Becomes the Persecutor* [16:48] Breaking the Cycle: How to Turn Internal* [18:11] Codependency vs. Anti-Dependency — Two Sides of the Same Coin* [21:15] Helping vs. People Pleasing: What's the Difference?* [24:41] The Runaway Bride Problem: Losing Yourself to Your Environment* [30:05] Codependency in Two Umbrellas (The One Most People Miss)* [32:00] Passive Aggression as a Triangle Trap* [35:15] From Persecutor to Passionate — Finding the Intrinsic Version of Each Role* [37:07] State vs. Trait: Knowing Yourself Well Enough to Know the Difference* [41:44] The Four Agreements and Always Doing Your Best* [45:00] The Wave Analogy and Non-Permanence Standout Quotes"If you are leaning towards being passive aggressive, you're already in the triangle." "The hero needs to feel valuable. The victim needs to be heard. The persecutor needs control. How do you meet those needs for yourself — internally?" "If I feel like I've been wronged, I don't have to be a victim. I can be a survivor, an advocate — I have a choice." Therapist's ToolkitQuestions to ask yourself when you feel pulled into drama:Am I offering help because someone asked, or because it makes me feel needed?Is my reaction coming from a value-driven place, or am I in the triangle?Am I hungry, angry, lonely, or tired right now? (HALT before responding)Do I believe I have control over what happens to me — or does life just happen to me? ResourcesKarpman Drama Triangle__ (Google: Karpman drama triangle)The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz__ (book)Runaway Bride (1999)__ — referenced as a pop culture example of losing your sense of self Crisis Support988 - Suicide Prevention LifelineText HOME to 741741 - Crisis Text Line Find a Therapist: __Psychology Today__ | __Rise & Thrive Wellness__ Connect With UsHave a topic you want us to cover? We'd love to hear from you! Submit topic ideas: [email protected] us: * Instagram: @ihavesh_ttosay * TikTok: IHaveSh_tToSay * YouTube: www.youtube.com/@ihavesh_ttosayRate & Review: Help others find the podcast by leaving a review CreditsPodcast Host: Megan Campbell, LCPC, ATR-BCPodcast Executive Producer: Brian T PrairiePodcast Operations Manager: MacKenzie Cloy New episodes drop every two weeks on Tuesday mornings at 5 am. Subscribe so you never miss an episode! Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health treatment. If you're in crisis or need personalized support, please contact a licensed mental health professional.

Self-compassion: healing framework or permission slip to stay stuck? In this episode, therapist Megan Campbell goes head-to-head (boxing gloves included) with returning guest Brittany Gregory to dig into one of the most misunderstood concepts in mental health.They break down Dr. Kristin Neff's three-part model—mindfulness, self-kindness, and common humanity—plus her newer addition: fierce self-compassion. Megan admits she has beef with the word, Brittany defends the theory, and somehow they arrive at something genuinely useful together.If you've ever rolled your eyes at self-help softness, wondered whether compassion and accountability can actually coexist, or felt like self-compassion just sounds too soft to work—this episode is for you.Key Timestamps[00:46] Intro: Raw Dogging It with Boxing Gloves On[01:13] Defining Self-Compassion: The Three Parts Breakdown[03:04] Fierce Self-Compassion: The Mama Bear Addition[05:28] Where Megan's Beef Actually Comes From[07:47] Grace vs. Accountability: The Bastardization Problem[09:18] Theory vs. Practice: What Actually Happens in Real Life[10:39] The Rainbow Gray Area (It's Not Black and White)[12:08] Is Self-Compassion a Privileged Theory?[16:06] When "Nice" Creeps Into Compassion (And Why It Shouldn't)[19:35] The Weaponization Problem: When People Use It Wrong[23:48] Fierce vs. Tender: Finding Your Balance[27:23] Yin and Yang: Why We Need Both[31:37] The Real Point: Change Yourself, Change the DynamicStandout Quotes"My self-compassion voice in my head is you a lot of the time—which is funny, because you're the one fighting me on this.""Compassion doesn't mean no accountability. You're not like, 'oh, it's fine that you suck.' That would be the first step—mindfulness—what am I actually saying to myself?""Self-compassion is the gray area. I can call it the rainbow area because that's prettier."Therapist's Toolkit Dr. Kristin Neff's 3 Components of Self-Compassion:Mindfulness — Checking in with yourself and noticing what you're feeling without getting swept up in the storySelf-Kindness — Talking to yourself the way you'd talk to a friend (not nice—kind)Common Humanity — Remembering that suffering is part of being human, not a personal failingFierce vs. Tender Self-Compassion:Tender = Internal softening; acknowledging pain without judgment, being present with struggleFierce = External action; setting boundaries, standing up for yourself, mama