Love, Laughs, and Lessons

What happens when you spend over three decades married to a man who makes you feel like every breath you take is wrong, and how do you rebuild your entire identity and sense of self from the bottom up?In this episode of Love, Laughs & Lessons, psychologist Dr. Frankie Bashan and certified relationship coach Denise Rai sit down with international podcaster, best-selling author, and speaker Laura Richards.Laura spent 33 years married to a covert narcissist—a "nice guy" in public who served the homeless and picked up tabs, but who systematically devalued her and left her walking on eggshells at home. After leaving her marriage, she finally found a name for her pain: narcissistic abuse. She turned her recovery journey into a lifeline for others, writing two best-selling books, Married to a Nice Guy and There is Hope, and hosting her hit podcast, That's Where I'm At.The conversation explores the mechanics of covert narcissism, love bombing, and the slow "drip, drip" of devaluation that erodes self-worth over decades. They delve into why religious spaces can sometimes harbor abusers under the guise of "staying and praying," how she strategically escaped her marriage, and why she firmly believes "if we're not dead, we're not done" in midlife.One of the most memorable moments is when Laura discusses her "bought the avocado wrong" post—perfectly capturing the exhausting, everyday reality of covert devaluation.What You'll LearnThe critical difference between overt and covert narcissism, why covert abusers are so difficult to spot because of their helpful public personas, and how the slow "drip, drip" of devaluation leaves you walking on eggshells in your own home.Why love bombing at the beginning of a relationship floods your brain with chemicals that bypass logic, and the critical importance of slowing down and pacing yourself when dating to allow red flags to show up.The intersection of religious conditioning and abuse, why the church's emphasis on "staying and praying" or reconciliation can inadvertently keep survivors trapped in toxic dynamics, and how Laura navigated her own reverse discard.How to plan a strategic and quiet escape from a narcissistic partner, why keeping your plans completely private is essential for safety, and how covert narcissists often use financial control to prevent their partners from leaving.Why self-love and internal validation are the ultimate antidotes to narcissistic abuse, and why reclaiming your power in midlife means building a completely new, stronger version of yourself rather than trying to get back to who you used to be.Guest Bio: Laura RichardsLaura Richards is an international podcaster, best-selling author, and speaker dedicated to empowering women after narcissistic abuse. She is the creator and host of the That's Where I'm At podcast, which has been featured on Google News, AP News, and Yahoo. Drawing from her own 33-year marriage, Laura is the author of Married to a Nice Guy: Getting Over Narcissistic Abuse and There is Hope: 52 Keys to Healing After Divorce. Today, she offers resources, speaking engagements, and one-on-one coaching to help women navigate midlife starting over and reclaim their power.Connect with Laura RichardsWebsite: thatswhereimatpodcast.comPodcast: That's Where I'm At Podcasthttps://www.instagram.com/thatswhereimatpodcast/https://www.youtube.com/@thatswhereimatpodcasthttps://www.facebook.com/thatswhereimatpod/

What happens when you step out of an 18-year marriage into a modern dating scene you haven't navigated since your 20s, and how do you find a deep, slow-paced, and conscious connection in a world dominated by dating apps?In this episode of Love, Laughs & Lessons, psychologist Dr. Frankie Bashan and certified relationship coach Denise Rai sit down with entrepreneur, advocate, and host of the Living Out Loud podcast Michele Flamer to discuss modern queer relationships, midlife dating, and what it truly means to live out loud.Drawing from her own transition out of an 18-year marriage, Michele shares how she bypassed dating apps, worked with a shaman and a therapist for four years, and ultimately met her current partner, Liz, via TikTok DMs. Together, they dive into the mechanics of their long-distance relationship between Phoenix and San Diego, co-parenting their 14-year-old daughter like "rock stars," and how they use intentional tools like video messaging and relationship-building games to grow closer every day.The conversation explores what it means to be demisexual—needing an intellectual and emotional spark before a physical one—and how midlife dating in your 50s shifts your perspective on what is truly desirable. Michele unpacks why she warns against the "U-Haul effect," why a partner's lack of friends is a significant warning sign, and how speaking up from your "throat chakra" to state exactly what you need is the ultimate green flag for a lasting relationship.What You'll LearnWhy chasing butterflies and intense early chemistry is often a sign of trauma-bonding, and why we should look for a calm, stable "steady f*** yes" connection instead.How to heal your throat chakra by expressing your boundaries, fears, and deal-breakers openly, and why collecting data early on prevents dating fatigue.What it means to be demisexual in the modern dating landscape, and why establishing a deep cerebral connection is the ultimate foreplay.Why having no friends is a significant relational red flag, and what healthy friendships teach us about our capacity for romantic partnership.Practical ways to use intimacy tools like the "We're Not Really Strangers" card deck to take the pressure off first dates and facilitate deep, authentic connection.Guest Bio: Michele FlamerMichele Flamer is a mother, entrepreneur, advocate, and lifelong connector with decades of experience in sales and leadership. She is the host of the Living Out Loud podcast and the co-founder of Relationship Ready Lesbians, an upcoming workshop curriculum designed to help women navigate midlife dating, build relational skills, and step into intentional connection. Grounded in her own journey of self-reflection and healing, Michele is passionate about helping people stop editing themselves down for the comfort of others and start showing up exactly as they are.Connect with Michele FlamerInstagram & TikTok: @relationshipreadylesbiansPodcast: Living Out Loud(Note: Listeners can follow her social channels to join the waitlist for her upcoming "Relationship Ready Lesbians" workshop series!)

What happens when the excitement of a new relationship fades? Can desire be rebuilt, or is that simply what long-term love looks like?In this episode of Love, Laughs & Lessons, psychologist Dr. Frankie Bashan and certified relationship coach Denise Rai sit down with board-certified sex therapist and licensed marriage and family therapist Dr. Jenn Kennedy to explore what really happens after the honeymoon phase ends.Drawing from years of working with individuals and couples, Dr. Jenn explains why intimacy is something we intentionally create, not something we either have or lose. Together, they unpack the different stages of long-term relationships, why so many couples struggle with desire despite deeply loving one another, and how shame, routine, resentment, and unrealistic expectations quietly erode connection. They also explore emotional affairs, responsive desire, and why great sex is often the result of emotional safety, curiosity, and playfulness rather than spontaneity alone. What You'll LearnWhy the honeymoon phase fades and what healthy long-term intimacy actually looks likeDr. Jenn's concept of "microdosing lust" and what emotional affairs reveal about desire The difference between spontaneous and responsive desire, and why understanding both can transform your relationshipWhy nobody wants to be the only one initiating intimacy, and how couples can break that cyclePractical ways to bring playfulness, curiosity, and genuine connection back into your relationshipGuest Bio - Dr. Jenn KennedyDr. Jenn Kennedy is a board-certified sex therapist, licensed marriage and family therapist, and founder of The Pleasure Project. She holds a PhD in Clinical Sexology and specializes in helping individuals and couples navigate intimacy, desire, communication, and sexual wellness. Through therapy, education, and her online program The Pleasure Circle, she helps people move beyond shame, deepen connection, and build fulfilling relationships grounded in authenticity and pleasure. Special OfferLove, Laughs & Lessons listeners receive 50% off The Pleasure Circle, Dr. Jenn Kennedy's self-paced intimacy and sexuality program.Use code: HORSEThe course includes more than five hours of video instruction, 30 guided worksheets, and practical tools to help you better understand your body, improve communication, and cultivate a more fulfilling intimate life.Website: www.drjenn.comPodcast: The Pleasure Project

What happens when we teach young boys to shut down their emotions, and how can that early conditioning follow them into their adult relationships, emotional lives, and well-being?In this episode of Love, Laughs & Lessons, psychologist Dr. Frankie Bashan and certified relationship coach Denise Rai sit down with licensed psychologist Dr. Gloria Vanderhorst to explore the profound impact of gender conditioning, emotional suppression, and how adults can recover their full emotional range.Dr. Gloria shares research that has shaped her work, including findings she says suggest infant boys begin life with a broader range of emotional expression than girls, only to have that range narrowed through early social conditioning. Together, they unpack why Dr. Gloria challenges the statistics around declining divorce rates and argues that relationship breakups tell a bigger story than divorce statistics alone, how text messaging may give young men another avenue for emotional expression, and how women may also be shaped by gender conditioning and what it can look like to stay present when a male partner begins expressing vulnerable emotions.The conversation explores Dr. Gloria's concerns about the overmedication of young children with ADHD, the role of thoughtful parenting strategies and structure, and how her unique blank-page journal method helps adults tap into emotions that exist beyond language.One of the most memorable moments comes when Dr. Gloria shares a story about her granddaughter's male preschool teacher allowing her to finger-paint beyond the page, sparking a lively conversation about gender, parenting, exploration, and how much of children's behavior is innate versus conditioned.We Cover:Dr. Gloria shares research that has shaped her work, including findings she says suggest infant boys begin life with a broader range of emotional expression than girls, only to have that range narrowed through early social conditioning.The societal myth of "big boys don't cry" and how withholding emotional vocabulary forces men to substitute tender feelings with aggression, frustration, or silence.Why Dr. Gloria challenges the statistics around declining divorce rates and argues that relationship breakups tell a bigger story than divorce statistics alone.How text messaging may give young men another avenue for emotional expression.How women may also be shaped by gender conditioning, and what it can look like to stay present when a male partner begins expressing vulnerable emotions.Dr. Gloria's concerns about the overmedication of young children for ADHD, when medication may be appropriate, and parenting strategies that can provide children with greater structure, connection, and support.How to use blank-page journaling and structured feeling lists to bypass intellectualization, unlock somaticized history, and expand your emotional vocabulary at any age.Guest Bio: Dr. Gloria VanderhorstDr. Gloria Vanderhorst is a licensed psychologist in Maryland and Washington, D.C., with over three decades of experience helping children, men, couples, and families navigate emotional suppression, gender conditioning, and relational disconnection. She has served as the Director of Child and Adolescent Services at the Chesapeake ADHD Center of Maryland, founded Vanderhorst & Associates, and held a tenured faculty position in developmental psychology at Towson University. Grounded in Internal Family Systems and Emotionally-Focused Therapy, Dr. Gloria is the co-editor of The World of Collaborative Practice and the author of the Read, Reflect, Respond journal series, dedicated to helping adults take a deeper, shame-free dive into their emotional lives.Website: www.drvanderhorst.comJournal Website: www.gloriasbooks.com

