Let's Talk Divorce

Divorce guilt can show up at every stage of separation. Before you leave, while you're going through divorce and long after the relationship itself has ended.In this episode of Let's Talk Divorce, I explore the different ways guilt can affect the decisions we make. From feeling guilty about leaving and worrying about the impact on your children, to taking responsibility for your ex's emotions, feeling bad about setting boundaries, and even experiencing guilt when life starts to feel good again.I also look at an important question: does feeling guilty actually mean you've done something wrong?In this episode:The difference between feeling guilty and actually doing something wrongThe guilt that can keep you stuck when you're considering leavingWorrying about the impact of separation on your childrenGuilt when you're the person who chose to end the marriageBlaming yourself when the decision to divorce wasn't yoursWhy guilt can affect the decisions you make during divorceFeeling guilty for setting boundaries with your exCo-parenting guilt and taking responsibility for things you can't controlWhy you might feel guilty when you finally start feeling happy againHow to recognise when responsibility is genuinely yours - and when you're carrying something that isn'tWhether you're quietly questioning your marriage, going through a divorce or trying to co-parent and rebuild your life afterwards, this episode will help you look at the guilt you're carrying and ask whether it really belongs to you.For more support and free guides, check out my website: www.rightstepcoaching.co.ukKeywords: divorce guilt, guilt after separation, leaving a marriage, divorce coach, guilt about children and divorce, co-parenting guilt, difficult divorce, divorce support, separation support, family mediation, divorce emotions, moving on after divorce, divorce podcast, England and Wales.Disclaimer: This episode provides general information and guidance and is not a substitute for legal or therapeutic advice. Every situation is different, and you should seek advice appropriate to your own circumstances.

Many people assume that if a marriage isn't unhappy, divorce should be straightforward. But leaving is rarely simple, even when it's the right decision.In this episode of Let's Talk Divorce, I talk to 'B', who was married for 13 years in what she describes as a relatively happy relationship. She shares what led her to the decision to leave anyway, what it was like to tell her husband. 'B' talks of some of the challenges she faced during a difficult divorce, including his poor behaviour which was occasionally abusive. She talks honestly about the lessons she learned along the way, and how she and her child now have two happy parents, living separate, settled lives.Making the decision to leave a marriage that started out wellPlanning to tell your partner it's overNavigating a divorce that didn't go smoothlyProtecting your peace and your children when things get difficultThe lessons learned along the wayWhy two happy, separate parents can be better for a child than one unhappy householdRebuilding a life after leavingWhether you're quietly questioning a marriage that looks okay on paper, in the middle of a difficult separation, or trying to rebuild afterwards, this episode is a reminder that it is possible to come out the other side, settled, and happier.For more support and free guides check out my website www.rightstepcoaching.co.ukKeywords: leaving a happy marriage, divorce coach, difficult divorce, co-parenting after separation, family mediation, child wellbeing, divorce support, family separation, emotional wellbeing, divorce podcast, England and Wales.Disclaimer: This episode provides general information and guidance and is not a substitute for legal or therapeutic advice. Every situation is different, and you should seek advice appropriate to your own circumstances.

One of the biggest fears parents have when they're questioning their relationship or going through divorce is this:"What will this do to my children?"In this episode of Let's Talk Divorce, I explore what children really need before, during and after separation. Drawing on my experience as a former primary headteacher, qualified family mediator and divorce coach, I share what research tells us about how children experience divorce, along with practical advice to help you support them through family change.You'll hear why it's not divorce itself that has the greatest impact on children, but the conflict surrounding it, and why you don't have to be a perfect parent to help your children thrive.Whether staying together is always best for the childrenWhat research tells us about children and divorceWhy children often notice more than parents realiseThe five things children really need during family changeHow to talk to children about separation in an age-appropriate wayWhy routines and consistency help children feel secureSupporting your children through co-parentingWhy looking after yourself is part of looking after your childrenWhether you're still questioning your relationship, navigating separation or already co-parenting, this episode will help you focus on what matters most.For more support and free guides check out my website www.rightstepcoaching.co.uk Keywords: children and divorce, helping children through divorce, separation and children, co-parenting, parenting after divorce, talking to children about divorce, family mediation, divorce coach, child wellbeing, divorce support, family separation, child arrangements, emotional wellbeing, difficult co-parenting, divorce podcast, England and Wales.Disclaimer: This episode provides general information and guidance and is not a substitute for legal or therapeutic advice. Every family is different, and if you have concerns about your own circumstances, you should seek advice appropriate to your situation.

Back to school can be a bigger transition for separated families than people expect. New routines, school communications, uniforms, handovers and parents' evenings can all become sources of stress when two households are involved.In this episode of Let's Talk Divorce, I look at how separated parents can make the school year run more smoothly by getting organised early, keeping communication factual and making sure both parents have access to the information they need.I also talk about why schools should know when family circumstances have changed, what to do if communication with your co-parent is difficult, and why raising concerns early can often prevent bigger problems later.In this episode:Why back to school can feel more complicated after separationWhy it's important to tell the school when your circumstances changeWhat to actually say to school without oversharingWhy both parents with parental responsibility should usually receive school information directlyWhat to do if your co-parent isn't passing school information onSeparate parents' evening appointmentsPractical ways to manage uniforms, school costs and equipment across two homesHow to keep on top of school events, trips, forms and dates without relying on your co-parentWhy simple systems can reduce unnecessary conflictWhether you've recently separated, you're already co-parenting across two homes, or school routines regularly become a source of conflict, this episode will help you put some structure around the practical side of school so that your child isn't caught in the middle.For more support and free guides, check out my website: www.rightstepcoaching.co.ukKeywords: school after divorce, back to school after separation, co-parenting and school, parental responsibility, school information for separated parents, parents evening after divorce, family mediation, difficult co-parenting, child arrangements, school communication after separation, divorce support, family separation, child wellbeing, divorce podcast, England and Wales.Disclaimer: This episode provides general information and guidance and is not a substitute for legal advice. School policies and individual circumstances may vary, and specific legal or safeguarding issues should be discussed with an appropriately qualified professional.

