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I'm Uncomfortable
by Vanessa and Melissa
The podcast for people who want to be ok with being uncomfortable. From wanting to quit your job, questionable dating decisions, and "adult" moments that make you wish you were a kid again - each week we have unapologetically uncomfortable conversations about mental health, work, and relationships. Let's get uncomfortable.
Episodes
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We Don't Have a 5 Year Plan - and why we're ok with it
The 5 Year Plan...a lot can change in five years. Or nothing can change. It's mostly up to you. The idea of creating one can be daunting, and the idea of not having one can leave you feeling behind or unprepared. How do you balance both? At what point are you "done"? When do you rest and enjoy…
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Are You Addicted to Your Phone? How to Unplug
How many times do you pick up your phone during the day? Where is it when you sleep? Is your phone the first thing you reach for when you wake up? The answers to some of these surprised us (in good ways and not...) If you're like us you might be surprised to find you need (according to the quiz)…
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They Apologized But I'm Still Hurt
What do you say when you're not okay after someone apologizes, and how much time is too much time before giving someone space means you aren't friends? There's nothing worse than feeling like you don't know where you stand after you or the other person apologizes, and we dish on all the times…
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Your Independence is Actually Hurting You - The Downside of Doing It All Yourself
Hyperindependent? Same. We’re unpacking how struggling to ask for help is tied to trust and control and what it really means to let people in without losing yourself in the process. For many of us, it’s often less about strength and more about survival. We explore the reasons it’s so hard to let...
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How to Use Anxiety to Thrive
Anxiety’s here — might as well make her useful! We’re talking about how to actually listen to the racing thoughts and spirals instead of avoiding them (which, spoiler alert, makes the anxiety worse). From overthinking to overachieving, tune in for honest confessions and a few “wait… that’s…
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Why Am I Always the One Who Cares More?
Are you the planner? The one who follows up with people? The one who cares how the party turns out? The one who is emotionally exhausted from feeling like nobody cares as much as they do? This may be for you. It's easy to take it personally when a friend is visiting your area...and doesn't visit...
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Would You Listen if Someone Warned You About Who You're Dating?
If someone warned you about the person you're dating, how seriously would you take it? And if you found out a friend's partner was cheating on them or generally being slimy...would you say anything? We share stories from listeners who have gone through exactly that and recall our favorite Jersey...
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How to Handle Outgrowing People, Places, or Roles in Your Life
There's a sense of grief that comes with realizing that someone doesn't belong in your life, or that you don't belong in theirs. If you've ever felt uncomfortable going back to your hometown, maybe even like you're in a weirdly small invisible box, you're not alone. Feeling like you've outgrown a...
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Why Pushing Yourself to Be Uncomfortable Will Change Your Life
Casual hookups aren't for everyone. Dating isn't for everyone. But now do you know what you're even ok with? We've had some deeply uncomfortable times where we weren't even sure rock bottom was the bottom. That discomfort can lead to the most amazing change. But, how do you let it? We get into…
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Overcoming Feeling Awkward or Ugly in Front of the Camera
There's a reason pose reels and tiktoks exist - a lot of us don't know what to do with our hands. Even more uncomfortable? Shooting a campaign for Ulta or taking off (most of) your clothes for a boudoir shoot. Getting in front of the camera isn't easy for a lot of us. The reality is, nobody is...
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The Work Life Balance Myth (choosing to go back to a job you quit)
We're consciously choosing chaos this season - why would both of us return to jobs and industries that previously burnt us out or stressed us out? Listen to learn how we went into our job search consciously with boundaries and priorities. We talk about pay expectations, the myth about work life...
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10 Ways to Deal with Toxic Parents
Dealing with toxic parents is one of the most uncomfortable and complicated things ever. You love them, but… the manipulation, guilt trips, boundary stomping, and emotional rollercoasters may be a level of unhealthy that's turning your relationship toxic. Maybe they guilt-trip you - even for…
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In Our 30s but Still Scared of Teenage Pregnancy
Still dodging being a teen mom at 33...but are we changing our minds? Having kids is a big choice and as we get older the pressure to have children can be overwhelming. We debate the societal pressures around having kids, how the relationship you're in (or aren't in) can affect you wanting them…
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Is It CRAZY to say NO to a Promotion?