What happens when your life looks successful on the outside, but you are quietly falling apart from addiction on the inside, and how do you find true purpose when conventional paths fail?In this episode of Love, Laughs & Lessons, psychologist Dr. Frankie Bashan and certified relationship coach Denise Rai sit down with registered psychotherapist and ADHD specialist Mike Stroh to explore the raw realities of mental health, addiction, and the human search for meaning.Drawing from his own journey, from experiencing a drug-induced psychotic episode on magic mushrooms at age twelve to over fourteen years of sobriety, Mike shares how he transformed his lived experiences into a mission to help others. Together, they unpack why we are facing a modern "meaning crisis" and how his Feedback Informed Treatment approach measures progress with the goal of helping people need less therapy over time, not more.The conversation explores what living with ADHD actually feels like from the inside, how weed, porn, screens, and other distractions can become ways of escaping ourselves, and how to stop taking on the emotional weight of everyone around us.One of the most memorable moments of the episode comes when Mike shares a witty but profound story about an old man on a park bench that perfectly illustrates the true, secret of boundaries and minding your own business.We Cover:How a drug-induced psychotic episode on magic mushrooms at age twelve set off a fifteen-year struggle with severe weed addiction, and the turning point that led him to finally ask for help.The reality of the modern "meaning crisis" and how our cultural loss of spiritual and communal institutions has left an existential void that many try to fill with substances or digital distractions.How his Feedback Informed Treatment approach measures progress with the goal of helping people need less therapy over time, not more.The visceral, daily reality of living with ADHD, and why practical, structured routines involving sleep, exercise, and mindfulness are often the most potent "medicine."Why young people struggle deeply to establish healthy boundaries, often misperceiving themselves as responsible for the reactions and feelings of those around them.The heartbreaking but necessary art of holding a hard line, illustrated by Mike's family experience with his brother's schizophrenia and what it taught him about the limits of responsibility and control.How Mike, during early recovery, encountered the profound message that "sobriety brings all of the things drugs and alcohol promised," and how that realization shaped his path toward separating his ultimate purpose from the roles he plays as a parent or partner.Guest Bio: Mike StrohMike Stroh is a registered psychotherapist and ADHD certified clinical service provider based in Ontario, Canada. He holds a master’s degree in counseling psychotherapy and specializes in anxiety, ADHD, addiction, and helping individuals discover genuine purpose in their lives. After overcoming his own severe battles with mental illness and substance abuse, Mike founded Starts With Me and has since delivered mental health talks and workshops to over 100,000 people, partnering with major school boards and national brands. He is featured frequently on national news as a mental health advocate, hosts The State of Mind Mental Health Podcast, and maintains a strictly social-media-free life to practice the healthy boundaries he teaches.Website: startswithme.caPodcast: The State of Mind Mental Health Podcast

What happens when it feels like you and your partner are speaking completely different languages—even when you're both trying your hardest to communicate?In this episode of Love, Laughs & Lessons, psychologist Dr. Frankie Bashan and relationship coach Denise Rai sit down with Josh Livingstone, The Husband Coach, to explore why so many couples struggle to connect despite having the best intentions.Drawing from more than 15 years of coaching married men, Josh explains why the biggest challenge in marriage isn't a lack of effort—it's a lack of direction. He introduces his CORE Method—Clarity, Ownership, Responsibility, and Execution—and explains why men often need practical, actionable tools to better understand, support, and emotionally connect with their partners. Together, they explore why men and women frequently "translate" each other's needs differently, how emotional validation strengthens relationships, and why sharing the mental and logistical load of running a household matters more than many couples realize.One of the episode's most memorable moments is Josh's "headache" thought experiment, which perfectly illustrates how men and women often seek connection in very different ways—and how a simple shift in perspective can completely change the outcome of a conversation.We Discuss:Why relationship struggles are often a translation problem, not a communication problemJosh's CORE Method: Clarity, Ownership, Responsibility, and ExecutionWhy listening is often more powerful than trying to fix the problemEmotional validation and what it really means to feel heardSharing the mental load and dividing household responsibilities effectivelyThe three relationship needs Josh believes are foundational for men: respect, appreciation, and intimacyWhy proactive affection and emotional connection strengthen long-term relationshipsAbout Josh LivingstoneJosh Livingstone, known as The Husband Coach, has spent more than 15 years coaching married men at every stage of marriage, from newlyweds to couples together for more than three decades. Through his CORE Method, he provides practical, results-driven tools that help husbands strengthen communication, deepen emotional connection, and build healthier, more fulfilling marriages.Website:www.thehusbandcoach.comInstagram:@the_husband_coach

Why is sexual health still one of the most important—and least discussed—parts of our overall well-being?In this episode of Love, Laughs & Lessons, psychologist Dr. Frankie Bashan and certified relationship coach Denise Rai sit down with Dr. Stephanie Zwonitzer (Dr. Z.), a Doctor of Nursing Practice and board-certified nurse practitioner specializing in sexual medicine, to have the honest conversation most of us never had with our healthcare providers.Drawing from her background in cardiac, surgical, geriatric, and urologic care, Dr. Z explains why conventional medicine often overlooks pleasure, intimacy, and sexual function, and why that gap leaves millions of people feeling confused, ashamed, or unsupported. Together, they explore the rise in sexual dysfunction among younger adults, how pornography and common medications influence desire and arousal, and why understanding our bodies is essential to healthier relationships and better overall health.The conversation tackles some of today's biggest questions surrounding sex and intimacy; from responsive desire and foreplay to penis size myths, squirting, orgasms, and one of the most misunderstood diagnoses in sexual health: herpes (HSV). Dr. Z also explains why changes in your sex life can sometimes be early warning signs of underlying medical conditions and why sexual health deserves to be treated as an essential part of healthcare—not an uncomfortable afterthought.We Discuss:Why sexual health is an essential part of overall healthWhy most healthcare providers receive little training in sexual medicineHow pornography and common medications can affect desire, arousal, and sexual functionDifferent types of orgasms and the science behind pleasureThe truth about squirting and other common sexual mythsDebunking myths about penis size, body count, and sexual performanceThe facts about herpes (HSV), STI testing, false positives, disclosure, and reducing stigmaWhy erectile dysfunction and painful sex can be early indicators of broader health concernsAbout Dr. Stephanie ZwonitzerDr. Stephanie Zwonitzer (Dr. Z) is a Doctor of Nursing Practice, board-certified nurse practitioner, and founder of the Revive Institute of Sexual Health. After years working in cardiac, surgical, geriatric, and urologic medicine, she recognized a significant gap in how healthcare addresses sexual wellness, pleasure, hormones, and intimacy. Today, she helps patients overcome the physical and emotional barriers affecting their sexual health through evidence-based, shame-free care. She is also the host of the sexual health podcast Between the Sheets.Website:www.reviveish.comPodcast:Between the SheetsInstagram:@reviveish

What if the life you've built looks successful on the outside—but still feels empty on the inside?In this episode of Love, Laughs & Lessons, psychologist Dr. Frankie Bashan and certified relationship coach Denise Rai sit down with internationally renowned transformational teacher, TEDx speaker, and bestselling author Christian de la Huerta for a profound conversation about identity, spirituality, relationships, and the courage it takes to become your authentic self.Born in Havana, Cuba, Christian immigrated to the United States at age ten, navigating life as an immigrant, a gay teenager raised in a deeply religious family, and someone quietly battling years of depression. After achieving professional success and building what appeared to be the perfect life, he realized that external accomplishments could never replace inner fulfillment. That awakening became the foundation for more than three decades of helping others heal, transform, and reclaim their personal power.Together, they explore why so many of us unknowingly live according to fear, conditioning, and the expectations of others instead of our deepest truth. Christian shares his powerful framework for understanding the ego, explains why our greatest relationship triggers often become our greatest teachers, and discusses how transformational breathwork can access emotional wounds that traditional talk therapy alone may not fully reach. This is a conversation about moving beyond survival, embracing authenticity, and creating relationships rooted in self-awareness rather than self-abandonment.We DiscussWhy success, achievement, and relationships cannot replace inner fulfillmentThe difference between the ego and your authentic self—and how each shapes your relationshipsHow childhood conditioning and unresolved trauma influence the partners we chooseWhy transformational breathwork can unlock healing beyond traditional talk therapyHow self-love, conscious relationships, and personal responsibility lead to lasting freedomAbout Christian de la HuertaChristian de la Huerta is an internationally recognized transformational teacher, TEDx speaker, award-winning author, and personal transformation coach with more than 30 years of experience helping individuals, couples, organizations, and spiritual communities awaken to their fullest potential. His bestselling book, Awakening the Soul of Power, has been praised by leaders including Gloria Estefan for its compassionate and empowering approach to authentic living. Through his retreats, workshops, coaching, and speaking engagements, Christian helps people break free from limiting beliefs, reclaim their personal power, and live with greater purpose, courage, and self-awareness.Connect with Christian de la HuertaWebsite:https://soulfulpower.comBook:Awakening the Soul of PowerTopics CoveredSelf-love • Personal transformation • Spirituality • Religion vs. spirituality • Ego • Authenticity • Conscious relationships • Relationship patterns • Emotional healing • Trauma • Breathwork • Personal growth • Self-awareness • Identity • Purpose • Inner peace

How do you know when a relationship is unhealthy—and when it's emotionally abusive?In this episode of Love, Laughs & Lessons, Dr. Frankie Bashan and Denise Rai sit down with licensed mental health counselor and author Kate Mageau to explore the hidden dynamics of emotional abuse, gaslighting, love bombing, and the long road to healing.Drawing from both her personal experience and years of clinical practice, Kate explains why so many people stay in toxic relationships, how manipulation slowly erodes self-worth, and what it takes to reconnect with yourself after emotional abuse.We discuss:• Gaslighting and emotional manipulation• Love bombing and the cycle of abuse• Healthy conflict vs. emotional abuse• Codependency and boundaries• Rebuilding self-worth after trauma• Kate's powerful "Personal Bill of Rights"About Kate MageauKate Mageau is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor, National Certified Counselor, trauma specialist, and author of Rose-Colored Glasses and Healing from Toxic Relationships Workbook. She helps survivors heal from emotional abuse and teaches therapists how to recognize and treat toxic relationship dynamics.Website:katemageau.comWebsitesTherapy:https://empoweringtherapy.onlineCoaching, Books & Speaking:https://katemageau.comBooksRose-Colored GlassesHealing from Toxic Relationships WorkbookFollow KateInstagram, TikTok & Facebook:@kate.therapist.author

What actually causes couples to keep having the same argument over and over again?In this episode of Love, Laughs & Lessons, psychologist Dr. Frankie Bashan and certified relationship coach Denise Rai sit down with couples therapist Raffi Bilek to unpack the deeper emotional dynamics behind relationship conflict, communication breakdowns, emotional disconnection, and recurring arguments.Raffi Bilek, licensed clinical social worker and author of The Couples Communication Handbook, explains why most couples are never truly fighting about the dishes, the dishwasher, money, or the forks in the sink. Underneath those everyday arguments are deeper emotional questions about feeling heard, valued, respected, emotionally safe, and connected.Together, they explore emotional intimacy, empathy, nervous system regulation, modern dating culture, conflict resolution, attachment wounds, infidelity recovery, emotional validation, and why healthy relationships require intentional communication rather than reactive behavior.The conversation also dives into the growing impact of AI companionship, social media isolation, dating app fatigue, and why many people today struggle to maintain meaningful human connection despite having more access to communication than ever before.We Cover:How emotional triggers quietly shape relationship conflictWhy small disagreements can turn into explosive argumentsWhy timing matters during difficult conversationsHow empathy creates emotional safety in relationshipsWhy validation is different from agreementRaffi’s “L.O.V.E.” communication frameworkWhy modern relationships feel emotionally disconnectedHow AI, social media, and dating apps are affecting intimacyWhether relationships can recover after infidelityWhy some couples slowly start feeling like roommatesThe role of accountability, vulnerability, and curiosity in lasting relationshipsGuest Bio: Raffi BilekRaffi Bilek is a licensed clinical social worker, couples therapist, relationship coach, and author specializing in communication, emotional connection, conflict resolution, and relationship repair. Often referred to as “Baltimore’s marriage whisperer,” Raffi has spent more than a decade helping couples rebuild trust, strengthen emotional intimacy, improve communication, and reconnect after conflict, resentment, and betrayal.He is the author of The Couples Communication Handbook: The Skills You Never Learned for the Marriage You Always Wanted, where he teaches practical communication tools designed to help couples move from reactive conflict into deeper understanding and connection.Download the first two chapters of his book, explore the audiobook, or learn more about his coaching work below.Website:  www.thecommunicationbook.comBook on Amazon: The Couples Communication Handbook: The Skills You Never Learned for the Marriage You Always Wanted: Bilek, Raffi: 9798991305808: Amazon.com: Books 

