Modern Masculinity

What does it actually take to be a present husband, father, leader, and man when life refuses to slow down? Hector sits down with Jason Bronsted for an honest conversation about releasing old expectations, doing the inner work, and learning to meet both success and struggle with a steady mind and an open heart. Jason shares how community, jujitsu, time in nature, and intentional family planning help him stay grounded, along with what he has learned about supporting the people he loves without trying to fix everything for them. They also explore how men can define masculinity for themselves, why every man needs a third space beyond home and work, and how raising curious children may matter more than preparing them for one specific career. This episode is a practical reminder that a meaningful life is not something you reach someday. It is something you create through presence, courage, and the choices you make today.Chapters:(00:00:00) Meet Jason and the pressure to have it all together(00:05:00) Doing the inner work and learning to love yourself(00:08:20) Living now instead of waiting for retirement(00:12:50) Defining masculinity for yourself(00:15:40) Why every man needs community and a third space(00:20:20) Staying present when real life gets difficult(00:25:00) What sports teach us about resilience(00:28:00) Nature, jujitsu, and rituals that bring you back to center(00:32:15) Raising curious children in an AI shaped world(00:38:45) Books, asking for help, and the meaning of presenceLinks And Resources:WebsiteJason Bronstad on LinkedInHector Santiesteban on LinkedInHector Santiesteban on TwitterThanks so much for joining us this week. Want to subscribe to Modern Masculinity? Have some feedback you’d like to share? Connect with us on iTunes and leave us a review!

Dodge Feeler is a telehealth founder, a father, and someone who has done a lot of living in a short amount of time. He went from being a hair restoration surgeon at 33 who thought he had already peaked, through a divorce, through the spiritual marketplace, through fatherhood, and out the other side with a very different set of priorities. In this conversation, he and Hector get into what it actually takes to stop cycling through healing modalities and start living the work. They talk about what fatherhood demands of you that nothing else will, why so many men confuse doing the ritual with being changed by it, and what it looks like to become a man your son actually learns something from. It is a raw and honest conversation that does not have a tidy conclusion, which is kind of the point.Chapters:(00:00:00) Welcome and What Is Real in Dodge's World Right Now(00:02:00) How Fatherhood Completely Rewires Your Brain and Priorities(00:08:00) Comfort as a Warning Sign and What It Means to Follow Your Calling(00:12:00) The Gap Between Doing the Ritual and Actually Living It(00:17:00) Teaching Your Kids to Regulate Before You Can Regulate Yourself(00:23:00) The Peptide Culture Trap and the Present Moment You Keep Missing(00:28:00) What Is the Spiritual Marketplace and Why It Keeps You Searching(00:34:00) What Being a Present Father Actually Looks Like Day to Day(00:40:00) Why We Are Failing to Bring Boys Into Manhood(00:47:00) Becoming the Man Your Son Will Point To SomedayLinks And Resources:WebsiteDodge Feeler on InstagramHector Santiesteban on LinkedInHector Santiesteban on TwitterThanks so much for joining us this week. Want to subscribe to Modern Masculinity? Have some feedback you’d like to share? Connect with us on iTunes and leave us a review!

Dr. Kelly Flanagan returns to Modern Masculinity to share the real evolution of his work — because awareness alone wasn't enough. After years of studying emotional patterns, Kelly hit a breaking point (literally — he broke his collarbone on an angry bike ride) that launched a five-year journey into what he now calls the Peaceful Pivot Process: a 9-step framework built around three phases — Get Calm, Get Free, and Get Connected. In this conversation, he and Hector unpack why you can't solve your triggered mind with your mind, how your body signals a triggered response 80% sooner than your thoughts do, and why keeping your heart open while setting firm boundaries is the highest expression of strength for a man. Whether you're a dad navigating the bickering, a husband trying not to blow up, or a high-achiever who keeps re-reading the books without changing the behavior — this one hits different.Chapters:(00:00:00) - Welcome to Modern Masculinity(00:01:00) - Kelly's world today: family, fatherhood, and the muck(00:04:00) - Why head knowledge doesn't stop the trigger(00:08:00) - The broken collarbone story that changed everything(00:11:00) - Why Michael Singer couldn't teach the rest of us — so Kelly built his own process(00:15:00) - The Peaceful Pivot Process: Get Calm, Get Free, Get Connected(00:25:00) - Open-heartedness is NOT a lack of boundaries(00:28:00) - The two-axis framework: boundaried vs. open-hearted(00:34:00) - Full 9-step walkthrough of the Peaceful Pivot Process(00:43:00) - The Road Less Triggered: where to get the book and bonusesLinks And Resources:Website: https://www.allianceclinical.com/Dr. Kelly Flanagan on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/drkellyflanagan/Hector Santiesteban on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/hector-santiesteban-64326340/Hector Santiesteban on Twitter: https://twitter.com/hector_podcast?lang=enThanks so much for joining us this week. Want to subscribe to Modern Masculinity? Have some feedback you’d like to share? Connect with us on iTunes and leave us a review!

In this raw and deeply practical conversation, Hector welcomes Andrew Anderson back to Modern Masculinity for a powerful discussion on worthiness, emotional healing, fatherhood, and what it really means for a man to receive love. Together, they unpack how childhood beliefs quietly shape adult identity, why so many men intellectualize growth without embodying it, and how deep inner work can change the way a man shows up for his kids, his relationships, and himself. For men navigating pressure, shame, conflict, or the weight of always having to hold it together, this episode offers a grounded path toward greater freedom, compassion, courage, and love.Chapters:(00:00:00) Pain is inevitable, but suffering can be optional(00:04:02) Why Hector reached out and what authenticity pulls out of men(00:07:32) The missed session and the hard lesson of receiving support(00:11:20) Worthiness, prosperity, and the law of giving and receiving(00:14:10) The dance party with Hector’s kids and what changed at home(00:18:42) Standing up for his son without anger, fear, or reactivity(00:22:15) Why childhood beliefs shape adult patterns(00:29:05) Discernment, certainty, and looking inward for identity(00:35:08) How adults unintentionally dim a child’s light(00:39:02) Forgiveness, emotional freedom, and why modern masculinity is loveLinks And Resources:WebsiteAndrew Anderson on LinkedInHector Santiesteban on LinkedInHector Santiesteban on TwitterThanks so much for joining us this week. Want to subscribe to Modern Masculinity? Have some feedback you’d like to share? Connect with us on iTunes and leave us a review!

John returns to the Modern Masculinity Podcast to share what's changed since becoming a father again at 42 — and what it's taught him about longevity, presence, and the moments we don't realize are the last ones. He and Hector dive deep into the realities of health span versus lifespan, why most men are unknowingly laying the groundwork for metabolic disease in their 30s and 40s, and why the fitness industry's obsession with 30-day transformations sets men up to fail. From the truth about GLP-1s and peptides to why creatine may be the most underrated supplement of our generation, John breaks down what actually works for men who want to stay functional, strong, and present for their families — not just alive, but thriving — well into their 70s and beyond.Chapters:(00:00:00) - Appreciating the "lasts" — what fatherhood the second time around teaches you(00:02:47) - The exponential challenge of raising two kids(00:04:00) - Balancing a growing business with a growing family(00:06:12) - Recognizing milestones you didn't know were the last(00:07:52) - Why longevity matters more when you're a dad at 42(00:09:45) - Health span vs. lifespan — compressing disease into fewer years(00:11:00) - The metabolic diseases being built in your 30s and 40s(00:12:30) - Why "eat healthier" isn't enough — the next level of nutrition(00:13:15) - The minimum effective dose: strength training, daily movement, and whole foods(00:14:45) - GLP-1s: the easy button myth and what they actually require(00:16:30) - Peptides as amplifiers, not replacements for the basics(00:18:00) - The identity shift required for lasting change(00:20:00) - How coaching fills the gap the pharmaceutical industry ignores(00:21:30) - The "looks maxing" trend and why teenagers are taking steroids(00:23:45) - Testosterone replacement: when it's necessary vs. when it's reckless(00:25:15) - How exogenous hormones disrupt your body's entire signaling cascade(00:27:00) - Patients vs. doctors: the new dynamic of informed health decisions(00:28:30) - RDA vs. optimal: why minimum standards aren't enough(00:30:00) - Creatine — the supplement everyone should be taking(00:32:00) - "One way or another, health becomes a priority"(00:33:15) - Trackers, data, and why more information leads to better coaching(00:36:00) - The feast-or-famine cycle of unsustainable fitness programs(00:38:30) - Minimum effective dose training: 2-3 days, 30 minutes, real results(00:40:30) - Stacking small wins instead of chasing dramatic transformations(00:42:00) - Where to find John and Lifestyle Performance Training(00:42:45) - John's definition of modern masculinityLinks And Resources:Webstie: https://lifestyleperformancetraining.com/author/lptadmin/John Winters on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-winters-7a3bb892/?isSelfProfile=falseHector Santiesteban on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/hector-santiesteban-64326340/Hector Santiesteban on Twitter: https://twitter.com/hector_podcast?lang=enThanks so much for joining us this week. Want to subscribe to Modern Masculinity? Have some feedback you’d like to share? Connect with us on iTunes and leave us a review!

In this conversation, GS Youngblood returns to break down a practical “cheat code” for better relationships: get grounded, lead with clarity, and create emotional safety. GS explains why many men unconsciously repeat childhood patterns—especially helplessness and people-pleasing—and how that shows up as conflict avoidance, unmet needs, and corrosive resentment. Together, GS and Hector explore boundaries, emotional leadership, and why relationship skill is learnable (just like fitness). They also discuss how the same blueprint applies in dating—from the first few seconds of presence to the way a man sets direction and builds connection through genuine curiosity.Chapters:(00:00:00) What modern masculinity is: grounded, leading, safe(00:01:00) GS’s core thesis: the 3-part masculine blueprint(00:02:30) How unprocessed trauma shapes adult relationships(00:04:10) The “needs get steamrolled” pattern (and where it begins)(00:06:30) Why resentment is so corrosive—and how it builds(00:08:00) Emotional leadership: naming the fracture instead of hiding it(00:14:00) Why men check out (games, scrolling, substances) when relationship is hard(00:18:00) The concrete practices: grounding, leadership, connection(00:23:30) Dating with presence: the first 5 seconds + directional energy(00:41:30) Where to start: the book, bootcamp, and live workshopsLinks And Resources:Website: https://www.gsyoungblood.com/GS Youngblood on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gsyoungbloodmir/Hector Santiesteban on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/hector-santiesteban-64326340/Hector Santiesteban on Twitter: https://twitter.com/hector_podcast?lang=enThanks so much for joining us this week. Want to subscribe to Modern Masculinity? Have some feedback you’d like to share? Connect with us on iTunes and leave us a review!

