More Than Fine

When we're wounded in life, we often start to "perform" for love and approval. But when what we do on the outside is rooted in pain, we will always end up with results that are not what we really want. In this episode, I share how pain and woundedness impair the way we relate to others, particularly as it relates to God's design for femininity and masculinity. But I also talk about how, through pain, we learn much about what it is to stop performing and be truly present, and the life-giving invitation to others that our lives become in the process. Check out Advance for Individuals: An Accelerated Program to Repair the Spiritual Damage of Relationship Harm & Trauma Listen ep 196 with Stephanie Rouse- "What if You Don't Have to Just Take What You Can Get?" Learn more about healing painful moments with the free PDF "God Within Us: A Guide to Processing Pain with Jesus" Follow me on Instagram @themichelledonnelly or Facebook @themichelledonnelly Check out my books and services at uncommonvalor.co

Anger is one of the more complicated emotions we have to deal with. Not only does it not feel great, but sometimes it seems to remain- even after you've done the work to forgive someone. In this episode, I share about an experience that caused me to realize that something deeper is often hidden inside of our anger. I also share how thinking differently about your wounds can give you the patience and perspective you need to actually benefit in the aftermath. Check out Advance: A 7 Week Program to Repair the Spiritual Damage of Relationship Harm & Trauma Learn more about healing painful moments with the free PDF "God Within Us: A Guide to Processing Pain with Jesus" Follow me on Instagram @themichelledonnelly or Facebook @themichelledonnelly Check out my books and services at uncommonvalor.co

When it comes to the things we struggle with in life, sometimes we think they are too small for God to care about. Other times, we think they are so big that maybe we are just supposed to learn to take care of things on our own. Neither of those things are true. In today's episode, I share about a very small example of what it looks like to fully depend on God, and how it changes the way we look at challenges in life, both big and small. Check out Advance: A 7 Week Program to Repair the Spiritual Damage of Relationship Harm & Trauma Learn more about healing painful moments with the free PDF "God Within Us: A Guide to Processing Pain with Jesus" Follow me on Instagram @themichelledonnelly or Facebook @themichelledonnelly Check out my books and services at uncommonvalor.co

Have you ever uncovered a lie you've believed about yourself, only to struggle to believe the truth is true? Sometimes you can know something intellectually is true, and yet not believe it because it doesn't match your experience. And sometimes the only way to change that is to change your experience. In this episode, I'm sharing about confronting old ways of doing things and what it looks like to "do it scared." However, I also discuss how that doesn't always mean doing it big and that small steps can have major impact. Learn more about healing painful moments with the free PDF "God Within Us: A Guide to Processing Pain with Jesus" Follow me on Instagram @themichelledonnelly or Facebook @themichelledonnelly Check out my books and services at uncommonvalor.co

Do you feel like God is mad at you? Like He's just "up there," watching and waiting for you to mess up? If so, you're not alone. Many Christians do. But that's not the truth of who God is, and that is not how He feels about you. In this episode, I share about the distorted perceptions we often have of God and how to figure out where they come from. I also share about the difference between condemnation and conviction and how even in your mistakes, you can see that God is SO for you. Learn more about healing painful moments with the free PDF "God Within Us: A Guide to Processing Pain with Jesus" Follow me on Instagram @themichelledonnelly or Facebook @themichelledonnelly Check out my books and services at uncommonvalor.co

While emotional and spiritual healing does involve deep work, it doesn't always have to be that way. Healing also involves the light work of learning to experience goodness again- to see it, savor it, and expect it in your everyday life. In this episode, I share the story behind my middle name and the secret treasure buried within it that I wouldn't unearth for four decades. I also discuss how the Lord leaves these intentional treasures for each of us, and how you can go in search of them too. In This Episode: Episode 111- Believing Who God Says You Are (& How it Changes Everything) with Aubrey Sampson Follow me on Instagram @themichelledonnelly or Facebook @themichelledonnelly Check out my books and services at uncommonvalor.co

You may know what the Bible says about you as a child of God, and yet- you may struggle to actually believe it's for you. In this episode I'm talking about the times when head knowledge doesn't sink down into your heart, and how to identify and stand against demonic torment you may be experiencing in the process. In This Episode: Learn more about healing painful moments with the free PDF "God Within Us: A Guide to Processing Pain with Jesus" For more on forgiveness, check out episode 182, "Why Not Forgiving Them Will Cost You" or purchase a copy of "Made for More: Life Beyond the Wreckage of Hurt, Loss, and Heartbreak" Follow me on Instagram @themichelledonnelly or Facebook @themichelledonnelly Check out my books and services at uncommonvalor.co  

