Lessons in Self Worth

In this episode, I'm sharing a powerful 4-step therapy intervention to help you start overcoming people-pleasing today. I genuinely work through this in detail with people and it works!If you know you have a tendency to put other people's needs before your own, say yes when you really want to say no, or abandon yourself in order to keep the peace, this episode is for you. People-pleasing is often a learned survival strategy, but healing requires us to develop new ways of relating to ourselves and others. So grab a pen and paper, because this isn't just something you'll listen to, it's something you'll actively work through. I'll be guiding you through practical exercises and actionable steps that you can start implementing immediately to create lasting change.⁠Work with Carly Ann⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Join Newsletter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠

I've recorded a somatic practice for you.A somatic practice basically helps you tune into and regulate your body and nervous system. While cognitive approaches focus on changing thoughts and beliefs, somatic work addresses the stress, emotions, and automatic patterns held in the body. For me, it all about combining both that supports lasting change when it comes to overthinking, habits, and triggers.This practice is designed for anyone who struggles with people pleasing, finds themselves self-abandoning, or regularly puts the needs of others before their own.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Work with Carly Ann⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Join Newsletter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow on Instagram⁠⁠⁠

In today's episode, we're exploring people-pleasing and why it so often comes at the cost of losing yourself. We'll unpack what people-pleasing really is, the subtle and obvious ways it can show up, and why it often leaves us feeling anxious, worried, exhausted, and disconnected from our own needs. We'll also explore why these patterns develop, how they are often rooted in similar beliefs/experiences. Most importantly, we'll look at how you can begin to challenge these patterns so you can care deeply about others without abandoning yourself in the process.In this episode, you'll learn:• The key signs of people-pleasing and self-abandonment• How anxiety, worry, and a fear of rejection fuel people-pleasing behaviours• Why caring too much about others can lead to losing yourself• 4 Practical steps to break free from people-pleasing and build healthier boundariesBook My Signature Single Session⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Join Newsletter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow on Instagram⁠⁠⁠

In the previous episode before this one, I spoke to those of you who feel stuck in your head and find it hard to really be in the moment. If that’s you, it’s worth going back and listening to that that too.This episode is a guided grounding meditation for you to listen to when feeling triggered, or can notice you are overthinking/spiralling. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Work with Carly Ann⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Join Newsletter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow on Instagram⁠⁠⁠Music:I Don't See the Branches, I See the Leaves by Chris Zabriskie is licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution 4.0 license. https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/Source: http://chriszabriskie.com/dtv/Artist: ⁠http://chriszabriskie.com/⁠

Hello my friends, my fellow overthinkers, coming up in this episode we will talk aboutOf course have a chit chat about how overthinking stands in the way of your dreams, the life you desire and deserveHow overthinking disconnects us from the present moment and the life happening around usShare some every day examples of what it looks like to be more in your headShare some key messages and psychoeducation that often support people to get out of their heads and back into life & what’s important to youIf your overthinking is getting in the way or slowing down your ability to enjoy your life, than this is for you.Overthinking gets in the way of your potential and this conversation is all about giving you the boost, inspiration, and key principles to help you get out of your head and into the moment⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Work with Carly Ann⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Join Newsletter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow on Instagram⁠⁠⁠

Helping you cope, ground, and feel calm with powerful affirmationAre you being ignored or feeling ignored right now?If you don't know where you stand and are feeling like you're left out or forgotten right now - I have recorded some affirmations to help you feel more secure, ground yourself, and think in a more balanced wayMusic by  Mykola Sosin from Pixabay⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Work with Carly Ann⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Join Newsletter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow on Instagram⁠⁠⁠

Are you obsessing & overthinking about being ignored?Whether you are obviously being ignored, subtly, or you're not sure, in this episode I (Carly Ann) am addressing the impact it can have on you.As usual we will have an important conversation about the experience of being ignored and what this can trigger off within us, plus I'll share the any inspiring ideas that pop in along the way that I hope will help anyone currently being or feeling ignored.I'll also share reason why it hurts so much, why some people are impacted more than others, and then we will round the episode off with four ways you can stay true to yourself when you feel ignored by one person or even a group.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Work with Carly Ann⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Join Newsletter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow on Instagram⁠⁠⁠