What happens when childhood trauma quietly shapes the way we love, parent, communicate, and move through the world as adults?In this episode of Love, Laughs & Lessons, psychologist Dr. Frankie Bashan and certified relationship coach Denise Rai sit down with therapist, educator, and attachment specialist Dr. Sasha Reiisi to explore the lifelong impact of childhood trauma, emotional regulation, attachment wounds, and generational healing.Drawing from more than a decade of work with children, families, teens, and adults, Dr. Sasha explains how early experiences shape the nervous system long before we have language to understand what is happening to us. Together, they unpack why so many adults struggle with boundaries, anxiety, people-pleasing, emotional regulation, and self-worth without realizing how deeply childhood experiences still shape their relationships and parenting.The conversation explores parenting, co-regulation, rupture and repair, emotional safety, social media’s impact on children, and the delicate balance between protecting children and allowing them to become fully themselves.One of the most memorable moments of the episode comes when Dr. Sasha introduces the concept of “shark music,” the internal alarm system created by trauma that causes us to anticipate danger even when danger may not actually exist.We Cover:How childhood trauma shapes adult relationships and emotional patternsThe role parents play in co-regulation and emotional safetyWhy people-pleasing and weak boundaries often start early in lifeThe difference between traumatic events and trauma stored in the bodyDr. Sasha’s concept of “shark music” and how it shapes adult behaviorWhy repair matters more than perfect parentingHow social media and modern culture are impacting children emotionallyWhy some parents overcorrect from their own childhood woundsHow healing generational trauma changes family systemsGuest Bio: Dr. Sasha ReiisiDr. Sasha Reiisi is a licensed clinical professional counselor, educator, speaker, and attachment-focused trauma specialist whose work centers on childhood trauma, emotional regulation, generational healing, and early childhood development. Through therapy, teaching, and mental health education, he helps individuals and families understand how early experiences shape emotional patterns, relationships, and self-worth.He is also a lecturer at San José State University and shares mental health education online through his platform @dr.sashareiisi.Website: www.drsashatherapy.comBooks on Amazon: The Magical Ride Luna and the Mighty Sails

What happens when a high achieving woman realizes she has mastered everything in life except love?In this candid and powerful conversation, Dr. Frankie and Denise Rai sit down with relationship mentor Shilpa Cacho, who works with driven women ready to stop chasing validation and start building emotionally mature partnerships.Shilpa shares the deeply personal story that changed her life. After a painful confrontation that exposed her own destructive patterns, she made a decision that would reshape her future: take full accountability and rebuild herself from the inside out. That moment became the foundation for the work she now does with women around the world.Together they explore what actually creates lasting intimacy. They discuss the hidden struggles of high achieving women in dating, the courage required for radical honesty, and the emotional maturity necessary for real partnership.They also get into the conversations most people avoid, including attraction outside of relationships, the role of nervous system regulation in dating, and why so many people show up to dating already exhausted and guarded before they even begin.Honest, provocative, and deeply human. If you have ever wondered why dating feels exhausting despite doing everything right, this one is for you.We Cover:Why high achieving women often struggle most with romantic connectionThe difference between chasing validation and knowing your own worthHow your nervous system affects who you attract and how you show upWhy radical transparency is the foundation of real lasting partnershipWhy accountability is not punishment, it is the fastest path to changeWhat emotional intimacy actually looks like when both people are all in Once you do the work, there is no going back. If it's up, it's stuck.  Guest Bio: Shilpa CachoShilpa Cacho is a relationship mentor who works with high achieving women who have succeeded in nearly every area of life but still struggle to create emotionally mature, deeply reciprocal romantic partnerships. Her work sits at the intersection of psychology, identity transformation, nervous system regulation, and feminine embodiment. Rather than teaching surface level dating tactics, Shilpa guides women through the deeper internal work that helps them release validation seeking patterns, regulate their nervous systems, and build authentic emotional intimacy from the inside out. She draws from her own transformative personal journey and helps women move from chasing connection to attracting devotion by stepping into what she calls femme magnetism, a state where self truth, emotional safety, and personal power naturally draw healthy partnership. She offers group programs and private mentorship and speaks openly across her platforms about modern relationships, accountability, and what real transformation actually looks like.Website: shilpacacho.com Instagram / TikTok / LinkedIn: @shilpacachoFollow Love, Laughs and LessonsTikTok | Instagram | Facebook: @DrFrankieBashan Subscribe, leave a review, and share with anyone who needs a little relationship insight to empower their next move in love and life.

What does it actually take to find lasting, secure love in today's swipe-right culture? In this episode, Dr. Frankie and Denise Rai sit down with two powerhouse guests who approach love from completely different angles: Cheryl Maida, matchmaker extraordinaire with 16+ years of experience, and Amber Lavin, a counselor and coach who rewrote her own love story using mindfulness and somatic healing. Together, they tackle the real reasons dating feels so hard right now and what you can do about it.We cover:What secure attachment actually looks like in real life and how to start embodying it even if it does not come naturally to youWhy dating apps are designed to keep you addicted and one simple ritual to stay grounded while using themWhy texting back and forth for weeks before meeting kills momentum and what to do insteadHow to figure out your real non-negotiables versus the checklist that is keeping you stuckWhat men and women both tell their matchmaker about why they think no good partners are left, and why they are wrongWhy when someone kind and available finally shows up, it can feel weird or unattractive, and what that meansHow showing appreciation, including a simple thank you text after a date, goes further than most people realizeThe reason, season, or lifetime framework for making peace with relationships that did not work outHow your nervous system affects who you attract and how to work with it instead of against itWhy becoming the person you are looking for is not a cliche, it is actually how the shift happensGuest Bio Cheryl MaidaCheryl Maida is the Director of Matchmaking at Matchmaking.com and has been helping people find real relationships for over 16 years. She did not set out to be a matchmaker. She was a recruiter for executive jobs when her father called her one day with what she thought was a ridiculous idea. She bought a how-to book on Amazon for $24, got business cards printed that week, and started meeting clients at Starbucks locations up and down Southeast Florida. What began as a side project grew into a thriving practice built on sharp instincts, honest coaching, and genuine care for her clients. She has been featured in the Palm Beach Post and the Sun Sentinel and is known for cutting through the noise of modern dating and getting straight to what matters. She is based in Boca Raton, Florida.Website: www.matchmaking.com (women join free)Guest Bio Amber LavinAmber Lavin is a counselor and relationship coach whose own love life became the blueprint for her work. For years she kept ending up in relationships with emotionally unavailable men and could not figure out why. After hitting a breaking point, she turned inward and started applying the same healing tools she used in other areas of her life to her approach to dating. That work changed everything. She met her securely attached husband and realized that what she had learned was something most people never get taught: not how to save a relationship once it is falling apart, but how to show up in a healthy way from the very beginning. She now runs a counseling and coaching practice, leads a six week support group, and hosts a free monthly book club through her Facebook group, Women Dating Mindfully.Website: www.true-connection.net Facebook Group: Women Dating Mindfully

There is a reason you keep ending up in the same relationship with a different face. Nancy Pickard calls it the mysticism of marriage: we go out, we date everyone, and somehow we land on the one person most likely to stick a searing hot rod in our eyeball. Not because we are broken, but because our wounds are trying to get our attention. In this episode, Dr. Frankie and Denise Rai talk with the life coach and bestselling author who has made it her life's work to help people stop outsourcing their healing and start doing the actual work. What follows is one of the most honest conversations we have had on this show.We cover: Why you keep attracting the same person with a different face and what to do about itWhat shadow beliefs are, where they come from, and how they are silently running your relationshipsWhat happens in your brain when you get triggered and why nothing gets resolved from that stateThe feedback wheel: the four part communication tool that stops fights before they startWhy you cannot finish the healing work until you are actually in a relationship doing itGuest Bio: Nancy PickardNancy Pickard is a master integrative life coach, international bestselling author, and someone who genuinely walks her talk. After 26 years of marriage and the identity crisis that followed her divorce, Nancy did not quietly regroup. She moved to Aspen, got a life coach, became one herself, and then at 61 climbed Mount Kilimanjaro to prove to herself she still could. That climb became the heart of her book, Bigger, Better, Braver: Conquer Your Fears, Embrace Your Courage, Transform Your Life. She is certified through the Ford Institute for Transformational Training and the Love and Life Coach Academy and specializes in shadow work, empowered parenting, courage coaching, and holistic lifestyle work. Before coaching, she spent nearly 20 years in health, fitness, and wellness as the owner of Tight Ends, a personal training gym in New Jersey. She works with both individuals and couples, runs a 10 week online course called The Art of Relationship Skills, and offers couple weekend intensives. She is currently turning 70, just got back from Bhutan and Nepal, and is not slowing down.Website: https://www.nancypickardlifecoach.com/Instagram: @NancyPickardLifeCoach Free discovery calls available for individuals and couples

In this episode, we sit down with Dr. Alysondra Duke, a counseling psychologist, certified sexologist, author, and entrepreneur who blends psychology, sexuality, and intuitive healing to support emotional wellness and transformation. We talk about forgiveness as a loaded term, not a moral performance, and why people stay stuck when they are waiting for closure they may never receive. Dr. Duke breaks down the energetic tug of war of resentment, the difference between forgiving and forgetting, and what it looks like to release the charge while still keeping a firm boundary. This episode is for the moment you realize you may never get the apology, and you’re ready to move forward anyway.We cover:Why forgiveness is a loaded term, and why people resist itForgiveness vs forgetting, and why confusion keeps people stuckHow to forgive without restoring accessUsing the body as a signal when something is still unresolvedWhy waiting for an apology can trap youThe practice of releasing energetic ties and reclaiming your powerReframing harm as a lesson without minimizing what happenedChoosing peace without pretending it didn’t hurtIf you’ve ever thought, “I can release this, but I still don’t want you in my life,” this episode gives you language for that, and a way to do it without bypassing the truth.Guest BioDr. Alysondra Duke - Counseling Psychologist | Certified Sexologist | Author | EntrepreneurDr. Alysondra Duke is a counseling psychologist, certified sexologist, and author known for her innovative approach to emotional wellness, integrating psychology, sexuality, and intuitive healing. As an entrepreneur and business mentor, she creates work that supports empowerment, joy, sensuality, and personal transformation, especially for women reclaiming their divine feminine power.Guest LinksWebsite: alessandraduke.comInstagram: @dralessandraduke

In this episode, we sit down with therapist and mother daughter coach Brittney Scott for an honest conversation about forgiveness, family wounds, and the pressure to “be the bigger person.” Brittney breaks down why forced forgiveness can stall healing, how the mother daughter relationship becomes the first blueprint for trust, attachment, conflict, and self worth, and what it looks like to release resentment without reopening access. We talk about the pendulum swing so many women make when they decide to parent or love “the opposite” of what they experienced, why that still keeps you trapped in the old story, and how real repair can change everything when it is available. This is a grounded episode for anyone trying to heal without pretending it did not matter.We cover:Why forgiveness is not the same as reconciliationHow resentment keeps you tied to what hurt youThe mother daughter dynamic as the blueprint for adult relationshipsWhy “I’ll do the opposite of my mom” is not a healing planWhat repair looks like, and why it matters more than perfectionHow to set boundaries when the other person cannot or will not changeWhy healing happens in community, not in isolationIf you have ever felt pressured to forgive before you were ready, or wondered why the same patterns keep showing up in dating, friendships, and family, this episode will give you language and clarity without the guilt trip.Guest BioBrittney Scott - Therapist | Mother Daughter CoachBrittney Scott is a therapist and mother daughter coach whose work focuses on helping women understand how early family dynamics shape the way they trust, attach, communicate, and protect themselves in adulthood. She supports clients in unpacking resentment, people pleasing, conflict patterns, and emotional disconnection through the lens of the first relationship many of us ever had. Brittney’s approach is practical, compassionate, and direct, with a focus on boundaries, repair, and healing that does not require forcing closeness or pretending harm did not happen.Guest LinksWebsite: Brittney Scott | Licensed Therapist & Mother-Daughter CoachInstagram: Brittney | Mother Daughter Therapist (@thebrittneyscott) • Instagram photos and videosInner Child Healing Resource