Do you feel like every message from your co-parent turns into an argument?Does seeing their name pop up on your phone instantly make you feel anxious, angry or exhausted?If so, you're not alone.In this episode of Let's Talk Divorce, I explore why difficult co-parenting isn't just about finding the perfect words to say. It's about understanding the patterns that keep you feeling reactive and learning how to take back control of your own peace.I share some of the most common co-parenting patterns I see as a family mediator and divorce coach, along with practical strategies you can start using straight away to help you communicate more calmly and confidently.Why better communication isn't always the answerThe 'Roundabout' pattern that keeps parents stuck in repeated conflictA simple Traffic Lights tool to help you decide when to respond and when to pauseWhy expecting your co-parent to change can leave you feeling powerlessHow setting healthy boundaries can actually increase conflict before things improveWhy your children don't need perfect co-parenting. They need one emotionally steady parent.Practical ways to protect your own peace while supporting your childrenIf you're tired of feeling like your co-parent controls your emotions, this episode is for you.If today's episode resonated with you, my Co-parenting Roadmap is designed to help you move beyond simply surviving difficult co-parenting.Over 12 weeks, I'll help you understand your triggers, communicate more effectively, set healthier boundaries and stop feeling like you're constantly reacting to your co-parent.Find out more here: https://www.rightstepcoaching.co.uk/coparenting-roadmapKeywords: difficult co-parenting, co-parenting after divorce, difficult ex, high-conflict co-parenting, communicating with your ex, child arrangements, separated parents, family mediation, divorce coach, parenting after separation, boundaries with an ex, co-parenting support, emotional triggers, family conflict, divorce podcast, parallel parenting, co-parenting communication, UK divorce,

One of the biggest reasons people stay in unhappy relationships is fear of what will happen to the family home.Will I lose the house in a divorce?Will everything be split 50/50?What if my name isn't on the mortgage?Will my children have to move?In this episode of Let's Talk Divorce, I explore the emotional and practical realities of what can happen to the family home during separation and divorce. I separate common myths from reality and explain some of the key legal principles that many people don't know.This episode covers:Why the family home feels like so much more than bricks and mortarThe biggest fears that keep people stuckWhether everything is automatically split 50/50What happens if your name isn't on the mortgage or title deedsThe different options available for the family home after separationWhy understanding your options can reduce fear and help you make informed decisionsThe role family mediation can play in reaching agreementsFor free guides and support through questioning your relationship, separation or divorce, check out my website.www.rightstepcoaching.co.uk If you enjoyed this episode, please follow the podcast and leave a review. It really helps more people find these conversations when they need them most.Topics covered: family home after separation, what happens to the house in divorce, divorce finances, property settlement, financial settlements, 50/50 myths, title deeds, mortgage, family mediation, separation, divorce support, divorce coach, England and Wales.Please note: This episode provides general information for England and Wales only and is not legal advice. Every family's circumstances are different, so if you're unsure about your own situation, it's important to seek professional advice.

School holidays can be one of the most challenging times for separated parents.From disagreements over holiday dates and routines to missing your children when they're with the other parent, it's a time when emotions can run high and conflict can easily escalate.In this episode of Let's Talk Divorce, I share practical tips to help you navigate school holiday co-parenting with greater confidence. We talk about planning ahead, communicating more effectively, managing different parenting styles, and the legal position around taking your children abroad, including when you need the other parent's permission.Whether you're newly separated or have been co-parenting for years, this episode will help you focus on what matters most - reducing conflict and supporting your children through the holidays.If difficult co-parenting is becoming exhausting and you feel like you're constantly reacting to your ex, my Co-parenting Roadmap provides step-by-step guidance to help you communicate more effectively, set healthier boundaries and take back control.Find out more at www.rightstepcoaching.co.uk Topics covered: school holiday co-parenting, child arrangements, holidays abroad, parental responsibility, communication after divorce, separated parents, divorce, family mediation, co-parenting support.

Episode 1: Why Summer Doesn't Feel Like Sunshine Summer is often portrayed as a time of family fun, holidays and making happy memories. But for many people navigating separation, divorce or co-parenting, it can be one of the most emotionally challenging times of the year.In this episode, I explore why the summer holidays can bring extra pressure, from trying to hold a relationship together for the sake of the children to managing holiday arrangements, missing your children when they're with the other parent, and comparing your family life to the picture-perfect moments we see on social media.I'll also share three simple things that can help you focus on what really matters this summer, for both you and your children.Whether you're questioning your relationship, going through a divorce or adjusting to co-parenting, I hope this episode reminds you that you're not alone - and that your children don't need a perfect summer, they need a connected one.If this episode resonates with you, I'd love it if you'd follow the podcast, leave a review and share it with someone who might need to hear it.Download my free guide if you are questioning your relationship. Check out my website for more information and support.Keywords: divorce, separation, co-parenting, family change, school holidays, children's wellbeing.