Men on Show

Dr Geoff Arnold is an HCPC-registered Clinical Psychologist with almost 20 years of experience working within the NHS. He is now launching Get Your Mind Outside, an innovative outdoor therapy service that combines the restorative power of nature with evidence-based psychological support.Geoff specialises in helping people recover from trauma, including complex experiences involving abuse, neglect, and adversity. His approach draws on a range of therapeutic methods, blending body-based practices, cognitive therapies, and nature-based interventions to provide a holistic pathway towards healing, resilience, and lasting wellbeing.Passionate about the connection between people and the natural world, Jeff believes that meaningful recovery involves engaging both mind and body. Through his work, he helps clients develop greater self-understanding, emotional regulation, and a renewed sense of connection with themselves and their surroundings.Away from his professional life, Geoff is a keen outdoorsman, a skilled craftsman, and a devoted father, bringing the same authenticity, curiosity, and grounded perspective to his personal life as he does to his therapeutic practice.Key Points of the Episode:How it all started for him, and how it was originally his third choice of career.His work today and who he serves.How criminal offending is not justifiable but explainable.How generally men have more change of harming themselves than others.How a lack of green spaces is a problem. And it's links to mental health.Clarity on burnout and a useful definition.What to do if on the road to burnout.www.newmeaningpsychology.co.uk If you enjoyed listening, please leave a review and recommend us to your communities. To find out more about Andrew's work, check out...www.andrewpain.co.ukLinkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrewpain Twitter:https://twitter.com/andrewpain1974 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/andrewpain1974

Sam Adams is a men and masculinity coach and trainer with over 20 years experience. He runs regular events to support men to develop the tools they need to navigate life's ups and downs. Sam is a father, based in Somerset, although spent much of his childhood in Africa. He is passionate about healthy masculinity and also runs a local garden landscaping business.Key points of the episode:How he avoided conflict and confrontation.How he became a people pleaser.How he realised he was being inauthentic.........and how he has worked through it. And his health has improved.How he learned to value himself.The key that is the breakthrough for most men.The 4 core emotions.Liberating masculinity.Masculinitys overreach historically and the healthy balance we seek.Why men are struggling.www.liberatingmasculinity.co.uk If you enjoyed listening, please leave a review and recommend us to your communities. To find out more about Andrew's work, check out...www.andrewpain.co.ukLinkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrewpain Twitter:https://twitter.com/andrewpain1974 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/andrewpain1974

Jack Woodhams is a passionate mental health advocate and co-founder of Menfulness, a UK-based charity dedicated to encouraging men to talk openly about life, wellbeing, and emotional challenges. As CEO, Jack has helped build Menfulness into a community-focused social wellbeing movement that supports men through activities, events, counselling links, and peer connection — all aimed at breaking the stigma around men’s mental health and encouraging strength through honest conversation. Key points of the episode:His experience (perhaps unorthodox) of the importance of peer support.The falling birth rate and the connection with loneliness.The fascinating and revealing mental health exercise he does.The surprising and positive influence that can be achieved.How his organisation started and how it has evolved.........vastly evolved!How one persons recovery becomes anothers survival guide. (this is brilliant)Thoughts on suicide prevention.The most profound influence he has had.What we can do to protect our children.A 2 sentence message of [email protected] If you enjoyed listening, please leave a review and recommend us to your communities. To find out more about Andrew's work, check out...www.andrewpain.co.ukLinkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrewpain Twitter:https://twitter.com/andrewpain1974 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/andrewpain1974

Stephen Hall – Psychotherapist and Founder of Stand TallStephen Hall is a UK-based psychotherapist and founder of Stand Tall Therapy and Stand Tall Empower CIC. He specialises in working with men under pressure, supporting them to build emotional resilience, reconnect with purpose, and strengthen their mental fitness. Drawing on lived experience, body-based practice, and nature-informed approaches, Stephen brings a grounded and honest perspective to conversations about masculinity, burnout, trauma, and growth. His work focuses on helping men stand tall in their lives rather than simply survive them.Key Points of the Episode:How he had no male role models in his early life, and what he was healthily obsessed with.The violence he experienced at the hands of his Mum, and the resulting experience from it.The challenges he faced with his identity, and his default back to the understandable narrowing of his perspective and shutdown.How he did not have the vocabulary to talk about it, or the skills to process his trauma, nor the community as it was interconnected with the job role that he left.What pulled him back from the brink of suicide.What empowered him to set up Stand Tall and Empower.The gap he hopes to fill in the "marketplace".An interesting take on Chi Kung and how he utilises it.A simple breathwork exercise.The activities on the retreats he hosts.The typical issues the men he works with struggle with.His vision for Stand tall and Empower.On parenting.A pithy message of hope that is much needed.Website: https://www.standtall.org.uk/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/stephenhalltherapist/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/standtallwalktallYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@standtallwalktall/shortsMentioned in the podcast Ben West - Reasons to Stay. If you enjoyed listening, please leave a review and recommend us to your communities. To find out more about Andrew's work, check out...www.andrewpain.co.ukLinkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrewpain Twitter:https://twitter.com/andrewpain1974 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/andrewpain1974

Steve Judge is an award-winning international keynote speaker, twice world champion paratriathlete, and the author of Don’t Lean on Your Excuses and GOLD. After a near-fatal car accident left doctors saying he might never walk again, Steve defied the odds — turning setbacks into stepping stones and becoming a two-time Paratriathlon World Champion, representing Great Britain on the global stage. His compelling journey from wheelchair to world champion and beyond now fuels powerful keynotes and workshops that inspire audiences to overcome barriers, unlock their potential, and pursue meaningful goals with courage and clarity. A TEDx speaker celebrated for his resilience-centred messaging, Steve has worked with organisations including Rolls-Royce, Toyota, NHS, HSBC and the University of Edinburgh, helping individuals and teams turn challenges into achievement. Key Points of the Episode:His early inspirations in his life.His take on modern day influencers.The near fatal accident in 2002.How he found his fighting spirit based on the diagnosis of a doctor.His difficult yet ultimately victorious healing journey."The Progress Principle"No such thing as "normal" - drop the comparison!His take on contemporary masculinity.How he manages burnout.Sleep. And its profound importance. Not just length but quality.A message of hope.Reach out here: www.steve-judge.com or google Steve Judge.Or, Linked InDo reach out. He wants to help.See his TEDx Talk here If you enjoyed listening, please leave a review and recommend us to your communities. To find out more about Andrew's work, check out...www.andrewpain.co.ukLinkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrewpain Twitter:https://twitter.com/andrewpain1974 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/andrewpain1974

David Maywald is father to a son and daughter, husband, board member, volunteer, author, and passionate advocate for boys and men. He worked for two decades as an analyst and Portfolio Manager in the investment management sector, and is qualified as a Chartered Financial Analyst. His extensive studies include two degrees, an Honours thesis, and the Boardroom Mastery program with the Australian Institute of Company Directors. David has served as Chair, Treasurer, and committee chair, with governance contributions to twenty organisations during the last three decades. He founded the Awards for Men in Leadership in 2023, and launched Celebrating Masculinity in 2025. His recently released book is called The Relentless War on Masculinity: Does it Ever End? Here are links: David Maywald at LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/davidmaywald/Personal profile at X: https://x.com/DavidMaywaldYouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@davidmaywald4173 David Maywald’s book The Relentless War on Masculinity is available from these distributors (and others): https://books2read.com/trwomAmazon product page for the book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1764339703The book has over 100 five-star ratings across Goodreads, Amazon, and other readers: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/244119645-the-relentless-war-on-masculinity Celebrating Masculinity at Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/CelebratingMasculinity/Substack for Celebrating Masculinity: https://celebratingmasculinity.substack.com/TikTok videos: https://www.tiktok.com/@celebratingmasculinity Key points of the Episode: UK Vs Australia, who is further ahead in a balanced debate on mens well bring.The remaining pockets of resistance in Australia.The momentum behind writing the book.The second wave of feminisation.The mixed response to the book.The 4 Horsewomen of modern feminism.Some forward thinking parenting tips.Gamma bias- what is it?A beautiful philosophyReach out: Linked In: https://www.linkedin.com/in/davidmaywaldOr Google "The Relentless War on Masculinity" If you enjoyed listening, please leave a review and recommend us to your communities. To find out more about Andrew's work, check out...www.andrewpain.co.ukLinkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrewpain Twitter:https://twitter.com/andrewpain1974 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/andrewpain1974