Hector sits down with Ben Brown to unpack why so many men feel stretched thin in midlife, and why “being busy” is not the real issue. Ben explains how modern life overwhelms human biology through constant stimulation, easy access to highly processed food, and chronic stress, and why sustainable health is less about perfect plans and more about ownership, identity, and repeatable non-negotiables. They discuss why black-and-white dieting fails, how to live in the “gray” with consistent “pretty good” habits, and how tools like AI and modern medicine can support the fundamentals rather than replace them. Ben also shares why comprehensive blood work can be a powerful next step for optimization, especially when symptoms have deeper roots like sleep quality issues.Chapters:(00:00:00) Modern life’s constant stimulation and why it matters(00:01:00) Ben’s current season: family, business, and the “busy” trade-offs(00:06:00) Why putting yourself last is not selfless(00:12:00) Do we need modern medicine to offset modern living?(00:14:00) Cutting through health noise: fundamentals first(00:18:00) Peptides, GLP-1s, and TRT as tools, not shortcuts(00:24:00) The missing piece: ownership, identity, and discomfort(00:29:00) Breaking the all-or-nothing mindset and living in the gray(00:34:00) Why comprehensive blood work can change the game(00:45:00) Using AI for tracking, learning, and decision support(00:47:00) Where to find Ben, and defining modern masculinityLinks And Resources:WebsiteBen Brown on LinkedInHector Santiesteban on LinkedInHector Santiesteban on TwitterThanks so much for joining us this week. Want to subscribe to Modern Masculinity? Have some feedback you’d like to share? Connect with us on iTunes and leave us a review!

Adam Boyd opens up about his transformation from 640 pounds to losing 158 pounds in 58 weeks, sharing the brutal reality of food addiction, alcoholism, and gambling that nearly cost him his life. In this raw conversation, Adam discusses growing up in chaos, living in fear, and the moment he realized no one was coming to save him. He breaks down his decision to use GLP-1 medications like Ozempic, the importance of vulnerability over performative masculinity, and why men struggle to ask for help. This isn't a typical weight loss success story — it's an honest look at what it takes to transform your life when you're morally broken, the role of male friendships in healing, and how sitting in anxiety rather than running from it becomes the path forward.Chapters:(00:00:00) - Growing Up in Chaos: Adam's Early Life and Food Addiction(00:02:00) - The Spiral: When Alcohol and Gambling Took Over(00:05:46) - Living in Fear: How Chaos Shaped Adam's Identity(00:08:00) - 58 Weeks In: 158 Pounds Lost and Still Sober(00:09:00) - Why Adam Used Ozempic: Turning Off the Noise(00:13:00) - Rock Bottom: Living in a Trailer and Realizing No One's Coming(00:14:00) - Running Toward the Storm: Why Vulnerability Saved His Life(00:17:00) - Hard Things Now, Easy Later: Breaking the Comfort Zone(00:19:00) - How Your Brain Creates New Pathways When You Do Hard Things(00:21:00) - The Father Figure He Never Had: Finding Male Mentorship(00:24:00) - Why Men Don't Ask for Help (And Why They Should)(00:28:00) - The Goal: 300 Pounds and Helping Others Through Anxiety(00:30:00) - Modern Masculinity: Being Open and Creating Space to ListenLinks And Resources:Adam Boyd on InstagramHector Santiesteban on LinkedInHector Santiesteban on TwitterThanks so much for joining us this week. Want to subscribe to Modern Masculinity? Have some feedback you’d like to share? Connect with us on iTunes and leave us a review!

Jason Heinritz shares his journey from being a self-described workaholic chasing accolades to finding peace through faith and intentional living. Jason opens up about his struggle with numbing himself with weed and alcohol after long workdays, the transformative moment when he took a demotion and got rebaptized, and how fasting and prayer became essential tools for navigating major life decisions—including moving his family from Wisconsin to Seattle to help start a church. He discusses the importance of being a "Jesus guy" without the baggage of religion, the power of setting boundaries around work (now working just 28 hours per week), and practical ways he's raising his kids with spiritual grounding in a world full of distractions. Jason also breaks down why modern masculinity should follow Jesus' example of leading with love while standing firm in truth, and shares his Wake Up Jesus People movement designed to awaken the warrior within men.Chapters:(00:00:00) - Jason introduces himself and his journey from workaholic to finding peace through faith(00:02:00) - Moving from Wisconsin to Seattle to help start a church and balancing multiple roles(00:06:00) - The importance of having a North Star and purpose beyond material success(00:08:40) - Breaking free from numbing with weed and alcohol after work(00:12:18) - The practical and spiritual power of prayer and fasting(00:17:00) - How fasting releases chains and builds personal agency(00:18:00) - Different types of fasts: liquid fasts, Daniel fasts, and navigating them with family(00:22:00) - Setting intentions before fasting and avoiding perfectionism(00:26:00) - Why Jesus is the ultimate example of integrated masculinity(00:31:00) - Jesus as tough but loving: flipping tables and speaking truth(00:36:00) - The sacred start morning routine: prayer, journal, exercise, and scripture(00:38:00) - Raising kids with spiritual grounding while attending public school(00:40:00) - Explaining the "why" behind faith instead of enforcing rules(00:44:00) - Modern masculinity defined: following Jesus, leading with tough love, and servant leadershipLinks And Resources:WebsiteJason Heinritz on LinkedInHector Santiesteban on LinkedInHector Santiesteban on TwitterThanks so much for joining us this week. Want to subscribe to Modern Masculinity? Have some feedback you’d like to share? Connect with us on iTunes and leave us a review!

Hector sits down with Donovan Owens, founder of the Life is REPS community, for a tactical deep-dive into what it truly means to master modern masculinity. Donovan shares his raw journey from rebellious teenager to sitting on the edge of his bed with a pistol, contemplating suicide—and the spiritual moment that changed everything. They explore Donovan's REPS Operating System (Repetitive Excellence Produces Success), breaking down practical tools like the Mastery Morning routine, the four power pillars (adventure, worthwhile work, real relationships, and strong self), and why excellence requires both presence and resourcefulness. This isn't philosophical fluff—it's actionable wisdom on creating systems that prevent you from falling prey to society's strategic traps of convenience, comfort, and unhealthy dopamine. Donovan challenges men to define success on their own terms, communicate consciously with those around them, and recognize that mastery isn't a destination but a daily commitment. Whether you're battling defaults, seeking clarity, or ready to tap into the deepest version of yourself, this conversation delivers the framework to become the man that matters—to yourself first, then to your world.Chapters:(00:00:00) - Welcome and Introduction to Donovan Owens(00:01:15) - The Journey: From Rebellious Teen to Rock Bottom(00:06:42) - The Moment That Changed Everything: Gratitude and Survival(00:10:28) - Daily Battles: Ego, Humility, and Incomplete Manhood(00:14:35) - The Mastery Morning: Your Three Essential Wins(00:22:18) - Building the REPS Operating System(00:31:47) - Excellence vs. Perfection: Quality Over Quantity(00:38:25) - Society's Strategic System of Traps(00:42:15) - Liminal Thinking: Examining Your Belief Bubbles(00:47:20) - Defining Modern Masculinity: Being the Man That MattersLinks and Resources:Life is REPS Website: https://lifeisreps.com/Life is REPS Newsletter: https://lifeisreps.com/newsletterLife is REPS YouTube: https://youtube.com/@lifeisrepsHector Santiesteban on LinkedInHector Santiesteban on TwitterThanks so much for joining us this week. Want to subscribe to Modern Masculinity? Have some feedback you’d like to share? Connect with us on iTunes and leave us a review!

Jake Kennington is a structural engineer, children's book author, and founder of Actively Human who discovered that achieving his career goals left him feeling more lost than ever. After moving his family 800 miles for what he thought was his dream job, Jake realized his priorities had fundamentally changed—but he was still living a previous version of his life. In this conversation, Jake shares his framework for redefining success (REDAC: Redefine, Realign, Reconnect), why working on yourself isn't selfish when you have a family, and how a simple morning routine transformed his marriage. He opens up about the uncomfortable moment when he saw his own bad behavior mirrored in his son, why creating something and sharing it is the key to human connection, and what 15 years of fatherhood has taught him about growing up alongside your kids. This episode is for any man who feels like he's checking all the boxes externally but struggling internally, wondering if there's more to masculinity than just providing and performing.Chapters:(00:00:00) - The Moment Everything Changed: When His Son Mirrored His Worst Behavior(00:01:00) - Jake's Current Challenges: Balancing Fatherhood, Engineering, and Entrepreneurship(00:04:00) - The Children's Book: Writing Life Lessons for His Unborn Son(00:07:00) - Growing Up Alongside Your Kids(00:10:00) - When Your Kid Mirrors Your Worst Behavior(00:13:00) - The 800-Mile Move That Didn't Fix Everything(00:16:00) - Redefining Success: The REDAC Framework(00:19:00) - Why Your Definition of Success Must Evolve(00:22:00) - The Morning Routine That Saved His Marriage(00:24:00) - Why Working on Yourself Isn't Selfish(00:27:00) - What 40 Roommates Taught About Human Connection(00:30:00) - The Simple Recipe for Human Connection(00:33:00) - Modern Masculinity: Becoming a Man of ValueLinks And Resources:WebsiteJake Kennington on LinkedInHector Santiesteban on LinkedInHector Santiesteban on TwitterThanks so much for joining us this week. Want to subscribe to Modern Masculinity? Have some feedback you’d like to share? Connect with us on iTunes and leave us a review!

Marc Azoulay, founder of Men's Therapy Online, breaks down why traditional therapy often misses the mark for men and what actually works. Marc shares his journey from impatient entrepreneur to new father, exploring how men can harness their drive without burning out. We dive deep into the millennial man's dilemma—raised to reject toxic masculinity but ending up overly feminized and lacking direction. Marc explains why community and men's groups are essential, how to master the art of knowing when to "pull your sword," and why the modern man must learn to navigate his inner world with the same skill he applies to external challenges. This episode is a blueprint for men seeking to integrate strength with emotional intelligence, responsibility with vulnerability, and power with purpose.Chapters:(00:00:00) - Meaning comes from responsibility and commitment(00:02:43) - The cardinal sin of impatience and becoming a new father(00:06:15) - Men and women are different but equal(00:09:30) - The invisible preventative work men do(00:13:42) - Inner demons: You can't outwork them, you have to face them(00:18:35) - The millennial man's identity crisis: Not our fathers, but who are we?(00:23:12) - Why having children forces you to become a man(00:28:45) - Responsibility isn't a burden—it's a gift that gives life meaning(00:35:17) - Vulnerability as a superpower: The soil doesn't lie(00:40:28) - Stoicism misunderstood: It's not suppression, it's seeing reality as it is(00:46:52) - When to pull your sword: Mastering the proper use of force(00:51:33) - Focus on your biggest weakness, not your strengthsLinks And Resources:Website: https://menstherapy.online/Marc Azoulay on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/marcmazoulay/Hector Santiesteban on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/hector-santiesteban-64326340/Hector Santiesteban on Twitter: https://twitter.com/hector_podcast?lang=enThanks so much for joining us this week. Want to subscribe to Modern Masculinity? Have some feedback you’d like to share? Connect with us on iTunes and leave us a review!