bear energyWho benefits most from self-compassion work? People stuck in shame spirals, perfectionists, high-anxiety individuals, and anyone who ties their worth directly to their performance or mistakes.ResourcesSelf-Compassion.org — Dr. Kristin Neff's official site with practices and videosThe Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook by Kristin Neff & Christopher GermerDr. Kristin Neff on Instagram (@neffselfcompassion)Crisis Support 988 - Suicide Prevention Lifeline Text HOME to 741741 - Crisis Text LineFind a Therapist: Psychology Today | SAMHSA Treatment LocatorVerify Credentials: Check your state's professional licensing board websiteConnect With Us Have a topic you want us to cover? Questions about self-compassion or other mental health topics? We'd love to hear from you!Submit topic ideas: [email protected] us:Instagram: @ihavesh_ttosayTikTok: IHaveSh_tToSayYouTube: www.youtube.com/@ihavesh_ttosayRate & Review: Help others find the podcast by leaving a reviewCredits Podcast Host: Megan Campbell, LCPC, ATR-BC Podcast Guest: Brittany Gregory Podcast Executive Producer: Brian T Prairie Podcast Operations Manager: MacKenzie CloyNew episodes drop every two weeks on Tuesday mornings at 5 am. Subscribe so you never miss an episode!Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health treatment. If you're in crisis or need personalized support, please contact a licensed mental health professional.

Trigger Warning: This episode covers intrusive thoughts, suicidal ideation, and mental health hospitalization. Please listen in a safe space.SHOW DESCRIPTIONIntrusive thoughts. Suicidal ideation. Two terms that get thrown around — but most people don't know what they actually mean, how they differ, or what to do when they show up. Today Megan sits down with her longtime friend and fellow art therapist Brittany to have the conversation most people are too scared to start.They unpack what intrusive thoughts really are (hint: more common than you think), why suicidal ideation isn't the same as a plan, how the mental health system sometimes does more harm than good, and why shame is the thing that keeps people most stuck. This is a real, raw, honest conversation about the stuff that lives in the quiet corners of our minds — and why talking about it is the most powerful thing you can do.If you or someone you love has ever had a thought you were afraid to say out loud — this one is for you.KEY TIMESTAMPS[00:47] Trigger Warning & Introducing Guest Brittany[04:22] What Are Intrusive Thoughts — Really?[06:48] Intrusive Thoughts vs. Suicidal Ideation: What's the Difference?[09:56] Once the Door Opens: Neural Pathways & Why the Brain Goes Back[12:13] Suicidal Ideation as Control — When It Feels Like a Trap Door[15:22] How to Respond When Someone Shares These Thoughts[16:45] 988 & When to Call vs. When to Just Listen[20:16] Hospitalization: Helpful or a Policing System?[25:36] Forced Help & Patient Autonomy[28:05] Therapists Are Human Too — Brittany & Megan Get Personal[34:20] Common Humanity: You Are Not the Only One[37:15] Takeaways: Authenticity, Safety & Finding Your PeopleSTANDOUT QUOTES"Every thought doesn't need to be held or believed. It can just be — oh, that happened — and move on.""Shame grows in secret. You don't need to live with this in secrecy.""The more honest and authentic you are with yourself, the more you attract people who won't be outraged by your thoughts."THERAPIST'S TOOLKIT3 Questions for When Your Brain Won't Quiet Down:1. Is this thought something I'm choosing to act on, or is it just a thought passing through?2. Do I have a safe person I can share this with — someone who will stay curious instead of afraid?3. Am I riding the merry-go-round, or can I notice the thought and let it pass?RESOURCES988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline — https://988lifeline.org/Crisis Text Line — Text HOME to 741741 — https://www.crisistextline.org/NAMI — National Alliance on Mental Illness — https://www.nami.org/CRISIS SUPPORT988 — Suicide & Crisis Lifeline (call or text)Text HOME to 741741 — Crisis Text LineFind a Therapist:Psychology Today — https://www.psychologytoday.com/usRise & Thrive Wellness — https://riseandthrivewellness.net/CONNECT WITH USHave a topic you want us to cover? We'd love to hear from you!📧 [email protected]📱 @ihavesh_ttosay (Instagram) | IHaveSh_tToSay (TikTok)▶️ www.youtube.com/@ihavesh_ttosayRate & Review: Help others find the podcast by leaving a reviewCREDITSHost: Megan Campbell, LCPC, ATR-BCGuest: Brittany Greggory, ATR, LPCProducer: Brian T PrairieOperations Manager: MacKenzie CloyNew episodes every two weeks on Tuesdays at 5am. Subscribe so you never miss an episode!Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health treatment. If you're in crisis or need personalized support, please contact a licensed mental health professional.

