Lunch at the Unfriendly Black Hotties Table Podcast: A WBQC Production

🎧 Listener discretion is advised.You know the gist, but we’ll say it again: Welcome to the table — a safe, sexy, and unapologetic space where Black joy, creativity, community, and pleasure are always on the menu. The Unfriendly Black Hotties are here to educate & stimulate — and we love using our words to amplify Black voices through bold, unfiltered conversations.Here at the lunch table, we keep it flavorful, colorful, and always authentic, diving deep into:* Erotica* Kink* Love & Intimacy* RomanceWe’re not here to compromise our truths — we’re here to get off. So, turn us on. Lunch is served!👩🏾‍🦱 This Episode’s Hotties* Regina Starr* Doc Dubs* Mars * Wips* Trisha Cheeks🚨 Ep. 7: Decentering Men — A Black Woman’s Perspective of the Phenomenon in 2026And for today’s episode, we’re getting into to the topic of decentering men, and for that matter, de-centering all things that take away from one’s personal growth. Definitions, ofc, from Merriam-Webster:* decenter — decentered; decentering; decenters* transitive verb: to cause to lose or shift from an established center or focus* especially: to disconnect from practical or theoretical assumptions of origin, priority, or essence* expurgate — expurgated; expurgating* verb: transitive verb: to cleanse of something morally harmful, offensive, or erroneous* especially : to expunge objectionable parts from before publication or presentation* an expurgated edition of the lettersCultural aspects of men-centered content* Pick-me’s and their ability to destroy communities and life forces* When folks say they want to “Decentralize men,” what is their focus?Black women and decentralizing men* Male-centered Black women — is it bad or good?* Are Black women excluded from “Decentralizing men” because of stereotypes that have purported to be strong, independent* The HOTEP woman (India Arie example Doc created)* The strong, Black woman trope — is that a stereotype that’s been to our detriment?* Black women: “we don’t need a man, etc.,” too masculine, too independent to do so. So we never get to live our softness.Decentering (or decentralizing) men is a personal practice where a woman stops making men, male approval, or romantic relationships the core focus, purpose, and validation source of her life. Instead of treating a partner or male gaze as the sun in her personal solar system, she places herself, her own goals, and her peace at the center.Core Principles* Self-Prioritization: Treating your own goals, comfort, boundaries, and emotional well-being as equal to or more important than keeping a man comfortable.* Releasing Validation: Letting go of the idea that a romantic relationship or male attraction is required to feel complete, successful, or happy.* Valuing Female Perspectives: Actively seeking out and honoring the stories, media, and wisdom of women to balance a culture that treats the male perspective as the default.What It Looks Like in Daily Life* Decision Making: Making choices about your career, schedule, and lifestyle based on what brings you joy rather than whether it pleases or attracts men.* Emotional Energy: Refusing to act as an unpaid therapist or emotional caretaker for men who expect coddling.* Social Focus: Investing deeply in platonic friendships, family ties, and community care rather than viewing friendships as secondary to romance.🎶 Ep. 7 Playlist 📣 Be Good & Follow UsLike what you’ve heard on this and previous episodes? Follow and subscribe to “Lunch at the Unfriendly Black Hotties Table” podcast below:* Substack* Instagram* Bluesky* YouTube* Spotify* Apple Podcasts#health #intimacy #relationships #love #couples #BlackWomen #podcast #podcasts #kinks #audios #audioerotica #parasocialrelationships #onlineculture #stanculture #fandom #fanatics #celebrity #fame #community #friendship #foundfamily This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit wbqc.substack.com

