I Know a Guy Podcast

Most men say they want freedom. But do they really want the process that leads to freedom? In this episode of I Know a Guy, Steve explores one of Jesus' most surprising questions: "Do you want to get well?" Using the story of the man at the Pool of Bethesda in John 5, Steve challenges listeners to consider the difference between wanting change and participating in change. Healing requires more than desire. It requires commitment. If you've been waiting for life to magically improve, this episode may be the invitation you need to take your next step toward freedom.   I am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.

Most men want directions. Very few men want a guide. In this episode of I Know a Guy, Steve explores why shame often keeps men isolated and trying to solve life's biggest challenges on their own. Through the story of Moses and Jethro, he reveals the power of having a trusted guide—a "Sherpa"—who has already walked the trail ahead of us. If you're tired of carrying everything alone, this episode may be exactly what you need to hear. Freedom doesn't happen because we have all the answers. It happens when we're humble enough to receive wisdom from those who've gone before us. Ready to get shame off your back and start living?  Get a copy of Steve's new book, The Father Eclipse: How Your Earthly Father Shaped Your Identity—and How to See God Clearly Again on Amazon.

Why do so many men refuse help even when their marriage, family, faith, or emotional health is suffering? In this episode of I Know a Guy, Steve explores the hidden role shame plays in keeping men isolated and self-reliant. Using the story of the Rich Young Ruler, he reveals how fear, control, and image management often keep us from accepting the very help God provides. If you've ever told yourself, "I'm fine," when you knew you weren't, this episode is for you. Freedom begins when we stop pretending and start telling the truth. Want to start "connecting the dots" to your story?  Steve's book,  The Father Eclipse: How Your Earthly Father Shaped Your Identity—and How to See God Clearly Again is now available on Amazon.   I am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.

Why do so many men get excited about change...only to find themselves stuck again a few months later? In this episode of I Know a Guy, Steve explores "The One-and-Done Trap"—the belief that one book, one podcast, one prayer, or one breakthrough moment will magically transform our lives. Using the story of Naaman in 2 Kings 5, Steve reveals why real healing is usually found in the process, not the shortcut. If you've ever felt frustrated by your lack of progress, this episode may help you see your journey in a completely new way. Be sure to check out Steve's new book, The Father Eclipse: How Your Earthly Father Shaped Your Identity—and How to See God Clearly Again is now available on Amazon. This may be the one-step forward you need to take.

Most men think their biggest problem is anger, lust, passivity, fear, or failure. What if those are only symptoms? In this episode of I Know a Guy, Steve tackles the real enemy hiding underneath so many struggles: shame. Shame doesn't tell you that you made a mistake. Shame tells you that you ARE a mistake. It keeps men isolated, emotionally shut down, and convinced that trying harder is the answer. But what if freedom begins when we stop hiding and start telling the truth? Join Steve as he explores how shame entered the story in the Garden of Eden—and how Jesus came to lead us out of hiding and into freedom. The Father Eclipse: How Your Earthly Father Shaped Your Identity—and How to See God Clearly Again  is now available on Amazon.  Grab a copy - and take that first step toward the light.   I am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.

Do you find yourself praying the same thing over and over again? Asking God… again and again… hoping this time He’ll respond? Jesus actually warns about this—and what He says might surprise you. In this episode of I Know a Guy, we talk about the difference between persistence and repetition, and how beloved sons don’t try to convince God—they trust Him. This could completely free your prayer life.

What if you’ve been praying from the wrong position? Most of us approach God asking, hoping, and waiting… but Jesus said, “I have given you authority.” In this episode of I Know a Guy, we talk about what it means to pray from your position in Christ—not from anxiety, but from identity as a beloved son. If you’ve ever felt like your prayers were weak or ineffective… this one might completely change that. Get a copy of The Father Eclipse: How Your Earthly Father Shaped Your Identity and How to See God Clearly Again - by Steve Cummings is available on Amazon The One-Minute Pause app Steve mentioned today is a great tool/source for getting deeper into your heart.  Download it on Apple or Google.    I am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.