Episode 05: When the Storm Doesn't StopShow DescriptionWhen a tornado tore through their community, Megan and producer Brian didn't stick to the script — they pressed record anyway. This unplanned episode is a raw, honest conversation about what happens after the storm: the overwhelm, the decision fatigue, the coping mechanisms that aren't really working, and the mental health ripple effects that hit everyone, not just those who lost the most.Megan and Brian get real about their own not-so-great coping strategies (junk food, naps, and way too much caffeine), why your nervous system is actually doing its job when everything feels like too much, and how the Ring Theory of Support can help you figure out where you are, what you owe, and who you can actually vent to.Whether you lost everything, you're on the outer rings trying to help, or you're somewhere in the messy middle — this one's for you.Key Timestamps[00:48] Intro: Why This Episode Exists[03:52] Opening Question: What Coping Strategy Isn't Working for You Right Now?[08:53] Megan's Honest Answer: Caffeine, No Water, and Skipping Showers[10:42] Stress and the Body — Migraines, Brain Fog, and the Nervous System[14:35] Social Media, Misinformation, and Overstimulation[15:22] Are You Helping, or Centering Yourself in the Tragedy?[18:10] The Problem with Too Many Volunteers[21:32] Where Is Everyone Six Months Later? The Long Tail of Disaster[27:02] Crisis Response vs. Trauma Processing[28:30] Trauma vs. PTSD — An Important Distinction[32:23] Ring Theory of Support Explained[35:04] Comfort In, Dump Out — The Rule[37:13] Are You Giving What They Need or What You'd Want?[45:45] Ring Theory Beyond Disasters: Grief, Job Loss, Divorce, and More[47:31] Your Nervous System Is Protecting You — Get Out of the Way of Healing[51:39] Wrap-Up: Know Your Ring, Set Boundaries, Provide ComfortStandout Quotes"Helping isn't helping if it's not helpful.""Comfort flows in. Dumping flows out. That's the rule.""Your nervous system is built to protect you. Sometimes we need to get out of the way of the healing.""An intervention is only as good as the relationship."Therapist's Toolkit3 Ring Theory Questions:Where am I in the ring relative to the most affected person — and am I acting like it?Am I providing comfort in, or accidentally dumping on someone who can't hold it?Who in an outer ring can I vent to — so I can keep showing up for the people closer in?ResourcesUnited Way of Northwest Illinois — Tornado ReliefSuperior EmbroiderySAMHSA Disaster Distress Helpline — 1-800-985-5990Rise & Thrive WellnessCrisis Support988 - Suicide Prevention Lifeline Text HOME to 741741 - Crisis Text LineFind a Therapist: Psychology Today | SAMHSA Treatment LocatorVerify Credentials: Check your state's professional licensing board websiteConnect With UsHave a topic you want us to cover? Questions about community support or other mental health topics? We'd love to hear from you!Submit topic ideas: [email protected] us:Instagram: @ihavesh_ttosayTikTok: IHaveSh_tToSayYouTube: www.youtube.com/@ihavesh_ttosayRate & Review: Help others find the podcast by leaving a reviewCreditsPodcast Host: Megan Campbell, LCPC, ATR-BC Podcast Executive Producer: Brian T Prairie Podcast Operations Manager: MacKenzie CloyNew episodes drop every two weeks on Tuesday mornings at 5am. Subscribe so you never miss an episode!Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health treatment. If you're in crisis or need personalized support, please contact a licensed mental health professional.