🎧 Listener discretion is advised.You know the gist, but we’ll say it again: Welcome to the table — a safe, sexy, and unapologetic space where Black joy, creativity, community, and pleasure are always on the menu. The Unfriendly Black Hotties are here to educate & stimulate — and we love using our words to amplify Black voices through bold, unfiltered conversations.Here at the lunch table, we keep it flavorful, colorful, and always authentic, diving deep into:* Erotica* Kink* Love & Intimacy* RomanceWe’re not here to compromise our truths — we’re here to get off. So, turn us on. Lunch is served!👩🏾‍🦱 This Episode’s Hotties* Regina Starr* Wips* Trisha Cheeks💕 Ep. 6 — Coming Down: The Many Faces of Aftercare And for today’s episode, we’re diving into aftercare. How do you want it, how does it feel, and why is it very necessary!Why this topic matters?* Aftercare is arguably just as important as sex, and should be treated as such.* Learning what you need and being able to voice that need is part of the experience (and self-care).* Aftercare and Black womanhood are vital in expressing our emotional connectivity, needs, and expectations.* When did you discover what aftercare means?✨Play with The Hotties on Instagram✨We have a VERY INTERACTIVE post on our page — PLAY ✨THIS OR THAT✨ with what you want like in YOUR aftercare and tag us in your stories @ WBCQ_ 😘 ✨CLICK THE LINK HERE✨🎶 Ep. 6 PlaylistShout out to Hottie Mars for putting together this week’s playlist after the homies got very hyped for this one: Ep. 6 Research & References * The science of aftercare* Dopamine, endorphins, serotonin, and feelings you feel post orgasm and what aids in the desire for post sex touches, conversations, moments, etc.* When did you discover what aftercare means?* Aftercare in pop culture — intimacy coordinators, open-door romances in books, etc.* What is your ideal aftercare ritual? (good be a good Insta stories question box for the week)* Top three things you may look for* Aftercare and Black womanhood — emotional connectivity, needs, expectations* The stigmas of aftercare* Men, women, who and what needs what and how those needs are met.* What’s the disconnect?* Bi, hetero, aromantic, gay, lesbian, Non-binary, asexual, trans — how different folks make their needs known* https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/a-romantic* https://www.sagaftra.org/sites/default/files/sa_documents/SA_IntimacyCoord.pdf* https://www.cbsnews.com/news/intimacy-coordinator-unique-jobs/* https://www.verywellmind.com/why-sexual-aftercare-is-so-important-7506702* https://vellabio.com/blogs/vella-voice/sex-aftercare-guide?srsltid=AfmBOoqgAlgYG3Av_Bkrk1syIfzuud7TaOClH1urmdqgRrUnDXjgxFGY* https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/24777441/* https://www.essence.com/lifestyle/sexual-aftercare/* https://blacklove.com/read/intimacy/sex/why-sexual-aftercare-is-just-as-important-as-sex/* https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC12441784/* https://www.womenshealthmag.com/sex-and-love/a63372238/sexual-aftercare/📣 Be Good & Follow UsLike what you’ve heard on this and previous episodes? Follow and subscribe to “Lunch at the Unfriendly Black Hotties Table” podcast below:* Substack* Instagram* Bluesky* YouTube* Spotify* Apple Podcasts#health #intimacy #relationships #love #couples #BlackWomen #podcast #podcasts #kinks #audios #audioerotica #parasocialrelationships #onlineculture #stanculture #fandom #fanatics #celebrity #fame #community #friendship #foundfamily This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit wbqc.substack.com