In this episode, we sit down with Sky Blue Kutchie, certified relationship, intimacy, and sex therapist and pleasure advocate, for an honest conversation about desire, connection, and the myths that keep so many people stuck. We unpack what really impacts libido, why “bad sex” is often a signal of disconnection, and how intimacy can deepen and evolve with age. Sky also breaks down the spectrum of sexuality and what ethical non-monogamy actually requires when you want to do it with care.This is a grounded conversation for anyone who wants more clarity, less shame, and a healthier relationship with pleasure.We cover:What shapes libido beyond hormones, including stress, nourishment, and emotional safetyWhy aging does not automatically mean less desire, and what can shift for the betterHow to identify bad sex and what it is really telling youHow to communicate needs and desires without spiraling into shame or defensivenessSexuality as a spectrum, and why identity and desire can evolve over timeWhat ethical non-monogamy requires, including preparation, boundaries, and ongoing communicationHow mindfulness strengthens presence, sensation, and connectionIf you’ve been questioning your libido, feeling disconnected, or wanting a more honest way to talk about intimacy, this episode will help you name what’s happening and take the next step with more confidence.Guest BioSky Blue KutchieCertified Relationship, Intimacy, and Sex Therapist | Pleasure AdvocateSkyeBlu Cutchie is a Certified Relationship, Intimacy, and Sex Therapist with 7+ years of experience helping women and couples create deeper connections so they can have better sex. A proud Pleasure Advocate, Blu supports individuals and couples in reclaiming their erotic selves through shame-free education, grounded communication, and pleasure-forward intimacy rooted in consent, self-knowledge, and emotional presence. Blu’s favorite part of the work is watching women speak their desires out loud, feel safer in their bodies, and finally start enjoying intimacy again. Her motto is simple: Life is too short for bad sex.Guest LinksWebsite: https://www.skyeblutherapy.comInstagram: @intimacywithblu

Podcast DescriptionIn this episode of Love, Laughs, and Lessons, Dr. Frankie Bashan and Denise Rai welcome relationship and marriage expert Larry Bilotta, known for helping individuals navigate midlife crises and rebuild marriages from the brink of divorce. Drawing from his personal experience in a turbulent 27-year marriage followed by transformation in its 28th, Larry shares his philosophy that “it starts and ends with you.”He explains how childhood experiences shape adult relationships, introducing concepts like the mirror effect, where partners reflect each other’s subconscious energies, and the chaos-to-purpose scale, a tool he uses to help clients understand emotional programming. Larry describes how shifting from the “world of fear” to the “world of love” changes not just relationships but internal peace itself.Through practical frameworks such as creating personal “fear and love word lists” and understanding the seven invisible energies that flow through relationships, Larry illustrates how one person can heal a marriage by transforming their inner environment. The conversation also explores midlife crises, emotional projection, and the distinction between reacting and creating love in real time.Listeners will leave this episode with grounded insight into self-awareness, compassion, and emotional responsibility, tools to navigate relationships with greater understanding and intention.Guest BioLarry Bilotta is a relationship and marriage expert, author, and speaker with over two decades of experience helping people navigate midlife crises and rebuild relationships on the brink of divorce. After enduring 27 years in a turbulent marriage and transforming it in its 28th, he developed his signature approach focused on changing the environment of the mind. Larry teaches how childhood experiences shape adult love and how lasting change begins within. His work has guided thousands toward healing, emotional awareness, and renewed connection. Guest LinksWebsite:SaveThisMarriage.comLarryBilotta.com.Instagram: @larrybilottaFree guide: 7 Ways You’re Pushing Your Spouse (Even Further) Awayhttps://larrybilotta.com/7ways/

In this episode, we sit down with Delia Joseph, Certified Professional Coach, trained mediator, microaggression facilitator, and founder of Improveology Lifestyle Coaching. Known as a “quiet storm,” Delia brings a powerful blend of compassion, clarity, and experience to the often-overlooked conversation about forgiveness.We talk about the kind of forgiveness that isn’t performative. The kind you do alone, when you’re still angry, still tired, and still deeply hurt. Delia shares how resentment can trap you in cycles of pain, why being the strong one comes with an emotional toll, and how faith can be the only thing standing between you and emotional collapse.This is a real conversation about what it takes to heal while being honest about what broke you.We cover:Why forgiveness is not the same as reconciliationThe quiet grief of being the one others lean onWhat faith looks like when everything falls apartThe emotional toll of bypassing angerHow to release pain without losing your voiceWhat emotional safety truly meansIf you’ve ever needed to let go without pretending it didn’t matter, or needed to pause before being strong again, this episode will meet you there.Guest BioDelia Joseph, CPCCertified Professional Coach | Mediator | Microaggression FacilitatorDelia Joseph is the founder of Improveology Lifestyle Coaching, a trailblazing platform dedicated to helping individuals rebuild confidence and live with intention after emotional burnout or betrayal. Known as a “quiet storm,” Delia’s work blends behavioral science, spirituality, and deep personal insight. She is a sought-after keynote speaker, guest writer, and guide for those looking to reclaim their voice, boundaries, and belief in themselves.Guest LinksWebsite: improveologycoaching.comEmail: [email protected]: @improveologycoaching

In this episode of Love, Laughs & Lessons, we sit down with trauma therapist and coach Fanny Tristan for a powerful conversation about what it really costs to be "the strong one."Fanny shares her story as a firstborn daughter, the child of Afro-Peruvian immigrants, and someone who grew up navigating mental illness, code-switching, and high expectations. We talk about how perfectionism and over-functioning get baked in early, how race and gender shape our roles in family systems, and what it takes to stop centering our lives around being chosen.This episode is a deep dive into patriarchy, healing, and the ways women—especially women of color—are taught to carry responsibility for everything, even their own pain. Fanny names the harm, but she also shows us the path forward. Whether you are partnered or single, a mother or not, this conversation is an invitation to unlearn the rules that kept you small and start choosing yourself.In this episode, we explore:Birth order and the unspoken contract of being firstSinglehood as freedom, not failureWhy women are expected to absorb pain and solve it tooThe pressure to settle and the power in saying noWhat real community looks like beyond romantic validationThe role of travel, sisterhood, and coaching in breaking cyclesFanny’s work is not about fixing you. It is about helping you reclaim what was always yours. Your voice. Your worth. Your time.Guest BioFanny Tristan is a licensed trauma therapist, social worker, coach, and founder of Her Soul Supply, a wellness collective dedicated to helping single Black and Brown women reclaim their worth, restore their energy, and live on their own terms. With over 15 years of clinical experience, Fanny brings a trauma-informed, culturally grounded, and liberation-focused lens to everything she offers.She works at the intersection of emotional healing, identity, and systems—helping women unpack perfectionism, set boundaries without guilt, and stop performing to be chosen. Her work speaks especially to high-functioning daughters of color who have spent years carrying the emotional weight of others while deprioritizing themselves.Through therapy, coaching, and international retreats, Fanny supports women in shedding the roles they were taught to play and stepping into self-defined freedom.Offerings Mentioned in the Episode : 🔹 Single, Empowered, and FreeA live monthly workshop designed for single women of color to explore how patriarchy, family systems, and cultural messaging have shaped their sense of worth. Fanny breaks down these systems and helps participants begin to unlearn the patterns keeping them stuck.Sign up: ⁠hersoulsupply.com/workshops⁠Instagram: ⁠@hersoulsupply⁠

What keeps passion alive after the honeymoon phase? In this episode of Love, Laughs & Lessons, Dr. Frankie and Denise sit down with Dr. Diane Mueller, known as The Libido Doc, to talk about the science and soul of lasting desire.Dr. Diane explains how dopamine drives attraction, why novelty fuels intimacy, and how flirting can rekindle connection. She clears up misconceptions about vibrators, shares her Yes/No/Maybe checklist, and highlights why open communication is the most powerful tool for lasting intimacy.We cover:Why desire fades in long-term relationships and how to reignite itThe surprising benefits of vibrators for pelvic health and pleasureHow novelty, play, and fantasy create excitement in monogamyPractical ways to bring flirting and curiosity back into daily lifeThis conversation blends science, strategy, and heart, offering couples tools to reconnect, reignite, and rediscover intimacy.Guest BioDr. Diane Mueller, “The Libido Doc”Dr. Diane Mueller, ND, DAOM, is a board-certified sexologist with dual doctorates in Naturopathic Medicine and Acupuncture and Oriental Medicine. She is the founder of the sex education center MyLibidoDoc.com and host of The Libido Lounge podcast, where she helps monogamous couples create more passion, desire, better communication, and hotter sex.  Website: MyLibidoDoc.comNovelty Checklist (Yes/No/Maybe Tool): MySexDoc.comNew Book Pre-Sale: Want to Want It: How to Want More Sex, Be Better at It, and Get More of It at WantToWantIt.com

If you think love should feel natural, intuitive, or just “click,” you might be setting yourself up for confusion, resentment, and unmet needs.In this episode, licensed therapist and confidence coach Talia Bombola gets real about how communication—or the lack of it—is sabotaging modern relationships. She breaks down why so many ambitious women end up carrying the emotional weight in partnerships, what anxious and avoidant attachment really look like in practice, and why clarity is a love language.We unpack the myth of emotional mind reading, the pressure to shrink in dating, and how performance-based connection keeps us from being known. Whether you're tired of breadcrumbing, over-functioning, or just not getting what you need, this episode offers both clarity and strategy.You’ll learn:How vague communication creates chronic resentmentWhy anxious-avoidant dynamics are magnetic but unsustainableWhat “saying what you mean” looks like in practiceThe difference between emotional availability and emotional consistencyHow to stop dating with your potential and start dating with your actual selfTalia Bombola is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Certified Psychodynamic Psychotherapist, and the Confidence + Assertiveness Specialist™. She helps ambitious, self-aware women stop performing in relationships and start showing up with clarity, self-trust, and emotional power.Talia’s work bridges evolutionary psychology, attachment theory, and subconscious rewiring. Her no-fluff approach helps clients unlearn the patterns of “too much” and “not enough” that sabotage both connection and career. She’s known for taking clients to the emotional deep end—not with overwhelm, but with insight that sticks.With over 16 years of personal and professional development, Talia offers more than credentials. She’s lived this work. Her coaching and clinical background help clients understand why they feel the way they do, what to do about it, and how to build relationships that match their emotional depth and ambition.In sessions, on stage, or behind the mic, Talia challenges the belief that love is intuitive and teaches that emotional fluency—not emotional performance—is the real flex.Guest Bio: Talia Bombola, LMFTLinks: @taliabombola