Ally Fogg is a British writer, journalist, and commentator based in Manchester with a long track record of engaging with social and political issues, especially relating to men and boys. He has written extensively for major outlets including The Guardian and The Independent, covering topics from gender politics and public policy to broader cultural debates. Over more than two decades in media and activism, Ally has been deeply involved in the men’s health and wellbeing sector, co-founding and leading initiatives that aim to improve support and conversation around male health, family issues, and social policy. He serves as Chair of the Association for Male Health and Wellbeing, helping steer its development as a national membership community in the UK. Association for Male Health and Wellbeing (AMHW)The Association for Male Health and Wellbeing (AMHW) is a UK-based national membership organisation dedicated to strengthening the male health and wellbeing sector. As a registered charity, it brings together not-for-profit organisations, academics, and professionals to foster collaboration, share best practice, and drive positive social change for men and boys. AMHW’s mission focuses on building supportive networks, advocating for fair policy environments, and promoting constructive public dialogue about the issues affecting male health and wellbeing. Through partnership, advocacy, and community engagement, the charity aims to ensure that men’s health matters not just to individuals but to families, workplaces, and wider societyKey points of the episode: How it all started and the gender politics of society.Who he was a voice for.The history of the emerging male health and well being sector across the UK.The slow progress from the Government.The tenets of what he practises.How a complete picture of mens health and well being, creates a healthy society.Gender inclusive policy and its importance......... and where it exists and where it dosen't.The flashpoint in 2016.Where we are now in 2026.How the current situation is unsustainable.How much more support is needed.How you cannot secure mens health and well being if womens health and well being is compromised, and vice versa.Reach out: www.amhw.org.uk If you enjoyed listening, please leave a review and recommend us to your communities. To find out more about Andrew's work, check out...www.andrewpain.co.ukLinkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrewpain Twitter:https://twitter.com/andrewpain1974 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/andrewpain1974

Chris Hemmings returns for the second time to this podcast, the second of only 2 guests to do so!Chris Hemmings is a therapist and coach who specialises in working with men. He’s the founder of Men’s Therapy Hub, a directory of male therapists for male clients. Before training to be a therapist he was a BBC journalist, writing and making documentaries about men, masculinity and mental health. He’s also the founder of M-Path, who go in to schools across the UK speaking to students about what it means to be a man.Key points of the episode:Why there is still a lack of positive stories about men.The shift in the "Overton" window, from "Men are the problem" to "Men have problems"... but when do we celebrate men?Why we need to stop victim blaming.The Men's therapy hub - what is it?The previous faults of therapy.The faults of the medical profession.How more men will come to therapy if they see themselves represented in the therapeutic space.A brilliant "fish" analogy about men in therapy."Change the model to fit men, not change men to fit the model"Why many men relish a challenge and some don't and a theory of why.The most common issues for men in therapy.The ultimate act of violence on the self.The future plan for the Men's Therapy Hub."Call In Your Masculine"Reach out to Chris here: www.menstherapyhub.co.ukMen’s Therapy Hub is on Instagram @menstherapyhubWe’re also on Linkedin is you search Men’s Therapy Hub you should find it.Here is YouTube, though nothing is on it at time of publishing (but do check back!) https://www.youtube.com/@MensTherapyHub If you enjoyed listening, please leave a review and recommend us to your communities. To find out more about Andrew's work, check out...www.andrewpain.co.ukLinkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrewpain Twitter:https://twitter.com/andrewpain1974 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/andrewpain1974

Matt Grisedale is a community builder driven by one simple belief: people are better together. He’s spent his career bringing individuals, organizations, and ideas into harmony — creating spaces where collaboration feels natural and everyone has a voice. With a gift for connection and a heart for impact, Matt transforms gatherings into movements and conversations into lasting change. His work reminds us that strong communities don’t just happen — they’re built, one relationship at a time.Key points of the episode:The culture he was pulled into 4 years ago. (and why that was a great thing)"The way men are seen is the same, but the way they are has changed"How masculinity is likely more complex than we have been led to believe.How the community started and the massive team it serves.The commitment- never ask "Are you ok" unless you really mean it.The service he offers, and what goes on at these incredible groups.The simple and profound bottom line.His recommendations on community building.A pithy ending message.Reach out on www.mattgrisedale.com or Search "Matt Grisedale" on Linked In If you enjoyed listening, please leave a review and recommend us to your communities. To find out more about Andrew's work, check out...www.andrewpain.co.ukLinkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrewpain Twitter:https://twitter.com/andrewpain1974 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/andrewpain1974

James is the founder of the Positive Parenting Alliance and creator of the Parents Promise.  Having seen up close the multitude of issues in the family courts and the numbers of children and parents affected James wanted to begin a new conversation about separation.In May 2021, after many conversations with like-minded people and organisations the Parents Promise was launched. Backed by over 20 organisations ranging from the likes of the children’s mental health charity Place2Be to Relate to Black Mums Upfront the aim of the Alliance is to effect important cultural change around separation in the UK and beyond. In January 2023 the Alliance launched a ground-breaking HR initiative encouraging a number of large UK corporations including Tesco, ASDA, Natwest and Unilever to sign up to recognise separation as a ‘life event’.  In 2025 he turned his focus to the subject of separation and schools and the Parents Promise Education Initiative launched in September.As for James’s ‘day job’ he has 20 years experience in marketing and PR and has worked ‘both sides of the fence’ as agency leader and client.  In his spare time James is a keen runner, bourgeoning autism awareness activist and usually wrapped tightly around the fingers of his three little girls.Key points of the episode:The Parents Promise. What is it?What happens when the relationship starts to slip.The damage that conflict between parents does to children.Family courts and their problems and biases.The problem with court orders.The "Mrs. Doubtfire" comparison.The complete blindspot in society about seperation and damage.Reach out for more info: https://www.linkedin.com/in/james-hayhurst-59a5a15https://theparentspromise.org.uk If you enjoyed listening, please leave a review and recommend us to your communities. To find out more about Andrew's work, check out...www.andrewpain.co.ukLinkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrewpain Twitter:https://twitter.com/andrewpain1974 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/andrewpain1974

Ryan Parke is The Men's Coach, a TEDx and international, award-winning public speaker. In 2019, the most successful man Ryan personally knew, died by suicide. Bewildered and devastated by his death, Ryan was sparked into undergoing detailed research on men’s health.  Ryan’s knowledge and ability, to present complexity in an accessible way, stands him out as a speaker and particularly on the subject of testosterone, Ryan is challenging outdated yet popular opinion. In so doing, he is opening up a whole new narrative in how we approach male mental and physical health. Ryan works with companies and charities that want to improve mental health for men by taking an evidence-based approach. His 90-day coaching programme helps men to overcome depression, beat procrastination and achieve their life goals. Key points of the episode:Welcoming Ryan back for a second time - a first on Men on ShowWhat Andrew rates so highly about Mens work.The optimal environment to reach out to someone you are concerned about.The hormones that are key in male mental health.A three step framework for conversation.The empowering story that Andrew shares.How the framework works even on young boys.How his teachings became a book, and who, perhaps surprisingly it is aimed at.A fascinating and telling experiment.The most important factor in testosterone production.Healthy diet shifts.His new book coming out approx November 2025Reach out to Ryan on www.themenscoach.co.uk If you enjoyed listening, please leave a review and recommend us to your communities. To find out more about Andrew's work, check out...www.andrewpain.co.ukLinkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrewpain Twitter:https://twitter.com/andrewpain1974 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/andrewpain1974

James Searjeant is an experienced educator and advocate for inclusive education, currently serving as a primary and nursery headteacher in South East London. James actively contributes to national discussions on SEND, curriculum, assessment and accountability, calling for systems that better reflect the progress and achievements of all pupils. He is dedicated to developing inclusive and equitable approaches that support every learner to thrive.Key points of the episode:Who inspired him on the way up.How he lived with anxiety all his life and how he developed a "quiet resilience"His thoughts on a difficult and key educational transition.How we are using tools of the last century and how it needs to change,His thoughts on phones and social media.The poor policies behind seeming good and excellent official reviews.A message of hope for men and boys. If you enjoyed listening, please leave a review and recommend us to your communities. To find out more about Andrew's work, check out...www.andrewpain.co.ukLinkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrewpain Twitter:https://twitter.com/andrewpain1974 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/andrewpain1974

Shaun Flores is a mental health advocate, public speaker, and five-time TEDx speaker using his voice to challenge stigma around OCD, masculinity, and identity.After a late diagnosis of OCD at 27, Shaun rebuilt his life through therapy, storytelling, and advocacy sharing his journey to help others find clarity, language, and resilience. His talks go beyond awareness and offer real tools for navigating shame, neurodiversity, and emotional health especially for young men and marginalised communities.Shaun has delivered sessions with the NHS, Panasonic, Papa John’s, and schools across the UK. He’s the founder of The Flores Effect™ and Rejection Rehab™, programmes built to help people speak from the soul not the script. His story has been featured in BBC, Channel 4, Metro UK, and Men’s Health.Whether he’s leading a workshop, breaking down OCD myths, or unpacking the “performance of normal,” Shaun’s mission is simple: to leave the world better than he found it one conversation at a time.Key points of the episode:** WELCOMING A 4 TIMES TED TALK SPEAKER**How porn and it's fallout negative body image are damaging society.His inspirations and influences growing up- a long list!How the death of his father deeply affected him.How he did not get the support he needed, and neither did his Mum....who had her own health issues as well.The values his Aunt taught him (as a man)How he got into the modelling industry.His thoughts on the modelling industry.The problem of "Money over Mental Health"The surprising percentage of men that have a negative body image, - not only women. The concept of "Comparisonitis"The surgery some men have had to look "good"His thoughts on online porn.The REAL average penis size.The false correlation between penis size and partner.How easy access to unrealistic porn is damaging.Towards the beginning of a possible solution.Reach out to Shaun on:[email protected] in and Insta @shaunflores If you enjoyed listening, please leave a review and recommend us to your communities. To find out more about Andrew's work, check out...www.andrewpain.co.ukLinkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrewpain Twitter:https://twitter.com/andrewpain1974 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/andrewpain1974

