I Know a Guy Podcast

Today on I Know a Guy, we’re talking about something most men quietly struggle with. The addiction to be affirmed, or recognized. The need to be noticed, validated and  affirmed. But there is freedom from that cycle. When a man understands his identity as a beloved son, he stops living for applause and begins living from something much deeper. If you’ve ever felt invisible - or if your sense of worth rises and falls with what people think about you - this episode will speak directly to your heart. After months of writing, praying, wrestling, and honestly processing my own story, my new book The Father Eclipse: How Your Earthly Father Shaped Your Identity—and How to See God Clearly Again is now available on Amazon in both paperback and Kindle formats.  "I Am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.  

Today on the I Know a Guy, we’re talking about something almost no man admits. The addiction to recognition. The need to be seen. The need to be validated. The need to be noticed. And what happens inside a man when the applause disappears. In the next episode we’ll talk about how men break free from living for recognition and begin living from the unshakable identity of a beloved son. If you’ve ever felt invisible - or if your sense of worth rises and falls with what people think of you.  You won’t want to miss this one!  

Every man has a story that shaped him.  A past that influenced How he sees himself How he shows up How he protects his heart. But at some point, every man faces a choice: Will I stay defined by my story? or learn how to move forward? In this episode of I Know a Guy, we talk about what it looks like to own your story without letting it own you. Because your past may have shaped you… but it was never meant to define you. And sometimes - moving forward starts with finally talking about it. Text "Hey Steve" to 714-742-9625 and lets get the conversation started. The Amazon link Steve mentioned today to his new book, "The Father Eclipse: How Your Earthly Father Shaped Your Identity —and How to See God Clearly Again." - isn't set up yet.  It should be ready this week.  Keep checking back!  "I Am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.

Most men think they’ve left home, but they haven’t. They’ve just changed addresses. And it shows up in the same place every time— between their mom and their wife. In this episode of I Know a Guy, we’re going straight into the tension most men avoid. What does it actually mean to honor your mom without losing yourself? And how do you truly choose your wife so she never feels like she’s competing? If you’ve ever felt stuck in the middle…this conversation will hit closer than you think.  

Most men don’t realize this The way you respond to pressure. The way you handle relationships. Even the way you see yourself . . . . . . may not actually be “who you are.” It may be something you learned. Something formed a long time ago. In this episode of I Know a Guy, we’re talking about the hidden scripts many men are living from — without even knowing it. Because if you’ve ever felt stuck - like you keep showing up the same way no matter what you try - there may be a reason. And once you see it - EVERYTHING can start to change.  

For many men, the struggle with identity traces back to one relationship: their father. Whether he was absent, angry, critical, passive, or simply unavailable… that relationship leaves marks on a man’s heart. In today’s episode of I Know a Guy, we explore the father wound and how it shapes how men see themselves and even how they see God. The Amazon link Steve mentioned today to his new book, "The Father Eclipse: How Your Earthly Father Shaped Your Identity —and How to See God Clearly Again." - isn't set up yet.  Keep checking back!  "I Am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.  

Every man grew up in a family system. And whether it was healthy or dysfunctional… loving or chaotic… present or absent… that system shaped the way you see yourself today. In this new series on I Know a Guy, we’re unpacking how childhood experiences with parents, siblings, and family dynamics quietly formed the beliefs you carry about yourself, others, and even God. Because until you understand your story… you may still be living inside it. The Amazon link Steve mentioned today to his new book, "The Father Eclipse: How Your Earthly Father Shaped Your Identity —and How to See God Clearly Again." - isn't set up yet.  Keep checking back!  

A lot of resentment in marriage gets blamed on sex. But sex usually isn’t the real issue. Connection is. In this episode of I Know A Guy, we talk about the hidden resentment many men carry when they feel rejected in marriage—and why acting out never solves the real problem. Because I know a guy who had to lose almost everything before he learned how connection actually works.  "I Am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.  

Resentment is one of the most dangerous emotions a man can carry. It doesn’t explode overnight. It builds slowly… quietly… over years. And if a man doesn’t know what to do with it, resentment eventually comes out sideways. Porn. Affairs. Emotional shutdown. In this episode of I Know A Guy, we talk about why resentment is toxic for men—and how ignoring it can eventually destroy your marriage and your life. Because I know a guy who learned this the hard way.  Me. If resentment has been building in your life and you don’t know what to do with it, you don’t have to figure it out alone. Text “Hey Steve” to 714-742-9625. We’ll set up a time to talk. A bit of background on Steve: Experience: 42 years of mentoring and pastoral counseling with men’s groups in Southern California and now Georgia. Education: Masters of Divinity from Denver Seminary; certified by the Georgia Board of Examiners as a Pastoral Counselor; Certified Professional Coach; Identity Exchange Catalyst.  Personal: Married to Julia for 37 years. Four married children. Six grandkids.  

Most men assume that if they’re walking with God, life should smooth out. But Scripture says trials are part of growth. Anxiety may not be proof you’re failing. It may be proof you’re being refined. In this final episode of our anxiety series on I Know a Guy, we talk about testing, endurance, and why your calling is greater than your comfort. If you’re tired of feeling like your anxiety disqualifies you… Text “Hey Steve” to 714-742-9625 Let’s talk. You’re not broken. You’re being built.

Anxiety loves two words: “If only.” If only I had more. If only this changed. If only I felt different. But the “if only” life never ends — because as soon as one thing improves, another fear takes its place. In Episode 5 of our series on anxiety on I Know a Guy, we talk about contentment — not passive, not lazy — but anchored. Rooted. Stable. Peace that doesn’t move every time your circumstances do. If you’re tired of chasing relief that never lasts… Text “Hey Steve” to 714-742-9625. Let’s talk. Peace isn’t one change away. It’s one surrender away.  "I Am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.

If you struggle with anxiety, you probably want peace before you move. Calm before you obey. Relief before you take the next step. But in Luke 17, ten lepers cried out to Jesus — and He healed them as they went. That’s the picture: healing while you walk. In Episode 4 of our series on anxiety, we talk about what it looks like to take your next step with a racing heart — not pretending you’re fine, but trusting Jesus is with you. If you’re tired of waiting to “feel better” before you show up again… Text “Hey Steve” to 714-742-9625 Let’s talk. You don’t have to be calm to be faithful. You just have to keep walking.   To invest and partner with Steve as he shared his heart today, there are two ways: Venmo to @Bringing-Kingdom Give online at: www.BringingKingdom.org/donate