Hector sits down with Matt Myers of Nerd Fitness for what turns into an impromptu coaching session about the real challenges of staying fit as a busy dad and business owner. Matt breaks down why the fitness industry's "just be disciplined" approach fails most people, revealing that success isn't about motivation—it's about clarity, support, and learning to adjust your approach as life changes. They explore the dad bod phenomenon, food noise and GLP-1s, the myth that one fitness modality works for everyone, and why being "fitness agnostic" might be the key to long-term success. Matt shares practical strategies for working out when you only have 5-10 minutes, how to stop the yo-yo cycle of falling on and off track, and why judging yourself for not maintaining your peak fitness routine is counterproductive. This conversation will resonate with any man trying to juggle health, family, and career without losing his mind.Chapters:(00:00:00) - The Power of Self-Compassion in Fitness(00:01:00) - Balancing Work, Family, and Fitness as a Dad(00:04:00) - The Dad Bod Phenomenon and Life's Demands(00:08:00) - Why "Just Be Disciplined" Fails Most People(00:12:00) - Hector's Fitness Journey: From Peak Shape to Reality Check(00:16:00) - Setting Realistic Goals for Your Current Season(00:19:00) - Making Time for Fitness When Business Demands Everything(00:23:00) - Learning to Dial Your Workouts Up and Down(00:27:00) - Why Being Fitness Agnostic Beats Loyalty to One Method(00:34:00) - GLP-1s, Food Noise, and the Future of FitnessLinks And Resources:WebsiteMatt Myers on LinkedInHector Santiesteban on LinkedInHector Santiesteban on TwitterThanks so much for joining us this week. Want to subscribe to Modern Masculinity? Have some feedback you’d like to share? Connect with us on iTunes and leave us a review!

Gio Bartolomeo shares his transformative journey from being a hustling entrepreneur stuck in his head to discovering profound spiritual awakening through breathwork and plant medicine. After years of chasing success and feeling unfulfilled, a death experience during an ayahuasca ceremony showed him there was more to life than material achievement. Through breathwork, particularly after training with Wim Hof, Gio had an out-of-body experience that taught him to get out of his analytical mind and into his heart. He discusses how modern masculinity requires both strength and softness, the importance of men's community, and why following intuition over logic has transformed his life and business. Gio breaks down different types of breathwork practices, explains how to quiet the mind to hear your heart's wisdom, and shares why creativity and authentic expression are the keys to living a fulfilling life.Chapters:(00:00:00) - Gio's out-of-body breathwork experience and rebirth moment(00:03:00) - Wrestling with business scaling and finding authentic purpose(00:05:00) - Discovering spiritual calm amidst global chaos(00:08:00) - The journey from Catholic upbringing to spiritual awakening(00:12:00) - The unfulfilled entrepreneur and the search for meaning(00:14:00) - First ayahuasca ceremony and confronting death(00:17:00) - Meeting Wim Hof and the transformative breathwork experience(00:21:00) - Getting out of your head and into your heart(00:25:00) - Rediscovering intuition and curiosity as a man(00:29:00) - Intention, authenticity, and creating from the heart(00:33:00) - Different types of breathwork: resilience vs. exploration(00:37:00) - Finding your authentic vibration and tribe(00:40:00) - Defining modern masculinity: strength with softnessLinks And Resources:Website: https://www.elementalrhythm.com/Gio Bartolomeo on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/gio-bartolomeo-1a7b2566/?originalSubdomain=caHector Santiesteban on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/hector-santiesteban-64326340/Hector Santiesteban on Twitter: https://twitter.com/hector_podcast?lang=enThanks so much for joining us this week. Want to subscribe to Modern Masculinity? Have some feedback you’d like to share? Connect with us on iTunes and leave us a review!

In this episode, Larry Pruett shares hard-won wisdom from 36 years of marriage and 21 years as an entrepreneur. After scaling an e-commerce business to high six figures and now coaching married couples, Larry reveals the critical missing piece in most men's lives: meaningful relationships with other men. He breaks down the fundamental communication differences between men and women, explains why guys need three types of relationships (mentor, peer, and mentee), and shares practical strategies for understanding your spouse without playing guessing games. Larry also discusses the importance of being vulnerable in the right contexts, how to balance business success with home life, and why ancient wisdom still applies to modern relationships. This conversation is packed with actionable advice for men who want to build stronger marriages, deeper friendships, and leave fewer regrets.Chapters:(00:00:00) - The Power of Asking Questions in Relationships(00:01:00) - From High Six Figures to Starting Over: Larry's Journey(00:03:00) - Why Men Need Other Men (Not Just Their Wives)(00:06:00) - The Missing Mentor: How to Find Guidance at Every Life Stage(00:09:00) - What Makes Someone Worthy of Respect? (A Powerful Exercise)(00:11:00) - The Mask Men Wear: When Vulnerability Goes Wrong(00:14:00) - The 3 Types of Relationships Every Man Needs(00:17:00) - Why You Keep Miscommunicating with Your Wife(00:20:00) - The House Analogy: How Men and Women Think Differently(00:23:00) - Stop Playing the Guessing Game (Just Ask Her What She Means)(00:25:00) - The Baked Potato Story: A Perfect Example of Male/Female Communication(00:28:00) - Why Men Jump to Fixing (And When to Just Sit and Listen)(00:31:00) - Modern Masculinity = Ancient Masculinity (Why the Principles Never Change)Links And Resources:WebsiteLarry on LinkedInHector Santiesteban on LinkedInHector Santiesteban on TwitterThanks so much for joining us this week. Want to subscribe to Modern Masculinity? Have some feedback you’d like to share? Connect with us on iTunes and leave us a review!

Dr. Barry Davis spent 38 years as a college baseball coach before stepping away to write, speak, and consult on leadership and emotional intelligence. In this episode, he opens up about the personal challenges of transitioning from "coach" to a new identity, the evolution of young athletes over four decades, and how his own coaching style transformed from authoritative to emotionally intelligent. Barry shares candid insights about parenting in the age of technology, the importance of self-discipline and excellence in everything we do, and why creating a safe environment for failure is crucial for developing resilient leaders. His new book, "Old Dog New Tricks: The Power of Leading With Emotional Intelligence," tells the story of a volatile coach who must learn to lead differently—a story that mirrors Barry's own journey from a hard-nosed coach to someone who now prioritizes emotional connection, intentional listening, and creating spaces where people can thrive.Chapters:(00:00:00) - Creating Safe Environments for Growth and Challenge(00:01:00) - Introduction and Barry's Coaching Journey(00:03:00) - Challenges in Establishing Routine and Family Connections(00:06:00) - Transitioning Identity from Coach to Speaker(00:10:00) - Three Core Values: Self-Discipline, Excellence, and Fulfillment(00:15:00) - Athletics as Training Ground for Life Skills(00:19:00) - Excellence in the Small Things(00:23:00) - Evolution of Young Athletes Over Four Decades(00:30:00) - Parenting Philosophy and Creating Safe Learning Environments(00:33:00) - Best Parents Stay Outside the Circle(00:37:00) - Finding Your Own Path and Motivation(00:39:00) - Writing "Old Dog New Tricks" and Emotional Intelligence(00:43:00) - Where to Find the Book and ConnectLinks And Resources:Website: https://drbarrydavis.com/Dr. Barry Davis on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/drbarrydavis42/Hector Santiesteban on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/hector-santiesteban-64326340/Hector Santiesteban on Twitter: https://twitter.com/hector_podcast?lang=enThanks so much for joining us this week. Want to subscribe to Modern Masculinity? Have some feedback you’d like to share? Connect with us on iTunes and leave us a review!

In this deep dive with fitness expert and longtime friend Nate Palmer, we explore the cutting edge of men's health optimization—from peptides and GLP-1s to the fundamentals that most guys ignore. Nate shares his personal journey struggling with injury and mental health while being unable to train, revealing how breath work became his new coping mechanism when physical expression wasn't available. We break down the truth about popular compounds like BPC-157, CJC, and semaglutide, discussing how they work, who should consider them, and why they're the natural evolution in response to our toxic food environment. Nate explains why walking and sleep might be more powerful than any supplement, how to train while fasting without wasting your workouts, and why the aesthetic versus strength debate misses the point entirely. We also get into the controversial world of TRT, the surprising cognitive benefits of creatine and nicotine, and why the next decade will reveal a stark divide between those who take longevity seriously and those who don't. This conversation is packed with actionable insights for any man looking to optimize his health, performance, and aging trajectory.Chapters:(00:00:00) - Why Success Doesn't Protect You From Struggle(00:02:00) - Training as Therapy: Using Physical Expression to Process Life(00:04:00) - When You Can't Train: Finding New Ways to Cope(00:06:00) - The Compound That Cut My Recovery Time in Half(00:09:00) - GLP-1s Aren't Just for Weight Loss: A Response to Modern Food(00:13:00) - The Peptide Categories Every Man Should Understand(00:19:00) - The Unsexy Truth: Walking and Sleep Beat Most Supplements(00:22:00) - Stop Chasing Aesthetics: What Actually Matters for Longevity(00:27:00) - TRT for Your Mind: The Mental Health Benefits No One Talks About(00:32:00) - How to Actually Track What's Working: Blood Work and HRV(00:36:00) - Inside My Daily Stack: What I Take and Why(00:40:00) - Creatine for Your Brain + The Nicotine Conversation(00:42:00) - Training Fasted? You're Probably Wasting Your Effort(00:45:00) - Where to Get Started: Resources and ProductsLinks And Resources:WebsiteNate Palmer on LinkedInHector Santiesteban on LinkedInHector Santiesteban on TwitterThanks so much for joining us this week. Want to subscribe to Modern Masculinity? Have some feedback you’d like to share? Connect with us on iTunes and leave us a review!