What happens when you pray and God is silent? No answers. No clarity. No breakthrough. Most men assume they’re doing something wrong—but what if this is actually where real prayer begins? In this episode of I Know a Guy, we talk about trusting God in the dark, surrendering control, and discovering what it means to live as a beloved son—even when nothing seems to change. This one will meet you right where you are.

Why do we suddenly sound more spiritual when we pray out loud? In this episode of I Know a Guy, we expose something most men don’t even realize they’re doing—performing in prayer. Whether it’s around your family, your friends, or even in church—we often trade authenticity for image. But the Father isn’t impressed with your words—He wants your heart. This one will challenge the way you pray in public—and maybe set you free from it. The Father Eclipse: How Your Earthly Father Shaped Your Identity and How to See God Clearly Again - by Steve Cummings is available on Amazon   I am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.

Most of us men don’t have a prayer life.  We have a crisis response system. We call on God when things break, when pressure hits, when we need answers. But what if prayer was never meant to be a 911 call? In this episode of I Know a Guy, we’re talking about the kind of prayer most men have never experienced—where you’re not performing, fixing, or asking—but simply being with the Father as a beloved son. This one just might change the way you pray forever.

What do you hold onto when life feels like it’s falling apart—and you can’t see a way out? In this episode of I Know a Guy, we explore how remembering God’s past faithfulness can anchor your heart in present uncertainty. If you’re facing loss, loneliness, or a season that feels like it’s not changing, this conversation will remind you of a powerful truth—God has done it before, and He will do it again. The Father Eclipse: How Your Earthly Father Shaped Your Identity and How to See God Clearly Again - by Steve Cummings is available on Amazon   I am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.

What happens when you trust God… and nothing changes? In this episode of I Know a Guy, we step into one of the hardest places for any man—the space between trusting God and seeing no visible results. If you’ve ever wrestled with doubt, unanswered prayers, or the tension of waiting, this conversation will help you move from outcome-based faith to a deeper, steadier trust in the Father. Steve’s new book, The Father Eclipse, is now available on Amazon. 

Many men know God loves them—but they don’t actually feel it. And in difficult seasons, that gap can grow even wider. In this episode of I Know a Guy, we explore why receiving God’s love can feel so difficult and how to begin experiencing it in a real, personal way—even when your heart feels distant or numb. Get a copy of Steve’s new book, The Father Eclipse: How Your Earthy Father Shaped Your Identity and How to See God Clearly Again on I am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.

When life gets hard, most men default to pushing through—working harder, carrying more, and trying to fix what feels out of control. But what if the answer isn’t found in striving… but in surrender? In this episode of I Know a Guy, we explore what it means to stop performing in difficult seasons and instead allow the Father to meet us right in the middle of them. If you’ve been carrying weight alone or trying to muscle your way through life, this conversation will invite you into a different way—the way of a beloved son. Steve’s new book, The Father Eclipse, is now available on Amazon

We men know how to work hard, push hard, achieve hard, and compete hard. But for many of us the hardest thing we’ll ever do is believe we are loved apart from performance. So we spend our lives trying to prove ourselves. At work. In marriage. In leadership. Even spiritually. In this powerful conclusion to the “Doing Hard Things” series, Steve talks about performance-driven living, father wounds, identity, and the exhausting burden so many men carry trying to earn approval, worth, and belonging. Drawing deeply from the message of The Father Eclipse, this episode invites men to stop striving for identity… and begin living from their true identity as beloved sons of the Father. Be sure to grab a copy on Amazon and share it with your men's pastor at church and the men in your group - and watch what the Father does! I am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.  