Saying NO doesn't mean you don't have the guts to do something or that you're insecure. Saying NO may actually be the most courageous thing you do. In this episode we get into how to handle scary decisions around job transitions and leaving opportunities that don't serve you. If you want to…
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How to STOP Choosing the Wrong Partner with Relationship Coach Viky at The Love Resolution
If you find yourself choosing the wrong partner over and over again, this may be a sign. We get into why manifesting isn't what you think it is (and the science behind it), how to recognize the signs of healthy relationships, and explore if opposing attachment styles can actually work. Awarded...
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Lost in Translation? The Truth about Communication Barriers and Self Discovery with Angela Lin
Don't settle for less than who you authentically are...even though there may not be a word for it. Angela Lin joins us to share the importance of language in communication and the barriers that end up with our personalities "lost in translation". Inspired by the struggles she faced to communicate...
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What Advice Would You Give to Your Younger Self?
Don't date. Slow the F down. Ask for help! If you could sit down with your younger self, what would you say? Would you even listen? We asked you what advice you'd give to younger you and we’re spilling the hard truths - game-changing lessons, regrets, and just things we wish we knew earlier. From...
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Mommy Issues: How to Communicate Better and Set Boundaries
Daddy who? In this episode it's all about that mother relationship. Sibling order and gender dynamics may affect how you function in your family and we share how to navigate those family "obligations". As always, we focus on the challenges of setting boundaries and how we've done it over the…
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The 3 Letter Project
Be completely honest - no sugarcoating, no holding back. With accusations of being fake and the uncovering of a history of trauma, The 3 Letter Project made us laugh, cry, and question our relationships and what we know about ourselves. In this episode, we ask three people in our lives to write...
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Are You Doing All the Work in Your Relationship? w/ Zach Watson Invisible Labor Coach
Ever feel like you're handling everything—from remembering upcoming events to restocking toilet paper—while your partner coasts through life blissfully unbothered? This week we're exposing the truth about invisible labor with self proclaimed recovering man child Zach Watson, an expert on the...
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It's Not You, It's Them
If you've ever heard the words, "It's not you, it's me" - they were right. It is them. And we're getting into why that matters. Vanessa reveals how an unexpected new years eve text triggered a moment of self reflection and shares how the early-therapy version of herself would have reacted.…
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Awkward! How to Handle Running Into Your Ex
Regardless of if you wish them well or nothing but flat tires and misfortune, running into an ex can be uncomfortable and awkward AF. In this episode we get into the hilariously cringey reality of encountering past flames in the wild. From awkward wedding run-ins (please don't be related) to...
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2024 Wrapped: The Highs, Lows, and What It Taught Us
"Not every year is going to be the most amazing year, and that’s okay". Scrap the vision boards! We're kicking this year off by reflecting on the highlights and low moments of 2024. From having babies to getting fired unexpectedly - we asked you to share your own highs/lows and ya'll had a LOT to...
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The Hard Truth About the Soft Life: The Realities of Entrepreneurship with Rif Care’s Valeria Emanuel
If you want a soft life, entrepreneurship may not be for you. In this episode we sit down with Valeria Emanuel, co-founder of Rif Care and Season 1 star of Side Hustlers, to chat all things period and entrepreneurship. Valeria shares the experience that brought her to founding Rif Care and the...
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Being Okay with Being Uncomfortable | I'm Uncomfortable Podcast Season 9 Reflections
Ever wonder what happens before we press record or what we obsess over in podcast post production? In this special episode, we take a moment to look back on this season’s most impactful moments. From inspiring stories like Louisa’s leap from scientist to fashion entrepreneur, Linda’s bold career...
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Should You Move In With Your Partner?