Alex Charfen returns to share his transformative journey from business optimization to internal healing work. After coaching thousands of entrepreneurs to over $100 million in revenue, Alex took a sabbatical to focus on sexual shadow work, tantric practices, and processing childhood trauma. In this raw conversation, he reveals why men are systematically traumatizing themselves through pornography, how to create genuine emotional safety in relationships (not just physical or financial safety), and why the belief that "50% of your thoughts will always be negative" is fundamentally wrong. Alex explains the critical difference between suppression and containment, shares his experience overcoming abandonment issues through EMDR therapy, and offers practical guidance on rational self-pleasure practices that can rewire decades of conditioning. He challenges modern masculinity narratives and provides a roadmap for men to step into true presence, process their triggers, and create the secure attachment they've been seeking. This episode is essential listening for any man who wants to understand why emotional containment—not fixing, processing, or withdrawing—is the key to everything he wants in life.Chapters:(00:00:00) - The Emotional Safety Women Actually Need(00:03:40) - Why 50% Negative Thoughts Is a Lie You've Been Sold(00:07:15) - Processing Abandonment Issues: From Infant Surgery to Adult Anxiety(00:12:45) - The Four Safety Types (And Why You're Missing the Most Important One)(00:18:30) - Masculine Presence: What "Being Seen and Heard" Really Means(00:25:20) - The Modern Masculinity Crisis: Sharing From the Wound vs. Sharing From Healing(00:30:15) - Sexual Energy Transmutation: What Napoleon Hill Got Wrong(00:38:25) - Pornography's Hidden Cost: Instant Gratification, Hyperstimulation & the Victim Position(00:47:20) - The Rational Self-Pleasure Practice That Changes Everything(00:56:45) - Modern Masculinity Redefined: Presence Over PerformanceLinks And Resources:WebsiteAlex Charfen on LinkedInAmplafy MediaHector Santiesteban on LinkedIn:Hector Santiesteban on TwitterThanks so much for joining us this week. Want to subscribe to Modern Masculinity? Have some feedback you’d like to share? Connect with us on iTunes and leave us a review!

In this raw and unapologetic conversation, first-generation attorney Tyler Vance challenges everything you've been told about modern masculinity. From walking on the car side of the sidewalk to refusing to let political correctness dilute what it means to be a man, Tyler brings an old-school mentality to a generation that desperately needs it. He breaks down why the term "toxic masculinity" has been weaponized against natural male behavior, shares his philosophy on providing and protecting as a man's core purpose, and explains why he sleeps on the door side of the bed. This isn't about going back in time—it's about reclaiming the essential traits that make men valuable partners, fathers, and leaders. Tyler also opens up about navigating the legal world with integrity, the collapse of common sense in modern society, and why he believes most men have lost their sense of purpose. If you're tired of apologizing for being a man, this episode is for you.Chapters:(00:00:00) - Meet Tyler Vance: The First-Gen Attorney Who Refuses to Apologize(00:02:15) - From Courtroom to Content: How Legal Writing Shaped His Voice(00:05:30) - The Death of Common Sense: Why Politics Has Lost Its Mind(00:09:45) - Priced Out: The Cost of Living Crisis Destroying Young Men's Futures(00:14:20) - Old School in a New World: Defending Traditional Masculinity(00:19:10) - Inside the Courtroom: Strategy, Integrity, and Winning Cases(00:25:35) - The Toxic Masculinity Lie: Why Natural Male Behavior Is Under Attack(00:30:15) - The Provider Mentality: Why Real Men Protect and Provide(00:34:40) - Finding Purpose: How Fatherhood Changes Everything for Men(00:37:10) - What It Really Means to Be a Man in 2025Links And Resources:Tyler Vance on LinkedInTyler Vance on InstagramHector Santiesteban on LinkedInHector Santiesteban on TwitterThanks so much for joining us this week. Want to subscribe to Modern Masculinity? Have some feedback you’d like to share? Connect with us on iTunes and leave us a review!

Cletus Coffey, former professional athlete turned men's coach, shares his journey from hiding behind athletic identity to discovering authentic masculinity. After a four-year career in the Canadian Football League and Arena Football League, Cletus faced an identity crisis when his career ended at 28. Through two divorces, single fatherhood with three children, and toxic relationships, he learned that true strength comes from vulnerability, not performance. Cletus discusses the epidemic of men suffering in silence, the importance of morning routines for single fathers, how triggers reveal unhealed wounds, and why most men struggle to answer "who are you?" without mentioning career or family. He introduces his Be The Torch program, designed to help men create lives they desire rather than fitting life into their business. This episode tackles the reality of modern masculinity: choosing freedom, vulnerability, and truth over societal programming and the exhausting performance of being someone you're not.Chapters:(00:00:00) - The Single Father's Reality: Morning Routines and Self-Care(00:01:00) - From Pro Athlete to Lost Identity: When Your Career Defines You(00:09:00) - Who Are You Really? The Question Most Men Can't Answer(00:13:00) - The Identity Crisis: Life After Professional Sports(00:18:00) - The Two Deepest Wounds All Men Carry: Abandonment and Worthiness(00:23:00) - Your Triggers Are Mirrors: What's Really Behind Your Anger(00:26:00) - The Morning Routine That Changed Everything for This Single Dad(00:32:00) - Co-Parenting After Divorce: From Anger to Collaboration(00:38:00) - The Difference Between Correction and Criticism in Parenting(00:42:00) - Why Men Are Suffering in Silence and What We Can Do About ItLinks And Resources:Cletus Coffey's Morning RoutineBook a Call with CletusCletus on LinkedInHector Santiesteban on LinkedInHector Santiesteban on TwitterThanks so much for joining us this week. Want to subscribe to Modern Masculinity? Have some feedback you’d like to share? Connect with us on iTunes and leave us a review!

Don Ross opens up about his journey from porn addiction and shame to helping men build authentic friendships and discover true manhood. Don shares how confession and vulnerability became the gateway to his freedom, and why modern society has made it nearly impossible for men to connect meaningfully with other men. He introduces his framework of the Five Marks of Manhood—strength, courage, skill, honor, and allegiance—as a practical roadmap for men seeking to level up in their lives. The discussion explores why men need tribes, not just nuclear families, and how the loss of male-only spaces has left an entire generation of men isolated and struggling. Don challenges the cultural narrative that porn is just a sex issue, revealing the deeper wounds around self-worth and identity that drive addictive behaviors. This episode is essential listening for any man feeling stuck, lonely, or searching for a clearer path to becoming who he's meant to be.Chapters:00:00:00 - Why Adulthood Blindsides Most Men00:00:44 - Meet Don Ross: From Addiction to Author00:01:36 - The Modern Man's Crisis00:02:21 - Why Men Can't Make Friends Anymore00:02:59 - Living a Double Life: Don's Secret Struggle00:09:17 - The Power of Confession: Breaking Free Through Vulnerability00:14:33 - What Does It Really Mean to Be a Man?00:18:50 - The Truth About Porn: It's Not About Sex00:20:54 - HALTS: Your Warning System for Self-Sabotage00:22:55 - The Five Marks Every Man Must Master00:24:22 - Why You Need a Tribe, Not Just a Family00:26:58 - The Male Loneliness Epidemic00:32:28 - How to Build Your Brotherhood00:39:17 - Writing the Book: What Surprised Me Most00:40:42 - Get the Book + Free Freedom GuideLinks And Resources:Don Ross's book: How to Be a Man - Available on Amazon: https://tinyurl.com/2w7m67y8Free guide: Pathway to Freedom - manhoodtribes.com/freedomHector Santiesteban on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/hector-santiesteban-64326340/Hector Santiesteban on Twitter: https://twitter.com/hector_podcast?lang=enThanks so much for joining us this week. Want to subscribe to Modern Masculinity? Have some feedback you’d like to share? Connect with us on iTunes and leave us a review!

John Ulsh was given a 3% chance of survival after a horrific car accident 17 years ago left him paralyzed, shattered his pelvis, broke his back, and forced him to endure over 45 surgeries. Told he'd never walk again, John defied the odds when his 10-year-old daughter told him she missed her "old daddy." What followed was an extraordinary journey of physical and mental transformation—from 90 milligrams of morphine twice daily to squatting 400 pounds and benching over 300. In this raw conversation, John shares the reality of survivor's remorse, the loss of his best friend to suicide, the dark periods where he wished he'd died, and the hard-won wisdom about commitment, falling in love with the process, and building a life worth living after tragedy. This isn't just an inspirational story—it's a tactical blueprint for overcoming setbacks, managing pain without narcotics, and understanding what it truly means to be a modern man who refuses to quit.Chapters:(00:00:00) - Introduction: The Man Who Survived the Impossible(00:03:00) - The Accident: 125 MPH Impact and 3% Survival Odds(00:09:00) - Finding Commitment When Everything Falls Apart(00:14:00) - Why Setbacks Don't Scare Him Anymore(00:20:00) - The Daughter Who Changed Everything(00:28:00) - Letting Go of Who You Were to Become Who You Need to Be(00:36:00) - Why Shortcuts and Quick Fixes Always Fail(00:42:00) - The Dark Years and Giving Yourself Grace(00:46:00) - His Best Friend's Suicide and 12 Years of Silence(00:54:00) - Defining Modern Masculinity: Self-Aware and UnapologeticLinks And Resources:John Ulsh's WebsitePre-order John's bookFollow John on YouTubeHector Santiesteban on LinkedInHector Santiesteban on TwitterThanks so much for joining us this week. Want to subscribe to Modern Masculinity? Have some feedback you’d like to share? Connect with us on iTunes and leave us a review!

In this raw and unfiltered conversation, host Hector Santiesteban sits down with Rich D’Ambrosio to unpack the evolving definition of masculinity. From divorce, fatherhood, and cultural conditioning to capitalism’s influence on male identity, they dive deep into how men can reclaim agency, embrace mindfulness, and move beyond outdated scripts of “provider” and “buffoon.” Together, they explore the balance between vulnerability and strength, the role of polarity in relationships, and why liberation is the ultimate path toward becoming an integrated, modern man.Chapters:00:00:00 - Welcome to the Modern Masculinity Podcast00:00:53 - Meet Rich.00:02:54 - Using mindfulness to find a "North Star".00:05:00 - Reframing separation as an opportunity for growth.00:08:16 - Questioning the preconceived image of a father.00:09:00 - The struggle to find identity beyond family and career roles.00:10:44 - Viewing a past relationship as a formative "crucible".00:11:02 - A wake-up call about minimizing personal talents.00:13:09 - How men deprioritize themselves for family roles.00:14:11 - Discussing the post-feminist movement's effect on men.00:16:27 - The concept of "Mindful Masculinity".00:17:22 - Proposing feminism as a model for healthy masculinity.00:20:47 - Explaining relationship polarity using a simple example.00:30:52 - Redefining men's career paths beyond traditional roles.00:31:44 - A call for men to liberate and redefine themselves.00:35:17 - Capitalism as an alternative theory for men's struggles.00:37:06 - Where to find Rich online.Links And Resources:Rich’s Substack: Mindful Masculinity Hector Santiesteban on LinkedInHector Santiesteban on TwitterThanks so much for joining us this week. Want to subscribe to Modern Masculinity? Have some feedback you’d like to share? Connect with us on iTunes and leave us a review!