This isn’t just another dating episode. It’s a straight-talking, hilarious deep dive into sex, dating apps, rejection, and doing it all without losing your dignity.Our guest, Maureen Pound, is a solo parent by choice, self-made millionaire, and author of How to Get Laid on Tinder (for Men Who Care). She joins us to break down the emotional mess and magic of modern dating—offering real advice for anyone who wants to connect with confidence, kindness, and just enough cheek.We cover everything from better bios and smarter sexting to why most people swipe when they’re emotionally depleted. Maureen keeps it real with personal stories, practical tips, and a few hard truths about what it actually takes to be good at dating.Whether you're dating casually, fed up with flaky messages, or wondering if chemistry is supposed to feel like fireworks, this one’s for you.You’ll learn:What makes someone instantly swipe leftWhy effort is hotter than looksHow to sext without being weirdWhen to get off the app and into real lifeWhy rejection hurts less when you're clear about what you wantGuest Bio: Maureen PoundMaureen Pound is a self-made millionaire, solo parent by choice, author, coach, and unapologetic truth-teller when it comes to modern dating and human behavior. She built her wealth through property investment, entrepreneurship, and the kind of bold decision-making that doesn't ask for permission.At forty, Maureen became a parent on her own terms. Years later, she re-entered the dating world with curiosity, clarity, and zero fluff. That journey led to the creation of her book How to Get Laid on Tinder (for Men Who Care)—a sharp, funny, and practical guide for men who want to show up better in online dating.Maureen’s real genius lies in her ability to cut through performance and help people connect authentically, whether she’s talking about sex, dating, motherhood, money, or emotional intelligence. Her TikTok account earned a loyal following by tackling these topics head-on with humor, kindness, and a deep understanding of what makes connection feel real.Links:IG:@maureenpound@howtogetlaidontinder  Grab her book here: howtogetlaidontinder.com  

How the Moving On Formula helps you stop chasing the chaos and start choosing yourself  What if the real breakup you need isn’t with your ex, but with the story that’s been keeping you stuck?In this honest and empowering episode, breakup and relationship coach Lucy Price joins Dr. Frankie and Denise to unpack what really keeps people locked in toxic relationship cycles. Lucy opens up about her own on-again, off-again relationship filled with emotional confusion, stonewalling, and self-abandonment. She shares how she spent years trying all the "right" things before finally learning how to choose herself.Lucy didn’t just heal. She built the Moving On Formula, a method that helps people stop obsessing, regulate their nervous systems, and start trusting themselves again.In this episode, we cover:• How to spot and break the cycle of toxic highs and lows• The real reason you keep checking their socials and replaying old conversations• Why self-trust matters more than closure• How people-pleasing and perfectionism keep you stuck• What it looks like to take your power back and lead in loveGuest Bio:Lucy Price is a breakup recovery and relationship coach specializing in helping individuals heal from heartbreak, rebuild confidence, and create fulfilling lives—with or without a partner. Having supported over a hundred clients in the past three years, Lucy blends compassionate guidance with practical strategies to navigate breakups, foster self-love, and gain clarity for the future. Her approach empowers clients to move forward with confidence and embrace their next chapter.Connect with Lucy:Instagram: @lucy.m.priceTikTok: @lucy.m.priceWebsite: www.shiftyourstory.netPodcast: Breakups and Breakthroughs

What happens when laughter meets the complexity of mental wellness, and you stop pretending everything is fine?Anastasia Lindsey, an expert in mental health and holistic wellness, joins Dr. Frankie and Denise Rai in an eye-opening discussion about the power of humor, emotional resilience, and embracing the messy, beautiful aspects of life. Anastasia candidly shares her journey through personal challenges and professional breakthroughs, highlighting why authenticity, humor, and emotional intelligence are essential in navigating life's inevitable ups and downs.This provocative conversation explores the intricate relationship between laughter and healing, offering a fresh perspective on mental wellness and practical tools for self-awareness and personal growth.You’ll walk away with:Strategies for integrating humor into your healing journeyInsights into the power of emotional resilience and how to cultivate itAn understanding of why authenticity is critical to mental wellnessPractical advice for navigating life's complexities with grace and humorA renewed sense of optimism and clarity for life's challengesThis episode is essential listening for anyone looking to deepen their emotional intelligence, embrace life's imperfections, and discover joy amidst adversity.Anastasia Lindsey is a dynamic professional deeply immersed in the realms of mental health, personal growth, and holistic wellness. With profound insights and practical strategies, Anastasia empowers individuals to navigate life's complexities, fostering resilience and self-awareness. Her unique approach seamlessly blends empathy, humor, and wisdom, making her guidance both impactful and refreshingly relatable.Links:https://summersolacehealing.comInstagram: @anamariepoetryX (Twitter): @anampoetry_ Both of Anastasia Lindsey’s poetry collections, O C E A N and Wildfire, are now available on Amazon.Guest Bio: Anastasia Lindsey

What happens when your body stops feeling like a safe place to be?Natalie Bedard, also known as Nat² (“Nat to the Second Power”), is a trauma-informed emotional healing expert who teaches folks how to reconnect with their nervous systems, regulate emotions, and reclaim a sense of inner safety. In this episode, Dr. Frankie and Denise Rai explore the power of emotional sobriety, what it really means to get honest with yourself, feel your feelings without numbing out, and move from coping to healing.Natalie shares how facing a life-threatening illness and raising a child on her own led her to embrace her calling. She breaks down what trauma really is, how ancestral pain lives in our nervous systems, and why “just be yourself” is not always realistic advice without safety and support.This conversation is raw, honest, and deeply validating for anyone who feels disconnected from their body, their truth, or their emotional well-being.You’ll walk away with:A deeper understanding of emotional sobriety and what it means to feel your feelings without judgmentTools to recognize nervous system dysregulation and begin healing from chronic stressInsights on why high-functioning people often struggle with intimacy and vulnerabilityThe role of ancestral trauma and how it lives in our bodiesA reminder that healing is not a destination... it’s a practice of returning to yourselfThis episode is for anyone who’s exhausted from “performing wellness,” tired of bypassing their truth, or simply ready to stop surviving and start feeling again.Guest Bio: Natalie Bedard (Nat²)Natalie Bedard, affectionately known as Nat² is a trauma-informed emotional healing expert, energy worker, and the creator of the Lift One Self platform and podcast. Known for her calm presence and powerful ability to hold space, Natalie guides people back to themselves through nervous system education, emotional regulation, and embodied healing. Her approach blends spiritual insight with deep respect for the raw human experience.After surviving a life-threatening illness and raising her child alone, Natalie embraced her innate gift for emotional alchemy. She helps clients move from shutdown and stress into what she calls “emotional sobriety”, a grounded, integrated state where authentic feelings are welcomed and healing begins.Natalie offers one-on-one sessions, workshops, and her signature Emotional Sobriety program through LiftOneSelf.com. Her upcoming book, The Gift Wrapped in Sandpaper: The Untamed Power, is due for release soon.

What do you do when life falls apart twice in one year?Kim Sorrelle was diagnosed with breast cancer. Four months later, her husband was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer and died just six weeks after his diagnosis. In the aftermath, Kim didn’t retreat. She launched a one-year journey to understand what love really means, and what she discovered will stay with you long after the episode ends.This conversation is about radical love, the kind that begins with self-compassion, survives unimaginable loss, and refuses to become bitter. If you've ever felt broken, resentful, or unsure how to open your heart again, Kim offers a new lens.You’ll walk away with:A deeper understanding of what love looks like when no one is giving it backHow to serve others without losing yourselfWhy loving people doesn’t mean staying, fixing, or shrinkingThe difference between rewriting your story and denying your painA reminder that you always have the power to choose love, even when it’s hardThis episode is for anyone who is grieving, rebuilding, or trying to find meaning in the aftermath of "How the hell did I survive that?"That journey became the heart of her critically acclaimed book Love Is, a raw, deeply human, and often humorous exploration of what it really means to love yourself and others. Known for her compassion, resilience, and contagious optimism, Kim has survived natural disasters, raised five teenagers, and built a legacy of impact through storytelling and service.Connect with Kim and access her free 14-Day Love Challenge at https://www.kimsorrelle.com/Guest Bio: Kim SorrelleKim Sorrelle is an award-winning author, sought-after speaker, podcast and TV host, and the director of a humanitarian organization committed to global service. After losing her husband to pancreatic cancer just six weeks after his diagnosis—and four months after surviving her own breast cancer diagnosis—Kim embarked on a transformative journey to understand love in its truest form.

This isn’t your typical divorce story.In this eye-opening conversation, high-conflict divorce strategists Lisa Johnson and Chris Barry explain what happens when divorce becomes a weapon — and the family court system becomes the battlefield.Their clients are often accomplished, emotionally intelligent, and deeply empathetic — and that’s exactly why they were targeted. Legal abuse isn’t random. It’s calculated. And it often continues long after the relationship ends, through false accusations, dragged-out custody battles, and endless court filings.Lisa and Chris have lived it. And now, through Been There Got Out, they help others survive it — with strategy, documentation, and a fierce return to self-trust.If you’ve ever heard “just move on” but you're stuck in a legal nightmare with someone who won’t let go, this episode is for you. We talk about how to protect your peace, why staying “for the kids” can backfire, and how to rebuild when the system feels rigged against you.This is the roadmap for anyone navigating high-conflict divorce — especially when the damage goes beyond the relationship and into your freedom, your finances, and your sanity.Guest BiosLisa Johnson and Chris Barry are high-conflict divorce strategists and the founders of Been There Got Out, a vital resource for people entangled in abusive, high-stakes custody and divorce battles. Their clients aren’t just overwhelmed—they’re often up against ex-partners weaponizing the legal system, and many end up representing themselves (pro se) just to survive.Through their coaching programs, podcast, weekly Legal Abuse Support Group, and their signature course series From Fear to Fierce in Family Court, Lisa and Chris teach people how to navigate the system without losing themselves in it.Lisa is a legal force with lived experience—successfully representing herself in dozens of court appearances, including the appellate court, where her case became legal precedent in Connecticut. She was instrumental in the passing of Jennifer’s Law, expanding legal recognition of coercive control in domestic violence.Chris is a certified high-conflict divorce coach with a background in finance, marketing, and tech. He co-created the Been There Got Out podcast and is developing a course on high-conflict parenting plans. Chris brings calm, clarity, and strategy to situations where chaos reigns.Get in Touch with Been There Got OutWebsite: https://beentheregotout.comInstagram: @beentheregotoutFacebook: Been There Got OutPodcast: Been There Got Out (available on all major platforms)Book: Been There Got Out: Toxic Relationships, High-Conflict Divorce, and How to Stay Sane Under Insane CircumstancesSpecial Offer for ListenersWant to take the first step toward reclaiming your power? Download a free chapter of Lisa and Chris’s book, Been There Got Out, and explore free tools and resources to help you navigate high-conflict divorce.Visit: https://beentheregotout.com and look for the free chapter offer on their homepage.