Harun Rabbani is a serial entrepreneur, mentor, and retreat leader who has spent over two decades helping high-performing individuals recover from burnout, reconnect with purpose, and lead with renewed clarity.After navigating the emotional toll of building multiple businesses while hiding behind a mask of success, Harun experienced a personal breakdown that became the catalyst for profound transformation. Today, he works closely with leading experts — including embodiment teacher Nelia Freitas and forensic psychiatrist Dr Ali Ajaz — to create powerful healing spaces for men and women seeking a deep reset, especially those with ADHD and other forms of neurodiversity.Harun’s work blends science, spirituality, and leadership — with one clear message: Your breakdown isn’t the end of your story. It’s the beginning of your true leadership.Key Points of the InterviewHow burnout is misunderstood.His burnout experience and what he learned from it.Signs of burnout.Our "male intuition" and how we ignore it........and why we do it.Relationships, and how to save them!Nature or Nurture? The ongoing debate.His incredible retreats and what happens on them.How as human beings we hold onto emotions and we need to let them go.Reach out and get a free gift (navigating ADHD) onTo contact him - www.harunrabbani.com If you enjoyed listening, please leave a review and recommend us to your communities. To find out more about Andrew's work, check out...www.andrewpain.co.ukLinkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrewpain Twitter:https://twitter.com/andrewpain1974 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/andrewpain1974

From his website:In 2013, following many years of working with local young people through martial arts Richard Pomfrett created ‘Stay Safe! Workshops’. His vision was to help educate and protect as many young people as possible on the subjects of bullying and staying safe in their community. It was by starting off working closely with a handful of local schools, that gave him the opportunity to develop and create such unique and effective programmes for both.Since 2013 Richard’s passion for his work as pushed him to continually evolve and shape ‘Stay Safe! Workshops’ to fit the needs of young people today.It is through these specialised and unique sessions, that we aim to educate as many young people as possible. Raising awareness and passing on vital skills and knowledge at key stages in their development and helping prevent them from becoming part of the future dire statistics.Reach out on thestaysafeinitiative.org.ukwww.boyz-2-men.org.ukKey points of the episode:His growing up experiences and influences.How he loves what he does, working with young people in schools, and how contrasting his school experience was.How some school situations still to some degree affect him now.How martial arts became a part of his life.The anti-bullying and peer mentorship programmes he runs in schools.How Andrew Tate and so much more have influenced teenage boys.The age that boys begin to be influenced by social media.The biggest online influence problems.The impact of the 2025 series "Adolescence"How the "Incel" movement and Tate are not connected at all.The best time to chat with your kids about online influences/HIs thoughts on the Australian Social Media ban If you enjoyed listening, please leave a review and recommend us to your communities. To find out more about Andrew's work, check out...www.andrewpain.co.ukLinkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrewpain Twitter:https://twitter.com/andrewpain1974 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/andrewpain1974

Rick Belden is a poet, author, artist, and men's coach, and a respected explorer and chronicler of the psychology and inner lives of men. He helps men who are feeling stuck get their lives moving again by drawing on over 35 years of experience with men's issues, masculine psychology, and recovery from trauma. Rick is also one of the foremost experts on the Mother Wound in men. As a men’s coach, he has worked with an international clientele that includes hundreds of men of all ages and various backgrounds in 30 states in the USA and 23 nations worldwide.Find him on Instagram (rickbeldencoaching), Bluesky (rickbelden), and TikTok (rickbeldencoaching).The Huffington Post article he referenced during the podcast is called "Men and the Mother Wound" and it's available here.Key points of the episode:Unpicking the "mother wound"How he modelled himself on other people thinking they were more than him, but realised later they were doing exactly the same thing!How he did not have a father he could talk with about anything.How "back in the day" is somewhat romanticised.How he wanted to make money to get out of the house, and to prove to his Dad he could do dangerous work like them. To prove he was a man.How eventually he moved into IT but was still unhappy.How men are desperate to be heard!Why men in their early 20's are having trouble getting their lives started.How your relationship with yourself is the most important thing.How men are shamed when they try to follow the new advice of "open up and be vulnerable"...and why this needs to change. Fast.www.rickbelden.comwww.rickbeldencoaching.comhttps://www.huffpost.com/entry/men-and-the-mother-wound_b_9720718https://www.youtube.com/@RickBelden If you enjoyed listening, please leave a review and recommend us to your communities. To find out more about Andrew's work, check out...www.andrewpain.co.ukLinkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrewpain Twitter:https://twitter.com/andrewpain1974 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/andrewpain1974

Matt Hudson, Associate Director of MAN v FATMatt has been involved in sport, community, health and wellbeing for his whole career, firstly at Colchester United Football Club and latterly Thrive Tribe and MAN v FAT.As Associate Director of Marketing for MAN v FAT, Matt is part of the HQ team that has built a programme that supports over 8,500 men every week to improve their health and wellbeing as part of an incredible national community. And, with MAN v FAT Soccer going live last year, that community is transatlantic too!Matt also oversees the MAN v FAT customer service team as part of his role and retains his interest in putting the customer at the heart of all of his decision making.Born in Colchester, Matt remains an ardent U’s fan and continues to follow their fortunes closely whilst looking after his two daughters.You can find out more about MAN v FAT on their website and connect with Matt directly on LinkedinKey points of the interview:How a lady inspired him.How he lost his Mum somewhat young, and how it affected the family.The need for female influence in his life.What he did in his 18 years at Colchester, and his thoughts on the positive change in masculinity.The importance of mental health awareness in sport.The financial pressure in the game and in teams.The 2 kinds of intelligence that football managers need for most effect.The value of family support.Man V Fat - what it is?His last 5 and a half years there.The main challenges the men they serve face.Andrew's threat to wear Speedos!How men worry about showing vulnerablilty.The simple criteria needed to join.Reach out at www.manvfat.com If you enjoyed listening, please leave a review and recommend us to your communities. To find out more about Andrew's work, check out...www.andrewpain.co.ukLinkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrewpain Twitter:https://twitter.com/andrewpain1974 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/andrewpain1974

Daniele Fiandaca is founder of Token Man Consulting, an inclusion and diversity consultancy which specialises in engaging men and senior leaders with I&D and inspiring them to become inclusive leaders and agents of change, creating workplaces that are truly inclusive and diverse. Clients include BNP Paribas, Channel 4, Colt, Flutter, HSBC, Merlin Entertainments, Monster Energy, Ogilvy and Wavemaker.Token Man Consulting was born from Token Man, an initiative he co-founded nearly a decade ago to engage men with the gender equity discussion. He is also co-founder of Masculinity in the Workplace, and is also co-founder of Masculinity in the Workplace, one of the few I&D events that is dedicated to engaging men and inspiring them to become better allies and agents of change. Previously he was co-founder of Utopia, an award winning culture change business that creates more inclusive, more entrepreneurial and healthier cultures for clients. Utopia’s top-to-bottom, boardroom to factory floor approach had clinched household names including Alexander McQueen, Coca-Cola Europacific Partners, Google, KP Snacks, Nestlé, Pepsico, Rolls Royce, Spotify, Unilever and Universal Music. He was named one of Management Today’s Top 30 Male Agents of Change, and most recently, one of the Top 50 Trailblazers in Gender Equality in the UK. He has also co-authored a number of best selling books including Creative Superpowers: Equip Yourself for the Age of Creativity. Prior to his career as an inclusion and diversity consultant, he worked in advertising where he was head of innovation and managing partner at Cheil Worldwide, CEO at Profero, co-founder of Creative Social and has won numerous awards including a Gold Cannes Lions.Key Points of the Episode:His challenges growing up........ and as a man.How he found a side of himself he didn't really know existed.How shifts are happening but nowhere near far enough, and how some woman do not have the tools to deal with a man showing his feelings.How men need allies from all walks of life to be on their "journey" A proper definition of "allyship"Practical definition of allyship.How the system is damaging men significantly."Bravespaces" - topics that men may not normally talk about.How you can make a difference to someones life so easily.Can women be allies for men?The current (March 2025) in America and his take on it.How he is breaking stereotypes (one nail at a time!)A new definition of "manhood" for the modern day.A message of hope for the listeners.And the importance of self care.Reach out on www.danielefiandaca.comOr ... www.linkedin.com/in/danielefiandaca If you enjoyed listening, please leave a review and recommend us to your communities. To find out more about Andrew's work, check out...www.andrewpain.co.ukLinkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrewpain Twitter:https://twitter.com/andrewpain1974 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/andrewpain1974