Is what you're seeing a bad habit? Or a red flag? When you're healing from a heartbreak, it can be hard to tell the difference. In this episode, I share about the pitfalls of discerning red flags in friendships and romantic relationships, and how to deal with situations that are not so obvious. In This Episode: Learn more about healing painful moments with the free PDF "God Within Us: A Guide to Processing Pain with Jesus" Follow me on Instagram @themichelledonnelly or Facebook @themichelledonnelly Check out my books and services at uncommonvalor.co

There are times when doing deep emotional processing can create more problems than it solves. In this episode, Michelle shares about the difference between productive and unproductive processing, and what to do when "feeling your feelings" turns into a full-scale spiral. In This Episode: Learn more about healing painful moments with the free PDF "God Within Us: A Guide to Processing Pain with Jesus" Follow me on Instagram @themichelledonnelly or Facebook @themichelledonnelly Check out my books and services at uncommonvalor.co

We may use or hear the phrase "doing the work" but what that means can be somewhat unique for each of us. Champion Forward co-founder and retired professional baseball player Ben Zobrist opens up about his experiences with "doing the work" in his own life. We also talk about the role of pain in becoming emotionally aware, the benefits of processing emotions within safe community, and how to pass on the benefits of doing the work (even if imperfectly) with the ones you love.  In This Episode: Learn more about Champion Forward Follow me on Instagram @themichelledonnelly or Facebook @themichelledonnelly Check out my books and services at uncommonvalor.co

Sometimes you may become so overwhelmed by a distressing experience that figuring out where to begin your healing process seems too daunting. In this episode, I'm discussing the role of resources & support in initiating the process of repair, and how to incorporate spiritual "scaffolding" into an approach that invites not just repair in the present, but also restoration of the past. In This Episode: Download the workbook guide for this podcast series, "Rebuke Rest Repair: A Holistic Framework for Moving Through Emotional & Mental Distress" Learn more about healing painful moments with the free PDF "God Within Us: A Guide to Processing Pain with Jesus" Follow me on Instagram @themichelledonnelly or Facebook @themichelledonnelly Check out my books and services at uncommonvalor.co

Triggered traumas and intrusive thoughts can leave you feeling profoundly fearful and alone. Regulation techniques can help calm the nervous system, but an underlying sense of loneliness and vulnerability may remain. In this episode, I share about the role of relationships in regulating emotions, and how an early lack of support can cause distress into adulthood. Also, I share ways to incorporate your relationship with God into a regulation experience that not only deepens your sense of peace, but invites healing into wounds of emotional misattunement, abandonment, abuse, and neglect. In This Episode: Download the workbook guide for this podcast series, "Rebuke Rest Repair: A Holistic Framework for Moving Through Emotional & Mental Distress" Follow me on Instagram @themichelledonnelly or Facebook @themichelledonnelly Check out my books and services at uncommonvalor.co

We often think of the spiritual part of ourselves as being separate from our body/mind/emotions; but the truth is we are experiencing spiritual realities in our natural being – And that includes spiritual warfare. In this episode, I share about the role of spiritual warfare in mental and emotional distress, and what it looks like to incorporate spiritual care into a holistic approach to addressing triggers and intrusive thoughts. In This Episode: Download the workbook guide for this podcast series, "Rebuke Rest Repair: A Holistic Framework for Moving Through Emotional & Mental Distress" Follow me on Instagram @themichelledonnelly or Facebook @themichelledonnelly Check out my books and services at uncommonvalor.co  

When you feel hopeless, it may seem like there's no way you'll ever find hope (and there's definitely no way you'll figure out how to "make it happen." But what if that's exactly where hope is found? In this episode, I'm sharing about a time when I felt like I was coming apart at the seams, and how God helped me to understand this is exactly the place where He unties us from our pain and tethers us to His never-ending goodness. In This Episode: Learn more about healing painful moments with the free PDF "God Within Us: A Guide to Processing Pain with Jesus" Follow me on Instagram @themichelledonnelly or Facebook @themichelledonnelly Check out my books and services at uncommonvalor.co