What if trauma wasn’t your whole story—but the spark that helped you reclaim it?In this intimate episode, author, speaker, and justice advocate Lizbeth Meredith joins us to explore how we can find joy, connection, and purpose after devastating life events. From surviving domestic violence and parental kidnapping to solo travel across six continents, Lizbeth shares what it really takes to build a life of meaning—on your own terms.With raw honesty and deep compassion, Lizbeth reflects on the power of knowing yourself, the importance of community support, and how even the most painful chapters can be rewritten with courage and clarity.Whether you're healing from family estrangement, navigating emotional abuse, or simply asking, “Is it too late to start over?”—this episode is your roadmap back to resilience.Guest Bio: Lizbeth Meredith is an author, speaker, and resilience expert with more than 30 years of experience working in Alaska’s justice system. A former domestic violence advocate and juvenile probation supervisor, she’s best known for her memoir Pieces of Me: Rescuing My Kidnapped Daughters, which was adapted into the Lifetime movie Stolen by Their Father. She’s the host of the Persistence U podcast, where she shares stories of survival, reinvention, and strength. Lizbeth’s work blends lived experience with advocacy, helping others turn trauma into transformation.  Connect with Lizbeth:Instagram: @liza8mX (formerly Twitter): @LizbethMeredithFacebook: Lizbeth MeredithWebsite: lameredith.com

What if betrayal isn’t the end of your story—but the beginning of your transformation?In this powerful episode, Dr. Debi Silber—founder of the PBT Institute and a pioneer in betrayal trauma recovery—joins us to unpack the deep and lasting impact of betrayal on our health, relationships, and identity. Drawing from her own personal experiences and groundbreaking PhD research, Dr. Debi reveals the five predictable stages of post-betrayal transformation and how we can move from survival mode to a new, empowered sense of self.We explore why betrayal hits harder than other life traumas, how it manifests in our bodies, and what it takes to truly heal—not just cope. Whether you're navigating heartbreak, rebuilding trust, or redefining your self-worth, this episode is your invitation to stop clinging to old narratives and start rewriting your life.You’ll learn:The physical and emotional symptoms of Post-Betrayal SyndromeWhy time doesn’t heal betrayal—action doesHow to spot the survival traps keeping you stuckThe exact 5 stages of transformation (and how to move through them)Why healing isn't just possible—it’s predictableGuest Bio: Dr. Debi SilberDr. Debi Silber – founder of the PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute and creator of National Forgiveness Day (September 1st). Dr. Debi is a two-time #1 international bestselling author, award-winning speaker, and host of the globally ranked podcast From Betrayal to Breakthrough, which sits in the top 1.5% of all podcasts worldwide.Her groundbreaking PhD research uncovered three discoveries that redefine how we heal from betrayal—shortening the timeline and deepening the transformation. As a featured expert on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, and TEDx (twice), Dr. Debi is passionate about helping people move beyond betrayal and other blocks standing between them and the life they deserve—one filled with health, connection, confidence, and purpose.Links:Watch Dr. Debi's recent TEDx Talks!https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iyqOR69dHiU https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the Quiz: https://thepbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Join Dr. Debi Silber, founder of The PBT Institute, for a free masterclass on healing after betrayal—Tuesday, May 20. This will change the way you see leadership, trust, and team dynamics. Reserve your spot: https://thepbtinstitute.com/workplace-masterclass/

Dr. Frankie and Denise Rai sit down with Lydia Kimmerling—a master life coach, speaker, and energy alchemist—whose story will make you rethink everything you believe about success, happiness, and the path to purpose.Lydia opens up about what it took to walk away from a “picture-perfect” life that wasn’t truly hers. Through meditation, surrender, and radical self-honesty, she found her way into a more aligned, spiritually grounded way of living. Together, they explore how fear shows up in disguise, why we must unlearn as much as we learn, and how energetic shifts—not just mindset hacks—create real transformation.This conversation is a powerful invitation to slow down, tune in, and let go of who you think you should be—so you can remember who you already are.Dr. Frankie and Denise Rai sit down with Lydia Kimmerling—a master life coach, speaker, and energy alchemist—whose story will make you rethink everything you believe about success, happiness, and the path to purpose.Lydia opens up about what it took to walk away from a “picture-perfect” life that wasn’t truly hers. Through meditation, surrender, and radical self-honesty, she found her way into a more aligned, spiritually grounded way of living. Together, they explore how fear shows up in disguise, why we must unlearn as much as we learn, and how energetic shifts—not just mindset hacks—create real transformation.This conversation is a powerful invitation to slow down, tune in, and let go of who you think you should be—so you can remember who you already are.Lydia Kimmerling is a master life coach, international speaker, and founder of The Happiness Explorer®, a global platform for women ready to reclaim their joy, power, and spiritual alignment. After building a life that looked impressive on the outside but left her feeling disconnected and unfulfilled, Lydia experienced a profound spiritual awakening that changed everything.She now blends mindset mastery with deep energetic work, guiding others to access the kind of inner clarity that no external achievement can offer. Through her retreats, mentorship programs, and signature teachings, Lydia helps women unlearn the stories that keep them small and reconnect with their intuition, purpose, and truth.Lydia’s work is a powerful reminder that happiness isn’t something you chase—it’s something you remember.Learn more at thehappinessexplorer.comFollow Lydia on Instagram @lydiakimmerlingGuest Bio: Lydia Kimmerling Lydia Kimmerling is a master life coach, international speaker, and founder of The Happiness Explorer®, a global platform for women ready to reclaim their joy, power, and spiritual alignment. After building a life that looked impressive on the outside but left her feeling disconnected and unfulfilled, Lydia experienced a profound spiritual awakening that changed everything.She now blends mindset mastery with deep energetic work, guiding others to access the kind of inner clarity that no external achievement can offer. Through her retreats, mentorship programs, and signature teachings, Lydia helps women unlearn the stories that keep them small and reconnect with their intuition, purpose, and truth.Lydia’s work is a powerful reminder that happiness isn’t something you chase—it’s something you remember.Learn more at thehappinessexplorer.comFollow Lydia on Instagram @lydiakimmerling

Dr. Frankie and Denise Rai sit down with therapist and coach Jenna Jake, whose specialty lies in guiding shy individuals—especially men—through the complexities of connection and dating. Together, they unpack the subtle yet powerful dynamics that shape relationships for the shy and neurodivergent, exploring how emotional safety, authenticity, and consent can transform the dating experience.Jenna shares insight into the internal landscape of shyness, highlighting common relationship hurdles, from overthinking to avoidance, and offers practical strategies for cultivating confidence. The trio discusses the power of non-verbal communication, storytelling, and embodied presence as tools for meaningful connection.From navigating assertiveness and generational dating norms to the crucial role of curiosity and personal narrative in healing, this conversation is a deep dive into emotional intelligence, intimacy, and relational growth. Whether you're shy yourself or love someone who is, this episode offers valuable tools to move from hesitation to heart-led connection.Known for her warm insight and no-fluff approach, Jenna empowers her clients to embody confidence, rewrite old narratives, and show up with authenticity in dating and relationships.Guest Bio: Jenna Jake is a licensed therapist and relationship coach who’s made it her mission to help shy people stop hiding and start thriving—in life and in love. As the host of The Shy Guy Whisperer and Love, Spirituality & Freedom podcasts, Jenna guides listeners through the inner work of self-acceptance, emotional healing, and bold connection. She’s the author of Welcome Home to Your Self: My Daily Growth Partner—a reflective journal available on Amazon that helps readers build a deeper relationship with themselves one day at a time.Links: Read her book on Amazon: Welcome Home to Your Self

In this powerful episode of Love, Laughs, and Lessons, Dr. Frankie and Denise sit down with disability advocate and upcoming author Emily Goodson for a raw, funny, and deeply honest conversation about dating, desire, and self-worth.After a childhood brain injury left her partially paralyzed, Emily spent years hiding that part of herself—until the isolation of the pandemic and a heartbreak cracked her wide open. “I realized I was waiting for someone who walks like me to be on the red carpet... and then it hit me: I’m the one who has to do it.”Together, they explore the desexualization of disabled people, the emotional labor of interabled dating, and the healing power of self-acceptance. “Dating isn’t a dealbreaker unless you make it one,” Emily shares, reflecting on the moment she stopped making herself small.Whether you're single, partnered, or somewhere in between, this episode will challenge assumptions and inspire you to embrace the beautiful, complex gray area where real connection lives.Guest bio:Emily Goodson is a speaker, strategist, and author whose personal journey fuels her mission to rewrite how the world sees disability, intimacy, and inclusion. After a brain injury at age eight led to partial paralysis, Emily spent decades navigating an ableist culture that often ignores or desexualizes people with disabilities. Today, she’s a sought-after workplace consultant and advocate who helps organizations and individuals build cultures of empathy, curiosity, and belonging.Her debut book, Dating Disability, is now available for presale through Amplify Publishing and will be released in Fall 2025. Her writing has been featured in the L.A. Times, and her storytelling continues to open doors—for herself and countless others.Links: www.ecgoodson.comhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/ecgoodson/This episode is brought to you in partnership with Olivia Travel, the nation's leading LGBTQ+ travel company. Ready for sunshine, connection, and community? Join us at the 2025 Dreams Tulum Resort & Spa—and be sure to use code LGB100 for $100 off your booking. Come hang out with us in paradise!  

In today's episode:Celebrity matchmaker Alessandra Conti, co-founder of Matchmakers in the City, joins Dr. Frankie and Denise Rai for an unfiltered, heart-centered conversation on dating in the modern world.They unpack the emotional toll of dating app burnout, the rise of intentional dating, and why setting boundaries isn't just helpful—it’s essential. Alessandra shares insights from 13 years of working with high-profile clients and dives into the concept of a dating cleanse, the importance of knowing your values, and how to navigate differences in politics, religion, and lifestyle with curiosity over judgment.They also touch on the evolving roles of masculinity and femininity in dating, and why cultivating a strong sense of self is the key to creating meaningful connections.Whether you’re healing from heartbreak or ready to date with purpose, this episode delivers wisdom, humor, and grounded advice.About Alessandra Conti:Alessandra Conti is a celebrity matchmaker and co-founder of Matchmakers in the City, a Beverly Hills-based matchmaking firm known for high-end, personalized service. With over 13 years of experience, Alessandra has made hundreds of successful matches, appeared on shows like MTV’s Are You the One and Real Housewives of Beverly Hills, and is a trusted voice in Elite Daily, Bustle, and beyond.  Links:www.MatchmakersInTheCity.comConti@MatchmakersInTheCity.comInstagram: @MatchmakerAlessandraConti

In today's episode:Dr. Frankie and Denise Rai sit down with relationship coach Roy Biancalana, who shares how heartbreak led him down a path of deep introspection and transformation. Roy opens up about his own mistakes in love—and how self-awareness became the key to breaking painful patterns and attracting authentic, lasting connection.Together, they explore what it really means to “get in shape” for a relationship, how unresolved baggage creates emotional walls, and why rushing into love without reflection often sets us up for heartache. Roy offers actionable insight into how slowing down, practicing vulnerability, and taking radical responsibility can reshape the way we date—and love.Meet Roy Biancalana – a nationally recognized relationship coach, bestselling author, and host of The Attracting Lasting Love Podcast. With over 15 years of experience, Roy helps singles break free from the internal blocks that keep them stuck in frustrating dating patterns. His work is rooted in personal transformation—after going through divorce, heartbreak, and a series of failed relationships, Roy turned to coaching himself, and that journey led him to help others do the same.He’s the author of Relationship Bootcamp: Hard-Core Training for Life, Love & the Pursuit of Intimacy, where he challenges readers to get in “relationship shape” through deep inner work and self-awareness. Roy’s approach blends modern coaching tools with spiritual insight, empowering people to show up fully in dating and build conscious, lasting connections.Whether you’ve struggled to attract the right partner or want to stop repeating old patterns, Roy offers powerful, practical strategies to help you get unstuck and start attracting the kind of love that actually lasts.Links:Home - CoachingwithRoy.com - Helping Singles Attract Lasting LoveCoachingWithRoy.com - YouTubeRELATIONSHIP BOOTCAMP: Hard-Core Training for Life, Love & the Pursuit of Intimacy: BIANCALANA, ROY A.: 9781733301404: Amazon.com: Books