Duncan is is the Founder and CEO of Survivors Manchester. Survivors Manchester is a survivor focused voluntary sector organisation that aims to create and facilitate safe spaces for male survivors of sexual abuse, rape and sexual exploitation across Greater Manchester providing access to quality assured support.Their work is focused on developing ways for individuals to empower themselves to work through personal and sometimes painful issues, guided and supported by their trauma-informed team, following the trauma and recovery model.In this episode we discuss how the charity started, Duncan’s role in it, the different projects they work on and why he was inspired to found the charity through his own story of surviving sexual abuse.Duncan is a gay man and was sexually abused as a child and later sexually exploited as an older teenager and young adult by a male perpetrator.It took him a long time to realise that what he went through was actually sexual abuse and we discuss the impact that it did or didn’t have on his sexuality and how that can be a common issue among victim-survivors.Key points of this episode:How his Grandad was his greatest inspiration, friend and muse.The importance of kindness and its relationship to mental health.His time in the performing arts.The life changing events, and his perception of same.How it was like 2 lives - the light and the dark."As he grew up, the abuse grew up"How much therapy helped and how the floodgates finally opened.How his journey to becoming a therapist helped.The creation of "We are Survivors"Given the size of his home - Manchester - how he could not believe the lack of support there..........and what he did.His journey of healing.How the organisation has expanded, and the reach of its work today.The odd objections he gets from a minority.How the data on these subjects can be convoluted and poorly curated.Reach out at www.wearesurvivors.org.uk If you enjoyed listening, please leave a review and recommend us to your communities. To find out more about Andrew's work, check out...www.andrewpain.co.ukLinkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrewpain Twitter:https://twitter.com/andrewpain1974 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/andrewpain1974

Richard Loftus is the founder of Well Run Brum, the wellbeing running group for men and a non-executive Director at the historic Birmingham recording studios, Grosvenor Road Studios and has a career spanning two decades in the theatre and live music industry. Key Points of the episode:How other people pretty much knew he was gay before he did!His career in the arts.How he experienced full on discrimination in some parts of America.How a mental health crisis started and what he did about it.How he got a great person on the phone at the doctors when he called for help.How he recovered and now feels so much better.The running club he now runs.The difference between running away from your problems and running and "leaning in" to them.How the run is designed for excellent male mental health.Learn more here:www.instagram.com/wellrunbrumwww.strava.com/clubs/wellrunbrumwww.wellrunbrum.co.ukHere's my personal IG:https://www.instagram.com/richardjloftus If you enjoyed listening, please leave a review and recommend us to your communities. To find out more about Andrew's work, check out...www.andrewpain.co.ukLinkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrewpain Twitter:https://twitter.com/andrewpain1974 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/andrewpain1974

Dan Glyde is a transformational coach specialising in men’s mental strength and emotional resilience. Through his unique Power Shift method and the Positive Masculinity approach (A New Way for Men to Thrive) Dan guides men in taking control of their lives. He works with those who feel stuck, overwhelmed, or disconnected, helping them gain clarity, build confidence, and find purpose. By addressing relationship challenges, self-doubt, and life’s pressures, Dan equips men with the tools they need to thrive and live with calm confidence, connection, and direction.Reach out here: https://www.linkedin.com/in/danglydecoach/https://danglydecoach.co.uk/Key Points of this episode:What inspired him in his early years.How his desire to "love everyone" was knocked out of him.What he was told about his preferred thinking style in his early years - Hint: - not healthy!His thoughts on bullying and how it has changed.Why and how he got into media.His thoughts on current media and why he left.How he "woke up" and realised his inner life was not healthy- as a "man" was trained to do. If you enjoyed listening, please leave a review and recommend us to your communities. To find out more about Andrew's work, check out...www.andrewpain.co.ukLinkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrewpain Twitter:https://twitter.com/andrewpain1974 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/andrewpain1974

Phil is a senior accredited counsellor, psychotherapist, supervisor and trainer specialising in working with boys and men who have experienced recent and/or historic abuse. Since 2004 Phil has worked therapeutically with males affected by rape, sexual abuse, sexual violence and sexual exploitation. Phil experienced sexual exploitation as a child, and rape as a young adult. He is an experienced public speaker and has trained thousands of professionals across the country on male sexual abuse/exploitation addressing how masculinity can play a part and help boys and men deal with abuse .Phil released hisfirst book addressing the sexual abuse of boys and men in 2023.  The real "Phil Mitchell" (no Eastenders in sight!)His early life growing upThe challenges as coming out as gay.How the school dealt with the bullying.How society accepts gay men now, but not men!His parents reactions when they were finally told.The discrepencies between male and female sex offenders sentences.His experience of grooming and abuse..........and the gaslighting.The shocking treatment by the police after he reported rape.How the right kind of masculinity can be used to overcome abuse.His work as a counsellor.How our perception of gender affects our perception of risk.Can we get more men into counselling? Or should we?The problems with some counselling approaches.How the media affects the perception of men today.A message of encouragement to men and boys.Reach out to Phil here: https://www.counsellingwithphil.co.ukTwitter:philmitchell83 If you enjoyed listening, please leave a review and recommend us to your communities. To find out more about Andrew's work, check out...www.andrewpain.co.ukLinkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrewpain Twitter:https://twitter.com/andrewpain1974 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/andrewpain1974

John Sidebotham BEM FCILT, Programme Manager – Mental Health & Wellbeing, Route Services, Network Rail to give him his full title! He is a wellbeing leader – Equity, Diversity & Inclusion Champion - Mentor – Coach - Author. John has worked in the transport sector throughout his career, starting with coach operator and holiday provider, Shearings, before consultancy, Centro (now Transport for West Midlands) and Network Rail. He sees kindness and compassion, coupled with diversity and inclusion, vital to success, enabling fresh ideas to be brought in to challenge existing thinking, creating innovation and opportunity. His passion for wellbeing was ignited through a journey through clinical depression. He is firmly of the belief that where we celebrate difference and uniqueness in a caring environment, where ideas can be shared without judgement in a safe listening environment, then this drives safety, performance, and innovation, whilst keeping us all as well as possible. An environment where we can flourish  Amongst other things he hosts a daily wellbeing call each weekday, open to the railway industry  One of John’s favourite quotes is: “Educating children to have more compassion is the single most important thing we can do to transform the world.” Dalai Lama & Archbishop Desmond Tutu, from their book, “The Book of Joy.” He believes this to be vital for our adult lives too, whether at work or in our home lives. Key Points of the Show:Who inspired him.The mindset that he uses to be productive.The event that had a massive effect on his life.His grief process and how it played out.Mens mental health, how it really works.Bullying in the workplace, and how it can happen anywhere.The amazing work John is doing for well being.Reach out on Linked In HERE If you enjoyed listening, please leave a review and recommend us to your communities. To find out more about Andrew's work, check out...www.andrewpain.co.ukLinkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrewpain Twitter:https://twitter.com/andrewpain1974 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/andrewpain1974

Anton Noble is an Urban Youth Specialist in Gang culture and Youth violence. He has his own ‘lived experience’ in gangs, and having broken free from his past himself is now acknowledged as one of the UK’s leading Mentors working with young people caught up in gangs, serious youth violence and exploitation Now having over 5 years of experience as an Outreach Worker and qualified youth mentor, Anton is also a motivational and transformational speaker, advisor, mediator and Gang Exit Strategist. He won the Most Inspirational Male Role Model of the Year in Northamptonshire 2019 and featured in the Channel 4 documentary ‘Britain’s Young Drug Runners’, which won a best documentary award in 2019.Anton’s purpose and drive comes from his passionate desire to share the love, grace and mercy which he has himself received and to and give this away to the young people he meets with, so it might instigate change in them as well. Anton leads the GYM (Guiding Young Minds) team in the Midlands. Key points of the episode:His early upbringing and what he thought was "normal" in his house, was not.How his parents divorce affected him and his siblings.His entry and the reason for it into gang culture.What gang culture was like for him.How easy (or not) it is to get out of gangs.How he got out and why.Transitional moments - " I don't belong, but I can't leave"How some people can see something in you that you can't."Hurt people hurt people"His organisation and the work he does.A wonderful short, inspiring conclusion.Reach out to Anton www.guidingyoungminds.org24 Hour Helpline:  If you enjoyed listening, please leave a review and recommend us to your communities. To find out more about Andrew's work, check out...www.andrewpain.co.ukLinkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrewpain Twitter:https://twitter.com/andrewpain1974 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/andrewpain1974