We've all made choices that we regret, and sometimes those choices have hurt the people we love in ways that seem to be beyond repair. In this episode, I'm sharing about a situation just like this, and the unexpected way God revealed He truly is bigger (and better) than our mistakes. In This Episode: Check out my Bible study,  Made for More: Life Beyond the Wreckage of Hurt, Loss, & Heartbreak Visit Champion Forward's Website Follow me on Instagram @themichelledonnelly or Facebook @themichelledonnelly Check out my books and services at uncommonvalor.co

Okay, so last week I talked about learning to be vulnerable with safe people- but for me, that's not really where learning to be vulnerable started. It didn't start with friends or family- it started with my Father. This week I'm sharing about what it looks like to be vulnerable in a relationship with God, and the healing that comes when we are really honest with Him. In this episode: Download "God Within Us: A Guide to Processing Pain with Jesus" Follow me on Instagram @themichelledonnelly or Facebook @themichelledonnelly Check out my books and services at uncommonvalor.co

Do you hate asking for help? Asking for help can be a humiliating experience, and receiving it can feel even worse. In this episode, I share an experience where I had to face the shame of opening myself up to receive help, and what it taught me about the beautiful way God pours out His love on us through safe people. In this episode: Safe Haven: A Devotional for the Abused & Abandoned Follow me on Instagram @themichelledonnelly or Facebook @themichelledonnelly Check out my books and services at uncommonvalor.co

"God, I need people." I prayed this desperate prayer in a season of loneliness and isolation, when NOTHING I did to find community was working out. I asked- and God answered (and NOT in the way I expected). In this episode, I'm sharing how God used a 1600-mile move to change more than just my zip code, and what He did to teach me more about hearing (and being heard by) Him. In This Episode Purchase access to my devotional, What Are You Waiting For? A Raw & Real-Time Journey Through Longing, Surrender, & Desires Fulfilled Follow me on Instagram @themichelledonnelly or Facebook @themichelledonnelly Check out my books and services at uncommonvalor.co

How involved do you think God is when it comes to what you need? Or what you want?  In this episode, I share what God showed me about our needs and wants, and how much more we gain when we trust Him to provide. Follow me on Instagram @themichelledonnelly or Facebook @themichelledonnelly Check out my books and services at uncommonvalor.co In This Episode Purchase access to my devotional, What Are You Waiting For? A Raw & Real-Time Journey Through Longing, Surrender, & Desires Fulfilled

Okay, you may know you need a break, but you might not be sure how to get one. With all you have going on, it may not seem possible (or responsible), and even if you got a break, you may not feel like you'd be in the headspace to actually enjoy it. In this episode I want to share with you a little bit about what I learned about rest during my podcast hiatus, and how you can sneak in special moments of rest- even when you can't get away. Follow me on Instagram @themichelledonnelly or Facebook @themichelledonnelly Check out my books and services at uncommonvalor.co

The holidays can be kind of a mixed bag. This time of year can be full of high hopes and dashed dreams. Emotions run high – and not just our own. With the intensity of the season, it can be hard to figure out what you need while supporting the needs of the people in your life. In this episode, I share how I learned to understand my own needs at the holidays, and how you can create a strategy that will allow you to move at a relaxed pace with the ones you love this holiday season. Follow Michelle on Instagram @themichelledonnelly Purchase access to the new devotional, What Are You Waiting For? A Raw & Real-Time Journey Through Longing, Surrender, & Desires Fulfilled Purchase the Ignite: Strategic Prayer Planner & Journal Volumes 1, 2, & 3 Download Your Free Guide: Over|Thinking: Get Out of Your Head & On With Your Life

Do you tend to brace for the worst? Sometimes we think we're being diligent, that we're being prepared. But what if we're not actually preparing but panicking? In this episode, I share about my own tendency to worry about the future, and how you can enjoy today without bracing for fear of the future. Follow Michelle on Instagram @themichelledonnelly Purchase access to the new devotional, What Are You Waiting For? A Raw & Real-Time Journey Through Longing, Surrender, & Desires Fulfilled Purchase the Ignite: Strategic Prayer Planner & Journal Volumes 1, 2, & 3 Download Your Free Guide: Over|Thinking: Get Out of Your Head & On With Your Life