🎧 Listener discretion is advised.You know the gist, but we’ll say it again: Welcome to the table — a safe, sexy, and unapologetic space where Black joy, creativity, community, and pleasure are always on the menu. The Unfriendly Black Hotties are here to educate & stimulate — and we love using our words to amplify Black voices through bold, unfiltered conversations.Here at the lunch table, we keep it flavorful, colorful, and always authentic, diving deep into:* Erotica* Kink* Love & Intimacy* RomanceWe’re not here to compromise our truths — we’re here to get off. So, turn us on. Lunch is served!👩🏾‍🦱 This Episode’s Hotties* Mars * Trisha Cheeks A table for two. 💭 Episode 5 SummaryWe’ll be talking about something most of our listeners enjoy: zaddies. What are they? Who are they? What are our experiences? And who are some of the best zaddy (or cougar) examples in pop culture today? And our age gap tropes setting an appropriate ideal, and should it be a standard?🔑 Key Words (Source: Merriam-Webster Online)CougarZaddy🎶 Ep. 5 Playlist 3Lunch at the Unfriendly Black Hotties Table Podcast: A WBQC ProductionS. 2, Ep. 4: What About Your Friends? The Basics of Intersectionality, Community, & Accountability530:00Current time: 0:00 / Total time: -1:19:06-1:19:06S. 2, Ep. 4: What About Your Friends? The Basics of Intersectionality, Community, & AccountabilityThis is the 101 class for something we’re cooking up for the summer ☀️🎙️ WBQC: Presented by the BQCMay 20, 2026🎧 Listener discretion is advised.You know the gist, but we’ll say it again: Welcome to the table — a safe, sexy, and unapologetic space where Black joy, creativity, community, and pleasure are always on the menu. The Unfriendly Black Hotties are here to educate & stimulate — and we love using our words to amplify Black voices through bold, unfiltered conversations.Here at the lunch table, we keep it flavorful, colorful, and always authentic, diving deep into:* Erotica* Kink* Love & Intimacy* RomanceWe’re not here to compromise our truths — we’re here to get off. So, turn us on. Lunch is served!👩🏾‍🦱 This Episode’s Hotties* Wips* Regina Starr* The Voice of the Voiceless, the incomparable Trisha Cheeks💭 Ep. 4 SummaryCultivating intersectional community — what are the events that make actionable items come to fruition?* How are people being held accountable?* What is community, and can one cultivate community without inclusivity?* What is a community to you?* How do some bad actors and agents of chaos impact the larger work?* Are there some things preventing people from moving forward?* What is the adversity from one group to another?🧆 The Hot Line🤓 SourcesDefinitions (via the marvel of all words, Merriam-Webster)* Community* Intersectionality* Intersectional Feminism* 3rd Wave feminism* Attitude* Weaponizing* Discernment* IntentionalityTalking points* Staying 10 toes down on what your actions* What does authentic intersectionality mean to the audience/listener/viewer?Blog/Article ReferencesLunch at the Unfriendly Black Hotties PodcastEp. 9: I’m Grown and I Do What I Want: Policing Black Bodies and Sexualities and How We Fight Back🎙️ WBQC: Presented by the BQC·September 17, 2025Listen now* The Power of Community: Why It Matters for Black Women* Black Women: A History of Creating Our Own Spaces by Amalfi Parker Elder, Esq. and Patrice Tillery* The Culture Shelf: Black Women Taught Us - A conversation with Jenn M. Smith, PhD* African American women and social equality, K. Sue Jewell* Black Women Been Knew: Understanding Intersectionality to Advance Justice by Brandi BlessettLunch at the Unfriendly Black Hotties PodcastEp. 10: Hypersexuality, Black Women, and Neurodivergency🎙️ WBQC: Presented by the BQC·October 29, 2025A note from the editor: Hey, y’all — this is The Artist Formerly Known as Trisha Cheeks. I want to start off by apologizing to the homies at WBQC for the delay in this upload. I got into my head about editing when I woke up today and said “f**k! I can edit the thing IN Substack. I am such a loon.”Listen now🎶 Ep. 3 PlaylistThis would normally be a part of the program where we post a custom-built playlist created by the Hotties, however, we were all about girlfriends and community and found family this week, that we decided to say “f**k it,” and bogart the smash 1995 soundtrack of the movie, identically-titled Waiting to Exhale.You cannot beat this soundtrack and this iconic video by the late Whitney Houston. IDK a millennial woman who hasn’t fantasized about having this tight of a shot during a bedroom music video shoot for a song you’re also the star of a movie of. Like, come on, now.📣 Be Good & Follow UsLike what you’ve heard on this and previous episodes? Follow and subscribe to “Lunch at the Unfriendly Black Hotties Table” podcast below:* Substack* Instagram* Bluesky* YouTube* Spotify* Apple Podcasts#health #intimacy #relationships #love #couples #BlackWomen #podcast #podcasts #kinks #audios #audioerotica #parasocialrelationships #onlineculture #stanculture #fandom #fanatics #celebrity #fame #community #friendship #foundfamily This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit wbqc.substack.com