Are you an overthinker that gets stuck in your head?Overthinking is often an attempt to protect us. Yet the more we wrestle with our thoughts, the more stuck we can become in cycles of worry, rumination, and self-criticism.In this guided mindfulness and self-compassion practice, you'll have the opportunity to step out of the struggle with your thoughts and cultivate a different relationship with your inner experience. Rather than trying to think your way to relief, you'll be invited to practice awareness, acceptance, and kindness toward yourself.This is an experiential episode, so you can follow along and practice in real time. If overthinking has been taking up too much space in your mind lately, this exercise offers a chance to slow down, reconnect with yourself, and discover a more compassionate way of responding.Links below:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Work with Carly Ann⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Join Newsletter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow on Instagram⁠⁠⁠

Why can't you stop obsessing over certain thoughts, conversations, mistakes, or future scenarios? In this episode, I (Carly Ann) explore overthinking share 7 of the most common types of overthinking.Understanding your personal style of overthinking is the first step toward breaking free from obsessive thoughts and regaining control of your mind.Whether you struggle with anxiety, intrusive thoughts, worry, perfectionism, or constant overanalysis, this episode offers valuable insights and actionable steps to help you overcome overthinking and live more fully in the present moment.In this episode, you'll learn:• What overthinking is • The 7 different types of overthinking• How each style triggers certain feelings & behaviours• Practical guidance on how to stop overthinking and reduce anxietyIf you're ready to stop living in your head and start living in the moment, this episode is for you.Useful links:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Work with Carly Ann⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Join Newsletter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow on Instagram⁠⁠⁠Keywords: overthinking, obsessive thoughts, anxiety, rumination, intrusive thoughts, mental health, mindfulness, emotional wellness, self-help, personal growth, happiness, overanalyzing, worry, stress management, self-awareness, mental clarity, psychology, emotional resilience, living in the present moment.

In this episode, I’m (Carly Ann) introducing the new direction of the podcast and why I changed the name from Lessons in Self Worth to Lessons in Overthinking and Obsessing.If you struggle with overthinking, obsessive thoughts, anxious attachment, relationship anxiety, social anxiety, health anxiety, reassurance seeking, or feeling stuck in mental loops you can’t switch off, this ep is going to feel lovely for youComing Up:Why this is now the podcast and place to be if you're an overthinkerDifferent types of overthinking and obsessingHow overthinking links to self-worthThe emotional, behavioural, and physical impact of overthinkingThe core mistake people make when trying to stop overthinkingA quick, more effective approach that can help take the weight and fear out of difficult thoughts todayCURRENT LINKS:⁠⁠⁠⁠Work with Carly Ann⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Join Newsletter⁠⁠⁠

Are you feeling self-conscious, anxious, or like everyone is watching you, especially in social situations? You might feel embarrassed talking at work, scared to share your opinion with friends, or nervous to talk to a stranger...That’s the spotlight effect - a common cognitive bias where you overestimate how much others notice our appearance, behaviour, mistakes, or the fact you're anxious.In this episode, I (Modern CBT Therapist & Coach, Carly Ann) discuss the spotlight effect in more detail, including more on what it is, examples you can relate to, the impact, and I explore practical strategies to overcome the spotlight effect. If you struggle with fear of judgement, awkward social moments, or replaying conversations in your head, this episode will help you give you a moment of feeling so seen - and how to break free from it.Hosted by Carly Ann, this episode is ideal for anyone interested in psychology, mental health, anxiety management, and personal development.Links below:⁠⁠⁠⁠Work with Carly Ann⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Join Newsletter⁠⁠⁠Follow on Instagram⁠⁠

Changing your mindset and beginning to think in a new way is not just about learning & repeating the new thoughts. It often comes with an internal battle that no one really talks about, feeling like you are arguing with yourself. In this episode I (Carly Ann) explore what it feels like when you are trying to grow, but your mind keeps arguing with you, doubting you, or pulling you back into old patterns.You might notice two parts of you showing up at the same time. One part wants change and another part does not fully trust it yet. This inner conflict can feel confusing, frustrating, and discouraging, but it is a normal part of building self-esteem and shifting long held beliefs.I also share practical therapist informed tools and self help techniques to help you start calming that internal argument, strengthen new ways of thinking, and build more trust in yourself over time.If you are in the middle of change and it feels hard - save this ep or listen right nowLinks below:⁠⁠⁠⁠Work with Carly Ann⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠FREE: Self-Worth RESET⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Join Newsletter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Join my Telegram HERE⁠⁠