Can you say 'no'?  Sometimes we say 'yes' to everything because we want to be seen as dependable and reliable. We like being the one people can count on – and we like how that makes us feel. It makes us feel like we matter. But what what if you already matter? What if your significance isn't tied to how much you do for other people at all? In this episode, I share how I discovered I had a problem with saying 'no,' and how being forced into a season of 'no' actually helped me get free from trouble that people pleasing inevitably causes. Follow Michelle on Instagram @themichelledonnelly Purchase access to the new devotional, What Are You Waiting For? A Raw & Real-Time Journey Through Longing, Surrender, & Desires Fulfilled Purchase the Ignite: Strategic Prayer Planner & Journal Volumes 1, 2, & 3 Download Your Free Guide: Over|Thinking: Get Out of Your Head & On With Your Life

The strange thing about insecurity is the more we try to control it, the more it ends up controlling us. Insecurities are built on lies, and while there might be one big one you are aware of, often there are dozens of little ones that go with it. Which makes untangling them like untangling a knotted necklace. Ugh. In this episode, I share about the unexpected way I discovered the web of lies beneath my own insecurities, and how shifting what you choose to agree with puts you on the fast track to freedom from it all. Follow Michelle on Instagram @themichelledonnelly Purchase access to the new devotional, What Are You Waiting For? A Raw & Real-Time Journey Through Longing, Surrender, & Desires Fulfilled Purchase the Ignite: Strategic Prayer Planner & Journal Volumes 1, 2, & 3 Download Your Free Guide: Over|Thinking: Get Out of Your Head & On With Your Life

We often think of the storms of life as the circumstances outside of us. But what do you do when the storm is inside? Our thought lives can be really stormy. Obsessions, worries, and intrusive thoughts can cause us to feel like we are at the mercy of our minds. Is there a way to make it all stop? In this episode, I share my own struggles with troubling thoughts and finding freedom in my mind. Also, I talk a little about  the role of strongholds and spiritual warfare in our thoughts, and discuss what you can do to fight back. Follow Michelle on Instagram @themichelledonnelly Purchase access to the new devotional, What Are You Waiting For? A Raw & Real-Time Journey Through Longing, Surrender, & Desires Fulfilled Purchase the Ignite: Strategic Prayer Planner & Journal Volumes 1, 2, & 3 Download Your Free Guide: Over|Thinking: Get Out of Your Head & On With Your Life

"Why?" It's a question we all ask. Why did this have to happen? Why is this my story? Why can't my life be like everyone else's? We can get frustrated and discouraged when the answers don't come. And yet, not getting answers isn't necessarily a bad thing. We can get fixated with getting all the answers. We read books, go to seminars, or Google, "What does it mean when..." But if you got the answers, would you actually feel better? What if answers aren't actually what you need?    In this episode, I share a little about my own journey with grasping for answers, and how in not getting the answers, I discovered what we all need instead. Follow Michelle on Instagram @themichelledonnelly Purchase access to the new devotional, What Are You Waiting For? A Raw & Real-Time Journey Through Longing, Surrender, & Desires Fulfilled Purchase the Ignite: Strategic Prayer Planner & Journal Volumes 1, 2, & 3 Download Your Free Guide: Over|Thinking: Get Out of Your Head & On With Your Life

Do you feel like you're carrying it all in your relationships? You're doing what you can - walking on eggshells, trying to make things easier for them - but it only seems to get harder for you.  You feel trapped- like there's nothing you can do to change things. It's true- you can't change them. But you can change you. In this episode, I share what I learned about correcting one-sided relationships, and what you can do to deal with people who are hard to love. Follow Michelle on Instagram @themichelledonnelly Purchase access to the new devotional, What Are You Waiting For? A Raw & Real-Time Journey Through Longing, Surrender, & Desires Fulfilled Purchase the Ignite: Strategic Prayer Planner & Journal Volumes 1, 2, & 3 Download Your Free Guide: Over|Thinking: Get Out of Your Head & On With Your Life  

If setting boundaries (or sticking to them) is hard for you, it's probably because of THIS one thing: You're trying to "keep the peace." When we don't have good boundaries, it's usually because we want to avoid conflict, or avoid losing a relationship. But If you have to work so hard to "keep the peace," do you even have real peace in the first place? In this week's episode, I share why we often strive to "keep the peace," and what happens when we stop all that and experience Jesus' true, lasting peace. I also discuss how knowing His peace helps us find relationships where we can share peace, and deal with relationships where peace isn't shared. Follow Michelle on Instagram @themichelledonnelly Purchase access to the new devotional, What Are You Waiting For? A Raw & Real-Time Journey Through Longing, Surrender, & Desires Fulfilled Purchase the Ignite: Strategic Prayer Planner & Journal Volumes 1, 2, & 3 Download Your Free Guide: Over|Thinking: Get Out of Your Head & On With Your Life