Identity. It's not just a buzzword — it's the lens through which you experience everything. For the first time ever, Megan brings a guest to the couch: fellow therapist and president of the Kankakee Area LGBTQ Network, Matt Hedding-Hess. Together they dig into intersectionality — the idea that you're never just one thing — and why understanding the many identities that make up who you are actually matters for your mental health, your relationships, and how you move through the world.They unpack why labels exist (and why pretending we don't use them is bullshit), what privilege really means, why you can't leave parts of yourself at the door, and how co-creating safety — for yourself and others — is one of the most radical things you can do.Whether you've never thought about your own identity or you're someone who's had to fight to have yours recognized — this one is for you.Key Timestamps[00:25] Intro: Meet Guest Matt Hedding-Hess[01:08] What Is Intersectionality, Really?[03:22] Identity, Feedback & Knowing Your Core Self[04:23] Why We Label — And Why Pretending We Don't Is Bullshit[06:52] Do You Have to See a Therapist Who Looks Like You?[08:35] Safety, Not Just Similarity: What Actually Matters[09:38] Cultural Humility & the Real Harm of Getting It Wrong[13:55] Knowing Your Biases — Even As a Therapist[16:27] You Can't Leave Parts of Yourself at the Door[18:51] Co-Creating Space vs. Deciding What Space Others Get[20:10] Everyone Has a Sexual Orientation — Yes, Even You[21:37] Reflection Questions for Your Own Identity Work[24:01] Takeaways: Bring Your Whole Self — If It's SafeStandout Quotes"We are a conglomeration of lots of identities converging in one individual self.""There are 7 billion people in the world and probably 7 billion different identities.""You can't just be one thing in one place — the shit that makes me who I am at work makes me who I am everywhere.""If we all ask how do we make safety where I'm privileged, and ask for what we need — we can change a lot of shit."Therapist's Toolkit3 Identity Reflection Questions:Which identity do I think about most on a daily basis — and why?Which part of my identity do I not think about, hide, or feel shame around?How am I making space for other people's full identity wheel?ResourcesSocial Identity WheelKankakee Area LGBTQ NetworkRise & Thrive WellnessCrisis Support988 — Suicide & Crisis LifelineText HOME to 741741 — Crisis Text LineTrevor Project (LGBTQ+ Youth): 1-866-488-7386 | TrevorLifeline.orgFind a Therapist: Psychology Today | SAMHSA Treatment LocatorConnect With Us📧 [email protected] 📱 Instagram: @ihavesh_ttosay | TikTok: IHaveSh_tToSay | YouTube: www.youtube.com/@ihavesh_ttosay ⭐ Rate & review to help others find the podcast!CreditsHost: Megan Campbell, LCPC, ATR-BCGuest: Matt Hedding-Hess, Psychotherapist & President, Kankakee Area LGBTQ NetworkExecutive Producer: Brian T PrairieOperations Manager: MacKenzie CloyNew episodes every two weeks on Tuesday mornings at 5am. Subscribe so you never miss one!Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health treatment. If you're in crisis or need personalized support, please contact a licensed mental health professional.