Most men want to be respected. But many of us were never taught how to repair relationships after we’ve caused pain. So we defend ourselves.  Explain ourselves.  Withdraw and minimize. Meanwhile the people we love most are often left carrying wounds we never intended to create. In this episode of I Know a Guy, Steve talks about humility, apologies, rebuilding trust, and the courage it takes to own the impact of our emotional absence, shutdown, anger, or performance-driven living. He also shares personal reflections connected to his new book, The Father Eclipse, including the painful realization that many men can provide physically while unintentionally going to the sidelines emotionally with their wives and children. Repair is hard. But humility may become the doorway to healing.

We men can become really good at doing spiritual things. Reading Scripture. Praying. Leading Bible studies. Going to church. Serving faithfully. Meanwhile internally, we can still feel distant from God, emotionally shut down, exhausted, ashamed, or disconnected. Why? Because many of us learned how to perform spiritually before we learned how to be honest spiritually. In this episode of I Know a Guy, Steve talks about the difference between spiritual activity and intimacy with God — and why slowing down, becoming aware, and bringing our real hearts before the Father may be one of the hardest things men ever do. Drawing from his own journey and themes from his new book, The Father Eclipse, Steve explores how father wounds and performance-driven living can distort the way we see God — and how beloved sons begin learning to live FROM love instead of FOR it. Be sure to grab a copy on Amazon and share it with your men's pastor at church and the men in your group - and watch what the Father does! The One-Minute Pause app Steve mentioned on today's podcast is a great tool for understanding your heart and relieving worry, anxiety and stress.  Check it out.   I am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.

Most men know how to be around people. Fewer men know how to truly be known. We can build careers, lead teams, sit in church every Sunday, and even have guys around us regularly… while quietly living isolated lives. Many of us learned how to perform strength instead of pursue connection. So we hide behind work, humor, independence, busyness, or emotional shutdown — and wonder why we feel disconnected from our wives, kids, friends, and even God. In this episode of I Know a Guy, Steve talks about the hard work of relationships, vulnerability, brotherhood, and emotional presence — and why isolation may be one of the greatest threats facing men today. He also weaves in parts of his own story from The Father Eclipse, including how father wounds and performance-driven living can quietly shape the way we connect — or disconnect — from the people we love most.  Grab a copy today on Amazon and share it with the men in your community. Are you looking for Fitness, Faith and Fellowship with a group of dedicated men?  Check out F3 and find a location in your city.  It's FREE and open to all men.  

Men know how to push through pain, don't we?  We work harder. We stay busy.  We grind.  We compete, and we stay mentally tough. But many of us have no idea what to do with sadness, fear, loneliness, rejection, or grief. So we shut down.  Withdraw.  Get angry. Numb out, or quietly disappear emotionally from the people we love most. In this episode of I Know a Guy, we’re talking about emotional courage and why awareness may be one of the hardest — and healthiest — things a man can learn. Steve also shares pieces of his own story from The Father Eclipse, including how unresolved father wounds and emotional disconnection can impact marriage, fatherhood, identity, and our relationship with God. Get a copy today on Amazon and while you're at it - share it with your men's group and watch the conversations start to change.   I am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.

Question:  Why do so many of us men know how to work hard, compete hard, and endure hard things - but struggle to identify what we’re actually feeling? On this episode of  “I Know A Guy” podcast, we’re talking about emotional courage as we start a new 6-part series on "Doing Hard Things." Why do anger and withdrawal become our default responses? And why does emotional shutdown quietly wound the people we love most? Find out on more as we journey together through this new series. And if today’s episode resonated with you, my new book, The Father Eclipse, dives deeper into father wounds, identity, emotional healing, and becoming whole-hearted men. It's available right now Amazon.   Are you looking for Fitness, Faith and Fellowship with a group of dedicated men?  Check out F3 and find a location in your city.  It's FREE and open to all men.