From Scott's website:Scott Mair, is an expert in paternal mental health and parenting. Navigating the uncharted waters of fatherhood, Scott provides invaluable insights into the often overlooked intersection of paternal mental health and effective parenting. He seamlessly combines professional expertise with a compassionate approach, drawing from his own lived experiences and the evidence base to offer a comprehensive guide for fathers facing the challenges of parenthood and those seeking to support them.At the forefront of change, Scott works at a national and local level, advocating for greater father inclusivity and emphasising the vital role fathers play in family dynamics. His initiatives include the successful establishment of fathers’ support networks, leveraging his military background as an Infantry soldier to create a specialised network for fathers on the frontline. Scott extends his consultancy services to health organisations and the corporate sector.Key Points of the Episode:Busting the myth of men not talking.How he puts a positive spin on his past in the present.HIs time in the military and the adjustment on leaving.How parenthood can be isolating, and solutions he offers.How Family Solutions came about, and what it offers.Understanding the Fathers Journey.Permission to be the "Dad you want to be rather than the Dad society says you "should" be.His work with special educational needs people.How an "unspoken expectation" about Dads may make it harder to engage.Stats: 1 in 9 people are stay at home dads, 16% of solo parents are Dads.Burnout and parental guilt.His work with local authorities and city councils.Different pressures on Mums and Dads in relationships that have split up.How some Dads feel the system is against them.How 15 or 20 minutes of quality time can do a lot - and the thinking outside the box to achieve it.What's next.... and an encouraging message.Reach out - Search "Scott Mair, Fatherhood Solutions" If you enjoyed listening, please leave a review and recommend us to your communities. To find out more about Andrew's work, check out...www.andrewpain.co.ukLinkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrewpain Twitter:https://twitter.com/andrewpain1974 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/andrewpain1974

Shocka is a Tedx speaker and a talented music rap artist. Here we chat to him about his life and career.Key points of the episode:A close misunderstanding of football :)How he grew up in a stigmatised area of London, and the tension between the police and the people that lived on the estate.How he thought it was "normal"How he used to want to be a footballer.How much talent is in Tottenham, and the depth of the lyrics.How pain births creativity - including in music.How rap was "woken up" and birthed in him.The twists and turns of his career story.His difficulties with mental health on occasion.How to get started in a practical sense with self love.Forgiveness for self and others. Celebrating small wins.Reach out on Insta on @shocka_artisthttps://www.instagram.com/shocka_artist If you enjoyed listening, please leave a review and recommend us to your communities. To find out more about Andrew's work, check out...www.andrewpain.co.ukLinkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrewpain Twitter:https://twitter.com/andrewpain1974 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/andrewpain1974

Jonathan Macdonald is a fascinating, dyslexic, neurodiverse and brilliant man, whos passion is creating an education revolution for girls aged 11-18.Here he chats with Andrew about many aspects of his life, his knowledge, passions and how he got to this point.Key Points of the EpisodeA philosophical perspective on his early life experiences.Reflections on his relationship with his brother.How it was as a mixed race child with white (adoptive) parents.His counter experience of "racism" as a mixed race person that experienced white privilege!His thoughts on education for neurodivergent people.... and the application of NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) to help (fascinating).His stroke recovery and how he did it as a dyslexic.His core positive beliefs.......and a positive message for all.Reack out on https://potency.world/ If you enjoyed listening, please leave a review and recommend us to your communities. To find out more about Andrew's work, check out...www.andrewpain.co.ukLinkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrewpain Twitter:https://twitter.com/andrewpain1974 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/andrewpain1974

Josh Munns is originally from London but hemoved up to the East Midlands to change his life around and get the support and help he needed in my battle with addiction. He is currently volunteering his  services through cutting hair for the service users in some drop in centres, he is also on a course at the minute doing a Level 2 youth course to become a youth worker.He has an amazing story to share to those who are wanting to make a change in their life’s and to just share to those so that they can see there is hope out there. Key points of the show:His life as a kid. And how his parents relationship affected him.How his Dad's problems caused him to grow up very quickly.How he had hardly anyone to talk to.How he felt he had missed out on the "fun" stuff like alcohol, weed and gambling.The progression from cocaine to crack and heroin.The beginning of how he turned his life around.How gambling is marketed as very "male" and "macho"How it becomes addictive.Advice for carers for people with a gambling addiction.His podcast which shares lived experience.The importance to him of giving back.Podcast Spotify/Apple/Amazon - "Recovery Talks 27/7" If you enjoyed listening, please leave a review and recommend us to your communities. To find out more about Andrew's work, check out...www.andrewpain.co.ukLinkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrewpain Twitter:https://twitter.com/andrewpain1974 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/andrewpain1974

Dr Andy Hamilton is a research associate with the Taking Boys Seriously (TBS) project at Ulster University. TBS is a longitudinal action research initiative spanning over 18 years. The research works alongside adolescent boys and the educational ecosystem that surrounds them to transform experiences and outcomes in education, particularly for those young men faced with compounded educational disadvantage.  Andy’s background is in informal education. His doctoral research investigated the multiple ways in which youth workers approach peacebuilding with young people in Northern Ireland and stemmed from over a decade of experience as a practitioner and trustee in the youth sector.  His current role with Taking Boys Seriously brings together multiple research interests including equity and equality in education, gender and masculinities, participatory action research, youth in contested societies, and applied social and political theory. It also continues to inform his own practice as a volunteer youth worker with young people in north Belfast.  More information on Taking Boys Seriously including a suite of research articles and the TBS principles for working in a gender-conscious relational way with boys and young men, can be accessed via our website:www.ulster.ac.uk/tbs Written evidence from TBS research that has recently been published by the UK Parliament Education Committee for their Inquiry into boys' engagement and attainment in education is also available from this link:https://committees.parliament.uk/writtenevidence/130387/pdf/  Key points of the show:His experience in growing up in Northern Ireland.Good relationships with his family growing up.How he did not know what he wanted to do while growing up.(and one word from a confidante changed that)How at one point he truly believed he was out of his depth! #impostersyndromeWhy calling men "Toxic" as in Toxic Masculinity is ultimately not helpful, and a useful reframe.How the relationship with their educators really affects boys.How the relationship to their own masculinity is not explored, and should be."Local Educational Ecosystems" that encourage boys to thrive.How more and more people are taking boys education more seriously.Why there is nothing intrinsically "wrong" with these boys, but the system needs to change.How boys AND girls need their advocates.Wise and final words If you enjoyed listening, please leave a review and recommend us to your communities. To find out more about Andrew's work, check out...www.andrewpain.co.ukLinkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrewpain Twitter:https://twitter.com/andrewpain1974 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/andrewpain1974

Rob Wells is a former Military Police officer and security professional as well as a published author, international speaker and writer. He is also a survivor of female perpetrated domestic abuse.Ribert has delivered talks to a diverse range of audiences, including domestic abuse frontline agencies, Military Welfare Units, Government Councils, the Army, Royal Navy, Royal Air Force and the Royal Marines. His expertise has been also sought by civilian police, the Ministry of Defence and the National Health Service.His story has been featured in multiple national and international newspapers and magazines, with appearances on radio shows in both the UK and USA. Robert was invited by the Durban government in South Africa to present on domestic abuse.Robert is available for national and international engagements, including training courses, conference speeches, business consultations, and media interviews on the subject of domestic abuse.Reach out to him on: 07853 [email protected] Points of the Show:What most stands out for him as a child. (And how the 70's and 80's were better!)How he was the last of 5 kids, and what he was told about it.How he could not choose between army and police.What life was like in military training (legalised bullying)How there was zero mental healthcare here.Why military included the best 12 years of his life.Why he got into campaigining about domestic abuse.How domestic abuse affected him, and the innocent mistake that drew him in.The time he could actually speak about it.Why domestic abuse is hard to spot, even though the red flags are there in full view.How on one occasion he was treated worse by the police than the abuse itself.How depression set in when he was trying to turn it into a positive.His take on modern masculinity - what it takes to be a "gentleman"Some final wise words. If you enjoyed listening, please leave a review and recommend us to your communities. To find out more about Andrew's work, check out...www.andrewpain.co.ukLinkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrewpain Twitter:https://twitter.com/andrewpain1974 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/andrewpain1974