Giving feedback, getting feedback, and figuring out which feedback actually matters — that’s what we’re unpacking today. After a week of rage texting producer Brian, Megan digs into one of the most misunderstood dynamics in any relationship: feedback. Spoiler: most of us are getting it constantly, but rarely actually receiving it.Megan and Brian break down why the best feedback is a question, not a command. Why giving feedback is a privilege. Why your opinion of someone is sometimes just... none of your business. And why knowing yourself is the only real filter that keeps you from spinning forever in a feedback loop.Whether you’re a people pleaser who feels everything personally, someone who gives feedback freely and wonders why nobody takes it, or you’re just trying to figure out which voices in your life actually deserve a seat at your table — this episode is for you.Key Timestamps[00:26] Intro: What Brought This Up (rage texts and real life)[01:55] Feedback Isn’t Just Words — It’s Avoidance, Silence, Body Language[05:15] Is This Feedback Even Yours to Give?[07:06] Best Feedback = Questions, Not Commands[08:59] Getting vs. Receiving: Two Very Different Things[10:02] Why Giving Feedback Is a Privilege[11:07] Compliments Count — And They’re Hard to Receive[14:42] Plants Grow, Humans Develop[16:32] Intrinsic vs. Extrinsic Motivation[18:51] The Invitation Framework[22:11] Change Happens in Loops, Not Leaps[25:53] Phenomenology & Shared Reality (It Gets Meta)[30:10] Knowing Yourself Is the Only Real Filter[32:44] Takeaways: Figure Out What Feedback You Actually WantStandout Quotes“Getting feedback and receiving feedback are two very different things. If I’m receiving it, there’s a space I’m taking it in — the package is being delivered and I’m opening it.”“It is a privilege to give someone feedback. It’s a privilege to share your opinion.”“If you don’t know yourself, anyone and everyone will speak into who you are.”“Plants grow. Humans develop.”Therapist’s Toolkit3 Feedback Questions:Am I getting this feedback, or am I receiving it — what’s the difference for me right now?Is this feedback mine to give, and does the other person actually want it?Am I in an echo chamber, or am I being genuinely challenged?ResourcesLevel Up Leaders⁠Enneagram Institute⁠⁠Gottman — Stonewalling & Communication⁠Crisis Support988 - Suicide Prevention LifelineText HOME to 741741 - Crisis Text LineFind a Therapist:⁠Psychology Today⁠ |⁠ SAMHSA Treatment Locator⁠Verify Credentials:Check your state's professional licensing board websiteConnect With UsHave a topic you want us to cover? Questions about boundaries or other mental health topics? We'd love to hear from you!Submit topic ideas: ⁠[email protected]⁠Follow us: instagram: ⁠@ihavesh_ttosay ⁠   Tiktoc:⁠ IHaveSh_tToSay⁠YouTube: ⁠www.youtube.com/@ihavesh_ttosay⁠Rate & Review: Help others find the podcast by leaving a reviewCreditsPodcast Host: Megan Campbell, LCPC, ATR-BCPodcast Executive Producer: Brian T PrairiePodcast Operations Manager: MacKenzie CloyNew episodes drop every two weeks on Tuesday mornings at 5 am. Subscribe so you never miss an episode!Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health treatment. If you're in crisis or need personalized support, please contact a licensed mental health professional.

Not all therapists are created equal—and that's not just about skill level. In this episode, Megan breaks down how to find the RIGHT therapist for YOUR journey. From checking credentials to spotting red flags, this conversation arms you with the questions you need to ask before committing to treatment.Join Megan and producer Brian as they discuss the therapeutic relationship, why your therapist shouldn't be your bestie, the "base camp" concept for measuring progress, and the most important question you should ask in your first session.Key Timestamps[00:47] Intro: Finding Your Match[01:53] Credentials 101: Who Can Actually Call Themselves a Therapist?[04:49] Art Therapy Misconceptions[09:17] Red Flags: When Your Therapist Makes It About Them[13:03] The Therapeutic Relationship vs. Friendship[15:30] They're Not Here to Fix You[26:03] Interview Your Therapist[34:16] The Base Camp Concept: Measuring Progress[40:58] "How Will I Know When We're Done?"[44:21] The Relationship Is What HealsStandout Quotes"You can only take people as far as you've gotten yourself.""If you can't tell your therapist why you came within 3-4 sessions, that's a red flag.""Success isn't measured through happiness. It's about how we're sitting with things, integrating parts of our life instead of pushing them away."Therapist's Toolkit5 Questions to Ask Your Therapist:What is your license number? (Verify it online) for IL: https://online-dfpr.micropact.com/Lookup/LicenseLookup.aspxDo you have specialized training or experience with [my specific concern]?Do you go to therapy yourself?How will I know when we're done?What should I expect from our first few sessions?A More Thorough list of questionshttps://www.canva.com/design/DAHA3KUDc-k/Z_LvH6pMN2Vsg2xHCKW1Ng/edit?utm_content=DAHA3KUDc-k&utm_campaign=designshare&utm_medium=link2&utm_source=sharebuttonResourcesCrisis Support988 - Suicide Prevention LifelineText HOME to 741741 - Crisis Text LineFind a Therapist:Psychology Today | SAMHSA Treatment LocatorVerify Credentials:Check your state's professional licensing board websiteConnect With UsHave a topic you want us to cover? Questions about boundaries or other mental health topics? We'd love to hear from you!Submit topic ideas: [email protected] us: instagram: @ihavesh_ttosay    Tiktoc: IHaveSh_tToSayYouTube: www.youtube.com/@ihavesh_ttosayRate & Review: Help others find the podcast by leaving a reviewCreditsPodcast Host: Megan Campbell, LCPC, ATR-BCPodcast Executive Producer: Brian T PrairiePodcast Operations Manager: MacKenzie CloyNew episodes drop every two weeks on Tuesday mornings at 6 am. Subscribe so you never miss an episode!Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health treatment. If you're in crisis or need personalized support, please contact a licensed mental health professional.