What kind of legacy are you building right now?  Not someday—TODAY. In the final episode of our It Stops With Me series, we bring everything together and look at what your life is actually producing in the people around you. Because legacy isn’t about what you leave behind.  It’s about what you live out daily. This episode will challenge you to step into intentional leadership—so what gets passed down isn’t pain—but identity, truth, and life. What you’re stepping into right now—it’s not just about your life. It’s about your kids, your family and generations you may never even meet. I want to point you to something that can help you keep going. I wrote The Father Eclipse for this exact reason. To help men see clearly what’s been shaping them and step into the truth of who they are as beloved sons. It’s not a long book. It’s written like a one-on-one conversation—something you can read in one or two sittings. It’s available now on Amazon.  If you pick one up, thank you. And if you leave a review, that would mean more than you know. I am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.

Your words are shaping more than you think. In Episode 5 of our current series on reversing generational curses, It Stops With Me, we dive into the power of your voice—and how what you say today becomes the internal voice your family carries tomorrow. Most men are repeating what was spoken over them without even realizing it. But you don’t have to. This episode is about breaking that cycle—and learning how to speak life, identity, and truth into the people around you. Because your words don’t just impact the moment… They shape legacy. If this topic of generational patterns and legacy hits home for you, I unpack this even more in my newly released book, The Father Eclipse: How Your Earthly Father Shaped Your Identity and How to See God Clearly Again Because what remains unhealed in one generation often gets repeated in the next.  It's now available on Amazon.  Get a two copies and give one to another man who needs to hear this.   I am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.

What does it actually look like to become the man you never had? In Episode 4 of It Stops With Me, we move from breaking patterns… to building something new. Because it’s not enough to say, “I don’t want to repeat the past.” You have to decide who you’re becoming instead. Through real-life examples and powerful biblical models, this episode will challenge you to step into a new way of living—marked by presence, strength, and intentional love. This is where legacy starts to take shape. And if you want to go deeper into this journey, my new book, The Father Eclipse: How Your Earthly Father Shaped Your Identity and How to See God Clearly Again is available now on Amazon. Grab a copy and get an extra one for another guy who needs to hear this.

At some point, every man has to make a decision.  Will I keep blaming my past—or will I start leading my life? In Episode 3 of our current series on I Know a Guy, It Stops With Me, we make the turn from awareness to ownership. Because your story matters—but it doesn’t get to define you. Blame will keep you stuck. Ownership will set you free. This episode is about stepping out of victim thinking—and into the identity of a man who leads himself first. If this topic of generational patterns and legacy hits home for you, I unpack this even more in my newly released book, The Father Eclipse: How Your Earthly Father Shaped Your Identity and How to See God Clearly Again. Because what remains unhealed in one generation often gets repeated in the next.  It's now available on Amazon.   I am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.

What if the struggles you’re facing right now didn’t actually start with you? What if the anger… the distance… the pressure… the way you react under stress—was shaped long before you even realized it? In Episode 1 of this new series on I Know a Guy, It Stops With Me, we’re uncovering how generational patterns are formed—and how they get passed down. But more importantly—how they can stop with you. You are not stuck. You are not doomed to repeat the past. This is where awareness begins—and where legacy starts to change. If today's episode resonates with you, my new book: The Father Eclipse: How Your Earthly Father Shaped Your Identity and How to See God Clearly Again" goes even deeper into how our earthly fathers shape the way we see ourselves… and God. It’s available now on Amazon.

What if the struggles you’re facing right now didn’t actually start with you? What if the anger… the distance… the pressure… the way you react under stress—was shaped long before you even realized it? In Episode 1 of this new series on I Know a Guy, "It Stops With Me," we’re uncovering how generational patterns are formed—and how they get passed down. But more importantly—how they can stop with you. You are not stuck. You are not doomed to repeat the past. This is where awareness begins—and where legacy starts to change. “You are not stuck. You are not doomed to repeat the past. This is where awareness begins—and where legacy starts to change. And if this conversation resonates with you, my new book, The Father Eclipse: How Your Earthly Father Shaped Your Identity and How to See God Clearly Again goes even deeper into how our earthly fathers shape the way we see ourselves and God. It’s available now on Amazon.   I am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.

