It's Not Me, It's You

EPISODE 16This episode goes from horoscopes to straight-up horrorscopes real quick 😭We sit down with our guest and get into his dating history (being in love not once, but twice, almost getting engaged, and all the chaos in between). Somewhere along the way, we start questioning if it was real love… or just the stars playing games.We talk zodiac signs, patterns in dating, red flags we ignored, and those moments where you really have to ask yourself: are they cooking… or are they actually cooked?It’s funny, a little unhinged, and way too relatable if you’ve ever tried to make sense of your love life through a birth chart.

🎙️ Episode 15: Red Flags, Green Flags & Everything In Between (w/ Cosze)In this episode, we sit down with our guest Cosze and get into the messy middle of modern dating... the red flags, the green flags, and all the confusing signals in between.Like most of our conversations, it starts one place and ends somewhere completely different. We talk dating experiences, reading people’s energy, figuring out what’s real vs what’s a warning sign, and the gray areas that make relationships so complicated.Some people ignore red flags. Some people run at the first sign of trouble. And some of us are just trying to figure out what actually matters when you’re getting to know someone.Real talk, random tangents, and the kind of conversation that feels like sitting around with friends trying to decode dating.

The Fun Parts of Dating (Yes, We’re Being Sarcastic)We had a little time before the year wrapped… so of course we hit record.This one’s off-the-whim, no outline, no filter, just us talking about the “fun” parts of dating (heavy sarcasm implied).From mixed signals, situationships, overthinking texts, dating fatigue, and the emotional gymnastics that somehow count as modern romance, we’re laughing through it because honestly… what else can you do?If you’ve ever said “I’m done dating” and then downloaded the app again a week later, this episode is for you.End-of-year chaos, dating trauma bonding, and real talk before the reset.Happy almost-new-year. Good luck out there 🫡

Dating apps aren’t just awkward anymore… they’re kinda dark.In this episode, Matt breaks down his real-life experiences on dating apps...from sketchy situations to straight-up fraud, and why “trust, but verify” isn’t paranoia, it’s survival.We talk about:The illusion of safety on dating appsRed flags that show up way too lateWhen giving the benefit of the doubt turns into being naïveHow optimism can get you playedProtecting your energy, time, and peace while still staying open to loveThis isn’t fear-mongering, it’s real conversations from real experiences.If you’re dating online, thinking about it, or already tired of it… this one’s for you.

This week’s episode gets heated in the best way. Vanessa and Matt get real about love, fear, commitment, and whether past experiences leave us tainted or just more self-aware.Matt opens up about thinking he might’ve been in love once and why he doesn’t know if he’ll ever find love again. Vanessa challenges him on how commitment does define a relationship, especially after dedicating 7 years to one relationship and 9 to another.We dive into:What “being tainted” really meansWhy commitment matters (or doesn’t?)How to go with the flow instead of forcing connectionsBecoming a magnet for what you want“Be the water, not the rock” ... our new dating mantraThe difference between lack of chemistry vs. genuine compatibilityKnowing what you’re doing in dating (and not misleading people)It’s honest. It’s vulnerable. It’s chaotic.And it might just help you figure out your own relationships.

In this episode, we get into the real foundations of dating, relationships, and self-awareness. Because the truth is: dating gets way easier when YOU know who you are.We talk:✨ the two types of single people (the ones who want to be single vs. the ones who absolutely don’t)✨ how dating & sex are an energy exchange✨ why some people protect their sauce… and others just hand it out like Costco samples✨ the major relationship types... the happily in love, the unhappily attached, the conformers, the cheaters, and the “idk what we’re doing but we’re here” crowd✨ why self-awareness makes everything… life, love, intimacy, choosing partners… SO much easierIt’s real talk, funny talk, and “oh damn I needed to hear that” talk... your fav mix.

In this episode, we sit down with Jenny, who’s been in a loving relationship for three years and is building a future with her person. We dive into everything from sugar babies to self-love, and how knowing yourself is the real key to finding the right partner. Jenny gets real about not settling, the importance of growing with your partner, and the exciting next steps she and her girl are planning together. It’s a mix of laughs, love talk, and lessons you won’t want to miss.