Episode 01: WTF Are Boundaries, Anyway?Show DescriptionBoundaries. Everyone talks about them, but do we really understand what they are? In this first episode, therapist Megan cuts through the buzzwords and gets real about the most overused and misunderstood topic in mental health. Spoiler alert: boundaries aren't about controlling other people—they're about what YOU do when faced with something uncomfortable.Join Megan and Producer Brian as they explore ghosting culture, the difference between "nice" and "kind," why your partner can't be your everything, and how to disagree with someone without going for the jugular. Whether you're navigating dating apps, family dynamics, or workplace relationships, this episode will change how you think about setting and maintaining healthy boundaries.Episode Highlights[00:00] Intro: The Most Misunderstood Mental Health Topic[01:05] What Boundaries Actually Are (about YOUR actions, not controlling others)[03:01] Kind AND Firm: Why "nice" is lying[05:28] Practical Strategies: Gracefully exiting uncomfortable conversations[08:37] Introvert vs. Extrovert Boundaries[10:48] Ghosting Culture: No contact vs. ghosting[15:33] Friendship Expectations: Not everyone needs to be your bestie[18:27] The Oversharing Problem: Trauma dumping and building safety[23:54] The Bicycle Wheel Analogy: Why you need multiple "spokes"[26:14] Disagreeing Without Destroying: Fair fighting rules[30:06] The "Head on Pillow" Test: Aligning with your valuesResources MentionedPositive Discipline framework (kind AND firm approach)https://www.positivediscipline.com/Brené Brown - vulnerability and trauma dumpinghttps://brenebrown.com/videos/anatomy-trust-video/John Gottman - stonewalling in relationshipshttps://www.gottman.com/blog/the-four-horsemen-recognizing-criticism-contempt-defensiveness-and-stonewalling/Fair Fighting Rules for couples counselinghttps://www.therapistaid.com/worksheets/fair-fighting-rulesTherapist's Toolkit: 3 Boundary Questions to Ask YourselfHave I clearly communicated this boundary? (Not just in your head—out loud to the person)Am I trying to control their behavior or defining my own response?Can I lay my head on the pillow tonight feeling aligned with my values?Need Support?If this episode brought up issues you'd like to explore on a one-on-one basis, or if you're experiencing a mental health crisis, please reach out to a qualified mental health professional.Crisis Resources:National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 988Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741SAMHSA National Helpline: 1-800-662-4357Some options to Find a Therapist near you:If you have insurance going to your online directory to search or calling the number of the back of your card can help get you a list of providers that take your insuranceGoogle: “Mental Health Counselor Near me”https://www.psychologytoday.com/usIf you are in Illinois and want to connect with our practice:https://riseandthrivewellness.net/Connect With UsHave a topic you want us to cover? Questions about boundaries or other mental health topics? We'd love to hear from you!Submit topic ideas: [email protected] us: instagram: @ihavesh_ttosay    Tiktoc: IHaveSh_tToSayYouTube: www.youtube.com/@ihavesh_ttosayRate & Review: Help others find the podcast by leaving a reviewPodcast Host: Megan Campbell, LCPC, ATR-BCPodcast Executive Producer: Brian T PrairiePodcast Operations Manager: MacKenzie CloyNew episodes drop every two weeks on Tuesday mornings at 5 am. Subscribe so you never miss an episode!Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health treatment. If you're in crisis or need personalized support, please contact a licensed mental health professional.

An intro to the I Have Sh_t to Say podcast with your host Megan Campbell. She talks about what the podcast will be about and what the podcast's format will be. Oh yeah, bloopers. Lots of fun bloopers.