Hector sits down with leadership coach and Dad Nation host Mitchell Osmond to explore what it truly means to be a present, purpose-driven man in today’s world. Together, they unpack the myth of work-life “balance,” discuss how to integrate leadership at home and in business, and reflect on how modern men can build a meaningful legacy through alignment, confidence, and intentional fatherhood. Mitchell shares his journey of breaking generational patterns, redefining success beyond titles, and learning how to “be a B-minus dad” in different seasons of life. With vulnerable storytelling, practical insights, and a mission-first mindset, this episode speaks directly to men ready to own their role at home and in the world.Chapters:00:00:00 - The Real Talk Begins: Meet Mitchell Osmond 00:01:48 - Shifting Gears: When Life Demands a Pivot 00:02:34 - Juggling Fatherhood and the Grind 00:03:48 - What Does It Mean to Be a Man Today? 00:07:02 - The Moments That Made Me 00:12:31 - Finding Yourself Without Losing Everything 00:17:41 - Showing Up, Even When It's Messy 00:28:52 - Fatherhood Isn’t a Role—It’s the Legacy 00:31:00 - Final Words and Where to Go Next Links And Resources:WebsiteDad Nation PodcastDad Nation on YouTubeHector Santiesteban on LinkedInHector Santiesteban on TwitterThanks so much for joining us this week. Want to subscribe to Modern Masculinity? Have some feedback you’d like to share? Connect with us on iTunes and leave us a review!

In this raw and soul-stirring conversation, certified life transformation coach and spiritual leader Andrew L. Anderson joins Hector to explore what it truly means to be a man in today's world. From taking in children whose parents are incarcerated to rewriting deep-rooted beliefs formed in childhood, Andrew opens up about his own journey from performance-driven living to heart-centered masculinity. Together, they unpack topics like emotional intelligence, modern fatherhood, identity crises, and the healing power of service, gratitude, and nature. If you've ever wrestled with anger, frustration, or not feeling “good enough,” this episode offers both practical insight and compassionate encouragement. Discover why wholeness—not perfection—is the new masculine strength, and how aligning your head, heart, and gut can lead to lasting inner freedom.Chapters:00:00:00 - Welcome to the Modern Masculinity Podcast00:01:50 - Who Is Andrew L. Anderson?00:02:23 - Life’s Curveballs and How to Respond00:02:51 - Holding Space for Your People00:04:19 - Leading with Integrity, Not Ego00:04:52 - Fatherhood That Transforms the Man00:09:34 - Finding Identity in a Noisy World00:17:16 - Aligning Head, Heart, and Gut00:32:20 - Tools to Elevate Your Growth00:34:34 - Final Reflections & How to ConnectLinks And Resources:WebsiteAndrew Anderson on LinkedInHector Santiesteban on LinkedInHector Santiesteban on TwitterThanks so much for joining us this week. Want to subscribe to Modern Masculinity? Have some feedback you’d like to share? Connect with us on iTunes and leave us a review!

Hector sits down with Pablo—music producer and somatic breathwork practitioner—for a vulnerable conversation about navigating purpose, presence, and the paradox of modern masculinity. As a single man looking ahead to fatherhood, Pablo questions how much of his time should be spent on personal development versus being of service to others. Together, they explore the tension between self-work and contribution, the quiet weight of unrealized potential, and the profound shifts that happen when a man begins to ask, “What am I really doing with my energy?” Through honest dialogue and embodied wisdom, this episode offers a refreshing take on masculine growth, responsibility, and preparing for what's next—without losing who you are right now.Chapters:00:00:00 - Who Is Pablo? The Path Begins00:01:24 - The Quiet Battles Men Carry00:03:48 - Dating, Depth, and Masculine Energy00:07:43 - When Casual Isn’t Emotionless00:13:02 - Breathwork, Trauma, and Real Healing00:21:01 - Masculinity Reimagined: Final ReflectionsLinks And Resources:Pablo’s Music ProductionPablo’s Somatic BreathworkPablo on Instagram Hector Santiesteban on LinkedInHector Santiesteban on TwitterThanks so much for joining us this week. Want to subscribe to Modern Masculinity? Have some feedback you’d like to share? Connect with us on iTunes and leave us a review!

Hector sits down with Chris Gray — a direct response marketing strategist and introspective father — to unpack the daily dance between ego, awareness, and authentic leadership. Chris shares how years of meditation and mindfulness have reshaped his approach to business, family, and self-acceptance. Using vivid analogies — from the ego as a GPS to a well-meaning but overbearing parent — he offers practical wisdom for men ready to stop fighting themselves and start integrating every part of who they are. Whether you’re a dad, a founder, or just a man learning to carry your weight with grace, this episode will leave you asking: who’s driving — you or your ego?Chapters:00:00:00 - Welcome & Meet Chris Gray00:01:24 - Diving In: What We’re Really Carrying00:01:56 - The Path of Awareness: Making Peace with Ego00:04:32 - The Inner Dialogue: Listening to Yourself00:07:24 - Spiritual Lessons & New Perspectives00:12:26 - Redefining Masculinity & Growth00:19:47 - Why the Hard Stuff Matters00:25:44 - Closing Reflections & TakeawaysLinks And Resources:Chris's WebsiteChris Gray on LinkedInHector Santiesteban on LinkedInHector Santiesteban on TwitterThanks so much for joining us this week. Want to subscribe to Modern Masculinity? Have some feedback you’d like to share? Connect with us on iTunes and leave us a review!

Hector welcomes Dr. Michael Brabant, a transformational psychologist and founder of Candor & Coherence, to explore what it really means to evolve as a man in today’s world. From confronting inherited patterns of stoicism and shame to understanding the power of emotional multiplicity through Internal Family Systems (IFS), this conversation is a masterclass in modern manhood. Michael offers real talk on the grind culture trap, the necessity of rest, and how true fulfillment comes not from chasing success, but from aligning with your soul. The episode calls on listeners to redefine strength—not as control or domination, but as the courage to feel deeply, grieve honestly, and live with unwavering authenticity. If you've ever felt like you were doing all the right things and still felt off-center, this episode might be the nudge your inner compass has been waiting for.Chapters:00:00:00 - A Different Kind of Masculine Conversation Begins00:00:37 - Why Your Inner Parts Might Be Running the Show00:01:59 - What Today’s Man Is Secretly Struggling With00:02:57 - How I Built a Business That Didn’t Betray My Soul00:04:32 - Escaping Survival Mode: The Real Upgrade00:07:48 - The Inner Voices That Shape Your Life00:12:07 - Masculine Archetypes Aren’t Just Theory00:15:39 - Why Men Must Grieve to Grow00:20:23 - The Real Process of Shedding Old Selves00:29:45 - What Rest Reveals About Who’s In Charge00:35:02 - Addiction, Avoidance, and Facing What’s Real00:43:04 - Rethinking Masculinity from the Inside OutLinks And Resources:Dr. Michael Brabant on LinkedInCandor and Coherence Hector Santiesteban on LinkedInHector Santiesteban on TwitterThanks so much for joining us this week. Want to subscribe to Modern Masculinity? Have some feedback you’d like to share? Connect with us on iTunes and leave us a review!

Hector sits down with Zach Richards, co-founder of REI Capital Guys, to explore the quiet power of private lending and the deeper meaning of financial freedom. Zach breaks down how true freedom isn’t about flashy cars or massive portfolios—it’s about owning your time, minimizing stress, and building systems that let you live life on your terms. From the difference between risky speculation and dependable cash flow, to the invisible labor of family life, this conversation hits hard for any man seeking more than hustle—someone striving for balance, stability, and intentional growth.Chapters:00:00:00 - Why This Episode Might Change the Way You See Freedom00:00:38 - Zach Richards: From Code to Capital00:01:52 - How Private Lending Quietly Changed His Life00:03:04 - Balancing the Mission and the Marriage00:03:26 - The Moment Everything Pivoted00:05:35 - Redefining Who You Are (and What You Want)00:09:31 - What Real Financial Freedom Feels Like00:14:09 - Being a Provider Without Losing Yourself00:31:28 - Staying Steady in a World on Fire00:33:31 - One Final Thought Every Man Should HearLinks And Resources:Website: REI Capital Guys CommunityFree eBook: Private Lending GuideZach Richards on LinkedInHector Santiesteban on LinkedInHector Santiesteban on TwitterThanks so much for joining us this week. Want to subscribe to Modern Masculinity? Have some feedback you’d like to share? Connect with us on iTunes and leave us a review!

Hector sits down with certified men's coach Damon Mitchell for an unfiltered and enlightening conversation on meditation, masculinity, and the pursuit of wholeness. Damon shares how sobriety and meditation reshaped his identity and gave him the tools to engage more consciously in relationships — not just with others, but with himself. Together, they unpack the shifting roles of men in a post-feminist society, the quiet strength in contemplative practices, and the often unspoken struggles of modern manhood. Whether you’re navigating identity beyond addiction, redefining masculinity, or just looking for a more grounded way to show up in your life — this episode is an open invitation to explore your inner terrain with honesty and humility.Expect no fluff, just real talk on emotional resilience, self-awareness, and the messy, beautiful work of becoming whole.Chapters:00:00:00 - What We Were Never Taught About Being Men00:02:48 - Meeting the Man Behind the Transformation00:03:22 - From Addiction to Awareness: Damon's Turning Point00:03:55 - Why Most Men Can’t Heal Alone00:09:15 - The Practice That Created Space (and Saved Him)00:14:41 - Can Meditation Make You a Better Man?00:20:10 - Masculinity Isn’t Broken — It’s Evolving00:22:55 - The Father Wound and the Pendulum Swing00:24:45 - From Resistance to Reverence: Learning Stillness00:26:09 - What Most Guys Get Wrong About Meditation00:30:51 - Does Meditation Conflict with Religion?00:36:55 - If You’re Just Starting, Start Here00:42:08 - The Invitation: What Kind of Man Are You Becoming?Links And Resources:Free Walking Meditation MP3 with DamonThe Intentionalize My Life's WebsiteModern Masculinity Podcast FormSubstackDamon on LinkedInHector Santiesteban on LinkedInHector Santiesteban on TwitterThanks so much for joining us this week. Want to subscribe to Modern Masculinity? Have some feedback you’d like to share? Connect with us on iTunes and leave us a review!

Hector sits down with Shaun Emerson, Development Lead at MenLiving, to explore the raw, unfiltered truths about modern manhood. Together, they dig into the emotional weight men silently carry—loneliness, anxiety, and the societal pressure to “suck it up.” Shaun shares how his transition from tech executive to nonprofit leader reshaped his understanding of masculinity, revealing the power of community, emotional honesty, and radical self-exploration. From generational programming to relationship dynamics, the episode asks: what does it mean to be a modern man in today’s world—and how can we redefine masculinity to include strength and sensitivity? Whether you’re new to men’s work or deep in the process, this episode will challenge you, affirm you, and invite you into a deeper connection—with yourself and your brothers.Chapters:00:00:00 - What Does It Mean to Be a Man Today?00:01:42 - Shaun Emerson Steps Into the Circle00:02:31 - From Corporate Hustle to Conscious Connection00:04:08 - Why Most Men Don’t Talk (and Why That’s Changing)00:06:31 - Making It Normal for Men to Feel00:10:50 - The Power of Inner Work00:12:35 - Alone in a Crowd: The Hidden Epidemic00:15:47 - Masculine, Feminine & the Energy Between00:18:57 - Real Stories, Real Feelings00:39:14 - One Last Truth & Where to Go NextLinks And Resources:MenLiving.org📧 Email Shaun: [email protected] Emerson on LinkedIn 📖 Recommended Book: Rescuing Our Sons by Dr. John DuffyHector Santiesteban on LinkedInHector Santiesteban on TwitterThanks so much for joining us this week. Want to subscribe to Modern Masculinity? Have some feedback you’d like to share? Connect with us on iTunes and leave us a review!