Father’s Day is over — but what if the real impact of it is just beginning? In this special episode of I Know a Guy, we slow down and reflect on what surfaced this weekend— the gratitude, the tension, the silence. And ask a deeper question:  What is God inviting you into right now? Because healing doesn’t happen by accident. It happens when we choose to lean in. if this episode resonates with you, my new book, The Father Eclipse: How Your Earthly Father Shaped Your Identity and How to See God Clearly Again goes even deeper into how our earthly fathers shape the way we see ourselves… and God. It’s available now on Amazon.  Get 2 copies and help scatter seed into another man's life who needs to hear this.    

What does it look like to be a father—when your kids are grown? When they’re making their own decisions—and you don’t always agree? In this episode of I Know a Guy we conclude our Father's Day series as we talk about the shift from raising your kids—to releasing them. And why holding on too tightly can actually create more distance. Because great fathers don’t control their adult children. They stay present—so relationship has room to grow. My new book, "The Father Eclipse: How Your Earthly Father Shaped Your Identity—and How to See God Clearly Again," is available now on Amazon (< click the link) —designed as a short, powerful read to help men move from hiding to living as a beloved son.   I am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.  

The teenage years change everything.  What used to work—doesn’t anymore. And many dads respond by tightening control—which only creates more distance. All this week we've been focusing on Father's Day coming up on Sunday and in today's episode of I Know a Guy we talk about what’s really happening when your teenager pulls away—and how to shift from control to connection. Because your influence as a father isn’t over. It just needs to look different. My new book, "The Father Eclipse: How Your Earthly Father Shaped Your Identity—and How to See God Clearly Again," is available now on Amazon—designed as a short, powerful read to help men move from hiding to living as a beloved son.   I am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.

What if the biggest mistake fathers make—isn’t what they do—but what they miss? In the early years of childhood—your presence shapes your child’s identity more than anything else.  Not your provision. Not your success. Your presence. In this episode of I Know a Guy, we talk about what it means to avoid becoming a “Father Eclipse”— a dad who’s physically there, but emotionally absent. Because your kids don’t need a perfect dad. They need a present one. My new book, "The Father Eclipse: How Your Earthly Father Shaped Your Identity—and How to See God Clearly Again," is available now on Amazon—designed as a short, powerful read to help men move from hiding to living as a beloved son. Check out the song Steve mentioned on today's podcast by Phillips, Craig and Dean called, "I Want to Be Just Like You."   I am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.

Not every man grew up with a broken relationship with his father. Some had a great dad. Present. Engaged. Consistent. And that’s a gift. But here’s the question: Are you intentionally building on that legacy—or just assuming it will carry itself forward? As we continue with Part 3 of our Father's Day series, today on I Know a Guy, we talk about what it means to steward what you were given— and why even a great foundation still requires a decision. Because legacy isn’t inherited.  It’s reproduced.   My new book, "The Father Eclipse: How Your Earthly Father Shaped Your Identity—and How to See God Clearly Again," is available now on Amazon—designed as a short, powerful read to help men move from hiding to living as a beloved son.   I am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.  

Some men didn’t just grow up without a father.  They grew up being wounded by one. All this week on I Know a Guy we are preparing our hearts for Father's Day on Sunday.  Today we’re talking about the impact of abusive, controlling, or absent fathers—and how those wounds follow us into adulthood. Into our relationships. Into our identity. Into how we show up as men. But also this: What does it actually look like to heal? Not minimize it. Not ignore it. But face it - and move forward. This might be the episode you didn’t know you needed.   My new book, "The Father Eclipse: How Your Earthly Father Shaped Your Identity—and How to See God Clearly Again," is available now on Amazon—designed as a short, powerful read to help men move from hiding to living as a beloved son. Song mentioned on this podcast: "My Old Man" by Zac Brown Band I am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.  