🎧 Listener discretion is advised.You know the gist, but we’ll say it again: Welcome to the table — a safe, sexy, and unapologetic space where Black joy, creativity, community, and pleasure are always on the menu. The Unfriendly Black Hotties are here to educate & stimulate — and we love using our words to amplify Black voices through bold, unfiltered conversations.Here at the lunch table, we keep it flavorful, colorful, and always authentic, diving deep into:* Erotica* Kink* Love & Intimacy* RomanceWe’re not here to compromise our truths — we’re here to get off. So, turn us on. Lunch is served!👩🏾‍🦱 This Episode’s Hotties* Wips * Regina Starr * The Voice of the Voiceless, the incomparable Trisha Cheeks 💭 Ep. 4 SummaryCultivating intersectional community — what are the events that make actionable items come to fruition?* How are people being held accountable?* What is community, and can one cultivate community without inclusivity?* What is a community to you?* How do some bad actors and agents of chaos impact the larger work?* Are there some things preventing people from moving forward?* What is the adversity from one group to another?🧆 The Hot Line🤓 SourcesDefinitions (via the marvel of all words, Merriam-Webster)* Community* Intersectionality* Intersectional Feminism* 3rd Wave feminism* Attitude* Weaponizing* Discernment* IntentionalityTalking points* Staying 10 toes down on what your actions* What does authentic intersectionality mean to the audience/listener/viewer?Blog/Article References* The Power of Community: Why It Matters for Black Women* Black Women: A History of Creating Our Own Spaces by Amalfi Parker Elder, Esq. and Patrice Tillery* The Culture Shelf: Black Women Taught Us - A conversation with Jenn M. Smith, PhD* African American women and social equality, K. Sue Jewell* Black Women Been Knew: Understanding Intersectionality to Advance Justice by Brandi Blessett🎶 Ep. 3 PlaylistThis would normally be a part of the program where we post a custom-built playlist created by the Hotties, however, we were all about girlfriends and community and found family this week, that we decided to say “f**k it,” and bogart the smash 1995 soundtrack of the movie, identically-titled Waiting to Exhale.You cannot beat this soundtrack and this iconic video by the late Whitney Houston. IDK a millennial woman who hasn’t fantasized about having this tight of a shot during a bedroom music video shoot for a song you’re also the star of a movie of. Like, come on, now. 📣 Be Good & Follow UsLike what you’ve heard on this and previous episodes? Follow and subscribe to “Lunch at the Unfriendly Black Hotties Table” podcast below:* Substack* Instagram* Bluesky* YouTube* Spotify* Apple Podcasts#health #intimacy #relationships #love #couples #BlackWomen #podcast #podcasts #kinks #audios #audioerotica #parasocialrelationships #onlineculture #stanculture #fandom #fanatics #celebrity #fame #community #friendship #foundfamily This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit wbqc.substack.com