Hector sits down with Dal Houston — attorney, rancher, motivational speaker, and self-proclaimed “eccentric cowboy” — to challenge the worn-out scripts of modern masculinity. Together, they unpack the deep emotional power of personal style, the importance of expressing your individuality (even if it means rocking British riding boots to a UFC fight), and why aging should be about speeding up, not slowing down.From growing up in a blue-collar world with little room for uniqueness, to discovering the grounding force of tall cowboy boots and bespoke fashion, Dal offers a refreshing, grounded, and unapologetic take on what it means to be a man today. This episode is a wake-up call for any man stuck in a life of “soul-deadening” sameness, reminding us that life should be lived “hard, fun, and full of expression.”If you’ve ever felt out of place while trying to fit in — this one’s for you.Chapters:00:00:00 – Meet the Eccentric Cowboy Who’s Redefining Masculinity00:00:50 – Why What You Wear Could Be the Key to Who You Are00:01:56 – From Shy Rancher to Fashion-Forward Philosopher00:03:19 – Getting Stared At and Still Showing Up: The Price of Authenticity00:05:27 – Stop Copying. Start Dressing Like You Mean It.00:14:48 – Style Isn’t Trendy. It’s Timeless (Here’s How to Find Yours)00:28:26 – Law, Livestock, Leather: How to Be All of Yourself at Once00:39:51 – Don’t Slow Down. This Is What Modern Masculinity Really Looks LikeLinks And Resources:Website: www.dalhouston.comDal on LinkedInHector Santiesteban on LinkedInHector Santiesteban on TwitterThanks so much for joining us this week. Want to subscribe to Modern Masculinity? Have some feedback you’d like to share? Connect with us on iTunes and leave us a review!

Todd Miechiels joins Hector Santiesteban to explore the transformational journey from defining manhood by titles and income to redefining it through faith, humility, and service. Todd shares his call from the business world into the mission field, revealing how surrendering traditional measures of success led to a life of deeper intimacy with God and others. Together, they unpack how modern men can find purpose not in what they produce, but in who they become—and why knowing and sharing your personal story is one of the most courageous and impactful acts of leadership today.Chapters:00:00:00 - Called Into Purpose00:01:52 - A Man Interrupted00:02:58 - Wrestling With God00:04:53 - Reawakening the Soul00:07:18 - Where Is God Now?00:09:04 - Doubt, Faith, and Identity00:13:34 - Brotherhood and Becoming00:22:54 - Learning From the Carpenter00:27:02 - What Grace Really Means00:27:22 - An Invitation to Skeptics00:27:33 - Why He Chose the Cross00:28:49 - A Love That Costs Everything00:29:19 - Stories That Shape Us00:31:12 - The Rescue Begins00:32:48 - God Speaks in Many Ways00:37:47 - The Resurrection Reframed00:45:31 - Redefining Manhood Through FaithLinks And Resources:Todd's Personal WebsiteStory Stewardship FoundationHector Santiesteban on LinkedInHector Santiesteban on TwitterThanks so much for joining us this week. Want to subscribe to Modern Masculinity? Have some feedback you’d like to share? Connect with us on iTunes and leave us a review!

Hector sits down with award-winning podcaster and fellow storyteller Matt Gilhooly to explore the unraveling of Hector’s past relationship and the identity crisis that followed his greatest professional success. Together, they peel back the layers of ego, childhood conditioning, and the craving for external validation that many men silently carry. With emotional honesty and unflinching vulnerability, Hector shares what it means to look “successful” on the outside but feel disconnected on the inside — and how that dissonance became the catalyst for a new journey toward wholeness. This episode is a raw look into the modern masculine experience: the hidden shame, the healing process, and the redemptive power of reflection.Chapters:0:00:00 - Welcome to the Episode That Changes Everything00:02:03 - Opening the Vault: Where the Real Story Begins00:02:59 - Young Love, Old Patterns: The Roots of It All00:05:07 - Success, Ego, and the Illusion of “Having It All”00:09:44 - Marriage Starts Fast… But So Do the Cracks00:13:25 - Craving Control While Losing Connection00:15:18 - When Identity Collides with Intimacy00:17:42 - The Slow Burn of Resentment00:20:11 - Seeking Peace but Breeding Distance00:22:47 - The Relationship Becomes a Mirror You Avoid00:25:32 - Fatherhood Hits Harder Than Expected00:33:56 - Health Scares, Family Shifts, and the Weight of It All00:34:53 - The “Perfect” Neighborhood That Didn’t Fix Everything00:35:36 - Parenting Together While Drifting Apart00:36:47 - When Validation Replaces Connection00:37:30 - The Vasectomy That Said More Than Words00:39:39 - Speaking, But Not Hearing: When Communication Fails00:42:43 - Spiraling: The Pain Beneath the Patterns00:45:35 - Reclaiming Identity After Losing Yourself00:56:27 - Co-Parenting in the Aftermath: Navigating a New Normal00:01:00:56 - What Purpose Feels Like After the Breakdown00:01:03:28 - Wrapping Up: Reflections, Resources, and What’s NextLinks And Resources:WebsiteThe Life Shift PodcastInstagramTwitter/XHector Santiesteban on LinkedInHector Santiesteban on TwitterThanks so much for joining us this week. Want to subscribe to Modern Masculinity? Have some feedback you’d like to share? Connect with us on iTunes and leave us a review!

Hector Santiesteban welcomes back Ed Frauenheim, co-author of Reinventing Masculinity and co-founder of The Teal Team, for a timely and timeless discussion on evolving manhood. Ed takes us deep into his current work challenging the "Tough Guy Show" culture—especially in traditionally masculine spaces like the ski industry—and sheds light on how that outdated performance is mirrored in global leadership. Together, they unpack the emotional, societal, and spiritual costs of stoicism, and why today's man must learn to embrace vulnerability, interdependence, and self-reflection to grow. Whether you're navigating fatherhood, rethinking your career, or searching for community, this conversation offers a compass toward something more grounded, authentic, and liberating.Chapters:00:00:00 - Welcome to the Masculine Shift00:01:39 - Chaos, Headlines & Our Mental State00:02:39 - Rethinking Manhood in Real Time00:04:49 - Panic, Purpose, and Personal Truths00:06:59 - Scrolling, Boundaries & Staying Grounded00:09:06 - Power, Pressure & Performing Masculinity00:12:45 - Is Vulnerability Still Seen as Weakness?00:15:08 - Trump, Culture, and the Mirror of Manhood00:18:22 - What Are We Teaching Young Men?00:21:30 - Redefining Strength Through Collaboration00:23:42 - Who’s Really Holding the Power?00:29:17 - Hope for Young Men & the Road AheadLinks And Resources:WebsiteThe Teal TeamEd Frauenheim on LinkedInHector Santiesteban on LinkedInHector Santiesteban on TwitterThanks so much for joining us this week. Want to subscribe to Modern Masculinity? Have some feedback you’d like to share? Connect with us on iTunes and leave us a review!

Hector is joined by Kevin Cronister—father of five, cybercrimes detective, and CEO of Guardian Training Solutions—to explore one of the most urgent and uncomfortable threats facing modern families: the growing epidemic of online child exploitation. Kevin pulls back the curtain on the grooming process, shares how predators infiltrate games like Roblox and Fortnite, and explains why a strong, present father figure is the #1 deterrent to child predators. This episode delivers vital tools, real-world stories, and a framework for men who want to embody the protector archetype in a rapidly evolving digital world. It's not just about fear—it's about informed, masculine leadership that protects the most vulnerable. If you're a father or aspire to be one, this episode is a must-listen.Chapters:00:00:00 - Kicking Off a Must-Hear Conversation for Every Man00:00:56 - Enter Kevin Chronister: Protector, Father, Detective00:01:11 - How the Predator Playbook Has Evolved00:02:00 - Why Dads Can’t Afford to Sit This One Out00:03:35 - Kevin's Raw Story: Juggling Fatherhood and Fighting Crime00:07:32 - 36 Million Reasons This Crisis Can’t Be Ignored00:10:25 - How Online Predators Are Grooming Kids—And Getting Away With It00:17:10 - The Superpower Predators Fear Most: An Engaged Father00:20:03 - The Digital Defense Plan Every Parent Needs00:23:38 - “He’s Just a Friend Online” – Think Again00:24:26 - AI, Deepfakes, and the Future of Predatory Tech00:25:39 - Screen Time Rules That Could Save a Life00:28:33 - Spotting the Subtle Signs of a Grooming Attempt00:34:56 - When Kids Change: What Behavior Might Be Telling You00:39:19 - Easy Wins That Make a Big Safety Impact00:44:48 - Where to Go Next: Tools, Resources, and Real TalkLinks And Resources:Kevin on LinkedInGuardian Training SolutionsHector Santiesteban on LinkedInHector Santiesteban on TwitterThanks so much for joining us this week. Want to subscribe to Modern Masculinity? Have some feedback you’d like to share? Connect with us on iTunes and leave us a review!

Fatherhood today comes with unique challenges—especially in a world dominated by screens, shifting gender roles, and the increasing struggles of young men. In this episode, Tom Bresnahan, a former Hollywood actor turned mentor and therapist, shares his journey from entertainment to empowering teenage boys. He discusses the impact of technology on young minds, the importance of emotional intelligence in parenting, and the delicate balance between discipline and understanding. Whether you're a solo dad, co-parent, or simply a man seeking to break generational cycles, this conversation provides deep insights and actionable strategies for raising resilient, emotionally healthy children.Chapters00:00:00 - Kicking Off the Conversation: Meet Tom Bresnahan00:02:08 - From Hollywood to Helping Young Men: Tom’s Journey00:03:59 - The Reality of Modern Fatherhood: Challenges & Pressures00:06:39 - Raising Emotionally Strong Kids: The Power of EQ00:11:33 - Tech, Screens & Social Media: How They’re Changing Our Boys00:14:55 - Men’s Role in a Rapidly Changing World00:17:56 - Facing Personal Struggles & Breaking Old Patterns00:20:42 - Raising Boys Who Thrive: What They Need from Us00:22:49 - The Critical Role of Mentors in a Young Man’s Life00:23:04 - What Happened to Rites of Passage? Why Boys Need Them00:24:52 - The Me Too Era & The Modern Man’s Dilemma00:25:45 - Masculinity in Crisis: Why Men Feel Lost00:26:45 - Breaking the Stigma: It’s Okay to Be a Man00:27:31 - Where Do Men Fit in Today’s Society?00:28:31 - The Masculinity Crisis: How We Fix It00:34:38 - Fatherhood Done Right: Key Lessons for Raising Boys00:37:09 - Practical Support: Programs & Resources for Parents00:41:11 - Defining Modern Masculinity: Strength, Balance & PurposeLinks And Resources:Tom on LinkedInTake Back Control by Tom BresnahanHector Santiesteban on LinkedInHector Santiesteban on TwitterThanks so much for joining us this week. Want to subscribe to Modern Masculinity? Have some feedback you’d like to share? Connect with us on iTunes and leave us a review!