What if the story you’ve believed about your father has shaped more of your life than you realize? Today on I Know a Guy we’re talking to the man who grew up without a father. The absence. The questions. The drive to prove… or the temptation to quit. But also this: What if you were never actually fatherless? What if God has been stepping into that space all along? This Father’s Day series might change the way you see your past— and the kind of man you become moving forward.   My new book, "The Father Eclipse: How Your Earthly Father Shaped Your Identity—and How to See God Clearly Again," is available now on Amazon—designed as a short, powerful read to help men move from hiding to living as a beloved son.   I am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.  

In today’s episode of I Know a Guy, we look at the parable of the soils from Gospel of Matthew 13—and ask an honest question: What’s really going on in your heart right now? Because these aren’t just four types of people… they’re four conditions of the heart—and we drift between them more than we think. As we prepare to step into Fatherhood, this episode will help you examine what’s growing beneath the surface—and why it matters. My new book, "The Father Eclipse: How Your Earthly Father Shaped Your Identity—and How to See God Clearly Again," is available now on Amazon—designed as a short, powerful read to help men move from hiding to living as a beloved son.   I am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.

In today’s episode of I Know a Guy, we bring everything together—from emotional courage to healing—and ask the question: What are you going to do with it? Because awareness without action doesn’t change anything. And the step you take right now won’t just affect you—it will shape your relationships, your future, and your legacy. This is a moment to stop circling the same patterns and take one real step forward. My new book, "The Father Eclipse: How Your Earthly Father Shaped Your Identity—and How to See God Clearly Again," is available now on Amazon—designed as a short, powerful read to help men move from hiding to living as a beloved son.   I am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.

In today’s episode of I Know a Guy, we move beyond awareness and ask a harder question: How bad do you actually want healing? Because wanting it… and pursuing it… are not the same thing. We’ll look at how Jesus invited people into healing—not passively, but through movement, courage, and action—and what that means for you right now. If you’ve been stuck in the same patterns and wondering why nothing’s changing… this episode will challenge you to take your next step. My new book, "The Father Eclipse: How Your Earthly Father Shaped Your Identity—and How to See God Clearly Again," is available now on Amazon—designed as a short, powerful read to help men move from hiding to living as a beloved son.   I am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.

In today’s episode of I Know a Guy, we step into a powerful moment from Gospel of John 5—where Jesus asks a man who’s been stuck for 38 years a question that feels almost unnecessary: “Do you want to get well?” But instead of saying yes… the man gives reasons, excuses, and comparisons. And if we’re honest… we do the same. This episode is an invitation to look beneath the surface and ask a deeper question: Do you actually want healing—or have you learned to live without it? My new book, "The Father Eclipse: How Your Earthly Father Shaped Your Identity—and How to See God Clearly Again," is available now on Amazon—designed as a short, powerful read to help men move from hiding to living as a beloved son.   I am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.

What if the reason you keep going back to the same struggle isn’t a lack of discipline—but a lack of emotional courage? You can’t heal what you won’t face. In this episode of I Know a Guy, we talk about what emotional courage actually looks like for a man—how it begins with honesty, moves into the light, and leads toward real healing. If you’ve been stuck in cycles you can’t seem to break, this conversation will challenge you to take one simple, but powerful step toward freedom. My new book, "The Father Eclipse: How Your Earthly Father Shaped Your Identity—and How to See God Clearly Again," is available now on Amazon—designed as a short, powerful read to help men move from hiding to living as a beloved son.   I am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.