From the stress of merging stuff (goodbye, perfectly organized spices!) to the awkward realities of sharing space and habits, we unpack all the small things that can make moving in both exciting and terrifying. How do you maintain your independence while blending lives? Is it really worth it to...
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Choosing Yourself and Being Cocky with The Ugly Bao founder Linda
Betting on yourself and taking a risk (especially on an idea that's been sitting with you forever) is scary! But it's necessary. We sit down with Linda, founder of The Ugly Bao, to dive into the journey of self-confidence, resilience, and the art of unapologetically choosing yourself. After...
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Bestie Breakups - Real-Life Friendship Breakup Confessions Pt. 2
The men have entered the chat! In part 2 of the friendship breakup series, we get to hear from and about the men. From accidental tate-stans to boycotting abusers and dealing with friends whose partners control where they can and can't go - tune in for more listener submissions! Watch Pt. 1 if…
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Bestie Breakups - Real-Life Friendship Breakup Confessions Pt. 1
We all know breakups can suck, but what about when your best friend becomes a stranger, you're outcast from the friend group, or you feel like someone is just using you? We asked listeners to share their real, raw stories of friendship breakups and were overwhelmed with how many of you responded!...
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Thank You for Dumping Me with Author Jessica Smith
"When I picture my future, I don't see you as part of it." If you've ever found yourself not eating, feeling like a zombie going to work, or struggling to do anything after a breakup, you're not alone. After her relationship unexpectedly (to her) ended, Jessica found herself spiraling into a...
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How a Scientist's Risky Career Leap Created a Modern Fashion Sensation w/ Dr. Louisa
"There comes a point where you have to make a decision – stay in my career...or try this new thing?" Entrepreneurship can be a risky and terrifying thing. We sit down with Louisa, the founder of Mestiza Filipina, to hear the incredible story of how she left behind a successful career as a…
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Sound Baths: Unlocking Meditation with Kyle Lam Sound Healing
Trusted by Balenciaga, Toyota and Marriot – Kyle Lam took us on a sound healing journey. If you struggle to meditate without feeling like you’re forcing yourself to sit still and “empty your mind”, get ready to immerse yourself in a whole new way to zen our. We’re talking SOUND BATHS with the...
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Are You Being Too Much?
Whether it's organizing a group project at 32 or speaking up to boomer women at work - we dig into the uncomfortable habit of over-functioning and feeling like you're always taking the lead. We explore why women, especially, are conditioned to minimize themselves and constantly question their...
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Are the Men OK? Alpha Males, Red Pills, and Toxic Masculinity
A few drinks post breakup, a discussion about self-worth, and the revelation of "alpha male" texting techniques led Vanessa and Melissa down the rabbit hole of alpha male influencers. Marketed as self-improvement (which we love) these influencers often lose the plot and warp into misogyny and…
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Are You in a Toxic Relationship?
Ever felt like when it's good it's really good, and when it's bad it's awful? Maybe one moment your partner is lovey-dovey, and the next, they’re cold and distant. Maybe you feel like you're the only one holding the relationship together. These are just some of the warning signs that you may be…
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Who Knew Joy Could Be So Scary - Foreboding Joy (Dr. Brené Brown)
Laying in bed with her boyfriend, content and happy, Vanessa suddenly thought: "Enjoy it while it lasts!" then: "WTF?" Ever find yourself waiting for something bad to happen, or thinking about what could go wrong, just when you're at your happiest? That's foreboding joy—a defense mechanism where…
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We Try: Finding a F*cking Job
Is it imposter syndrome, or are you actually not qualified? In this episode we try finding a new job - reading job descriptions, writing 500 different resumes, getting to stage 4 in the interview process only to get that dreaded "Thank you for your time...". We share practical tips on finding…
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You Deserve to Rot – 5 Ingredients for a Quality Rotting Day
It might SOUND gross, but having a "rot" day may just be exactly what you need! "Rot day" seems to have originated as a concept on TikTok, where users share content related to self-care, relaxation, and indulgence. It's essentially a designated day to take a break from the usual responsibilities...