🎧 Listener discretion is advised.You know the gist, but we’ll say it again: Welcome to the table — a safe, sexy, and unapologetic space where Black joy, creativity, community, and pleasure are always on the menu. The Unfriendly Black Hotties are here to educate & stimulate — and we love using our words to amplify Black voices through bold, unfiltered conversations.Here at the lunch table, we keep it flavorful, colorful, and always authentic, diving deep into:* Erotica* Kink* Love & Intimacy* RomanceWe’re not here to compromise our truths — we’re here to get off. So, turn us on. Lunch is served!👩🏾‍🦱 This Episode’s Hotties* Morticia Black* Regina Starr * Wips* “The Voice of the Voiceless” Trisha Cheeks (aka The Tizzle)💭 Ep. 3 SummaryFrom alphas, cinnamon rolls, and slutty golden retrievers and all that’s in between - we all have our faves. What fictional characters make up the “ideal” book bae? Why do we love (to hate) them the way we do?🧆 The Hot Line 🤓 Sources * Mini guide for sexual terms and acronyms in Erotic Books for clueless pandas* A Deep Dive Into Our Favorite Romance Novel Tropes* 129 Romance Tropes We Love And Love To Hate* What is with all these acronyms? HEA? STL? What do they mean?* BDSM & Kink Roles & Terms* What is a Romance Trope — A Guide to Romantic Storylines* Hooks vs Tropes: What’s the Difference?* Your Complete Guide to Romance Tropes* How To Understand Dark Romance Trigger Warnings* How Romance, Romantasy, and “Smut” Took Over Publishing and Entertainment: A Statistical Analysis🤓 Research & Trend(s)* TikTok(BookTok) and Instagram (Bookstagram) challenges, memes/gifs (Boyfriend “lean” challenge, Internet boyfriend —James Tang)* Story scene re-enactments* Fan made videos/skits* BookTok rankings (using popular sound trends, ie., “Dancing/Dance(?) Moms”)* James Tang - A TCK (Third Culture Kid) and actor who quickly became one of the most popular TikTok/Twitch content creators from this trend. Known for making popular/current BookTok videos as well as original “internet boyfriend” skits.* Thirst trap trends blending reality from the escapism.🎓 ImpactConsumer sales (articles on stats/demographics about book sales) and Cultural (cliches and clashes), Societal norms and challenges* Heated rivalries (lol) arose between die hard readers and new readers* Blatant privilege on display by a well-known publishing company (QUINN), offering massive deals to TikTokers (ie., receiving a six-figure book deal - without having a single word written, flying out “key” TikTok influencers to extravagant events with no clear plan/research being conducted - just coasting on the algorithm and “vibes” in hopes of drawing in readers)* Influencers being called out for supporting problematic authors and thinly veiled biases toward marginalized groups (the “I can’t/couldn’t relate to this…” and “I didn’t understand why they were included…” bunch)* How Romance, Romantasy, and “Smut” Took Over Publishing and Entertainment: A Statistical Analysis💭 Idealizations (Expectations and Escapism)How they can lead to unhealthy thoughts, parasocial activity, and toxicity within the communities* Fawning over “perfect” book characters that sometimes causes readers to question and/or become unhappy in their own real-life relationships.* Becoming obsessed with the fictional world that they’ve “escaped” into, going as far as to threaten the author(s) who wrote the story and/or other readers who may critique the story.* Consumer safety (content/trigger warnings, spreading of gossip/misinformation. deepfakes/AI content/sources and that promote harmful/negative views/situations, unsafe environments (spaces that prey on unknowing readers to take advantage of them mentally/emotionally, financially, physically, etc.).* Predatory behavior (how to spot/recognize/address this behavior and make others aware of it happening in a safe way).Spaces like this are also bad for business! And if they continue to spread, not only do readers lose access to good stories, authors are forced to choose between creating/writing or earning a living (which means less books are produced). - WipsWe all share this space and have an ethical/moral obligation to protect it in order to continue to enjoy/connect with everyone in this reading space. - WipsThe foolishness/fuckshit you allow in your space is exactly how you’ll lose it. - WipsWhy are characters surprised when they get pregnant? Like, they be so surprised and nary a condom