Most men don’t struggle with courage—they struggle with emotional courage. We’ll face pressure, responsibility, and external challenges without hesitation. But when it comes to what’s happening inside—pain, shame, and unresolved wounds—we tend to avoid it, bury it, or numb it. In this episode of I Know a Guy, we explore why even the strongest men struggle to face their inner world, and the hidden cost of continuing to avoid it. You’ll hear a powerful story from rehab that reframes what true courage really looks like—and why ignoring what’s beneath the surface will eventually impact every area of your life. Get a copy of Steve's new book, "The Father Eclipse: How Your Earthly Father Shaped Your Identity—and How to See God Clearly Again." It is now available on Amazon—designed as a short, powerful read to help men move from hiding to living as a beloved son.   I am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.

What if the most loving thing you could do… is say no? In this episode of I Know a Guy, we break down how to love with clarity, boundaries, and identity—without losing yourself in the process or feeling like you’re being unkind. Because real love isn’t about managing people’s emotions—it’s about being grounded enough to tell the truth and stay present. And this message ties directly into my new book, "The Father Eclipse: How Your Earthly Father Shaped Your Identity and How to See God Clearly Again."is now available on Amazon. I’m giving all proceeds during this 3-day public launch that ends today to Fathers in the Field, helping mentor boys who don’t have a father in the home. So grab a copy, pass one along to another man, and if it speaks to you, I’d be incredibly grateful if you’d take a minute to leave a review on Amazon—it really helps get this message into more hands.

Most men think being “nice” equals being loving.  But what if it’s actually fear—fear of conflict, fear of rejection, fear of not being liked? In this episode of I Know a Guy, we expose the hidden trap of people pleasing—and how trying to keep everyone happy is quietly costing you your identity, your peace, and your relationships. And we connect it to something bigger. My new book, "The Father Eclipse: How Your Earthly Father Shaped Your Identity and How to See God Clearly Again" is now available on Amazon —and for the first 72 hours, June 1 through June 3, I’m donating all proceeds to Fathers in the Field, a national ministry mentoring boys without fathers to help them avoid their own father eclipse. So grab a copy for yourself—and maybe one for another man—and if it impacts you, leaving a quick review on Amazon would mean more than you know.  Be blessed. I am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.

You weren’t born disconnected. You learned it. And what started as protection… became your way of life. In this episode of I Know a Guy, we unpack why men shut down emotionally…how it impacts every relationship in your life… and how to begin reconnecting to the part of you that’s been buried for years. Plus—my new book "The Father Eclipse" is now available on Amazon. And for the next 72 hours, every dollar from book sales is being donated to Fathers in the Field—a ministry mentoring boys without fathers to help them avoid a father eclipse. Thank you for following this podcast, rating it and adding your comment about how it's impacted you.  By doing that you are helping scatter seed.  Share it with another guy  and share as the Spirit leads.  Let's help more men live from their true identity - together! Also - if you need to process?  Schedule time with Steve at: www.bringingkingdom.org/booking  

There’s a Greek word used to describe Jesus when He sees people—and it doesn’t mean what you think it means. σπλαγχνίζομαι. (splagchnizomai) It means He felt compassion in His gut. Deep. visceral. unavoidable. And here’s the problem— Most men have spent their entire lives avoiding that exact place. In this episode of I Know a Guy, we unpack what this word really means… how Jesus actually experienced people… and why disconnection might be the thing holding you back from becoming who you were created to be. Can I ask a favor fellow beloved son?  Would you follow, rate, comment and share this podcast with another guy as the Spirit leads?  Let's help more men live from their true identity - together! Schedule time with Steve at: www.bringingkingdom.org/booking Shout out to my good friend, Pastor Tim Robertson, from New Life Church in West Linn, OR for suggesting this subject. I am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.  