This week on It’s Not Me, It’s You we’re joined by the incredibly talented Chef Tavos; food truck king, flavor wizard, and culinary dreamer who’s out here making magic happen with the love of his life by his side. 🌮 ❤️ He’s serving up more than just mouthwatering dishes… he’s also dishing out his secret sauce on love.Their food? It doesn’t just taste good, it transports you. One bite and you’re not dying… you’re being reborn again. ✨Tavos opens up about how he found “the one” while chasing his dream, what it’s like building a life (and a business) together, and how love fuels his hustle. We laugh, get real about relationships, and hear the honest truth behind building both a brand and a marriage from the ground up.Come for the shenanigans, stay for the heart. 🫶

In this episode, we sit down with Ethan Moreno (Matt’s little brother) to talk about something that’s rare but beautiful... finding real love young and keeping it strong. Ethan opens up about how he met his high school sweetheart, how he knew it was love, and the little things that keep their relationship alive.We dive into:💌 What makes a relationship feel healthy and loving🌍 Navigating long distance & staying emotionally connected😂 Random debates like “hoodies” (yup, circumcision talk)🎮 Why having mutual hobbies makes love more funIt’s a mix of laughter, honesty, and lessons on building love that lasts.

This week on It’s Not Me, It’s You Podcast, we’re breaking down "the roster", what it is, why people have one and how it ties into dating. We dive into authenticity in dating, the importance of synergy, and how knowing yourself sets the tone for the kind of love you attract. Whether you’re single, cuffed, or somewhere in-between, this episode is full of real talk, laughs, and insights you don’t want to miss.

It’s giving chaos, delusion, clarity… and confidence. In this episode, your favorite sibling duo is back in the studio talking all things modern love. From dating just to smash vs actually building something real, red flag hobbies, and everything in between.Matt introduces us to the term hardboiled (aka confident with a side of gusto), while they both try to make sense of dating in 2025. Is the honeymoon phase real? Are grand gestures still a thing? Are people still looking for marriage, or just vibes?We shot from the hip and kept it all the way real, because that’s what we do. 🎯💘Pull up, stay delusional but hopeful, and don’t forget to follow the pod.New episodes every week. 🎙️💌

She’s not your average housewife, she’s running the house, the schedule, and the bedroom. In this episode, we sit down with a real-life freaky housewife and talk about the power dynamics of love, control, and cooking in thigh-highs. No more settling. No more playing small. It’s time to upgrade your role, from passive partner to power player. Let’s talk dominance, devotion, and domesticity… all at once.

Ghosted again? Same. In this episode, your favorite chaotic sibling duo dives into the messiness of modern communication (or lack thereof). We’re talking about ghosting, breadcrumbing, avoiding hard convos, and why “just say how you feel” seems impossible for some. We also get into accountability in dating (yes, even yours 😬), the fine line between honesty and cruelty, and the underrated power of clear, simple communication. It’s raw, it’s funny, it’s painfully relatable. Tune in and let’s unpack the BS together.🎧 New episodes every week! Subscribe so you don’t miss the next one.

She left Boston for love.The love didn’t last.What came after… she’s still figuring out.This week on It’s Not Me, It’s You, we sit down with Lena the Stitcha... a guest who says less but makes you lean in more. She moved cities, changed chapters, and while she may not have all the answers, her presence says there’s more beneath the surface.We talk about starting over, the quiet in-between, and what it means to date when you’re still piecing together who you’ve become.Not everything was said, and maybe that’s the point.Listen in, lean closer, and see what you pick up.

This one’s exactly what it sounds like... real talk, no filter. We sat down with our homie Louiekillz, an artist and self-declared reformed hoe, and let’s just say… the conversation got wild.From running the streets and not being ready, to trying to figure out what love even looks like now, we covered it all. It’s giving locker room talk, mixed with just enough honesty to catch you off guard.It’s messy, it’s funny, and it’s real. Just how we like it.PSA: This episode is meant to be entertaining and perspective-based. It’s full of jokes, hot takes, and personal experiences, not relationship advice. So take what resonates, leave what doesn’t, and most importantly… enjoy the chaos.

Grab your drink and pull up a seat... it’s another fireside chat with your favorite sibling duo! In this episode, Vanessa (the “seasoned vet”) and Matt (the self-proclaimed “rookie”) go head-to-head on the ever-changing battlefield of love.We’re talking about dating do’s and don’ts, how intimacy has evolved, and much much more. No scripts. No filters. Just real convos, loud laughs, and sibling chaos as always.Hit play and join us. 💥

Welcome to the very first episode of It’s Not Me, It’s You... a love, dating, and relationship podcast hosted by siblings who could not be more different.She’s the big sister: 11 years older, been in long-term relationships, and seen love from the inside out.He’s the little brother: never been in love, but got plenty of hot takes and chaotic opinions.In this episode, we shoot the sh*t on everything from how short is too short for men’s shorts, to body counts, religion and spirituality in relationships, and even how partners feel about masturbation.No filter, no script , just real conversations from two people trying to make sense of modern love from totally different POVs.If you’ve ever argued over a 5-inch inseam, wondered how God fits into your sex life, or debated whether “body count” still matters in 2025, this episode is for you.🎙️ Subscribe, like, and hit the bell... because trust us, we’re just getting started.