We've all heard the expression, "Feel your feelings." But what if feeling your feelings just seems pointless? What if they seem to be in the way and will just end up holding you back? I know the feeling (no pun intended) all too well. In this episode, I'm sharing what God taught me about feeling feelings and what He does through them to give us the break we desperately need. Follow Michelle on Instagram @themichelledonnelly Purchase access to the new devotional, What Are You Waiting For? A Raw & Real-Time Journey Through Longing, Surrender, & Desires Fulfilled Purchase the Ignite: Strategic Prayer Planner & Journal Volumes 1, 2, & 3 Download Your Free Guide: Over|Thinking: Get Out of Your Head & On With Your Life

At the beginning, setting boundaries can feel not just uncomfortable, but wrong. So how can we get it right? The good news is learning to set boundaries doesn't actually start with other people. It starts with you. In this episode, Michelle talks about what boundaries really protect and how to start establishing boundaries with yourself so you can more confidently set boundaries with other people. Follow Michelle on Instagram @themichelledonnelly Purchase access to the new devotional, What Are You Waiting For? A Raw & Real-Time Journey Through Longing, Surrender, & Desires Fulfilled Purchase the Ignite: Strategic Prayer Planner & Journal Volumes 1, 2, & 3 Download Your Free Guide: Over|Thinking: Get Out of Your Head & On With Your Life

When the bottom falls out, all of us inevitably end up asking this question:  Is God good? It's a big thing we each have to wrestle with, but the way we move through it is actually bite-sized. In this episode, Michelle shares how she worked through a season of questioning God's goodness, and how taking her questions straight to God revealed the answers she was longing for. Follow Michelle on Instagram @themichelledonnelly Purchase access to the new devotional, What Are You Waiting For? A Raw & Real-Time Journey Through Longing, Surrender, & Desires Fulfilled Purchase the Ignite: Strategic Prayer Planner & Journal Volumes 1, 2, & 3 Download Your Free Guide: Over|Thinking: Get Out of Your Head & On With Your Life

Do you ever feel like God is mad at you? Like you can never do enough to please Him? So often when we feel disconnected from God, we do things to try to close the gap. But somehow it never seems to be enough. It seems we'll never measure up. But what if the things you're doing to reconnect with God are only adding to the disconnection? Today I'm letting you in on a time in my life when I felt this very same sense of disconnection, and how God showed me HE closes the gap. I also share one simple breakthrough that will allow you to finally believe and know that you ARE deeply loved by God. Follow Michelle on Instagram @themichelledonnelly Purchase access to the new devotional, What Are You Waiting For? A Raw & Real-Time Journey Through Longing, Surrender, & Desires Fulfilled Purchase the Ignite: Strategic Prayer Planner & Journal Volumes 1, 2, & 3 Download Your Free Guide: Over|Thinking: Get Out of Your Head & On With Your Life  

For the longest time after my divorce, I constantly wondered if my life could ever be good again. Do you know what I mean? There was a time when things seemed to be "fine"- until they weren't. And I wanted so desperately to get back there. But you know what I found out? Things were never "fine." And you know what else? "Fine" is actually not good enough.  God wants you and me to be more than fine. Michelle shares what's been going on the last few months, and what the new name of the podcast means for you on your journey towards healing, restoration, and wholeness. Links: Follow Michelle on Instagram @themichelledonnelly Purchase access to the new devotional, What Are You Waiting For? A Raw & Real-Time Journey Through Longing, Surrender, & Desires Fulfilled Purchase the Ignite: Strategic Prayer Planner & Journal Volumes 1, 2, & 3 Download Your Free Guide: Over|Thinking: Get Out of Your Head & On With Your Life  

Yes, I bought a wedding dress. No, I am not engaged. Michelle opens up about her journey of waiting to be married, why she bought a wedding dress, and what it means if you are in the middle of a season of waiting on God too. Purchase access to the new devotional, What Are You Waiting For? A Raw & Real-Time Journey Through Longing, Surrender, & Desires Fulfilled Join the Uncommon Valor Mailing List to get your free chapter of Michelle's new devotional Tangled in Toxicity? Register for NO|TOX: The Toxic Relationship Healing Intensive Purchase the NEW Ignite: Strategic Prayer Planner & Journal Volume 2 | The Battle to Believe Download Your Free Guide: Over|Thinking: Get Out of Your Head & On With Your Life Follow Michelle on Instagram @themichelledonnelly