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Why it's Hard to Balance Having Friends While Being in a Relationship
If you've ever had a friend disappear after getting into a relationship (or if you've been that friend...) you know balancing your friendships and your relationship can be challenging! Who do you prioritize when date night lands on the same night your friends want to hang? How do you manage your...
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Acting Imperfectly vs. Not At All (What to Do When You're Feeling STUCK!)
Sometimes doing something new or scary can feel impossible - what will people think? What if I fail? We get stuck on the "right" way to do something or the "right" choice to make that we actually end up feeling stuck (and doing nothing at all). We get into the clingy "what-ifs", how to face the...
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10 Years Out Of College...Feeling Still 10 Years Behind?
It sometimes feels like college was just yesterday. Other days you realize it isn't as close as it once was. Millennials specifically have faced a lot of L's (losses) in comparison to our parents - from being told our coffee or avocado toast habits are the reason we can't buy a house to college...
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We Try: Color Matching Trend vs. Venus Sign Trend
Armed with Chat GPT, the color picker tool, and our time of birth - we pit the Color Matching trend against the Venus Sign trend to see which worked best for helping us determine our personal style. You may have seen these trends and wondered if you should pay for the Astra subscription or $300…
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Dare to be Heard, Seen, and Felt with SmashUp Somatics co-founders Carrie Hennessey & Ellen Garavatti
We think of voice as a product, an end result, but how often have you thought about what it feels like as it's leaving your body? Have you been in talk therapy repeating the same patterns of ideas? Carrie and Ellen join us in this episode to talk about sound as play, the neuroscience of sound…
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Wedding Party Horrors
We've got some juicy listener submissions in this episode - and some crazy stories of our own! Weddings can be beautiful, wonderful, crazy, stressful, horrific times. We get into why weddings (especially being in them) can be such an uncomfortable and stressful time. From bridesmaids fighting in...
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You Deserve to Pause, Rest and Re-center
"Rotting" sounds great in theory, but if you're not used to resting and taking the time to recharge it may cause more anxiety than anything else. Inspired from a text reminder from Melissa to Vanessa, we explore why intentionally getting rest can feel uncomfortable. We discuss the pitfalls of…
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We Try: Tracking our Cycles (and how helpful it is for EVERYONE!)
What if instead of counting down the days until your period ends, you tracked your cycle...the entire time? Melissa has been a fan of knowing the science behind the cycle but Vanessa shares why she was so reluctant to track her period. Like, what men used to do to women (and might still do) in a...
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You Can't Control It All
Throwing up your hands and saying "Jesus take the wheel" (even jokingly, shout out Carrie Underwood) can be uncomfortable AF. But no matter how much you try, sometimes the only thing you can control...is yourself. In this episode we discuss what it's like to be the planner, organizer, and person...
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The Power of Discomfort
What happens when you force yourself to be uncomfortable? For Vanessa, it meant finding out pottery was not for her. We're diving headfirst into the wild world of discomfort and exploring how leaning into those cringe-worthy, awkward and sometimes terrifying situations can actually be the secret...
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Break Ups, Make Ups, and Dating Again
"It's not you, it's me" is a real thing. We kick this season off exploring the discomfort breaking up, making up, and dating brings. Whether it's the angry break up, the mutual break up, and the "what even was that" "break up", we cover the importance of defining boundaries after a relationship…
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8 Telltale Signs You're a People Pleaser (and How to Break Free)
Do you know the difference between being empathic, thoughtful, and caring and being a people pleaser? As self proclaimed "recovering people pleasers", we're excited to spill the tea on eight dead giveaways that you might just be a people pleaser too. We discuss how trying to please everyone can...
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ABOUT THIS SHOW
The podcast for people who want to be ok with being uncomfortable. From wanting to quit your job, questionable dating decisions, and "adult" moments that make you wish you were a kid again - each week we have unapologetically uncomfortable conversations about mental health, work, and relationships. Let's get uncomfortable.
HOSTED BY
Vanessa and Melissa
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