Ricky Nuttall - Mental Health Advocate | Motivational Speaker | Former Firefighter and first responder at Grenfell Tower | Published Poet | ActorMental health advocate, motivational speaker and public voice, focusing on raising awareness on the importance of social and workplace mental health and well-being.ManIFF nomination for The Firefighter short film. Written and acted by Ricky himself, produced and directed by Roy Khalil of Grenfell Voices. Ricky also wrote and acted the lead role for a short piece, for The Russell Howard Hour based around depression and mental health.Media appearances including; BBC Breakfast and This Morning talking about Grenfell, his role there and his subsequent mental health struggles.Reach out to him here:https://www.justrick.co.uk/ https://www.instagram.com/rickynuttallofficial/Key points of the show:Early influences of his life, with some contrasting experiences.How "normal" is not necessarily normal apart from the individuals perception.His theory on why people that have been through trauma are drawn into potentially dangerous jobs.The culture change in the fire service - in some ways........and what still needs to change.Grenfell. His experience.His experience of PTSD. Brilliantly articulated.An authentic message of hope.Reach out on www.justrick.co.uk If you enjoyed listening, please leave a review and recommend us to your communities. To find out more about Andrew's work, check out...www.andrewpain.co.ukLinkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrewpain Twitter:https://twitter.com/andrewpain1974 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/andrewpain1974

Dr Jeremy Davies is Deputy CEO of the Fatherhood Institute, a UK charity working to build a society that values, prepares, and supports men as involved fathers and caregivers.Jeremy leads the organisation’s communications and policy work, including the FI’s 6 weeks for dads campaign for a better statutory paternity offer for all UK fathers; manages funded research and impact projects, including collaborations with universities, like the PIECE (Paternal Involvement and its Effects on Children’s Education) study; and develops evidence-based resources for family practitioners (e.g. the Engaging Dads toolkit, with the Royal College of Midwives), and for fathers (e.g. Becoming Dad, with the Mental Health Foundation). He has led the development of ISAFE (Improving Safeguarding through Audited Father-Engagement), a social work training package undergoing a randomised controlled trial in seven English local authorities, and is now part of a project to bring Fathers for Change, a US one-to-one therapy intervention for men who have used violence against their co-parent and/or children, to the UK. A passionate believer in the transformational power of involved fatherhood, Jeremy is a former journalist, who joined the FI in 2006 after completing a Masters in Research and a PhD about gay fathers' paternal experiences and practices. He has a son, now 24.Key points from the interview:How his childhood was idyllic and free and easy, but it became harder as he got into his teens.How Boy George on Top of the Pops was a huge cultural moment!How there is seemingly less freedom today on rules, but more on restrictive gender stereotypes.How he felt that no one was really talking to him or supporting him as a Dad, because of the "boxing in" of men.How he posited that gay men were "redoing" fatherhood....And how their sexuality was the least "interesting factor in it!Looking at fathers as a risk AND resource.How the current services can be somewhat biased.What causes the gender pay gap.How men are hard wired to care.How the media love a black and white story.Reach out to Jeremy on www.fatherhoodinstitute.org If you enjoyed listening, please leave a review and recommend us to your communities. To find out more about Andrew's work, check out...www.andrewpain.co.ukLinkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrewpain Twitter:https://twitter.com/andrewpain1974 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/andrewpain1974

Isaac, a British eco-adventurer, mental health champion and international keynote speaker, redefining human endurance through world-record achievements. Picture rowing 3000 unsupported miles across the Atlantic Ocean, becoming the first person to run the Welsh 3 Peaks Challenge route unsupported, completing a full Ironman with a 15kg weighted vest, cycling over huge stretches of challenging seas and rowing for a staggering 3.5 days continuously without a break.  Beyond adventure/endurance; he’s a philanthropist, raising £millions for causes like environmental conservation and mental health. With a Geoscience Masters degree, fellow of the Royal Geographical Society and Scientific Exploration Society and trustee of Mind mental health charity he connects sustainability, science and well-being.  Isaac's purpose is clear: creating a positive impact. He founded 'Climate Explorers,' a B Corporation uniting adventure, well-being, and sustainability leadership. An adaptable speaker, he transforms organisations into high-performing, sustainable powerhouses, valuing mental well-being for extraordinary results. Reach out here:Personal WebsiteClimate Explorers CIC websiteCar-y-Mor website How he had so many passions and interests he never fitted into a "niche".How he still is a "lone wolf" to this day.How the movie Jurassic Park was an epiphany!His mental health challenges and how he now handles them.His studying of Geoscience at Uni.His realisation that he could not carry on as he were - overachievement and burnout.How he stopped studying his degree and started studying himself!Why the GP smiled as he was pouring his heart out - (for the best reasons!)How some new practises healed his life, and his desire to understand the science of it!The "drug" that saved his life (and it's free and available to all of us!)The perfect balance of challenge to keep us mentally healthy and finding flow."If the Earth is having trouble, we are having trouble"Some good news about the environment (yes it does exist!)Some recommendations on how we can help oin a small way.Regenerative science from the sea.Reach out here:Personal WebsiteClimate Explorers CIC websiteCar-y-Mor website  If you enjoyed listening, please leave a review and recommend us to your communities. To find out more about Andrew's work, check out...www.andrewpain.co.ukLinkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrewpain Twitter:https://twitter.com/andrewpain1974 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/andrewpain1974

Key Points of the Episode:His great early family years....But then the bullying at school.Changes in the way we respond to dyslexia and coming out today.Stories of leaving religion out of love for a gay child (Not Christian)The sense of something "wrong" with himself.The imposter syndrome he had.How they handle issues on the retreats.What happens on the retreatsHis helpful philosophy.Christian is a Counsellor and Facilitator of men’s spaces. He is also the Founder of Men’s Retreats UK. A company that creates spaces for men to explore who and where they are in life right now, and where they want to be moving forward.The team at Men’s Retreats UK is comprises of Counsellors, Executive Coaches and Therapists, all with a lived experience of mental health and personal growth. They welcome men from all walks of life to engage in weekends of brotherhood, community and mature masculinity- hosting and leading the retreats from a place of shared vulnerability. The company’s core values are safety, confidentiality and respect for all. The all-male team understand what it’s like to experience struggle, trauma, isolation and uncertainty. Their retreats are a combination of coaching workshops and somatic practices (breathwork & cold-water therapy)- introducing men to their nervous systems, instead of always living in their heads! With his years of experience both as a counsellor and retreat founder/facilitator, Christian brings his rich insights of modern masculinity to the show.You can contact Christian here: https://www.mensretreatsuk.co.uk If you enjoyed listening, please leave a review and recommend us to your communities. To find out more about Andrew's work, check out...www.andrewpain.co.ukLinkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrewpain Twitter:https://twitter.com/andrewpain1974 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/andrewpain1974

Robin is from Old Trafford, Manchester (UK). He comes from a large working-class family and left school with few qualifications. His careers include research consultant, counsellor, deputy technical manager, scientific photographer and kitchen assistant. Robin’s training as a counsellor and his own experience of desperately wanting to be a dad led him to research the desire for fatherhood in childless men as part of his MA in Counselling (The University of Manchester). He then  self-funded MSc in Research Methods (UoMr) exploring the levels of desire for parenthood (‘broodiness’) in females and males, parents and non-parents. Robin then successfully completed his PhD at Keele University where he examined the impact of involuntary childlessness on the lives of older men. His research has been widely published in international and national media. He supports several infertility and involuntary childless support groups and is a founder member of the campaign group Ageing Without Children. He is a leading expert on the impact of male childlessness across the life course. Robin is from Old Trafford, Manchester (UK). He comes from a large working-class family and left school with few qualifications. His previous careers include counsellor, deputy technical manager, scientific photographer, and kitchen assistant. In his 40s Robin switched careers and trained as a counsellor. His counsellor training and his own experience of desperately wanting to be a dad, led him to research the desire for fatherhood for his self-funded MA (2008) and MSc (2009) and involuntarily childless older men for his PhD (2015). Robin’s work has been widely published in international and national media and his book ‘How is a man supposed to be a man? Male childlessness a Life Course Disrupted’ has received critical acclaimed. You can find more about his work at his website:  https://www.robinhadley.co.ukKey points of the episode:As always, who inspired him growing up.The atmosphere in the house while growing up.The job he did for years, then retrained.Statistics (and the lack of for men) on childless people.A possible link to male health and well being.Future implications for men.Stats for IVF.How these issues are not recognised in the workplace. If you enjoyed listening, please leave a review and recommend us to your communities. To find out more about Andrew's work, check out...www.andrewpain.co.ukLinkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrewpain Twitter:https://twitter.com/andrewpain1974 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/andrewpain1974