We've all heard the verse, "What you meant for evil, God meant for good," but sometimes, we just don't see how that could be possible in our own lives. Nicole Unice shares how Scripture can help us understand what God is doing in our difficult circumstances, and how the stories of others can help us believe that God is remaking our own lives and bringing good through our challenges as well. Purchase Nicole's book, "Not What I SIgned Up For: Finding the Strength, Purpose, & Faith to Get Through a Season You Didn't Expect" Tangled in Toxicity? Register for NO|TOX: The Toxic Relationship Healing Intensive Purchase the NEW Ignite: Strategic Prayer Planner & Journal Volume 2 | The Battle to Believe Download Your Free Guide: Over|Thinking: Get Out of Your Head & On With Your Life Follow Michelle on Instagram @themichelledonnelly

Do you think of yourself as especially compassionate and loyal? Are you frustrated with others who don't seem to return the favor? You may have fallen for the trap of toxic loyalty. Michelle discusses toxic loyalty (also called toxic empathy) and how it often is a challenge for those who are gifted in generosity and mercy. She shares the common weak spots that lead to toxic loyalty, and how to adjust your patterns to move away from one-sided relationships and move towards mutually beneficial ones. Tangled in Toxicity? Register for NO|TOX: The Toxic Relationship Healing Intensive Purchase the NEW Ignite: Strategic Prayer Planner & Journal Volume 2 | The Battle to Believe Download Your Free Guide: Over|Thinking: Get Out of Your Head & On With Your Life Follow Michelle on Instagram @themichelledonnelly

Every abuse survivor eventually asks themselves, "Why didn't I see this? How did I miss this?" Once a survivor becomes aware that what they have experienced is abuse, what often follows is a flood of conflicting emotions like fear and shame over not having realized it sooner. Stacey Womack from Abuse Recovery Ministry Services shares why victims don't often recognize they are in an abusive dynamic and why they struggle to find the support they need, especially from the church. Purchase Stacey's book, On The Frontlines of Abuse: Strategies for the Faith Community Learn more about Abuse Recovery Ministry Services Tangled in Toxicity? Register for NO|TOX: The Toxic Relationship Healing Intensive Purchase the NEW Ignite: Strategic Prayer Planner & Journal Volume 2 | The Battle to Believe Download Your Free Guide: Over|Thinking: Get Out of Your Head & On With Your Life Follow Michelle on Instagram @themichelledonnelly

The hurt and loss we experience in life can destroy our dreams, and cause us to think maybe we just have to take what we can get. Stefanie & Caleb Rouse share how brokenheartedness can cause us to shut down our hearts and start to settle for less than what we really desire.  Purchase Stefanie & Caleb's book, Wholehearted Love: Overcome the Barriers That Hold You Back in Your Relationship with God and Others-- and Delight in Feeling Safe, Seen, and Loved Learn more about Stefanie & Caleb at stefanieandcaleb.com Tangled in Toxicity? Register for NO|TOX: The Toxic Relationship Healing Intensive Purchase the NEW Ignite: Strategic Prayer Planner & Journal Volume 2 | The Battle to Believe Download Your Free Guide: Over|Thinking: Get Out of Your Head & On With Your Life Follow Michelle on Instagram @themichelledonnelly

Do your relationships seem to be nothing but an endless trail of toxicity? Michelle discusses how we get sucked into the wrong relationships without realizing it, and why we tolerate toxicity when we don't have to. She also shares 4 snares that may be drawing you into toxic and abusive relationships, and reveals how to avoid attracting toxic people in the future. Tangled in Toxicity? Register for NO|TOX: The Toxic Relationship Healing Intensive Purchase the NEW Ignite: Strategic Prayer Planner & Journal Volume 2 | The Battle to Believe Download Your Free Guide: Over|Thinking: Get Out of Your Head & On With Your Life Follow Michelle on Instagram @themichelledonnelly