In today's episode:Dr. Frankie and Denise Rai sit down with Nina Jarnum, author of Fuck Kissing Frogs, to explore the intersections of online dating, psychedelics, and sexuality. Nina shares her personal journey of self-discovery, revealing how psilocybin has transformed her sexual experiences, deepened her connections, and enhanced her ability to surrender in relationships.The conversation dives into the power of breath, energy exchange, and tantric principles in intimacy, breaking down the roles of givers and receivers in sexual dynamics. Nina challenges traditional dating norms, advocating for conscious sexual choices, personal empowerment, and redefining attraction beyond physicality. She also highlights the importance of meditation and self-awareness in cultivating fulfilling relationships—both in and out of the bedroom.This engaging discussion encourages listeners to break free from societal expectations, embrace their true desires, and rethink what truly matters in dating and connection.About Nina Jarnum:When she first entered the world of online dating, Nina quickly realized that her years of mindfulness practice and self-awareness gave her a unique advantage. As she mastered the art of dating with presence and confidence, friends began seeking her advice—then friends of friends—until she naturally evolved into a dating coach, specializing in profile makeovers, algorithm strategy, and date selection.Now the author of Fck Kissing Frogs*, a no-nonsense guide to online dating for women in their 40s, Nina blends mindfulness, self-care, and radical authenticity to help people navigate dating with clarity and intention. She believes that embracing discomfort, cultivating gratitude, and staying true to oneself are the keys to not just finding love—but living a deeply fulfilling life.Links: https://www.fuckkissingfrogs.com/https://www.instagram.com/ninajarnum/

Are you curious about how relationships can thrive outside traditional boundaries? Dive into a candid conversation with Dr. Frankie and Denise Rai as they explore the intricate world of diverse relationship dynamics with Jamin Patel and Eri Kardos. This episode of Love, Laughs, and Lessons sheds light on polysaturation, open relationships, and the ongoing commitment to growth in personal and shared journeys. Our guests share their personal experiences, from the challenges of juggling multiple relationships to the joys of deep, evolving commitments. Discover inspiring insights into living and loving authentically, whether you’re navigating similar paths or seeking to understand alternative relationship structures.About Jaymin J. Patel and Eri Kardos Jaymin & Eri are a powerhouse couple dedicated to helping individuals, couples, and leaders unlock their fullest potential in love, leadership, and self-expression. Living in Bali with their two children, they host transformative retreats for clients worldwide.Jaymin, founder of the Fully Lived Method, is a Self-Expression Coach and Soul Mentor for High Achievers. A TEDx speaker with 50,000+ views, he has consulted for Fortune 500 companies and governments, helping leaders embrace bold action, self-acceptance, and deep connection.Eri, founder of Relearn Love, LLC, is a top relationship coach specializing in helping high achievers amplify career success through deeper personal connections. A best-selling author and 2025 TEDx speaker, her science-based approach has transformed relationships for Google execs, Hollywood celebrities, and global leaders.Their own love story, featured in Chicken Soup for the Soul: The Miracle of Love, is a testament to their teachings. Together, they empower others to create thriving relationships, navigate challenges with authenticity, and live a life of abundance in health, wealth, and love.

Description:  Are you curious about how relationships can thrive outside traditional boundaries? Dive into a candid conversation with Dr. Frankie and Denise Rai as they explore the intricate world of diverse relationship dynamics with Jamin Patel and Eri Kardos. This episode of Love, Laughs, and Lessons sheds light on polysaturation, open relationships, and the ongoing commitment to growth in personal and shared journeys. Our guests share their personal experiences, from the challenges of juggling multiple relationships to the joys of deep, evolving commitments. Discover inspiring insights into living and loving authentically, whether you’re navigating similar paths or seeking to understand alternative relationship structures.Bio: Jaymin J. Patel and Eri Kardos are a powerhouse couple dedicated to helping individuals, couples, and leaders unlock their fullest potential in love, leadership, and self-expression. Living in Bali with their two children, they host transformative retreats for clients worldwide.Jaymin, founder of the Fully Lived Method, is a Self-Expression Coach and Soul Mentor for High Achievers. A TEDx speaker with 50,000+ views, he has consulted for Fortune 500 companies and governments, helping leaders embrace bold action, self-acceptance, and deep connection.Eri, founder of Relearn Love, LLC, is a top relationship coach specializing in helping high achievers amplify career success through deeper personal connections. A best-selling author and 2025 TEDx speaker, her science-based approach has transformed relationships for Google execs, Hollywood celebrities, and global leaders.Their own love story, featured in Chicken Soup for the Soul: The Miracle of Love, is a testament to their teachings. Together, they empower others to create thriving relationships, navigate challenges with authenticity, and live a life of abundance in health, wealth, and love.

In today's episode:Step into the world of "Love, Laughs, and Lessons" where Annie Temple, a seasoned life coach and intimacy consultant, unveils the often-hidden emotional layers of the sex work industry. With over two decades of experience, Annie sheds light on the genuine human connections formed in her line of work, challenging common misconceptions and societal stigmas. This episode explores how intimacy services can be a pathway to healing and understanding, highlighting the emotional support sex workers provide beyond physical interactions. Join us as Annie discusses the crucial role of intimacy in human expression and the transformative impact it can have on individuals feeling disconnected in their personal lives.About Annie Temple Annie is a Certified Life Coach, Intimacy Consultant, Author, Speaker, and Educator with over 25 years of experience in the adult entertainment industry. A staunch advocate for sex workers and a bestselling author, Annie has authored impactful works such as "Annie Temple’s Business Bible for Erotic Entrepreneurs" and "How Sex Work Shaped My Life." She's currently working on a book about intimacy. Diagnosed with Crohn’s disease when her children were young, Annie navigates life with a permanent ostomy, championing a message of body positivity and the universal capacity for feeling desirable and worthy of love. Her life is a testament to resilience, overcoming myriad personal and professional challenges, including chronic illness, a broken marriage, and societal stigma. Now 50, Annie shares her accumulated wisdom, advocating for a compassionate, authentic approach to life and love.Website: https://www.annietemple.com/IG: https://www.instagram.com/annietemplexoxo/FB: https://www.facebook.com/annietemplexoxo/TT: https://www.tiktok.com/@annietemplexoxoYT: https://www.youtube.com/@annietemple 

Description: In this episode of Love, Laughs and Lessons, Dr. Frankie and Denise Rai welcome Dr. Robin Buckley, a clinical psychologist specializing in cognitive behavioral therapy and couples coaching. The conversation explores the intricate connections between personal and professional relationships, the importance of addressing intimacy and sexual wellness, and the need for effective communication in sexual relationships. Dr. Buckley shares strategies for enhancing intimacy, differentiating between sex and intimacy, and creating a sensual environment. The discussion also touches on sexual compatibility, the impact of life changes on sexual dynamics, and the importance of maintaining sexual wellness throughout life. In this conversation, Dr. Robin Buckley discusses the importance of maintaining connection in relationships, emphasizing the need for ongoing communication, feedback, and intimacy. She highlights the significance of establishing a couples mission statement to guide relationship dynamics and the necessity of daily intimacy practices. The discussion also touches on navigating gender dynamics and the evolving nature of intimacy in modern relationships, ultimately encouraging couples to prioritize connection and open dialogue.Bio: Dr. Robin Buckley holds a PhD in Clinical Psychology from Hofstra University and specializes in cognitive behavioral therapy and executive coaching. Renowned for her work in mental wellness in the workplace and women’s equity and empowerment, Dr. Buckley’s expertise is featured across prominent media platforms such as Entrepreneur, Chief, Authority Magazine, Nike, and the TED stage. As an international speaker and coach, she assists organizations, couples, and individuals in developing strategic plans for both professional and personal advancement. She is the author of Marriage Inc.: Step by Step Business Strategies to Build in Your Relationship, scheduled for release in 2025. LinksFor more on Dr. Buckley's work, visit www.igsouth.com.

Description:  Dive into the intriguing world of emotional intimacy where the challenges of self-regulation meet the mysteries of desire. Join us on "Love, Laughs & Lessons" as we explore how effectively managing our emotions can enhance relationship dynamics and fuel the flames of desire. In this episode, our special guest, Valerie Greene, shares expert insights on the delicate balance between maintaining closeness and preserving the essential space that keeps desire alive. Discover practical tools for emotional regulation that can help you navigate the intimacy paradox, ensuring your relationships are both secure and passionately engaging. Whether you're in a relationship or navigating the dating world, this episode will provide you with the knowledge to foster deeper connections and a more fulfilling love life.Bio:  Valerie Greene is a distinguished relationship mentor, author, and speaker specializing in helping women inspire their partners to meet their deepest emotional needs and desires. Offering a highly effective alternative to traditional relationship therapy, Valerie focuses on fostering secure emotional connections between partners, rather than merely enhancing communication skills or problem-solving techniques. With numerous certifications in coaching, neuro-linguistic programming (NLP), and emotional healing, Valerie has been actively coaching since 2005. She conducts workshops, retreats, and online courses aimed at empowering women and couples. Valerie is also the creator of the "12-week Man-ifest Lasting Love" coaching program and the author of "The Commitment Roadmap," a guide designed to help women secure a committed, lasting relationship.Links: Love and Relationship Coaching with Valerie Greene | Attract, re-ignite, and sustain lasting love!

Description: Heartbreak is never just about losing someone—it’s about losing the version of yourself you imagined in that relationship. In this episode, heartbreak resilience coach Sarah Thornhill, known as Sarah Webb Says, joins Dr. Frankie and Denise Rai to explore the emotional impact of breakups, attachment patterns, and how we can truly heal. With certifications in LNLP trauma release and meditation, Sarah shares how subconscious beliefs shape the way we love and how we can rewire them for healthier, more fulfilling relationships. She opens up about her own journey through heartbreak and the tools she’s developed to help people move forward. Together, they discuss why intense chemistry isn’t always a sign of true connection, how to recognize secure love, and practical strategies for breaking painful relationship cycles. Whether you’re healing from a breakup, struggling with attachment, or looking to deepen your self-awareness, this episode offers transformative insights for anyone navigating love and loss.Bio: Sarah Thornhill, also known as Sarah Webb Says, is a lesbian heartbreak resilience coach dedicated to helping queer women navigate breakups, relationship trauma, and personal transformation. Certified in NLP trauma release and meditation, Sarah combines neuroscience-backed methods with practical coaching techniques to help her clients heal quickly and reclaim their power.With a passion for inclusive community building, Sarah runs a thriving online support space, Queer Hearts Break Harder, where women gather for coaching, support, and healing. She also offers free weekly community meetings, guiding members through resilience-building techniques and shared healing experiences.Links: From Heartbroken to Wholehearted | Sara Webb | Resilience CoachInstagram & YouTube: @QueerHeartsBreakHarder