Hector sits down with Jeff Hittner—executive coach, educator, and founder of Ambitious Dads—to unpack the evolving landscape of fatherhood and modern masculinity. From emotional regulation during your child’s tantrums to building a fatherhood philosophy that aligns with your values, Jeff explores the daily challenges and triumphs of being a present, intentional dad. Together, they dismantle outdated stereotypes, explore the science of male bonding, and share practical insights on cultivating deeper emotional intelligence. If you're a dad, a future father, or just a man navigating growth, this episode will leave you feeling seen, supported, and inspired to show up more fully.Chapters:00:00:00 – Kicking things off with gratitude and grounding vibes.00:01:05 – Enter Jeff Hittner: Founder of Ambitious Dads and fatherhood trailblazer.00:02:46 – Emotional regulation isn’t just for kids—Jeff shares the real inner work.00:05:32 – Screw-ups happen. Here’s why repair and apology are your superpowers.00:10:15 – Can you be vulnerable and still strong? This convo says hell yes.00:22:50 – What’s your fatherhood philosophy? Start creating your vision now.00:26:38 – The modern dad is here—and he’s way more than a provider.00:31:36 – Yes, your biology changes when you become a dad. Here’s the science.00:41:20 – Final reflections + where to follow Jeff for more dad-fueled wisdom.Links And Resources:Jeff Hittner’s Substack: Ambitious DadsJeff Hittner on LinkedInAmbitious Dads Program: Learn More Here.Hector Santiesteban on LinkedInHector Santiesteban on TwitterThanks so much for joining us this week. Want to subscribe to Modern Masculinity? Have some feedback you’d like to share? Connect with us on iTunes and leave us a review!

In this episode, Hector has a great talk with his longtime friend and Modern Man Podcast host, Ted Phaeton, about the weight men carry—fatherhood, marriage, business, and the relentless pursuit of being that guy in every arena. Ted shares how he’s juggling the chaos of raising a newborn while running his podcast and coaching business, all while staying dialed in on his health, discipline, and leadership. They get into why men need to embrace both their strength and their softness, how breathwork and Muay Thai are shaping Ted’s ability to lead, and why the “have it all” myth is setting guys up for failure. If you’ve ever felt stretched too thin, stuck between your responsibilities and your purpose, this one’s for you.Chapters:00:00:00 - The Weight We Carry as Men00:00:56 - Newborns, Business, and the Chaos in Between00:02:46 - Keeping the Plates Spinning: Fatherhood vs. Career00:04:42 - What Every Man Needs to Hear (But Rarely Does)00:10:31 - Mastering the Clock: Time, Discipline, and Execution00:16:37 - Staying Steady When the Storm Hits00:18:42 - Pressure, Peace, and the Art of Staying Cool00:22:45 - Brotherhood, Breathwork, and the Real Meaning of Self-Care00:23:35 - Warrior & Poet: The Full Spectrum of a Man00:25:26 - Life Has Seasons—Are You Built for All of Them?00:27:45 - The Most Dangerous Man in the Room00:30:22 - Who You Are vs. Who They Told You to Be00:33:09 - The Four Codes Every Man Should Live By00:36:26 - Building a Life That Works—Not Just One That Pays00:38:05 - The Trap of Chasing the Wrong Success00:40:54 - Your Next Steps—And Why This Conversation MattersLinks and Resources:Ted on LinkedInThe Modern Man Show WebsiteThe Modern Man Show on YouTubeMore links for Ted here!Hector Santiesteban on LinkedInHector Santiesteban on TwitterThanks so much for joining us this week. Want to subscribe to Modern Masculinity? Have some feedback you’d like to share? Connect with us on iTunes and leave us a review!

Hector sits down with Will Knecht, a man who’s been in the trenches of fatherhood, marriage, and masculinity long enough to know that the work never really ends. They get into the realities of being a dad, a stepdad, and now a grandpa, all while navigating what it means to be a man in a world that’s constantly shifting the goalposts. Will opens up about imposter syndrome, the weight of expectations, and the loneliness so many guys carry in silence. This is a conversation about legacy, about breaking cycles, and about how to show up fully as the man your people need you to be—without losing yourself in the process.Chapters:00:00:00 – Press Play and Brace Yourself00:01:22 – Will Knecht Steps Into the Arena00:01:56 – Fatherhood, Manhood, and the Weight We Carry00:04:26 – The Masculinity Maze: Finding Your Way00:06:09 – Feel It or Fail: Why Emotions Matter00:07:53 – Dad Didn’t Say ‘I Love You’—Now What?00:15:49 – School vs. Real Life: Which One Wins?00:23:14 – Alone in a Crowded Room: The Silent Struggle00:28:31 – The Last Word (And It’s a Good One)Links and Resources:Will on LinkedInMoreTheMan NewsletterHector Santiesteban on LinkedInHector Santiesteban on TwitterThanks so much for joining us this week. Want to subscribe to Modern Masculinity? Have some feedback you’d like to share? Connect with us on iTunes and leave us a review!

Lawrence Dunning is back, and as always, he’s bringing the real. A top 1% real estate agent, investor, Jiu-Jitsu black belt, and host of Enter the Lionheart, he’s lived a life full of big wins and brutal lessons. This time, he opens up about business partnerships gone wrong, the stress of lawsuits, and the hard truths that come with getting older—like juggling fatherhood, a career, and aging parents, all while trying to stay grounded. If you’ve ever felt the weight of responsibility piling up, this one’s for you.Chapters:00:00:00 – The Man Who Wears Many Hats (And a Black Belt)00:02:10 – Lessons from Lawsuits: What They Don’t Teach in Business School00:03:47 – Health, Family, and the Reality Check of Middle Age00:05:11 – Why a Sick Man Only Wants One Thing00:07:47 – The Illusion of Balance: Juggling Fatherhood, Business & Self-Mastery00:11:07 – Meditation, Cold Plunges, and Training the Mind Like a Fighter00:14:58 – Facing Fear: From the Fight Game to Life’s Hardest Hits00:26:04 – Rewriting the Past: Inner Child Work & Breaking Old Patterns00:30:35 – Shifting Perspectives: The Mindset That Changes Everything00:39:20 – Closing the Loop: Where to Find Lawrence & What’s NextLinks and Resources:Lawrence on LinkedInTeam DunningHector Santiesteban on LinkedInHector Santiesteban on TwitterThanks so much for joining us this week. Want to subscribe to Modern Masculinity? Have some feedback you’d like to share? Connect with us on iTunes and leave us a review!

Marshal Gillen, an award-winning speaker, speaker trainer, and men’s coach opens up about the wreckage and rebirth that followed his last breakup—140 days since his life fell apart, but who’s counting? He and Hector discuss the struggles men face in toxic relationships, the mind games of narcissistic abuse, and the brutal realization that maybe self-worth was never really there to begin with. This is for the guy who feels like he’s losing himself, the one searching for answers, and the one ready to take his power back. No fluff, no filters—just the raw truth about healing, masculinity, and starting over.Chapters:00:00:00 – Where It All Begins00:01:56 – A Familiar Face, A Different Man00:02:21 – The Armor We Wear, The Weight We Carry00:04:18 – Love, Need, or Trap?00:04:59 – The Invisible Chains We Call Love00:06:21 – The Mirror That Love Holds Up00:08:21 – When a Boy’s Tears Dry Too Soon00:11:33 – The Wounds We Deny, The Patterns We Repeat00:21:18 – Dancing in Circles with a Ghost00:25:11 – The First Domino to Fall00:27:24 – The Unbreakable Knot of Pain and Love00:30:49 – When the Past Knocks, Will You Open the Door?00:35:32 – Who Are You Without the Pain?00:39:22 – Four Steps, A Lifetime of Change00:40:22 – The Purpose Waiting on the Other Side00:43:41 – Brotherhood, Sanctuary, and the Art of Being Seen00:47:33 – Faith, Strength, and the Masculine SoulLinks and Resources:Marshal on LinkedInMarshal on InstagramAll of Marshal’s Links and Resources for N.A.R.C. SupportSacred Kingdom ChurchHector Santiesteban on LinkedInHector Santiesteban on TwitterThanks so much for joining us this week. Want to subscribe to Modern Masculinity? Have some feedback you’d like to share? Connect with us on iTunes and leave us a review!

Hector and Jake Isaacs, the co-founder of Gathering the Kings, have a real heart-to-heart about what it means to be a man these days. Jake opens up about figuring himself out, ditching old ideas about being a guy, and how a tough challenge changed how he sees his purpose, leading others, and relationships. They get real about the stuff guys don't talk about, the myths that hold them back, and the tough truths about being genuine in today's world. It's raw, honest, and will make you think long after the episode's over.Chapters:00:00:00 – Kicking Off with the Guest Who Redefines Growth00:02:04 – Why Jake Isaacs’ Journey Starts with Reading00:03:03 – What Happens When Identity Becomes Your Shield00:04:08 – Childhood Stories That Shape Who We Are00:05:44 – Misaligned Marriages: Hard Lessons from Jake’s Past00:08:12 – The Dangerous Myth of ‘Happy Wife, Happy Life’00:12:53 – Are Nice Guys Really Finishing Last?00:14:37 – Unpacking the Power of Polarity in Love00:18:43 – The John Mayer Script for Love: Myth or Reality?00:19:47 – Building Family Mastermind Moments That Stick00:20:42 – Loneliness, Brotherhood, and the Male Crisis00:21:40 – How Vulnerability Can Change the Game for Men00:23:49 – Why Owning Your Story Is a Superpower00:25:19 – Lessons from a Lifetime of Reading and Reflection00:28:05 – Mentorship as the Secret to True Growth00:32:36 – Silent Retreats and Darkness: A Different Kind of Growth00:37:53 – Redefining Modern Masculinity: The Big TakeawayLinks and Resources:Jake on LinkedInJake on InstagramGathering the KingsGathering the Kings on YouTubeHector Santiesteban on LinkedInHector Santiesteban on TwitterThanks so much for joining us this week. Want to subscribe to Modern Masculinity? Have some feedback you’d like to share? Connect with us on iTunes and leave us a review!