Fear is not your identity. But if you don’t understand it… it will quietly shape your entire life. This episode of I Know a Guy will help you discern the difference between healthy fear and destructive fear—and how to stop letting it control you. Because you weren’t created to live guarded, reactive, and small. You were created to live free. Fear didn’t just show up in your life—it was formed. In your home. In your story. In moments you didn’t have the strength to process as a boy. And if you’ve ever wondered why you overthink, control, withdraw, or react… there’s a reason. This episode of I Know a Guy helps you start finding it. Because until you understand where fear came from… you’ll keep letting it lead. Can I ask a favor fellow beloved son?  Would you follow, rate, comment and share this podcast with another guy as the Spirit leads?  Let's help more men live from their true identity - together! Schedule time with Steve at: www.bringingkingdom.org/booking Get a copy of "The Father Eclipse" now available on Amazon.

Fear didn’t just show up in your life—it was formed. In your home. In your story. In moments you didn’t have the strength to process as a boy. And if you’ve ever wondered why you overthink, control, withdraw, or react… there’s a reason. This episode of I Know a Guy helps you start finding it. Because until you understand where fear came from… you’ll keep letting it lead.   Here is the Amazon link Steve mentioned today to his new book, "The Father Eclipse: How Your Earthly Father Shaped Your Identity —and How to See God Clearly Again."    Schedule time with Steve at: www.bringingkingdom.org/booking I am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.  

What do you actually say when someone you love is hurting? Most men freeze… fix… or shut it down. In this episode of I Know a Guy, we break down simple, practical ways to show empathy—without feeling awkward, helpless, or out of control. If you’ve ever thought, “I just don’t know what to say…” This episode of I Know a Guy will give you the words—and the confidence—to stay present. Because connection isn’t about having the answer. It’s about being there. Do me a favor?  Would you follow, rate, comment and share this podcast with another guy as the Spirit leads?  Let's help more men live from their true identity - together!

Most men think they’re helping… But what if the way you respond to your wife’s emotions is actually pushing her further away? In this episode of I Know a Guy, we break down the critical difference between sympathy and empathy—and why men default to fixing, minimizing, and controlling when emotions rise. If you’ve ever said, “Just don’t worry about it”… or “You’ll be fine”… This episode is for you. Because connection isn’t built through solutions. It’s built through presence. Mentioned on this episode: Brené Brown on Empathy Do me a favor?  Would you follow, rate, comment and share this podcast with another guy as the Spirit leads?  Let's help more men live from their true identity - together! I am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.

If the wide path leads to destruction, why does it feel so normal? Why do so many men live stressed, disconnected, and exhausted—and think that’s just life? What if the issue isn’t your schedule, but your identity?  And what if the patterns you’ve been living out for decades were never actually leading you where you think? This episode of I Know a Guy exposes why the wide path feels right— And why that should concern you. I wrote The Father Eclipse for this exact reason. To help men see clearly what’s been shaping them and step into the truth of who they are as beloved sons. It’s not a long book. It’s written like a one-on-one conversation—something you can read in one or two sittings. It’s available now on Amazon.  If you pick one up, thank you. And if you leave a review, that would mean more than you know.   "I Am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.  

Most men believe they’re following Jesus because they go to church. But what if Jesus never said that was the standard? What if the real question isn’t what you believe—but the path you’re actually walking? There are two roads. One is easy, comfortable, and crowded. The other is narrow, intentional, and requires everything. And here’s the tension— You don’t choose it once. You choose it every day. This episode of I Know a Guy will challenge the way you think about faith, identity, and what it actually means to follow Jesus. Do me a favor?  Would you follow, rate, comment and share this podcast with another guy as the Spirit leads?  Let's help more men live from their true identity - together!

At some point, every man hits a wall.  A blow-up. A shutdown. A disconnect. Or just the realization—something’s off. That’s not random. That’s what happens when you ignore the why beneath your what. You can only outrun it for so long. Eventually… it catches up. This episode of I Know a Guy will show you how to slow down, get honest, and start uncovering what’s really driving your life—so you don’t have to learn the hard way. And if this topic resonates with you, my brand-new book, The Father Eclipse is now available on Amazon. It’s all about how our earthly fathers shaped our identity—and how to see God clearly again.