Stevie is a former professional rugby player, and part of the goldengeneration at the Leeds Rhinos, one of the most successful teams in superleague history. Stevie became the youngest grand final winner ever, winning3 Grand Finals, 2 Challenge Cups and was named captain at just 26.Amongst the highs, Stevie endured 10 operations, several mental healthstruggles, and had to retire from a brain injury at the age of 27.Stevie launched Mantality in 2016, inspiring conversation around mentalhealth for men. Mantality now offers counselling and life-coaching services,and engages people through a stigma-breaking podcast.Throughout all of the winning and losing in life, Stevie believes that the truestform of resilience is to realise the potential of our true selves. Stevie put thisto the test by leading culture meetings as a captain of the Rhinos team inrugby league; one of the toughest sports there is. Promoting authenticityformed championship winning teams and formidable relationships.Stevie believes that authenticity is the only thing that aligns success withfulfilment, and we all crave it...Key points from this episode:What stood out for Stevie as a kid on the pitch.That there was no rugby "in the genes"How emotional and mental well being was not a "thing" in the early daysHow wearing your heart on your sleeve was acceptable on the pitch, but less so off.How he realised it was no longer possible to stuff feelings down anymore.........and what he did about it.His long term post concussion symptoms.What he feels is his new purposeHis message for men and boys today.Reach out on Insta: www.instagram.com/ste_ward/http://www.stevieward.co.ukOr on Linked In Stevie WardLinktree: linktr.ee/stevierayward If you enjoyed listening, please leave a review and recommend us to your communities. To find out more about Andrew's work, check out...www.andrewpain.co.ukLinkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrewpain Twitter:https://twitter.com/andrewpain1974 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/andrewpain1974

As a Chartered people professional and project manager, with 18 years’ experience working in major infrastructure and urban regeneration, Sul is a versatile leader skilled in delivering impactful and sustained change in complex organisational structures.Driven by a passion for social purpose and enhancing the lives of others, Sul is a people-focussed leader and has successfully led diverse and multi-disciplinary teams across a broad range of projects in large private and public sector organisations, and is currently the Head of Organisational Development for the alliance delivering the TransPennine Route Upgrade programme. Representing large organisations such as Amey, Siemens, Arup, BAM and Network Rail .From Social deprivation to Neurodiversity, Sul has personal experience of being amongst minority groups and believes this allows him to bring unique insights into his work. As part of his current role, Sul is responsible for the alliance people and culture strategy, including the Equality, Diversity &Inclusion agenda and is an active member of his employing organisations Neurodiversity andMulticultural Committee; helping to shape the future of the organisation.Key points of this episode:His experience of growing up in Britain as a young Muslim....and the challenges.Seeing the nuances between religion and culture.His experiences of IslamaphobiaThe unconscious bias that people have.The true power of open discussion and people coming together.His optimistic belief in humanityWe are all ambassadorsReach out to Sul on Linked In If you enjoyed listening, please leave a review and recommend us to your communities. To find out more about Andrew's work, check out...www.andrewpain.co.ukLinkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrewpain Twitter:https://twitter.com/andrewpain1974 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/andrewpain1974

Ben Mason, is the founder of The Grieving Pint, an enterprise, which creates opportunities for young men to speak about their mental wellbeing in a safe and natural environment (the pub!), to find community and access support. Ben is currently a student at university and founded the growing initiative following his own trauma and the impact it had on his mental health.Key points of the episode: Welcome the youngest guest so far on the podcast!Who he admires.How he tragically lost his mum at 18.What the "Grieving Pint" is and the motivation in setting it up.His views on the challenges men face todayHow people think that "Middle class white young men" have no problems or issues.How he thinks there is a "silent epidemic" going on which is being ignored.How men are scared to speak out as they fear being misunderstood, judged or cancelled.His philosophy on life!Reach out to Ben here:[email protected]://www.instagram.com/thegrievingpint If you enjoyed listening, please leave a review and recommend us to your communities. To find out more about Andrew's work, check out...www.andrewpain.co.ukLinkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrewpain Twitter:https://twitter.com/andrewpain1974 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/andrewpain1974

Rob Hosking is a TEDx international motivational speaker, former Police Officer, and mental health advocate known for his inspiring journey from adversity to happiness. Through fearless talks, he vulnerably shares his experiences with mental health challenges and trauma providing his audience with lessons on how they can prioritise their wellbeing and thrive in the face of challenges. Drawing on his rich experiences, Rob translates the principles of stress management, resilience building, and work-life balance learned in the high-pressure world of policing into invaluable lessons for the corporate realm. In his talks Rob delves into the pivotal role that employee happiness plays in driving organisational excellence highlighting how the wellbeing and resilience of any workforce are essential ingredients for a thriving organisation.Key points of this episode:Robs early influences - in the backdrop of the troubles in Northers IrelandWhy policing in Northern Ireland was hardly a risk free job!His thoughts on the macho culture and the choice of "Get involved or left behind"The former gender disparity on how domestic violence cases were dealt with.How the P.T.S.D. manifested.How he was saved from suicide by his dog!His healing process and what he recommends.His book - "The Rise of Happiness" - a Well Being Magazine.His thoughts on the happiest country in the world (It's not the UK!)His thoughts on being a healthy man today and how to remove stigmas.Reach out to Rob here: https://www.talkingwithrob.com If you enjoyed listening, please leave a review and recommend us to your communities. To find out more about Andrew's work, check out...www.andrewpain.co.ukLinkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrewpain Twitter:https://twitter.com/andrewpain1974 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/andrewpain1974

Key Points of this Episode:His somewhat humourous take on our educatiion system.His early inspirationsThe key to good writing ( not what his teachers thought)How he hid his addictions (or tried to)The mixed messages we have around alcoholThe actual nuances of the problemHow stopping alcohol has helped him as a manHow the revenue from the alcohol industry is nothing compared to the lost productivity.How alcohol is percieved promarily as a female problem, but is really is not!What men need to address with this issue.A key inspiring message.Reach out to Duncan on www.getover.uk If you enjoyed listening, please leave a review and recommend us to your communities. To find out more about Andrew's work, check out...www.andrewpain.co.ukLinkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrewpain Twitter:https://twitter.com/andrewpain1974 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/andrewpain1974

Jon Salmon is an award-winning producer, a digital pioneer, co-founder of Byte Entertainment and Co-CEO of the Speakers Collective social enterprise.Jon lost his father to suicide when he was a teenager. A few years later after starting his first job he was sectioned and admitted to hospital with stress and depression. Luckily, Jon was able to get the right help in the end and returned to work a year later.However, Jon decided not to tell anyone about his mental illness or Dad’s suicide for nearly 20 years due to the stigma and affect he thought it would have on his career and friendships.It was sadly after the suicide of a close friend due to postnatal depression in 2016 that Jon decided he had to speak out.Jon couldn’t have picked a more public platform to speak out when he spoke alongside the Prince and Princess of Wales as part of the Heads Together mental health campaign in the lead up to the London ‘Mental Health’ Marathon in 2017.Jon has since gone on to be the Co-CEO of the Speakers Collective not for profit, challenging stigma and facilitating important conversations with lived experience speakers.Jon lives in London, a proud Dad and speaks openly about mental health and being dyslexic in the hope it will help others ask for help and save lives.Website Social Media Accountswww.jon-salmon.comwww.linkedin.com/in/jcsalmonwww.twitter.com/jonsalmonwww.instagram.com/j0nsalmonwww.metro.co.uk/author/jon-salmon-for-metro-co-ukMental Health Initiativeswww.speakerscollective.org – Co-CEO, Lived experience community and social enterprisewww.whatsgoingoninyourhead.org - Co-founder, live performance and discussionhttps://www.timetotalkwf.co.uk Co-Chair & Champion Time to Talk Waltham Forestwww.letstalkaboutloss.org - Trustee, Supporting 18-35 year olds who have been bereavedwww.hosb.org.uk/mentoring - Mentor, The House of St Barnabas Homeless Employment Academywww.talkitoutmusic.com Exec Producer, mental health music project bringing people togetherwww.jonandjohn.run – Ran New York Marathon in November for suicide prevention         Byte Entertainmentwww.byteentertainment.comKey Points of This Episode.Who inspired him originally.His unique way of processing information and what he loves to do.........and how the current school system does not serve it currently.HIs mental health challenges........and his revovery process.The importance (and growth) of people with lived experienceReach out at www.speakerscollective.org If you enjoyed listening, please leave a review and recommend us to your communities. To find out more about Andrew's work, check out...www.andrewpain.co.ukLinkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrewpain Twitter:https://twitter.com/andrewpain1974 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/andrewpain1974

After an 18-year career as a Secondary Teacher, including one year managing an education project in Ethiopia, Mike started Progressive Masculinity in order to address the damaging 'performance' many boys and young men felt pressured to live in order to be seen as a 'real' man. Progressive Masculinity challenges regressive dominance and power-based models of masculinity and supports young men to construct a model which is consistent with their personal values and the kind of man, friend, partner and father they wish to be. By creating safe, nonjudgemental spaces Progressive Masculinity helps boys and young men who feel unseen, unheard, marginalised and frustrated realise their value and the incredible potential of our gender. Progressive Masculinity has developed into a nationwide network of facilitators delivering pupil workshops, staff training and parental sessions with their work featured in The Times, The Daily Telegraph, BBC Radio 4 and Channel4Key points of this episode:How he did not know what he wanted to do at first, and his very first job!His thoughts on the weaknesses of the current teaching model.Progressive Masculinity. What is it and how it started.How he was supported by his colleagues.The issues he listened to in the classroom, and the impact it soon started to have.Why he had to leave the system to have the impact he wanted.How the workshops work and what they seek to create.What Mike wished he had as a child.The "soft challenge" technique.The kind of learning that is most relevant post Covid.His message and visionReach out to Mike on.www.progressivemasculinity.co.uk If you enjoyed listening, please leave a review and recommend us to your communities. To find out more about Andrew's work, check out...www.andrewpain.co.ukLinkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrewpain Twitter:https://twitter.com/andrewpain1974 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/andrewpain1974