Kristian Nylund shares his journey of overcoming the hardships of alcohol dependency, how to handle societal pressures, and redefining himself as an authentic and present father. He talks about the deep insecurities that shaped his choices, his battle to align with his true identity, and the freedom that came with sobriety. Tune in to hear about the hidden struggles of men, the importance of vulnerability, and how the right support system can make all the difference.Chapters:00:00:00 - A Candid Beginning00:01:50 - Steps Toward Sobriety00:02:43 - The Turning Point for Growth00:04:01 - Living Authentically Every Day00:06:42 - Sobriety’s Ripple Effect00:07:15 - Unmasking Insecurities00:13:44 - Alcohol: Cultural Norms and Choices00:16:35 - Choosing a New Path00:22:22 - Sobriety in Isolation: COVID’s Lens00:23:54 - Reading Life’s Subtle Clues00:24:38 - Moderation’s Perpetual Loop00:25:12 - Drawing a Line in the Sand00:26:44 - Unpacking Emotional Weight00:31:47 - Strength in Shared Struggles00:33:22 - Building Connections That Matter00:35:01 - Redefining Yourself, One Step at a Time00:40:55 - Wrapping Up the JourneyLinks and Resources:Kristian on InstagramSober Identity PodcastHector Santiesteban on LinkedInHector Santiesteban on TwitterThanks so much for joining us this week. Want to subscribe to Modern Masculinity? Have some feedback you’d like to share? Connect with us on iTunes and leave us a review!

Hector welcomes Will Latif Little, keynote speaker, coach, author and film subject, for a conversation about acceptance, awareness, and intentional living. Will shares his journey from childhood trauma and street life to personal transformation and purpose-driven growth. He talks about pivotal moments, the weight of unprocessed pain, and how vulnerability became a strength in his healing journey. He talks about life as a dad, going through loss, and being resilient. Will offers his opinions and perspective of masculinity and the importance of addressing emotional wounds before they manifest into cycles of harm. Chapters00:00:00 – The Weight We Carry: Opening Reflections00:01:04 – From Streets to Stage: Will's Turning Point00:02:16 – Manhood Under Pressure: Roles and Realities00:03:49 – Acceptance: The Quiet Key to Change00:06:51 – Emotional Trauma: Wounds We Don't See00:11:08 – The Moment Commitment Becomes a Lifeline00:19:02 – Grief and Self-Care: Two Sides of Survival00:22:59 – Old Habits Die Loud: Breaking Cycles00:24:44 – Grief Day: Processing Pain on Purpose00:26:41 – Raising Sons in a Shifting World00:30:53 – The Unspoken Weight: Vulnerability & Healing00:32:15 – Safe Spaces Aren't Soft Spaces00:33:32 – Transformation Isn’t Always Loud00:36:44 – Energy Changes Everything: Owning the Room00:38:32 – Where to Find Will: Coaching, Classes, Connection00:40:14 – Masculinity Reimagined: Ancient Truths, Modern ChallengesLinks and ResourcesWill Latif LittleWill on LinkedInWill on InstagramTake Your Life BackICY - Inner City YouthHow to Become the Best Version of Yourself | Will Latif Little | TEDxWilmingtonSalonHector Santiesteban on LinkedInHector Santiesteban on TwitterThanks so much for joining us this week. Want to subscribe to Modern Masculinity? Have some feedback you’d like to share? Connect with us on iTunes and leave us a review!

Hector sits down with filmmaker and storyteller Amarii Usher for a raw and honest conversation about the emotional tightrope men walk in today’s world. They talk about vulnerability, ego, healing, and struggles of masculinity in today’s world. From the impact of social media on relationships to the weight of independence and the complex patterns of attachment, this conversation pulls no punches. Amarii shares personal insights and reflections, challenging societal norms while offering a refreshing perspective on what it means to show up authentically in relationships and life.Chapters00:00:00 – The Calm Before the Vulnerability Storm00:01:12 – Mirrors and Shadows: An Introspective Glimpse00:02:20 – A Voice Enters: Amarii Takes the Mic00:02:50 – Balancing on the Edge of Feelings00:09:35 – Digital Strings: How Social Media Pulls at Hearts00:13:59 – Swiping Left on Modern Dating Realities00:19:52 – Independence vs. Intimacy: The Tightrope Walk00:20:46 – The Invisible Weight of Being Needed00:22:50 – Masculinity Redefined: Beyond Stereotypes00:26:17 – The Silent Battle Between Ego and Responsibility00:28:35 – The Fragile Art of Healing Without Armor00:35:15 – Patterns of Attachment: Chasing or Avoiding?00:38:10 – Echoes of Reflection: Closing the CircleLinks and ResourcesAmarii on InstagramAmarii on TikTokAmarii on YouTubeAmarii’s LinkTreeHector Santiesteban on LinkedInHector Santiesteban on TwitterThanks so much for joining us this week. Want to subscribe to Modern Masculinity? Have some feedback you’d like to share? Connect with us on iTunes and leave us a review!

Hector sits down with Tom Bresnahan to explore the growing challenges of being a dad, the role of men in today’s society, and how shifting cultural norms impact boys and families. They discuss the influence of technology, addiction, and societal expectations on youth while talking about the decline of rites of passage and the misconceptions surrounding masculinity. Tune in to hear Tom explain how dads can lead by example, guiding boys into adulthood with clarity and resilience.Chapters00:00:00 - The Puzzle Begins00:01:31 - Meeting the Man Behind the Mission00:02:04 - A Journey Through Fire and Growth00:03:11 - Fatherhood’s Untold Battles00:08:16 - The Art of Raising Emotionally Aware Humans00:12:06 - Screens and the Future of Our Children00:15:00 - Redefining the Modern Man’s Place00:18:10 - Demons, Shadows, and Redemption00:22:29 - Building Tomorrow’s Men Today00:24:58 - Lost Rituals and Forgotten Scouts00:25:36 - Misunderstood Boys and Masculinity’s Myths00:26:17 - Hollywood’s Quiet Influence on Gender Stories00:28:56 - Facing Societal Shifts Head-On00:30:14 - Masculinity Through the Cultural Lens00:37:23 - A Handbook for Raising Sons00:40:15 - Lifelines for Parents and Families00:44:42 - Masculinity, RedefinedLinks and ResourcesTom on LinkedInTake Back Control by Tom BresnahanHector Santiesteban on LinkedInHector Santiesteban on TwitterThanks so much for joining us this week. Want to subscribe to Modern Masculinity? Have some feedback you’d like to share? Connect with us on iTunes and leave us a review!

Hector has a powerful conversation with Jeffrey Williams, founder of Lifestyles of Light and Vitalist Institute, exploring the vital connection between breathwork, balance, and the pressures of modern life. Jeffrey shares how embracing both support and challenge can transform the way men approach their roles, relationships, and personal growth. They talk about the impact of stress, the value of reconnecting with purpose, and the role of breathwork in breaking free from limiting narratives. Here’s a look at what it means to truly show up—for yourself and those who depend on you. Don’t miss it!Chapters00:00:00 – Esoteric Meets Everyday: The Power of a Simple Tool00:01:10 – Heavy Lifting: Breathwork in Life’s Hardest Moments00:03:16 – Enter Jeffrey Williams: Juggler of Spheres00:03:35 – Wearing Many Hats, Carrying Many Loads00:07:10 – The Fairy Tale That Crashed Into the Rocks00:11:19 – Health Is More Than a Checklist00:15:41 – Unlocking Life Through the Power of Breath00:19:54 – Merging Mind and Body: The Ancient Approach00:25:41 – The Secret of Laying Down to Die00:26:05 – What Are Tiny Deaths?00:28:52 – Modern Stress: Our Invisible Predator00:31:03 – Therapy, Productivity, and Breath: The Triple Power00:38:21 – The Two Sides of Breathwork: Pain and Power00:44:30 – Support and Challenge: The Perfect Balance00:48:02 – Life’s Secret Blueprint: The Great Perfection00:51:00 – Jeffrey’s World: How to Connect and Learn MoreLinks and ResourcesJeffrey on InstagramHave a Happy Spine —  Free 75-Minute WorkshopLifestyles of LightVitalist Institute of Psychospiritual TransformationEsalenHector Santiesteban on LinkedInHector Santiesteban on TwitterThanks so much for joining us this week. Want to subscribe to Modern Masculinity? Have some feedback you’d like to share? Connect with us on iTunes and leave us a review!

Hector and Matthew Sloane, an author, coach, facilitator and an ally to all dads, explore the complexities of being a man in today’s world. They dive into the struggles of balancing sensitivity, anger, and the responsibilities of fatherhood, while unpacking the unspoken challenges many men face. They discuss the emotional impact of boundaries, societal expectations, and how self-compassion is so powerful. It’s a conversation that sheds light on the inner conflicts of today’s men and the paths toward growth and connection.Chapters00:00:00 - Setting the Stage: Why Compassion is the New Masculinity00:01:43 - Names, Identity, and What They Reveal00:02:30 - A Father's Struggle: The Tightrope Walk of Modern Parenthood00:04:17 - Sensitivity Unmasked: Power or Weakness?00:06:30 - The Invisible Lines We Cross Daily00:07:53 - What Happens When Vulnerability Leads the Way00:15:35 - The Quiet Revolution: Men’s Work in Action00:25:15 - From Monkeys to Men: How We’re All Connected00:26:31 - A Sneak Peek Inside Matthew Sloane's Inner World00:43:45 - Can Masculinity Still Be Modern?00:45:14 - Wrapping Up: What Will You Take With You?Links and ResourcesMatthew SloaneMatthew on LinkedInHiding Inside a ManUnderstanding the Mature MaleStable Dad 101Hector Santiesteban on LinkedInHector Santiesteban on TwitterThanks so much for joining us this week. Want to subscribe to Modern Masculinity? Have some feedback you’d like to share? Connect with us on iTunes and leave us a review!

Nik opens up about his journey after exiting multiple businesses, confronting an identity crisis in the process. Together with Hector, they explore the shifting roles of men in a rapidly changing world, discussing the weight of societal expectations, the challenges of staying true to personal values, and the importance of building unshakable relationships in an age of disruption. Reflecting on their experiences, they share insights on resilience, self-discovery, and the evolving definition of masculinity, offering a roadmap for men seeking purpose and fulfillment beyond traditional roles.Chapters00:00:00 - Introduction and Guest Overview00:01:31 - From Success to Self-Exploration00:03:17 - Identity and Purpose in Transition00:05:38 - Role Reversals and Redefining Worth00:06:52 - Values as a Compass for Self-Discovery00:13:01 - Agreeableness Versus Self-Assertion00:21:17 - Founders’ Emotional Landscapes00:22:08 - Growth Through Self-Discovery00:22:46 - Passion Meets Practicality00:26:56 - Purpose and the Power of Goals00:36:55 - Practices That Anchor Us00:38:52 - Closing Reflections on MasculinityLinks and ResourcesNik on LinkedInCoFoundersNikonomics PodcastHector Santiesteban on LinkedInHector Santiesteban on TwitterThanks so much for joining us this week. Want to subscribe to Modern Masculinity? Have some feedback you’d like to share? Connect with us on iTunes and leave us a review!