Culture is full of messaging that tells us we can do anything we put our minds to – and yet somewhere along the line, we begin to see that this is just not true. When the circumstances of our lives leave us feeling like we're falling short, the resulting shame and disappointment can be overwhelming. Becky Beresford shares how common cultural expressions meant to empower us can actually leave us feeling very disempowered. She explains how much of the messaging we hear in culture teaches us to be self-dependent, and how liberating it is when weakness and limitation bring us to God-dependency. Purchase Becky's book, She Believed He Could, So She Did: Trading Culture's Lies for Christ-Centered Empowerment Follow Becky at beckyberesford.com Purchase the NEW Ignite: Strategic Prayer Planner & Journal Volume 2 | The Battle to Believe Download Your Free Guide: Over|Thinking: Get Out of Your Head & On With Your Life Follow Michelle on Instagram @themichelledonnelly For individual support with your faith & emotional wellness journey, visit uncommonvalor.co

For many coming to terms with an abusive relationship, there is often a stage in which you wonder, "How did I get here in the first place?" Michelle discusses the early stages of the abusive dynamic with survivor Tricia Lott Williford and therapist Jana Richardson MA LPC EMDR. They delve into the grooming tactics many abusers use to manipulate and deceive their victims, and highlight what you can do to avoid being drawn in by an abuser again. Purchase You are Safe Now: A Survivor's Guide to Listening to Your Gut, Healing from Abuse, & Living in Freedom Follow Tricia on Instagram or visit her website Purchase the NEW Ignite: Strategic Prayer Planner & Journal Volume 2 | The Battle to Believe Download Your Free Guide: Over|Thinking: Get Out of Your Head & On With Your Life Follow Michelle on Instagram @themichelledonnelly For individual support with your faith & emotional wellness journey, visit uncommonvalor.co  

When you've been in a long season of spiritual pain, you may begin to wonder if God is punishing you. It's not uncommon in suffering to begin questioning your faith and wrestling with what you believe. Dr. Alicia Britt Chole shares about the experience of disillusionment we experience in dark nights of the soul, and illuminates that the questions we have about God are not a failure of faith, but are a method by which faith grows. She also shares how God works through our tendency to seek answers to bring us into a deeper relationship with Him grounded in honesty, safety, trust, and love. Purchase "The Night is Normal: A Guide Through Spiritual Pain" or follow Dr. Alicia on Instagram Purchase the NEW Ignite: Strategic Prayer Planner & Journal Volume 2 | The Battle to Believe Download Your Free Guide: Over|Thinking: Get Out of Your Head & On With Your Life Follow Michelle on Instagram @themichelledonnelly For individual support with your faith & emotional wellness journey, visit uncommonvalor.co

Do you ever wonder if prayer even matters? In difficult seasons, we may struggle with the feeling that prayer is pointless- we may think, "Isn't God just going to do what He's going to do anyway?" Michelle shares about a dark season when she wrestled with trusting God and how prayer played a huge role in helping her get unstuck.  Purchase Ignite: Strategic Prayer Planner & Journal | Vol 2: The Battle to Believe Download Your Free Guide: Over|Thinking: Get Out of Your Head & On With Your Life Follow Michelle on Instagram @themichelledonnelly Learn about my resources and inner healing services at uncommonvalor.co

Hardships and suffering can knock us down so hard that we just get tired of having to get back up again. But what if it doesn't all depend on us? Lina Abujamra shares how resiliency doesn't really depend on us doing more, but rather on simply learning to abide in the love of God for us as He works through our weaknesses. She also talks about how suffering frees us from a dependency on our own performance so we can instead experience what it is to be loved as children of God. Check out Unshakable Moxie by Our Daily Bread Purchase the NEW Ignite: Strategic Prayer Planner & Journal Download Your Free Guide: Over|Thinking: Get Out of Your Head & On With Your Life Follow Michelle on Instagram @themichelledonnelly For individual support with your faith & emotional wellness journey, visit uncommonvalor.co

Waiting seasons can get long and the ache of unmet longing can often be too much to deal with. What do we do when God hasn't answered our prayers? Rachel Miller shares the importance of allowing longings to exist, and how to deal with times when the discouragement is overwhelming. She also discusses what God is doing through these seasons of hoping and waiting, and why God doesn't take the desires of our hearts away (even if we ask Him to). Check out Rachel's book, When it Hurts to Hope: Honest Conversations about Living with Unmet Longing Follow Rachel on Instagram @rachel.s.miller and RachelMillerAuthor.com Purchase the NEW Ignite: Strategic Prayer Planner & Journal Download Your Free Guide: Over|Thinking: Get Out of Your Head & On With Your Life Follow Michelle on Instagram @themichelledonnelly For individual support with your faith & emotional wellness journey, visit uncommonvalor.co