After spending most of his life trapped in the revolving doors of crisis and crime, David turned his life around and now uses his lived experience as a lived experience team member at the charity, Revolving Doors, and as a lived experience influencer at the National Suicide Prevention Alliance, to influence reform and change.Reach out to David here on Linked InKey points of the show:How it all began for him.How he finds it hard to put his finger on the exact start point of his troubles.The "School/Prison PipelineHow people who have done bad things are not necessarily bad people..........and what he is doing about it.His view on why school exclusions have rocketed. If you enjoyed listening, please leave a review and recommend us to your communities. To find out more about Andrew's work, check out...www.andrewpain.co.ukLinkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrewpain Twitter:https://twitter.com/andrewpain1974 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/andrewpain1974

Chatting to Joel Shaldean in this episode all about his work as a Deputy Headmaster, Teacher Trainer, and pioneering thinker and programme facilitator in the educational field.Key points of this episode:Joel's early influencesHis unlikely journey into what he is doing nowA wise take on the solutions needed for boys in education.How the most disruptive need the most care.Equip! Engage! Inspire!A simple two word mantra that would serve men for life.A heartwarming and funny playground tale.Reach out to Joel here https://ladsneeddads.org/ If you enjoyed listening, please leave a review and recommend us to your communities. To find out more about Andrew's work, check out...www.andrewpain.co.ukLinkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrewpain Twitter:https://twitter.com/andrewpain1974 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/andrewpain1974

Charlie Bethel is the Chief Executive Officer of the UK Men’s Sheds Association and has been with the organisation for over five years.  On leaving University where he studied Industrial Design, Charlie embarked on a career in Paralympic Sport having served as Chief Executive of British Wheelchair Basketball prior to joining Men’s Sheds.  He continues this love of wheelchair basketball as an Executive Council member on the sport’s international governing body.  He believes strongly in the transformational power of men’s sheds and sport as a way of improving and saving lives.Key points of this episode:The people that inspired Charlie in childhood.A very famous relative!How psychometric testing can be damaging.The transformational power of Mens Sheds........and the challenges faced.The Unconscious Bias sometimes encounteredHow "the tide should raise all boats", and it should not be exclusivist.The imporatnce of gender specific interventions (and probably not for the reason you think)His vision for the future, both strategically and politically.Reach out to Charlie for more information here- including finding the sheds in your area.www.menssheds.org.uk If you enjoyed listening, please leave a review and recommend us to your communities. To find out more about Andrew's work, check out...www.andrewpain.co.ukLinkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrewpain Twitter:https://twitter.com/andrewpain1974 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/andrewpain1974

In this episode, we talk to Darren Harris who was diagnosed with bilateral retinalblastoma at the age of 4.Since then Darren was the captain of the blind England football team, racking up an extraordinary 162 appearances and 10 world and European medals. and is a brilliant speaker and campaigner, talking about how to overcome adversity and how to create brilliantly diverse groups of people. Key points from the episode:How he remembers seeing in the early part of his life.How he went through the typical phases of grief.How some great teachers realised the skills he would need in the future.His thoughts on why some men are struggling.His incredible achievements, and the mindset that inspired it.Some ideas on future helpful attitudes and solutions.Reach out to Darren and learn more here.https://darrenharrisgb.com/ If you enjoyed listening, please leave a review and recommend us to your communities. To find out more about Andrew's work, check out...www.andrewpain.co.ukLinkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrewpain Twitter:https://twitter.com/andrewpain1974 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/andrewpain1974

Chris is a BACP psychotherapist and coach who specialises in working with men and boys, focussing on helping them to develop their emotional well-being. He’s also a professional, public speaker and workshop facilitator who founded the M-Path programmes having worked in schools, universities and businesses across the UK and beyond ever since his book, ‘Be a man: How macho culture damages us and how to escape it’ was published in 2017.​He previously spent ten years as a journalist, producing and presenting numerous documentaries on the subject of men and masculinity for the BBC, whilst also writing about it in mainstream media such as The Guardian, The Independent and The Telegraph.Key points from the episode:How on paper his life was fine, but he felt a mess, so started asking probing questions.Redefining the "hero" archetype.How there are so few things targeted directly at men now and the need for it.How to drive allyship (and not drive it away)How a magical spontaneous conversation happened at one of his events.A beautiful message for men.Reach out on Linked In (Chris Hemmings)www.m-path.comInsta: @mpathmen If you enjoyed listening, please leave a review and recommend us to your communities. To find out more about Andrew's work, check out...www.andrewpain.co.ukLinkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrewpain Twitter:https://twitter.com/andrewpain1974 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/andrewpain1974

Joe Horton is a Husband, Father, Podcast Host Coach and Business Owner, who helps men to live more meaningful lives by focussing on what is really important to them. He hosts The Joe Horton Show, which is an interview show dedicated to equipping dads with all the tools, resources and ideas, to help them make improvements in their own lives. He interviews Psychologists, Athletes, Relationship Experts, Best Selling Authors, Stuntmen, Film Makers and BBC presenters, along with many other remarkable people at the top of their game.Joe's own journey started after losing his Dad in 2015 which, whilst a time of great pain and confusion, caused him to reflect on his life up until that point and how he was living his life. He went on his own journey of self discovery (which still continues to this day). This meant embracing change, making tough decisions about what his priorities in life would be, and taking action to put them front and centre going forward. Key points from the episode:How he set up the Guild of Dads podcast after a period of much change in his life.The people that inspired him in his early life.Why he started his own podcastThe success of his mens group.How on paper his life was good but he felt a lack of purpose.How and why a man should do what he enjoys and have other interests alongside responsibilities.Reach out to Joe here: @guildofdadsAnd check out his fantastic podcast here  If you enjoyed listening, please leave a review and recommend us to your communities. To find out more about Andrew's work, check out...www.andrewpain.co.ukLinkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrewpain Twitter:https://twitter.com/andrewpain1974 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/andrewpain1974

​Ryan Parke is The Men's Coach, a TEDx and international, award-winning public speaker. In 2019, the most successful man Ryan personally knew, died by suicide. Bewildered and devastated by his death, Ryan was sparked into undergoing detailed research on men’s health.  Ryan’s knowledge and ability, to present complexity in an accessible way, stands him out as a speaker and particularly on the subject of testosterone, Ryan is challenging outdated yet popular opinion. In so doing, he is opening up a whole new narrative in how we approach male mental and physical health. Ryan works with companies and charities that want to improve mental health for men by taking an evidence-based approach. His 90-day coaching programme helps men to overcome depression, beat procrastination and achieve their life goals. Key points from this episode:How he had a wonderful childhood.... then an apprenticeship that showed him what he was not good at, but highlighted simultaneously what he was.How a peer of his "had it all" but was still mentally unwell.....how he still took his life after doing all the "right" thingsHow the hormome testosterone is not the bad guy as first thought. It's the opposite.Some leading edge science on it. Techniques to increase testosterone."Trying to be a man, kills a lot of men"Why talking is absolutely necessary for men, but more is needed.How generic talking therapy is not sufficient to address suicidal ideation in men.How there are gender differences in stress triggers with men and women.The dangerous myths of mens mental health.Reach out to Ryan here:https://www.themenscoach.co.uk If you enjoyed listening, please leave a review and recommend us to your communities. To find out more about Andrew's work, check out...www.andrewpain.co.ukLinkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrewpain Twitter:https://twitter.com/andrewpain1974 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/andrewpain1974

Chris has travelled to eighty countries across seven continents, run 999 miles the length of Britain unsupported, completed a quadruple ironman triathlon, is a qualified pilot, skydiver, bestselling author, Antarctic explorer and polar scuba diver (I’m feeling cold already) He’s also English Veteran of the Year and is bold enough (or bonkers) to have driven volunteer journalists to India and back in an old and unroadworthy school bus, to highlight global inequality and poverty! He was awarded the Second level commendation of the Finnish nation on the grounds of human generosity for his ability to inspire others.Key points from this episode:How and why he joined the forcesA battle with addictionA rather scary adventure in the desert.A surprising view on enlightenmentHis views on "toxic mascilinity"A message of encourgement If you enjoyed listening, please leave a review and recommend us to your communities. To find out more about Andrew's work, check out...www.andrewpain.co.ukLinkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrewpain Twitter:https://twitter.com/andrewpain1974 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/andrewpain1974