has been introduced. All sorts of fun locations and positions, tho. Perhaps the yearning is the condom. — Trisha Cheeks in a group chat. (how annoying is Luke Bateman’s book deal?, Ben Mercer, Jun 03, 2025)“Bateman started a TikTok account, quickly secured a book deal and his debut is meant to arrive in about 18 months time. It’s very fast as book release dates go, which is a feat given the machinery that needs to crank into gear, but it also suggests there may be some behind the scenes shenanigans and planning that we are not privy to. The fact that it feels so organised is in itself interesting and it’s this that’s resulted in a firestorm of negative publicity on the platform where Bateman’s audience exists.The whole thing has almost gone too smoothly so along with a sense of unfairness, the audience have a lingering feeling, rightly or wrongly, that they’ve been manipulated. That’s not good.”🗣️ Define Book Boy/Girlfriend/Theyfriend A “book boyfriend” is a fictional male character from a romance novel or fantasy series who readers fall deeply in love with. (Maheshwari Raj. Love in the Margins: Inside the Book Boyfriend Obsession, Jun 28, 2025)(Seven reasons why book boyfriends are just better, Anna Martin, Feb 2, 2024)* They’re Way More Calming* You Don’t Have to Go Out to Date🗣️ Boy/Girl/TheyFriend Checklist (Individual Results Will Vary, lol)(Bookcase and Coffee Podcast, Ep. 50, Book Boyfriend Checklist with Duchess Katie & Lady Sadie)☀️ When should you, as a reader, step away from the book bae fantasy?(Romance Books: Comfort Reads or Unrealistic Expectations, OG’s Soapbox, Aug 13, 2025) “Are romance books giving me comfort, or are they making me have an unrealistic view of what love should look like?”📚 WBQC Booklist Here is a list of books mentioned on this episode — and some others we wanted to talk about, but you know, hilarity ensues. Have any faves you want to share? Name them in the comments below ⬇️* Any and everything written by Kennedy Ryan* Any and everything written by Tia Williams* This Ends Here by LM Juniper* Outdrawn by Deanna Grey* Terms and Conditions by Lauren Asher (Dreamland Billionaires trilogy) * The Brown Sisters series by Talia Hibbert* Cozy Latin Billionaires series Leonar Soliz* A Girl Like Her by Talia Hibbert* Morning Glory Milking Farm by CM Nascosta* Ice Planet Barbarians series by Ruby Dixon* Accidents Happen series by Jessica Cage* A Chaos series by Keta Kendrick* Princes of Sin series by Kerri Maniscalco* The Mead Mishaps series by Kimberly Lemming* Elevator Pitch by Evelyn Leigh* The Re-Do List by Denise Williams* Just Our Luck by Denise William* Flirty Little Secret by Jessica Lepe* Margo’s Got Money Troubles by Rufi Thorpe* American Royalty by Tracey Livesay* The Duchess Effect by Tracey Livesay* Only for the Week by Natasha Bishop* Tastes Like Shakkar by Nisha Sharma (If Shakespeare was an Auntie Trilogy)* Dating Dr. Dil by Nisha Sharma (If Shakespeare was an Auntie Trilogy)* Pride and Protest by Nikki Payne (Jane Austen retelling)* Sex, Lies, and Sensibility by Nikki Payne (Jane Austen retelling)* The Curve Series by Danielle Allen* Curvy Girl Summer* Plus Size Player* Big Girl Blitz* The Love Con by Seressia Glass* Better Than Fiction by Alexa Martin🗣️: Word of the DayÁilleánach (Irish)* Definition: Described as an Irish term for an “attractive and yet useless man.”* Pronunciation: Often described as phonetically similar to “Allenwrench.”* Context: It is a noun, with the genitive form na n-áilleánach.🎶 Ep. 3 Playlist 😈 NSFW Meme of the Week📣 Be Good & Follow Us Like what you’ve heard on this and previous episodes? Follow and subscribe to “Lunch at the Unfriendly Black Hotties Table” podcast below:* Substack* Instagram* Bluesky* YouTube* Spotify* Apple Podcasts#health #intimacy #relationships #love #couples #BlackWomen #podcast #podcasts #kinks #audios #audioerotica #parasocialrelationships #onlineculture #stanculture #fandom #fanatics #celebrity #fame This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit wbqc.substack.com