Most of us have a smartphone so we can stay connected, yet they may actually be making loneliness worse. Dr. Darren Whitehead discusses the impact of smartphones on your mental, emotional, & spiritual well-being, and how distraction devices worsen anxiety and loneliness. He shares how a digital fast can recalibrate your attention span, boost the quality of your relationships, and restore your spiritual vitality in the Lord. Grab a copy of Darren's book, The Digital Fast: 40 Days to Detox Your Mind & Reclaim What Matters Most and follow Darren on Instagram @darrenwhitehead Purchase the NEW Ignite: Strategic Prayer Planner & Journal Download Your Free Guide: Over|Thinking: Get Out of Your Head & On With Your Life Follow Michelle on Instagram @themichelledonnelly For individual support with your faith & emotional wellness journey, visit uncommonvalor.co

Unlearning codependent behaviors often means identifying how you learned them in the first place. And while often family of origin issues are a major factor, sometimes our religious contexts can also be part of the problem. Michelle discusses 5 Bible verses that are often misquoted and misapplied that teach us to tolerate toxic and abusive treatment. She discusses why these verses often don't mean what we have been told they do, and points to Scriptures that actually encourage us to avoid harmful people. Register NOW for NO | TOX- The Toxic Relationship Healing Intensive and the LIVE Masterclass "Don't Get Fooled Again: Decoding the Red Flags and Mixed Messages of Toxic People" Purchase the NEW Ignite: Strategic Prayer Planner & Journal Download Your Free Guide: Over|Thinking: Get Out of Your Head & On With Your Life Follow Michelle on Instagram @themichelledonnelly For individual support with your faith & emotional wellness journey, visit uncommonvalor.co

Whether you're in an unhealthy relationship right now or you're worried about being in another one, it's not uncommon to wonder "Is this person toxic or are they abusive?" Michelle discusses the differences and similarities of toxic behavior and abusive behavior, and why we struggle to know the difference. More importantly, Michelle shares how toxicity and abuse differ from healthy relationships, and what you can do to move towards them. Register NOW for NO | TOX- The Toxic Relationship Healing Intensive and the LIVE Masterclass "Don't Get Fooled Again: Decoding the Red Flags and Mixed Messages of Toxic People" Purchase the NEW Ignite: Strategic Prayer Planner & Journal Download Your Free Guide: Over|Thinking: Get Out of Your Head & On With Your Life Follow Michelle on Instagram @themichelledonnelly For individual support with your faith & emotional wellness journey, visit uncommonvalor.co

Many of us have times in our lives when we rely on formulas in our faith, clinging to the belief that, "If I do all the right things, everything will be okay." Yet, when we face a crisis we realize that those formulas don't hold up under the realities of suffering in this life. Kristen LaValley shares how suffering and doubt served to mold her faith, and how a crisis pregnancy developed her ability to trust God. She also shares how to find the courage to deal with doubts, and how to notice God speaking hope over you in times of chaos. Purchase Kristen's book, Even if He Doesn't: What We Believe About God When Life Doesn't Make Sense Follow Kristen on Substack and on Instagram @kristen.lavalley Purchase the NEW Ignite: Strategic Prayer Planner & Journal Download Your Free Guide: Over|Thinking: Get Out of Your Head & On With Your Life Follow Michelle on Instagram @themichelledonnelly For individual support with your faith & emotional wellness journey, visit uncommonvalor.co

When we're in a challenging time of life, it can be hard to imagine that there's much more beyond all of this. Jeff Simmons shares how each of us can not only find life beyond our current circumstances but can live an extraordinary life, available to all of us in Jesus. He shares how the way the world defines extraordinary is different than the way God defines it, and discusses how the devil uses fear to cause us to shrink down from what God has for us. He also gives suggestions for pursuing life beyond what we know right now, and how you can hear God's voice to discern just where He is leading you. Purchase Jeff's book, Finding the Extra in Ordinary: Embracing the Beauty of the Christian Life Follow Jeff at JeffSimmons.org or on Instagram and Facebook Purchase the NEW Ignite: Strategic Prayer Planner & Journal Download Your Free Guide: Over|Thinking: Get Out of Your Head & On With Your Life Follow Michelle on Instagram @themichelledonnelly For individual support with your faith & emotional wellness journey, visit uncommonvalor.co