Episode description: In this episode, Dr. Frankie and Denise Rai engage in a profound conversation with Joshua Caraballo, an industrial organizational psychologist, about his journey through adversity, personal transformation, and the importance of psychology in finding one's true self. Joshua shares his experiences growing up in a Jehovah's Witness household, facing identity struggles, and overcoming significant challenges, including addiction and health issues. He emphasizes the importance of building a relationship with oneself, understanding core values, and utilizing psychological models like the Trans-Theoretical Model of Change and the PERMA model to foster well-being and flourishing. In this conversation, Joshua J. Caraballo, PsyD, shares his journey of self-discovery, the challenges of pre-contemplation, and the importance of understanding emotional responses in relationships. He emphasizes the significance of personal accountability and the healing process, culminating in his memoir that aims to inspire others. The discussion highlights the complexities of human emotions, the need for self-awareness, and the power of personal stories in fostering growth and change. Bio: Joshua Caraballo, PsyD, is an industrial-organizational psychologist based in Denver, Colorado. His professional and personal journey is marked by profound resilience and a commitment to advocating for marginalized communities. Growing up in a strict Jehovah's Witness household, Joshua faced significant challenges related to his identity and beliefs. These experiences fueled his passion for psychology and his dedication to helping others through inspirational storytelling and applied science. Joshua's work emphasizes human flourishing and creating transformative experiences, both in nature and through interpersonal connections. He extends his empathy not only to people but to all sentient beings, with a special affection for cats. An acclaimed author, his memoir, I'm Not Dead Yet: How I Turned My Misfortunes Into Strengths, has garnered multiple awards and captures his journey of overcoming adversity, including battles with addiction and serious health challenges. Today, Joshua continues to weave his personal experiences into his professional endeavors, aiming to uplift and inspire those who feel overlooked or oppressed. Links: Dr. Josh Business Solutions | Business Psychology

Description:  In this episode of "Love, Laughs, and Lessons," Dr. Frankie and Denise Rai explore the deeper facets of relationships with renowned matchmaker Louie Felix. Louie, a veteran in the matchmaking industry, shares his unique perspectives on the critical roles of values and upbringing in relationship dynamics, the often-misunderstood elements of conflict resolution, and his provocative views on age dynamics in dating. The discussion delves into the challenges of online dating, the importance of self-assessment, and the need for transparency in matchmaking. Louie’s bold theories, such as the "37-Year-Old Time Thieves," offer a fresh lens on dating strategies. Throughout the episode, the trio tackles shifts in relationship dynamics brought on by parenthood, financial stress, and communication barriers, emphasizing growth through challenges and the evolving landscape of matchmaking. Packed with insights and controversial opinions, this episode is a must-listen for anyone looking to navigate the complexities of modern relationships and find enduring love. Bio: Louie's illustrious career in the matchmaking industry spans over two decades, during which he has been a transformative figure in helping thousands discover love through his pioneering methods. His journey commenced in 2004 in Beverly Hills, where he was instrumental in acquiring a prestigious matchmaking firm—a pivotal moment that ignited his enduring passion. As a leader at some of the most esteemed matchmaking firms across the U.S., Louie has orchestrated successful matches for over 50,000 clients. He currently leads Matchmaking VIP in Los Angeles, a distinguished service renowned for its innovative, logic-based approach that successfully ushers nearly 70% of its clients into meaningful relationships in just a few months. Furthermore, Louie serves as the COO of Agape Match in New York City, one of the world's leading matchmaking agencies, and is the co-founder of Match Resource, a groundbreaking enterprise aiding matchmakers worldwide in perfecting their craft of connecting compatible partners. Widely acknowledged for his profound impact on the industry, Louie is a frequent expert guest on networks such as E!, WeTV, and The CW, where he shares his deep insights into the dynamics of relationships. Links: Louie FelixMatch Resource (@match.resource) • Instagram photos and videos Match Resource | Facebook Who We Are | Agape Match Press release: Match Resource Redefines Modern Matchmaking With Innovative Recruitment Approach

Description:  In this episode of "Love, Laughs, and Lessons," part of the Let's Talk About Sex series, we explore the transformative journey of vulnerability and authenticity in relationships with the insightful Sally Holden, a transformational mindset coach and professional kinesiology practitioner. Sal shares her profound experiences with personal loss, divorce, and self-recovery, revealing how these challenges led her to reclaim her self-worth and sexual confidence. Dive into an enriching discussion on self-love, shedding societal expectations, and the power of authenticity in forging deeper, more fulfilling connections. Whether you're navigating similar struggles or seeking inspiration to embrace your true self, this episode offers valuable perspectives on healing and thriving authentically. Bio: Sal Holden is a transformational mindset coach, professional kinesiology practitioner, speaker, and the #1 Amazon Bestselling author of Thrive and A Joyful Life. With over fourteen years of experience, Sal has empowered thousands of women globally to overcome challenges such as burnout and personal loss. Her approach helps individuals reclaim their health, energy, and joy, and create lives filled with authentic fulfillment. Drawing on her own profound journey through divorce and rediscovery of self-worth, Sal's work focuses on building deeper relationships through vulnerability, self-love, and authenticity. Her methods integrate practical tools that foster self-acceptance and the courage to embrace one's true self, making her a beacon of hope for those seeking to transform their lives. Links: Abundant Heart Coaching - Strategic Life Coaching Sal Holden Burnout Coach & Author (@sal_holden) • Instagram photos and videos Abundant Heart Coaching | Wagga Wagga NSW | Facebook

Description:  In this edition of our "Let's Talk About Sex" series, Mary Beth, an expert in transformational life coaching, addiction recovery, and the law of attraction, shares her insights on overcoming people-pleasing behaviors, the power of sobriety in dating, and the profound impact of energetic exchanges in relationships. With a rich background in guiding others through personal challenges to achieve extraordinary outcomes in love and life, Mary Beth discusses how genuine self-representation and strategic questioning can forge deeper connections and foster healthier relationships. Whether you're navigating the complexities of modern dating or seeking to enhance your relationship with yourself, this episode offers invaluable wisdom for cultivating authenticity and embracing transformative growth. Bio: Mary Beth Schrudder is a professional coach specializing in transformational life coaching, law of attraction coaching, relationship coaching, and addiction recovery coaching. With personal victories over addiction and toxic relationships, she uses her life experiences to empower others towards quantum leaps in personal growth and self-discovery. Mary Beth holds certifications in transformational and spiritual life coaching, alongside academic degrees in organizational leadership and applied sociology, and an associate's degree in communications. Through her practice, she focuses on guiding clients away from misinformation and common pitfalls, helping them achieve extraordinary outcomes in love, health, career, and personal well-being. Links: HOME | Law of Attraction | Day One Life Coaching, LLC Social Feeds | Law of Attraction | Day One Life Coaching, LLC

Description: Join us for a flavorful episode of "Love, Laughs, and Lessons" with Dr. Frankie and Denise Rai, featuring renowned aphrodisiac food expert Amy Reiley. In our "Let's Talk About Sex" series, Amy delves into the sensual world of aphrodisiac foods, offering insights on how certain foods can enhance sexual health and spice up your love life. From historical beliefs to the nutritional science behind aphrodisiacs, Amy explores the intriguing connection between what we eat and our sexual well-being. Whether you're curious about which foods might boost libido or simply want to know more about eating for sexual health, this episode serves up a delightful mix of knowledge, humor, and practical tips. Bio:  Amy Reiley is a speaker, author, and gastronomy expert, celebrated for her pioneering work in the field of culinary aphrodisiacs. A graduate of Le Cordon Bleu in France, she has become known as America's leading authority on aphrodisiac foods. Her books, including "Fork Me, Spoon Me" and "Eat Cake Naked," delve into the sensual side of cuisine, blending food, romance, and science. Amy has appeared on major media platforms like the Today Show and CBS, sharing her expertise and promoting a sensual dining experience. Her approach combines nutrition with pleasure, making every meal an invitation to celebrate love and intimacy. Links: Amy Reiley's Eat Something Sexy

Description: In this enlightening episode of Love, Laughs, and Lessons, we dive deep into the transformative world of hypnotherapy with our guest, Kerie Logan. Kerie, a master hypnotherapist and visionary healer, explores the potent intersection of intimacy and healing, shedding light on how hypnotherapy can unlock profound connections and rejuvenate the most private aspects of our lives. From overcoming personal barriers to enhancing sexual wellness, Keri offers insightful and empowering strategies to embrace our vulnerabilities and achieve a healthier, more fulfilling life. Join hosts Dr. Frankie and Denise Rai as they uncover the mysteries of the mind-body connection and learn how embracing our deepest desires can lead to transformative healing and joy. Bio: Kerie Logan is a renowned healer and master hypnotherapist with over forty years of experience in facilitating profound personal transformations. Born and nurtured in the spiritually rich environment of Northern California, Kerie's journey began in the realms of the inner peace movement, deeply shaping her approach to healing and personal growth. Through her practice, Empowered Within, she utilizes NLP, meditation, and hypnosis to empower individuals towards holistic well-being.  Links:Home - Master the Upper Rooms

Description:  Explore a world where pleasure meets empowerment in this insightful episode of "Love, Laughs, and Lessons." Our special guest, Jenn Wodtke, an orgasm and pleasure coach, shares her pioneering Touchless Orgasm Method, a transformative approach that empowers women to access limitless pleasure independently. Jen delves into how this method not only enhances intimacy but also fosters profound self-worth and empowerment. Through her expertise, she offers a fresh perspective on overcoming societal and internal barriers to pleasure, providing listeners with practical steps to deepen their connection to their sexuality. Join us for a compelling discussion on how embracing unapologetic pleasure can lead to expansive personal growth and reconnect one to their divine agency. Bio: Jenn Wodtke is an innovative Orgasm and Pleasure Coach with a mission to empower women by transforming their approach to pleasure. As the creator of the revolutionary Touchless Orgasm Method, Jenn pioneers a new way for women to explore and embrace their sexuality without physical contact. Her method is designed to unlock profound levels of self-worth, fulfillment, and empowerment by helping women connect deeply with their desires and overcome internal and societal barriers. Jenn's coaching goes beyond the realm of individual pleasure; it's about reclaiming personal power and reconnecting with one’s divine agency. With a compassionate and transformative approach, she guides her clients through a journey of self-discovery, encouraging them to move from their minds to their bodies and awaken an expanded orgasmic capacity. Her work is especially poignant for women who have been historically marginalized in their sexuality, spirituality, and professional lives. Jenn believes that when women fully embrace their pleasure, they ignite personal growth and create lasting impacts in all their relationships and endeavors. Links:  https://jennwodtke.com/ https://www.instagram.com/jennwodtke/ https://www.youtube.com/jennwodtke

Description: In this episode of Love, Laughs, and Lessons, co-hosts Dr. Frankie Bashan and Denise Rai sit down with Judith Costa, an esteemed coach in self-love and spirituality, for an eye-opening discussion on love’s deeper dimensions. From overcoming self-doubt to embracing self-acceptance, Judith shares transformative insights that touch on the universal longing for connection. With her unique background in psychology, Akashic Records, and past life regression, Judith explores how self-love serves as the foundation for finding meaningful relationships and expanding intimacy. Tune in to gain practical tools for self-awareness and actionable steps toward personal fulfillment in love and life. Bio: Judith Costa is an unconditional Love coach, Self-Love expert, seminar leader, writer, and speaker with a Master's Degree in Analytical Psychology and Psychotherapy and an MBA. She is also a certified consultant and teacher of the Akashic Records, a Reiki Master, a Past Life Regression Therapist, and a certified Happiness Trainer.Judith works with groups and individuals to help them overcome their inner blocks to Love. She specializes in helping her clients have a better relationship with themselves, which transforms their lives, allowing them to create abundance, well-being, better relationships, and become happier.She offers private sessions of coaching, past life regression, consultations of the Akashic Records, and workshops and retreats. Her programs include Fall In Love With Yourself, Fall In Love With Your Body, How To Manifest Your Desires, How to Find Your Soul Mate, and Loving Your Way To Happiness. Website & Social Media http://www.judithmcosta.com https://instagram.com/judithcosta2 https://www.facebook.com/judithmcostasoulmate https://www.pinterest.com/judithmcosta/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/judithmcosta/ https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCsMYVuja7QdJhDVvAwQz38w https://twitter.com/JudithCosta2 https://www.tiktok.com/@judithmcosta